It's best to avoid men, especially when we've been hurt. Pretending to come in as Superman, but really a buster. They see our pain as a chance to prey upon us. Smh
@Ytdeletesallmycomments2 жыл бұрын
Or your shine!! 🤣
@jewelsafire68442 жыл бұрын
@@Ytdeletesallmycomments Yes, the dust is real.😅
@lindamolyneux35362 жыл бұрын
Sadly so true.
@brendajones91102 жыл бұрын
Amen!!!!
@coppergoddess5552 жыл бұрын
This
@KrystleLaughter2 жыл бұрын
Ladies, don't give up on love. Learn how to love yourself and create a life your proud of. The one for you will find you and love you where you are. I've been hurt too, but I refuse to allow what someone did to me cause me to miss out on what God has for me. This is why I use my books & KZbin channel to help other women heal. Be blessed.
@vernasmith11082 жыл бұрын
I agree totally.
@carl54382 жыл бұрын
There is no "one". Be fit, feminine, cooperative and childless and locate yourself where men play - golf courses, cigar bars, sports bars, car shows, jazz concerts etc. Since more people are becoming less religious (a good thing) the "one" may not subscribe to a faith.
@breannn2 жыл бұрын
We do need to be honest about the dating pool today. If there were so many great options, women wouldn’t be so desperate and put up with foolishness from men!
@ARS-fn6px2 жыл бұрын
Thank you !
@Ytdeletesallmycomments2 жыл бұрын
I see that more and more woman are fed up with men. If every woman would have boundaries men had to change. Now they get away with it due to woman with no self esteem.
@ARS-fn6px2 жыл бұрын
@Brandi Daniels no its not, most men are the same.
@KayciazWorld2 жыл бұрын
@Brandi Daniels I've always dated inside and outside of my race and trust me.....men are men all across the board💔
@kilimanjaro55372 жыл бұрын
@Brandi Daniels I agree, vet all men the same but please realize your husband may not be black so exercise your options.
@teefosterx43982 жыл бұрын
When a friendship ends sometimes it’s a worse type of heartbreak
@natashabrown412 жыл бұрын
Sure is I lost a good male friend about 5 years ago I’m just now being okay with it
@onetallgirl13692 жыл бұрын
Yes I completely agree! I’ve had both, and what I would do get my best friend back...
@beefaye68612 жыл бұрын
Its so funny...u meet a man and he will say...."he want to be friends"....but then want to do everthing you would do in a romantic relationship....I always tell them....if we friends then u like my brother....n thats where u will stay.....so don't try to run game....cuz u will lose✌
@anissa23612 жыл бұрын
Yes I've been in that situation before.
@poloprinve20102 жыл бұрын
Had this happen to me recently we had already crossed that line sexually now all of the sudden he don’t want to confuse the friendship. Boy ok dismissed or should I say he dismissed me lol
@beefaye68612 жыл бұрын
@@poloprinve2010 lol. 😂😂😂
@beefaye68612 жыл бұрын
@Priscilla Right....what a clown ✌
@jasencadet1211 ай бұрын
@@priscilla7520 he was 🧢🧢🧢 He did not like you like that, once you start making rules and regulations for your partner, that’s just a power move to control the real ship
@millicentstollenwerck52392 жыл бұрын
If a man that's interested in me tells me he want a romantic relationship but does not prove it, then I will friend zone him. Cause his actions says otherwise.
@walkingeverywhere4k8312 жыл бұрын
true
@chocomiloloke16672 жыл бұрын
Facts!!!
@jasencadet1211 ай бұрын
fair enough you friendzone it not the girl
@jasencadet1211 ай бұрын
@@priscilla7520 girls will keep men inthe friend zone because they will benfit form them without to have sex
@carolyngardner5292 жыл бұрын
Until men get in control, submit and surrender their life over to Christ, everything else is gonna be out of control.... God allowing all this foolishness to go on down here Until we all come back to God! Ladies stay in protective custody of the Lord and you will be fine!! Leave them to their own foolishness....
