Dottie Baynham, Cate Parker and Sam Settle - Enneagram Type 9 - The Mediator - Iain McNay

[@anntoner5719]

There is a very great difference between a healthy nine (i.e. a 9 who is in touch with their anger and their feelings, and who has learned to deal with conflict) and an uhealthy nine. Less aware nines have a deep resistance to their own desires, but when nines grow they get more in touch with their own desires and learn to allow them in their life.

[@Catsclawful]

I am a pretty strong 9 w1. I totally relate to the feeling sleepy when I am challenged. GREAT video !! thank you.

[@katharosaletheia]

I find this series of videos about enneagram extremely instructive. I learned on my skin that finding one's core fear is not an easy thing to do, it requires courage and potentially someone to guide the journey. These videos were really helpful. Thanks.

[@richardmolloy5343]

Brilliant video. I can identify with everything the participants shared. I start to enjoy the feeling of my anger and I am now able to put it to good use. If I get angry enough I am able to move mountains. I have to come to realise that I love people and I am able to sense what their "issues" are and how I can help them. It's actually wonderful being a 9 so long as I work to transcend its fixation of Laziness by practicing Right Action.

[@farinachinoy3041]

Love being a 9! They are so warm and likable. I just want to remind them of their worth!

[@JackelineMartinsMS]

Very interesting video, thank you! I'm a 9w1 and what I like more is observing their ways of speaking... it's "soft" and reticent in some way.

[@mark1983peace]

When 9's are healthy, they're just amazing!

[@conscioustv]

The transcript of this interview is available to view here. www.conscious.tv/text/36.htm

[@alert-mercy]

Type 9 and infj :) this is all so interesting...I often ask my friends to test themselves so we can all gain more insight...or more questions which is always fun ;)

[@jenniferlaprees1985]

I relate to the anger they are talking about around 29min mark. Literally the only time I've blown my stack, was when I've been shocked into the emotion anger. Something happened that was so beyond the pale for me that I didn't have a single hit second to diminish or deny it's presence or my own devastation. It needed to happen. But god, it was awful.

[@Partofthewallpaper]

How can you not like a type 9? They are just so likeable and huggable xD

[@MonkeyPrinciples]

The problem I have experienced with the 9 as a peacemaker, is that they transfer their habituated self denial tendency into their attempts to create peace. Very problematic when real difference exists between people.

[@MoyaMorrisEnneagram]

Marvellous interviews....well done Ian and panel

[@twhitten828]

9's unwillingness to deal with anything "negative" causes a premature spiritual exultation, that excuses them from any responsibility. This creates a huge burden on those who must deal with the 9 on any practical matter. This causes resentment and eventual abandonment of the 9. Their rose colored view of the world blinds them from the anger they refuse to deal with but project onto the world. 9s are very "nice" people and good company as long as it remains on a shallow & emotional safe distance

[@jenniferlaprees1985]

twhitten828 that has been very true in my own experience as a nine. "premature exultation" trying to skip the painful parts of life. As I've learned more about the very real vice that I hid under an easy-peasy exterior it has been equal parts relief and heaviness. I don't care about people nearly as much as I though I did. I just pacify them so they don't bug me. It's cynicism that is the root of much of my behavior, not a desire for peace. I don't think people are worth getting into a lather about. The liberating part is, that at least I know what is real. A lever and a place to stand no matter how small.

[@Dizzeegaskell]

I resonate with this. I had a period of "I'm not the doer" which felt great, but I never really built a healthy doer to begin with and it became recklessness.

[@Dizzeegaskell]

@@jenniferlaprees1985 pacifying people! Yes! I'm now starting to feel uncomfortable staying on the shallow/superficial level with people, a fear of "if I'm real with the person, I might be rejected"

[@MParentWetmore]

@@jenniferlaprees1985 Wow so eloquently explained. I agree so much. People would say 'you're so good' to me and I'd be 'not really'

[@lorirees4248]

You may abandon the 9 but we have already abandoned you. Your burden is your perception or story.

