Don't Chase Success - This One Idea Will CHANGE How You View Your Entire Life | Rangan Chatterjee

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[@DrChatterjeeRangan]

If you would like to explore some of the ideas in this video more, please do take a look at my 5th book 'Happy Mind, Happy Life' here: amzn.to/3DRxjgp

[@robertevans1343]

👍🏾 👍🏾

[@WeGetItOutTheMudTv]

Most of peoples problems and stress comes from trying to attain someone else’s definition of success

[@toniyoung5131]

When I was younger I was asked where I saw myself in 5, 10, etc years. I never planned in such a way. It seemed restricting to me. I've never been successful in the way most people aspire to. I've had a comfortable life, mostly. The only time in my life I had a miserable time was when a 'friend ' persuaded me I could be financially richer by investing in her business. I don't need to go into details as to what transpired I don't blame the 'friend '. I'm a 70 year old female who learned that enough is fine.

[@ValeriyaVandermark]

👏👏👏

[@CInmiss]

Well said......”enough is fine” this should be everybody’s mantra. 🦋

[@NKB2024-s2b]

Such lovely comment ❤

[@garyfrancis6193]

Me too. I’m 73.

[@Ressa9]

Yes, wise words

[@omo195205]

Rangan ... you have so much to be grateful for. Your parents set you up for success. The motivation behind their hard-work is why you are what you are today. Was yr father unhappy ? His core values/happiness/fulfilment may have been ensuring his children succeed thru providing education, a roof over yr heads, nutrition ect. What is amazing is that thru you trying to figure it all out, you are dedicating yrself to help others to lead more fulfilling lives.. You are your Father's success story. Though he died young, he paved the way for his children. He fulfilled his purpose ...

[@archanatamang1707]

Seriously he is his father's stroy what a great way to.put it across.

[@dawnmaestascowell6930]

His kindness is appreciated

[@organizer14]

What self talk would make ourselves happier? Probably gratitude, appreciation, humor, aware of our ego fear and choose to believe in Love and faith about the future, generosity and more easy going attitude. Thanks for your contribution to point out the connection between health and happiness.

[@EmpoweredToBeMe]

Self love, self respect, self care, self talk……none of this is selfish, it’s how we were created.

[@PDogB]

Having worked for years at the bedside of the dying leading to death, I can say I never heard anyone expressing themselves like, "I wish I had more time with my family, etc." Not with only days or hours left to live. What I did see over and over again, was a clear attitude surrounding the knowledge that their death was imminent. The conscious were emotionally intertwined in the experience. Some were angry and resentful, some were sad or fearful, some wanted family and friends there, others didn't, some left their place on earth in acceptance and peace, it was all very individual. What I learned from these experiences I had, was that we are all part of a natural cycle, and we should think ahead about how we will approach this when our time comes. So yes, my plan is to live each day in happiness and gratitude for living another day. Because these people I admired. They left a lasting impression on me that I will always be thankful for.

[@luismiguel69able]

This! I always wondered that.

[@luismiguel69able]

Seriously, thank you for posting your insight on this and cutting through the fluff.

[@maryallen1017]

Wow! What you said is very deep. When I was a teenager & young adult I had the mindset that I was going to live forever and death was a long ways away. At middle age I knew one day I would die but I didn't think of death often. Old age death is knocking at my door soon. I'm blessed and thankful for everyday I wake up. To be able to live a long life is a gift.

[@markus9541]

To be honest, most of this advice only works if you're in an already extremely favorable position (good job, plenty of money, no existential risks). There is a growing part of the population though that simply has no time thinking about the meaning of life or their values, because they have enough to worry about getting food on the plate daily.

[@CandycaneBeyond]

This talk is for the rich. I can't even afford to have friends over unless I tell them to bring all their own stuff. Not very hospitable.

[@luvurab]

OMG you totally are not hearing what he is saying. This advice is for everyone of us. Rich or poor it doesn’t matter. If you wish to improve up one your life I explore you to listen to his talk over and over again until you hear how it will benefit you.

[@kahyui2486]

​@@CandycaneBeyondown stuff? Wtf do u give your friends? If my friends come round they get glass of water or cola at bets. Like what else u be giving them

[@markus9541]

@@luvurab oh I am absolutely hearing what he is saying. And I am fortunate enough to be in a position so that his advice actually works (for the most part). But if you don't acknowledge the fact that for many, many folks this is just gibberish, then you're living in a fairy tale. Good for you.

