Don’t Make Your Woman Your Mommy or Therapist

[@davidp2888]

Last year I made the mistake of making my ex my therapist. I made myself vulnerable and I knew what the consequences could be. Sure enough, a few months later we split up. I know what I did wrong, but I also learned that she wasn't the right one for me. Own your actions. Admit your mistakes. Work hard to improve. Focus on your mission and purpose.

[@jake18111996]

The breakups are somehow blessing in disguise!!!!

[@datto240z]

" A man suffers through his toughest times alone." The Rifleman....

[@mayankgupta9376]

And also good to have u back in your old ways...u really helped me recover boss 👍👍

[@adamdavis1737]

The therapist part is fucking key. That killed my last relationship. And it was tough because she was a best friend first too. It doesn't mean you can't ever open up or be vulnerable. They are supposed to be a trusted partner. But when you dump everything on them constantly, you appear weak, like you can't work on yourself without them. And you just overload them. You'll wear them down and eat away at their happiness because you're transferring your stress/sadness/anger to them all the time. Even though they may genuinely care and want to help you, it will make them unhappy too. You'll eventually be a burden on them. Learn to support each other, but not try and fix each other. Share things, but don't dump and overload on each other, encourage each other to better help yourselves without depending on one another to do so. That should be the dynamic. At least that's what I've learned from my how my mistakes went down

[@adamdavis1737]

@@Cheeriu I had to ruin the best relationship I ever had and push away someone who loved me unconditionally for almost a decade to realize it. It can be a hard lesson to learn sometimes. Try communicating it to him if you really value what you have. Because she never let me know I was wearing her down so much either. As much as I shouldn't have been, I never knew to stop until it was too late. At least to the extent it really hurt her etc. Maybe it can help. Maybe not. I fear losing her was really what had to happen to make me grow and change in the end.

[@adamdavis1737]

@@Cheeriu it sounds like you need to move on. He needs to learn more about himself, and you can't make him do that. If he's willing to start a journey into personal development, spiritual healing, and especially therapy on his own Accord. You may get somewhere. If he's not. You may just be stuck in a cycle that will drain you That doesn't mean you don't love him or care about him. But you have to love and care about yourself enough to not let someone else drain you. Like I said, I can give this kind of advice only because I realized I was being that person who drained the energy from someone I loved. I can't even blame her for not talking to me anymore. But I know I never want to be that kind of man again. I hope you're able to find a solution that allows you to be happy. Whatever that may be.

[@FreeTheJambon]

@@Cheeriu As Corey said that's on him at this point. If he needs to vent for the slightest inconvenience like the coffee machine etc he needs to man up. He lost all his masculinity. Sadly that sounds like a stage in his life where he, like OP and like me at some point too will need a real hard reality slap in his face, maybe in the form of a break up. If he won't change anything it's going to end up like that anyways. Sad but heh it is what it is. Grüße aus Frankreich lol

[@kreps1702]

Corey is the realest life coach and a diamond in the rough. Thank you for everything, coach.

[@spencerjohnson2911]

Too many people nowadays don't seem to realize that life is this way: Difficult. As corny and cliche-ish as it sounds, life really is what you make of it. Life's challenging, but you become resilient to the challenges and barriers that come your way, and enjoy the good times that life will approach you with here and there. Welcome. Life opens its arms with wide open arms. 🎩

[@spencerjohnson2911]

@@johnkholloway9837 I think you misunderstood what I posted. In the video, Mr. Wayne also discusses how life is hard to the guy in this weeks video newsletter (in addition to don't treat women like mommies and therapists) and most people in modern times don't seem to realize that. That's what I was touching on brother. 🎩

[@macioluko9484]

Look. Even the worst therapist gets paid to hear people’s whines...

[@jclandry6933]

I remember hearing this quote a few years ago: “It’s okay to have a meltdown. Just don’t unpack and live there.” We as human beings are going to have moments where we have challenges, setbacks, and losses. But how we respond is what matters. Even if a person stops talking to you behind that it’s futile to be upset but it’s their choice. Let them go because once you level up in life, they will realize they messed up themselves. It’s your life. Your car. Your driver seat. The only one who knows how to drive it is you.

[@5000JAROCHO]

Hi teacher.... I am one of your desipulos, I saw this video and I wanted to tell you that now I understand why the 80% of the people around us think or believe that we are an idiots, BUT in the end we do not care since we do not want any drama in our lives since we know that more people will come into our lives, some to stay in our lives and others will only be passing through. Seeing your video only made me understand why some people see us as idiots BUT we still love our lives and how we are and I don't think anyone can change us, Thanks teacher for your great teachings.

