“If it’s the wrong time, he’s not the right man.” TG
@mybrwnisbeautifulhin11652 жыл бұрын
Listen ladies, this right here is truth!! Once you place that man in friend zone, you gotta leave him there. I had a friend who liked me for years. Decided to “date” him and the brother acted a fool! It was like he lashed out from the resentment from years of not giving him A chance. So think critically before making that move!
@Jubilee_BX2 жыл бұрын
Not resentment, the mask just came off. He wasn't ever truly your friend.
@banziimavusotv2 жыл бұрын
Asap fr.
@Ytdeletesallmycomments2 жыл бұрын
Same story....
@lv51742 жыл бұрын
I totally agree I let a person that I considered my friend out the friend zone and when I say he has should me he was never a friend and he stayed close to me for years just to get his lick back!
@mybrwnisbeautifulhin11652 жыл бұрын
@@Jubilee_BX I agree
@millicentstollenwerck52392 жыл бұрын
Most men that's been in the friend zone for years will not treat you right. It may end up being the worst relationship you've ever been in, cause no one wants to be a spare or the last option.
@iannabethel98342 жыл бұрын
Learned this too late 😩
@sungaze3422 жыл бұрын
@@HappyBeeTV-BeeHappy exactly because half the time they don’t mind
@CeeceeH18192 жыл бұрын
Yes out of spite
@avig83342 жыл бұрын
I agree . I have a guy like this now . He is a good guy. However he can’t afford me
@mikes_voice49962 жыл бұрын
Lol y’all females are nuts y’all can keep beta males in the friend zone y’all only need them around of validation and talk to about all your Exs y’all something else I’m glad I handle rejection like a man I simply don’t care
@Phoenixishot2 жыл бұрын
Tony has a 3 step process. Ya’ll betta know about Tony’s skin care routine 🤣🤣🤣
@shevettejackson.2 жыл бұрын
Lol
@llanneg.v.c5452 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@openheartsavagemind64432 жыл бұрын
Dior send Tony Gaskins a check!! 😩👍🏾
@unapologeticallyauthentic24282 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@barbie_bvtch___37782 жыл бұрын
ASAP!!!! 🤪😂
@Jackie.Cali.Productions2 жыл бұрын
Lmaoooo okaaay fr! 👌🏾
@WhitneyKM2 жыл бұрын
@@barbie_bvtch___3778😆😂😂😂😂😂
@openheartsavagemind64432 жыл бұрын
@@dleveston I know right!!! I see he forgot to say it so I said it for him. 🤣
@brookebenton81922 жыл бұрын
Great timing for this video! I've had a guy "friend" in the friend zone for about 10 years now. He has expressed numerous times that he has emotional and physical attraction to me. We have always remained platonic, especially since I am very good friends with his sister (how we met). I am also not physically attracted to him in the least. Recently I have fallen into a dating rut after my divorce and have been working through issues with self concept and self esteem. In my weak moments I have almost considered giving him a chance, or even just sleeping with him out of sheer loneliness. Praise G-d I haven't!! I am staying strong as it is NOT worth it!!! Thank you once again Tony!!❤️
@acd11682 жыл бұрын
Don’t do it. Because you have rejected him for years. When you let him in, he will ruin you out of vengeance.
@gabeeecrowell68662 жыл бұрын
So glad you dodged that bullet! Tony Gaskin out here saving women from drama and heartache! 👏
@mmxw22942 жыл бұрын
I once dated a friend and it wasn’t that I was rejecting him nope we both was just dating other people but once we was both single I thought because we was such good friends and he knew me he was going to do right by me wrong and I would had rather kept the friendship this brother told me that I didn’t make enough money lol then fast forward 7 years he reached to me to say I’m the one that got away 🥴 lol right now that he down financially moral of the story just don’t date your friends
@dr.m61522 жыл бұрын
Yess stay strong girlie you'll get a great guy just hang in there!
@dr.m61522 жыл бұрын
@@mmxw2294 😂😂
@iponderwonder12792 жыл бұрын
The only thing I got from this. Men build resentment after being in the friends zone for years. I hope it’s not all men.
@ysmithriley2 жыл бұрын
This is very true for some men. If you put him in the FRIEND ZONE and circle back to him YEARS LATER...BE CAREFUL❗ He will make your life a LIVING HELL for making him WAIT ‼️
@akarenasmith182 жыл бұрын
Literally happened to Me .
@Alicia1984ification2 жыл бұрын
That's why I don't have male friends. Male acquaintances - yes; male friends - no.
@trulyoptimistic34692 жыл бұрын
The same thing happened to me. He treated me bad for him not being my 1st choice.
