Dr Gabor Maté | “90% of people are addicts; 10% are lying to themselves”

#gabormate #addiction #trauma Doctor Gabor Maté is an internationally renowned speaker highly sought after for his expertise on addiction, trauma, childhood development, and the relationship of stress and illness. His books include ""Scattered Minds: A New Look at the Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder"", ""When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress”, ""Hold on to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers” and ""In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction”. In his second How To Academy event, he explicates his groundbreaking theory of addiction and all it encompasses: from generational trauma to willpower, from evolution to modern civilisation.
In PART 1 of his How To Academy Event, Gabor addresses how addiction is an attempt to solve suffering, how heroin use can be safer than alcohol and smoking, why willpower isn’t the magic bullet cure for addiction, and how he was addicted to buying classical music.
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[@HowToAcademyMindset]

Watch more of Dr Gabor here: kzbin.info/aero/PLFIigLLitqDmBx70a-rY1n035Oz8HumeC

[@janie88ful]

Thank you 💕

[@abrahamhempel9260]

Imagine having him as your doctor as you were just getting into recovery. Its rare in the field to have such an insightful voice.

[@tangentort7987]

Many people in treatment swear by various professionals, like Lipton, Mate, Brown, and concepts like Power vs Force and the hidden messages of water, that’s only the top of my head an based on my current recall ;( 🤔😓😱

[@marcbaxter5996]

There is unfortunately only one Gabor. He could heal the world

[@9Remains2BSeen9]

She didn't want to answer the question. And she wanted to control the situation. Interesting. He handled it beautifully.

[@MalikaIC]

Addiction is hard enough but i believe that the guilt and shame,that most people feel, are what is the real problem when dealing with addiction...

[@justwatch902]

Brilliant man, he knows exactly why people are addicted, doctors please listen to his talks., the world would be a different place

[@josephedwards4325]

Couldn't agree more.

[@MilleyD17]

I strt to wonder tho every doctor talking to their patients.. noooo. This society needs to strt promoting the good information on this wonderful platform we call the internet rather than the next lgbqt statement made by a confused kid

[@martawerth162]

100%

[@skoll_5682]

100%. When I watched him for the first time watching Culture High it was like hearing a song being sung on your (addicts) behalf. Sublime analysis.

[@theageofgoddess]

💯

[@cynthiahoag2941]

Such a genius: someone who can take highly complex ideas and make them obvious to a "Duh!" level. The right man for the right moment in history.

[@amado5490]

Pity around 16:00 when Gabor tried to take it outside of the mere informational approach and engage in some human interaction the interviewer swiftly reined it in.

[@justbeegreen]

Perhaps outside their comfort zone, but that's okay if they don't feel willing to share, that's their choice.

[@amado5490]

@@justbeegreen True. I just regret that interaction did not happen, because that's where I think we learn the most.

[@ngoc.dakota]

@@amado5490 I agree. Actually he does this little exercise in many talks he's done with other KZbinr. I listened to one where the interviewer was very open about his addiction, which helped Dr. Mate to unpack the layers of why such addictions were there.

[@ImSimplyAHuman]

I would like to hear more too. And also why Dr Mate was self-soothing with his shopping 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@avrilduck8326]

Yes, she couldn't make it about her, as a human.

[@waterdragon5418]

At present, we still don't acknowledge emotional pain. If its physical we are all over it. Our healthcare system should be 75 percent emotional pain management n 25 percent physical to bring it into balance.

[@ImSimplyAHuman]

Oh man I wish I could remember where I just heard this but apparently the emotional pain centers in the brain are the same areas as physical pain. So this makes a lot of sense 🙌🏻

[@darlenealessio7609]

Beautifully said Balance emotional/mental/physical health. We are still far behind in acceptance understanding and compassion of anxiety During a pandemic essential workers were pressed stressed guilted harassed condescended..for acquiring anxiety as time went on during height of pandemic No insight and unprecedented these wonderful essential workers were stressed faced loss of several loved ones feared quarrntine that was a yo yo syndrome closing by health dept and when asked for time for for anxiety due to all this they were told they would require to see a Dr of work place choice for Psychological eval. How flawed is this in 2021 during such unprecedented times Discriminatory surely.

