Dr. Peter Levine on child sexual abuse and relational trauma

Dr. Peter Levine talks about child sexual abuse and relational trauma.

[@frizzelfrazzel99]

I told my mom and family members about it! They didnt wanna do anything about but to put it in the past! So the 2 that sexually abused me were allowed to continue being apart of my life and I had to treat them like they never did anything to me! They were always treated better and I was the black sheep!

[@thealiciasunflower]

My mother knew about my father’s sexual abuse of me and my brother as well, and she didn’t stop the abuse. After she and my father divorced (Maybe her attempt to stop it, albeit years to late), she brought another man into our lives who eventually started sexually abusing me too. My mom must have known. Sharing to say, I feel you. I understand. I am so sorry. You deserved better than that. CSA is truly an epidemic and a deep spiritual sickness in humanity. It has happened to so many of us! Thank you for sharing your story because it is helping shed light on the truth, and in the light of the truth we shall see what is real and we can change our world so this doesn’t have to happen to any children anymore. The truth will set us free. Thank you for being a part of that. I hear you. I see you. I appreciate you. I hope you have found support for your healing journey. Sending you my love. You got this.

[@dayjahomara]

omg yes same thing happened to me. it was my moms bf and he lived with me for the next seven years! people don’t know the psychological damage that puts on your brain

[@sanjana5162]

Me too its disgusting to live with the person who abuse you by the way hi stay army

[@abutterfly7975]

I had to keep the secret til my 20’s. My brother acted like nothing happened and my mom stayed with my dad even after hearing he abused me. I too had to act my whole life like nothing happened and even after I forgave him I had to act normal cuz I felt that was what they were doing and what was expected of me. He just died. I am going to try to speak at the ceremony but I have no idea what to say. I loved my dad but never felt comfortable around him and was relieved when he died.

[@bri3449]

@@abutterfly7975 what do you want to say? do you want to go to the ceremony?

[@oussamaaitsougrati5545]

i was sexually abused when i was 6 from my cousin who was 4years more than me . I didn't realise that i was abused until my 20s .Now after all these anger ,tears and healing process that i went throw 2 years ago . I am happy to annouce ou : i overcomed my abuse .

[@MsViollentia]

Im so happy for you. I can relate to your story.

[@Yerovs07]

I share the same story with you my brother, yesterday it hit me, and I finally realized what was causing my anxiety, social anxiety, my low self steem. What I thought was a game, was really sexual abuse from my cousin I was 9, he is 7 years older, it continued until I was 11 years old.

[@aircavmedic]

Glad you were able to move forward. It is difficult

[@stephanieharries7746]

An overcomer good for you

[@Annatomova7]

I too was a little kid that was abused by an older child. I was 3-4, and he was 9-11 I think?

[@godlygirls62]

My "father" sexually abused me from ages 4-12. When I was 12, I woke up to him molesting me. I immediately ran to my mom and told her. Her response was devastating. I'd say it was as traumatizing as the sexual abuse. Her response was "get out of here you liar". That was 51 years ago. Now at age 63, I'm battling major depressive disorder, Bipolar II disorder, and complex PTSD. My "father" also verbally, physically, emotionally, and psychological abused me, my 4 siblings and my mother. Throughout the decades, I've told her again and again about the molestation. I'm looking at the comments section and it's heartbreaking

[@joyfulnoise349]

Not being believed is more painful and leaves you feeling alone and helpless. I went through the same thing…then worse the abuse was justified😢

[@silasgroenning]

Emdr can really settle some nerves that are in some shock response.. just to help you in some direction.. it took the worst of the dissociative from me, in like 10 minutes.. theres alot of somatic therapies that can assist.

[@harrietlee6720]

I had already been abused for 2 years when this picture was taken, the abuse went on for 14 years and the best words to describe me was a miserable child filled with, despair, anger, rage, and betrayal.

[@pamcake1974]

HARRIET LEE I am very sorry to hear that. I truly hope that you were able to find some sort of salvation.

[@LittleMissSunshineHA]

i love you ❤️ stay strong

[@tanafarnsworth]

Much the same for me.....The loss of innocence is excruciating to me. I hope you have found healing

[@frizzelfrazzel99]

I am sorry you had to be put through that!! Sending positive energy!!

