Dr. Gabor Maté on The Connection Between Stress and Disease

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Can a person literally die of loneliness? Is there a connection between the ability to express emotions and Alzheimer’s disease? Is there such a thing as a “cancer personality”? Drawing on scientific research and the author’s decades of experience as a practicing physician, Dr Gabor Maté joined How To Academy to explore the role that stress and emotions play in an array of common diseases, including arthritis, cancer, diabetes, heart disease and multiple sclerosis.
In this talk, Dr. Maté shared his insights into how disease can be the body’s way of saying ‘no’ to that which the mind cannot or will not acknowledge. He weaves together scientific research, case histories, and his own insights and experience to present a broad perspective to enlighten and empower individuals to promote their own healing and that of those around them.

[@HowToAcademyMindset]

Watch more of Dr Gabor here: kzbin.info/aero/PLFIigLLitqDmBx70a-rY1n035Oz8HumeC

[@theresegyangranlund3070]

Thank you again for this inspiring speech ♥️🙏🌹Can recomend Osho Dynamic Meditation for training anger (and other )expressions 💃🙏💚🌹💦🐬🎵

[@lesreed8803]

🎩 👀🎷👽👀

[@darlenerego4891]

Thank you for all of these videos your link takes us to Dr. Gabor!

[@isaacp5080]

Can you please let us all know which recording of Jacqueline de Pre's Elgar Concerto ... is it in E minor? And which movement please?

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[@SB-tq2xj]

I find it amazing that we can hear such brilliant people talk virtually free from the comfort of our home.

[@debraconte2813]

Yes and it’s free except for the monthly cell bills lol

[@debraconte2813]

Simple understanding he is brilliant

[@debraconte2813]

In simple terms we are product of our environment sickness and we can turn it around

[@danmaertens7872]

Remarkable times we live in

[@zoer3686]

If only it had subtitles in different languages... I'd love to share this with my dad which English is his second language.

[@lucasprado6248]

'The personalities that we develop are not actually a reflection of our true selves; very often are defenses against the loss of love' Dr. Gabor Maté

[@chuckheppner4384]

“What we call the personality is often a jumble of genuine traits and adopted coping styles that do not reflect our true self at all but the loss of it.” Gabor Maté, In the Realm of Hungry👻👻👻 Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction

[@beegirl851]

I had to stop there, this is truly one of the most beautiful sentences I've ever heard.

[@luchiayoung]

We are born with a personality. It is not all environment. Gabor was never around home so ask his wife.

[@chuckheppner4384]

@@luchiayoung "The individual psychological stages in the lives of most people are: 1. To be hurt as a small child without anyone recognizing the situation as such 2. To fail to react to the resulting suffering with anger 3. To show gratitude for what are supposed to be good intentions 4. To forget everything 5. To discharge the stored-up anger onto others in adulthood or to direct it against oneself. Every life and every childhood is filled with frustrations; we cannot imagine it otherwise, for even the best mother cannot satisfy all her child’s wishes and needs. It is not the suffering caused by frustration, however, that leads to emotional illness, but rather the fact that the child is forbidden by the parents to experience and articulate this suffering, the pain felt at being wounded. An unacknowledged trauma is like a wound that never heals over and may start to bleed again at any time. A person is not likely to conceive something monstrous if he does not know it somehow or other from experience. We simply tend to refuse to take a child's suffering seriously enough. We are still barely conscious of how harmful it is to treat children in a degrading manner. Treating them with respect and recognizing the consequences of their being humiliated are by no means intellectual matters; otherwise, their importance would long since have been generally recognized. Without realizing that the past is constantly determining their present actions, they avoid learning anything about their history. They continue to live in their repressed childhood situation, ignoring the fact that is no longer exists, continuing to fear and avoid dangers that, although once real, have not been real for a long time. The abused child goes on living within those who have survived such torture, a torture that ended with total repression. They live with the darkness of fear, oppression, and threats. When all its attempts to move the adult to heed its story have failed, it resorts to the language of symptoms to make itself heard. Enter addiction, psychosis, criminality. What is addiction, really? It is a sign, a signal, a symptom of distress. It is a language that tells us about a plight that must be understood. Ultimately the body will rebel. Even if it can be temporarily pacified with the help of drugs, cigarettes or medicine, it usually has the last word because it is quicker to see through self-deception than the mind. We may ignore or deride the messages of the body, but its rebellion demands to be heeded because its language is the authentic expression of our true selves and of the strength of our vitality. Contempt is the weapon of the weak and a defense against one's own despised and unwanted feelings. The function all expressions of contempt have in common is the defense against unwanted feelings. Contempt simply evaporates, having lost its point, when it is no longer useful as a shield-against the child’s shame over his desperate, unreturned love; against his feeling of inadequacy; or above all against his rage that his parents were not available. Once we are able to feel and understand the repressed emotions of childhood, we will no longer need contempt as a defense against them. On the other hand, as long as we despise the other person and over-value our own achievements (“he can’t do what I can do”), we do not have to mourn the fact that love is not forthcoming without achievement. Nevertheless, if we avoid this mourning it means that we remain at bottom the one who is despised, for we have to despise everything in ourselves that is not wonderful, good, and clever. Thus we perpetuate the loneliness of childhood: We despise weakness, helplessness, uncertainty-in short, the child in ourselves and in others. The contempt for others in grandiose, successful people always includes disrespect for their own true selves, as their scorn implies: “Without these superior qualities of mine, a person is completely worthless.” This means further: “Without these achievements, these gifts, I could never be loved, would never have been loved.” Grandiosity in the adult guarantees that the illusion continues: “I was loved.” It is not true that evil, destructiveness , and perversion inevitably form part of human existence, no matter how often this is maintained. But it is true that we are daily producing more evil and, with it, an ocean of suffering for millions that is absolutely avoidable. When one day the ignorance arising from childhood repression is eliminated and humanity has awakened, an end can be put to this production of evil.

[@chuckheppner4384]