[@d-vision2426]

I talk to God. He's always willing to listen...and HE helps.

[@chilliconcarne4428]

I don't know man mine keeps telling me to kill everyone.

[@davidj5425]

Stop assuming his gender!

[@alirezatootoonchian9670]

One of the best videos that I've ever watched coach. It was a topic that really needed to be covered. Thank you!

[@mikeschummm5814]

Thank you Coach Corey. Because of you I have more self love than Jeffrey Toobin on a Zoom call.

[@jimmyshane3920]

Thanks Coach Coury Wayne !!! You have truly changed my life. 😁👍

[@cmwhite2421]

I had been with the same girl for just shy of two years. One night I opened up to her about a lot of things and we had what I perceived to be a heart-to-heart conversation. I didn't cry but I teared up talking about some stuff that I really hadn't told anybody else. She immediately changed her behavior towards me and in less than a month she ghosted me. Now I'm single and talking to a stranger who gets paid to listen to me talk about that crap. Do yourself a favor: Never, ever, EVER be fooled into thinking a woman will still find you attractive after showing weakness. The only women you should treat as therapists are those you don't care to lose.

[@josephcartagena5879]

Love you Corey. You’re straight up man. I love your work. You call it the way it is.

[@SSabatino97391]

“That shit doesn’t work in real life.” -CCW

[@levipope2555]

I can identify with this message. I've been there. Your content has definitely made a difference in how I've improved on these fronts. I took charge and owned my stuff. Its invigorating. Miles to go but the attraction was almost instant post 30 days of working to improve myself. Please keep the pearls coming.

[@SplashCannonball]

Putting time in is key. Wake up at 4:30. Power burst workout for 30 mins. Shower. Then immerse myself into reading for an hour then meditation before work.

[@Raidoven]

I had this problem with my last relationship too. My mistake was I treated her like my best friend, which included telling her all my problems and stresses in life. And even though I did read the book a couple of times during the relationship, I missed out on something that's really important pertaining to this issue, which is "if you have to talk about your problems do so positively". It does kind of suck that you can't emotionally completely unload on your girlfriend, but like you said it is what it is. It feels really good to emotionally let it all out but the downside is it's extremely unattractive to a girl. Just like I'm sure it feels really good to eat junk food all day and gain a bunch of weight, but for a lot of guys it would be unattractive if their girlfriend did that. Just is what it is.

[@Badnezz007]

I used to think I had problems in life and blamed people/boss/wife/children/government etc. for bringing me problems. By working on myself I have learned that the only problems I ever had and ever will have, is all in my head. Life happens and if you learn to surrender to that fact, your imagined problems go away and you will always feel great no matter what happens. Coach Corey Wayne is outstanding and has been of great help on my self help journey, but for my inner problems work Michael Singer has been the best teacher. My tip is to listen to many to get different perspectives. So now I'm always happy every day and constantly working on my self on all aspects. You can always get better! You shouldn't chase anything external in life, it's only temporary since everything changes - work on yourself everyday and you will start to attract great people, money and things into your life!

[@Paulagonia]

This I learned from Shallon Lester: if you become your partners therapist once he's doing well he'll end up associating those past bad feelings with you... So he will start wanting a new person that represents a brand new start. So from our perspective is not a good idea either.

[@JihadBunnydick]

Nonsense

[@Paulagonia]

@@JihadBunnydick sure Jan

[@johngeorge4694]

Shallon lester is trash and toxic

[@imjustsayin34]

Yes…Dont be his come up girl ever it never works out. Men love to receive the prize after the work is built

[@mcscop]

How boring and repetetive would these videos become, if they were'nt made by the most matter of factually straight forward and ruthless coach alive!! Thank you Corey!!

[@asim9795]

Coach you give life changing advice! I shall always be grateful to your wisdom! 💯💯💯

[@tintingengen5601]

It's a cool distinction - crying about your problems without taking action is not being vulnerable. My partner thinks I am an action man. Me: I think I hardly ever take action. When she relates what she sees i realise I do take action all the time, and I encourage her also. And action guarantees nothing. And no one cares. My partner loves it when I discuss my problems because she has a sharp mind and loves to contribute because she finds our relationship unbalanced, because it is. I'm a man and she is a woman. She's good at stuff that I love her being good at. I'm good at different stuff. And she has a really sharp mind and is better at reading some people than me. I listen to her advice about some things. Other things ... nup!