[@beautyboots11]

I am deeply disheartened you had to go through that... Know that it never was your fault. Sometimes it feels impossible to heal from such a traumatic experience, but I am hoping you have found the justice, love, and respect you deserve.

[@kat-75]

A filth you can't wash off.

[@kid-ava]

amen

[@nathananderson8720]

This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my KZbin channel 10 months ago about self development. Now I have 1,964 subs and > 2k hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.

[@samjubran7315]

That is awesome!! Congratulations on your courage and your success!

[@nathananderson8720]

@@samjubran7315 Whoever you are, I don't know you personally but I can say that you're one of the non-judgmental and open-minded people who is not fixated on tangible or external factors in order to learn from someone like me. Just because someone doesn't have a piece of paper as a credential, doesn't mean that person is not entitled to share personal experiences with the hope & intention to inspire others. Keep up with whatever it is that you're doing to improve mankind or improving your life even to a slight degree each day. This is just one part of a bigger puzzle for creating my KZbin channel about holistic health. I literally could have died back when I was 14 years old due to major depression but here I am right now replying to you, a KZbinr, who's full of fulfillment and dedication to help others to be a better version of themselves. I ain't better than anyone else but my old self. That's all that really makes this KZbin thing more meaningful and enjoyable. Thanks so much for your support! I am hoping that you can join me with this endless personal development journey! :)

[@ibrahim-my5yl]

My uncle touched up my cousin when she was like 7 and when she was 14 she told me everything. I drove to my uncles house and beat him up ik violence aint the way to go but i was full of anger. Just imagining what she had to go through with that trauma bottled up inside hurt 😔

[@aircavmedic]

I think he should have been reported & castrated, without pain medicine. Sounds “harsh” so is my memory. This goes on more than 1 realizes. My wife was abused by her Uncle. I did not have control who was at my wedding. I spit in his face, and said he would never see her again. Childhood abuse, trafficking, disgusts me. And somehow, they need to be held accountable

[@xadriaavila2336]

Don’t feel bad for it i wish i had someone stick up for me like that 😢

[@lexusgodina2296]

My abuse began after many other traumatic happenings in my early life. My dad went to prison for a 20 year sentence. My mom a year later was hit by a semi truck. I lost both my parents before I turned 4. Only to be placed with my grandparents that also would come to abandon me but this time emotionally. I was also resented heavily by my grandmother. She was a very physical woman. It’s no wonder when my aunts husband touched me for the first time i confused it for care or at the very least attention. I was 6 when it started and 10 the very last time it happened. That’s a very early age to alter someone’s perception like that. I was too young to understand and even participated willingly on at least one occasion. When I think about that one occasion I think at the time as a kid I felt almost this excitement. To be wanted right there and then and useful. After awhile I think I began to understand what he was doing to me* doing wasn’t right. I don’t know how maybe just the psychic intuition that young kids possess. I told my grandmother and she told me to simply “stay away from him”. He was the one who babysat me when they couldn’t afford daycare. I couldn’t just stay away from him. She did nothing and nothing happened and the abuse continued for 2 more years. Luckily my aunt and he divorced bc he was physically violent with her and had a bit of a drug issue. So after that I really never had to see him again. I’m lucky in that one way.

[@aircavmedic]

A shame it happens more than we know-disgusting, difficult to get beyond. Castrate the perpetrator without medidication

[@BreenyLee]

Sending you so much love and light, what you’ve been through is more than tragic, I pray God will heal you from what hurt you ❤️❤️❤️

[@mikaelamendoza8374]

I have some similarities to your story , this really validated me

[@MG123abc1]

What about betrayal trauma when you are abused again by being silenced by a parent or gas-lighted to believe that an abuse that took place wasn't actually abuse or does not warrant condemnation? My family is highly codependent and when my older sister was raped by my mother's friend and it resulted in pregnancy, a counselor told my mother that this was "common." My 17 year old sister's relationship with a 42 year old man was normalized and then a decade later his oldest son raped my little sister by over-serving her alcohol and coercing her into sex. (The whole thing sounds crazy, I know) I was the one who found my little sister crying in the bathroom over it. She felt horrible. She never wanted to have sex with someone that close in the family. She felt dirty...and we filed a police report, but even with h over-serving her alcohol, the police dismissed the case. THEN my older sister, (his step-mother) berated my little sister in a public space for trying to press charges! Supposedly my little sister deserved what happened to her and my mother defended my older sister berating my little sister ..... I can't stand my family. So, I am no longer with them

[@annastone5624]

I’m so sorry..