- . . . When we consider the major role intimidation plays in this ideology, which was still at the peak of its popularity at the turn of the century, it is not surprising that Sigmund Freud had to conceal his surprising discovery of adults' sexual abuse of their children, a discovery he was led to by the testimony of his patients. He disguised his insight with the aid of a theory that nullified this inadmissible knowledge. Children of his day were not allowed, under the severest of threats, to be aware of what adults were doing to them, and if Freud had persisted in his seduction theory, he not only would have had his introjected parents to fear but would no doubt have been discredited, and probably ostracized, by middle-class society. In order to protect himself, he had to devise a theory that would preserve appearances by attributing all “evil”, guilt and wrongdoing to the child's fantasies. in which the parents served only as the objects of projection. We can understand why this theory omitted the fact that it is the parents who not only project their sexual and aggressive fantasies onto the child but also are able to act out these fantasies because they wield the power. It is probably thanks to this omission that many professionals in the psychiatric field, themselves the products of "poisonous pedagogy" have been able to accept the Freudian theory of drives, because it did not force them to question their idealized image of their parents. With the aid of Freud's drive and structural theories, they have been able to continue obeying the commandment they internalized in early childhood: "Thou shalt not be aware of what your parents are doing to you.” When still in diapers, the child learns to knock at the gates of love with “obedience,” and unfortunately often does not unlearn this ever after. In a totalitarian state, which is a mirror of his upbringing, this citizen can also carry out any form of torture or persecution without having a guilty conscience. His “will” is completely identical with that of the government. Both Hitler and Stalin had a surprisingly large number of enthusiastic followers among intellectuals. Our capacity to resist has nothing to do with our intelligence but with the degree of access to our true self. In a totalitarian state, which is a mirror of his upbringing, this citizen can also carry out any form of torture or persecution without having a guilty conscience. His “will” is completely identical with that of the government. Both Hitler and Stalin had a surprisingly large number of enthusiastic followers among intellectuals. Our capacity to resist has nothing to do with our intelligence but with the degree of access to our true self. Indeed, intelligence is capable of innumerable rationalizations when it comes to the matter of adaptation. Educators have always known this and have exploited it for their own purposes. Grünewald writes that he has never yet found willfulness in an intellectually advanced or exceptionally gifted child. Such a child can, in later life, exhibit extraordinary acuity in criticizing the ideologies of his opponents-and in puberty even the views by his own parents-because in these cases his intellectual powers can function without impairment. Furthermore, the teacher finds the soil already prepared for obedience, and the political leader has only to harvest what has been sown. When children are trained, they learn how to train others in turn. Children who are lectured to, learn how to lecture; if they are admonished, they learn how to admonish; if scolded, they learn how to scold; if ridiculed, they learn how to ridicule; if humiliated, they learn how to humiliate; if their psyche is killed, they will learn how to kill--the only question is who will be killed: oneself, others, or both. Those children who are beaten will in turn give beatings, those who are intimidated will be intimidating, those who are humiliated will impose humiliation, and those whose souls are murdered will murder. Hitler, Stalin, Mao and other dictators were exposed to severe physical mistreatment in childhood and refused to face up to the fact later. Instead of seeing and feeling what had happened to them, they avenged themselves vicariously by killing millions of people. And millions of others helped them to do so. For some years now, there has been proof that the devastating effects of the traumatization of children take their inevitable toll on society-a fact that we are still forbidden to recognize. This knowledge concerns every single one of us, and-if disseminated widely enough-should lead to fundamental changes in society; above all, to a halt in the blind escalation of violence. The more we idealize the past and refuse to acknowledge our childhood sufferings, the more we pass them on unconsciously to the next generation. People whose integrity has not been damaged in childhood, who were protected, respected, and treated with honesty by their parents, will be-both in their youth and in adulthood-intelligent, responsive, empathic, and highly sensitive. They will take pleasure in life and will not feel any need to kill or even hurt others or themselves. They will use their power to defend themselves, not to attack others. They will not be able to do otherwise than respect and protect those weaker than themselves, including their children, because this is what they have learned from their own experience. For the human soul is virtually indestructible, and its ability to rise from the ashes remains as long as the body draws breath. Only the mourning for what one has missed at the crucial time can lead to real healing. One can only remember what has been consciously experienced. The art of not experiencing feelings. A child can experience her feelings only when there is somebody there who accepts her fully, understands her, and supports her. If that person is missing, if the child must risk losing the mother’s love of her substitute in order to feel, then she will repress emotions. Depression as Denial of the Self Depression consists of a denial of one’s own emotional reactions. This denial begins in the service of an absolutely essential adaptation during childhood and indicates a very early injury. There are many children who have not been free, right from the beginning, to experience the very simplest of feelings, such as discontent, anger, rage, pain, even hunger-and, of course, enjoyment of their own bodies. Only the never-ending work of mourning can help us from lapsing into the illusion that we have found the parent we once urgently needed-empathic and open, understanding and understandable, honest and available, helpful and loving, feeling, transparent, clear, without unintelligible contradictions. Such a parent was never ours, for a mother can react empathically only to the extent that she has become free of her own childhood; when she denies the vicissitudes of her early life, she wears invisible chains. In order to become whole we must try, in a long process, to discover our own personal truth, a truth that may cause pain before giving us a new sphere of freedom. If we choose instead to content ourselves with intellectual “wisdom,” we will remain in the sphere of illusion and self-deception." Alice Miller, "The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self", and "For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence"

[@SiyavoshM]

Once in a while an exceptionally gifted human being appears and shines light on the crevices of humanity that others had deepened and darkened. Dr. Maté is one of those rare gems. 🙏

[@darlenerego4891]

I believe when I went into a coma in 1968 it was due to shock. At the time I was taken to a hospital and many tests were done. My doctors decided I might have a tumor on my pancreas. After surgery I went into a deeper coma and my husband was told to come back to the hospital. At the end of December of 1968 my doctor spoke with a doctor from Billings hospital in Chicago. Shortly after this I was admitted to Billings hospital. They did many tests and decided I should be in the research dept. of this hospital. I was there for six months. There's a reason I'm writing this. I truthfully know (as well as I can know) ,that the coma and everything there after, was due to the stress I was living under. I'm 84 now and I'm taking hydrocortisone. I've had three crisis's but other than that I feel pretty good. Thank you very much for reading this.

[@Trytocookthis]

what stress was in your life. mainly.

[@darlenerego4891]

@@Trytocookthis I was affected by someone else's drinking. Going to Al-Anon was helpful.

[@merrykaczmarek3757]

We never know the reason for anything -A Course in miracles

[@Trytocookthis]

@@darlenerego4891 👍💛

[@vuslatoztopcu7108]

I wish you a long and healthy life.❤

[@JohnSmith-pt5eo]

I have a a narcissistic father who made fun of till I was in my late forties and up to this day I've suppressed all anger and has made me sick.I tell everybody it takes me alot to get angry but it doesnt I just suppress it.Thank you Dr Mate for the amazing explanation.Your the wisest and most informed person I've ever heard

[@Bojan_V]

I wish you fast healing💚...

[@NLR759]

I hope that you have learned to keep a safe distance from your father, as narcissism is a personality trait that your father will always have. The only solution is to stay away from people like that.

[@Khatru39]

All I’ve learned by being nice is, it leads you to people who will only use you and abuse you, whether it is physically, emotionally, psychologically, or financially. 🙏🙏🙏

[@jewel2022now]

Maybe this can just be a thought you are living. But you can examine why you personally attract this behavior.

[@helenakolar]

@@jewel2022now I agree with you, Jewel.

[@user-nn8lg9qu7y]

You have to be more than just nice. From my experience, You have to be kind and love others whether they do the same back. To also not fear others and give yourself a voice. He is so right... you have to know yourself and then listen to your instincts to accomplish this.

[@-essexgirl-]

That’s not being nice as you are being unkind to yourself by allowing these people in your life.

[@josemiguelbaztan9607]

I ended up watching this video until the end and it addressed 100% an issue I am having in my life at the moment, this is a blessing, not a coincidence

[@rosebw1077]

Mine as well so incredible life is amazing thank you Gabor

[@TH-eb5ro]

Hope you are well.

[@BAHalfmoon]

What you seek is seeking you.

[@HighSpeedNoDrag]

No sky too high, no bar too far, Let's GO.

[@pericasutic8238]

There is no such thing as coincidence.