[@dominiquep3995]

I understand how it can feel that way. But…can you take 10 min in the morning to meditate? Just start with what’s the easiest thing to do and stick with it and see if that helps❤

[@Carrotcake-.-]

All of what I’m learning through reading and listening to about life, meaning, depression and anxiety have a few common denominators. Understanding the self, how we can have agency over the self, and how we can create prosperity through a sense of self awareness. I just wonder if I am overly privileged and that there are people out there who are unable to achieve prosperity because of their environment

[@charmaineweerakkody6977]

Absolutely true. I remember this quote; Died at 30, buried at 60. I am definitely reading your book not because I had not heard this message before but because it’s never too late to make the change. Thank you Dr Rangan C.

[@CandycaneBeyond]

The problem is our society is making it harder and harder to have the basic needs met. I make $60k a year and I have to work a second job to fix the car, dishwasher broke, tile in bathroom is coming apart, I haven't had a vacation in over 10 years. Seriously. I think sometimes it would be easier to rent but the cost of rent has almost doubled. I'm not chasing an unrealistic goal, I'm just trying to survive. No Starbucks, McDonald's or any other luxuries here. I have no debt, but I can't seem to save enough before something else breaks.

[@sojournerdelaterra6144]

I mean absolutely no offense here but it sounds like you need to move or something? (assuming you live in the USA where we still actually have choices and freedoms) We live pretty well on way less than that. We are ALL programmed to live a certain way by ads and subliminal messages and also all the cultural expectations laid upon us.....more often than not by the product or service manufacturers themselves. We are also programmed with artificially-contrived peer pressure that if we don't live life in a certain way, then we are programmed to feel like a lesser being or something. Christmas is such an example. The modern day Christmas thing, with it's expensive celebratory requirements, was commercially created. The world over is relentlessly programmed that not celebrating Christmas in such a commercial manner makes us a party pooper, a Scrooge, an outsider. Under the light of truth, the words not so subtle, "If you don't spend money like we say then you are a loser". Even a lot of the financial gurus have created and use their own fabrication of what "living within your means" means. Many of their models are preprogrammed to ensure you stay constantly in debt your whole life. It's designed that way. Cars. We all know that cars, for instance, tend to break down really bad around the 7-10 year mark. Most vehicles are INTENTIONALLY DESIGNED to do that. Planned obsolescence. Why? Because they can make good money off of you selling you a car for a year's pay every ten years. If one is semi-smart, they might get the typical 5-7 year loan paid off just in time to save enough money to put for a down-payment on another fortune eater. That is only one of many currently and intentionally designed financial boxes that people are convinced they have no choices over when the truth is that there are MANY. Cars are not a set of clothing. Forget about stupidly paying anything extra just for the sad need of feeling of prestige or the silly pride in identifying with a particular brand or lifestyle. We are so much better than that. This is programming you need to bust through by shedding light on what pops up in your head and bring it under scrutiny. Breaking out of this particular car thinking 'box, for instance, is easy: Find a ten year or so garaged-kept, pampered, single/private/first owner Japanese made car in good shape inside and out that will do what it is actually intended to do, which is to get you comfortably and safely from one location to another. The Japanese are one of the few people that still use the quality design and control business model that was introduced by an American back decades ago. Expect that 'used' Japanese car to last around another ten years with proper upkeep and prudent driving. Planned obsolescence is minimized with these vehicles. You can get them for less than $2500 if you look around. Looking around, no matter how long it takes, doesn't cost you a thing. Pay it off quick and then use the car payment money you saved and save it in an emergency car repair/rental/next car account. You will now be paying yourself, not someone else at interest. In time, you will have FLIPPED the tables on these guys and free up TONS of cash, and freed yourself of the leeching bondage of chronic debt. Many of us have never been trained to break through this intentionally exploitative programming by the practice of thought and feeling illumination. As such, they unknowingly build a box around themselves that they think and feel they can't break through or aren't supposed to break through or what have you. The mental excuses we build to sabotage ourselves into keeping the familiar around us in spite of it's toxicity are numerous. We have been trained to lie to ourselves instead of reaching inside ourselves and discover the TRUE possibilities available. I encourage you to realize that, unless you have chains around your wrist, you are a free person and you DO have choices and unless you flat out want to stay in the rut that someone's life choices (it doesn't necessarily have to have been your choices initially) have steered you into, you CAN steer out of this. You can do this!