[@friedrich2107]

This.

[@charlessoukup1111]

WHO is all over it?? I am not and I suffer greatly from chronic pain but nothing effective that's available other than heroin. I am stuck in this trap...not a drug Habit, but a big drug dependency. At 75 and handicapped like this and would like to hang on like this for awhile for what I have left

[@tangentort7987]

That’s a joyful statement, please don’t melt because it it 🫠

[@nelsonferreira-aulasdearte]

Gabor Maté is brilliant. Shame the interviewer was not up to the task. In the UK people became emotionally unavailable and it seems this madness is spreading like wildfire.

[@georgemulford2910]

Yes I am from the UK and I think you right. I also think it makes people quite cynical and passive agressive in the UK because they repress this stuff. Its a shame she didn't have the insight to realise how beneficial for herself, the audience and every viewer of this video it would have been to engage in that process. I think that in itself shows the repression of these topics. I have empathy because i realise how difficult it is.

[@chrisgeronimo123]

She buckled when it came to herself! I love Gabor he's a truthful genius who really can help

[@ngoc.dakota]

I felt that too :) she's numbing a lot of her pain so it's hard for her to confront the question.

[@chrisgeronimo123]

@@ngoc.dakota don't we all do that you could see it hitt a nerve though🤗he's really good Gabor I like the compassionate inquiry it has really helped me with my own trauma 💪🇮🇪☺️

[@nicola1466]

That "stiff upper lip" attitude

[@ngoc.dakota]

@@chrisgeronimo123 yes we all do that at times 😊 And right there the patience and gentle response Dr. Gabor had towards her represents what he actually does, not pushing but trying to explain why he asked. Of course, there are phases each of us has to go through to eventually get to “I’m tired of hiding it. I’m open for suggestions”. So I understand why she had such a hard time there, just that the conversation could have been so much more helpful if she had gone with it 😊

[@chrisgeronimo123]

@@ngoc.dakota yes I felt for her you could see something got triggered !well said she would of got more out of it if she had just gone with the flow !have a great today 🤗all the best from Ireland 🇮🇪🇮🇪😁

[@punyashloka4946]

This guy has very good understanding of childhood trauma and addiction 👏

[@satiing]

At 15:20 -- It's painful to watch an interviewer not only couldn't understand the definition of addiction Dr Mate repeated a few times but also refused his request for audience to respond because she couldn't understand that at that moment (not half hour later!) is the exact right time to bring audience in for interactive engagement for an effective talk, especially since she refused to engage (it is totally fine not want to reveal personal stuff, but don't restrict others who want to engage!).

[@maddog7598]

He really hit a nerve there. She was visibly uncomfortable, which leads me to believe that there is a lot she is covering up. Then again, her deflection was making me (and probably a lot of other people) because she just seemed like someone so classically in denial. Either just say you aren't comfortable expressing your personal feelings in public or defer to the audience. But she seemed almost too threatened by his premise.

[@zombiehampster1397]

It's so sad that we need someone as brilliant as Doctor Mate to let us know that compassion and treating suffering people in a humane way is the solution to peoples trauma/addictions. It just shows how sick our society is in how we treat them like garbage and expect to have that magically solve the problem.

[@kp6215]

Correct about heroine as to alcohol or nicotine ! My father was pharmacist V P Sales at Eli Lilly said nothing should be illegal on drugs all should be legal only mental trauma children experience causes the problem. This is critical that caring for the human from birth to 8 years old that forms the human!

[@davidbabich806]

Thank you! I was surprised you didn’t let Gabor control his presentation more and allow the participants to answer his question.

[@ArtByHazel]

Thank God for doctors like Dr. Gabor who are compassionate and looking at the root cause of people’s deepest pain and suffering.❤️ Treat the root cause instead of symptoms. 🙏🏼 Praying for everyone who are working on overcoming their own chosen addictive patterns/behaviours. Be patient. Healing takes time and conscious responsibility.

