Everybody Dies, But Not Everyone Lives - 5 Life Lessons People Learn Too Late... | Jay Shetty

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[@tpelio12]

“You don’t have to be a monk to think like a monk”. Valuable words.

[@ameliahamilton8637]

Emotional inteligence is HOT. Thank you, beautiful boys, for seeding this beautiful way of being.

[@kathyrule9328]

Love your podcasts. You two are magic together. Inspirational. Thank you for sharing ❤

[@BelindaFarage]

This is a long interview - but I can tell you I will be listening to this more than once. So so real and needed information. Love you guys for sharing.

[@neoneoi]

Attachment styles,so beautiful ly explained, very poignant

[@angelaemidio6693]

We should also keep in mind cultural differences. I’m southern European and to appreciate what people do for you and manifest that gratitude is a very natural thing. I’m now living in Central Europe and things work differently. To be kind and grateful may be seen as being naïve or they may think you want something from them, unfortunately. Always a great pleasure to listen to this podcast. I’ve learned so much! Thank you to all the team ❤

[@Lizmiller280]

As a subscriber, I could not afford to pay for the lessons and information your guests provide. I listen to them while I am getting ready for work. Many thanks🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤

[@leehart8106]

I love this. I'm pausing so much to take notes. A bullet point summary at the end would be so very helpful. Thank you for this and all you do. Value Audit!!! Winner

[@thegeraldinekuss]

I believe the long podcasts are almost the same as meditation. Most people nowadays are incapable of paying attention more than a couple of minutes. Good exercise in concentration & learning new views from ones own. Thank you!

[@lilmissjoodypoody]

Oh you’re so right. Thank you for pointing that out. I now realise why I find it so calming to listen to long form conversations like these.

[@amymartin7272]

I'm very glad to be privilaged enough to listen in to this talk.

[@sunnylink917]

That is me! I want to experience and meet new people /places. I'm curious and open minded, but have learned to protect myself from ill will. THANK YOU Dr. Rangan and Jay for this honest interview and for giving us this gift🎁💖🌞

[@rashidashabazz7319]

Death is NOT a LOSS....As a monk, I know YOU KNOW THAT. WE are ETERNAL BEINGS and will never get IT done. We. Choose to come her, and WE CHOOSE when to return home to the non physical....LOVE BEYOND THIS WORLD CAN NEVER BE SEPARATED BY IT 🙏🏽💚😇

[@azrocks111]

Just discovered your channel. I'm amazed at the depth and raw honesty in each podcast I've watched. Fascinating and enlightening. Love your style of interviewing and your contribution. Love your guests!

[@gracejasinthpriyadarsini2489]

The best life stage of true happiness is being as a child with mom and dad.

[@ameliahamilton8637]

If you're lucky 💜

[@gracejasinthpriyadarsini2489]

@@ameliahamilton8637 of God wishes

[@ameliahamilton8637]

​@@gracejasinthpriyadarsini2489I mean, for many, childhood is abusive and scary and is something they spend years healing from. For some, it is a beautiful time of unconditional love, but not for all.

[@gracejasinthpriyadarsini2489]

@@ameliahamilton8637 Depends upon how we are to our parents and they react accordingly. Parents love obedience and respect in our childhood days but in present life such qualities are unseen.

[@lilmissjoodypoody]

As a balancing counterpoint to someone who commented about the length of the video - I thoroughly enjoy this long form format. It feels like I’m a fly on a wall in deep and authentic between two people I respect, which is not something we get the opportunity to participate in these days as often as I’d like. It reminds me of when I was a kid sitting on the floor playing with my toys while listening to my grandfather and uncle have deep and respectful discussions about politics and history. I found it so fascinating and loved being there, despite not understanding much of what they spoke about as I was too young, I still loved the vibe of the room where adults were having respectful discussions and learning from each other. This definitely wouldn’t be possible in short form content, and there’s plenty of that being offered. Edited versions often cut out nuanced context and the ebb and flow of what makes a conversation natural - including pauses for contemplation, for appreciation, for letting something sink in (and we as listeners are also given that time to let that moment sink in). A conversation in heavily edited and redacted format simply doesn’t resonate as much as this format does. And like others, I listen to this while I’m gardening or washing dishes, and it allows me to enrich an otherwise uneventful task (which sometimes is good to be spent doing in silence) with knowledge, wisdom and the joy of listening to two humans connect with each other. I know that you, Rangan, have decided long ago that you aren’t changing from this format in order to suit audience who prefer it. I hope that this helps to reaffirm why your decision is an important and good one for many of us. Thank you!