[@ellinorglorioso2247]

Your body is like a recorder and records everything that happens to you in your life. I learned this in primal/ gestalt therapy. When I had a painful area in my body my therapist would have me feel into the pain and "research" the origins....almost always it was a memory recorded from childhood trauma. Like an invisable bruise, once you investigate your body's messages( pains and discomforts) you will one by one heal your wounds and learn to love yourself. As a child i was molested by close family members and beaten severely being blamed for the assaults. Fortunately, I was trained professionally in music and dance which aided my enduring these "parents" until I was 18 and legally able to run away from this crazy household. They were never protective or parents as the social media has brainwashed the world to believe...' everyone has a loving mom and dad, granddad etc.' I was the eldest and did have the advantage of one set of grandparents that loved and paid for that music and dance education which allowed me to channel the pain and anger I was going thru, at least partially. Lucky, because I had other adults that were teachers and took an interest in my well being. I was an over achiever because beatings were the price for not getting straight A's. Never allowed back into this family unit again after I exposed them and asked for help I have lived like an orphan most of my life. The family has never changed from holding me at fault as John Bradshaw stated every family has a scapegoat and apparently that has been my role for most of my life. Leave bad environments and seek out what is good for your love and self excceptance. Environment is everything! never did I tell my friends of my education , it was too high brow ..and the man i almost married i told of my childhood and he called me damaged goods. So much for that. Professionally trained artists are pushed and under so much pressure to be perfect. Many give it up when they move away from those that expect them to be so much. They also have attachment disorders due to lack of human contact and love. We are human and more than performers, we were born to be more! eg

[@jopainting1668]

I don't for one second believe or think that you are damaged goods. I hate that more people on here haven't bothered to actually read your comment and give the little bit of support via a "like". So many people seem to have such short attention spans.. I read and heard every word of what you wrote here. Thank you very much for sharing some of your story/life with us. We all deserve better than what you have endured. As do I.

[@00005744]

such a beautiful and brave confession thanks a lot for sharing,this was truly helpful to me

[@ellinorglorioso2247]

@@jopainting1668 Thank you for your support and interest in learning about trama, You are the only person I have ever responded to, it makes me feel not so alone to know there are other people seeking the truth about healing themselves and others if allowed. I truely appreciate your input and insight and taking the time to tell me .Thank you again, eg

[@livingholistically1485]

Thanks for your insight. I once told a suitor about my past and although he assured me I wasn't damaged goods , I found it interesting that he even mentioned damaged goods I never once asked him that. Perhaps my energy. Anyways he predicted I would be depressed at age 35. And other strange comments like he wondered if anyone had ever loved me. Something I have never doubted. Anyways here I am at age 35 and I am not depressed. I no longer feel it necessary to talk about my past but I use it to learn and heal. I learned that people underestimate our ability to heal. Not everyone appreciates or deserves to know everything about you. Some use it to feel better about themselves. Even that experience is a teaching for me. I was also the scapegoat but now I know better and I don't need to be one anymore. Everything my family says I know were it comes from. Our so called toxic parents are probably more traumatized than we were. I know that is the case in my case.

[@johnschneider7236]

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[@natka2159]

I'm sitting here crying and so proud of myself for letting out my anger, standing my ground and setting boundaries something two of my great grand parents must have not done consequrnly dying of lung cancer. I'm so grateful we have people like Gabor Maté who highlight the mind-body connection. 🙏 Healing and awareness to all of you!

[@ryanblack2986]

"The biggest stress of all is trying to be someone you're not". That's why I had to come out of the closet when I was a teenager. I know ppl who are gay who have gotten married to women, had kids and never told the ppl they are closest to in life.. The stress they put on themselves is enormous.

[@laraoneal7284]

This man is an intuitive genius.

[@AnnaLVajda]

Yeah there is a lot to be said for bedside manner. Most doctors are terribly insensitive.

[@kateryan6420]

Yes, I admire him and his humble way of being. The stress and trauma I have is ruining my life, physically and mentally. I wish he could suggest some type of therapy.

[@Giatros89]

@@kateryan6420 Mindfulness meditation is the process of "becoming more aware" as he put it. The wakingup app is the one I use personally. I also recommend searching "Self inquiry Rupert Spira" here's the link and spending the 10 minutes to actually do the exercise along with the speaker kzbin.info/www/bejne/gpOWga2urKp-ebM

[@antonvannelli9085]

@@kateryan6420 My opinion as a specialist myself. Find specialists who work on limbic system programming and that use the body as a lens to do it. Make sure they prioritize getting you to a parasympathetic state, and creating a great deal of awareness of your physical body. Those are all tools that will work to varying degrees of success, but it is 100% on the right track.

[@DrBernadetteDulawan]

I can’t stop listening to his lectures! They are profound truths we all need to be aware of as people and as healers! Yes,he expresses the gaps in western medicine, being dualistic and not holistic! I am glad and happy to have seen and felt this gaps in my training and practice as a doctor and found holistic medicine particularly in Functional medicine. Dr Gabor affirmed our Mind body spirit and social nature of our beings ! 🧡🙏Thank you Dr Gabor! What a genius , wise, and caring human being you are.

[@snoopy5736]

Definitely genius level 💯

[@mikeg.4262]

Yeah I know he's very addictive. LOL it's because your internal self vibrates and resonates with something in this man teacher profit whatever you want to call them but I think we need to look some president dammit. Hahaha actually not too much of a joke if I could get it done I would but I totally get you. Every time I listen to him it's like being hypnotized

[@helenakolar]

I am so glad that you are open to new learning since I see you are a doctor. Way too many doctors are too proud to adapt to different approaches.

[@anothertheory3610]

Most of the more severe illnesses happen to people by an upsetting event happening in their lives that takes them by surprise, unexpectedly, impacting first in the brain, then in the corresponding organ which that part of the brain controls. The end of WWI had absolutely everything to do with the Flu and lung TB outbreak that occurred killing millions. In nature, the biological conflict linked with a territorial fear (just what it means-a fear in your territory, your home, your community, etc.) is a widening of the bronchia (tissue loss). Your body attempts to widen your bronchia in order to allow more air into your lungs to give you more strength and energy to fight to keep your territory safe. Stay with me.......The biological conflict linked with a death fright impacts the lungs. The lungs attempt to grow larger in order to allow more air in because breath equals life, as we all know. No breath equals death. Why are so many people across the world suddenly having their appendix removed? The appendix is associated with “being in fear for one’s life”. The HEALING phase is the rupture/inflammation. While you are in the fear or death fright conflict, you notice no symptoms of “disease”, except you have cold hands, cold feet, you can’t sleep, you awaken at 3 AM every night, you have little appetite. During the war, millions of people were in fear of the bombing of their homes and cities where the war was most active. Fearing for their lives, their loved ones in the war, their ability to survive. The food in the stores was sparse due to shortages. This lasted for 4 long years! The longer the conflict, the worse the healing phase. Within 2 weeks of the German Chancellor announcing the end of WWI, these millions of people ALL went into the healing phase all at the same time. It is during the healing phase that you experience symptoms of illness! What is the healing phase of the bronchia widening? Severe bronchitis, pneumonia. The body attempts to refill this lost tissue and you experience inflammation, fever, coughing, body aches, fatigue, etc. What is the healing phase of the extra lung tissue that grew? Decomposing of the tissue by TB bacteria and fungi. The symptoms of this healing phase are: severe coughing up of blood and tissue, fever, inflammation, severe mucous, body aches, fatigue. During this decomposing of the extra tissue (tumor), the body expels a lot of protein, and without replenishment, severe protein loss can result in death. Antibiotics did not exist yet. If TB bacteria does not exist in a person or they have been vaccinated against TB (big mistake), then the tumor will simply encapsulate and become dormant and not harm you. Who died during the Spanish Flu? Mainly the poor who could not afford to buy meat and proper nourishment, and the people who were directly impacted by the bombings and destruction of their homes. Millions of people suffered fear and death frights during the fighting of WWI, and millions of people all went into healing at the end of it. Not everyone was affected because not everyone suffered the same way. It’s not a “flu”, it’s not something you “catch”. It’s biological, meaningful, and unavoidable. One hundred years later, a Fear Campaign begins, using the media to spread it......