[@dbrowne9076]

When you fix the root problem then someone isn't gonna make money, particularly the pharmaceutical organizations. They won't wanna do that!

[@jeannedarc7533]

@@dbrowne9076 This is why I've completely lost hope in this world.

[@jessicastewart42]

This man is absolutely amazing and we all should take a lesson or two ,,,, this is truth

[@kp6215]

Addiction if you suffer negative problems interfering with a functioning constructive life as I am addicted to internet reading news and always “learning something that I did not know before”! Connection with the world that is 24 hrs .

[@laraoneal7284]

Anything that distracts us from examining our family of origin dynamics. We must be self aware or we don’t know ourselves.

[@AimeeDenise_bct]

So much respect to all those helping others heal. It's a true calling. I absolutely found my purpose as well in telling my story from years of complete despair to healing my brain and getting my life back! 💟🦋🕉

[@sheila11227]

Hi Aimee not sure if you are still interested or not, but I am struggling with a past and present issue of addiction and emotional pain, wondering if it would be okay to ask for your story?

[@denise2169]

@@sheila11227 , I would listen to Dr Maté’s talks. He helped me understand my pain and lifelong depression, and now, I’ve been able to connect to my real self. As he says, look at yourself and inquire with compassion. We buried our emotions as young children because they were too painful, but now that we are adults, we can care for ourselves with compassion, go back into the painful memories and emotions, to be our own best friend as we release them. For me, this has brought many, many tears and anguish, but the amazing thing is that I can release them safely, as my own s Self and best friend would let me do. Know that you can do this - the process is amazing! I am finally ree, after listening to Dr Maté ‘s many talks.

[@nishasankaran]

Doc Mate ❤️🙏🏾

[@matilda4406]

Exactly! No molecular level, protein, enzyme or gene can tell you one's experience, nor heal one's experience

[@ShelaghBluebell]

Thank God for this wonderful man who is so clear about -where the origins of our pain come from that we so need relief from in substances or behaviours that are not in our best interests. Thank you Dr Mate. It's the truth that sets us free, yes! Breaking through denial takes a lot of courage, but with the help and compassion of one who knows, it can be done. And the reward? We get our life back!

[@livefreely255]

Wow, Gabor if only more people could see addicts as you do.

[@pixeldimond]

Just say, "I'm not comfortable sharing my own personal addictions on a live stream recorded video." No need for deflection tactics, it's fine not to want to share personal things to the world at large. It's just frustrating to watch you try to come up with an indirect way to avoid talking about your personal experiences.

[@katedawson6654]

I took sedatives for a year and it took me to a version of myself that forgot the past and gave me a little confidence. It all turned out really badly. But i think I will always be an addict. Taking the pain away is too appealing. But I'm avoiding it as much as I can.

[@Yotrek]

17:00 This is what Gabor does. He asked the same type of question to Tim Ferriss. To be fair to this interviewer, Tim also deflected of going to his childhood trauma as well, and instead choice a more current triggering event. It's troubling that if Tim Ferriss knows not to be vulnerable, or authentic in public what's the rest of us to do?

[@calebeveritt9556]

Yeah, but then a few months later, Tim spoke up quite publicly about his childhood trauma. All in its right time.

[@pixeldimond]

I think it's fine not to be comfortable with talking about your personal experiences on a live recorded video meant for the internet, what annoys me is that she doesn't say this directly.

[@kuibeiguahua]

Childhood trauma is the Monster in the Dark Forest. Few are ready to seek and face it, even fewer are ready to do so publically.

[@stefaniebrocker8084]

Thank you so much for your contributions!

[@shanedouglas6971]

When my mom died I noticed I constantly went shopping for cloths, I felt a sort of felt a relief but not lasting( of course)(( this was 22 years ago))

[@lucyweir5923]

I'm really interested to hear the interviewer's discomfort with having to face her own disclosure to addiction... I, I, um, let's move on ... 90 percent and 10 percent... this is the kind of work I do myself in relation to the ecological emergency. I love Gabor Mate... what an extraordinary man. Brilliant.