[@Kevin-dx7ut]

She can call me daddy, but she ain't mommy

[@sorybac]

We need you on fresh and fit Podcast, you would be the best guest on there by far

[@wizkid3726]

One of my best friends from high school has a boyfriend that has emotional problems and I can see the toll that it has taken on her. She lost her savings, her friends, is on antidepressants and I can see she is looking for an escape.

[@Flordiaman1]

Wow thank you Coach, rockin them out lately!!

[@JeremyBarbell]

Mark Manson is pretty awesome. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck is a book I reread every year. But I've listened to your audiobook over 40 times now, and it definitely works. It's helped me act like a man and focus on bettering myself.

[@berineayala4767]

Glad you’re honest thank you

[@Kevin-sq7nm]

Your third book is your best book my man!! 👍👍👍🔥

[@jakedoesmemes]

dude, what’s the point of a relationship if you can’t express emotion to your partner? Masculinity doesn’t equal being an emotional brick wall

[@Xiallaci]

Exactly. Finally someone who understands. :) sharing emotions can be a very strong connection IF in the process you actively work on changing said situation.

[@jakedoesmemes]

@@Xiallaci Hell yeah dude, relationships are about working together to better each other because you care about one another, if one side isn’t allowed to open up then that emotion will just be pent up probably causing some form of anxiety or stress

[@lamson1990]

@@jakedoesmemes It’s spineless and disgusting for a guy to openly be an emotional slob.

[@Xiallaci]

I feel like theres something some guys in the comments seem to missunderstand: Its not about never opening up to your woman. Don't project one bad experience onto all women. This is a sign that you are not taking responsibility. How would you feel if a woman said "i had an abusive ex. And all men are the same, so I'm never trusting a man again"? Would you enjoy being seen as an abusive ass? You're doing the same here. A relationship is a partnership. And a good partnership doesn't work when you only give 50%. If you cut out all your negatives emotions from your partner, you are only giving them 50%. The problems you as guys face can and should be addressed. And then (and this is the most important part) take responsibility. Responsibility is about actively working on fixing the problem. It's about getting advice and using that advice to lean, change and grow. Masculinity doesn't mean that you are never emotional - it means that you embrace every aspect of yourself and actively change the things you dislike.

[@rsajh1248]

Again ,Came at the right time

[@ramis7933]

Women want to feel strength. When they sense these weaknesses they feel less attracted . This can even include the man having health issues which some women sense as a weakness. I have seen examples of breakups after health issues show up. It could be rare though .

[@mav8243]

Tinnitus here , bad moment = break up 😂😂😂😂😂🤦🤦🤦🤦

[@jakesanchez3202]

I’ve learned that keeping your mouth shut and not sharing any feeling, emotions, problems, goals, and desires. Because women don’t care it makes you look weak in their eyes. It’s crazy! Tell god, tell your dog, or tell your therapist but never tell anything to a woman.

[@anecdocuentosehistorias4976]

WHY IS HE COMPLAINING.. I LIVE IN THE THIRD WORLD COUNTRY AND I WENT FROM RUNNING A GREAT BUUSSINES TO SELLING CANDIES ON THE STREET. GUESS WHAT? AS LONG AS YOU KNOW HOW TO MANAGE YOUR FINANCES YOU CAN PROFIT FROM IT, TOO SD I AM BACK IN THE GAME

[@lil--mo2025]

Spot on!

[@planeguy95]

Apart from the whole vid being great (as usual), here's my favourite quote - "I didn't make women this way. You don't like it? Cry to the big man upstairs cos I don't give a fuck" 😂

[@alanperez7657]

I agree but ive done this but she still came around, anytime I asked. The problem was asking for a 3 some didnt help.

[@memonshoeb]

11:.03 i agree.. Your 3rd book is your best book. I really really love reading it. I am on my 3rd read this time. I also want to purchase the audiobook version but it is currently unavailable in India. So let's see when it is available 😊😊

[@chanlorn4331]

I am surprised you know Pol Pot coach. Your student from Cambodia 🇰🇭

[@kizzyk3731]

Great example.

[@shonygozer94]

Hi Corey! He was referring to 'Models, How To Attract Women Through Honesty' by Mark Manson. I have listened to your book about 10 times now and have also read his book 2 times. I really wanted your opinion about his book.

[@plaxic]

Corey recommends that book on his website so he must like it. understandingrelationships.com/products/amazon

[@conversationleadership]

"Life is hard. Wear a helmet." ~ Coach Corey Wayne

[@davidbecquer3624]

The guy from this comment didn't understand Mark Manson's work either. Manson's advice is very much like Coreys in that he ALWAYS tells people to stop labeling themselves as victims and take responsibility for their lives and their actions.

