Don't Let Them Steal Your Life, Identity, Accomplishments!

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Nothingness: Antidote to Narcissism

Nothingness: Antidote to Narcissism

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Watch Covert Narcissist’s Sadistic Envy Fantasy (conference presentation) • Covert Narcissist’s Sa...
WATCH an honest person in the last 6 minutes of this video (@.shadowdeangelis on Instagram).
My new concepts are now being shamelessly plagiarized and stolen - and not for the first time: “snapshotting” (confusing external and internal or introjected objects), the dual mothership (regression to infancy in intimate relationships), and the shared fantasy space, among others.
I found one exception, a breath of fresh air: this guy @shadowdeangelis on Instagram (Cyberviking on TikTok).
The covert narcissist steals from you habitually: your ideas, your life’s work, your girlfriends and wives, your job, your money, anything he can.
He acts this way for 3 reasons:
Self-aggrandisement
Oneupmanship
Passive-aggression (symbolic hyperreflexive consuming of the frustrating object of narcissistic rivalry and malicious envy)
To be able to face himself in the mirror and to allay his justified fear of retribution, the covert narcissist deploys a host of good object infantile primitive defenses:
denial (the things I am stealing do not really belong to him and actually what I am doing is for the greater good);
repression (I don’t recall the stolen ideas or goods being someone else’s);
splitting (he is a bad person and deserves what I am doing to him, so my acts of pure theft are punitive and morally upright); and
projection (he stole these things from me or I paid for them, so I am just reclaiming them).
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@marygambrell6411
@marygambrell6411 2 ай бұрын
From my experience they take all your good qualifies and place there bad qualities into you. And if you’re not careful you will eventually find yourself doing things that you wouldn’t normally do.
@MomandBuggs
@MomandBuggs 2 ай бұрын
Yep, get out fast once you notice it because they turn everything upside down even you. You can't let bitterness rub off on you.
@martineldritch
@martineldritch 3 ай бұрын
I imagine a narcissistic mother would accuse her baby of stealing milk from her own breast
@LexiSanat
@LexiSanat 2 ай бұрын
lol I bet that baby Is on formula I couldn’t imagine she’d let that baby ruin her breast lol
@constancedenchy9801
@constancedenchy9801 2 ай бұрын
​@@LexiSanat spot on
@alexvig2369
@alexvig2369 2 ай бұрын
This is literally a pro-choice argument. "He's a parasite in my womb"
@xochitl7489
@xochitl7489 2 ай бұрын
😂
@angelalynn1733
@angelalynn1733 2 ай бұрын
I wish someone would steal the narcissist in my life😂
@mannoubouba9204
@mannoubouba9204 2 ай бұрын
the most painful is when you have your own mother like this , trying to steal identity of her daughter and is constantly in a competition with her .
@Soilmorph
@Soilmorph 2 ай бұрын
Its disgusting, and i feel like they stain your identity (which they stole) with their bad behaviour.
@kumulsfan8090
@kumulsfan8090 2 ай бұрын
I had the same exact experience with my father. It's unbelievable how childish they aye, I literally couldn't believe the pettiness, took me a few years to process all of it
@JesuisLord
@JesuisLord 3 ай бұрын
Devil comes to kill STEAL AND DESTROY
@recoveringsoul755
@recoveringsoul755 2 ай бұрын
Stole my house, furniture, all other property in the home, all the cars, money, documents, even told me to send a copy of my driver's license!!! Stole my accomplishments and life's work. Pretending he had done things that I did and he refused.
@therespectedlex9794
@therespectedlex9794 2 ай бұрын
​@recoveringsoul755 Sounds rough, but are we talking masterpieces here? Are you a woman by the way?
@recoveringsoul755
@recoveringsoul755 2 ай бұрын
@@therespectedlex9794 masterpieces? Like artwork? I'm referring to everything I worked my life for, even my childhood things I had saved, clothing, kitchenware, camping gear (he hates camping), gifts I was given, things I inherited, and activities I had done with my children (in addition to raising them alone basically), all my life accomplishments he pretends are things he achieved. They think they own you, and by extension, they own anything you do or have or produce
@therespectedlex9794
@therespectedlex9794 2 ай бұрын
@recoveringsoul755 Yes, I did think you meant creative things. But what do you mean things that show how you brought up your children? Sounds like mementos. I mean you still have your children, right? You still have or had your job? House? He couldn't get that, surely. Forgive me if I'm wrong.