[@tanyanest9194]

Get a credit card and enjoy your life!!!

[@kahyui2486]

A dishwasher is defo a luxury. I live in the UK and dry my clothes on radiator

[@veraroyen4986]

​​​@@kahyui2486...yes and no. For an average life in "our world" a dishwasher is standart, making our lifes easier when having several kids and when someone has less time, working in 2 jobs. But when you have 2 jobs, you should have more control over your life in the financial part of your life. And yes, often we have no influence in the "financial control" side of our lifes, this IS a fact. It is often when we get older and/or sick, loose the job or have problems in our jobs. Yes, in this case we should focus on parts of our lifes we can still control. Small things.

[@annemccarron2281]

​@@kahyui2486It's all about perspective, isn't it?

[@davidroddie]

I needed this today. I pretty much live this life just now. Working hard, successful on the outside but not heading towards more happiness. Missed so much family life to provide. Thank you for this ❤

[@EveStuart-s5n]

This is a very precious talk, from the heart, with you sharing your wisdom Dr. Chatterjee. Your parents did their best for you and you turned out to be a good man, but what is even better now, is that you are honouring who you actually are and living your life in accordance with this. Self actualisation of who you are is beautiful to experience and observe in others. Thank you for sharing and I wish you well.

[@jaisolart]

People want to experience love, for self and others, but they complicate the natural process with conceptual conditioning.... then look for solutions from sellers of conceptual prescriptions. Love to Rangan x

[@richardmabe4186]

I think people are very different and no one should jump to conclusions about how someone should lead their life.

[@WanderNars]

Since I found your channel I can’t stop listening to you especially I’m also on the medical field

[@judilaw4519]

Thank you for such great information I truly believe you care about others ❤️

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

I feel he does! ❤

[@dianehall5345]

Thank you Dr. Chatterjee for this informative and thought provoking lecture. I am about to venture out into the social word again after sheltering at our family farm during the pandemic. I am also restarting a small business, teaching organic gardening and sustainability. How I approach this new chapter is up to me, as you have pointed out. I enjoyed hearing your three corner posts: INTEGRITY/CURIOSITY/COMPASSION.

[@ggwebcast]

Many doctors spend their lives caring for others but neglect their own health. The physiological effects of stress is underestimated. Great session

[@niksechtniks]

Kindness, Understanding and working together with people was my medicine. i was diagnosed with "bipolar disorder" turns out i was a gifted person and had a massive burnout . people didn't understand my way of thinking. now that that has been cleared up i'm a very happy man! But i do believe iv'e had some help from above 🙏

[@solarhydrowind]

Thank you for sharing. Same thing may have happened to me and to others. Most of my illnesses now are caused by the medicines (iatrogenic illnesses). Instead of the story ending there ~~ with the rage ~~ now my story can return to 1985 and the quite normal young woman i was who'd had a hard 6.years (and now had burnout). Thank you so much🦋

[@AncestralCyborg]

At first I thought "get out of my head" kinda but I get the sense that this isn't a commonly held perspective. I hope I'm wrong because I came to the conclusions you have but my story is very different. Those things don't matter, somehow. That's pretty amazing if you ask me. Tells me it's probably not insignificant but rather profound and beautiful. Thank you for posting this.

[@OLIAMOROW]

I think most are chasing survival/financial security, not success necessarily.

[@angelapereznavarro6156]

Yes Dr Chatterjee Rangan you right . God bless you 🌅😊be happy .

[@rosazapata9186]

Thank you Dr Rangan........ profound and life changing. Grateful for your life in this world. Hugs from Mexico.

[@mitramalekzadeh9988]

Thanks so much Dr. Rogan, I am so profoundly grateful for all the words of wisdom. You are magnificent. I started making changes when I was compared to some people or criticized by some others. I looked deeply into my life and noticed there were some definitely toxic relationships I was in due to my own lack of love. I collected mostly the people who were criticize themselves and then pointed the finger at me. I started doing research into Dr. Joe Dispenza, yours, and Dr. Gabore Mate. I noticed my addictive personality traits roots into my childhood and later i adapted some into mine. I was aware without compassion for myself I would never be able to coach that information to my beautiful clients. Awareness is the key. Living the life,not talking and preaching ❤😊

[@Sokna_logn]

thank u from heart❤

[@ColinArmstrong-pu9bw]

A needed to hear this Dr RAGAN mental health care covid as hugely infact on my mental health issues mental clarity 👌🏼

[@FJano12]

Talk to God find happiness.