@stockyguru2 жыл бұрын
@@trulyoptimistic3469 yeah Damn 😔
@christianhenry41738 ай бұрын
Then stop having male friends. Only reserve that for a husband and life partner
@KrystleLaughter2 жыл бұрын
I let my ex husband out of the friend zone. We’re going through divorce now. The worst experience of my life. Now I’m healing and helping others heal through my books and KZbin channel.
@simonespencer22442 жыл бұрын
Sis, I had to do the same thing to my ex-husband too by putting him in the friendzone. He was also send some strong mixed signals which was causing all kinds of chaos & storms in my life. I called out all is crap now the only access he has to me is stalking me on FB so I shut my page down. I am not for play-play with my emotions.😒
@mamat12132 жыл бұрын
Just subbed!
@simonespencer22442 жыл бұрын
@@blueseptember2174 we have been divorced for almost 2yrs now. He wants to be just friends but he was sending mixed signals which made me confused but after watching Uncle Tony's videos, I caught onto the games & put him in the friend zone permanently & I told him that's where he's going to stay forever.
@simonespencer22442 жыл бұрын
@@blueseptember2174 Sis, trust me, don't accept any offer of friendship but IF you do keep it platonic & draw some strong, clear spiritual & natural boundaries to guard your mind, body, soul & spirit. Praying for you!💜🙏🏾
@LethalWeapon732 жыл бұрын
@@blueseptember2174 Me also. 🙏 ❤
@breannn2 жыл бұрын
I wish people would be honest about friends of the opposite gender! Men and women are not made to be just friends!
@jess_is2 жыл бұрын
Listen!
@RoyaltyK2 жыл бұрын
He’s right. I was “friends” with this guy then decided to give him a slight chance maybe a year later. Eventually, his true colors came out. He was mean and it seemed like he “flipped the script” on me !! Never again. I agree Tony.
@janaymontgomery42602 жыл бұрын
yes!!!! I always say to never ever date the person in the friend zone!!!! They are the worst ones!!! Tony you are as of today my official cyber uncle/father lol
@Destinee362 жыл бұрын
Whew Chile whenever a man say he got a best friend and it’s a girl and he not gay I put on my track shoes because what……😫🤷🏾♀️
@tukessahousen49832 жыл бұрын
Honeyyy !🏃♀️🏃♂️🏃♀️
@bboyd2201 Жыл бұрын
If you can never meet her or hides them, yes. But if it’s upfront and wants you to meet, ok. It’s all about maturity, trust and and boundaries.
@jess_is2 жыл бұрын
I haven't watched the video as of yet but the title alone made me throw my hands up. I stand by this so firmly. Men love to say "check your friend zone for the good guy," but the truth of the matter is we women only "friend zone" men that we don't see fit for a relationship or we simply aren't attracted to them so why on earth would we do that?
@brookebenton81922 жыл бұрын
Thank You!!!🙏🙏🙏
@august21xp2 жыл бұрын
Exactly, besides some men don’t even want anything serious with anyone ! I’m not about to date an indecisive lioser! Friend Zone it is forever !😂
@Thegazelle10002 жыл бұрын
Preach!!!!!
@dr.m61522 жыл бұрын
Yup guys In the friend zone are THE. WORST. Ladies, don't give them a chance! First of all, their self esteem is shit, and they act really entitled. They get jealous and act like they're your bf. It's horrible and unnecessary load to even talk to them. I've cut all contact with these friend zone guys and I'm very happy
@dr.m61522 жыл бұрын
@Fires And Flowers I have guy friends but they're not like 'after me'. The guys I'm truly friends with talk to me just because, many of them have gfs too and I'm friends with the girl as well. You can usually spot the friend zone guys fast if you're alert. They usually - call/text too much too soon Get jealous when you mention other guys Literally hurt you with words Try to bring you down especially if you're confident and good looking 'listen' to all your problems only so they can unload on you and make you feel guilty for 'using' them. Smh. Just thinking gives me ptsd but I hope this helps someone!
@everett5522 жыл бұрын
@Fires And Flowers ..... Same Here... Agree with everything you spoke of about the state of men. I had a similar experience with a so called male friend whom I've known for 35 years. My boundaries were expressed and in place when we reconnected a decade ago, so there were no mixed signals, confusion or hidden agendas on either of our parts, so I thought. Of course a decade later, he tried it with me on my boundaries after I confided in him, as we always did with one another, about a toxic, abusive relationship I had just came out of it at the time. He called himself expressing "suppressed" feelings he so called still had for me. I reiterated to him about the conversation we had years prior. Shortly thereafter, his mask started to slip and he began to get beside himself with the monkey business thru text messages and phone convos where I had to call him out on it. All within that last conversation I had with him, he blame shifted, gaslighted and played the victim over his foul behavior. That was the beginning of the end for me. I began to distance myself which eventually led me to disengage completely. My peace is non-negotiable,
@stockyguru2 жыл бұрын
I was that guy 😅.Learned my lesson 🙏
@ultravioletmix332 жыл бұрын
A man resenting a woman for putting him in the friend zone is ON HIM!!! Don’t put a man’s moral responsibility on the women. But thank you for admitting that most “men” are essentially children and need to be parented 🙄. Ladies, ALWAYS put yourself first!