@JesuisLord
@JesuisLord 2 ай бұрын
@@recoveringsoul755 I pray you will be restored 7x in Jesus name. I lost my kids , house, photography business by him bashing my laptop over his head & my mind but by the grace of God I’ve gotten it all back, just waiting on the husband 😊
@essenseflame6097
@essenseflame6097 2 ай бұрын
When it’s your own mum, it is utterly heartbreaking. She’s stolen so many belongings of mine, knowing it made me feel like I was going crazy. She destroyed my last 2 relationships by making me think it was them. I cried for weeks when I found out it was her. She uses my son’s as supply, has turned all our family against me & has now destroyed my life by lying to police! I’m an absolute mess.. 😔
@truecrimes1435
@truecrimes1435 2 ай бұрын
Nope, your mom is a mess just like mine. She used my son's for supply and just like Sam said; your possessions or people that 'belong" to you for lack of a better word, becomes theirs; like a trophy of triumph over their targets of envy.
@yeshetsogyalling
@yeshetsogyalling 2 ай бұрын
same situation here
@CasaOsso
@CasaOsso 2 ай бұрын
You are healing, you are a hero !
@beabeliever9
@beabeliever9 2 ай бұрын
I am deeply sorry for anyone who has a narcisistic mother. I always say it makes no difference if they are sick or evil effect is the same.
@Empoweress
@Empoweress 2 ай бұрын
Same! My mom psychologically turned one of my kids against me and then called me and told me when she was 17 that my daughter wasn't coming home! No word from my daughter. Just my mother insisting she won't let her granddaughter live on the streets while her prim and proper room sits in wait of her return home. The cops wouldn't do anything - which just laid more of the narrative that I'm a crazy controlling person... After years of abuse toward me that I'd have likely cared for her on her death bed despite but it's one thing to fuck with me, whole other thing to fuck with my kid. I always thought if I showed them differently, like when my mom offered my son at 10 years old MONEY IF he'd lose weight over the summer, and showed them what's appropriate or not, that it would give them contrast and variety that they'd need to explore life through but that in the contrast they'd see right from wrong. Apparently this for my daughter, was not the case. It only made my mother's self righteousness more convincing to my daughter. Insane making, literally.
@sahree
@sahree 2 ай бұрын
My sister in law is a textbook covert narc. She attempted to take my personality when she entered the family as (none of these) and over the course of a year decided to take on all the attributes people generally know me for....redhead, spin instructor at a particular L.a. fitness, vegan.... And all of a sudden she ( a brunette who has never exercised a day in her life) decided that she was all of those things. Online mostly. As in person it was obvious she was none of these things. Eating steak but writing on Instagram that she's vegan . Upped the contrast on her photos to appear as a redhead but in real life you see it's a bad faded dye job, and then over 5 months she got the boot from 4 different gyms where she tried to teach spin classes. ( Her first choice was my exact gym ,and she mostly enjoyed taking selfies in the class room mirror and posting it online with the hashtag #veganspininstructor which is literally the most random goal. Oh and she also said she was going to have a Halloween wedding like mine was (getting married to my BIL)., but hers would be Oct 13. So many more examples. It took me googling why someone would try to copy another person so badly, to discover the term "narcissistic mirroring" and then I realized she was CLASSIC covert narc.
@gandglv
@gandglv 2 ай бұрын
This exact thing happened to me. He ended up with my company, my money, my reputation and my friends. He's literally a millionaire now and I am a broke hermit. It' been twenty years and not a single day goes by without haunting regret. Thank God I found this channel. I finally know what happens and why so I can maybe now find healing. The next step is to figure out what things I can do to facilitate that process.
