Dr. Gabor Maté Speaks to Psychotherapists

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VIDEO HIGHLIGHTS:
Biases of western medicine -- skip to around the 4:00 mark of video
Childhood trauma and seeing an "ologist" -- skip to around the 15:25 mark of video
The fatal beliefs you need to drop NOW -- skip to around the 25:35 mark of video
The unconscious journey from state to trait -- skip to around the 39:05mark of video
Illness can be a powerful teacher -- skip to around the 1:11:05 mark of video
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[@kimberlysmithcarlson1777]

He should win a Nobel Prize for his work...

[@timcook8745]

I concur 👌

[@sallyrile7601]

Exactly 💯

[@anetalewandowska3074]

Exactly

[@Azazello321]

I was thinking the very same thing and then i saw your comment. Absolutely he deserves the Nobel for his work. Great guy, and what a history too!

[@SofiNme365]

Amen!

[@Andrescastel]

This human being has two qualities that are rarely seen together: Wisdom and Empathy. This makes him extraordinary. I would do anything to spend an hour with him. 🙏🏼

[@BeaVizcarra]

Disagree with you that wisdom and empathy are not often seen together. Is only logical that a wise person is also an empath. These two traits go hand in hand. Maybe you are confusing the word wisdom for knowledge

[@billboyle1588]

You just put Gabor's lawn gnomes: Bio, Psycho & Socio on high, over-needy-stressor-in-perimeter alert.

[@nanBread5]

Yes

[@darlakazzy5968]

I def agree!!

[@saetae9208]

Well you're him with not only him but with us also!

[@LilyPeregrine]

As someone who has a chronic illness and mental illness as a result of childhood trauma. I felt relief watching this. It's like finally someone understands what happened to me.

[@TheBushRanger.]

How do we heal?

[@gigievans395]

Get info on whatever trauma u suffered 👍 watch tons of vids n get some MH on board to give u tools, then u hv to WALK IT OUT honestly, n THAT IS THE TOUGH PART! 😭 DOING IT right now after 50 yrs of suffering IV FINALLY got the tools! 🔥💯

[@rberliner6680]

@@TheBushRanger. book suggestions: the truth of suffering and the path of Liberation by Chogyam Trungpa. When things fall apart by Pema Chodron.

[@bettinarossi7908]

💖💖💖

[@MsDori]

​@@TheBushRanger. Allow yourself to feel your emotions. Don't surpress the.

[@rayxnne]

Diagnosed with MS at 23, barely mobile. Traumatic teenage years. Suppressed emotions 100%

[@fi-train8961]

Hope you are doing well Rayanne!

[@hamsaabdulrahman6412]

♥️

[@sheiladuke3289]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@Zoonofski]

I highly recommend searching for people who have reversed MS with carnivore diet. On youtube or reddit. All the best

[@magic71202]

"You have hidden beliefs that you don't question."

[@62Cristoforo]

I doubt it gets any deeper than this one thing

[@rabbitcreative]

"Smith kicks Brown."

[@MR-fe7st]

“As a matter a fact, any identification with anything outside of yourself is a risk for illness.” Wonderful.

[@readygi]

i felt that

[@edwigcarol4888]

and it gets a bit confusing because we must include any identification with a healthy diet, as determined by external sources.. L.i.s.t.e.n. t.o y o u r b.od.y. each moment for ever.

[@annhewitt6471]

@@readygi =21

[@christinehogan4792]

Excellent & informative

[@hablabamosa]

Honest question : What does this actually mean ? "Outside of yourself" ?

[@valpaden5869]

I’m a helper to a huge fault. I never knew why and now I do. I’m almost 50. How different my life and my children’s lives could have been if I would have heard this 30 years ago...... Today is a new life.

[@anretta]

I'm a helper too. What would you have done differently please?

[@michaelangelo7310]

You weren't ready for it back then. God's timing.

[@adrianasimmons2102]

The master shows when the student is ready

[@dr.gbailey]

@@adrianasimmons2102 Exactly! Beautiful.

[@darlakazzy5968]

Wow you got it, spot on!! He def would have made a huge difference in my life and my daughters life. We are unfortunately not talking. She blocked me on everything. It’s killing me cuz she has no idea how much it’s hurting me and pain is the one thing I cant handle anymore. She has no idea how my child hood has affected me and has no respect for me. I raised her to be an amazing young Woman ! I trested he soo good. I was a very good parent. we became distant after she moved out. I had gotten very depressed cuz all the trauma started coming back after she had left and it only got worse.I’m in so much pain. I just wish she would watch Dr’s videos. Take care!!! ❤️

[@beryosa]

I can listen to this man for hours ... Actually, the only man I can listen to for hours.

[@berylcomar]

I wish you had met the great Hypnotherapist Gerald Kein, then there’d be two

[@juergenmueller9952]

Hahahaha

[@lisaj5769]

suppression of emotions -> suppression of immune system

[@freeyourmindmeditations8337]

By Doctor Gabor Mate

[@elke9499]

wow

[@dramatriangle]

Yup

[@edwigcarol4888]

The immune system as this incredible second s.e.l.f. so mighty. so sensitive so clever. Our best partner against cancer...

