don't take these Black hair mindsets into 2024.

[@Bubbleseatfish]

Do you know any curl specialist accounts that I could look into?

[@sigh_yuri]

check the description! 🙌🏽

[@MsXenyy1]

Our mothers are the first ones making us insecure about our hair

[@naturalcurls4life576]

Yes ma’am! My mother was the only one with negative comments when I returned natural back in 2004.

[@goldengoddess8903]

Not mine, thank God! 🙏🏾

[@shieldoffaith7099]

​@goldengoddess8903 Not mine either...❤

[@Yougotthis1212]

Instead of blaming your mother, try and consider why she thinks that way

[@nyabwekebabere113]

My mom is guilty of this..😅We both laugh at my hair..and she is still my stylist..we acknowledge the challenges but find ways to make it easier to manage it..❤

[@myracle97]

God forbid we didn't have access to wigs, extensions & perms. Some black women would lose their minds and THAT is frightening. I used to be one of those women and I had to get real with myself. No bullshit, no excuses, just me sitting in the discomfort of realizing I didn't love my natural hair. NOW (6 months later), all I wear is my natural hair and I wouldn't have it any other way. I am in love with it and I'm never going back to wigs or extensions. Please do not stop making this kind of content. We need your foot on our necks like this!!!!

[@FineNaturalHairROCKS]

YES!!!!! THAT part! 👏🏾🙌🏾

[@fatimamanneh9432]

Yes it is very frightening

[@jomae647]

Something abt wigs always bother me. Like “girl u jus gonna glue that whole Europe woman hair on top of urs, talk abt oppression” but I was always more incline to accept braids and perms. I guess I just got called tf out now too

[@SweetAurora24]

Same I don’t want to rely on putting something to cover up my hair

[@Naturallyrose86]

For this right here.

[@Scentedearthnaturals]

The "do your hair" line is the worst.

[@sigh_yuri]

cuz its already done!! 🗣️

[@n.n8991]

Listening to actual curl specialists and not random youtubers who happen to have long hair saved me so much time, money and energy.

[@sigh_yuri]

this!!!!! 👏🏽

[@Thenormalguy101]

thats why i love manes by mell

[@joinapalm4048]

I forced myself to wear my "4c" hair shrunken for months and felt really ugly in it, borderline facial dysmorphia until I realized it was because I was used to my ears being covered by my hair. I started combing my afro in a way that came just over my ears and viola! I fell in love with it. I especially feel so light and beautiful and effortlessly unique because rarely is there ever another person with that hair texture around me, wearing it loud and proud. I got braids again for a bit but I already miss my natural hair so much, which is a great feeling, rather than my norm which was feeling incomplete without braids or something "done" to my hair.

[@queenmisanthrope]

Aww ❤

[@pyromancer__]

This video reminds me of my first years of growing my "4c" I wore wash n gos 95% of the time. They said my hair is dirty,I don't comb it, I look mentally ill and all other horrible words they can cook up but now it's long and big they sing praises.The same natural hair issues are prevalent in south Africa too

[@smg3250]

That's why the majority of natural hair videos are telling you how to grow your hair faster. Even if they say it's about embracing the hair, it's never considered beautiful until it's long

[@remigal899]

@@smg3250right

[@victoriasvibesss]

Thanks for sharing. After the first few years of wearing it the way you did. How did you wear it as it grew out?

[@pyromancer__]

​@@victoriasvibesss Now I wear more protective styles but I do go back to wash n gos from time to time

[@sigh_yuri]

exactly this!

[@fatimamanneh9432]

Just think how much money black women could save if they stop depending on weaves or wigs

[@stephaniem2951]

It will put many businesses out of business too

[@fatimamanneh9432]

Yes that is the whole point I saved so much since I stopped buying hair to do my own box braids having locs for me is more cost effective we don’t need fake hair

[@kathleenking47]

You could get wigs in all types of texture Weaves, are more expensive

[@ramenaddict1676]

My biggest standard from now on is: IF MY HAIR IS WASHED AND CLEAN, IT'S DONE. I'm sick of being forced to cover up my latina afro in a hat every time i even simply go out for an appointment. I am sick of being made to feel like shit for not being forced to destroy my hair every week or every other week since childhood. As much as i like having short hair for easthetic reasons, im casting out the idea that im doing it to "manage it easier". In fact im growing it out this time anyways.

[@Thenormalguy101]

all i do out the shower is leave in conditioner (aunt jackie one). so glad i found it, its a one-and-done product for me

[@Thereasonyoudontlikeme]

“Latina hair”…..🤔

[@laurendaley7981]

what is a latina afro?