@alonzomosley7
@alonzomosley7 2 ай бұрын
My narc brother had lengthy phone conversations with me all whilst taking notes stealing all my ideas ,thoughts music movies .It drove me nuts I cant stand people ripping me off .Never again .
@stevomcsteve9492
@stevomcsteve9492 2 ай бұрын
My narc brother would never dream of actually talking to me on the phone about anything. I am so less than in his eyes. I'm not worth a phone call...
@LO-bk4bv
@LO-bk4bv 2 ай бұрын
When I was still in school & working on my doctorate my boss (no part of my education but same uni) tried to hop on my research even though she didn’t have a PhD and no research experience - she let me know she wanted to be published. I found a way out of it so I didn’t hurt her ego, but then she wrote in her work bio that her area of focus was the same exact topic as my dissertation research - I was floored. She has no expertise in this area. I was done with about a decade of her taking my ideas at work and claiming them…she ultimately moved up the ranks. Not saying just because she ripped off my ideas but it’s just unbelievable how this can happen even at a university. Towards the end of my time working there she confided in me about situations that were uniquely mine that I confided in her about 10 years before - when I thought she was empathetic and caring. Like she took my trauma and made it her story!?!? It was then I realized how dangerous she could be - she would constantly gossip about others and even accused someone who was impacting her work that they were sleeping together. I just smiled and nodded because I didn’t want to get on her bad side. When I left I was able to have more clarity about the situation and how everything fit together. Upset with myself for not seeing it earlier…but now realize what some people are capable of - it’s terrifying.
@stavokg
@stavokg 2 ай бұрын
Your anger is palpable and somehow you’re even sharper! Prof. Vaknin, personally, I am going through the worst psychological pain of my life-right now. I have been taking solace in religion because of its profound history in helping us deal with pain and suffering. The story of the Garden of Eden tells of our original problem: Shame (and then blame). The more we hide from love, the more pain we feel. I hope you feel the love from your audience-think of the sheer number of us compared to the few lost souls, acting as parasites.
@cellosong
@cellosong 2 ай бұрын
Bosses frequently come into this category. They love to take credit for their subordinate's work. When I had bosses like this I did what I could to "make them look good." It kept peace in the workplace. I learned a lot through my work, but these bosses rarely gave me credit for it.
@lonnroberts7438
@lonnroberts7438 2 ай бұрын
around 8 to 9 minutes in... thats what my so called " sister" did to me for 43 years
@truecrimes1435
@truecrimes1435 2 ай бұрын
Professor Sam could have easily made a Twilight Zone episode with how well he described the mental process of how a covert narcissist abandons his/her identity and becomes the target that they envy. It's a game changer when you're made aware of the thought process behind the crimes covert narcissist commit against their targets of abuse. This was really interesting and answered a lot unanswered questions.
@DilfuzaKHaydarova-e1p
@DilfuzaKHaydarova-e1p 3 ай бұрын
Thank you Dear Professor Sam Vaknin❤
@conantheseptuagenarian3824
@conantheseptuagenarian3824 2 ай бұрын
i went through this for about ten years. the pain and loss are beyond description.