@salenasheppherd28342 жыл бұрын
🔥🔥💯💯💯
@ellove3702 жыл бұрын
Thank you!💕
@tonyalbert6940 Жыл бұрын
I love this perspective. It really sounds like a whole heap of resentment on the part of the man. And who is making him stay there, after all? If he wants to be more in the woman’s life, why sit there and settle for less than what he actually wants. I did that once and then I wised up and moved on with my life. No resentment. No judgement. No bitterness. And no more wasting my time.
@victoraguirre88392 жыл бұрын
This is truth. As a man that has crept into the friendzone, if you’re creating feelings for your friend that move into a romantic state, move on. Don’t play games. Work on yourself, if the other person reaches out, get straight to the point with your intentions.
@salenasheppherd28342 жыл бұрын
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@NiaJ1442 жыл бұрын
This is so true!! If a man feel like he had to chase you for a long time, he is going to give you hell if you ever give him a chance. I’m dealing with that now. Literally obsessed with controlling me in a manipulative way. He thought the baby was going to make me stay. But guess what I moved out of state far tf away from him. Never again! Im done dating in general after this one😭 I’m raising my kids happily ever after and we are going to be just fine. God got us😇
@c.l.93442 жыл бұрын
Great topic, men and women CAN'T just be friends. Someone will cross the line. Friend zoning the opposite gender, simply doesn't work. Regardless, be discerning of who you connect to.
@indicajane47212 жыл бұрын
They can if they are mature enough to see people as more than a filler of sexual needs
@EhavaLe2 жыл бұрын
We try to act like there aren't biases of looks but let you become a millionaire or billionaire. Now you cute because you have money. But didn't think that person was cute in school growing up. Tony telling the truth
@ginawalker25272 жыл бұрын
People play to many games. It takes maturity. What about putting someone in the friend zone because you don't want to get hurt and the person can go on their way and date or sleep with whoever. You like a person as a person and enjoy talking to them. Some of these adults act like kids. It's ridiculous. Grow up!
@RocSkater092 жыл бұрын
On my mama! Dont do lady friends around here. This just not that type of Kingdom where people can just come and go as they leave. They're boundaries here and rest assured she may not be an enemy but she definitely is not an ally. Around here, you take your plates to go! No resting in this kingdom until you find your prince charming 😂😂😂 Mini rant lol because TG got me in the feelings on this one.
@cella45672 жыл бұрын
Nelson gone bout’ ya buisness 😂😂
@rosagreene43642 жыл бұрын
😂🙌🏾🙌🏾
@leegaleaglenombo94302 жыл бұрын
😂
@youknowyoulikeit10002 жыл бұрын
Take your plates to go 🤣 I love this👏🏽
@krystalgardiner55912 жыл бұрын
You going to be a good Husband Nelson!
@taynaburton58282 жыл бұрын
ASAP says he's a pretty boy. I think he's confusing his money with looks. He also thinks he's a player. You are right, he's average looking guy. Drake said he want Rihanna,but he said she put him the friend zone. Most women friend zone guys because we either in a relationship or we just no feeling him like that
@Jubilee_BX2 жыл бұрын
Asaps energy and swag is very attractive to many women. He's not someone that you would look at and swoon over, he's someone that once you have a conversation with and experience his energy you can't stop thinking about him. There are many women who have that trait as well...it's not always just about looks or money. Asap knows he is charismatic and magnetic...he's not confused about anything. And that's what ultimately captivated Rihanna.
@taynaburton58282 жыл бұрын
@@Jubilee_BX He couldn't be all that captivating because she friend zoned him for awhile. He did an interview with Angie Martinez and he was not charismatic and charming at all. He said a couple that didn't make any sense even Angie looked at him kinda crazy, but if he does it for you..Great
@ysmithriley2 жыл бұрын
@@taynaburton5828 I agree with you. The CHARISMA escapes me.
@Jubilee_BX2 жыл бұрын
@@taynaburton5828 She friend zoned him until she seen that video with him and Teyana Taylor 😏. I think initially he wasn't her type...but sometimes a womans type can be to her detriment. Once she matured and was willing to step out of her comfort zone she realized being with someone who is genuinely interested in you is the right way to go.
@Jubilee_BX2 жыл бұрын
@@ysmithriley It didn't escape Rih and that is all that matters. It's actually smart to not want the most gorgeous man that every single woman wants and lusts over.