[@ReformedWhiteKnight]

@@edwigcarol4888 what about the 'beer bug'? ;-)

[@neeneelee1973]

One of the most compassionate souls on this earth, this man speaking

[@Herkimerdiamond]

Totally true!!! Indeed!!!!

[@juanesteban8827]

If you get the chance read his book "In the realm of hungry ghosts". I do a lot of work with people from marginalized & stigmatized populations and it was an eye opener for me. to say it changed my life would be an understatement. I just finished my third read.

[@rhondajordan2591]

Yes I very much agree this courageous dr is also misunderstood by some who don't have a open mine or refuse to try

[@juanesteban8827]

@@rhondajordan2591 He's telling us things that we as a society are not ready to hear. It's much easier to blame "genetics" or bad choices than it is to accept the fact we have been doing things wrong. 20-30 years down the road his ideas will be commonplace in medical schools

[@ReformedWhiteKnight]

Really? I find him frequently berating his audience in a very sly way about what they have to think is right or wrong. He also involves his political views strongly into his presentations which if he would be overt about it, wouldn’t bother me, but again, he throws it in cleverly and suggests that if anyone is thinking differently there must be something wrong with them... and lastly he looooves to present the all so fashionable eternal victim frequently, just listen out for it... I was regally interested in his lectures but he has an agenda and once you hear it, it’s difficult to unhear (although I am listening to this video right now) ;-)

[@antiv]

Meditation and intimate contact with the natural environment has had a concrete and tangible effect on my well-being and stress levels. Inner peace and low levels of stress are both keys to a good life.

[@songbird5169]

Me too!!

[@armsitchy7623]

Best medicine is going outside and spending time in nature.

[@PS-xb9hc]

Meditation does not work with trauma. Trauma needs to be addressed through facing the uncomfortable emotions and connect again.

[@ibolyakatona8192]

@@PS-xb9hc I've tried that. I don't think it works if you face it head on alone. It just ends up overwhelming you and then you end up pushing it back into the back of your mind cause you can't deal with it. Or maybe it's just me...

[@WildImgination]

@@ibolyakatona8192 It’s becoming unbearable for me but I can’t afford therapy :/

[@Robin-bk2lm]

I wish dr. Maté and others would clarify that childhood trauma in not something that looks like trauma to us as adults, but is traumatic to a child. Edit: never mind. He just did. And thoroughly.

[@Rudey64]

I've watched a number of Gabor's videos and have been totally impressed by what he has to say. Result: I've just ordered four of his books - hard copies.

[@nkinyori]

Also look for his new documentary The Wisdom of Trauma 🙏🏾

[@mharrod258]

@@nkinyori aren't the doco and the interviews just INCREDIBLE!!

[@nkinyori]

@@mharrod258 omg!!! I cried so much watching the documentary!!!! And yes, the interviews are poignant. The wisdom from all the speakers is healing ❤️✨

[@Rudey64]

@@randymulder9105 When the Body Says No; Hold On To Your Kids; Scattered Minds; In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts.

[@terryedwards952]

He is absolutely brilliant, yet so humble. Humanity at it's best.

[@daniellacosta1756]

This is probably number 100 videos I have watched and listened to, Dr Gabor is fascinating, illuminating, full of knowledge and understanding which makes me feel seen every time. The work back to self is hard but listening to Gabor pushes me to keep going 😢

[@nancy171]

He has so much understanding of the human being's pysche. He is gifted like no other. Amazing

[@adimeter]

I think he stands on the shoulders of past giants. Great minds learn from great minds.

[@anitachojnacki4512]

SENSATIONAL HUMAN

[@abbebjorkman]

"Any identification outside of your authentic self is a risk factor for illness" Wooooow that hits hard

[@naixxx]

That closing bit on personality.. damn.. he’s good. Everytime I hear him on a talk, seminar, panel, or podcast I gain new insights even having known his works. His incredible ability to keep taking his students into further depths of learning is ingenious and so genuine as I realize we are invited to grow with him in this together.

[@anitachojnacki4512]

Well written nai he is a AI GOD BUT REAL X

[@JoyMala3]

I needed this so badly. Thanks for linking how suppression of emotions can link to disease in a way that those of us who are non-medics can easily understand. I'm grateful

[@zed804]

I absolutely love his perspective on childhood trauma and the way that it has such a deep impact on our health and on society.

[@lorrainepaterson4598]

Great listening on a sunny Sunday morning, when the youngest child is asleep, the husband is out with footballs and people. The harbour is glistening, the leaves are shining, the air is still and 15 degrees and the sun is warming my legs ❤️🌝🌱

[@paulkeys7859]

This sounds like perfection, if just for a little while

[@lucymars4319]

Lol…I’m doing the same.

[@jenifermullin7168]

I live in South Florida and at 50° I'm thinking of packing it in. How do You do it?😉💞

[@adimeter]

You have a lovely way with words.