@Agheel963
@Agheel963 2 ай бұрын
Narc friend stole my past,dreams and identity and passes them off as his and everyone is falling for it. Actually told me he wanted my life. He has everything I don't but it's still not enough
@Mr.PhatsVarietyVibesShow
@Mr.PhatsVarietyVibesShow 2 ай бұрын
a lot of channels now are copying Sam's work & ideas.. tons of channels now.. even guys in their cars talking about Narcissism
@lisamarriott4732
@lisamarriott4732 2 ай бұрын
My sister would see me suffer, leave me to die but when I drag myself up, rise and heal to be better than I was before she would come along with the attitude that if she hadn't treated me so bad I wouldn't of risen to be a better version of myself, so she wants praise and thanks for making me suffer and leaving me to die, saying I wouldn't be so strong if it wasn't them treating me so bad. Unbelievable, because I survived they think what they did was good. If I didn't survive then that would of been because I am weak and deserved to die. Insane, crazy people really do put us through the mill but I know I would of still been a strong person with a small amount of support and good advice, instead I had to keep putting myself back together after being destroyed over and over again. No more narcs trying to take my life, I am protected and stable in the knowledge of these predatory creatures. Thanks for the guidance and teaching. ❤
@Agheel963
@Agheel963 2 ай бұрын
After going through the abuse I returned to God ad he gave the sign. If the narc found out they'd say it was my plan all along
@penelopegourgourini3975
@penelopegourgourini3975 2 ай бұрын
Thank you for your amazing work on Narcissism
@JeffTruslow
@JeffTruslow 3 ай бұрын
Glory be to the Righteous One in Christ Jesus. Know this, that God will make this all right. "Blessed are you when me say evil things about you because of Me (Christ), for your reward is great in heaven." 🙏 I love you
@jima3345
@jima3345 2 ай бұрын
The worst example I came to know, over several years, of a covert narc was a man who was a neighbor. I could deal with his envy. I recognized it for what it was and just kind of found it humorous without letting him know. I maintained a healthy degree of detachment. After a couple years passed, he asked one day if I believed in ghosts, "not really" said I, and he began telling how there were ghosts visiting him. He repeated this several times as time went by. One day I saw him leaving his place with a couple policemen. The next day he approached me and told how he had called the police to have these "people" in his place thrown out. He said the police were very understanding and took him to the hospital to talk with someone. He was in his early seventies and was an aspiring author, convinced he'd make millions, and even had a graphic artist begin doing illustrations for his book until the graphic artist showed up for a payment he had coming. He denied owing him anything More visits to the hospital followed and then living arrangements were made with family members out of state.
@whereswendy8544
@whereswendy8544 2 ай бұрын
They will always find ways to justify their actions for, to them, the ends justify the means. Like ALL politicians, now.
@cynthiaphillips3264
@cynthiaphillips3264 2 ай бұрын
Sounds exactly what I just went though , he believes he is entitled to all of my personal belongings , my money, my everything , I just walked away! It’s not worth bringing the police and paying $280 dollars for a drive by for the police to escort me there to retrieve my belongings ! Just lost and I would rather take the loss then to ever deal with him again! It’s painful but I’m healing little by little , from someone so horrible!
@diatonicjon
@diatonicjon 2 ай бұрын
I would say in the context of the short video and the decreasing attention span, "if you can't beat them, join them" isn't a bad approach at all. He articulated and synopsized very well, and gave credit where it was due.
@JadeHeartLove
@JadeHeartLove 3 ай бұрын
We love Cyber Viking ❤️
@subjectively-observered
@subjectively-observered 2 ай бұрын
Haha. I love your sense of humor. Thank you.
@maremare1655
@maremare1655 3 ай бұрын
Psychosis, rivelry and envy,
@Jaehue
@Jaehue 2 ай бұрын
F#*cking Genius! Thank you for uploading!
@lindanicola
@lindanicola 2 ай бұрын
It's rampant on online dating!
@Onethingneeded
@Onethingneeded 2 ай бұрын
Grannon? I just saw him mock ‘Empathy Work’
@TheFirstOnlyRealUltra
@TheFirstOnlyRealUltra 3 ай бұрын
I´m a Covert-Narcissist-Who-Thinks-He´s-A-Heyoka-Empath™ and I always tag you when I´m stealing your ideas 🖤
@stevenday5448
@stevenday5448 2 ай бұрын
lmao
@TheFirstOnlyRealUltra
@TheFirstOnlyRealUltra 2 ай бұрын
@@stevenday5448 haha 🃏✔
@alonzomosley7
@alonzomosley7 2 ай бұрын
I think applies completely to you Prof Vaknin from Nikolai Tesla “I don’t care that they stole my idea .I care that they don’t have any of their own .”
@valerie5325
@valerie5325 2 ай бұрын
My ex did. In a very cruel way. Called it his dream, his money. He literally kicked me out of my own life. All mine. I sued him though and i won.