[@queenchiomaofficial]

I’m so sorry what your sister went through and how this also impacted you. Pls never give up on believing that God will surely give you and your sister peace and justice, he gives beauty for ashes and he can take the worst circumstance and betrayal and turn it around for good. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@nemrak4385]

@@winnie7145 who is the rapist in relation to you???? Why do u feel obligated to keep any ties with these evil vile people???? Just because they are family???? family should not treat you like that! They are your enemies not family open your eyes!!! I think you should save yourself a lot of pain and unnecessary suffering and cut ties period! Human garbage is not worth keeping in touch with family or not! This is why incest is so prominent! The victims let these pigs get away with it! You need to stand up for yourself and the truth! I speak from experience!

[@kid-ava]

I just wish someone gave a fuck about and can help me get rid of my trauma. Something to get rid of the events themselves and the memories and make it hurt my brain and my psyche less. I'm not strong enough to cope with them anymore or to fix myself, to learn to live with it and sometimes it feels like no one else, not even a therapist could help either. I'm too broken for this world

[@margott.244]

Please try to find help, don’t give up on you 🥲💚

[@kid-ava]

@@margott.244 I finally have a therapist now and we start our sessions soon. and thank you, I'll try not to give up even tho it's hard 💖

[@simptim]

You've got to be strong, don't let what some asshole did to you take you over. Fuck these people. Your better than they are and Stronger. When you think you're too broken for this world, guess what? your not dude your gods child and no-one walks on gods children Be strong bother everything will work out :-)

[@faithledbetter5664]

I'm praying for you. I'm healing only with the help of jesus christ. If it wasn't for him I would of been committed suicide.

[@1jediwitch]

♡I'll be 54 in February, & am still a work in progress. My personal mantra - Be Present. Easier said than done, lol.♡ #ptsd #childhoodptsd #abuse #childabuse #childhoodsexualabuse #Rape is #NOT about #sex it's about #power over another.

[@laceyoickle1973]

I was sexually abused by my father.. for 12 consistent years .. multiple times a day every day.. I'm nearly 33.. Mom of 3.. but I'm so hurt. Ptsd. Body dysmorphia.. bulima. I'm not ashamed anymore too say thus happened to me.. But because of that waste of skin I'll forever struggle with so many things daily.. 😢I hate child abusers

[@samjubran7315]

I am so deeply sorry this happened to you. You suffered greatly and that suffering stays with a person a long time. Peter has some great tips to heal the body, and most of theses are available on KZbin. I pray for your healing and peace.

[@Frau.P]

How you manage to have Sex with bodydysmorphia? Hope that question is okay 🙈

[@GeetaGalaway]

Unfortunately the only salvation u get sometimes is when Ur finally able to remove urself from the situation and then u become Ur own savior... What I'd like to say is if the psychologist or therapist or even both are being told by the child that they are being abused and they don't do anything to stop it then also in the future when u become an adult don't become any different than the abusive parent and teaches the child not to trust them and in turn doesn't make them want to seek therapists in the future.... In my case I was also abused for 15 years... Not just a spanking I'm talking about mental, physical and sexual abuse... I told many many ppl and no one did anything to stop it but only made it worse because they would make me and my mother get counselling and my mother hated that and would beat me at home... The counselling did nothing to help... My parents would just deny it happened... I could be sitting there bawling and pouring my heart about telling times I was abused right in front of my mother and she would just shake her head and deny it... No one believed me... And the system totally failed me...