[@Steffi-tc8lo]

I love good kind people like you. Wrap yourselves in the warmth of knowing there is more good in this world. We see you❤

[@monikamona6844]

Repression of healthy anger disarms the immune system. This is really something to look into on the road to regaining health. Great lecture Doctor Mate 👌

[@kennethwoodland152]

Hi

[@liamcrosby1710]

, da

[@tdreamgmail]

How exactly do you know what healthy anger is

[@rabbitcreative]

@@tdreamgmail They don't. People just like to string words together without first-hand-experience of any referents.

[@HansenFT]

@@tdreamgmail the truth of the statement doesn't require the person to know the exact definition of healthy anger. Should be obvious that someone who has likely either repressed all their anger (which I guess from the vibe of the comment is the case) and/or expressed it through blind rage etc doesn't know that definition. That comes with the territory.. healthy anger still exists. My guess would be anger that's expressed in a way that is neither damaging to one self nor others (at least emotionally mature others who can handle legitimate anger). It's likely in-between total repression and total rage somewhere. (Edited for spelling errors)

[@79eyre]

He is a doctor like no other

[@paulinaluck5623]

This is the Best speech I've ever heard so truthful my mum died of cancer and she had exact personalisty caring fot others surpresing her emotions needs and.herself i learn not to copy this patter

[@sheiladuke3289]

❤ God Bless You 😇 ❤

[@theforensicbadass]

I concur. Surviving childhood trauma I missed up to 48 days of school a year from illness. In adult life, 22 years in narcissistic abuse living in a bed deteriorated n not understanding why. Freed myself. Got into counseling n daily discipline recovery programs to learn and educate myself... I now live trauma free. Illness free. No canes braces injections heart attacks etc... I had to survive 3 NDEs first to understand what why n how . A coma. Organ failure due to PTSD. And a suicide attempt to fully begin the journey of discovery. The body keeps score is an excellent book btw. Not this man's work, but so valuable for anyone suffering illness and doesn't recognize why they cant get well bc an abuser most likely is involved w them.

[@saralacombe2692]

Jesus, woman. You blew my mind. I respect your process & your journey; wishing you all the best going forward. ...There’s a reason we’re still here, I’m looking for mine but I can see yours is to share your experience strength & hope.

[@theforensicbadass]

@@saralacombe2692 thanks Sarah. I do try to encourage othwrs in such a new way to find easier understanding than I had to deal with. We need reformation in education and healing process as well as judiciary. I'm here as a survivor to hopefully help guide a smoother process for others.

[@murielodette2995]

i purcahsed those book,,,the body keeps the score, and the myth of normal

[@elisenieuwe4649]

Yes, hypertension definitely can be caused by stress. My uncle had insane hypertension and it always struck me as weird. He died of a heart attack. At the funeral we learned he had been homeless for a few years! (Yes he somehow kept that a secret from everyone even though my mother saw him every other week. Absolutely crazy.) That explained so much. Being homeless and having no one to talk about it with, causes huge stress.

[@sotiriapapadopoulou8945]

My God, Elise, that broke my heart. May I ask a favour? Could you please tell me his first name? I would like to pray for the man's soul. I feel connected to him (don't ask...). Just his first name. Thanks.

[@anitachojnacki4512]

@@sotiriapapadopoulou8945 Amen

[@juliozz59]

"Trauma essentially is a restriction of your capacity, a limitiation, a constriction in the body, in your mental capacity to respond in that present moment frm your authentic self" -G.M.

[@Llkc60]

This is what a humanist looks like in the 21st century. His is the way for medicine of the future, integrating separate disciplines in line with the mindbody unity. Thank you for your work.

[@Robin-bk2lm]

I've never found a more informed and balanced radical.

[@thetruthaboutsobriety2448]

You saved my life sir. Thank you with all of my heart.

[@angelapitts2123]

I have never met doctor that asked me about any childhood trauma. If so, I could have been helped years ago. Working on my self care now.

[@songbird5169]

We don't have family doctors anymore.. This is very worrying.

[@nkinyori]

Gabor drops gems all day everyday 👌🏾 such a healer❤️

[@thehighpriestess8431]

The people who gave thumbs down need tons of love and proper attention. They are lonely and isolated, Blessings. The traits of an Adult Child of a Dysfunctional Family

[@avonbrownie]

The people who thumbs down are likely 90% bots / hired hands of pharmaceutical companies that keep us in pain and cycles of addiction....

[@theforensicbadass]

What you're doing by shaming them is adding to the ongoing problem. That would include dropping unsolicited advice. Awareness works on all levels. The more you heal the less you'll shame or randomly analyze others.

[@saralacombe2692]

I can’t believe the feedback left before mine! I see your empathy & appreciate it. ...if my 15 year old son read your comment, I would be pleased. He would infer that you’re stable & kind, he would appreciate that you acknowledge them (whether your assessment is correct or not), and he most definitely would stop and think ‘Hmmm, I wonder what the thumbs-down people are actually thinking? I wonder if she’s right?”

