Dr Gabor Maté: "our society denies us autonomy and meaning"... and that leads to addiction

#gabormate #addiction #trauma Doctor Gabor Maté is an internationally renowned speaker highly sought after for his expertise on addiction, trauma, childhood development, and the relationship of stress and illness. His books include ""Scattered Minds: A New Look at the Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder"", ""When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress”, ""Hold on to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers” and ""In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction”. In his second How To Academy event, he explicates his groundbreaking theory of addiction and all it encompasses: from generational trauma to willpower, from evolution to modern civilisation.
In PART 2 of his How To Academy Event, Gabor explains how modern society and consumerism leads to isolation and distraction, which in turn leads to addiction. He also shows why the idea that we should blame parents is futile, and compares modern nuclear families with hunter-gatherer and indigenous communities.
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[@HowToAcademyMindset]

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[@angelacrowley1565]

Thank

[@rachelcaldwell330]

Gabor Maté has been a blessing to my life and to many others. If I knew about him year's ago I could have healed myself and I wouldn't be a 44yr old woman who has lived a life of drug addiction and more than 1 traumatic experiences. I am sharing his work with all I possibly can. Thank you for your love compassion and understanding

[@kintsugi2262]

IF i hear him , i cry .. its just automatic as if hez the only 1 in this world who actually knows my pain !! ❤❤😭😭

[@ngoc.dakota]

🤗🤗🤗

[@UmaYoga108]

i have the same reaction... it has been very cleansing...

[@beholden2874]

Exactly my thoughts as well

[@roddykelly7459]

Same 😭

[@kintsugi2262]

@@roddykelly7459 🥺

[@gillianbezett5140]

The planet so needs you

[@denise2169]

Yes, Dr Maté is right: many, many children these days are stressed, this includes those in ‘good’ families which are doing the best they can. As a recently retired school teacher of young children, I saw many children like this coming into my classes. I did my best to make sure that the classroom was a ´safe’ place for them to be, so that they could relax, make mistakes and enjoy learning. Our schools generally add to children’s stress by focusing on society’s very narrow view of success! Thank you, Dr Maté!

[@user-ot2uy2og9l]

Thank you for your work and heart

[@nabilc1667]

Thank you for your kind heart towards the traumatized children of todays society.

[@beholden2874]

I heard Oprah Winphrey on a you tube video state Teachers such as yourself can make a huge difference for children from dysfunctional homes who lack adult role models and support. Thank you for your service.

[@karenohanlon4183]

He is the genuine article. His understanding and compassion is sadly lacking in modern psychology. His theories should be taught in schools right at the beginning to help children understand themselves and others. 😎

[@UmaYoga108]

...and to parents if they missed getting trained in school ... I wish I had this information when I was raising mine.

[@rachelcaldwell330]

Absolutely true. If I had known about this man's informative knowledgeable compassionate amazing man I would have been able to heal years ago

[@vaishalivaidya7978]

We truly need many many more like him.

[@martaaldama6419]

I am addicted to Dr Gabor Matë.

[@caroltravis980]

Me, too!

[@UmaYoga108]

@@caroltravis980 me three..

[@nabilc1667]

Me four

[@McGuire123100]

@@nabilc1667 Me 5.

[@jeannedarc7533]

me 6.

[@davidwhite5438]

"When Society Becomes An Addict", by Anne Wilson-Schaef all her books are excellent but I plan to have this book buried with me. It had a profound impact on my understanding our sick, addicted society.

[@annel.bo.briggs]

I was scared of my mother's rage but I also did have a lot of fun in childhood outside the home. My father was nurturing to me mainly because I didn't have a co-sibling so I followed my dad around the house when he was fixing things and always wanted to help. My father made me feel lovable and my mother didn't. So, I got a contradicting message and I do recognize the pain of my mother's rejection but also the love of my father.

[@michaelpond813]

My mother was a horrible person who never matured and was obsessed with her childish pursuits that she felt would make her whole. Of course it never happened but left the shattered lives of mantas a result of her illness

[@punyashloka4946]

@@michaelpond813 she may herself suffered from childhood trauma.

[@harrietyounger6118]

I was sectioned at 16. People would say your young your smart and pretty why don't you want to live. I said because I'm not happy in this world. I would often say I'm not crazy the world is. One saying that came up alot in mental hospital as teen was if you weren't crazy when you get here you will be by the time you leave.

[@kimlec3592]

@ Harriet Younger : You're right. The world is crazy. Your family maybe was not nurturing - you're human. Not crazy. No one is.