@christineporter99142 жыл бұрын
Go ahead Bro Tony this was straight to the point. Keep the man in the friend zone ‼️❤️💯
@Thegazelle10002 жыл бұрын
This is True...It happens to me everytime. I don't have a friend male anymore because all the friends (men) that I have came to me and tell me that they would like to be more than friend even though they know I have a boyfriend. They always ask me " are you still with your boyfriend", I said yes! I know that they don't really want a real relationship, but they just wait for their turn to hit and run lol.
@IshanaeS2 жыл бұрын
“Y’all sure y’all don’t like men?” I’m hollering! Pleaseeeee😭😭😭
@shelbywinters64802 жыл бұрын
There was a guy who I put in the friend zone for a few years. I knew he wanted more but he was still involved with his baby's mother, he had a touch of femininity which kind of turned me off (said he was in touch with his feminine side), and he had gained weight from when I first met him. Every time I thought about giving him a chance he would do something or say something that turned me off even more. The last straw was when he asked me and a lady I work with for money for his light bill 😂 that was it, I was done. Thank God I never gave in and followed my intuition.
@everett5522 жыл бұрын
😆😆
@rhut5792 жыл бұрын
Your glow is awesome Tony!
@queenjackson10372 жыл бұрын
Tony is telling the absolute truth. This has happened to me several times. Only messed with one but he got mad when I cut that off & told me that was the only reason why we were friends. Others dropped communication when they realized they would not get a chance with me after being friends for years!
@moriahaddison2 жыл бұрын
Same here lol.
@Ebizzill2 жыл бұрын
this happened to me too, I've known him in high school, I wasn't allowed to date, he asked after high school, and I mentally wasn't there because I was overcoming some obstacles, 10 years later I became stable and things were finally lining up for me. Gave him a shot, he was hella mean and extremely entitled and I cant believe that he thought of me as a street woman.... I'm SO grateful that I never gave it up to him. ... I dont care if he was a good friend, just because I finally open my heart to a man doesn't mean I will drop them draws.... if you're mean to me, I become dry and you know what that means.
@nappyfries2 жыл бұрын
He put himself in the friendzone. I asked him what he wanted & he told me he considered me a friend soo oh well. It is what it is. He had the choice to tell me if he wanted something differently & he didn’t.
@morselsofgold2 жыл бұрын
Are you saying he lied about wanting to be your friend when he really wanted MORE? 🤔 And are you saying you actually wanted more than a friendship from HIM? If you did want more, then you could have been honest and told him the truth. If not, then move on to the next
@nappyfries2 жыл бұрын
@@morselsofgold yes he did & I think it’s bc I put him on the spot & he wasn’t expecting it. I was open to more but when he said that I was like ok well nevermind.
@MrTonio2057 ай бұрын
I’m late to the party, first time hearing a woman ask the guy what he wants
@a1xluv2 жыл бұрын
I WHOLEHEARTEDLY AGREE! So many people try to change a friendship to a relationship, and do so with so many regrets! This is NOT to be confused with the fact a woman and man who desire marriage, should have a great friendship! This is just for those you have declared as “FRIEND ONLY!”
@salenasheppherd28342 жыл бұрын
💯💯💯💯
@joyariffic42172 жыл бұрын
Great video. Its common sense that a guy would have spite after being "friend zoned". A lot of these "nice guys" that complain about being put in the friend zone aren't actually nice guys. They only want to be be nice if they are "rewarded" for it. I dont fall for that
@salenasheppherd28342 жыл бұрын
A lot of the "nice guys" are secretly abusive and crazy. Not all.....but MANY! I personally don't believe any woman who desires marriage should have "male friends" anyway. Her male relatives (Dad, brother, cousin, uncle) should be enough. Some women just can't function properly without having constant male attention.
@mimiarzu97402 жыл бұрын
I’m 36, I have had some male friends/ associates for 20 plus years, so for the majority of our lives we have known each other but I know their flaws and can’t deal with it
@DLOGKCALB2 жыл бұрын
Vice-versa
@tukessahousen49832 жыл бұрын
wish I left it where it was at... He's aquired too many friends (female) over the years.
@lo.p40892 жыл бұрын
There was a guy I really connected with - he felt like a soul mate. We were very similar and had great chats and banter, but I made it clear I didn't want to be more than friends (not physically attracted). He told me wanted to be just friends. Every time I had a boyfriend he would go distant (which he denied doing), then come back again. Eventually, when I got engaged he totally ghosted me. No congratulations, didn't reply to wedding invite. Really crushed me. Pissed me off he pretended he wanted to be friends and wasn't honest. I'd believed him. Really missed our friendship.