[@rubytuesday7653]

@@theforensicbadass real spiritual badass

[@theforensicbadass]

@@rubytuesday7653 hugs. It comes w education and time spent on my own personal healing journey. I used to leave unsolicited advice too. I think I was very critical too. The voices of the inner critic abusive parent then the inner critic voice of the exe narcissist husband. It just takes time to understand the habits and defenses one forms from abuse neglect and trauma. Recovery is no joke but it also takes extreme honesty w oneself.

[@mdzmdz7329]

Edgar Cayce the sleeping prophet says there is no dis-ease only a disconnect from our authentic self a denial of our spiritual nature.

[@ReformedWhiteKnight]

Plenty of those then according to the so called pandemic...

[@lovesurfer23]

I love this man, first I just thought “ how a man his caliber looks so sad, he reminds me of the little prince” But then I’ve started to listening to his knowledge! OMG! Hits the nails on the head 100%! ❤

[@amandaswan5529]

Thank goodness for this man... this is how I work with my clients and have continuously felt like I'm going against the grain with regards to modern Western medicine practices, but I will not give up!

[@karenmcardle142]

You are a jem just waiting to be discovered, I asked my doctor about the Vegas nerve the other day and he told me that's new age . Then he asked me how I knew all I knew ?! I said research and watching doctors , and he knew of the drs I mentioned so he knew I wasn't talking rubbish . You keep going against the grain you are doing brilliant #Happydays. Blessings to you and your,s 🌹💐🌻

[@freezing5]

@@karenmcardle142 Vagus nerve?

[@marinahill2031]

I live in Ohio do you know of any therapists that support the same practices?

[@amandaswan5529]

@@marinahill2031 Hi Marina, I’m in the UK and do online work as a psychotherapist and hypnotherapist. I work very much like Dr Mate. I don’t know anyone in Ohio unfortunately. There is likely to be a directory online you can look for someone local on. We have The Counselling Directory here. Dr Mate’s work is specialised so do look for the description of the therapists approach to their work, best wishes, Amanda.

[@irenerodarte9006]

❤️

[@SofiaRain778]

Environmental health the planet and people need health to become the focal point.Clean air ,water ,earth .How we treat each other and the planet have a relationship. Until we get that ,nothing will change .

[@kennethwoodland152]

Hi Gayle good morning

[@angelapitts2123]

Both my dad and my step dad died of cancer They were married to my evil narcissist mother and neither of them ever called her out on any of her rage. They both suppressed their emotions. I always ALWAYS knew there was probably a link between them both dying from years of dealing with my mom. 😥

[@punyashloka4946]

Sorry 😞 to hear that.

[@Getyourclarity]

I feel you. My mother died of cancer and married my narcissistic father. After she passed away, I am reading a scientific book and wanted the answer to what happened in my family.

[@lucymars4319]

“Married men live longer than unmarried men, and unmarried women live longer than married men. Put that in your pipe and smoke it”. Best line ever! Thanks, Dr. Gabor!, 😆

[@lolarosesd]

It's been stated many times. It's a factual.

[@DragonFlyOwl]

Is that really all you got out of this talk?! Wow

[@voodoosoup8]

Erratum, he actually said: “Married men live longer than unmarried men but married women don’t live longer than unmarried women.”

[@romy_nutrition_saludable]

@@voodoosoup8 Exactly.

[@rampitup12]

@@lolarosesd why is it a problem id that is all she got out of it? 😳😳😳

[@matthews95_]

I’m gonna devote my life to fixing this in myself, I feel like he’s talking about me specifically and as a health nut, I don’t want to be blind sided by this kind of mental toxicity

[@plantcatlover87]

For the last fifteen years at least I had several symptoms of MS (some mild and some severe, one landed me in hospital because doctors suspected stroke at first). No official diagnisis so far. Gabor gives me so much hope. My body is saying no and I'm finally listening ❤️

[@suzesinger6762]

Bless you. xx It sometimes takes years ..to dawn on us that we need to be kind to our bodies.

[@AlissaBlackMuddyMastiffs]

Functional neurological disorder? Might want to look into it. It can take a while for a proper diagnosis.

[@lambylambcurly]

@@AlissaBlackMuddyMastiffs what is this? What could be the symptoms? How to diagnose this

[@lambylambcurly]

What are your symptoms of I may ask

[@sheiladuke3289]

❤❤❤❤❤😇 😇

[@hellowondrrful]

I developed rare cancer at 18....I have goosebumps , also in remission for years now

[@sheiladuke3289]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@gioiagioia]

Deeply grateful for sharing this video 💕. I totally agree with the trauma definition

[@TheThora17]

Dr. Matè is THE BEST! Everything he covers makes sense

[@Amyloveshotels]

This man is a gift to the human race 😊

[@suziecollins9313]

