Don't hate the player understand the game

[@askchazzellis]

How to Deal with Game Playing Master Class 101. Devalue a players: When someone plays games they generally do it so that they can get attention and gain the upper hand in the relationship. Most people don't really care if this is negative or positive attention as long as they feel that they still have the same or greater value because to their actions. Showing a person that is playing games that they have lost value is a great way to let them see that what they are doing is negatively affecting them so that they will stop. 102. Ignoring: We often spend a lot of our time paying attention to things that make us unhappy, instead of focusing on the things that make us smile. When someone is playing games, they are generally trying to get the attention that they probably didn't get it their previous relationships. Ignoring them can show them that this does not work with you and that they will need to try another method. 103. Rewarding good behavior: We often want people to behave a certain way but often take it for granted when they do. A lot of people have been taken for granted in the past and this is why they choose to play games in the first place. Rewarding good behavior shows that once they act the way that you want them to, they will get the positive affirmation that they may not have received in previous relationships. Save 15% on the How to Deal with Game Playing Master Class with Coupon Code: stopthegames sellfy.com/p/38Eq/

[@ShelleyG1014]

Just ended a relationship with a player. People don't ignore your gut feelings the first time!

[@1candygems]

Amen girl

[@DC-se3vr]

As soon as I started improving my life. I started getting treated better by every guy. Including the guy I mentioned in other videos. Since I know I have other options I don’t have to put up with anything. But I also started loving as hard as I can. My life has improved so much. I can’t thank you enough!

[@Cathy24601]

I do think that most real players are people who once got hurt pretty bad.

[@MsAyoFashola]

I like this. In a nutshell, focus on being of value...first 2 yourself, and then to others, without expecting anything in return. Only deal with people who are of value to you...that are meeting your needs and wants. If they can't provide any real substantial value, keep it moving. It's not personal.

[@luulips]

Oh yes so true.

[@estellabutler5424]

Chocolate Divine: You needed someone to tell you this?

[@DC-se3vr]

Chocolate Divine He said it well. To contribute to others and not take from them. And smile :) if you bring to others, they bring to you, and their parents and friends will love you for that.

[@vickihayes2909]

you r hands down, the most, honest, real, well-put, and helpful person I have ever ever listened to. the lord, the force, or just lifes experiences have blessed you and thus me and everyone else you have helped understand our lives in a way that says it the real way it is. thank you so much. you r just ....awesome...thank you!!!!! I feel I can understand so much better now and I know my choices. which is so much better than running around in my own head confused....much better!!! u da man!! the REAL man!!

[@luulips]

Indeed he is!

[@chavellaminerva]

Chazz I think I've been with your channel since your subbs were only around 1000-2000 and yet you're still keeping me taught. You're such a rare decent guy! And I thank you for being you xxxxxxxx

[@SquaddieSoul]

Chaz I listen to your advice repeatedly, your videos are like my go to bible of relationship lessons. Your guidance has kept me calm at times i haven't known where to turn. Never underestimate how valued your contribution to KZbin is.

[@FollowingJesus17]

I don't ask my so-called friends for relationship advice anymore. because half of them cant help themself's. and number two, can a lot of people pretend to care about our relationship issues, but some are Glad you have issues. I would rather askchazz because he clearly has experience and he knows what his talking about.

[@jomine1899]

Wow, man! You"re like my new personal hero! I was married for 14years, divorced for 2 now. First relationship after that, I got a player who made me go through hell. I really built a wall around me and I m alone for an year. You made reavaluate my role in that story, and I even feel I hate him less now! Thanks! I had to watch the vídeo 3 times. I'm Brazilian, studied in US in past, but some parts were hard to get. You're the best! Lol, São Paulo, Brazil

[@insteadstudio2658]

I love your compassion. Everyone started out loving and innocent. It's never personal. The more games they play, the more they were burned. This is a "heal the world" kind of message. So good.

[@pgirl9959]

Valid points!!! It opened my eyes to my role in "the game". Never realized that I was actually continuing the cycle 🤦

[@Autumn_Forest_]

Chazz, you're so smart that it's scary!! I think you've given me the info I need to deal with my situation...not being played (yet) but am really into a guy who is basically saying, "Let's have sex and then see how we feel about each other." I'm looking for something real with him, so I'm not even gonna play that game.

[@americanalien6411]

It's a trap! Don't do it!

[@Autumn_Forest_]

Yep!!!