@semperdecorus37
@semperdecorus37 2 ай бұрын
Dr. Vaknin, love your work!!!❤
@MomandBuggs
@MomandBuggs 2 ай бұрын
I watched a tiktok yesterday day where a lady was stealing another lady's content word for word😭😭
@spocksdaughter9641
@spocksdaughter9641 2 ай бұрын
Good for you Sam giving credit where Credit is due! Your living on what more could anyone want. Ive been SAD soo often to learn so much from you at least 6?8 yrs. Oxox
@luvqraft6024
@luvqraft6024 3 ай бұрын
I recall being plagiarized over 20 years ago…
@pandora6405
@pandora6405 2 ай бұрын
You are brilliant professor Never change
@enoarchibong1017
@enoarchibong1017 2 ай бұрын
He’s talking about Richard Grannon 😂 that’s who stole all his work & now he’s got the money & the fame
@Unbreakablechic
@Unbreakablechic 2 ай бұрын
I get narc vibes from him.
@rottsandspots
@rottsandspots 2 ай бұрын
Great episode- thanks. I gave out a few author copies of my new book (on dog training) and a couple of them used my ideas and never mentioned me. Life! One guy said he never got my book. Then the first tik tok came out and I thought it a co-incidence. By number two not so much. He boasts he’s a millionaire dog trainer- I’m sure he is (maybe) but he’s also stealing ideas. At least I am a recognised genius 🤩
@rxvxnxnt
@rxvxnxnt 2 ай бұрын
Good cinematic interpretation of this phenomena is Angel Heart (1987)
@usbscdje
@usbscdje 2 ай бұрын
Holy shit this is everything that describes the narcissists I ran into in my life, steal steal steal the only thing there is is steal
@risong9872
@risong9872 2 ай бұрын
Thankque Dr Sam your lecture is very good thankque again
@Banebelladonna
@Banebelladonna 2 ай бұрын
It's rampant online. I have it done in the community I'm involved in.
@honeymoonavenue97
@honeymoonavenue97 Ай бұрын
My dad stole my identity. I’m going to save up some money and find a way to get out of this situation.
@glamgodess9643
@glamgodess9643 2 ай бұрын
My sister and yes, she utterly hates me but goes around saying she loves me, of cause I listen to Sam’s videos and I am not stupid. Married to a filthy rich Narcissist, both Narcissists by she can’t leave without me. I see the sadness in her eyes whenever I say goodbye. With all the money and wealth the black hole won’t go anywhere. I have a personable personality and people have complimented my confidence all my life. Now she stole my personality, whenever she enters the room she convinces everyone that she’s me, stealing my character. I am always shocked. I can’t wait to exit but will gray rock her because she is family. Sam, please make an extension of this video and tell us what happens to the stolen identity when you Leave them, are they able to sustain the MASK OF SANITY, from you when you leave, or do they wear someone else’s MASK? Can they maintain the image when you are not there!! I tried to ignore her for a week and she was stalking me. I don’t know how to go on about this. Also, I had this problem all my life of meeting people who stole my identity, the way I dress, imitate my personality and I always ran away. I am a bit stuck right now but as soon as I get sorted I am gone! She goes behind my back and talks badly about me and says that I am jealous of her house, cars and expensive things. I can’t believe that I have to sit every one down and explain that she has a shopping addiction and that when she runs out of money she asks money from our relatives and everyone in family whose making ends meet, she says those things about me, because honestly I can’t take it when she keeps taking poor people’s money to sustain her lifestyle. I have to constantly remind people and sound like I am a Narcissist by telling them that I have looks, I get lots of rich men wanting to date me but I refuse to date unloving men because I know that I won’t be able to keep up the pretence because of a lifestyle. She is the one who is jealous of me because people always compliment my looks, she doesn’t even realise that 50%of this compliments it’s just because those people are trying to make her jealous and they would just keep quite if I were alone, but I just say thank you and I smile because I know that eats her to death. Her lifestyle comes from her husband I can simply just get married to a rich man, or date 2,3,4 rich men, and then get the cars, shoes and clothes. But no, I choose to focus and build my own, I don’t want to date an abusive men, that’s why I am single. I can’t believe that so many people, especially educated women, have dead brain cells and believe her. Again she cries on my shoulder and tells me how horrible her husband treats her, as I’ve witnessed sometimes and she calls me every day and tells me how he won’t allow her to fix her body and how she hates her big belly but when people enter the room, “oh I’ve got the best husband in this world, oh I know I am fat but I love my body”. I have never seen anything like this in my entire existence. Luckily her kids are growing and they see her for who she is and one my favourite of her kids, tells her she’s stupid for thinking her husband loves. Love❤ you Sam, but please make part2- of the video and tell us what happens when you leave!!! I am definitely taking the my happiness with me so could be left with her hubby.😮😮
@canadawideliquidations3429
@canadawideliquidations3429 2 ай бұрын
It's always a pleasure, Professor. Sam, I could put an image, a video, a recording real-time real life. I have the highest of respect for you. Not all heroes were capes. I like your light. You keep shining bright, and all will be all right, Professor. GRATITUDE. REM HOLDINGS CC33 SIGMA RENOVATION ANNO 970
@PHILLIPSTEFFON-rv6eo
@PHILLIPSTEFFON-rv6eo 2 ай бұрын
Alot of people going to jail for using my name I hate bums 🐍
@FatherSky-ln8sr
@FatherSky-ln8sr 2 ай бұрын
If I am to represent the people, I must be placed in a position to do so...