@thatboyruut21692 жыл бұрын
I mean what’s wrong with going distant ...he wasn’t getting the response he wanted fro,m you. I mean what was he supposed to do when you had a boyfriend omg so weird. He showed he was upset you didn’t want him. I’m sorry but you can’t have the cake and eat it too
@thatboyruut21692 жыл бұрын
On the other hand he should’ve made it more clear with his intentions..If I was interested in you I would’ve left from the get go I would’ve been a friend but not a close friend though so he did kinda bring it on himself
@lo.p40892 жыл бұрын
@@thatboyruut2169 Yes, the point is, we both said from the beginning we were not interested in each other and just friends. I knew him from school - we were friends at school - then caught up later. He should have been honest about wanting more, not pretended.
@scorieshair2 жыл бұрын
Congratulations on your engagement
@thatboyruut21692 жыл бұрын
@@lo.p4089 I’m 21 years old ...and I’m glad that l learned to be honest about feelings in high school and a lot of people my age like to still beat around the bush
@camuyana2 жыл бұрын
I do have somebody that I like very much but I can't go forward because he is involved with somebody and I will never break up that relationship just to satisfy my happiness. So he will stay in the acquaintance/friend zone. He is totally unaware and that's where it will stay also. There will be other options available I'm sure.
@mexicanbeautyqueen79882 жыл бұрын
This message was seriously from God. I was thinking of putting someone in the friend zone just because I am mad at him but I actually like him. Thank you Tony you are for sure used by God
@sherebiasmith12182 жыл бұрын
Facts….Friend zoned one in middle school…Yep….middle school. Ran across him 25 yrs later played the friend role for about a year, gave him a shot and he dog walked me, treated me like I was beneath him…. One of the most traumatic things I’ve ever been through in my life….Lesson Learned
@Judah923 ай бұрын
@@sherebiasmith1218 what the fuck do you expect you deserve to be dogged out if you put him in the friend zone leading him on women played the game and get mad when it flipped on them
@Coolct2 жыл бұрын
Truth! Had a guy BF for 10 years people always told me we should date but I never could… 2 years ago he said some of the meanest things I’ve heard from a person in a long time I ended it.. after that guys started coming at me more.. wish I had done it earlier …
@JustBeYouTy2 жыл бұрын
He right about women upgrading 😩. We’ll drop you in a minute.
@sungaze3422 жыл бұрын
😆😆😆😆
@charsfitjourney2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the timely word 🙏🏾 always on 🎯
@cuniqueness2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely true, Truly how I meet you I put you in a category, for example you my neighbor you get treated as such. Colleague business nothing personal, associate @ an arm length. Works very well no blurred lines.
@MiraclesHappen7772 жыл бұрын
By the title I just KNEW/ KNOW This was gonna be/ is good. 🗣🗣💯💯
@prodigaldaughter22422 жыл бұрын
"...Unless y'all live in certain neighborhoods!" You are HILARIOUS!!!😂🤣😅😂
@reneehaskett55302 жыл бұрын
I guess that goes back to guys not liking rejection. Guys have to get used to it though. Not every woman you want to be with has to be with you.
@jasliketheprincess18612 жыл бұрын
13:31 That is great ! We encounter our brothers and sisters in Christ (depending on your preference) everyday. Treating a man like your brother is not only a great rule of thumb to save a lot of heartache and time, it’s what we’re supposed to do anyway. Be blessed 🙏🏽
@rosebryant95842 жыл бұрын
Ur face care looks very nice 🙌
@cringeproof1002 жыл бұрын
Wow I’ve never been so early haha! Excited for this message. Happy Good Friday y’all 💕
@Jackie.Cali.Productions2 жыл бұрын
Dang Tony you just confirmed what I had been thinking all this time about a guy I put in the friend zone for almost 20 years😭. I just recently started taking an interest in him and it feels like he’s doing to me what you just explained lol. I was young when I friend zoned him, so why still use that against me..sucks!! My feelings are beyond hurt 😔.
@thatboyruut21692 жыл бұрын
20 years 😂😂 I’m sorry but that too long for someone to not move on
@reneehaskett55302 жыл бұрын
He shouldn't hold that against you. Like you said that was almost 20 years ago. Don't pay him no mind. Leave me alone for good this time. He's being petty. He may just try to get back into your good graces now after he retaliated against you.
@Jackie.Cali.Productions2 жыл бұрын
@@thatboyruut2169 he did move on but we reconnected. I feel you though lol
@JoannA-sweetly11 ай бұрын
He did not simply use it against you. It was a reality that you rejected a possibility of intimate relationship. He lived that…. You can’t blame him for being a human being….