[@mikeg.4262]

@@anothertheory3610 holy shit those are off the chain thoughts oh man amazing! Fuck someone's having a conversation with my soul while I'm looking on. Biosocial energetic medicine.? Where can I get my degree I'm ready sign me up. Lungs are grief and letting go corresponding? In Chinese medicine? I've got rheumatoid induced pulmonary fibrosis the last 3 years and 54 no health problems before that never been to the hospital ...something happened... fracturing something on a deeper reality not feeling with something? Who knows Jesus. It's too bad you can't do the Vulcan my meals on me and help me find an answer.... you are awesome!

[@tanialovestea7578]

An illness comes along when we’re not being ourselves 💚✨ Wow that stuck to my mind!

[@mickbennett3280]

hi Tania 3 weeks ago the light bulb went on in my life.Ive suppressed my true feelings of dealing with my loveless marriage.Ive told my children and wife and moved out of the house round the corner to my mothers, for now.Its like a ton weight being lifted off my shoulders after 18 years and I've not dealt with it for fear of damaging my kids ,i was ed the need for authenticity video by gabor and everything fell into place. Im 51 and me and my wife still have a chance of happiness this guy has put me on the path to happiness without damaging my kids heads .Just thought id share it with you. mick

[@moondancer9066]

@@mickbennett3280 Grow up and go home. Love isn't everything you know? You took vows.

[@mickbennett3280]

@@moondancer9066 With repect, your right love isnt everyyhing but it is a fundamental need ,when its gone and you realise that it cant be repaired you owe it to youself to find happiness. End of,

[@chris432t6]

So true🌞

[@moondancer9066]

@@mickbennett3280 Were you happy with your wife when you married her? I feel that you owe it to yourself and her to work at finding that happiness again. Marriage is hard. Life is change. Maybe your wife needs to work at it too. I don't know the details obviously. I just know that these days people give up too easily and most people think that everything is all about themselves. ⚘

[@anneperry9014]

What a lovely and caring guy. Wish he was my doctor, bless him😊

[@edwardkigenza2863]

Look inside yourself, may be you may find the cause of your wishing personality

[@sergioarce7708]

This guy has answered me more question in 3 hours I neen asking myself for 2 decades

[@aminarashid4263]

Take-away lesson: Get to know who you are and be who you are.

[@jamestcatcato7132]

Ancient Knowledge; "Know Thyself", Thoth.

[@milekrizman]

It's not that easy. It depends on environment.

[@PriyankaGupta-ew1li]

Yep!

[@adaewhitcombe6593]

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[@sukran96]

Which is the hardest part of the life

[@alana6806]

My mom left me after a month of being born. I didn’t see her until I was 8 months old , she just wanted to pursue her career and travels . I never could build a bound with her , even if I am a mother myself now. I was feeling always bad when even if a friend didn’t show up to meet or ran late .. now I understand why. I feel so scared that my daughter lives such feelings even if I just drop her off to school. It’s a painful feeling . I come to hear Dr Mate to not mess up with her life. Because I know how much it can affect you .

[@NothingHumanisAlientoMe]

When it comes to Gabor one can only adore or abhor. He has hit the critical nerve of our time. He is a brave dude.

[@laraoneal7284]

J D M Yes he tells the truth which is brave today. Ppl hate FACTS. They’re into confirmation bias and feelings NOT FACTS.

[@suesjoy]

Abhor? How can anyone abhor him????

[@NothingHumanisAlientoMe]

@@suesjoy Cuz people are people fam

[@trrishp]

@@suesjoy Because they've invested so much in mainstream psychology and CBT. The 'trauma-causes-mental-illness' among us are the upstarts :-)

[@62blackberry]

hard to know how you could abhor

[@agaobi573]

One of the wisest people in the world.

[@lynny5510]

I love Dr. Mate!! When he tripped he just made me feel normal. So many people get embarrased and retreat when we do something "human" like tripping in public!!!! He is a very genuine intellegent man and he just showed without trying that it is ok to be HUMAN and not feel embarrased by it!! Love you Dr. Mate!!

[@TeeTirado]

I love this soul! he's my addiction!!!🤣

[@lesleyanngoslett9774]

This wonderful man is one of my most serious addictions - just love his wisdom and the way he expresses it - the world so needs to take this information on board and work with it so we can support children to be authentic, resilient and resourceful.

[@appleface9180]

Absolutely...addict to his knowledge

[@HeatherCarlileLPC]

:-) WOW. One of my major heroes! So thankful that I get to be present in these times of powerful change for good. And, this, the day after my copy of Riane Eisler's new book arrived, "Nurturing Our Humanity: How Domination and Partnership Shape Our Brain, Lives and Future." So much available that is profoundly heartening.

[@aminahrolsdorph8551]

Me 2.. He is Gifted.. A Kind of Soul Whispering Dr Gabor Matee 😊

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[@gerry2345]

To true .

[@beatrixjames5433]

I have serious digestive issues that cause me to be in pain almost daily. Only one gastroenterologist asked me about stresses and traumas in my life.I thought he was being annoying and left him for another gastroenterologist.This one loves prescribing tons of PPI s that don't work.I have had enough when i was diagnosed with barrett's .I'm going to be seeing the guy that asked my about my life.I wished I never left him.

[@airmailpostcards6427]

don't beat yourself up you did not know

[@merrilynstanger7241]

I have never been asked either by any gastrointestinal specialist , I have told them I have had domestic abuse , I told them last year I found my friend dead , and I have not seen my daughter for 2 years They are idiots as I know for sure that most of my gut issues bloating pain nausea are due to the above . If I had love nurture in my life I would get better. .

[@jamestcatcato7132]

Obviously your extreme reaction to the Holistic Medic was primed by your indoctrination, the Teaching of "JoHN Locke" , which is central to the dissemination of modern narcissism is the fount of many modern pathologies.

[@puddy-pw7ku]

@Beatrix James,yes go back, i would give all my savings to find a good doctor... its unbelievable, sir Gabe is so sadly right

[@bmehta4515]

@@merrilynstanger7241 big hug!! give yourself the love and nurture you deserve..starting point

[@kristinadutton3259]

John E Sarno talks about this too- has several books published decades ago. He also helped many people and his views were not welcomed at the time. When I realized my backpain was repressed anger about a decade ago it changed my life and I very much looked at that pain as a great teacher. It would come and go after my first experience with Sarno’s teachings and each time it returned I knew it wanted me to address something inside myself. I had such pain at 30 I couldn’t get out of bed some mornings without help, and within a week of reading Sarno’s books my life changed and has never been the same. Very similar messages here but with different labeling.

[@wonderwoman7969]

In what ways?