[@NJSingh-fh1kd]

This guy is On It, Luv it. He's awesome thank you Mate :)

[@drendelous]

no harm from caffeine? you gotta be kidding me

[@TheFire-fq8fx]

magnesium depletion is serious issue with coffee abuse

[@Limemill]

Caffeine and coffee studies are all over the place. Last time I read a human-readable compendium of such studies interspersed with personal anecdotes called Caffeinated, the only conclusion I could make was: it could be like this or the complete opposite depending on a ton of factors.

[@denise2169]

Dr Maté is brilliant! Yes, I agree with other comments that this interviewer can’t open up and allow herself to be vulnerable. It’s such a learning opportunity, for what Maté says applies to most of us, whether we know it or not.

[@hoytmorgen]

Thank you Dr. Gabor for your deep understanding, showing and sharing it with us through your whole being. You are a rare human being. But why? Maybe you ask yourself the right questions? I dont know. I feel something good listening to you. Luv

[@ania5038]

Yes. Everyone is addicted to something. Some addictions are worse than others but they are all inherently unhealthy.

[@robynhope219]

I am not addicted to anything. The closest I ever came to an addiction is food. I used to eat for comfort. Not anymore. I have NO addiction.

[@ania5038]

@@robynhope219 Are you sure? Nothing? Water, internet, phone, going on hikes, exercise, food, clothing, buying stuff, sex, smoking, drugs, reading, etc. There's no end to things that can be addictive.

[@robynhope219]

@@ania5038 water, lol...no, I am serious. Part of is that I am now an elder afflicted with fatigue...don't have the energy for addictions. Everything in moderation.

[@ania5038]

@@robynhope219 Well that is good and I wish you well.

[@robynhope219]

@@ania5038 thank u ania!

[@lynndenver7588]

I love this man, but the interview was awful sorry. What a golden man Infront of you . Yet your own stuff Uper lip couldn't handle the information. I from northern Ireland I hope this beautiful man talks to us.

[@AllToLoveTV]

THANK YOU🌟🙏🏼🌟

[@scalfinoable]

Clever man thank u

[@theageofgoddess]

Dr. Gabor Mate is 💯

[@martawerth162]

Truth. Truth. Truth.

[@mimiruby]

Fantastic video but spare a thought for the poor host who claimed she had no addictions (no compulsive behaviour that she considers harmful) and then look at the title the producers put on this film. The quote from Gabor Mate that 90% are addicted and the other 10% are lying to themselves - implying that their own invigilator has a distinct lack of self awareness. Strange decision.

[@24thCenturyBuff]

I think an instant identifier about whether you have an addiction or passion is if you have to lie about it, at all, in any capacity.

[@genesisx4]

Dr Gabor, great talk! Question. Would you say that I, as well as most people are addicted to work? I’m an engineer and sit in front of computer for 8+ hours a day, and lately notice it’s taking a toll on my health, so the negative long term consequences are there. But through work we’re creating significant value for society and make other people’s lives easier (and for future generations). Where do we draw the line between addiction that should be stopped, and a sacrifice worth pursuing?

[@gunnikr]

Creating significant value is debatable. I find so many jobs are “useless” jobs created to continue a materialistic economy. For example, you could afford one income families easily before primarily because most people in your subdivision would have the same boring stuff. Now with media and access to the world, everyone wants the latest phones and clothes etc. We eat out soo much! Why are there so many fast food options? Those create jobs but if we weren’t so spendy then maybe only some jobs would be needed more than others?

[@georgehaslam6780]

Brilliant man, you chickened out...

[@sstarjoyy]

Rehabilitation not punishment!

[@yinafrentz]

That's the big business of 21 century: telling in mass media that broken people are broken. Parents are, was, and it will be unloving because they first love their addictions. Should the zombies have children? Definitely not. By the way, once you survived a misery just let it go, keep yourself clean and do your best to live a safe life.

[@pessimistprime]

When a genius and scholar like Dr Mate can refer to his own addiction as a non substance addiction it reiterates his own internal struggle to hold himself as a "more powerful" person in the world it goes to show how easy it is to be addicted to power.