@beth7804
@beth7804 2 ай бұрын
Cancer of the soul and cyphers of the spirit. Aren't there different types of psychosis? Can you literally be driven mad?
@ejtrillz1458
@ejtrillz1458 Ай бұрын
This video make so much sense. TY!!
@gellicbecca5191
@gellicbecca5191 2 ай бұрын
Best way for me with leechy copy cat coverts is to switch it up often, eg. Say they start copying your style switch it up just exhaust them with the switch ups
@kellymcdonnell319
@kellymcdonnell319 2 ай бұрын
Thank you professor Sam..your video helped change my life❤️
@gocegeorgievski2284
@gocegeorgievski2284 2 ай бұрын
Recently I'd become aware that the same is happening to me by my own brother for last 30+ years, for a period which I was beliving that I'm helping him in every way to become succsessfull in the life.
@user-iw3qp4oz1p
@user-iw3qp4oz1p 2 ай бұрын
Correct! I especially want the body :)
@constancedenchy9801
@constancedenchy9801 2 ай бұрын
Your thee best ❤
@stephtamall8896
@stephtamall8896 2 ай бұрын
Both my mother and mother-in-law and most of my female acquaintances are just like this. I prefer not to have friends at all. My mother still blames me for tripping and falling 50yrs ago carrying something that was mine. Also blames my sister for her childbirth pains when she was born.
@ReRe_642
@ReRe_642 2 ай бұрын
He already did took all my hopes and dreams and gave them to his daughter wife. But it will not last. Only but God
@alonzomosley7
@alonzomosley7 2 ай бұрын
I am sick and tired of this imitation never equalled behaviour .I have been ripped off all my life my brother my ex and my mate..I cannot stand it I have become a hermit now .
@victoryamartin9773
@victoryamartin9773 2 ай бұрын
So that's why I'd have a reaction in my gut when I'd bring my friends from church home and my homeless guests would capitalize on their time to persuade them to provide services to them. I'd tell myself, since they're disabled, they can't go out and find people to work for them, so how else are they going to get help? And I would accept it. Then it became their calling these people to come over and excluding me from their conversations. That also made me uncomfortable. Eventually, some of them would come by just to see them only. I don't mind sharing my friends, but hearing that the now squatters are actually trying to steal them away from me really gives me the creeps.
@therespectedlex9794
@therespectedlex9794 2 ай бұрын
Everything you've ever done? Some copying from people like this is evident. But after all, they take over much of the rest of your life. Or effectively, through lots of your time, even when they make you lazy and well fed etc. Certainly, their own most creative thing has to be too significant. A poet friend used to rebrand aspects of me, my life, as their own creative thing. Vice versa, I was branded by them and the cult of their parents.
@bettyfiamengo6008
@bettyfiamengo6008 2 ай бұрын
Just described my siblings omg They reported me to mental health ,tried to get us locked up so they can take over our loan (property, but why can't police help,there liars
@marypoppins6973
@marypoppins6973 2 ай бұрын
This talk is outstanding 🙏🏻thank you Professor.