[@4theloveofgrace]

9s shall inherit the earth...sweet people who underestimate their worth on this planet...at times ,,,yoga has helped this 9 find a grounding point or foundation to stand on which helped ease the anxiety to be Everything to every one...

[@iloverumi]

i've been waiting for 9! thank you!!!!

[@ShrinkTalks]

Thank you so much for presenting this information. Wonderful!!

[@DreamerDebora]

Great interview! I am a 9 too! I can understand myself better now. thank u!

[@marcaurel9322]

Ich sehe mir gerne diese Enneagramm Videos an, hab jedoch festgestellt, dass ich mich durch die Darstellung jeweils eines Typs überall wiederfinde. In dem Buch "Wer du wirklich bist" von D. Rathmer sind Übersichten, wo ich auf einen Blick alle 9 Typen vergleichen kann. Das hat mir letzendlich den Durchbruch gebracht und Klarheit verschafft.

[@Dizzeegaskell]

We also really like that same haircut...

[@romclater8448]

34:55 hahhahhaahahhahahahaha too funny, nines are amazing

[@photent]

Dottie seems like she could actually be a 2 to me. At the very least I get a different vibe from her. Maybe she has an 8 wing but honestly she just seems too on point, energetic and focused for a 9.

[@anetenaruska8654]

+photent healthier? And possibly a w8. I relate to her out of the whole bunch the most.

[@Senaul]

audacity it probably has to do more with extravertedness. I am an ENFP 9w8 and I can reflect a lot of myself on her. I also want to add that you can't blame people for giving the w8 a title of being more energetic than the w1. When the w8 embrace tap into this anger his whole demeanor can be felt in the entire room for example.

[@HappytreeLuis]

She seems like and ExTJ 9w8 to me.

[@twelfthnight11590]

Great video! As a type 9, I have found meditation to be very helpful in my life. It's really the only thing that has been able to bring me down to earth. If you're looking for a book that explains meditation in a clear concise way, try Turning the Mind Into an Ally by Sakyong Mipham.

[@Dizzeegaskell]

In my experience it numbed me out even more at times. But it also lead me by the hand to the uncomfortable emotions that I'd been sitting on for so long

[@dowfhg]

this is so sweet :)

[@huntmshtick]

how come Dottie is more intellect valuing Cate extroverted and Sam composed? .has it to do with their wings or insticual variants?

[@jonathannadeau6218]

I have the feeling that this guy was the tallest monk in his monastery in Thailand.

[@kruti5255]

i think i am type 9.. i thank you soo much for sharing !!:))

[@sylvial1985]

I think type 9 is INFP

[@shannonwelch2177]

Sylvia Lopez It's the most common type correlated with it but not always the case. I'm actually a professionally tested ENFP 9w1 :p

[@anetenaruska8654]

+Sylvia Lopez actually Fi in general seems to not relate to 9s need to ignore how they feel AT ALL. Though I am an INFP 9w8, it feels confilcted and the 9 come sin more when how I feel or believe in has to be shared and stood up for. Instead I just leave the situation...

[@darkisfp5543]

Sylvia Lopez am isfp and am enneagram 9 😇

[@Softening.into.His.Glory.]

INFJ 9w1 here, but I really relate to the INFP and ISFP on several levels.

[@qwer55555555]

@mark1983peace i'm 9. Folks are telling me, that i'm very positive man. I've never noticed that. I'm just myself.

[@troglodyte3344]

you skipped type 8!

[@fernandatralala]

Kate looks so small beside Sam. It's sweet :)

[@4theloveofgrace]

-3 underradar

[@louea380]

Hmmm, I never thought ESTP's were 9's. All the ESTP's I know are very 7ish.

[@underradar]

This 6's love 9's :D

[@MagnaCartaTwo]

9ia narnia