[@Thenormalguy101]

@@laurendaley7981 just goto google images and type brazilians. plenty of diverse hair textures in latin america

[@shelbyspellman3046]

I just spent 3+ hrs doing my natural hair . When I tell you any event that says : “no natural hair” doesn’t even understand the patience and love that goes into it …so like you said : I’ll gladly not go

[@smg3250]

I won't lie, you called me out a lot. Especially on the goals because 1. Yes, I limited myself based on the chart 2. Yes my goals were rooted in a beauty standard Unlearning the black hate is gonna take a while. Keep holding a mirror up to us, sis. Keep saying what no one else wants to

[@sigh_yuri]

and lemme tell you, it’s impossible for me to call yall out without calling past me out. thats the only reason i’m able to say what i say. best of luck in your unlearning journey, you’re being rooted for! 🙌🏽

[@mekaartstudy]

PREACH! I wear my super thick hair in basic plats and put now and two or 6 braids not for growth but so I can have a break for s few days from bombing my hair. I am done chasing growth in hair, it's ridiculous.

[@Cur1ocity]

My mom at new years dinner like "oh but you looked so good in long braids!" like lmao MISS ME WITH THAT in 2024!! Short, bunched, and HEALTHY in 2024 only!

[@sigh_yuri]

lol i had smth similar happen from my mom a few years ago. "your hair looked so good when i was doing it." and it doesn't look good now? (it didn't, but it needed to heal and grow from the damage as a result of her braiding it all the time)

[@Kedesh14]

Hair is hair when taking into account the biology of the hair follicle is so true. That’s why I can use a product that’s quote unquote for Caucasian hair and it works well for my Afro textured hair.

[@sigh_yuri]

yes!!! both my shampoos and conditioners are for “white ppl hair” yet my hair can’t get enough of them.

[@RawSienna]

Yep. I use the it’s a 10 hair care products and they work wonders for my hair. I don’t use anything else! My mom loves the garnier fructis products for her hair.

[@okene]

​@@RawSiennaI'm a man(with an Afro) and I also swear by Garnier fructis! I Imported a carton from Europe last year😅

[@taylornikii]

Black women have this mentality of seperation from others. As you said we have a habit of believing that our hair can only do so much. I agree with everything you said in thie video because i had to learn first hand what i thought was truth, was not. Nothing you said was rooted in anti blackness because anti blackness is actually based on the assumption of not being able to do things due to being black. So thinking we cannot manipulate our hair in the same manner as non black folk is ludicrous. Because we can. Because hair is hair. The same proteins that make up white hair, also make up black hair.

[@TJ-uc8bb]

agreed. what's bogus is that afro hair is the most versatile hair type. there are waayyy too many creative styles exclusive to our texture to be inspired by, only for most of us to resort to _wigs_ :/ . I pray this is the year most black girls realize how intentionally we were designed!

[@davichigbue1835]

I knew I was going to be a locked in fan when I saw those comments under your reposted video on Insta about braids not growing your hair faster. When the only thing somebody has to say back is an insult on appearance, you said something that is true and uncomfortable. All those "bald headed" comments told me everything I needed to know

[@sigh_yuri]

thanks so much for your support!! ♥️♥️♥️ the word bald has a completely arbitrary meaning in the community now

[@davichigbue1835]

@sigh_yuri It 100% does. If you say something somebody disagrees with, you are automatically "bald" whew!

[@cookiekun7595]

Dedass like a week ago my aunt came in our house to wash her clothes and iron. I finally walk out of my room to feed my stomach and the first thing she says to me is "what are you going to do with your hair baby?" I turned and said pardon and she said "what are you doing with your hair?" Mind you my hair is out in the back and up in one on top because I didn't feel like pulling my scalp in two different directions and liked the one on top. Also IM NOT GOING ANYWHERE, I'm in my own home. I told her "umm nothing what do you mean? I'm doing nothing I'm in my own home why I gotta do my hair?" She shut up😑

[@sigh_yuri]

i also have to deal with these comments. my cousins do as well, cuz when we're AT HOME, why do we care what our hair looks like? "your hair looks wild" okay, and?

[@nickimillennium]

If you have 4 type hair, you don’t need straight edges. You really don’t. No really….you don’t. 😒

[@sigh_yuri]

PLEASE!! 👏🏽

[@revdrmayog]

Natural since 1991... Glad to hear you saying this. And when I say "natural," I mean never processed or straightened, no weaves, wigs, or braids. Only my hair.

[@yegra]

That's so amazing 🥺. I have been bullied for my natural hair a lot but I still love it nevertheless. Also, I'd appreciate if you drop some tips and advice on how you achieved this feat.

[@Dbby888]

Because of you in 2024 I’m going to wear my natural hair and NO WIG! I use to hate my natural hair and I had midlenght hair. I hated it cause I felt like I needed to do too much to look good. I tried to feel confident but my fitness didn’t care for my hair and they speak I’ll of their hair which influenced my views if hair. Until I realized my hair doesn’t need to be long to my waist. And that my hair is beautiful. I wore wig and neglected my hair HORRIBLE, it started breaking the wig was not good for me. So now I’m going back to zero learning the basic, even if it’s hard

[@sincerelysandi]

❤

[@sigh_yuri]

periodddd!!! cuz what do we ACTUALLY need waist length hair for, and why is it only considered long enough when it's waist length??