[@stanby2712]

Total bollocks!

[@venky1973]

If God replies then it's a problem.

[@MrJovitas]

Brilliant that speech saving lives

[@p.c.h.6721]

Too many Gurus these days telling you what to do, how to think, and of course the solution to all your problems is buying useless courses and book! No one knows what best for you, trust your instincts, your inner voice has all the answers, not all these Gurus.

[@brianperkins4155]

You are a good person. Keep searching. You haven’t found the answer.

[@Veggielover007]

Thanks so much for the great and life changing information.

[@stanbtw9903]

Agency is the sense of control that you feel in your life, your capacity to influence your own thoughts and behavior, and have faith in your ability to handle a wide range of tasks and situations. Your sense of agency helps you to be psychologically stable, yet flexible in the face of conflict or change.

[@joanagain007]

This was very interesting and powerful, thanks.

[@alostlove3336]

Love this man.

[@rppope1006]

10:30 thats other wordly when you think about that way

[@lesliejkf]

Thanks.

[@luismiguel69able]

Those are some pretty trite values, brutha.

[@zibacowan5546]

So true

[@annemccarron2281]

I believe all that is said in this presentation, however, these strategies do not usually change a person overnight. Years of abuse can really do a number on your psych.

[@michaelbell5135]

Hi Doctor Ragan this is Michael from California we have the biggest divide between the mega rich and poor/ middle class and healthcare health care in the United states usually only benefits the mega rich can you please help us get universal healthcare for all and all doctors hospitals pharmacy and specialist have to take it so people or persons do not go broke and do not have to have a job to get wonderful outstanding healthcare and I really enjoy you nice caring KZbin channel thank

[@chuck6458]

Sorry doc, it is my opinion that if you can be truly happy on this planet then you either don't know what is happening or don't care.

[@inspirationalguy81]

You don't need to know what's happening 24 hours a day! Just checking the news and our social media apps every so often is more than sufficient. Why do we feel that it is necessary to keep checking? In fact being away from news and social media apps is what will make us much more happier than otherwise.

[@chuck6458]

Checking social media is not what I am talking about. You can figure it out all by yourself. You don't need an "app" for that. We kill and destroy in the name of profit and our own survival. It is the very definition of evil. But of course you are just trying to "get by". And if you don't consume everything in sight, someone else will... right? I doubt you have any clue what you are in for.@@inspirationalguy81

[@LashusJourney]

❤

[@katfire207]

Why is it that you don’t mention that you value being a good husband?

[@sandbar3000]

So we are supposed to libe alone, luke me. Be unemployed, only get $450 a week ....on unemployment in California.. . Everybody knows that the more money you have and more happy. You are because you're able to pay your bills, but everybody knows low-income. People are not happy because they cannot pay their bills. They struggle. And the federal poverty limit, it's not been raised in 20 or 30 years. The federal poverty limit makes it impossible for people to get food stamps if they are working part time 30 hrs a week. It's almost like you have to be making 300% of the federally poverty level to be able to make it or 500% of the federal poverty level, because if you're making a 110% if you're making a 120% of the federal. Poverty limit, you're still struggling, but according to d. PSS. You make too much money. And you can't get help with food stamps. Because one thousand eight hundred dollars a month in unemployment in california is too much

[@kimberlywright4988]

Before you die repent to Jesus. Ask for forgiveness for all your sins I would recommend that we do it daily

[@stanby2712]

Total bollocks! Religion is the root of massive evil throughout history.

[@madonnaadell7465]

IF YOU'RE A SINNER

[@venky1973]

That's enough comedy for a day

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

These are things that need to be taught to everyone! thank you for sharing :)

[@brentbeatty4171]

So true

[@organizer14]

Thank you for highlighting this!

[@edwap038]

Thank you, I needed this! You are a beautiful human being! ❤

[@louisagraham8957]

As always such a meaningful & practical talk. I work in a Hospital as Family Liaison Officer so I often speak to many patients in need of support especially with Mental Health. I often pass on your name knowing that your good advice TRULY helps people THANK YOU

[@wolftickets1969]

"(Their life) was a success, but the patient died (in misery)". Bronnie Ware and Gabor Maté stated more or less the same things as you in "Regrets of the Dying" and "When The Body Says No", respectively.