@woodenleaves
@woodenleaves 2 ай бұрын
So trueee!
@JimmyT-zw2cb
@JimmyT-zw2cb 2 ай бұрын
Excellent!
@CPTSDRecoveryChatASMR
@CPTSDRecoveryChatASMR 2 ай бұрын
We know who you’re talking about 😓
@christianadavidson-setufree
@christianadavidson-setufree 2 ай бұрын
I'm going to be more aware of referencing you when posting my own material online from now on, Dr Sam. In my defence, I think it is because many of your personal terms have become so deeply part of the language of narcissistic abuse terminology that they are no longer thought of as attributed to anyone. This is not right. I know I refer to mutual/shared mothering at times so will reference you in this now. Thank you for your incredible and great work and my apologies for not being more respectful in this matter. Kind regards, Christiana
@kosmos229
@kosmos229 2 ай бұрын
If I'm right, the explanation in this viseo is an accurate description of the leading character in the series Mr Ripley
@nikola3058
@nikola3058 2 ай бұрын
Wouldn't Elon Musk be a good example? Or is he more of an overt classical narcissist? - Embellishes his credentials - Takes over companies and claims he made them - Claims credit for accomplishments of thousands of engineers that he exploits - Sleeps with wives of his rivals - Tries to ruin his rivals or steal their success, claims he was the reason they succeeded Maybe just an overt narcissist after all.
@nothingnessnonarcissism
@nothingnessnonarcissism 2 ай бұрын
And dumb as a doornail. kzbin.info/www/bejne/aIebc3qPfK-pqdE
@Calidore1
@Calidore1 2 ай бұрын
Good stuff.
@l8fee.
@l8fee. 2 ай бұрын
Generative AI is going to exasperate this psychological process.
@user-hs4xj8mb3o
@user-hs4xj8mb3o 2 ай бұрын
🙌 so true very true
@ameek123
@ameek123 2 ай бұрын
Sam Vaknin is correct.
@KacyLatham
@KacyLatham 2 ай бұрын
I might be jumping to conclusions but I think I know who you might be thinking of 😉
@John-popc
@John-popc 2 ай бұрын
Nothing is mine its just the trap
@eb7863
@eb7863 2 ай бұрын
My ex-mother in-law loved to boast to me and everyone else that I'm a good cook (including other qualities), are only because of her. Given that I married into their family at the age of 16 (it was a 30yr marriage). Of course, my decision to divorce her narcissistic son was seen as a big betrayal which was all credited to myself and my family.
@eb7863
@eb7863 2 ай бұрын
Its still so much more difficult to forgive myself for enduring so much, than forgiving them..
@florencevibes7586
@florencevibes7586 2 ай бұрын
Professor Vaknin Some confusion between 2 of your videos or have I misunderstood? Video ‘Dissolve the snapshot tactic’ You say to make the real individual autonomous self the opposite of the snapshot internal object. This will eventually force the narcissist to let go and 100% discard you Video ‘narc snapshots you a bad object’ You say the narcissist forces the good object to become bad, when this happens he doesn’t discard, he gets angry/depressed and then withdrawn and indifferent. Is this the same as discard? It seems more like he just ignores you and acts a bit moody! If becoming a bad object creates discard please confirm so I can work on becoming the bad object and stick at it, regardless of the abuse and threats I’ve come to expect. Thank you for your video on narcissistic parents dismissive, invaluable for mine to hear this so eloquently described from a professional 😊
@nothingnessnonarcissism
@nothingnessnonarcissism 2 ай бұрын
If you conform to the narcissist's view of you - idealized at first, then devalued - you are still playing by his/her rules and remain trapped in his/her shared fantasy.
@florencevibes7586
@florencevibes7586 2 ай бұрын
@@nothingnessnonarcissism so to act like the bad object when in the idealised/ love bombing stage?