[@misskennedydenise]

As a woman who has been natural for 3 years, I can say that I have, unfortunately, experienced the mindset that feeds a disparaging perspective of how natural, 4c hair should appear in a public eye. This also trickles down in our community where our family members, particularly women, would always use a relaxer to our hair because straight hair equates to beautiful, presentable hair. I fooled myself, believing that my relaxed hair was my "real" hair so many years, from when I was a child to my senior year in high school in 2020. When we were going through a pandemic, I was watching so many beautiful women with their natural hair on social media, and it had me questioned, "Do I have that hair?, "Should I cut it off?", and "How would I look with a small afro?" On December 21, 2020, I took a bold, yet worthy step into chopping my relaxed hair off, and began my natural hair journey. I have not turned back since. My natural hair is like a flower: It has and still is continuing to grow beautifully overtime with proper care and nutrients. I truly love your video because it details A LOT on the things that goes through most of our minds when we think of natural hair, and our dismissal when it comes to accepting the beauty of our natural hair.

[@nikkibee139]

I don’t wear wigs and I don’t use heat but LAWDDDD these knotless braids have me in a chokehold. You spoke so much truth, but hair is so personal and I’m ngl, it’s so scary to jump into it. I’ve worn my hair natural plenty of times and I just don’t feel as pretty in it because my natural curls don’t look like the full, voluminous kind I see in other Black women. My hair has been low density AND fine since I was a kid and it’s so difficult to find low-manipulation styles/technique that I enjoy.

[@sigh_yuri]

the best techniques come from the stylists that i linked in the description. they work on all densities, porosities, curl patterns - everything the natural hair community told us had to be acknowledged separately, the curl specialists have an all-in-one practice, it's very simple and very easy.

[@GizelleQuant]

Hair care became easy when I went back to basics and ignored the “natural hair community”. Fantastic video. :)

[@sigh_yuri]

same!!!

[@umuu2]

saiuri this content is 🔥 i too have been guilty as charged of “loving my natural hair” but proceeding to spend 95% of the time with braids on under the guise of “convenience and pragmatism”. this year i’ll dare to go farther and give myself a chance to love my hair the way it is, no add ups

[@sigh_yuri]

whoo hoo!!! i love to hear this!!! ♥️ check the description for curl specialists if you need help!

[@kathleenking47]

She needs big earrings on with short hair Its weird, when guys are wearing more earrings than women

[@fatimamanneh9432]

It takes time to learn our natural hair especially when it is kinky texture but it isn’t impossible i been natural since 2009 but like most black women i covered my hair with extensions the times I did wear my Afro I got stare at like I was a zoo animal even my own mother when she was alive asked why am I wearing a Afro it was out of style so kept wearing extensions (box braids) until I realized my hair was staying one length until one day I came across microlocs I installed them with plaits myself best decision ever i started with ear length natural hair now 4 years later my locs are past my shoulders with time patience & care now i get all the compliments not because I am wearing my natural hair but because it is long now some black people need to change their mindset

[@sls4170]

Microlocs/sisterlocks or locs in general is where it’s at! For me personally it’s the only chemical free and almost product free low maintenance style and perfect for my very prone to matting hair. Literally always get up and go and no worrying about if it gets wet. Just shake and go. No combs, it’s literally heaven!! My hair is about bra strap length and I’m currently installing micro locs with 2 strand twist. One of my favorite microlocers is Tykara Ann.

[@fatimamanneh9432]

Drknlovely has beautiful sisterlocs been watching her for years which made me want to start my locs need to have patience for locs it isn’t a journey for nothing

[@Ms9mmBeretta]

Honey, it was the "letting your hair type tell you what you can 4c in your future" and the talk about "overprotective styles" that got me. Sheer BRILLIANCE. And all the people coming for you, they LOVE their weave, they NEED their weave.

[@sigh_yuri]

“overprotective styles” is exactly what i will be calling them now! and yes i noticed that abt those ppl as well. most of them think im telling them they CANT wear them no matter how many times i say the words “options,” “choice” and “still.”

[@glamglam8347]

i dont like black women trying to create nuance between straight wigs and natural hair when there should be none. "why cant i do both" "i can like my natural hair and wear brazillian buss downs" why tho? do you see other non black women saying they can love their hair and also love wearing locs/4c weave/box braids? why is it so bad to say that we should get rid of the buss downs altogether? why is it so bad to only value AFRO centric hair over ALL OTHER HAIR TYPES? ESPECIALLY when other hair types do it to us? its just shows that they wanna hold on to those buss down for dear life. they cry about afro centric beauty not being on a pedestal but when i say stuff like "burn the bussdowns bc natural hair is better" they wanna say theres room for both straight wigs AND natural hair. do you see people with straight hair saying theres room for 4c?