[@peterngong50]

I AM ONE OF THE AVID VIEWER YOUR CHANNEL YOU ARE GREAT. THANKS FOR SHARING YOUR THOUGHTS. I AM FROM PHILLIPINES.

[@pamelaatchison3452]

This is so very interesting. I would soooo love to hear your wives having a similar conversation.

[@looking4leasuretime]

This is the best reminder for me to thank all the people who have helped save me and brought me to this point in my life, so that I can work on a future. Air Hugs and High 5's

[@Dr.RiccoMastermind]

It Sounds easy, when you are able to cummincate 4 weeks of Stress ahead. But what if you don't know how stressful and mong the next working period will be and what other complicstion and demanding private tasks and projects will add to your work stress? What if you think you can handle and try to be calm and nice to your wife and kid and only realize too late that you're already freaking out, and if you can't sleep well most nights, specifically in the allergy period, and.... Even morning routines are not enough then, you even forget some of the thing you frequently wanted to do for yourself. Then you need grocery shopping l, healthy cooking and eating, socializing, housework, .... needing 30 hours a day, because your "Me time" can aonly start when you're already supposed to sleep or go to bed at the same time as your wife. I love your ideas and really need to try to implement some more of them, but real life is tough.... 🙈

[@carolinejohn4537]

Bless your heart, I feel your heavy load. Have you actually sat down and told your wife exactly how you feel and what a battle you find life at the moment? If there is love between you PLEASE tell her so you can work as a team to support each other. As a wife to a wonderful man, the one frustration is that I have to beg him to tell me what is worrying him when I can see he is not himself. He always says he " doesnt want to worry me " so keeps it to himself. This is even more worrying to me as I am imagining the worse case scenario! Please don't keep all this to yourself, it's a lonely, exhausting way to live. Good luck my friend

[@ameliahamilton8637]

Foresight is awesome, but it's also important to be able to learn to say in the moment of stress: "Ahhhhh! I'm freaking out right now but it's not about you!!!!!!" Or come right back if you messed it up, and say, I'm so sorry I talked to you like that. I was stressed and overtired, and that isn't an excuse, and I should never talk to you like that, and I will continue to work on not projecting stress on you. I just want you to know that I wasn't mad at you and you didn't do anything, I was misplacing my stress and frustration at you and I'm sorry." Apologizing to our kids like this is equally important, when we snap at them. Not that they don't need discipline, but when we are aggressive with them because we aren't dealing with our stress well. It keeps the relationship clear and teaches them to be vulnerable and how to apologize, and strengthens the respect for when we actually are disciplining them.

[@ameliahamilton8637]

Everytime we take a chance and voice our vulnerabilities or take accountability, it helps us be more aware the next time we do it, maybe even sooner than we realized it the last time. Starting a pattern of vulnerable and non-violent communication during a moment of stress is important work.

[@zencat17]

Sharing experiences and insights in books and interviews is a blessed thing, thank you. For most of us (women) it's a male privileged thing to just take off and become a monk, I've lived with monks but I would never be considered the same level ever nor be anything more than the one doing the cooking and washing up for them, very rare is it for a woman to be safely able to take up such a discipline and be able to sit in stillness as a way of life. I would, however, recommend living in these communities if you are able, there's a lot of treasure there to be gleaned.

[@lozb1631]

Loved this episode. On the area about love and always thinking that your interaction with the person or animal you're with could be the last is a balance of being grateful and in living in the moment and also not making you anxious so that you find it difficult to be able to live in the moment as you are projecting any potential hurt and loss in the future to today. I can be anxious especially as ive had 3 bereavements in close proximity so im on edge as to what or who is next. Grief and life does this so its all a balance as everything mostly is in life.