[@DanielaRosenrot]

Gabor is such a wonderful human being 💜

[@ShelaghBluebell]

THank you, Dr Mate. for the courage and persistence that you have shown and still show in your life in teaching us what childhood trauma actually is,.Tthat there is no need to blame our parents, but just take up our own lives with as much courage and persistence as we can to let TRUTH become the path we walk, and LOVE. real love, become the music that we can dance to. It's a long journey, sometimes, with deep pitfalls and despair, but with each tiny evidence of progress at times, and with each little insight and ahah! experience, we walk into a light and love we never thought possible! Thank you, thank you, thank you...and God bless you for being who you are and giving us so much.

[@angelamossucco2190]

The absence of blame is beautiful and allows for self examination using compassionate questioning of the self IF ONE IS WORKING to understand ones own choices false beliefs trauma or what one was taught or prevented from knowing or stopped from doing by others who are traumatized. It is true that blaming yourself defeats the healing and ignores the trauma imposed upon the person who eventually went on to make poor choices in regards to the next generation. But only if the person is examining their choices and seeking to understand what false beliefs let themto either behave in harmful ways or to allow others (sick teachers ministra family) to mistreat.

[@kp6215]

He was on Democracy Now years ago and found his great books!

[@einsteindarwin8756]

I can’t find him on goodreads

[@kp6215]

Chemicals put into environment ! Please listen he is most wise!

[@punyashloka4946]

I understand the complexity of multi generational trauma but how can you just forget everything thing your parents did just to destroy your life completely 💔 😔 , left you broken, beaten, tormented and what not. The situation is worst for those who are sexually abused by there parents I can't even imagine there pain and struggle. I just hope people find there way to healing 🙏 💕 .

[@christinebadostain6887]

We need to grow up accept blame for wrong doing. Is "blame" now taboo? I do something wrong I must accept responsibility and take the blame. Apologize, rectify the problem where possible learn from mistakes and transform blame into wisdom

[@angelamossucco2190]

Yes but blame and shame are not the same. Additionally doing some thing knowingly vs doing some thing because of an ingrained subconscious pattern of traumatic false beliefs are not the same Hurt people hurt people

[@sunnybein1]

Blame is counterproductive and defensive it inflicts shame..you grow up and take 'responsibility' not blame which 'repairs.' We don't need to shame others for mistakes or when learning.Its the reason millions of traumatised adults are walking the earth continuously passing it on to the next generation.

[@bettyhaines2570]

Thank you Dr Gabor

[@chrissiemartin5019]

9 billion people all living in the wrong environment no wonder we are a mess

[@kuibeiguahua]

When I look at my tomato plants I can guess if they are healthy by looking at their leaves. When I look at people, I often see them withered. They lack something.

[@frederiquebertin119]

right man !

[@Mr.Wonderful731]

Wow, that's some powerful stuff!

[@trudiebergh6067]

Me too my darling, I now know how wrong I treated my son. Who died of OD in the end. Strong and lots of live to my my darling.

[@anniebootboot]

Different circumstances create different human beings

[@veronicapettersson1779]

Ohhh you amazing being ❤️🙏❤️🙏 hope you know how amazing you are 💞🥳

[@chrissiemartin5019]

Homosapian was not designed to live the way we live, you don't need a degree to see that

[@mkaz3997]

No one ever said they did.

[@00005744]

you don t need one to change sth either

[@Scorned405]

You ever read the book Ishmael?? It’s by Daniel Quinn. It’s a great book about how Homosapiens are screwing stuff up with greed etc

[@sdeb3333]

On point

[@kp6215]

By only Meditation stopped my pain meds as my doctor retaliated against me for learning he falsified my medical record & demanded Addendum to every monthly office visit as he wanted $ but no real care to remove the hardware that caused my pain . No community and bad chemicals created by males.

[@harrietyounger6118]

If X + 2 =.10 10-2 = x= 8 This was how it was explained to me that the childhood that I thought "wasn't THAT bad" . Had shaped my personality and this is how they knew things I didn't tell them. They had part of the equation and that could reveal other parts they were missing.

[@angelaclark3440]

I think the book is coming out soon! Keep your eyes open for it!

[@kp6215]

Listen to great professional

[@Julian2Sounds]

🙏

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🕊

[@hamedshah2363]

Can you come to MH podcast and talk about Religion and stuffs?

[@thewatchers5930]

I finally hear this after contemplating the pain 💔 of existence Cancer, autoimmune and discarded My biological family as bad as Nazi's Self isolation

[@kp6215]

So right! Isn’t rocket science!

[@einsteindarwin8756]

Does He have a medication podcasts

[@bebe8842]

17:15 Well, then, most of the criminals should be at ease knowing they did not do it deliberately. That wouldn't solve anything or stop the abusers to not do future traumas. Also, can we choose the type of trauma that we might conduct towards our family members in the future, if we are flawed people thanks to our past generations? This is not even moral for a person to feel or think so, not to say it's not fair, and to say 'I didn't do it deliberately'. Well, then, do not procreate until you are not ok. Finding peace in thinking and get forgiveness for 'I didn't do it on purpose (for 20 years! or, for a lifetime, in some unfortunate cases) doesn't bring the power of forgiveness or ability to improve my own life by trying to fix the past mistakes of others transferred into me and my future life ... It is more than just unfortunate. It should be treated so seriously that any possible, future parent or individual in a powerful position should reflect on himself and just try to be honest and just!