What a way to end this brilliant lecture with the different personalities. I can see myself and many of my family members and friends playing out these different personalities and how they came from a "temporary state to a long term trait and now a constriction (trauma)" wow! 💯 let us trust our higher self = authentic self, so we can fully expand into our full self. Ngā mihi Dr Gabor 🙏❤️

[@karenmcardle142]

Thank you, Dr Gabor Mate , my husband passed away at 45 due to cancer , and he would never of asked for help , which he didn't, until it was noticed he was coughing up blood , I feel so guilty , I know I couldn't of stopped what happened but it would of been handy to know what I know now . R. I. P Bbz catch u on the other side ❣. Hopefully your next life doesn't have so much pain . Its so sad , that abuse rears its ugly head through your health . He was a beautiful person . Died far too young , breaks my heart . He suffered as a child , helped ppl since he was 13 , had a good life till 44 then boom 💥 diagnosed In the April, 9 months and 9 days later ,gone , to heaven , I tell myself, atleast he's pain free now , I could of carried on looking after him forever but thats being selfish on my behalf . I am so grateful for the 30 years we did have and all the memories ofcourse I would swap those memories in a heartbeat , just to have u back , especially for that kiss and cuddle . #justthoughtadshare #unconditional #Love. Love u for infinity and a day 💓 💖 💕 it was lung cancer ♋ ❤

[@Leogrrrlll]

I’m so sorry for your loss. 💖

[@helenobrien5952]

What a lovely tribute Karen. I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m glad you have your happy memories to keep with you.

[@karenmcardle142]

@@helenobrien5952 Thank you , Helen, 💐🌹🌺

[@adimeter]

I'm very sorry for your loss. Are you giving yourself 'self care' and working on your grief?

[@sheiladuke3289]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@leighburville2717]

Great studies, great analysis, great sorting process! All leading up to a great gift for putting together the various studies and bits of information into paragraphs that connect dots that were never connected so well before! Connecting dots is a much needed gift! Thank you gifted ones!

[@ladyj8878]

Wow. Thank you... I had a feeling. Chronic long term stress.... makes so much sense.

[@evdaribarovski5698]

What a great man of wisdom and knowledge. I had horrible trauma as a 5 year old and now I understand better listening to this lecture about anger. It's ok to be angry and now that I am older and wiser if someone makes me angry I answer back. I was quiet for a long time but now I express myself better and found it necessary instead of suffering in silence. Even though you have to lose some people who don't like the evolved me so be it. Look for people who accept you as you are now. Go back to nature walk among the trees and breathe in the beautiful smell of nature. Thank you Dr Mate a wonderful lecture. Very compassionate.

[@christineplaton3048]

Thank you. It took a kong time to be able to firmly establish that I have my own distinct needs/wants as a person. I finally found my voice. And I see no reason to suppress it. That said my body and mind are dealing with trauma. Many physical manifestations of it. You completely validate everything for me. Thank you so much

[@leighburville2717]

Early coping methods become a problem after awhile. Not being connected to your feelings is a big disconnect from yourself.

[@RippleDrop.]

Wow. Indeed. Shaa it

[@leighburville2717]

@@RippleDrop. What a coincidence you should comment. I was just writing a whole bad girl essay on being real honest and angry in my journal. (It's not dirty.) Want to read it? I'm quite proud of it actually.

[@soulaudacity555]

Wow! This was a powerful lecture, especially when he begin speaking about healthcare providers not dealing with their own pain. Thank you, Dr. Matè!

[@anitachojnacki4512]

Yes we'll put

[@pheona1000]

I really needed to hear you speak this evening.

[@rishitalwar]

Thank you for sharing this ❤️

[@62Cristoforo]

I used to watch the same music videos over and over. Today I watch this video, time and again

[@marisolfernandez213]

Fascinating talk! Thank you 😊

[@ccSkydog]

grateful for this lecture today. it helped me get out of my head for a little while.

[@michelle7647]

Most definitely I have been understanding and viewing things this way for many years now. Thank you for sharing and shedding light in a dark space. 🙏

[@Steph_UK]

Thank you, dr. Mate, couldn’t agree more with you! An ulcer which caused anaemia and passing out all of a sudden taught me to completely cut contact with my ex. Needless to say that the relationship was causing me a lot of emotional stress for years. I am in a much better place now and feel strong and healthy and even look younger then I did 5 years ago. I am one of those women who needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle 😂. I am not saying that I don’t like men though, I am attracted to them and find them fascinating. Thanks again for sharing this fountain of wisdom

[@kristinecabot7718]

I can relate to your post.

[@edwigcarol4888]

There are men out there, that can just say the same. And they keep being attracted too Sigh.... We have to reinvent these interactions from scratch..

[@freezing5]

🐟🚲: 😂😂! I can relate to that. No partner is better than a toxic partner.

[@kristinecabot7718]

@@edwigcarol4888 Yes, that's true. I believe it comes from a subconcious level. Things we were taught before we even had language.