[@moonbaby222]

thissss!

[@peltycrikts6990]

What, I'm in the boat with those women. I will like my type 4 hair, and still will rock Brazilian bussdown, whenever I want. Because normal women value hair as just that, it's meant to be an expression, not an identity. However anyone wants to wear it, is a personal choice aka preference. That's exactly why is dumb to state- "why is it so bad to say get rid of buss downs altogether". That's how you feel, literally a projection, which you should keep to yourself. As who are you to dictate as if you're some type of authority over others choices. Especially when you live under a rock, stating- "do you see non black women saying they can love their hair and also love wearing locs/4c weave/box braids?", being clueless to the fact individuals of other races also enjoy trying out afro styles and textures. Those people value apparently value 4 type hair. Though I will agree, about women complaining about why their not the beauty standard, yet not valuing the hair own their head. It's contradictary. Respect is given when it's noticeable, so those women should respect themselves first, be the change they want. Rather tha waiting for someone else to give the change.

[@ladybird491]

Exactly!

[@ladybird491]

@@peltycrikts6990 cool but the reason why you wearing that Brazilian hair matters and most of you won't admit the reason but defend it to the end because you don't want to be roasted for saying you are sick of afro hair, if that is the reason

[@chocolatte522]

Groupthink and identity politics are some very potent drugs. Something else to leave in 2023: thinking every other black person's choices and actions somehow reflect on you. They don't.

[@nonnieJ94]

I absolutely love and respect your boldness and courage! You are highly intelligent and very articulate. You definitely have a new subscriber in me. I look forward to engaging with more of your content 💕

[@sigh_yuri]

Thank you so much!

[@sealskin5221]

Girl, please keep talking about this!! You are opening the eyes of women my age as well. I'm 54 and have RUN from oils and butters in my hair and RAN towards washing weekly. My daughter has been set free as well. So, you are crossing generations of hair resentment and hair trauma. Keep it up.

[@sigh_yuri]

the freedom is mind blowing!! can't believe it was always supposed to be this easy! they marketed us right into product dependence and ran all the way away with our millions

[@gloobean]

Needed this - definitely a word on the self-othering black women do with our hair. I know we can’t change the past but we sure can change the future and end the toxic cycle of ridiculing or shaming our hair.

[@TSUYOMIchan]

I went to a very strict religious school where the leadership were obsessed with appearances. Hair had to be tied up. Anyone with slick loose curls or waves was not bothered by teachers for having flyaways because they would neatly sit at the sides of the face. Those of us who had more textured hair would be personally criticised and told to “fix it” by the principal if we wore anything other than the very tightest braids or our hair slicked back with gel. My friend with 4c hair was self conscious when her corn rows grew out and there was nowhere local to get them re-done. I also put my sister’s hair in very tight French braids, but due to health issues could not do the same for myself and was criticised almost daily. I only ever got compliments from teachers or other students when my hair was straightened. My sister still wears her hair straightened to this day because she doesn’t consider her tight curls “professional”. This all happened in Australia and the people I know who are affected by this are of several different ethnicities. Though it is not the same political climate as in the US, it is clear that people of colour are disproportionately affected here too. My best friend growing up had her white grandmother take her to the hairdresser without permission to have her tight curls chemically straightened. Her hair never recovered and was left thinner and with only a hint of waviness for the rest of her life. This was done to her at four years old when she was too young to even know what was happening. Sorry for the long comment, your video just made me regurgitate a bunch of sad memories. Knowing that my curls would be on full bushy display also made me very self-conscious when I wanted to cut my hair off and come out as trans. Thankfully today I have been learning to take care of my hair and my curls look great.

[@sigh_yuri]

this is definitely a cross-cultural, international issue. even in our home continent of africa, they're telling each other that in order to make a good first impression they need to press the hair. there's a Short on my channel abt it. i hate that you and your sister had to go through that, that's awful. if i ever entered that environment, you'd never see me there again.