[@carolinejohn4537]

I know exactly how you feel. I too have had many bereavement, especially in last 3 years and it has broken me. I live in constant fear of losing my beloved husband it is awful and sapping. ❤

[@BelindaFarage]

Dr. Chatterjee - you're sharing of your Mother's illness and you and your brother's care for her - spoke to me on so so many levels. Thank you so much for sharing this - it is helping me cope and appreciate the care I am giving my Mother. It is hard. Really hard. But you and Mr. Shetty are giving me courage and belief that I can do this. For my Mom. I lost my Father 11 years ago - never a day goes by when I don't miss him. And to imagine having both my parents gone... It is coming. And I won't her to know with all my being that I Love her. Thank you. Blessings to you both.

[@antondavidoff150]

What a great podcast ! 10 out of 10

[@kajarace4538]

I actually like the long format, I can listen to it when I'm in the car, going to work and back, when I'm cleaning etc... also, when i'm doing a task where I can't do anything else but one thing (that maybe doesn't need a lot of mental focus)...dividing it a little bit is actually really nice because I take time to reflect in between. So please keep up with longer conversations. 😊❤

[@2012Cheetah]

Absolutely loved this philosophy!❤

[@rhondawoodhouse5508]

Another great guest to follow Master's incredible and impressionable wisdom! Thank you for the discount for the vegan tennis shoes! You are awesome AWESOMENESS!!!!!

[@Gigibrasil]

I didn’t think I will learn something with this video at the beginning but I did. Good job. Keep up the good work 👍🏻

[@joiserawson1123]

Enjoying the longer interviews. Always motivating and thought provoking. When searching for those to folllow, I look for the longer podcasts. Keep it up.

[@ameliahamilton8637]

Same! I listen while I work and love the deep dives. If someone's interesting, I wanna hear as much as they wanna say 💜 I personally feel like they are a good length, a good pace, and move along efficiently. Even if it takes me two days to listen, I'm grateful for the indepth interviews. One hour interviews always feel like it's wrapping up before I got to really know the person, and I usually go elsewhere afterward to find a longer interview with that person.

[@name.terrie]

How fun. Really enjoyed this discussion. Best wishes!

[@qjye6681]

You guys are amazing. Love listening to both of your podcasts❤

[@EricMHowardII-yh1rn]

Thank you for talking too mr Shetty his heart is beautiful.

[@michelleoberholzer5195]

This has quickly become one of my top three podcasts. 🙏

[@OsokaOiv]

May I get to know what the other two are?

[@michelleoberholzer5195]

@@OsokaOiv Robert Edward Grant and Aubrey Marcus.

[@shimone1941]

Rangan's podcast is my favourite

[@mariabuckley1749]

Thank you both so much, this is wonderful 💖

[@MarcellaFlorez-np5wc]

So awesome

[@EricMHowardII-yh1rn]

Mr Shetty is an awesome and beautiful hearted man with great wisdom and understanding your being a mock is an excellent gift please keep on sharing. I'm glad your doing On purpose podcast programs .❤❤❤❤❤ Philadelphia Pa

[@user-tw3zq6se6z]

That literally is what happened to me. It woke me up from sleep!

[@gracejasinthpriyadarsini2489]

My favourite speaker Jay genius l love his speech very much.

[@MarcellaFlorez-np5wc]

Amazing

[@kimlarkin2630]

Jay is on point with so much of what he says😘

[@Deecat88]

Breathing techniques (if i remember correctly): Jay: In 4, out 6 Rangan:In 4, hold 5, out 6 In 4, hold 4, out 4 (box) In 4, hold 7, out 8

[@hairbymichelleandbeautypar7199]

I've learned such a lot from this video. And it is so easy to relate. Thanks.

[@natwebbcomedy]

Hi Rangan, thanks for the great content. I was lead to this from the Top Five Regrets of the Dying with Bronnie Ware. Powerful. I can't seem to locate the podcast version of this Jay Shetty recording. Anyone can help that'd be great! Keep up the good work. Really enjoying all the podcasts on my hikes and bikes. :D

[@user-km2ik2nx1i]

I love your videos. Thank you so much for sharing such high quality content.

[@rebeccagilman2020]

Thank you for a interesting topic and more. I can’t believe that I watch the whole thing! Which took, Two hours and fifty four minutes. Not counting rewinds… If I didn’t get it or understand it, I had to rewind and listen to it again. I need to buy his book. So yes, it was worthwhile to listen to the whole thing! Thank you again! 👏🏽🙌🏽🤙🏽

[@jacobshrimpton]

Really prefer the longer interview! could we just get this next time please, Thank you again for all your effort.