@noirefit59542 жыл бұрын
I’m in the process of trying to take a friend zone and he admitted to liking me too. We’ve been friends for 14 years and he never made a move. Now he’s distant all of a sudden. SMH I feel like women can’t win for losing tbh. At 27, I’m ready to hang up my dating days. I really do feel like most men are kinda trash. Sorry 🤷🏾♀️. It’s damned if we do, damned if we don’t. We get punished for not being easy but also punished for being easy. He’s the last person I’ll ever say I have feelings for. Tired of being hurt
@walkingeverywhere4k8312 жыл бұрын
Let's keep it real though, 14 years is an EXTREMELY LONG time in the friendzone. It's very unlikely that all those 14 years you've been attracted to him but let him wait because you're not easy. It's more likely that he was that long in the friendzone for some other reason, namely you just not being attracted to him (or else you would have made your move sooner).
@LadyAngela6782 жыл бұрын
Shame on him for trying after all those years.
@carolyngardner5292 жыл бұрын
Women just need to face facts... (grown boys) and their ego is out of control out here! Women do you and leave these childish need to grow up men in the dust... Satan got theses men mind and making stone cold fools out of them!
@noirefit59542 жыл бұрын
@@LadyAngela678 he didn’t try anything. He never came on to me and I was under the thought that we both weren’t attracted to each other since he never made a move. I moved away for years
@noirefit59542 жыл бұрын
@@walkingeverywhere4k831 he also kept me in the friend zone so it’s equal on both sides. He never made a move so how was I supposed to know? And I moved away for a significant amount of years
@eagles-soar2 жыл бұрын
What this man of god is saying is 💯 TRUE!!!!! Trust and believe, when the opposite sex continually communicate you will build a BOND. And before you know it your All IN!!! Mind , body and soul. BE CAREFUL out here!!
@jess_is2 жыл бұрын
"... People love their friends more than they love their spouse." Wow.
@palmtrees65132 жыл бұрын
That’s not true tho a lot of black women will cut a women over a man that she just has a crush on, a lot of blk women leave their friends behind over a man. I never understood it but I went threw it and then when they broke up with their dude they would try to be friends again. NO
@jess_is2 жыл бұрын
@@palmtrees6513 I think that's a women's thing, not specific to black women only. But, yeah that is true as well.
@ARS-fn6px2 жыл бұрын
Well a lot of men act like they want to build with a woman but theyre actually golddiggers and users and use women to get further in life. Most women want to build genuinely with a man but a lot of us were swindled out of our assets, used and abused, thats why we are here following this channel in the first place. Thats why our standards have risen and thats why we put guys in friendzones, we listen to our intuition now. We hear left and right that we should choose better but then we get punished for putting someone in the friendzone. So after a while when we feel safe enough to get him out of the friendzone, he punishes us for not being easier? How are we women supposed to win?
@tessg47992 жыл бұрын
So true.
@chanalh1282 жыл бұрын
That right there.
@walkingeverywhere4k8312 жыл бұрын
"Thats why our standards have risen and thats why we put guys in friendzones, we listen to our intuition now." In my opinion, women have no business keeping men as "friends" whom they consider below standard, especially those whom they don't trust. I don't get why they feel the need to keep in touch with those men, like for what?!
@walkingeverywhere4k8312 жыл бұрын
@@HappyBeeTV-BeeHappy Being nice does not have to include keeping him as a friend. You can reject a man nicely without staying in contact with him
@ARS-fn6px2 жыл бұрын
@@HappyBeeTV-BeeHappy yes I agree but them Tony says the man will.punish us for that too because it "took too long". Thats my point of frustration.
@lisasmilez2 жыл бұрын
Don’t let him know how to do hair 🤣🤣🤣🤣 that took me out!