[@solarhydrowind]

First off, let's be ourselves, as this video says..."expand into our full selves"...which would include ditching those stupid gender roles that might be leading you into rage and dysfunction, like they have done to me, at times. 💡✌️🏖️🙏

[@nettle_head]

i love the mirrors that show how many people are listening. it gives me hope that more and more people will add momentum to this tide

[@Blickafram]

Healthy anger in the last 17min. A Need. Thank You so much!

[@sallythach]

Thank you so much for this

[@vickysturgis7053]

Brilliant explanations. I needed to hear this. Thank you. 💗

[@Annabeth358]

LOVED this presentation. So many people I know need to see this. I have strong suspicions many of them have physical ailments that root from their psychological health. It was interesting when he brought up how some people with childhood trauma have a habit of ignoring their gut feelings and this results in negative consequences for them. I have childhood complex PTSD. When I get triggered, I tend to have feelings from the past flood my experience in the present. I might feel threatened or unsafe in a completely safe environment. My nervous system is overactive because of the PTSD. Small things can set it off and put me into fight, flight, freeze. This means it could actually be a mistake to trust my gut response (as it has been many times when I've responded aggressively to something I thought was a threat). Sometimes I get scared thinking about the day I actually am in danger or being abused but not knowing whether it's the PTSD or actually happening.

[@hassanshahzad7380]

Exactly right ...inspired

[@rae717]

I totally agree to the exaggerated responses to things that are not dangerous. Yet in other situations, not being able to recognize behaviour in others that indicates that they should not be trusted. How do we recognize our healthy intuition when it is talking to us?

[@sheiladuke3289]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@Prettyangel5566]

What a “ BRILLIANT “ man !

[@latinaalma1947]

The last two minutes are very insightful...I will need to think about these descriptors of what we lacked drive our personality later...real food for thought there.

[@luminyam6145]

Sharing this with my family, thank you Dr. Mate.

[@andreasschmid1066]

Im lucky to have a part in me that loves me. It's comforting that it's always been there. What a journey. What pain. What reward. Being connected to life itself.

[@tahwsisiht]

Body and mind: NO!!! NO MORE. DONE. I am ready to just disappear from this world because this world pathological and don't step up for the vulnerable. Can't stand injustice committed on others and I will ALWAYS be giving me the same love: I matter. If it is not true, so be it. That is what I learned: if I don't step up, nobody will. If I don't put up boundaries, the worst will just walk over me and their enablers too.

[@maryatkinson2161]

@@miguelchippsinteligente6072 Jesus serving electrician. You are spot on.

[@tahwsisiht]

@8Truth Seeking I am just a truth seeker. I seek mine and you seek yours. History will judge. Don't feel so comfortable with numbers. They change. So is human knowledge.

[@tahwsisiht]

@8Truth Seeking are you the one that thinks you are evolved more than others and have the right to question others truth and force your "evolved" with all means? "The end justifies the means"? What is meaning for you and what is meaningful? In the meantime you are not looking to get hurt in your journey? TRUTH HURTS! That is why many never find meaning. They are looking for something that none existent: a painless existence. Prefer shallow because depth hurts. Prefer image because to be real, you have to be wrong. The only way to learn to be wrong too. If you can't be wrong: you will never learn. If you can't learn, you are not seeking: you are imagining. You are not standing strong on the ground, you are in the clouds. Pushed by the whimsyest breeze comes to your way. Wach out for storms, they can kill you. It worth to take the pain of truth than to suffer from the inevitable storm. What you reject to learn, will take you out. Truth can be ignored, but it is stronger than "whimsical thinking". What are you seeking? Truth or some imaginary shelter from it?

[@annemaxwell9975]

Amen to that. Amen. He makes light of such heavy subjects explaining them so clearly it brings relief and understanding to all who hear him.

[@geriscudder3416]

Phenomenal presentation! Thank you !

[@v.h.l.4261]

One of the best talks I've seen/heard in a long time. Wow!

[@andrewflorkowski4338]

Fantastic appreciated. Great psychology of personality towards the end of the podcast..wow ! Love it...x Great information , very helpful.

[@nickygreenfingers]

Oh my goodness, this is such an interesting lecture , it makes me want to go back to an interview with Dr Stephan Lanka . I love listening to Dr Gabor Mate

[@alanfrancis9225]

Worked as a hypnoanalyst where I helped people release their repression’s. Everyone , everyone represses “ trauma “ . Most never release it and go to their grave unhealed. Trauma causes anxiety. Anxiety causes symptoms, physical, mental, phobias and fears. Projection of our shadow is another effect of anxiety. Anxiety causes a persons sexuality to be inhibited. I have released several “traumas “ that my mind had repressed. This transformed me. In my childhood this automatic repression of my deemed dangerous emotions ( chaos) was necessary to survive. Still got a few big ones to bring up. I would agree that the nervous system holds the roadmap for the release of our trapped energy. It’s a shame that my former organisation now doesnt offer analysis. Most therapies tinker with change. They don’t cater for the deeper stuff. Tinkering only changes , releasing repression’s transforms.