[@lolaakintan5857]

I love the way you speak so bold and courageous and those hair puns 😂 Keep uploading more videos cause you are speaking truth. Watching your videos has made me realize the false things and ideas people around me has fed me about my hair as a young black girl. Being pressured to relax my hair or change it because it was not “attractive”. I can’t wait for your next video ❤❤

[@nypeach7144]

Young lady I love your talking points! The self hatred of our hair is real and I love and emphatically agree with all your points. It's a shame that black women come with the negativity! I've subscribed! ❤

[@stephaniem2951]

I have naturally thick and long hair (especially blown out) and wear my hair in its natural state often -mainly in braids (no hair or extensions added). Sometimes I feel obligated to wanna wear added hair or try a wig (so I am not manipulating my hair to do a type of style which I feel will be damaging to my actual hair) in order to fit in, but I don’t have to. I get lots of attention with my natural hair out too. Black women’s natural hair attracts a lot of attention (and I know that coming from a black girl myself). All in all, this video was very informative and explained it in a way that I often struggle to explain to friends/family or people who ask about my own hair as if there is some secret to growing thick long and healthy natural hair (which I believe is rooted in (low) maintenance-aka leaving it alone.) Thank you for this video!!😭💗💗

[@sigh_yuri]

low maintenance is definitely the move!!! this is the least i've done with my hair my whole thing and the most its grown in the least amt of time.

[@libraryofthelabyrinth]

I love your perspective so much. Black women need to rise up. I’ve been on this journey for the last couple years and it’s crazy to really look inward and see how deeply entrenched some of the things we’ve been taught about ourselves are. Even years into this journey, I still have to constantly fight with these feelings. I don’t care how long it takes, I’m determined to unlearn what I’ve been taught and believed for so long…about so many things…my hair, my face, my body, my skin, my gender, whatever. It’s so refreshing to see women like you supporting the movement with such earnestness. You remind me of another creator who went by the name of lipglosssssss who has since left the online scene. Just please keep doing what you’re doing. We need you!!!

[@butterflydecollette2688]

Girl your personality is everything in this vid! 😁 I have 4c "type" hair ad always encouraged to "do something with it." Swear if I get financially independent imma eithed lock it or cut it 😝

[@sigh_yuri]

thanks!!! i chopped all my hair off in 2021 and it was so liberating, i didn't have to do a thing to it before leaving the house except run a pick through it a few times 😂 ik what style i'm getting if i have a midlife crisis!

[@weese03]

i saw that first video and i thought her hair looked so cute like that. although i always wear my hair naturally i still get sad knowing i’m expected to put in more effort than people with straighter hair just for them to view me as being put together 😞

[@ladybird491]

Yup! I even notice it which is why I basically feel different about the black community now.

[@FineNaturalHairROCKS]

This is a wonderful, strong, and necessary video! I love the fact that you're spearheading a much-needed conversation about the negative conceptions a lot of people have about natural hair! This convo is necessary for us to move forward as a Community in 2024 and beyond.

[@kylasounique]

Thank you for being another black girl that speaks out about this. You've inspired me and I completely agree with this and am doing the work it takes to be confident in who I am in my natural beauty 💗

[@RoLee705]

This feels like a D’Angelo Wallace video for natural hair! Very interesting. Thank you for your content. I like how quiet your videos are.

[@alexaviafara.888]

YESSSSSSS

[@autumnwinter1462]

Woop woop

[@sigh_yuri]

lmaoooo thank you 🤣 yeah i used to think i needed to be louder to be engaging but i hate it when ppl yell for no reason, it only comes natural to certain ppl, and i'm not one of those ppl so i don't do it 😂

[@rumblbang3032]

I need an umbrella. Sista spittin.

[@sigh_yuri]

😂😂😂

[@winterbelle708]

you’re so fucking funny and this video is incredible 🙏🏽

[@sigh_yuri]

lol thank you

[@ladybird491]

Ms gorgeous lady TELL IT! I love you! Eating food on your blood type diet and putting the food of your blood type diet in your hair will grow your hair and make it healthy. I been natural for some years now. I have very tight and thick hair labeled 4c by the salons. We need to talk about African American women's addition to trimming and shampooing hair and then complaining that it don't grow. Eat and put foods in hair on your blood type diet and your hair will be healthy and grow.

[@thelingeringartist]

I really appreciate your videos. Please keep intellectualism and smartness alive in this day and age where people love to put their heads in the mud.

[@coilyyy]

I need more videos like this. Youre opening my eyes.

[@pamalafloyd2704]

Thank you for your open, honest and transparency. Its what we all need🙏🏽

[@ZalinaW]

Good way to start 2024

[@SugaBee]

This disdain..😅 I love this channel.

[@sigh_yuri]

lol thank you! 😂

[@Naturallyrose86]

New subs here! I talk about not letting society tell you your hair is not beautiful on my channel aswell. I am a new KZbinr and I know this fight is not easy but i am ready for it. Our hair is beautiful and NO we don’t need it “get it done for special event” our natural hair can go with us just the way it is to that event. I love your channel

[@bruh.8274]

i argee with everything in this video, I'm currently 17 with 4c hair and I shaved my head last year in April 2023 to start my self love hair journey and I've been told everysingle time that I can't go with my natural hair to an event or i get weird comments that discourage another girls simply because I don't wear makeup and walk around with a mini afro now, and it doesn't make any sense. (I'll still like makeup and wigs btw!) And when i shaved the head last year.. ohh boyyy . I got laughed at BADDDD.but it's so freeing i just brush it out and walk out the house. It took me agesss to get the confidence to do that and i finally can❤‍🩹

[@smg3250]

I've been there. For me, it wasn't a choice. My sister tried to relax my hair but I told her it was hurting. She said beauty is pain. Turns out, it had burned and damaged my scalp and I was bleeding. I had to cut everything off and start again. It was so hard to feel feminine and pretty because I'd been raised believing long, straight hair was beautiful. I was in secondary school and got laughed at which made it even worse. I couldn't even cover my short hair or wear a wig. It was only in university when I realized that nobody in my family actually knows how to take care of hair. That's when the natural journey really started.