[@lorrycachia1791]

ok i well lisin to you cos i feel u are my yoda

[@harrietyounger6118]

Addictions are like money. You may have different currencies but it's all money. You can earn it,loose it you can give it away or it can be stolen. The nature of it is the same however the culture isn't. This is a metaphor that popped into my head as I was processing his idea. I have boderline personality disorder so addiction is something I have spent years breaking down this really gave me a slightly different view. My one question is, is anything without negative impact? I don't think anything is purely bad or good. I have battled self harm and I still struggle to believe it's wrong because although it does hurt my body to me the benefits out weight the negitive in my mind. I try to sort of except I'm wrong about self harm and hoped one day it would make sense. I haven't been hurt myself in years but in all honesty I still feel like it was more like a passion of mine. I wonder if any passion you have could only affect you positively.

[@dotendit]

No.... passion can go both ways. From passion people can kill or hate. Very passionate, ambitious, idealistic people can cause big harm.

[@harrietyounger6118]

@@dotendit can those things not be mostly attributed to money? And spending money?

[@dotendit]

@@harrietyounger6118 No, not at all. Pain, love or what we believe love, saving the world, trying to be only good in a polar world, power - it can be anything. And things can be placed on a range, going from habit to bad habit, from passion to uncontrollable passion and finally become things we are totally hooked on. I guess it belongs to people because we are no robots. We try to cope with our emotions and experiences but if we go too far we end up being a zombie instead of a robot. It's all balancing....and I think how deeper, earlier and bigger the trauma and pain, how bigger the chance to extremer response and coping. I don't believe in healthy and normal, at least not as an ultimate good. You see lots of broken and damaged people, in one way or another, but we often feel superior when our problematic is less obvious than that of our fellow humans and/ or we are less aware of it or it's socially more acceptable. I agree with the doc, 90 % has some kind of addiction and 10% lies about it. At least.

[@marymolloy562]

Evolution has given us a desire for survival and therefore many things that no longer work well in the modern world.

[@craigthomas4976]

Interviewer bottled it 🤣

[@lamontkhoza2856]

wondering if excessive daydreaming would be an addictive behavior

[@blossmayne]

yes. leads to or is a form of disassociation which is a drug in itself.

[@anniebootboot]

Wow..

[@kp6215]

Newspapers in the morning now the internet get my newspapers!

[@samusande6461]

❤️

[@cbmondello3294]

I've always thought that. They just have self control

[@ramsesclviii2584]

he understands the similarity and stresses on the similarity because his understanding is based on compassion and love. And love is the basis for the most part or the lack of addiction, passion and meaning, self control awareness and being concious and awakened to a certain degree of capacity. its quite understandable to well understand that many do not have addiction but if you think about it you are addicted to wasting time or doing things that do not contribute to humanity or serve a necessary utility for the people. We're prone to live our life on autopilot and that is because we let our animal instinct drive our behaviour and we lust after things, greedful behaviour and the usual concept of sinful behaviour on the list of bad behaviour are trivial yet they are just normal behaviour because it is hard to change for better and that makes us mediocre!?. to make much more sense outwork everyone or just be like goggins. we are slaves to comfort and despise suffering. we are in denial. we run away from most of our problems and waste ourselves everyday. take extreme ownership and responsibility it's hard but there is more meaning and helpful. It's not much to talk about being that irrelevant or not so harmful to self or others but at the end we do not find it that meaningful yet we do it and stay the same. Can this way of thinking help us point towards our lack of self control and observing such behaviours bring a change in all of us. Im guilty of all of these and i find that being compassionate but not lenient on such things could help us focus on things although it would be a personal act of change.

[@SocraticMethodGuy]

stylin goggles!

[@briangable08]

The crimes of theft etc., to get more drugs seem worse than the other addictions outcomes

[@thewatchers5930]

Gambling is worse Watched a relative hand over deed to paid of home 🏡 to cover $250,000.00 debt. Add liquor 🥃🍸 Cigarettes 🚬 Casinos are bad 🎰🎲🎮♥️♠️♦️♣️

[@gerry4281]

Why is Madeline Albreight in the pictures?