[@liamnewsom8583]

right, i hear you. mate is really easy on parents. doesnt make space for healthy guilt. hes right that theres nowone whos fault it is. i still think its parents and simply just the responsibility of being a healthy developed human being to firstly become aware of our own shit, see how it effects those around us who we love. then heal it and deal with it. the main issue is really the denial and unconciousness of it all. its too painful to admit., were too guilty to see our own shit! its why he tells the storys he tells about parents saying how they canttake it, they cant own up to who they really are and how that effects there kids! needing to be a "good" parent. its all bullshit. we all have our own childhood stuff. i really love his notion of the "myth" of the perfect childhood. its bullshit

[@dominostimes2119]

Only certain kinds of people are capable to inflict on populations and just people the so called modern ideologies that we all know so far in our societies and this very problem definitely needs to be addressed

[@iananderson8288]

3:44

[@darrencollison2565]

Any habit good or bad are not good, it implies your doing it subconsciously

[@harrietyounger6118]

In tribal settings I don't think there is as much room for addiction.

[@laraoneal7284]

Many things that are controversial are do to lack of research.

[@debrawhite250]

There has to be an exception for narcissistic parents. Their "love" is conditional and toxic.

[@dominostimes2119]

Dr Jordan Peterson about our society: - We live in the head of a 14 year old girl -

[@pfcmagik]

When leaders see the weaponization of the Betrayal of the Self as a tool for ordo ab chao globalism you have a garden of Thanatos vs Eros, dissension vs ascension. ✌️👽❤️☕✨☝️🕊️

[@ac-uk6hs]

As absolutely horrendous as the Vietnam war was. The sufferer the suffering of the Vietnamese under communism consume for 3 generations Because the Vietnam war failed. Let's never forget the sacrifice of these amazing soldiers who fought the good fight to Liberate a country that unfortunately still fell the evil of communism and socialism. There's a reason why we all live in A relative democracy and a capitalist society because it's Exponentially a better place to live. And maybe that's worth fighting for. I think everyone knows that In their heart whether they admitted or not. Including this professor

[@bahindenise3399]

Too many commercials.

[@aorvis9339]

Send counter to the end of the video then replay.

[@sabrinachristensen9868]

There was such a visually shocking add for children suffering from malnutrition. I am not delicate but really LITERALLY TRAUMATIZING IMAGES !

[@chrissiemartin5019]

What about the nonsense that we are an intelligent species 🤔

[@dominostimes2119]

As Dr Peterson said about this society: - We live in the head of a 14 year old girl -

[@00005744]

“girl” meaning what exactly?

[@dominostimes2119]

You can ask the author

[@famatu]

Jordan Peterson has lost his mind, don‘t listen to him for the love of god. I don‘t completely disagree with that point regarding the internet, but why is it a girl and not a boy? Could‘ve just said a 14 y/o. He‘s a conservative prick

[@MARIPILIPM]

I don’t agree that addictions are all consequence of childhood trauma. There are genetically predisposed personalities,regardless of traumas.

[@beholden2874]

Yes true but they are ignited by childhood trauma either from dysfunction in the family or trauma from this world.

[@queen_minnieme8321]

This was already debunked by dr Gabor mate. Look up his videos about his new book myth of normal. There is research to show that even for genetics, environment play a factor whether or not genetics come to play

[@Chopsyochops]

Covid didn’t impose or create loneliness. The restrictions that the governments put on us is what made us lonely.

[@robynhope219]

I dont agree with that. We can choose to be autonomous by being of the world, not in it.

[@judihart9658]

☝️assuming your wife had a better one.when in reality?it was a worse childhood than yours .🤔2?Stop whining she's late.you make good 💰.call a freakin 🚕 taxi 3? She's not your mommy💖. 👍😎✌️💖

[@famatu]

What

[@ForestCM]

You split this 1h interview into 4 parts just to stick in as many ads as possible? It’s so difficult to watch! Gabor Mate is like a meditation, you almost fall into trance when listening to him. And then 4 times in 20 minutes an actress starts shouting something about cooking pans in a volume 3 times higher than your video volume. That’s a nasty way of earning a few cents. I’m installing an adblock now to filter all this crap.

[@gillianbezett5140]

whats wrong with your eye please tell us you did not take the gene jab

[@chrisgabriel9871]

Probably a fist fight. Dr Joyce brothers once kicked out dick cavetts front teeth.