[@sigh_yuri]

i cut all mine off in april of 2021. my hair is pretty sensitive to damage so i never got the chance to see how much hair i'm actually capable of having for all those years prior. it'll be three years in april and places that used to be sparse are now almost completely filled in.

[@Zarii_B]

Black men need to stop calling us chia pets too 📣 lol. While their hair grows the exact same way

[@sigh_yuri]

okay!!! 🤣

[@savinggift158]

Stop saying horrible things about black women Ugly words

[@lbelle202]

Young, educated, wise, and naturally beautiful. Refreshing!👏🙌

[@Dani-hu3sl]

Sis you’re doing God’s work! New sub💕💕🇯🇲

[@sigh_yuri]

♥️♥️♥️

[@mxbvibes]

I’m rocking the Freeforms and I wholeheartedly agree, our insecurities speak loud and when I went home for the holidays, my family spewed out this rhetoric “You need to cut it off” “You got spiderwebs in there” “That’s not attractive” “I’m embarrassed “ “Be a clean cut black guy” Meanwhile my sisters haven’t wore their natural hair for longer than a week. At this point it’s comical, but nonetheless, I can see the self hatred .

[@sigh_yuri]

spiderwebs is insane 😭😭😭

[@threejeans6084]

For such a time as this! I recently got real with myself and went back to wearing my natural hair. I wore wigs following postpartum hair loss for over 4 years ago with a false pretense that I was allowing it to "grow back." I hid under this excuse for many years without proper real-hair care and as a result caused more harm than good. I had and received mixed views about how my hair "looks" now and NOTHING could prepare me for the support my preteen daughter gave me. She's constantly telling me how beautiful my hair looks and LOVING my hair exactly the way it is. Her hair is beautiful, natural (never chemically processed or straightened) and oh so healthy. I'm thankful that she's always had a healthy relationship with it. I raised her that way and did not exemplify the same. On this journey to embrace not the new me but what always was truly me 😊! Thank you for sharing this, be well.

[@sherricason1548]

If you want to go natural, find you a hair stylist that specializes in natural hair! I get a lot of compliments and refer several sistas to my stylist. I love that you speak truth!

[@sigh_yuri]

i've left a bunch of ppl in the description as well!!

[@IamCheyennecheyenne]

PREACHHHHHH 😂❤❤ the self hatred is so wild n sad

[@MyInvisibleStory]

Keep posting! You are one of the voices the black community needs. You are unapologetically you and I love it. 🫶🏾🔥❤️

[@simonewright283]

What are your thoughts on the whole “no butter no oil” causing damage thing? Do you think the damage was due to no oils, the curly cuts, or something else?

[@victoriasvibesss]

I feel like it depends on your lifestyle/ hair routine.

[@bookaholicSimi]

Something that some people may not be thinking about is harsh detangling. I cannot use that Felicia Leatherwood brush that is often recommended by stylists on my hair! Some of us may want to be very careful when choosing a detangling tool that works for our hair.

[@sigh_yuri]

the damage is actually due to the oils and butters. when you put heavy products on the hair like that, it suffocates the hair and it can't get adequate water. that dehydrates the hair, and unchecked dehydration causes damages cuz it makes the hair brittle, so it breaks off. i'm truly perplexed as to why ppl keep trying to insist that curly cuts are damaging bc they're done with the same professional shears that other cuts are done with. they cut the hair clear across, a stylist would have to try really hard to intentionally damage someone's hair just by cutting it. a curly cut is just a cut for curly hair. the reason why they think it "damages" it is bc it's exposing the damage they insisted was not there.

[@sigh_yuri]

detangling is also abt how much water and conditioner is used on the hair during the process. if it's not done properly, it doesn't matter what kind of brush you use, you're not gonna have a good time with it. there's also other techniques to learn specific to the FL brush.

[@bookaholicSimi]

@@sigh_yuri yeahhhh, never got the hang of that brush, unfortunately. Haven't used oils and butters in about a decade, and was one of the earlier participants of the 30 day hair detox back in 2016. I definitely think technique, recency of trims, water/conditioner ratio is important...but what I probably should have said is that can be super easy to mess up those factors, especially technique. It's just not for me - have had better success personally with the tangle teezer and wet brush.