@selenacarr81042 жыл бұрын
Their is always an exception to the rule. For God know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end. Therefore, only God knows the plan he has Rihanna and ASAP Rocky. This man can only talk general facts because he is not God. Rihanna and ASAP Rocky have always cared for each other it wasn’t the right time. They both pursue their careers and are very established and this is their first child period. I pray that God put a hedge of protection around Rihanna and ASAP Rocky to protect them from the trolls, negative people, and haters. I plead the blood of Jesus over Rihanna and ASAP Rocky and the blood never loses it power. Blessings to Rihanna and ASAP Rocky and their divine baby.🙏🏽❤️
@Chocolatmix2 жыл бұрын
Yeah I had a man in the friend zone and he overstepped his bounds.
@shamalama292 жыл бұрын
What did he do? How long was he in the friend zone?
@Chocolatmix2 жыл бұрын
@@shamalama29 I met him at the age of 25 years old through an ex of mine, both of them were friends. All of this happened in a year. This “friend” had three baby mommas and didn’t have custody of any of his kids. I was being platonic throughout the entire friendship. I was dating my ex boyfriend at the time and I made it clear to my “friend” I didn’t have any strong feelings or intentions, we are only friends and nothing more. Time goes by, we knew each other for a year, we started hanging out as friends, next thing you know, my friend (I put in the friend zone)asked me at dinner about my current relationship with my boyfriend (current ex). I explained, “yes, things are rocky with my boyfriend, he and I are trying to make it work.” This “friend” says, “If that was the case, why are you here with me and not your man?” He had a point and I made excuses for my current ex’s behavior (I.e. jail) at the time and I was still dealing with my own trust issues. So, a month later, It was the end of the work day and got a text that he needed a ride back home (my first mistake). I drove 30 minutes away from my house to go get him, met at a 7-11 near a shopping center. He said he wanted to talk to me about one of his baby momma’s taking him to court and needed advice (about lawyers, witnesses, character references, etc.) So I started giving him advice(we are in the car), he grabbed my faux locs and kissed me very aggressively that I had a bruise inside of my bottom lip. I pushed him off and I told him I never ever looked at him like more than a friend. He says, the more I hangout with you I feel like we are dating and you are forgetting your boyfriend. I told the “friend” to exit my car and I went home,sobbing. I was feeling like I cheated. After that night, I stopped hanging out with him completely. Weeks later, he texted me on FB messenger stating that I led him on to thinking this was serious and I was walking away from my boyfriend. First of all, I never told him I was leaving my BF, secondly, I never had feelings for him at all just platonic, I hugged him a few times but never kissed or held hands. Thank you Tony Gaskins for speaking on this topic.
@shamalama292 жыл бұрын
@@Chocolatmix Ms. Jaleesa, thank you for your reply. You must be a writer. You write with such clearity and understanding. Well I agreed with that most men can't be in the friend zone. The essence of a woman is just too much for a man to be around and wanting to touch her. God has made women in such a way that we as men are drawn to them. I mean, when I think about the history of men toward women, men do all kinds of crazy things to be with them, even when the woman doesn't want them. I once heard it said that being a woman is like a man walking down the street with a pot of gold in his arms. Everybody that sees it, wants it. I hope your life's journey is going well and that we both men and women will continue to learn from Tony's teachings. God Bless you my sister.
@overcomerbtboj2 жыл бұрын
@@shamalama29 your answer has given some good insight into the dynamics between men and women and how God created us
@alysiaanderson53702 жыл бұрын
So true, I just had a friend that I kinda dated on and off for 5 years. I was never really physically attracted to him, but he seemed like a nice guy. I recently decided to try to take thing seriously with him, until he stole money from me. He gave me part of it back, once he was caught..apologized and begged for me to forgive and start over again. I forgave him, and blocked him like Tony says. Now I'm moving forward with a lesson learned.
@tonid7732 жыл бұрын
TRUTH, I married my friend. He was a mess. Totally resented me for not getting with him sooner.
@mikes_voice49962 жыл бұрын
Let me guess he was too nice he didn’t call you a bitch ?
@cherh2 жыл бұрын
The rumor was false. The guy who said it apologized for spreading it. A freaking man! Like how lame you have to be to do that bs knowing she in her 3rd trimester. Smdh.
@silentdreams24152 жыл бұрын
Be blessed Sir!
@EFP.Elviria2 жыл бұрын
Wow!!! Good word!! Despite us not knowing if asap really cheated but the message is still a potent word. God Bless ya nah!
@davianaestrada83392 жыл бұрын
100% needed this. Thank you
@Shae_32 жыл бұрын
This so crazy my mouse cursor accidentally clicked on this video without my knowledge and when I read the title.......my God! I was literally contemplating this, but I'm keeping that door close. One thing about men, they gone get their lick back if you let'em. OAN: Tony yes your skin is popping/glowing, keep it up.
@shameccafreeman2 жыл бұрын
Oh wow I’ve definitely said that I Didn’t want to hurt the guy but definitely have left a guy for someone else only to get left by the other guy 🤣🤣
@1novabella2 жыл бұрын
With or without money ASAP is not attractive.. please ✋🏽
@Jubilee_BX2 жыл бұрын
So looks and money are the only qualities that makes an individual attractive??? Are y'all serious right now?