[@GeetaGalaway]

+Raini it has improved some in the world today but there are still thousands of children's deaths a year from abuse and neglect and dcf had already been there multiple times. Most child deaths from abuse if 2 years old and under. I made a video and is posted under my videos here on KZbin... feel free to watch it and share it... I am a current activist against abuse and I have already helped many abused teens lately... I hope everyone does the same. 90% of what's wrong with the world is caused by traumatized people who can't function properly in society. most people who are on financial assistance has something wrong with it. PTSD is more common than anything. imagine 1 in 3 people are sexually assaulted among other traumas... how is our country supposed to flourish when more than 1/3rd can't function properly? The world's number 1 problem is child abuse, or other abuses of other types. and until we stop it the world will just keep going down hill... Thank you everyone for your kind words. I hope they find you well. Happy New year! Peace.

[@GeetaGalaway]

+Raini click my name and then go to my videos

[@kimgrussing7770]

+Geeta Galaway Your totally right Geeta. The system failed me as well. It has seemed like no matter how hard I try...no one wants to listen. Therapist or not. To me it just seems like the therapists want to "Get by it all" and move to the present because they say to you "You can't do anything about it? ". Yea, ok. I just give up. praying for you.

[@GeetaGalaway]

It's disgusting.... the system is still failing even in family law....

[@kimgrussing7770]

It sure is. Or worse yet. The fancy talking therapists (As Dr. Levine,,,follow him, you'll see) want such horrific abuse clients, so they can film it and make money off of it, by saying a "Tiger's reaction" makes all the difference in the world. Then they are famous and rewarded, yet never really help anyone. I mean if the "Tiger reaction" doesn't work for you...your just screwed for the rest of your life! What? Yea, its about pick and choose here, and for other therapists, actually for most therapists. (Sic)

[@claudiapearson7534]

Thank you so much 💜 I deeply appreciate Peter Levine and his work.

[@elizabethforsyth3054]

my father has never felt guilt in his lilfe, he is a psychopath....

[@lorimiller4301]

Geeta Galloway, I relate to your situation and the rage from not being listened to. I hope life is getting better for you. I hate to think of all the little ones suffering. I have not found anyone qualified to help me and have had to figure out what happened on my own. If you want to talk to me I'm here.

[@GeetaGalaway]

sometimes I don't think there is anyone.i think some PTSD that goes on for over a decade just can't be healed. all you can do is cope.

[@goertzpsychiatry9340]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/npbEmZKEmNaqptU

[@fouadrz]

thank you peter from Saudi Arabia

[@marilynmoney2771]

My mother didn't provide Protection Her going out was more Important & She left us with the neighbors Dad Who ABUSED Mr and my sister We were little girls

[@malaika1483]

This is heart shattering. You’re gonna be in my prayers today. How old are you and how are you feeling today about the situation? I’m so sorry that happened to you I wish I could heal what he ruined in you and your sisters. I can’t even type it’s just awful people can be awful

[@joshgraham4399]

My dad left me and my brother alone. He sexually abused me. Physically abused me, emotionally and psychologically abused me. When I told my dad after he came back from work, he made me and my brother promise to keep it a secret. My older brother then strangled me. I woke up to my dad crying over me, saying I am dead. He then taught me to push my emotions away... I cried to my mum saying I dont want to go to my dad's anymore, she told me she has noone else to look after me and was also going on night out. My mum used to leave me crying by myself as a child. I despise her, I hate my dad, I hate but love my brother. He was the only one who tried to help me becuase he felt so much guilt. After I had a severe breakdown and lost everything, he commit suicide. It helped, since he had a control over me and made me believe he was in my head as a child. I'm struggling right now. I've been Suicidal since I was 4. I have been abused for as long as I can remember. I left my mums at 12, stopped going to my dad's. I've been homeless, addicted, in a home for mentally ill people, yet I've been in the military too, so I know the adaptions can be adapted. By observing things we remove identity with them / attachment. What we can observe is not us. This creates a space between the conditioning and the self. So I can find a peaceful silence, but social situations which involve using the ego, can take days to recover for me. I'm currently attempting to delve deep into my ego and reprocess, and reimprint the associations, which will change how the past is perceived, which will change the influence the past has. Then I wish to become a psychologist, and help other people heal.