[@schwangster]

“Wear a helmet and cry more”…. that made my wife just laugh at me! Doesn’t work in the real world, Coach… lol

[@Manchainsaw]

Wow I think that guy completely misunderstood the message from Mark Manson, And i remembered Jordan Peterson quote "Always speak the truth!! but that doesn't mean saaaay everything.. that's just stupid", and btw Mark's book "Models" is badass as fuck, The way I see his message is 2 sides of the same coin "having courage or being vulnerable" but one or the other can affect the outcome, if you pull all your courage together and approach a woman yeah it's something manly but the woman will see your unstable body language, but on the other hand if you allow yourself to be authentic by being vulnerable(to rejection for example) and you say something charming with a smile and lightheartedly Fist- paradoxically it relaxes you and second it will have a strong impact in her trust, but he never said "spill your feelings", but it makes sense that authenticity requires some vulnerability from your side

[@Volksinformant]

Never let her see you suffer!

[@justjayy85]

Sad, but we have no other choice but to cry to God or be a strong man. Those are the only 2 options men have on this Earth Edit:** I forgot to mention, he should talk to a therapist if he has issues. Never bring your baggage issues on to a woman. Woman on the other hand can and you have to tough it out. Even then talk to a male friend who can respect you and who you trust

[@struggleisapreciousgift.6604]

10-15 times!

[@andrebaxter4023]

First guy obviously hasn't read the book if he's talking about being vulnerable. As men, we're the rock. Without sexual polarity, there's no romance.

[@nicholasshook7513]

I think a high quality girl that has realistic expectations and someone that wants a long term relationship would want you to open up sometimes. I think it’s kind of unrealistic to NEVER show a negative emotion around your girl lol

[@janpalencar628]

And it would be inauthentic, superficial also. I believe the question would be whether to process your emotions with the partner. And I think men tend to relyon women too much with this. There are men groups, men friends who you can share with, they will hold you too…

[@sameerforyou01]

Great content 💪

[@TheTCOLL]

Corey, I make the green juice but after a day or so it starts to turn in the fridge. What do you do to keep it for 4 days?

[@CoachCoreyWayne]

Keep your fridge at 38 degrees

[@kizzyk3731]

Amazing video everything is so true.

[@tommyt2974]

Brothers, if you have some deep personal problems, talk to your guy friends that you can confide and trust. Other men know the male struggle. Girls can not understand your struggles because their lens is seen through a female lens and their life experience are extraordinarily different. Also Coach Corey Wayne. Please, try to get onto the Fresh and Fit podcast. Check them out on KZbin. They are growing like crazy. 1 year growth of now over 220k Subs. They’ve helped my life out like you wouldn’t believe. They even reference you and I’m sure would love to have you as one of their guests. Thank you, and take care.

[@michael4920]

Yesterday i went to a saloon and asked for Hair Spa. They assigned a cute looking young girl. I started having conversation with her and asked questions to her for which she was very responsive and excited to answer. she asked me few question and laughed at my stupid answer. while leaving i asked her phone number. she said she will give the saloon's office number. I said i want your number and let's be friends(BIG MISTAKE, FACE PALM). She said sorry i cant give my number.

[@marybell2002]

Well at least you tried. Met a guy recently that I thought was interested but he never asked for my number. It's better to ask and get a no then miss opportunities.

[@Manchainsaw]

Btw.. Coach you should invite Mark Manson for a talk, it would be interesting as fuck

[@richnoggin7524]

I want green juice!

[@JamieDrumz]

Never thought Charles Darwin was upstairs 😉

[@angelcontreras3956]

What section in the book is about feeling it to heal it?

[@adrianmegale2328]

Here’s a good note for me. I actually had a fling last year with a woman, I came on too strong and blew it. We have begun reconnecting and this time, I’m playing it smooth. She gave me a lift back from a football game and even said she’ll give me a lift to the next one and I said “See what happens.” She even said “Even though we’re not sitting in the same bay, I really don’t mind.” I just said see what happens because now I know she wants to give me a lift and she doesn’t know whether or not I want one. I’m in the driving seat now. She even done the whole tongue licking gesture and she did offer me to kiss her on the cheek but I didn’t do it because it’s the kiss of death. Also, whenever we see each other, she walks to me and I open my arms for her to hug me. She even done the whole back rub hug.