[@phonecharger6789]

I live in a black dominated country and yet girls still hate 4c💔

[@Only1Jim]

I Read the description. And I want to say at 31 you just gave me so much confidence! You are beautiful and thank you so much for using your gifts to reach all who needed to be reached

[@sigh_yuri]

whoo! you’re welcome!

[@SpiritVines]

I understand the frustration because people would say my hair was too big when I sat in front of them to see. I went to a predominant white charter school. It was annoying. Made me hate it. Before my hair was loved for how fluffy it was and I would still wear it like that in puffs now and probably dye it if I could rn. I have locs It was my choice, they're beautiful and when I was in class people could see over me. It looks curly still just in little vine shapes. I love it :) If you're looking for your hair to fall and to keep natural hair I recommend locs or learning how to French braid your own hair or put it in cute puffs or stmg. Wear it in an afro if there's no one who sits behind you in 7th grade. Highly recommend going natural and just using water and shea butter. Never going back to the blowdryer.

[@hopperskid381]

Unrelated but i love listening to you talk. It scratches my brain. I could literally listen to you talk for hours🧍🏽‍♀️💗

[@sigh_yuri]

awwww thanks 🥹🫂

[@TheMspoodle2]

I agree with her video. She is so humble and wise.

[@winterspringsummer9561]

I’m Jamaican (dads side) and Puerto Rican(mom’s side). My Puerto Rican mother didn’t care for my hair. I never learned how to care for it either (she’s half Spaniard, 100% white passing and chose to have my twin and I as accessory mixed kids) and put relaxers in my hair and took my twin and I to a salon constantly. I’m 22 now and for the past 3 years I’ve fallen in love with my hair after doing a big chop on my EXTREMELY damaged hair. I’m talking Britney bald. I loved every phase. My hair is at its longest and healthiest and thickest now. I use natural products and Indian hair care products. I know what works for my hair and I always wear it naturally. I hate wearing protective styles because it takes too long, too expensive, and overall isn’t me. I’m an SDA Christian and I will wear nothing but the crown God gave me. I wish others felt the same about their hair.

[@darkskintarot.]

I just found your channel today. I agree with you and am sorry that you stepped away AND I do understand. I wish you the best in all your endeavours.

[@sigh_yuri]

Thank you so much!

[@aden-lj7wb]

preach! and it is so sad how the hatred black women have towards their hair is truly global. My Nigerian aunties told my mom, who is Ethiopian to start perming my hair when I was around 5 years old! It wasn't until I was around 16 and I realized that the hatred I had been fed about my natural hair from nearly every black woman in my life was wrong. But even then, the youtube natural hair community was full of content set on over manipulating kinky/coily hair and lathering in a million and one products. When I finally went natural when I was 18 no one in my family supported it me, and it wasn't until my hair got thick and big that I started getting compliments. It's sad how much progress our community still has to go to dismantle these anti-black beauty standards but hey at least we getting there lol.

[@Jadawada935]

I love my natural hair and didn’t start loving it until my late teenage years. I mainly wear knotless or box braids because doing it everyday in college is NOT IT 😭

[@manukahonei]

You don’t have to do it everyday

[@destinyd2210]

this was an amazing discussion

[@nissimusic2]

I have had natural hair for 15 years..its down my back I am fed up of it going to relax it and chop it into a mullet... its just hair and more importantly its my hair, will do whatever I want, black people really need to leave hair shaming in 2023

[@notLam]

I love when melinated people wear their natural hair. How much longer will it take for melinated people to love themselves and stop being like others? I'm glad you brought this to YT! I think if more melinated men speak on this in favor of natural hair, maybe more women will stop wth the wigs and weaves, just maybe.

[@maameyaansiah3154]

Well done ❤👏👏👏👏

[@cheryll.g.6958]

The gasp of outrage! 😂 I love it here.

[@sigh_yuri]

😂😂😂

[@thedolllovett]

11:43 i knew you was finna spit realness after u read that comment. i love ur videos

[@sigh_yuri]

loool i try to let comments like that pass like leaves in the wind cuz ik that ik what i’m talking abt, but sometimes my gut tells me “nah girl you need to address this one”

[@Lowkilitt]

I haven’t straightened my hair in years! Like middle school but I’ve cut my hair off about three times and I love my natural hair. So much so that I feel guilty when I want to wear a protect styles with weave.