[@jacobshrimpton]

@Chat__up___. thanks not sure what you would like to discuss but this seems the best forum no?

[@ameliahamilton8637]

​@@Chat__up___.Stop commenting this stupid catch phrase repeatedly on everyone's comments all over KZbin. Sheesh.

[@AP-nx6xo]

Thank you

[@larableumink1936]

You’re amazing, loved the video!

[@lisahinkofer2085]

Just ordered the book. Think like a monk. This was so eye opening.

[@robertm.-certifieddaytrade4939]

If I may concisely paraphrase some of what Jay is saying; “We question everything and everyone except our own ignorance” Robert from daytradingwiththelight

[@susankemppinen]

Beautiful,.. so insightful and valuable..Than you Rangan and Jay .

[@jamiemarzano7389]

Excellent postcast send a beautiful mesage to awaken ourselves to be more.

[@user-tw3zq6se6z]

It's a real BEST OF❤

[@julitosnijders3623]

Are we operating at the same frequency? Powerful, great podcast, you both great teachers.

[@garnetgirlvintage9560]

❤great conversation🎉😊

[@muzikaishokolad]

Great talk! ❤

[@garysmith4418]

Dairy of a CEO is always 👍 good. Jay is a guru. ( A teacher.) Great episode. 💕 Love it. :-) 😍

[@Dr.RiccoMastermind]

Rangan proposes a true "Internal Audit" as we also perform it in a pharma company, but for oneself regarding values, joys, pains, feelings, desires, principles, believes etc.

[@henrikelanschuetzer4261]

Sorry for any physician, that doesn't follow wo/man's HOLY VOW + BEING HAPPY WITH IT! Keep in mind that every choice comes within a PACKAGE OF DUALITY!

[@windhorse3889]

Let go of the ego and life is so funny!

[@kumarj5628]

2:10 know different types of people

[@tonyb6925]

Why do some people waste time idolizing people, coz they cant see how much time they waste in the process. Then they say things like, 'dont you know so and so', 'no i dont, i dont have to, they dont know me, i dont know them', i only have time for myself, thanks

[@METAMORPHIC_Healing888]

Thinking that ppl should be happy all the time is more damaging than anything else . This belief system and obsession with happiness is illusive and creates an unrealistic expectation and causes a lot of disappointment and can lead ppl to addictions. Look at the face of a newborn when he first comes to this world, is he laughing and consumed by Happiness? Happiness comes and goes in this life, trying to grab onto it and thinking, being is about happiness and there is something wrong with ppl for not being happy is being disconnected from reality of our world.

[@walkerskii]

I watched the whole thing but I had trouble coming up with making a list of 5, as advertised in the title

[@hyperfreshspace7943]

Guess which book I am reading right now. It is only the 5th or 6th read so I need to dive in a little deeper into Think like a monk

[@CalorieAccountant]

What is the name of the book ?

[@aborigini1]

This is so interesting, but there are more single people than ever in this society. Love isn’t just romantic love… way too Disney and Hollywood!

[@AP-nx6xo]

Exactly

[@along9971]

A 3 hour interview??😮

[@medalatsbha6896]

❤❤❤❤

[@TheMisterGriswold]

Please someone, a TL:DR!

[@ameliahamilton8637]

Just listen while you're driving or something! Sometimes it takes me a few days to get thru a long podcast, but I return to it and work my way through 💜 summarizing this is not the same as hearing the breakdown! Important stuff here.

[@donnawoodford6641]

I wish there were fewer ads.

[@girlanonymous]

KZbin isn’t free. If you want to no ads, you have to buy a monthly KZbin subscription.

[@emmaa-d8522]

I think the quote is from Descartes

[@datesareffruit2075]

No, Descartes said "Cogito ergo sum" which means "I think therefore I am". A very different metaphysical point about existence and reality, not the psychological point that Jay is quoting.

[@lbplease]

Jesus said I come that you may have life, and that life more abundantly. The best life you will ever live is having a personal relationship with Jesus and when you die you will be with him through eternity!!!

[@babsocat]

Please explain at the 1 hr 29 minute mark why are you think that a 1991 commercial was setting the idea of a ring had to cost 2 months salary, rather than reflecting the idea that was already out in society? I think you’ve got a chicken and egg scenario here and you’re assuming it’s the ad setting the cultural tone rather than reflecting it.