[@tiinarehunen5603]

2:42 until your guest is lintroduced. Too long.

[@laraoneal7284]

The medical field NEVER addresses childhood trauma or any psychological trauma and the ramifications of said trauma. I tell my medical doctors that I come from a trauma background.

[@Julian2Sounds]

🙏

[@Pabz2030]

Nope. I am definitely not addicted to anything or anyone. Never have been. So thanks.

[@EctomorphEcstasy]

I couldn't help but notice that the host seemed a wee bit rattled when asked if she had any addictive patterns, and was quick to change the subject.

[@Chris-ey7zy]

Maybe she’s feeling the pain of her addiction

[@VladyslavKL]

🕊

[@AliNabavi]

Who is the interviewer?

[@elianeluty2065]

passion or addiction/? ...

[@leannefalter]

What do you say to people who harming themselves? I suffer from onychotillomania for two years and no one is able to help me.

[@shellylindahl7030]

Or even….what happened even a very long time ago? The actual core event could be very old. Something two years ago could have triggered buried emotions. So I agree…what happened? But don’t necessarily stop at 2 years ago.

[@lorrycachia1791]

im sorry if i have affinded you in any way i highly respicet you in so many way u have opend ppl eyes up to the truth that evryone wont amite plz forgive me

[@realeyesrealiserealliesful2957]

I believe that were over stimulated from babies so we don't experience boredom where we learn to sit by ourselves and do nothing

[@thewatchers5930]

American doctors should have to take a semester of college in Dr Gabor Maté teachings. Imagine preventative medicine 💊💉💊 Ban alcohol and cigarettes while you're at it 🍷🍾🍸🥃🍺🚭🚬

[@JapanLovers]

OMG seeing this woman squirm and dodge this question like a politician is so cringe. Role playing is just ego. You got to be vulnerable if you want to venture into the spiritual realm. What happened here is called playing pretend.

[@dr.florence]

It's sad but telling how she avoids talking about herself. I am sure she binged on chocolate or netflix at least once in her life!

[@jonthomas9708]

I can think of far jucier possibilities! She chose not to make herself vulnerable to a horde of randomers; nothing wrong with setting a boundary

[@pixeldimond]

@@jonthomas9708 Why not just say it directly though.

[@shadowsofvenus]

The way this woman interviews with such control issues make me cringe. She should feel grateful to have the opportunity to interview such a brilliant man.

[@lorrycachia1791]

so plz forgive me it has takin me a long time to bealive in my self agian it like this year i have opend my mind and i feel i have sleep pearalases as wall i feel im being attact in all planes of my life so i have ask the qestion why mea and i think i know i was ment to go through al;l this for a reason one day i would like to help and open up the eyes of evryon e i have know that we must not douage eachh othere but we must motavat each othere to forful our destiny we are all meant love one anthere and we all shuld fix the tru probleam the systeam we leave in and that were i need you yes you my think im all about my ego but im not you are in as position to make change and i well wach from a destint and pretect u in my way cos i know thes world we live in and iv wach ppl who have tryed to change thing in the past u must only to breake down this systam that has become so empty there must be a older intalaeanget respicful and understanding person that the systam well have no choice yes i sead it choice to look at it self and hoplfuly in my life time change for thwe bitter of pplk on earth cos this life was meant to conicte with one anothere lurn make mistak full down and reach goles and thin help in stad of ignore ppl in a lower peasuition and keep theam down cos you arew afread of becomeing like theam i have all was ask my self a qeastion why thas the mewaniset guy all wat get the hot gearls and why do ppl that dont derserve a thing cos thay are not helping but destroying lifes get in front are on top of food chang i love the way you love clasical music my reaklly good addiction is movies speaceal movieas tthatr have a perpest and i wach movies and sertin sean over overe agian i herd you talk about weny the poo and i see that wat i getr \out nof movies you get out of bookes \

[@zeynepmalaz]

Can one be addicted to his/her own freedom? I was trying to find my addiction and all I could find was maybe I'm addicted to my freedom or my space. Is it possible?