[@Poopie22]

Hes fake

[@lyndiex4215]

Nakidz smart cookie...Dont waste time starting with this loser! I wasted 5 years with a Demon just Buying time- while lying about it...til the end..nothing but Lies.

[@marshellaforte7245]

I have listened to different people giving relationship advice on KZbin. What you said in this video was the best ever. 💯

[@JC-ut7xg]

This was mind boggling but the TRUTH! reasons why I don’t get played the way I used too. I’m always aware of what’s next when it comes to men. I pay attention to everything.

[@Never_Give_Up_88]

This was so good, had to watch this about 10 times but I understood everything Chazz was saying and realized I been playing the game well because once I realized you bring no value to my life the tug of war is over, once I ask myself what am I losing if I walk away from this relationship and the answer comes out to be nothing I'm gone

[@lashayhershe9428]

This video is what most of the future is made of, i appreciate the rawness and honesty, i think we have found ourselves an advisor who understands mankind, thanks so much for this one!!

[@johnnycage8327]

Damn dude, you nailed it. This is the reason i stopped being serious with women. For the past 10 years i've become almost numb to females emotions. I don't feel love anymore, i've forgot how it felt to be in love. I got hurt really bad by a female that i gave my everything to. That's why i became a player. Most players have actually been hurt badly....

[@SweetUareDesi]

duh. thnx for sharing tho

[@Flutterby1388]

Anal Destroyer Thank you for sharing this. It makes total sense and will help me feel empathy as I move on.

[@rananaffa]

is there any solutions for helping this player who got hurt badly previously ? and give a chance for something real? what to do to stop him playing. please help.

[@GoldenGraham25]

Rana Naffa they break down those walls when their ready.... Not when a good woman/man comes to help them.

[@barbarariley3488]

Oldschool Thrasher Poor excuse to not care about women's feelings. Get over it and man up we all get.hurt. We choose.how we respond.

[@traceyhughes2548]

chazz u r a brilliant man. It is so pathetic that you have to play games in order to succeed in capturing and maintaining a relationship these days. I hope that when I move forward in my life that I am the best version of myself. I would like to attract a person who is vibing on my same level..so my future will be happy Leaving the negativity behind.

[@ladyj0308]

This one came right on time.... needed to hear it!! Thank you

[@melissaperez3421]

ladyj0308 n

[@helenasvachova444]

Hi Chazz, I first found your channel more than a year ago after a brief failed relationship with a player (where I was the "one night stand that couldn't take the hint" apparently, haha :D ) and I thought you were a genius. Now I came back a year later (most of which I spent single and content, with a brief phase when I almost became a player myself) just out of curiosity and I still think you're a genius. That's definitely more than I can tell about any other dating channel out there! Some of your theories are so original and wise, especially the one about people basically always protecting their own interests and not doing anything "to you" but "for them." I've had it confirmed multiple times during this year, it's completely true and explains so much about human motives. Thank you so much for your hilarious and brilliant insights!

[@saralucita]

Tyvm Chazz, came to understand the game and the fact that isn't personal most of the time. Great insight and perspective you give here. That perspective (your way of seeing it all and sharing it) does take off a lot of stress and obsession. Peace

[@FollowingJesus17]

its almost like the circle of life. this video gives great understanding of Not just the player and game but life in general , like what goes around comes around. its almost like the saying' beauty's in the eyes of the beholder'. chazz is a man of wisdom.

[@juanac6587]

Dude! I’ve watched 10 other videos before yours to find reasons why my ex did the things to me, and still I was confused and heartbroken . But the moment I’ve seen one and more of you vids everything was clear to me. It’s a fuckn game all along and I loved playing it so that I can get some from time to time. Thank you

[@denisherforbes4095]

You have helped me settle my feeling and slow things down with this player

[@carissmatierllinge4188]