[@kristinadutton3259]

@@wonderwoman7969 I’m not totally clear what your question is addressing :)

[@anneperry9014]

The repression of healthy anger, how true, it does you no good. If people think that you're a bad person for saying things they don't like etc, then that's their problem!!!!!

[@karina-jx4zv]

I get you Anne, in so many ways, yet I keep it in, try to work it out another way,

[@mrgruffy4499]

I was under much emotional stress when I was young. Made fun of, belittled, humiliated, and constant criticism. I was sick many times. I also learned that this stress rots one's teeth. I needed many filling when young. But when I got away from home, I was seldom ill. I needed medical treatment only 3 times in the last 50 years. I am easily angered. When I get into some rage, I feel a cold coming on. So, I check my anger, and I avoid the cold that was coming on.

[@marim7784]

I understand you. When I get stressed I get sick too.

[@leighatkins22]

Yes... i get run down and my immune system dips... Our emotions are our energy, especially anger (this is why narcs want them) & the sooner we figure out how to pull our anger back inside of ourselves, transmute it and re-direct it back out into useful ways that we can use to combat what made us angry in the 1st place, the sooner we can control our surroundings. Then we are true creators and not just along for the ride... :)

[@mrgruffy4499]

@@leighatkins22 EXACTLY! Thanks

[@parrotshootist3004]

@@leighatkins22 If I am not mistaken; Our ID (not identity) is our energy, and connection to source. Our emotions then rise from that ID and that prepares and activates our bodies for purpose, sometimes action (ie adrenaline/epinephrine), but not just or limited too. Somatic repression works similarly and will keep whatever part of the body active or off, and cause physical dysregulation. They do not really get to take energy from us, but they can cause us to cut shrink and cut ourselves off. That energy isn't as limited as a you have energy or I have energy sort of covert game. Please be very careful not to fall into the same trap as they do. Unless of course I am wrong, in which case, have at it, carefully defend yours and your boudaries (which is important). But if you believe as they do (which is not without merit, but for entirely other reasons, like using it to leverage work, time and effort from others, in that way energy and action is a limited resource) at some point you might just try to do the same thing but in other ways, at some point.

[@annettealmvik]

@@marim7784 same here

[@patakanz]

Thanks to people like Gabor, Lissa Rankin, Bruce Lipton and John Sarno, I'm now a converted mind/body health advocate. I'm at the stage where, when I deal with any health ailment, the first thing I look to is my emotional state and history.

[@computerfastrepair]

oh chit. dr john sarno is the man!!! Everything is emotional stress. depletes the immune system!

[@sethpistol3]

Check out Dr Joe Dispensa

[@SoulfulVeg]

I love Dr Sarno. My 11 year battle with chronic neck pain was transformed after reading his book.

[@reg8297]

He's good wish I knew how to forget 50 years og childhood abuse abuse relationship a parter who brain my kids against me how does a person b OK in present moment with that amount of pain

[@reg8297]

@@SoulfulVeg wonder whzt I not doing i have chronic nerve pain 8 years read his book felt my inner pain that's still there n I stíl got chronic nerve pain

[@wajdatabassum8490]

I was 7 times admitted to the ICU due to acute pancreatitis and never I was asked by my doctors about my internal turmoil - I visited endocrinologist many many times but never they asked bout my stress.

[@MrBlacksford]

disease as a teacher. Wow... mind blown. Thank you Dr Mate.

[@parrotshootist3004]

Read Galen, Hippocrates, Paracelsus... sometime. There's plenty more gems like that from over 1000 years back.

[@claudiabi1189]

“The personality we develop is not actually a reflection of our two selves, very often is the defence against the loss of love”

[@SuperLammens]

did gabor make this quote as it is really profound.

[@shipaskof8371]

Its True selves not two selves.

[@peachesmcgee4795]

I became ill at 27 with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. I always knew that it was as a result of a stressful childhood but had absolutely no idea what to do about it. Now,aged 47,i am slowly healing thanks to the internet and all the information out there, like talks by this wonderful guy. The western model of medicine is completely useless for illnesses like mine. Mind-body work is the way forwards.

[@SuperLammens]

great, you might get more insight from a wonderfull book "christiane beerlandt "the key to self liberation" discribing the psychological beliefs leading into dis ease"

[@emmsession8981]

This man is helping so many people. As an adoptee I started Self-Discovery a few years back re: my adoption. If your ready, you'll know it. Just start writing your journal your story. It's magic. Writing. If you have no other resource, start writing.

[@jabaryusuf7899]

⁷keep it real

[@kathleenkaleookalanismith8724]

🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽💕💕

[@DK-qx3lv]

Listening to Gabor is like reading Tolle. You have to pause often and think deeply about who you think you are, what you think you know, and how to break the chains that have kept you in bondage all these years.

[@laraoneal7284]

I’ve heard lectures on women who put up with emotionally abusive husbands are definitely prone to breast cancer and autoimmune disease.

[@justmemother2]

Lara O'neal dimentia

[@danfloros4267]

and same for men who suffer with womens bullshit..Im sure they get ill in many ways...

[@louiseottley4995]

@@danfloros4267 wow this hit home for u

[@carfincap]

@@danfloros4267 yes I’m sure they do. I don’t think he was targeting men in any way. In fact, the examples he gave besides the women who died of MS were all of men who died of diseases from working to hard or loss of abandonment issues/other stresses in life. It’s sad to me how this revolutionary talk about human beings-and their collective pain-can be by reduced to criticism about how he (or she) was not represented. That is your egoic response and it is exactly what he wants is all to heal. We all have pain from people who hurt us and the way we hurt other and self in response. The very message of this about the pain of us a species and a whole. It shows us man/women/child as an organism making that is making itself sick. It’s free of blame and full of love and hope.

[@carfincap]

They do.

[@bastian6173]

This may be one of the most valuable talk of our time. Every doctor and every human being should understand what he is saying. I'm afraid it will still take a lot of time until his views are accepted in the general, medical community because nobody wants to hear it.

[@karina-jx4zv]

I was directed to Gabor Mate by my doctor, this has helped my health

[@andrewwabik5125]

@@karina-jx4zv your doctor has is very wise.

[@jewel2022now]

Yes, not to heal, but to medicate.

[@vikingasoul3955]

Ending up being diagnosed with S. L.E. 46 years old. Having smaller things happening from puberty. Lived in stress and trauma most of my life.... this speech really resonated to me and I for sure know who i am going to share it to to try open some eyes on what this actually do to a person. Bless you! Thank you🌹

[@tracysmith245]

i have lupus stress no 1 factor

[@cherylmoschitto_outwardsilence]

Hi! Same here diagnosed sworn SLE AND SJOGRONES AT 32!

[@fionarussell7622]

On the processing of the disease, I believe that when the disease surface/ is manifested we are ready to process it out of the body... we have to find what we need or have ignored, inside of ourselves, to heal it.

[@jewel2022now]

Wow, that is forward thinking

[@pattisteely4650]

So true! Not many doctors ask about stress or trauma going on in a person's life.

[@hazelatwood2292]

That LAST obituary describing two FATAL BELIEFS (starting around 17:20) that one is responsible for how other people feel and that one must never disappoint people . . . That’s medicine/knowledge that I NEED! THANK YOU!