@minimalassembly78932 жыл бұрын
He has nice teeth.
@1novabella2 жыл бұрын
@@Jubilee_BX not withstanding his looks or money, it’s him being a self proclaimed colorist ‘bad bitch’ that makes him not attractive.
@LolaSemone2 жыл бұрын
To you
@jadew91772 жыл бұрын
From the title alone, I have always agreed with this sentiment. I have had male friends that were strictly platonic. I wasn’t stringing them along, I wasn’t jealous if they had relationships, I wasn’t using them and I was not involved with them sexually in any fashion…they were just my friend! I honestly don't even know why the term "friend zone" is a thing.
@kaydubya63472 жыл бұрын
It's only a thing to men who don't get none. Or men who are sex addicts. Because friend zone doesn't exist when you like being friends with women.
@sungaze3422 жыл бұрын
Friend zone makes no se se you can tell they made that a damn thing smh
@nj27912 жыл бұрын
Everything you said is true it happened to me last month after friendzoned him for 4 years lol
@erynd.99112 жыл бұрын
I’m not attracted to any of my male friends for one reason or another and a few of them flirt with me but they will remain in the friend zone forever. 🤷🏾♀️
@mikes_voice49962 жыл бұрын
Y’all want the backup plan the freindzone and the guy that you desire to be with doesn’t want you
@erynd.99112 жыл бұрын
@@mikes_voice4996 ummmmm…NO!
@barbarafisher73902 жыл бұрын
Wow!!! I am glad to be back. I haven't listened for a while. Much older and I'm not in the relationship zone but I enjoy Tony's wisdom and jokes. Keep up the great work Aka Lady Gram
@MzSoulll2 жыл бұрын
"i ain't talking about the man who sittin in the dark and don't know what he talkin about it" LMAOOOOOOO
@EH_8887 ай бұрын
😂😂😂😂
@jamiestumps61462 жыл бұрын
Amen, Thank you Jesus, I Bless God for you Brother Tony for for this valuable insight!!!
@ARareGEM28902 жыл бұрын
Absolutely... Stay right there. And, pounce on if you would like.
@mika27072 жыл бұрын
I think asap was in the friend zone because he wears nail polish, and refers to himself as “a bad bi!
@karamel10772 жыл бұрын
I literally laughed out loud 😂
@s.r.1252 жыл бұрын
Straight facts💯
@originalgoldengoddess2 жыл бұрын
I have to agree Dior has some really good Skincare products that's for sure. Now I'm more of a Al Natural Organic skincare kinda gal. But yes you got that glow on!
@jenniferthompson51462 жыл бұрын
Tag, yep! I didn’t want to give a guy my number the first time he asked but gave it to him the second time. After that we text chatted a bit but nothing came of it. It’s like he went into game mode just to get my number and then it was mission accomplished.
@michellefiery7392 жыл бұрын
Actually it was just a rumour lol She still wins. 💕👗💰 She said that the pregnancy was unplanned, but she decided to have the baby, which is beautiful and honourable. Rihanna is glowing and she’s shining as a pregnant woman. ☀️🌷🎀🙂
@michellefiery7392 жыл бұрын
She doesn’t need a man for money period. He will be a good father regardless of what happens with their relationship.
@KB-cd6ly2 жыл бұрын
Their romance started started during lock down thats when th friendzone ended thats the RED FLAG
@KB-cd6ly2 жыл бұрын
UNFORTUNATELY BUT IT IS HUMAN I FEEL SORRY FOR THIS STORY LADIESNBE CAREFUL
@dn-cp6sh2 жыл бұрын
Hi Tony, could you do a video about JLo and Ben getting engaged for a second time?
@llanneg.v.c5452 жыл бұрын
Lol I think it’s a publicity stunt
@LP---2 жыл бұрын
As Usual, On Point! You Always coming with the Real.. Thank God for Tony Gaskins 🙏🏾✝️🙏🏾
@lovelylanette41842 жыл бұрын
He speaking truth I know I man like this that he is speaking of right now!
@chiquitacrawley65882 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the video message as I am watching the replay on this afternoon. Take care and enjoy your day and week.