[@robertocaingarcia7486]

Trust in Christ Jesus as your lord and there is life after death everyone will get eternal life heaven or hell I'm not going to gamble on it

[@artandculture5262]

Women who reject men become loved.

[@dinosemr8141]

💖❤️💖🙏💖❤️💖

[@drendelous]

it sometimes gets too tiring to hear Jay's voice.. peace and love

[@ameliahamilton8637]

No way.

[@karlareyes4688]

And can anyone become a monk? I mean, do they accept anyone? Because I'd do it

[@AM-jk4uw]

Hi, I really love the informations in your videos and find them very usefull. But the videos are much to long. A length up to 25 minutes would be fine-then I would watch all your videos.

[@a.a1309]

I listen to them in speed *2

[@terjehelle]

I enjoy the longer format. Not everything needs to be TikTok videos…

[@santsuma]

I listen just to the audio, while working in my garden or driving and I really like that they are long.

[@anniehunter5786]

@@terjehelleTotally agree, some topics need deep dives to really understand.

[@henrikelanschuetzer4261]

Lengthy podcasts might be useful for SLOW LEARNERS. 21ST Century asks for something ELSE!

[@enjoyblestlifeyoueverhave]

24:00

[@nadiasingh8700]

This sounds like a repeat podcast, just posted twice

[@AnaEdigaryan]

Yeah, live yourself and let others live. Who would have thought this axiomatic BS will be so vital to state...

[@totti.]

What are you saying ? ( Translation for the dummys please ?)

[@rinadror]

Thank you for the conversation full of motivation and philosophy for life. You are both great.💫

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

❤

[@kacythomas1327]

No I'll pass

[@lando9953]

passion doesn’t exist and it’s outdated

[@Ann-oy5yb]

I have compassion for you because you think you die. Nobody dies proven by physics. WE are all being created constantly, so we couldn't die if we wanted to. Energy is energy whether this dimension or another. Quarks are constantly bursting forth spinning billions of times a second as 3 points of light forming protons and neutrons. These words come from the book The Quantum World written by the physicist Kenneth Ford. We are magnificent machines constantly being created. WE are AI, better than AI. Since we are electrical, each atom and quark and cell being like computer chips, then we ARE better than AI. AI is based on us. We all consist of 7 billion billion billion atoms each one an electric energy field. Because quarks are spinning so fast, then so are atoms. These are what people call chakras. In the book Hands of Light written by the physicist Barbara Brennan can be seen many pictures/diagrams of what we all look like as eternal electrical energy fields and holograms.

[@IsitReallyrealreally]

the mouth inhale slurping sound

[@JohnJohn-fd5jq]

They kicked him out of the munk

[@samcorolla4728]

Death shouldn't be feared buy anyone who believes in Jesus Christ as are savior and king, its the ones that follow satan,

[@lisaconstantinou4690]

Look every stage is too do with age..life changes you.your needs are so different when your 50 plus..than when your 20 30 40...don't get why you build this so out of character..lots of men and women chose to be alone..they had great lovers and great marriages...kids...and so on..rubbish about stiff upper lip and brits only..come on man..its called human being.

[@martinjz33]

This guy was a monk but came back for the money?

[@ameliahamilton8637]

No way. You're abbreviating several stages of his life into a negative perspective. He didn't come back for the money. He made money while following his passion years after he left the monastery. The monastery taught him to follow his purpose and passion and listen to his inner guidance rather than the din of the world, and ultimately we all benefit, because we get to hear his perspective and choose to let it help us in our own lives.

[@porkchop8542]

Accept Jesus Christ as your savior before you die! Read John 3:16!

[@rattanjeetsingh7310]

when you die only your body dies. so we are not dying ever. don't tell me it is too late then blah blah ....

[@brunofrye]

no, not an abrahamic

[@247Sarah]

Still promoting the fraud? Such a disappointment Rangan. This makes it harder to trust you. You’re better than this!!! 😌

[@illsmackudown]

1:52:00 true

[@Dr.RiccoMastermind]

You two have beautiful and very important mindset, sharply pointing out many things that I already experienced and even somehow already understood, but not yet got clear eno7gh in my head. Such an interview really helps sorting out things that gathered in my head, I'm so grateful for that 😊🫶🇩🇪