[@maya_taher]

If only you know how much we love you! And how grateful are we to have u

[@cynthiaflynn2941]

I too am addicted to his amazing work which I have been practicing with my clients since 1979....when people thought I was crazy. The deep feelings of compassion ignited in my heart whenever I watch him is my real addiction

[@kristinas5714]

How do people reduce stress when they have somthing physically bothering them daily?

[@jewel2022now]

I get it

[@Amberk1985]

I love that Garbor uses Multiple Sclerosis as an example. I was diagnosed young and I was very suppressed. This makes a lot of sense.

[@TomeRodrigo]

Sorry to hear, is your MS better now? Hopefully yes.

[@Amberk1985]

@@TomeRodrigo my MS is better. Thanks for asking!

[@hew195050]

ONE of my issues has been bending over for my clients to the degree that I won't ask for the fee I feel I ought to be getting for fear they'll leave me but fibromyalgia has brought me to my knees and just today I spoke my truth and it was my first step...whether they leave of not, I'm on the path to getting what I need.

[@airmailpostcards6427]

I have a hard time standing up for myself as well.

[@brokenheart1348]

My severe ME/Fibromyalgia has root completely in trauma & stress and me not being able to say no to people

[@shyaaammeneen63]

@@brokenheart1348 Be assertive in life. It needs practice. Never say Yes when you want to say "No". Heal yourself from negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

[@hew195050]

OMG, I was going to comment on this comment when I realized I indeed had written it a year ago!!! I forgot that discovery. Yeow.

[@hogey74]

How did this come to me today? I'm speechless.

[@shameemahjahed3701]

This was so profound. What a gifted and wise human being.

[@lovinglili5204]

Hi

[@makykhadem3770]

I went to my Dr and said that I am depressed and I don't know what to do please help me !! Mind you that he is my family Dr for 28 years. He tooled me you are not in wheelchair you don't have to think about it . I broke down and cried like bitch why I said bitch because I have never cried or complained in years. I said to him are you waiting until I commit suicide then you will say ohhhhh shit . This is what we go through. Dr Mate saved my life. Now I knew why I was feeling what I was feeling. Thank you . We need Saviour like Dr Mate 🙏 love you.

[@helenorban2609]

How did he save your life and what cussed your depression

[@ddss97]

I hope you get a doctor that can actually address your pain

[@yogawithpriyanka]

absolutely brilliant - we need more doctors like Dr. Gabor Maté, who impart knowledge rather than fill us with pills that exacerbate issues... 💜🙏

[@donnadaisy333]

🙏

[@jackijura249]

F I N A L L Y! You’re the best Gabor. Please keep the talks coming.

[@gerry2345]

I like this vid...my 101 year old grandmother lives a long life because she knows how to show anger and every kind of emotion and has smoked all her life.. perfect answer

[@anneperry9014]

Good for her!

[@jmc8076]

Dr Mate @1:11:37.

[@gerry2345]

@Mudassar Nawaz She was a bully when she was young. I believe showing Anger to get her own way came naturally to her. Now it is just a Hobby.

[@patriklarsson130]

God bless her!

[@pam6760]

Even a layman like me saw the (HUGE) correlation between stress and disease even before I had seen this video! I am so surprised that governments and workplaces are not doing enough to address this obvious glaring reason for ailments!

[@dawnzimmermann2958]

Thank you Dr Gabor. I have very few heroes but you are definitely one of them. You have taught me so much, you are an absolute asset to the world 🙏

[@darlakazzy5968]

I came across this phenomenal man on accident. I am sooo happy I did, I cant stop watching any of his videos. My friend and I are starting a group therapy session for anyone that’s been traumatized or are going through a rough time or depressed whatever. I am saving all of his videos so we can listen to them during our session. I am doing the first one this Sunday. Thank you so much for sharing your videos. They are very informative, love them all!!

[@darlakazzy5968]

You are a genius Dr Gabor!! This was the best accident i ever came across. Lol

[@griffinkirkland9087]

Darla Kazzy Do you know what book this particular talk was based on? I've Googled and saw couple of books but don't know which it is.

[@constancewalsh3646]

"There may be a thousand people who love me, but none of them know me."

[@scottclute7443]

@@mish471 no

[@georgekanellopoulos8062]

A friend sent me this link and im glad they did , as parents who have had severe illness - primarily due to psychosomatic distress, this is an important message A book my Peter Blythe- Stress Disease- first introduced me to this concept many years ago. I too have suffered from emotional stress in the past, much due to my own emotional baggage, guilt, trauma & shame... and being untrue to my true self .. It all starts with us... we must first forgive and heal ourselves..and not rely on outside influences.. otherwise we will be a slave to them... for me forgiveness from our heart, loving our soul. Its not easy.. it may fight within us at every step..but sometimes we need to suspend disbelief .. we all deserve happiness and love... Illness is a lesson and at times we must take the learnings and let go of the emotion...

[@mariamkinen8036]

I witnessed this connection to happen to my mum in her dysfunctional marriage with a sociopath/ covert narc husband . I saw it with my own eyes , in front of me . This is self-evident n nothing new under the sun . Thx.

[@Godskingdomwithin]

“ I am he, as you are he, and you are me and we are all together.” John Lennon

[@hew195050]

Beautiful!

[@jenniferlynnebecker7316]

I M U N U R I peace

[@louarmstrong6128]

Lennon would have benefited from this

[@rosariob9426]

"Get to know who you are...be who you are..."

[@domesticdiva1045]

Gabor, I have been looking for you since I was 3 years old.. I am now 63. I was baby # 4 within 2-1/2 years. My memory of baby #5 coming along was the image of my Mother literally setting me down from her lap onto my feet and sending the message to me That I will now be responsible for everyone in the household and possibly everyone else who might happen along.

[@TH-eb5ro]

I resolved serious cardiology issues by meditation and then therapy. I am thankful the cardiologist was willing to work with me exploring things while he found zero physical reasons. My situational anxiety was causing high blood pressure and Afib. Have a health issue explore every area of your life including nutrition and mental health. Great information on this video.

[@Cris-jj6yd]

Amen 🙏🏻

[@martemller9820]

I truly appreciate Dr. Gabor Mate. He is one rare gem in this world! A little disappointed he couldn't help himself not to "mock" Dr. Jordan Peterson (41:00). I feel were Gabor Mate is teaching self love Mr. Peterson is teaching self respect. The one can hardly live without the other. Would be interesting if they could have a public conversation with eachother one day.

[@jmc8076]

Watch more of his talks and read his books Dr Mate (or again if you have) does teach self respect.

[@petromaria9502]

WOW..! What a man, his knowledge and tone of voice captivates me. He seems so peacefuly during the whole presentation.

[@brettwayne4583]

He is an amazing man fully aware and full of wisdom. Love to him and all whom listen to him.

[@piratenLjos]

Blessed to be able to watch this. This man is the GOAT.