@florencevibes7586
@florencevibes7586 2 ай бұрын
@@nothingnessnonarcissism thank you for replying. I suppose like many of us I am looking for the discard. After many years of entraining I’m used to trying to match up to the snapshot to avoid the verbal abuse. Having heard your videos it gives me an understanding of why doing the opposite may give the result I need for me and my children
@JeremyEads-qk6bu
@JeremyEads-qk6bu 2 ай бұрын
I can't stop them
@user-gp8gc3gt9l
@user-gp8gc3gt9l 2 ай бұрын
I’m enjoying your content 😂
@nogood3031
@nogood3031 Ай бұрын
"Don't Let Them"? How can we stop them? At work or In family. Where 99% of them cover up the thief? And the person of authority, ofcourse, pretends not to know the identity theft happening right in front of them. Because he or she is thief, too.
@antiochiaadtaurum3786
@antiochiaadtaurum3786 2 ай бұрын
I love your videos Sam
@kimstrandberg9529
@kimstrandberg9529 3 ай бұрын
Listening to this I wonder if Einstein was a covert narcissist?
@alf770
@alf770 2 ай бұрын
Da
@evelindadewispelaere4426
@evelindadewispelaere4426 2 ай бұрын
i am jealous many times
@user-gp8gc3gt9l
@user-gp8gc3gt9l 2 ай бұрын
This is great and being borderline 😮
@shirleyA3122
@shirleyA3122 2 ай бұрын
Yet they elude the mental health services because their vaneer is acted with such confidence & bravado. And they've been isolating you so, who to tell - not even their family who buy into the con...that's if you ever met them to ensure storytimes are never cross referenced. Hold onto your clothes & possessions - cause that way they still have control and their fantasies when you've stop engaging....getting attention any which way.
@arnoldcappelletto3236
@arnoldcappelletto3236 3 ай бұрын
Imagine 7 hired cleaner companies brought to your personal residence and wrate tasked to work at every word yhat you asked them if you are in the company of a master of of ceremonies an with a wave of your hand that power is indeed spoil you rotten thT felling does not wear off especially for supply In their day to day tasks minute by minute ctaks. It's becomes addictive 😅
@jeremiahsantini5740
@jeremiahsantini5740 2 ай бұрын
How do you deal with someone who's been diagnosed with Chronic Undoubtfulitus?
@richardlew5316
@richardlew5316 Ай бұрын
Crazy train
@jaysilverberg
@jaysilverberg 2 ай бұрын
Gefelta Fish was my idea dammit 😢
@therespectedlex9794
@therespectedlex9794 2 ай бұрын
There's actually a fish worse than pilchards.
@george0t
@george0t 2 ай бұрын
Hmm, so was the talented Mr. Ripley (from the movie with the same name) a covert narcissist?
@nothingnessnonarcissism
@nothingnessnonarcissism 2 ай бұрын
Search my main channel for "ripley".
@JadeHeartLove
@JadeHeartLove 3 ай бұрын
Single White Female
@cynthiasarah4286
@cynthiasarah4286 2 ай бұрын
They have blocked one of your videos and it also won't allow me to leave a comment. The video When are you bored? It says I can't watch it. Odd. I'm in Austin TX. I figured we read! I do! And 3 books a week only non fiction. Or manipulation of fiction for philosophical purposes. Like I'm reading every David Foster Wallace Book. Brief interviews with Hideous men is all about narcissists.
@marthapond7070
@marthapond7070 2 ай бұрын
Hilarious!
@ayeletdar8948
@ayeletdar8948 3 ай бұрын
Is it a selective stealing? Otherwise how can one adopt someone's ID only partially and become someone else?
@archiehendricks6093
@archiehendricks6093 2 ай бұрын
Youngest sis would not take calls, just died then want money for funeral, two packs cigarettes asay could afford but not funeral expense. S T narcissist
@Blue_bird-jc5tn
@Blue_bird-jc5tn 2 ай бұрын
Yup. He is the ONLY other person I will listen to because he correctly references your work.
@shirleyA3122
@shirleyA3122 2 ай бұрын
Yes - my mother is my template Slsuper competitive.l & treated my twin & I as extension leds. Drawn perhaps to what we know. The relationship between the 'Mother-ship' & Narcissism - maybe....
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