[@Seanus32]

Well alrighty then, Mate ;)

[@lorrycachia1791]

i exapet from my realaty i have no one left my family and freind have turnd on me and deep down inside i know i have contbeated to this but my attintion was to coures harm speacaly if i new i well lose my brotheres wich i adore and reaspict but ppl haver intentionly ghone out of there way to minanipalat and turn evryone away from me i think thay are afade to bee ohnest of this entity as wall or this enternie has offerd tham something that well make tham do and lie hurt and problydo thing top me cos the deal thay have made but i have loved each one of this ppl cos deep dopwn inside i wont tham to be ok the last thing i wont is to harm, anyone for my issius that the last thing i wonted so i well let tham lie minipalat threaten me and anothere thing is i was put down so much bealiving i was nothing and i well never get anyweree and i derserv this deep down in side it has takin m e a lomng toi to bealive in my self why why when i hae loved mad did he put fear and no prid in me that iv always thourt i was meant to suffer

[@bradleybarker9409]

Oh

[@TheDavidlloydjones]

How to get an echo, make your voice go woing-woing-woing, hear yourself coming back at yourself: 1.) Step One: record in front of the hardest possible surface you can find. A solid wall interrupted only by glass windows is a good idea. That's it. That's all you need to do. Don't, for the life of you, have curtains or cloth-covered surfaces anywhere near you. These tend to make your voice clearly audible the way Maté's is.

[@justbeegreen]

Hopefully a learning experience. 😊

[@NJSingh-fh1kd]

This woman is blubbering cos she hasn't entirely understood what this dude is on about & she's not ready to get real. Why invite Mate to talk if your not ready to engage when he asks u a simple question? Do u see any of those patterns in u? Yes definitely. What it is to be human :)

[@shivadasa]

The craving IS the harm, according to the Buddha.

[@maryannribble3254]

Let’s not make a “guru” / perfect parent /god of him - by his own revelation - he must attend 24-7 to this work - inside himself- in his own life …. Best to us all as we follow our own unique path to wholeness - we have never lost this intrinsic part of ourselves …

[@joshuaking6534]

She's not the best interviewer for Dr Gabor

[@GM-yb5yg]

How horrified the host is baffling. How can you be a host if you're so terrified 🤣

[@LedgerAndLace]

She's not terrified. She's just delightfully British.

[@christinas.3461]

Confronting addiction is scary af. She probably wasn’t prepared for this level of self examination. It can really throw you off guard and send the body into fight or flight

[@angelabraun4055]

Check out Celebrate Recovery if you suffer with an addiction and want help with a 12 step program. It’s free and all over the country.

[@Jizzle76]

Posh lady didn’t want to play ball

[@jennyoshea1958]

Thank god she questions this stupid insipid man.

[@laraoneal7284]

They’re lying today also about the harms of vaping.

[@kp6215]

News papers in morning

[@John-nt7db]

Wow. The interviewer is so obviously troubled and unable to self reflect.

[@shipaskof8371]

Wow wish i waz that rich

[@jennyoshea1958]

Dangerous man for alcoholics and drug addicts. Not scientific and justifies and promotes blaming everyone and everything rather than the substance which is the main problem

[@ksfwfc2899]

She's so irritating and ill informed.

[@glensorensen4528]

The defeated hydrofoil intuitively arrange because news unknowingly crush besides a precious silver. acceptable, rainy sheet

[@UBI_NOW]

meat

[@rs5570]

Just skip the first 2+ minutes of this. I csme for Mate but had to leave.

[@getsomeherb3726]

Dr Gabor is stuck in the Victim Mindset.

[@brwa5176]

I think he is saying exactly the opposite. He is saying our circumstances affect us and by being able to recognize when they have affected us in a negative way, we can begin to overcome them. His example for himself was of compulsive shopping, and once he was open to acknowledging his addiction, he was able to let it go.

[@getsomeherb3726]

@@Psyminds LOL you got me, Rain Man!

[@marcbennet154]

this guy is very sick

[@frederiquebertin119]

no , they are all addicted to what distract them from who they really are .

[@robynhope219]

How dare you talk such nonsense? Many of us don’t have addictive personalities.