[@loreneroach1617]

Wow, I'm not a dr or taken any Physc classes although I've had lots of physiological therapy through the years. I'm 72 years young and couldn't stop watching.his videos last night. His theories, insight and over all concepts are so interesting to why we do things and how it makes us feel. I'm not really an educated person ,but feel I'm not stupid either. I've had lots of traumas, situations along with chemical addictions. So going forward and understanding WHY we do what we do. has opened my mind to so many things that have plagued me over the years. I feel I was able to identify, relate and feel his empathy towards the Body and Mind concept. I have a vision problem I was born with and have 9 eye operations with no success, so I don't read well for my double vision gives me headaches. Although I can do art work,, go figure. Thanks again for you insights that I've been thinking about all morning. Sincerely, Lori

[@ddss97]

Love to see learning and discovery for someone of your age !( I wish my grandmothers were as curious as you :>)

[@Bojan_V]

💚

[@monicasadlier6401]

72 yrs and still learning : that’s truly living ❤️

[@ladonnaramirez4815]

Your comment gives me so much hope. I'm 38 and barely figuring this out

[@antonvannelli9085]

The "why" is so essential. When we start learning what our own automatic thought processes are, and how we respond to stress/trauma, we start building the awareness to change it.

[@cmyers8408]

Explains so much to me about the issues I have had. Also why unfortunately messages that I heard in some, thankfully not all, Churches were really unhealthy for me. Like the message that I was selfish.. As someone who had a history of emotional abuse in childhood, being raped, being sexually abused, I already had depression and PTSD, I did not also need to be assaulted with the message that I was selfish.

[@jewel2022now]

So true, blessing for you.

[@zovalentine7305]

Dr. Gabor Mate 🤹‍♀️🙏The Best 🔎🔬🔍 The most humble 🤗 The most knowledgeable 🎤 The most loving. ✌💖💓💗⚘🎶📣

[@SofaKingShit]

I worked a while in a large Norwegian hospital where the only medical team that didn't have a ward was the psychosomatic treatment staff, because they would have to treat people with all sorts of diverse illnesses and visit all sorts of surprising wards. That was when l had the realization that the brain has a pretty extreme influence on other organs, and incidentally it also seems to go the other way as well.

[@neildavies3040]

amazing, I have eczema, severe asthma, also eye difficulties, and numerous other problems, when I was a child stress was part and part of everyday life, parents fighting,two younger brothers,all my ailments, hiding stuff from my younger brothers,,,,, stressed out I am now,,, I'm lucky to have a beautiful wife and family but I'm on anti depressants,,,, I think this man is spot on what he is saying,,,,,🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿

[@hew195050]

It just occurred to me with this talk, and in my intense anger toward my sister the last several years, that I sublimated until my early 60's while she brutally demeaned and abused me making sure to do it when we were alone...recently she said to my cousin "Why is she so damned angry?". I haven't spoken to her in 6 years since my parents died, continually dragging up all the horrible things she did to me since I was a baby. Now I realize why I keep playing it in my head. I never allowed myself to speak up to her EVER for 66 years. I'm processing. I now am allowing the intense anger I suppressed all this time. All those years of suppression. Dear god.

[@angelathonbury2145]

I like listening to him bit of any eye opener given my medical history I'm inspired to take charge of my medical in a different way all my conditions are serious. I'm starting to make myself a priority. Realising I'm in trouble I need to fill my needs.

[@lindamullin8309]

Thank you. You are changing how we practice “healthcare”. Lots of love

[@anneperry9014]

I had tonsillitis at least twice a year when I was a child, really bad. My mom was a horrible religious person and the same with my brother. I also had bad colds and coughs and night terrors. Strange isn't it!!!

[@liznorth4028]

It doesnt seem strange to me...i grew up the same way.. Look😍we survived!!!

[@anneperry9014]

@@liznorth4028 Ridiculous!!!!

[@liznorth4028]

@@anneperry9014 one day you'll "get it". 😉

[@celestejones6315]

He's such an amazing and inspiring human being. Such a gentle, loving, and intelligent soul... I'm brought to tears every single time I listen to him no matter what the main subject at hand is. And wow, those were really good questions at the end! It's a little unfortunate that he misheard the last question when she asked about postpartum depression rather than depression in general, and I would've loved to hear his response specifically regarding that topic, too; but I at least feel pretty confident I could find something somewhere of his about it nonetheless, I'm sure. And as well renowned as he is, I really wish still that even more people would devote some of their precious time and their undivided attention to his wisdom. I really do believe the whole world could benefit from doing so.

[@belletense3618]

There’s a Japanese tradition of being concerned that your fam will get cancer, gut ulcers, anemia, and more if they are too stressed. A lot of Asian and older western medical advice has an emphasis on what Dr. Maté is talking about. It’s odd how we continuously lose and regain information throughout generations.

[@csk062353]

So glad I watched this. Well worth the time.

[@lidanygonzalez8288]

For so long I defended my parents whom I placed on a pedestal because they immigrated to this country and accomplished the “American Dream “. My two younger brothers and I were raised in a Christian environment where we the “word of God” was instilled in us and the “fear of God seared into us” going to church 3-4 times a week was a requirement. Corporal punishment was part of life. Sheltered and emotionally neglected. As time passed I wanted to be involved in extra curricular activities like wanting to learn to play the piano or karate classes. I played football from 7th to 12th grade never once seeing my parents in the stands supporting me. I have no school football pictures to prove I ever played football because to them that was a game of demons where people were violently trying to kill each other they said. I fell in love with baseball in the 6th grade when a friend of mine introduced me to it and his father covering the cost to enroll me in a baseball league whereupon I became the league MVP as a “rookie” with the most home runs. It felt amazing every time we won a game. We went 18-2 and won the championship. Never once seeing my parents in the stands supporting me like all the other kids parents. These are some of my fondest memories as a kid, never once have I recalled a fond memory such as these with my father. People who watched me grow up describe me as a kid whom one would say has adhd in today’s world. Those same people also remember saying to themselves “those poor kids always home never having fun”. At the age of 18 I was incarcerated and sentenced to 20 years in prison for an armed robbery of which I did 16-1/2 years on. I was released in 2014 healthy as can be feeling could take on the world. Never in my life had I broken a bone in my body or any medical issues. My parents rolled out the red carpet and funded a small business (food truck) for me that I could not manage in the end because I tore my knees exercising one day. THEN CAME MY DOWNFALL...... like everything came crashing down at once. I was stressing myself out trying to make my parents happy and proud of me. My back started hurting for no reason, I started to lose my fine motor skills. I could no longer write anymore than a sentence without fatigue on my wrists. Friends I wrote during my incarceration would common how eloquent my writings were and how I should write a book one day. Writing a 40 page letter was nothing to me. I started to see all the specialists I could reach. Some of the best Neurologists and neuro-surgeons and scientists whom all scratched their head at the enigmatic symptoms I was displaying that pointed towards carpal-tunnel but could not wrap their head around it to give me 100% diagnosis so I was tested for all sorts of diseases like MS, ALS, FIBROMYALGIA, etc because of all the symptoms I described. My parents and siblings would be furious because I would not answer the phone when they called because the vibrations of the ringer or vibrate of the cellphone would send painful reverberations throughout my entire body from the point of contact. So bad I would literally drop my phone the second it rang. If I was leaning on the metal fence 100 feet away from the front gate and it would start to open I could feel the painful sensations from the motor running. It got so bad I couldn’t even drive because I could feel the vibrations of the motor. So I test drove a tesla and this time I could literally feel the ridges on the road through the tires. Just totally perplexing all the Doctors that were treating. The thoughts of having a terminal illness only sent me into a deeper spiral of emotions. Eventually I had a Radio Frequency Ablation (RFA) and carpal tunnel release surgery on my right hand all for naught because the symptoms never went away. My family discarded me, took me off the will and coerced me to sign back a couple properties I that were supposed to be for me when they passed. I felt I had ADHD based on my recent actions and behavior. During my research I came across many disorders that fit my symptoms but the ones that made everything clear was NARCISSISM and ANTI SOCIAL PERSONALITY DISORDER (Psycopathy) I could not believe my eyes when I read articles from world renowned Doctors that clearly wrote about my family even-though they had no idea who my family was. At 41 years of age I came to the realization that I was raised by an overt Narcissistic mother and and enabling Covert Narcissistic father whom created a Narcissistic Psycopathic brother. I’ve been devastated to say the least. I’ve come to learn that what I developed is Somatic Disorders on top of the many other things I’m sure I have like CPTSD, ADHD, DEPRESSION etc. so long a list I can’t even remember the names to it all. Thankfully I have my two babies that keep me alive everyday. If it wasn’t for my wife whom I realize has rescued me from the toxic monstrous family I was raised in I would be in a mental hospital. I recently came across Doctor Gabor Mate studies and have no doubt he has helped me solve the mysterious health problems I’ve had. This by far is the saddest chapter of my life. The betrayal of my family.