[@organizer14]

So happiness is an internal story we tell ourselves and we can with awareness create a different story to empower ourselves and we will be happier and thus healthier. So lesson is that health is not only about biology and drugs.

[@soulprosperitypioneers]

I love the way his body looks so much

[@bernadettemosoph693]

That’s so true When u stop chasing it comes Omg so sorry ur dad ❤😢🙏🏼but excellent advise thanx🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

❤

[@Suziesuzi]

It’s heartbreaking to hear how your father worked as much as he did, I can’t imagine only sleeping 3 nights a week. It must have taken an unbelievable amount of will and belief he was doing his absolute best for his family. So sad he was ill for many years. Thank you for sharing this with us ❤

[@yvonnemarks9746]

This couldn't have come at a better time. I love listening to you and your guests. I just started thinking happy a few weeks ago ( I am actually a happy person) ...I thought I was but now much more actually thinking about it being more in the moment. I am very compassionate but maybe not as much as I should be. I loved to hear we all have our own stories of a situation it is so true. I am always kind to people serving me etc. I don't let a bad driver spoil my day. I used to be a driving instructor in the UK and I learned that people on the roads cutting you up etc. may have just had bad news we just never know what is going on in someone's life...But a big thank you as always very enlightening.

[@cinders1413]

What do you do if you dont have any real friends ?

[@sonjananette4719]

Absolutely fabulous presentation, once again. Thank you for all your work!

[@ColinArmstrong-pu9bw]

Excellent video thanks for sharing this with me

[@heaven4Now26]

Stop chasing and feel like a tree.

[@evecruz0167]

❤

[@ElisPalmer]

🌟🩵🌟

[@limeyjoe1632]

Excellent video, Rangan is a great public speaker with an important message.

[@dro355]

dont know about this... there are times when you're VERY unhappy but you MUST change your life in order to be happier. Weight loss is a perfect example. You will NOT be happy fat sorry there is no way bc it brings disease and paid. Therefore you must take action from a POV of unhappiness and push through the pain in order to BECOME happy !!!!

[@veraroyen4986]

"The not so happy people get 3 times more often sick than the happier ones." Yes, I know several angry and constant moaning old people who were nearly not sick their whole lives and others are much more happy and thankfull, have several sicknisses. So why get 2 of 3 people NOT sick although they are not so happy ? THIS is the interesting question, because they are much more.

[@SkipYearSix]

Can you please do a video on how to detox from ACCUTANE. I used ACCUTANE 8 years ago an more recently Tretinoin cream which has caused Dry Eyes (Meibomian Goand Dysfunction) and Seb Dermatitis. There are so many people struggling with this, please help.

[@JulesBeehive]

Love this talk - one of my favourites. Thank you Rangan ❤️

[@peterfrancisharris]

Eat fewer carbs... reduce anxiety and depression.

[@solarhydrowind]

Maybe the feel good vibe from carbs creates a rollercoaster effect on my moods which my brain tries to make sense of by anxiously trying to avoid "that low feeling", which of course it can't avoid, because it's not anything my brain is doing causing the ups and downs : it is the carbs!!!

[@solarhydrowind]

thank you peter francis harris 😊☺️🌞

[@solarhydrowind]

I am noticing it in real time now : i am feeling frightened for "no reason" and i ate carbs about 2 or 3 hours ago... So I'm "crashing" or going through the "low" of the "high~low carb cycle", and my brain is panic searching for where it is coming from!!!

[@peterfrancisharris]

You are very welcome. I am glad to hear it is having a positive effect. I eat as little as 60 grams of carbs per day. You need to find your level. The gut is the second brain.

[@solarhydrowind]

Happy Solstice and Season's Greetings for All you Celebrate at this time of Year! Your concise, helpful comment may answer a condition that has caused suffering for me and untold thousands or millions of confused, perhaps stressed out people! May the Peace of Year's End be yours and all around you and even Everywhere, if we're lucky 😔🕊️❤️😊🤗🥰🌞🧡

[@powertile]

Phone scamming 101

[@ornyoko]

This is really good 👏

[@ramthian]

Thanks 🙏 Docs 😊

[@madonnaadell7465]

THANKS RANGAN 🙏

[@ramthian]

Great 👍🙏😻

[@ramthian]

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