First, I have to say, that I just love the way, how you express your opinion. Straight, no hesitations, just pure true, and I love it! :) I can´t agree with you more on this! :) I recently realize the same thing.... I was in contact with player and in fact I was in contact with him, because I saw who he is inside (not who he is making himself look like, or who I wish he was) but for who he really is.. And also, because I just didn´t understand why was he acting like he was... I have never met player before.. So I was pretty confused and I wanted to understand what the heck is happening... He also inspired me for some changes in my life and he doesn´t even know... And I always knew that he beeing player is kind of protection.. But I just decided, that even, I still could learn from him more, than I did untill now, if I continue talking to him... it can actually make more damage than help me... But I would never say anything bad about him, or hate him... I have no reason why.. :) And I have to say THANK YOU, for what you´re doing. Not only for me, but for anybody out there, who can possibly need help, or whom you can open eyes, if they would watch your videos.. People are complaning, about world, life, other people, but not many of them realize, that if we want to change something, we have to start with ourselvs.. And if they decide to do it, people like you can really help, so I am glad, that you do what you do. Because to be able to help, you needed to grow up above those situations... (Thats the direction, where I am heading. (At least I am trying to) ). And to get there, it requires self-control, hard work in fact and to be honest to yourself. So, I think you have done great job! :) We just need more people like you :)

[@SJ4Youtube]

oh wow this is the best video. Hey Chazz! I've been listening to all the advice KZbinrs here and you are by far the best! All your advice is on point and do helpful. Keep on shining

[@Darkempress45]

Man, you are just too damn smart!! Its crazy how you can be on earth for X amount of years and dont know this stuff. You are a very intelligent man. Made me really think. This video should have been titled "Keeping it real" because that is just what you did! Bravo!!!!! Well spoken, this video is my favorite from you!

[@luulips]

Knekya D. No doubt mine too

[@elisabethbell630]

Man. Chad, you are super wise. This is deep. Thank you for YOU.

[@golden9986]

Chazz, just wanted to say, nice job! Thank you for your prospective. The information you are providing is quite comprehensive.

[@zrani5365]

It’s literally one of the most eye opener, great thinking

[@lorindavillafana665]

yow....seriously chazz, u spoke directly to my soul with this one. esp' towards the end man. 100% thank u

[@OLatreil]

Once I learned and appreciated what was going on that guys were protecting themselves and what they really wanted in life, I realized that was a great idea lol. But a better idea is to not lead others on in the process of getting what you want. My approach is to just say no to any offers that don't meet the qualifications and do me. Look at is as business. I'm trying to find a LIFE PARTNER and after the romance has died down I know what I'll need to sustain the relationship and feel like I belong in it. The Grown Zone taught me that.

[@missball404]

FrozyWozy true

[@luulips]

Hey Miss Jackson Chazz teaches that also. Great insight.

[@bcvc3365]

Thank you. your videos are helping me with acceptance and forgiveness... and eventually letting go....

[@franciscab.5564]

My most favorite video ever !!! So so real i wish everyone understood this life would be so much more peaceful 😒. One day 😴

[@pris_pris]

TRUTH....😄 Keep up the videos please. What about a video about how to use a player to our advantage?!?

[@tiffanyott6525]

That’s a dope concept. You’re not doing it to me but doing it for you. I like that!

[@MissJaneyC]

Amazing video, very insightful, thank you all the way from Scotland 😊 I’ve been looking at my own behaviour towards men, and yes, I’m guilty of some of the things u say, and as u say, we all can be. I’m now on the receiving end and trying to see it from above instead of from within, this video makes so much sense to me. Thanks again, keep up the good work x

[@luulips]

One of my favorite videos. Thanks Chazz!!!

[@2twentysix]

Thank you. All so true! Wouldn't care if I didn't like him enough and I would be the player and drop him in a heartbeat.

[@deemzkiss]

look who they ran into...YO AZZ😁😁😁

[@TreasureForeverOfficial]

I love listening to your videos Chazz I feel like I can come out of the gate swinging. This is one of your best I think.

[@starblossom1370]

Real talk!!!! Great minds think alike!! U going places!!! I looked at all ya videos!! Love em!! God bless u!! Keep it up!

[@Moonbeingstrandedonearth50]

THAT WAS COMPLETELY ON POINT! WOW! I AM BOTH APPARENTLY-GETTING PLAYED & A PLAYA! Woooooooow

[@nspencer77]

Yo! This video is the truth! You dropped some knowledge and helped me so much. I just nipped a situation because he was playing games. It felt good. If I never hear from him again I'm ok. :)

[@rmq808]

You're such a genius thank you for answering one of the most important questions in my life.

[@ndaa.5625]

How not loving someone you don't love is equal to playing them. You don't owe others love, but you owe them enough respect not to play with their emotions.