[@JimiBegbaaji]

Wow. Definitely somatic and a response to your emotional environment. But there are those well versed in these issues that can restore you back to purposeful living.

[@rosiemckinney1061]

At the age of 67 I became fully aware that I was raised by a covert narcissistic parent. I am grateful for the healing from this awareness. And sad that I was not aware of it earlier. I think I would have made different choices if I had been aware.

[@katherinetutschek4757]

I developed acne after being rejected by someone I loved, still problematic over a decade later. I also got tonsillitis after being rejected by someone else I loved, though that healed with treatment after about a month and one relapse. A broken heart really can mess with you physically. Also I definitely notice I get ill more since moving overseas into an environment with more emotional stressors.

[@uwu-ku6ly]

Yesss my heart was broken at a young age and I really feel like that's what caused this condition i have right now :( also i always hated myself bcz i was really skinny growing up but the hate for my body came from others who always used to point out how skinny i was and they passed comments like "don't you eat anything?" And now my body has really suffered bcz of all the negative impact these events had on it

[@leighatkins22]

The thoughts we let ourselves keep or get away with are the ones that decide our destiny and it's up to us to pull our minds into line... When I was 12 I began a strange compulsive coughing habit and something said to me "stop this or we will grow up like this and won't be able to stop" so I did. Looking back, it was almost like a type of Tourettes or obsessive/compulsive disorder was trying to grip my mind. And while I was with my ex-husband, I constantly had this understanding that I was going to die at 65ys old - now I am no longer with him, that has disappeared from my consciousness. It is up to us to listen carefully to what our subconsciousness is trying to tell us and take control of our minds and therefore our bodies, our health and our existence.

[@dawnwoodward1101]

Thank you for sharing your experience of your thoughts while you were with your ex. I am recently out of an abusive relationship during which I had thoughts of an early death. I am relieved to know that those thoughts go away after one leaves the bad relation ship. Thank you for sharing!

[@leighatkins22]

@@dawnwoodward1101 You're welcome Dawn. Looking back now, i see that he was a narcissist and he was slowly actually sucking and drawing on my life force and devouring it as his own which is why i felt like i was slowly dying... talk about "supply"!!! And my son says that he is now just unbearable to be around and completely negative all the time which explains what he was using my energy for! And obviously that's exactly what your ex was using you for too... time to get off the bus sunshine and WALK WITH YOUR OWN 2 LEGS (not that leeches have legs to walk with 😅😂🤣). God bless Dawn... our lives are now our own! 🙏🙏🙏🥳🥳🥳

[@judywinters8615]

every statement rings true to this girl. I am so grateful for his work.

[@dawnkikong637]

He is a brilliant and beautiful human but I am surprised that this body-mind info is so groundbreaking. It's been known for centuries. I guess it's the right time and he certainly delivers the info in a wonderfully acceptable manner with his audible compassion and intelligent mind. I'm glad that he gives credit to indigenous peoples for their insight and wisdom.

[@dawnkikong637]

That said, I am a huge fan and have been binge-listening to him and his healing voice.

[@ch716]

I can't wait for Gabor's next book! But 2 years is better than never.

[@laraoneal7284]

Repression of healthy anger will make one very ill.

[@vickiefagan9158]

Or active in your addiction

[@jmc8076]

Basically whole premise of talk. Esp @1:09:33 fwd.

[@chris432t6]

Totally agree!

[@laraoneal7284]

@@vickiefagan9158 Do u mean Activate your addiction?

[@1maggiemulryan]

Beautiful brilliant caring. I thank you, Dr. Mate’, for being who you are in the world. Patricia Ryan

[@brightphoebus]

I had a good doctor when I was going through emotional abuse at home, explain to me how the immune system works, that stress jeopardizes it's efficacy, and informed me that unless I made a change in my life, my symptoms would continue to worsen. He first referred me to a psychiatric nurse, and soon thereafter I left my abusive husband.

[@ramoncollet]

¨In the modern world stresses are mostly emotional and the biggest stress of all is trying to be someboby other than who you are¨ Hans Selye

[@Bojan_V]

True.

[@paparudaruda656]

I believe that he looks like the “saddest” doctor but by far the most mindful and deductive person.

[@susanroberts8686]

What an amazing person, loved listening to him

[@AndiSzilagyi]

i was there, it was amazing!

[@farizaakhmetova8433]

I am jealous and happy for u)

[@isaorozco778]

Andrea Szilagyi lucky 🍀

[@jacquilynn1581]

Lucky 🍀

[@artisticwhistleblower1756]

This speaks deeply to me, as I'm certain many many others! Thank you.

[@UTAH100]

This is a great video. Impressed that you referenced Dr. van der Kolk. I didn't expect that. He is another brilliant person and his book is a renowned masterpiece.

[@beller8501]

i love him, the way he can exsplain childhood trauma , what i went threw,in such a way we all can understand and change this epedemic for good

[@Sacred-Heart-of-Jesus829]

Who besides me thinks Dr. Gabor Mate is amazing! He's helped me tremendously!

[@KeithaBird]

Love and Deeply Appreciate this Man❤

[@LadyCoyKoi]

...and people say that my explosions are dangerous and harmful, well according to Dr. Mate I am expressing the innermost anger I have for the sickness that Society is forcing upon people and I will not sit back quietly while it kills people like a soundless, voiceless psychopath. That explains why I don't suffer from diseases the way most of my family members do.... I let it all go.

[@skylinegtsrock]

😂

[@cpodgorelec]

Bravo. Standing ovation. Regards Australia

[@gurudutt9566]

Dr Mate came across as authentic, genuine , remarkable being whose contribution for the well being of humans is exceptional.His bio- psycho connection of the disease is an old concept but his remanding is refreshing and reinforcing.

[@RamSadeh]

Actually wiped tears when listening to you telling the story of Du pre

[@paparudaruda656]

I can’t thank you enough for all the informations shared with us!

[@renatapaschoal7605]

Fantastic content. Thank you very much for sharing it. I'm a fan of Dr. Mate's work!

[@rosebw1077]

Dear Gabor bless you thank you so much I’ve listen to this before but I needed to hear it again tonight thank you so much I pray that you are healthy and well.