[@antonvannelli9085]

Completely agree. Most body centric techniques and methods tinker, or create a brief change. There is a reason for that. I wrote this earlier as a response to another comment, but I think you will find it valuable. Anything that functions through the lens of the physical body will bear the fruit of results. This is because the body is the frame of reference for how we interpret "safe". EMDR, somatic experience, massage/bodywork etc all have roots in the connection and reconnection of the physical body to your awareness/neurological state. Now the problem becomes we can access the parasympathetic, briefly perhaps- but we can not stay in that state. Why? Because the brain seeks homeostasis and if you change your state too fast the limbic system can see that as a threat. I have seen this happen hundreds of times. So it will actually push you the opposite way. I have seen clients have spontaneous back pain/knee pain/ headaches/ breathing issues etc just from trying to "deep breathe, or think about specific stressors. The thing about this, is this a limbic system response that has become programmed via neural pathways as YOUR guarding patterns. AKA when someone with a bad back has stress, their back hurts. Now the biomechanical reasons for their back pain exist (they always do, which is why i assess and address muscular balance and activation patterns) but the limbic system pattern that causes that trigger of pain is NOT biomechanical. It is a guarding pattern. The body/brain seeks to guard that which it perceived as unsafe. Areas that are hurt or tight/tense usually become locked into this neurological guarding pattern over time. When we can create neutrality in body, an improved spinal position, improved breathing, get someone out of physical pain, they usually now have a chance to finally enter parasympathetic, and therefore start the process of this limbic state change. When the guarding does kick in, having the tools to address the muscular activation patterns created by guarding is essential to reset this fight/flight response. Just my two cents as a specialist in this space. Take care!

[@tadoo2]

Outstanding as always with information that changed me and my MS forever.

[@ginawhoever9734]

sorry for a second comment but it is a totally different thought. what happens when you finally START asking for help *from almost anyone/everyone you can think of* , including medical/therapeutic help, help from friends, help from family or others that are "supposed to care about you"... and those people either ignore/dismiss or all out just fail you in every way... until asking for help in itself *becomes* a primary trauma/fear? not because you refused to ask, but because when you DID ask you were abandoned... not only by those who are supposed to care because it is "their career" like doctors/specialists/therapists etc... but also by family and friends who everyone just assumes will care?

[@skypoem5153]

Maybe it depends, if we ask the people who created or recreated the trauma for help, we will be very disappointed by their lack of caring and it will reinforce the belief. It is very helpful to begin validating ourselves first, begin ruthlessly weeding out or limiting interactions with people who wound us, and meeting people and spending more time with people who are empathetic and maybe challenge us without harming us to be independent and response-able. Empathy is a quality you have to look for . But, I have noticed that a lot of trauma survivors tend to share their stories... indescriminatingly with people hoping to find people who will care. But when we tell our stories again and again in detail, that can also make us relive them. We have to be careful about who we share things with also because not everyone is equipped to hear us, or help us, or, may not be in the right mindset. People can become very overwhelmed and not know what to say or do, they may shut down or it may trigger them and then again they cant support us. This hurts us too, the person who has the trauma because we may feel "too much" or even resentful of the person... it becomes a misunderstanding. We dont need to connect with others based on our traumas alone, we can let them know that we have been through some painful things that we are still healing and learning from that may have left us with ptsd. We have more aspects to ourselves than the pain we went through, and maybe that's the starting point of healing. To reclaim parts of us outside that experience. Im not sure, it's a complicated question you've asked, and a very good and important one that I hope will be answered in future videos.

[@robobunny4641]

@@skypoem5153 Brilliant, compassionate and insightful response, thank you, I found it very helpful as well as the question from the original commenter, thank you both

[@ginap5003]

@@skypoem5153 very wise advice. My experience has been similar in ‘over-sharing.’ I am learning to be more contained in how much I confide about my traumatic childhood and then ongoing toxic experiences with my immediate family. A sister, who has the shared history of abuse and trauma, has shunned me because I became so ill with progressive trauma-related health issues that I could not fly back east to help my sisters when our mother died. She, a controlling narcissist, accuses me of abandoning her by not coming to help, and that I should have ‘sucked it up.’ Never mind that she knew that my health worsened over 5 years and ultimately resulted in me leaving my 32-year long career within 3 months of our mother’s death. She has interpreted my actions as a personal betrayal of her, despite the fact that I had dropped everything to fly back east numerous times to help with our mother’s progressive final illness. I have never let her down until my health prevented me, and yet that track record does not matter. My conclusion at this point is to finally go ‘no contact’ for self-preservation. I say all of this following years of very good trauma-related therapy, and the blessing of a happy and blessed marriage with 3 happy highly functioning adult kids. We thankfully broke the mold! Despite all of these blessings, the ‘family of origin’ dysfunction and toxicity still has a crippling impact.