@Gdenise2 жыл бұрын
🤣😭
@walkingeverywhere4k8312 жыл бұрын
To all the women saying "Now we get even punished for not being easy! Damned if we do and damned if we don't!" Putting a man into the friendzone CAN but doesn't HAVE TO equal "not being easy"! >> You can put a man in the friendzone AND be easy by sleeping around with other dudes. >> You can also put a man NOT in the friendzone and NOT be easy by going on dates with him for a loooooooong time without ever kissing him (or doing more) and without being exclusive with him. Who says you have to quickly commit to a guy or "put out" if you don't put him in the friendzone? You can take as much time as you want to assess him as a potential partner and if he's not willing to wait, that already weeds him out as a good partner cuz he already proves to be selfish and not giving a f*ck about your tempo and your needs! Putting a man into the friendzone though is like you've already finished your assessment of him and came to the conclusion he's not good or attractive enough for you.
@ARS-fn6px2 жыл бұрын
Than its still in the mans control and responsibility to have enough self respect to walk away.
@walkingeverywhere4k8312 жыл бұрын
@@ARS-fn6px Of course, but we're not talking about those who walk away. The point is whenever a man is rejected, his ego gets bruised. Those with self-respect walk away and the other ones stay , in the friendzone, and grow their resentment for that woman. For this very reason Tony advises us to stay away from those "friends".
@Trinitytruth72 жыл бұрын
A scarcity mindset is not a good place to initiate a union. Stick to Tony’s primary advice: if you friend-zoned him, leave him there. I would trust that some men are more likely to be vindictive if you finally allow him to be your man after rebuffing him earlier. You may have to do more searching but don’t fall for “there aren’t a lot of good men out here” just to have a relationship.
@speaklifemv2 жыл бұрын
Sounds like men are selfish until they give their heart to Jesus so he can help the man understand the woMAN 🙌🏽
@reginastevens76732 жыл бұрын
Good evening.. I was just scrolling for a video and there you were. Happy resurrection day✝️🙏🏼🙏🏼
@jerelene212 жыл бұрын
I agree!
@koastalpeach20692 жыл бұрын
Happy Resurrection Day.
@lindamolyneux35362 жыл бұрын
Happy Resurrection Day/ First Fruits!
@reginastevens76732 жыл бұрын
Happy Resurrection Day everyone☺️❤️❤️
@KayGrier2 жыл бұрын
Great video! Not enough people define love in a godly way. They define love as something tangible, possessive, transactional, or merit based. If you don’t truly figure out God’s love, you will be lost as men and women try to show you “love” in their definition that was formed from whatever life has taught them. God is love. Do not receive any love in your life other than that type of love.
@LP---2 жыл бұрын
If you're in the friend zone, that's where it's going to remain!! To be honest, my life right now, doesn't have room or time for New Friendships. I'm waiting for the Man that is Already Godly, and we definitely Will have Constant Communication regarding one another's Expectations and Goals for our Spiritual and Life future.
@anissa23612 жыл бұрын
Yeah I don't make new friends with men especially, but in general I'm not interested in making new friends. Friendships are already hard to maintain as it is. I'm thankful I have friends I can count on and they can count on me. I don't have many guy friends. But I also realized that guy friends whether gay or not are generally more distant than women. Something I've experience with all my guy friends both gay and not.
@LP---2 жыл бұрын
@@anissa2361 Tony is Truly God Sent, and I Thank him for enlightening us with Real life knowledge on how most Men Operate!
@carisma86622 жыл бұрын
7:01 This is why I still listen to you!! You are a walking encyclopedia!
@qnicole33332 жыл бұрын
PLEASE make a “Driving with Tony” commenting page 🤣 You are Hilarious 🤣
@suecook40852 жыл бұрын
For all your time & concern, for all the game & truth you give…. You deserve to be driving a eye-catching vehicle…. Again I say thank you Mr. Gaskins
@Kandybarbrown2 жыл бұрын
Not the general....not coffee....😁😁😁🤣🤣🤣
@gigibrown_wright2 жыл бұрын
Girl.. I cackled 🤣
@ginad82382 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your wisdom Tony!🔥 🙏🏽
@Nitra8132 жыл бұрын
“And don’t let the man know how to do hair…” Tony! You’re so right because I have talked to so goodt looking gay men. Al it would take is a drink night if talking and he slip up and bring out some masculine energy. Especially if you’re close and want a baby without the hassle of a heterosexual man. LISTEN HERE! I know this happens more often than we know.