[@pariemil86]

U R so right I'm glad U made this video and I actually realized this 2 hrs ago when someone hurt me that hey I may have hurt someone too. So I just learn from it and move the hell on

[@MsKeshia10]

you know until now, I totally understand this video because its mind over matter! I was talking to someone and we're talking bout this topic, you must protected your feelings because truth be told no one will. chezze you need make part 3

[@sazennonumber]

feeling inspired after watching this. awesome! thank you.

[@sequoia4631]

This is one of my favorite video's you've made.

[@samanthamichelle9845]

Great advice 💯 key word protection ..everyone has used it

[@askchazzellis]

Samantha Cook Right

[@mayaportland8805]

This is deep and smart. Good to remember!

[@luulips]

Wow this is good stuff. I use to think of it this way years ago. I'm just getting back out in the game now and its coming back to memory now. Dealing with different types of dudes is so much more interesting especially as you keep these ideas in mind.

[@aliciabloom8515]

on point! love ur videos Chazzz

[@joniluca]

This was really good. Really helpful. Right on spot.

[@shanethedirector]

This is the third time I have watched this video and I am just now really "getting" it !

[@HummingbirdPromotionsLLC]

Very good...I had to watch this about 3 or 4 times u saying a lot in this video. This was good thanks :)

[@kellytyler4029]

THANKYOU so much!!!!! Loving your videos.

[@tomthumbbutterhead7117]

Thanks for the wisdom Chazz!

[@Prayerpartnerinternational]

this has answered all the questions i had...thank you...

[@funkyblanket15]

Chazz you make me laugh, and you are so damn insightful. Thank you for sharing your wisdom!

[@jackksterr]

Man everything you said was on point!!!

[@viktorw8484]

Great video! very cool topics

[@lafilyasimmons1448]

knowledge is power thanks chazzellis

[@amberl4053]

Lovely ...very well expressed.

[@09mjeternity]

The realist shit I heard all year.

[@rmq808]

All my life.

[@catherineninaa]

You're so right. You're great

[@candid.303]

Yes!! I’ve learned to love the game.

[@letinaday3933]

🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣 I def don’t tell everything...I gonna protect me until they proven their friendship🤷🏽‍♀️ So I get the game.... I def contribute to the game 😂😪

[@thewonderfulworkofdebbie9752]

Dayum!! Toooo real!! Thank for the advice.

[@EmekaTalksTech]

love it...you always tell it how it is Chaz :)

[@IamKarryanne]

ugh your wearing blue!! 😅😅

[@Buttercupbubbles100]

Brilliant !!!! Keep it up

[@askchazzellis]

Buttercupbubbles100 Thank you

[@Chandra5]

Now this was the ticket!

[@esperanzas2860]

love ur vids. thank you.

[@mademoisellepunk777]

Yeah this was the best one so far, made me lol a few times :D Chazz you re the boss

[@melissadavis4113]

Thank you for your wise words.

[@FloridaNative84]

Wow, this video is eye opening!!

[@quanaramirasherman]

I love this!!! Thank you.

[@MsG110]

Word! "The creation of authentic power requires that you distinguish between your artificial needs and your authentic needs." ~G Zukav

[@LoveJones-lf3yi]

oh I Thank You So much for this useful video

[@lapeaches8006]

You're smart! I like this channel (new subscriber) 😊👍💯

[@pjnash01]

This is good stuff. Thanks!

[@fairy9749]

Best video ever😂 agree with everything here

[@chantelleclark5854]

spot on

[@sxylala74]

Amazing video!

[@lovetheworld5411]

Thank you so much.

[@LizHeartsBeauty]

AMAZING VID LIKE ALWAYS!

[@hyunji2524]

This is crazy for real. like this guy is real

[@lashawnward1306]

Super Great Video.. You rock, lol.. Thks

[@AbigailChristineIsrael]

Loved this video !

[@mariacubana]

thank you so much you are special person I bless god there are people like you besos xx

[@kishaq.4536]

But what about when you play your role and they then get mad? Player said he didn't want a relationship, you act accordingly in being phuck buddies, and now he's mad.

[@julianaguerrero2952]

your wearing boot!😂😂 yo your always in my head it's funny it's like you know me so well!😄

[@Ekenepatience]

I love how you talk boo

[@infinitebliss1000]

Deep Bro! Gotta New Suscriber over here

[@eboneep6354]

It's a real cycle💯💯💯

[@dionnathomas7893]

Nice Video!!

[@marst8888]

I don't play anyone period, if i feel they not for me i tell them and move no and they good..