[@tothekookyfellas]

My friend’s mom is like this. Their mother refuses to let them wear their hair natural. Their sister, who is now grown, likes to wear her hair natural sometimes because her mom never let her. My friend’s natural, coily fro, is BEAUTIFUL!! Me and all of my friends have tried to encourage them to wear it natural. They were like “I want to, but mom hates natural hair.” Their mom only tolerates twists or weave. I recently cut my locs after about 10 years (most of my life lol). When I DID have my locs, my friend was very envious of me because they really like them. They want locs of their own. But one again, mom won’t let them have it. Mom would rather relax and straighten their hair or spend a fortune on weave and synthetic hair. It really pisses me off, so I promised my friend that I would start locs for them when we graduate, given we are still friends at that time

[@Nokabro]

Thank you for these refreshing and fully open takes.

[@angieinthecity]

I recently loc'd my hair. Its almost at my shoulders (from being natural for a decade) but because it's slightly still at an awkward phase I was about to throw to get a big to go out for a dinner. Then I thought to myself why should I spend $28 on a wig when the hair on my head is find. I can make it work and I sure as hell did. Also as a black actress I see representation for us goes to the women with the loosests curls majority of the time. Either she'a light skin with loose curls or unambiguous with looser curls. I have very fine curls 💁🏽‍♀️ There's a level of texurism for sure

[@imayabrown]

So so important, thank you for speaking on this topic

[@hooraym5500]

24 years now natural. all my life hiding my hair. I cant chop it, cant shrink it. the only thing i am looking forward to is Locking it. Goodluck everyone.

[@mekaartstudy]

I experienced anti "4c" hair hair guidance. Someone on my chsnnel asked my daughter to do a hair channel cause her hair is long and lose curls and stesight yet they never asked me and i have a healthy tight curled "4c" fro type hair, so i basically was not qualified to have a hair channel. I am labeled 4C but i dont label i just do low porosity.

[@FemmeFatalV]

ayeeeee. Shoutout TN! I love supporting people from my hometown 🥰

[@thecoolintroverttv8381]

And we love you for being the voice of reason we needed all this time😊❤

[@BlackPanther-nz1qe]

Speaking facts sis 🙌🏾❤️

[@TheOfficiaEboniMonae]

This is the first video i've seen by you and it's straight facts. You're hilarious, loved this!

[@angielu3273]

Love you WISE ONE

[@kenpachi465]

Even African tribes have hair standards and well-groomed

[@TheJarlath9]

i have dreads and same people at first where like hmm and i just ingored them now they got used to it

[@Valentino016]

I was so done with my hair . I hate it I want it to burn it. But this vid gave me a little hope.

[@sigh_yuri]

check the description!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@216Nevar]

PROTECT & APPRECIATE THIS GODDESS PLZZZZZ!!!

[@sigh_yuri]

🥹🥰♥️

[@Ms.Byrd68]

You do have to take care of your hair. You can't use being a 'tight curlee' as an excuse not to take control of the _basic maintenance_ required to keep your hair & your scalp healthy. Loving the hair that comes out of your head doesn't mean you get a 'free pass' not to take care of your hair. Let us not go from one EXTREME to the other on this. Your hair doesn't have to be long to be 'healthy' it will grow as a CONSEQUENCE of good health. Your curls don't have to stay DEFINED to be healthy, styling does this for you, but even this you shouldn't OVERDO! Your hair doesn't have to be constantly COVERED or STRETCHED to be healthy, in fact both these things can lead to a form of ALOPECIA. You do have to COMB (or brush) your hair! Protective styles worn too long or never combing your hair can cause it to MAT... THAT IS PAINFUL!!! You don't have to spend all your COIN on your hair, find a good shampoo & conditioner. Understand the 'Science' of your hair & only purchase what you need to keep your hair HEALTHY. I don't care what your texture, length or curl pattern is... YOU DO HAVE TO PERFORM BASIC MAINTENANCE ON YOUR HAIR.

[@IamCheyennecheyenne]

For sure thanks for creating your channel and this video specifically, I feel itssss such an affirmation to start my channel finally.

[@sigh_yuri]

period! you betta do the damn thing! 👏🏽

[@raeunderpressure]

I live in the middle of nowhere bumfuck Oklahoma, so I know very little to nothing about this issue, but I love your content! Keep it up!

[@cas.made.it.]

You have a beautiful mind. thank you.

[@cmg25]

Great channel. Great points. Although, I’m excited for the post shorn heads versions of outlandish dystopian wigs.

[@shopwithleslie]

I just found your channel and subscribed. Well spoken content. I look forward to binging.

[@puppetsenpai739]

Hi Saiuri, love your vids

[@sigh_yuri]

thank you!

[@puppetsenpai739]

@@sigh_yuri ❣️

[@asiaashon4332]

I subscribed soo fast lol

[@MT-yx5cu]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽Subscribed! 😄

[@brionabragg580]

I need you to do a video on hair hygiene cus why is going weeks on weeks on months of not washing hair normalizedddddddd

[@sigh_yuri]

oh its ABSOLUTELY coming. already got it planned, its just spaced out cuz i dont want my content to just be abt hair

[@Deemelanin7]

Amazing video- from the uk