@latoyagentles73872 жыл бұрын
So true Tony. You have taught me so much about life in general.I cut my males friends off cause they were trying to do the same things you are saying.Thanks God bless you and your family.
@LP---2 жыл бұрын
After we get through the early stages and mutually decide to go to the next level, we're becoming one another's friend, confidant, and hopefully soulmates! The Process works on levels with Me.. There is Nothing about it easy or casual. Yet, if he is who God sent for Me, and I for Him, then We'll Both have that Spiritual, Patient, Communicative, and Disciplined Understanding to see it through!!! If Not, We both have the option to Respectfully, bow out should one of us feel it's Not going to progress..
@reallee22 жыл бұрын
Okay, The General comments got me rolling😂😂😂. This video has some truth...I know of two stories from women who had guys on the sideline due to lack of interest at the time. Once the women gave them a chance and started dating them, the men used them, showed lack of interest, etc., leaving the women bewildered as to what happened. I thought of several reasons why, but I didn't think about resentment and rejection until now. As a man told me once "men don't take rejection well." And I personally had someone who tried to get out of the friendzone recently but it didn't happened, and now I'm glad it didn't. It's best to move on.
@marcellousmcilwain60792 жыл бұрын
Okay. Thanx for explaining, clearly the friend zone of love. Do Not catch feelings… Love them only as friends.
@cuniqueness2 жыл бұрын
Hey, Most people just play too much! Period
@kristinaherrejon71812 жыл бұрын
I love Tony’s tangents LOL
@DD-mg2se2 жыл бұрын
I needed that confirmation..I'm just talking to my cousin about this..like this minute and I saw this pop up...be blessed.
@wykitawest37362 жыл бұрын
Great video as always. When you said kick rocks with open toe sandals just tickle me. 😂
@jackieblue41282 жыл бұрын
That's why straight women like gay men No pressure to have sex¡¡¡¡
@toriyt27142 жыл бұрын
Except for straight women end up sexing gay men all the time
@carisma86622 жыл бұрын
Question 🙋🏽♀️umm 🤔 when you say at 2:55 that there isn’t a whole lot of men out here! Is that speaking statically or when choosing from the Crem Del La Crem category (best of the best)? Note to women: The number of men and women in the world is roughly “EQUAL”though men hold a slight “lead” with 102 men for 100 women (in 2020) I’m married, but everywhere I go it’s nothing but Men around…. At the store, mall, banks, businesses meetings, contracts being signed and negotiated, planes, events, gatherings, BBQ, gym, walking outside etc…I’m like dam is it me, all is it a whole lot of men around?? Or maybe 🤔 I’m married and looking 👀 through a different set of lenses?
@xpnn2 жыл бұрын
I think he meant there aren’t a lot of good quality men
@Denise_Cocoa2 жыл бұрын
Do your statistics account for incarcerated men and/or married men? Or just men by birth in general? We do need to travel more and increase our exposure and be seen. I have no shortage of men who are attracted to me. However, once you observe or speak with them, you realize for a number of reasons, they are not qualified to date you. And more and more the reason is because of values imposed by this microwave, unrealistic, and materialistic culture of today. I’m 32 and men my age and even older are becoming more feminine thinking they are the prize, they are insulted when women expect them to provide and protect them. It’s a “what can you do for me?” and score keeping attitude on both ends. So, there’s not enough MEN out there today is how I’m taking Tony’s words.
@kilimanjaro55372 жыл бұрын
I think he meant good quality black men, however, he could be talking about men in general.
@mrc60192 жыл бұрын
80% men as whole in America stats but the black community it's less % of men
@carisma86622 жыл бұрын
@@mrc6019 Who limits their self to just one ☝🏽 race? And even if it’s true we materialize what we believe in. And that’s what I did.
@dublingirl16912 жыл бұрын
Great video Tony! Once again your humor is priceless. I guess your car is eye catching! 😂🙏🏼🙏🏼 So funny. Always Love the advice you give! Happy Easter. 🌸🌺🐣🙏🏼
@iamflay37762 жыл бұрын
Oh wow! I feel like I knew nothing at all. This is coming from someone who was married.