[@malaika1483]

@@joshgraham4399 I have no words I wish I could’ve saved you you went through a lot makes me wanna forget about my pain cause what you dealt with is insane. I’m in tears I wish I knew you and could talk to you. Idk how you survived that. This world isn’t worth it. I’m Muslim and religion really helps me I would recommend you reading the Quran. Just trust me. U will be in my prayers I am so so sorry for what you went through. Ur so strong. Now that you’d wanna become a therapist is amazing. Bless you and I love you

[@Janeblanc]

KZbin is my only safe space sigh

[@urdrem1]

Genital integrity is a human right, not a female right

[@urdrem1]

Raini Little boys are knife raped and mutilated, yet, they are taught to always be nice, and rape and mutilation of others will result in jail. Welcome to the world!

[@keke8880]

R I molested by a pediatrician at his office. Sometimes it's the ones who are supposed to be caring for you.

[@evicaf4e]

@@keke8880 it is sad, but 85-90% predators are the one close to us, the ones we know. (I read it in P. Levine book)

[@medusaslair]

Of course, but the VAST majority of victims of sexual abuse and sexual violence are female, so that's why we tend to talk bout women's rights when it comes to these crimes. Males aren't even close to falling victims to these kinds of crimes as much as females, even though it does happen. Men beat, rape and murder women and girls in vast numbers, so much that it makes it a women's rights issue.

[@nobodieshome_]

so grateful for this man

[@gertrudelaronge6864]

Thank you.

[@contessaannavonfunk5158]

Very good!!!

[@goertzpsychiatry9340]

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[@annetteolivieri7351]

Please need help I am still dealing with my child trauma was my dad that did a sexual abuse to me and others small sexual harassment from strangers I am 50 and still not comfortable with my self my body I end up separating from my husband and made a mess at one point with my life try to blame other situation chasing a cure even took Hayahuasca but thinks got out of control I end up having a Strange sexual awakening that confuse me even more and made me at the end more insicure and bring me to a state of lonely life existence I am not comfortable with nudity now and finder difficult having a relation ship .

[@margott.244]

Try to find help x

[@roseariexxdelight9782]

hi i am a teenager and i went to my home country with my parents and my younger siblings we went to my dads villages and my mum sibling and my grammar came over they were going to stay with us until we leave. my mum's brother is married and i found him a very nice person he was like a good good friend to me. it was late at night and we were the only people in the lounge room, i asked if i can go on the TV he then said yes so i took it. after a while he came back i thought he was going to get something but then he...put his hands in my shirt into my... i would like to stop there... but my mum is thinking of going back to our home country again and i don't want to go because i am scared. i have had this emotional feeling lately for the past 2 years etc. anger, stress, sadness, loneliness, isolation and i am socially shy, and i don't know how to stop it. i having a sleeping disorder.

[@roseariexxdelight9782]

whenever a older man approaches me i get scared and my thought go somewhere else my thinking literately freezes

[@roseariexxdelight9782]

@@prakdescott8667 thank u so much for the advice

[@shahilagh]

Dr Levine I think people have self learnt these tools themselves before anyone wants to teach them .I know all of them myself

[@kmes8262]

If a man doesn't get help meaning therapy as an adult do they usually suffer from narcissism?

[@raphaellavelasquez8144]

I will never trust a therapist again. Unless I win the megamillions lottery and can afford someone good.

[@psychicdevelopmentexercise]

I hear you...I've had a horrid experience as well

[@abdelkarimnasri3294]

Search for Dr. Gabor Mate, the work that has done about trauma and how he talks about others therapist.

[@goertzpsychiatry9340]

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[@marilynmoney2771]

Peter I had an accident Now I don't trust my legs I'm in my bed In my room alone Peter I can't get food I'm hungry I'm cold

[@selfsaltingslug2534]

Yo it’s Peter I got your food spaghetti anchovies

[@cabirmaxmed366]

How damaging is it ADHD companies with childhood sexuel abuse

[@dominusbalial835]

Well ADHD makes you significantly more vulnerable to trauma and depression as well as other negative impacts.

[@jerijah1999]

just discovered this and still learning about it and i’m tryna dig deep in myself. what a brutal combo.