@lanaywilliams99242 жыл бұрын
This really blessed me thank you
@charlenedeshazier14142 жыл бұрын
What about just building a friendship with him first?? I figure if he can be a good friend he can be a good boyfriend. It’s not even about him being a spare tire but simply wanting to genuinely connect before it becomes romantic
@llanneg.v.c5452 жыл бұрын
That’s cool if you’re not going to date someone else romantically while getting to know him
@PrettyHair092 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂 I hollered @11:44 - @11:56 … I would definitely want to build a friendship with someone before I date them. This theory blows that idea out of the window. I want to like you as a person first
@princesspinkdesire2 жыл бұрын
Good talk! Thanks for sharing
@Godfavorsmi2 жыл бұрын
Then why do ppl say be friends 1st before a relationship?! Sounds like men not only like to watch other ppl time but their time as well. There’s no hope for the future 😭
@Thekirbyfamily222 жыл бұрын
Of course be friends first, however, you don't watch them be in a relationship with other ppl. If they're in a relationship with other ppl other than you, obviously you are in the friendzone.
@tashima4602 жыл бұрын
I really appreciated this conversation. At the same time , I heard some people say that good relationships can start off as friendships and by that I mean both parties viewed each other as friends. I was just wondering if anyone had any thoughts on that?
@singuensful2 жыл бұрын
In this case they better jump into the marriage right away. No compromise. If there’s not a strong commitment it’s better to remain friends.
@tukessahousen49832 жыл бұрын
I want friendship as foundation to my relationship. We got to have mutual feelings & goals. It definitely has to be someone new.
@AKR8922 жыл бұрын
We talk about mens toxic habits but we need to talk about womens too. I’m going to have a male friend of mine write in about his situation because it’s imperative we also look at our actions & how men view us & might not want to be in a relationship with us because of our actions.
@saradigota72012 жыл бұрын
LOOOLLL, this right here i wondered about for many years, cuz asap and travis are totally not handsome but got money,they just buy eachothers love because of thats how they were raised.
@thenappynaturalАй бұрын
“He’s going to do things to make you break up with him or settle for him” >>> PREACH, TONY, PREACH! Just went through this myself earlier this year. I will never befriend another man nor date someone I claimed as a friend!
@dominiquedelaine2 жыл бұрын
Right on time!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@Nonya3005 Жыл бұрын
I agree! I said the same about his looks. If he was a regular street guy, the ladies would not be drooling
@travelchannel3042 жыл бұрын
Uh oh!! I may be in trouble! LOL (not in s dangerous way just how certain past friends that i was close to, yet didnt touch caus of distances. & current situations. Gay men make great friends. No guards needed. LOL
@shameccafreeman2 жыл бұрын
“BEaUtiFUL” 🤣🤣🤣
@journeyonmosthigh2 жыл бұрын
Agape love ❤️ people need to stay grounded and get out the gutter. Lord have mercy, and think with the higher brain.
@QueenJuliana892 жыл бұрын
That’s leading someone on and playing with their feelings. If some guy is hanging around you all the time it’s because he’s interested. That’s the same reason you don’t let your own man have a female best friend or a work wife. Good old common sense.
@lindalovehearts2 жыл бұрын
Great advice. I needed to hear this, cse for the first time in a long time I desire men around...and I sincerely needed to hear this, cse i was prob finna do it😂 lbvs
@coachstephaniedionnegreen10532 жыл бұрын
Happy Easter to you and your family. Good bless you and your family. SDG
@debral96512 жыл бұрын
Gosh they say women are complicated. This is messed up but interesting. Thanks for sharing
@Spruill5262 жыл бұрын
Tony, two people can work together and be attracted to each other. However attraction is not always acted upon. 😀
@Jackie.Cali.Productions2 жыл бұрын
It could’ve been that she kept Him in friend zone all those years because he’s not that physically attractive. She’s older now, more mature and his looks probably aren’t a major factor anymore. His character is the focus now. Just my opinion as a 44 year old woman. My younger self chose men based off looks, now it’s more so character.
@Jubilee_BX2 жыл бұрын
Exactly, I'm kind of surprised that grown folks are talking about looks and money as if those are the sole qualities that determine attractiveness. Humor, intellect , talent, character, personality, aura, style, and heart, all contribute to an individual's overall attractiveness. Maybe it took Rihanna being mistreated by physically attractive males to realize that Asap is more than attractive...he's beautiful.
@ZawadiBirya2 жыл бұрын
💯
@moriahaddison2 жыл бұрын
I agree
@sungaze3422 жыл бұрын
Rihanna simply gave him a chance because she’s getting older now and pass her prime she at 35 see how quick she got pregnant. We know what time it is . She got desperate probably
@Jubilee_BX2 жыл бұрын
@@sungaze342 Cringe 🤢. Keep that negativity to yourself because that mentality simply doesn't apply to one of wealthiest, prettiest and sexiest women in the world. Rihanna can have any man she wants...she chose Asap and you don't know the reason why (you can only speculate) and you're speculation is only a reflection of your perception...not her actual reality.
@MaryamAli-vd1xv2 жыл бұрын
Wow thanks so very much was going to type why I'm thanking you. I'm just going to thank you so very much. You are always so powerfully to the point.