[@ginawhoever9734]

@@skypoem5153 thank you for such an insightful and beautiful reply. yes, people who have suffered under Trauma often do share our stories with people that maybe we shouldn't. and i think you are absolutely correct in that you get to a point where you just hope *at least one person will hear you* and care enough to extend a hand and maybe help you back up off of the floor of feeling so battered and broken. and much of the time the Trauma itself is due to an inability to establish proper borders with people. and yes they *will* become "overwhelmed". i guess having been an RN for 17 years before i became fully disabled, and having been able to empathize and care for patients who were basically strangers to me, it is difficult for me to grasp how my own mother and father as well as my brother whom i always *used to have* a great relationship with (as well as the rest of our large extended family... cousins who had been like best friends to me before i became so sick)and who i always tried to be there for, now seem to have *no clue whatsoever* as to 'how to help/be there for me', when it isn't complicated... it is "Human 101" that if you see someone you love get really hurt, you offer your support, tell them you love them and are there for them, and oh i don't know... maybe a hug or something? i had been doing a 'journal' as they say to do, but going back and reading some entries was just re-breaking my heart over and over, so i had to stop. so i do understand what you are saying about sharing our stories as well. Christ Jesus warned against it as well, the 'do not cast your pearls before swine' scripture. i genuinely appreciate your kind reply, thank you.

[@Fan4club]

I can relate to this - the experts have generally no authentic desire to understand the custom needs or personality of the people upon whom their job depends- it’s a job to act out their compensating beliefs on how to control life. The first network is not interested in the transformation that comes from authentically knowing the wounded healer in their midst that they have chronically abused or been indifferent to. I say - and I say also to anyone who is in my predicament - I’m here - no one avails of my help or helps me. But I do not reach out to make this very clear always- I’m not feeling it’s right to give an opportunity to be ignored. The lesson is perhaps to develop healing independently as a transition way -before finding a like minded person to have genuine friendship. I don’t want any patronising or pity type relationship with anyone anyway now. The expert belief that filters to the public advertising around “therapy” -that there is someone there to help if you just reach out -is so laughable to me.

[@pamelaaraujo6292]

Thank you Dr. Gabor

[@iMMACULATEClothing]

That was an incredible lecture. Thank you Gabor.

[@roberthodgson3574]

So much truth, humility and insight here - Thank you Dr. Mate

[@khutzey4149]

Exceptional! So many thoughts. The spiritual "love and light" bypassing crowd is headed down a very bad road. Those who partake in shaming may actually out live them. Another very interesting conversation would be the one about why Cluster B narcissists often enjoy longevity -- the ultimate bypassing to the existential degree. Does this catch up to them in their next lifetime?? I image so. Also highly recommend Louise L Hay's book - "You can heal your life" as excellent basic guide to emotional manifestations of trauma. Even "accidents" and injuries are emotional trauma manifestations. Genetic ailments are manifestations of ancestral karma and/or hereditary trauma. We can only heal the trauma by returning to the scene of the crime. This will be where humanity must next evolve.

[@mondolilith7917]

Making childhood trauma, a disordered life of cptsd, makes sense.

[@wytrose4602]

That is not physcial..

[@cosmicbull208]

Love his voice 🙏🏼

[@marleyofficialmedia]

So much love for Gabor. Thank you.

[@musethx1]

This information is one of the most incredible experiences I've ever had in my life

[@stephenkarla7113]

I've never thought about this and it's eye opening. Thinking back over my fifty years I had noticed men that lost more than one wife due to an illness also women that lost more than one husband. I never connected this could be a cause. I'm sitting here thinking about this on a whole different level. Great information!

[@GALvanize79]

Just what I needed to hear today. As I get mentally healthier, I notice my body getting healthier and I have less pain. For so long I chose attachment over authenticity. Working hard to continue the healing path. To thine own self be true. See you can't please everyone, so you got to please yourself. 😊

[@elenn6575]

It's so true. Thank you

[@frankfeldman6657]

Thank you for not stuffing this lecture full of vile commercials.

[@memng4]

you have alot of cool thoughts, looking forward to the incorporation of these ideas into my life journey! thanks much Gapor!

[@Blickafram]

I love to see and to listen to this. Over and over again, I wish to print it in my brain!

[@Blickafram]

I wish the Swedish goverment could listen because we are in a crises of need help!

[@suzesinger6762]

@@Blickafram ... It is the Governments..that are mostly ...acting out .... their childhood traumas on the people they govern. They need either therapy - or excorcism. !?!?! ;)

[@Verawnique]

Brilliant insights!

[@fiachramacaonrae5449]

Thank You, This is very interesting.

[@djWOOF]

19:58 automatic response to help needs of others while ignoring your own is a major risk factor for illness

[@sweetpotato9603]

Thank you Dr Mate for a very informative and helpful lecture! 💐👏😘

[@DonaldTurner]

Thank you Dr Mate. Namaste

[@TheAW76]

Dr Mate I adore you, your knowledge, your voice, the way you speak !!!!

[@nikolayrachev7593]

Thank you , Gabor. Unbelievable mind

[@erinruhl5377]

When you spoke of ALS patients, I remembered the book “Tuesdays with Morrie” which completely describes what you’re talking about.