@LP---2 жыл бұрын
Speak the Man Truth Tony!!!
@LP---2 жыл бұрын
Thank You Tony!! For Always keeping it Real. ✝️👏🏽✝️♥️✝️👏🏽✝️
@Gfamily42 жыл бұрын
Most of the tangents are hillarious LOL
@christineporter99142 жыл бұрын
Thanks once again Bro Tony for doing another teaching on the friend zone. And keeping it real with us 💯❤️🙏🏾‼️💪🏿✊🏿
@ladyboss29442 жыл бұрын
Very lovely video, definitely saving it as a constant reminder. Thanks Tony for speaking nothing but the truth ! Happy Easter celebration
@NalaMahal2 жыл бұрын
04:15 I feel the men take it like this because that’s what they manage their relationships with women. Put one on ice while he chases a new snatch. Then alternate. They end up coming off as hot and cold.
@iamTiffanyEmpowermentPodcast2 жыл бұрын
No rolling of the eyes here….take the whole video and lesson
@Beautycomesfromwithin2 жыл бұрын
This is a very insightful video!
@LP---2 жыл бұрын
That's why you have to vet and find those Red Flags!!! I'm going to Tell You just what I feel and what I Don't feel so there are No Misconceptions from the Gate!!
@neenee51982 жыл бұрын
Hi Toni! Thank you for all the work you do! I was wondering if you could make a video about a new show on the OWN network. The show is called “Marry me Now”. The show is about women proposing to their man and they also get married on the show. One women even got down on one knee to propose to her man. Personally I could never ask a man to marry me it seems insane to me lol. What do you think about women proposing to a man?
@neenee51982 жыл бұрын
@@wonderfullyrenee Right! Lol
@msBisAGrandE2 жыл бұрын
this is true, my best(est) friend has made me see/feel like that men can't be friends with women. Its not what I always thought. but it hurt me😪, no longer my friend nor will I talk to him again ever.
@qscott8882 жыл бұрын
Blessed Resurrection Sunday. Listening in for Part 2.😂
@lisasmilez2 жыл бұрын
I’m listening too. The general comments 🤣🤣🤣
@SophiaM-le1hx4 ай бұрын
Man growing off of trees😂😂
@tanijahnance14132 жыл бұрын
Is it considered friend zoning someone if they acted like they were interested in you but never directly said “ I want to take things to the next level” so you never express interest?
@dominiquedelaine2 жыл бұрын
This is my question too because I don’t take any guy serious until he says that he wants to be more than just friends
@ShereeseSR2 жыл бұрын
This is Deep!!!
@camuyana2 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately, I have to keep him in the friend zone because I think he has a girlfriend, he's more of an acquaintance because I'm a fan of his page. That is my reason plain and simple. I would like to add that for the time being I will not get involved with any man (he would absolutely have to be available, of course, meaning is not married, separated but not yet divorced, side chick or girlfriend that he hooks up, having one night stands, goes out with hookers, etc., etc) because I am not yet divorced and I don't feel comfortable doing so.
@jam13692 жыл бұрын
Friendship is philia love. God's love is agape. A married couple have Eros love. All types of love are beautiful when applied correctly. You can love wrongly. When God is directing our lives, this will not occur.
@Kathyyyyy1232 жыл бұрын
So true about the gay friend 🤣😂
@godsprincess99602 жыл бұрын
Now Listen... listen...! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@jam13692 жыл бұрын
❤️. Happy Resurrection Day everyone. 👑
@koastalpeach20692 жыл бұрын
Be Blessed.
@lb1234ify2 жыл бұрын
get home safe now, be blessed and thank you.
@carisma86622 жыл бұрын
I seen the worry in your eyes at 0:41 Thank goodness 😅
@kikikiki32162 жыл бұрын
Tony 🤦🏾😥😇🙏🏾
@kenedyg23742 жыл бұрын
Na those tangents be straight jokes and comedy 😂 Appreciate the wisdom nonetheless Uncle Tony