[@BlaximilianD00d]

I had a guy tell me that I should hop on a girl that can provide me with stuff. Me personally, I'd rather not because that's not my style. I know a guy and the mother of his child treats him with no respect based on what I saw on his fb page. He must have given her his account info because she's posting stuff on his account calling him out about stuff that should be private, in public. Idk how he does it. Bottom line is I don't want to end up relying on a woman who should be the girl of my dreams instead of being essentially my mother. I already have a mother. I don't need another one. And if you're relying on a woman like she's your mother, you need more time to develop to become a better version of yourself.

[@Caesar-nx9uv]

❤️

[@DavidZMH]

I only do it with women I am not interested or have no chance with

[@LionhartM]

You've seemed off the past couple of months, Corey. Everything okay? Serious question, I'm not just poking fun based on the video subject. Things have been getting to you more lately.

[@CoachCoreyWayne]

That's your story, not mine.

[@LionhartM]

@@CoachCoreyWayne Just my perception. Things seem to be getting under your skin more. Could just be you've had enough of leftist and feminist BS, in which case I understand

[@Frank.Melendrez]

@@LionhartM You appear to be the only one feeling that way.

[@LionhartM]

@@Frank.Melendrez That’s okay. I’m an unusually perceptive person. Always have been, so I’m accustomed to being the only person picking up certain feelings and vibes :)

[@XKaliber2097]

Can you make an abridged version of mastering yourself, without the politics (like the part on Islam) and the more biographical details? A version that’s just all the practical advice, I would read that 10 to 15 times, but after the 2nd time through, I really don’t feel like I need to hear a lot of those parts again.

[@CoachCoreyWayne]

It's a book about self reliance. Not a book about self ignorance. The truth is a nasty pill to swallow. Not everyone can handle it. The right people can, and that's who I really care about reaching. The people that can and are making a difference.

[@XKaliber2097]

@@CoachCoreyWayne no I get it bro. I just don’t need to read the part on Islam 15 times. One time is enough for that subject. 3% Man I’ve read 15 times. Mastering yourself has real gems inside it, but your politics and life story I was able to comprehend after the first read through. I’m not disagreeing with the content. I’m saying an abridged version would be a helpful resource for the LESSONS and SKILLS in the book to be read many times.

[@crystaloats8177]

@@XKaliber2097 why not just skip the parts you don’t find useful?

[@Frank.Melendrez]

@@crystaloats8177 My thoughts exactly. Just how anyone else would do with any other book, audio, etc.

[@sanojchacko6435]

Mansplaining

[@mayankgupta9376]

First'.. 😂😂

[@jossell911]

4th 🤣🤣

[@Mage64]

All of this effort for what exactly?)

[@davidj5425]

Unless you opt out, you're here for as long as you're here for. You're a part of this world. So what are you going to do with your time here? It doesn't have to be a massive struggle though. Its about finding what end result entices the core of you and taking steps towards that every day. Life is a struggle and lacks meaning more than not for people who don't have a direction, have stagnated, or are going somewhere they don't feel fulfilled. If you're taking the "hard" day to day steps towards what you ultimately want, you build confidence, you feel satisfied, you have more energy to do the hard things, and you begin to uplift others naturally. When you stop selling yourself short with half measures or by just living out your days passing the time, it no longer feels pointless. If you don't feel inspired, that's a sign to evaluate and change your direction. Women and those great relationships are merely a side effect of the life and lifestyle you build for yourself. The better you treat you, the better the quality your relationships will be. Its all about your mission first and foremost. Don't make getting a hot woman your mission in life. That's when this all feels exhausting. #1 should be you, and something bigger than a relationship, and those relationship opportunities will naturally come as a result.

[@phutingoetjana3257]

C’mon Man, Cry a river, who cares

[@anupkumar-hd7wg]

Why ur videos r so long ? Can u plz make it in 5 min .

[@4teen88]

Get a bigger attention span.

[@davidp2888]

If you're unwilling to invest ~24 minutes to improve yourself, I don't know what to tell you.

[@deamorta6117]

uhm you're free to leave :)

[@kevinchurn8470]

No one here will listen to negative comments about Corey.

[@erikvillanueva5007]

not everything can be only 5 quick minutes like u in bed

[@GetaDirtyJob]

I do agree with your comments on socialism & communism. However, you said that socialism leads into communism. That's incorrect, communism, just like national socialism and fascism, is a version of socialism. Socialism means state control/ownership over the economy. In communism, national socialism and fascism the state has full control over the economy and means of production. And yes, that always leads to totalitarianism.