How To Stop Feeling So Lost, Anxious, Stressed & Unhappy | Dr. Gabor Maté

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[@GabrielJames-ti3jf]

Why the micro edits? Untrustworthy channel.

[@Ryan-xq3kl]

my parents broke all these rules and i just managed to survive with enough of my own money and not having killed myself in 7th grade. now that they can see i am not outwardly suicidal they have even less tried to fix their own issues and i am worried that i will bear their burden that i have noticed since middle school properly analyzed was gaslighted out of believing then and am relearning right now was totally correct. what the fuck am i supposed to do? why am i cursed with this life?

[@eduardowosgrau4468]

😅😅

[@joyporcella81]

When my real dad died in Vietnam I would see my mom fall to a deep depression and cry all the time and I would console her. I was my moms psychiatrist and put my close and play on music and sing and dance for her like a little clown. She would smile and sing along with me. I lost her to brain cancer and I took care of her untill the end. I love and miss her and when I die I cant wait to reconnect with both of them. I was an only child and always played alone and care for ppl. I love life and have alot of care for others and feel my best when I make someone not feel alone. Thank you Dr.and I will take this and share it with others.

[@dachater1]

So beautiful- you sound like an incredible soul. thanks for sharing!

[@sue-lou-star]

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[@valoak928]

😘

[@janetcorbin2642]

Sounds very similiar to my daughter, an only child who has an alcoholic father. So happy to hear you have a good life, so does my daughter! ❤ ❤

[@tammydietschweiler7852]

You are such a lovely person! ❤

[@jamesbutler5908]

We weren't born mad but driven mad😢

[@hereshoping6992]

Niceeeee

[@Vancouver_1986]

Modern Society demands so much from us. It's 100% unrealistic.

[@AnnaAparicio]

to hear him admit to having suicidal thoughts is both surprising and refreshing, and so helpful. For those of us who have been made to believe we are weird for not being like our parents or siblings, for those of us good, smart , creative people who have ended up sabotaging relationships, getting into dangerous relationships, underperforming academically, living materially mediocre lives, feeling alien, alone, lonely,... this helps

[@phoenixlight1111]

You've said it perfectly and beautifully, these are exactly my feelings too. This helps me too, as well as your comment. Thank you. 💗

[@elainehiggins713]

I think that almost everyone has had thoughts of suicide, if only fleeting ones. I may be wrong.

[@zigulimiguli]

...🙏🏻❤️

[@MichaelYoung-xp5ko]

That's me 😮

[@VaronPlateando]

I didn‘t find the issue with S.I. surprising at all. but he didn‘t end up dwelling only there. which came out good for many people, in his case.

[@Karlagarciamusic]

A person who teaches about something because they experience it themselves I think that is real teaching … thanks

[@damianjones6546]

I agree, the best mental health practitioner I have ever come across suffered with bipolar himself.

[@claudiaschneider5744]

Yes indeed - I´ve found somebody who went almost through same kind of bs in personal life.

[@mariamarshall6116]

Dr. Mate just drips compassion , even the tone of his voice is compassionate

[@davids8127]

I'm working on mine too with Mindfulness and metta meditation. Your mental state has a big influence on the tone of your voice

[@Pluralofvinylisvinyls]

Eww

[@robynhope219]

You don't know him... he is acting!

[@SueE17]

Yes! I love him; and his sons

[@Pluralofvinylisvinyls]

@@SueE17 and his sons… what???

[@airbloomamplifiers]

When I was younger (71 now) I believed the only acceptable answer was suicide. I couldn’t come up with any reason not to stop living. I suffered from panic attacks around people and had no clue why. I thought it was payment for a karmic debt. I don’t believe in that now. Luckily I am pretty happy today. One of the reasons is understanding it is me only in this life, and I taught myself to be self sustaining when I fully realized it is only me always and especially on my death bed.

[@americasariesson1862]

I think it’s karmic- I must’ve been a real bastard before - 55 now. How did you find that level of self sufficiency and connection?

[@1STBUCKLEY]

Deep down I think fear of abandonment is root of all my anxiety

[@briserenity]

Same here but for some reason I push people away . 😢😮

[@airbloomamplifiers]

I’ve never had long lasting romantic relationships for common reasons. I learned being alone is by far the best for me. It’s a great opportunity and the benefits should not be underestimated. Eat when you’re hungry. Sleep when you’re tired. Fully feel all feelings and allow them and even coax them out. We are not supposed to be happy all the time. We are never going to suffer emotionally for the last time until we die. It’s ok to cry or scream in rage. Allow it and it passes.

[@Brissles]

​@@briserenityexample?

[@kelseyfowler7236]

For me it was fear of rejection... Been in therapy for years and only recently uncovered this. Everything we've covered recently points back to fear of rejection, and it is crushing!

[@pietrot.8780]

"Live your life that you can live with."

[@mitya6568]

Lower your expectations in life and be happy at the moment

[@wambuialice957]

I most certainly have enough of these childhood triggers

[@wocannaseilai5983]

😢

[@rickyn4710]

Far out, i spent decades learning and practicing philosophy and psychology to deal with anxiety. Then randomly one day i said I give up, i surrender to God. I instantly cried like a baby, only stopping to randomly laugh between crying for like 20 minutes. No more anxiety. Miraculous. Wow, this God stuff is legit.

[@mosestoliver4068]

Amen!!!

[@scorps192]

Pumpy bums

[@specimen532]

That's unfortunate that you found comfort in such an abhorrent entity as god.

[@holyshiet787]

You mean, you had catharsis

[@viperdawgg2652]

Dr. Gabor is one of the most brilliant and compassionate people ever.

[@hannw7]

Dr. Gabor is such a blessing to society. I appreciate his views and writings so much. Thank you so much for asking about parenting.

[@Sh0n0]

Your welcome

[@violetaddams1035]

I agree.

[@CarmenRodriguez-ze2xg]

There are many professionals who do not know how to treat, and can do a lot of damage. Every day I think more, that those who have gone through difficult life situations, are the ones who can best help others. I think that people who have not been through it cannot put themselves in the place, and do not know how to deal with trauma.

[@mariamanuelgouveia6351]

After having raised my children and having divorced a long time ago, the empty nest syndrom has broken my heart. Despite being happy in my job as a high school teacher, there's an emptyness that I can't overcome. My memories of childhood leads to believe that being abandoned has been my fear along my whole life. At this age 56 everything is so clear when I look back: anxiety, depression and obsessed with pleasing everyone.

[@noklarok]

having an empty nest shows that you were a good mother, you did not let your fear of abandonment ruin your children's futures which is an option other mothers take to cling to their children. 56 is not too old to find new friends, hobbies or even a new partner.

[@shelley7209]

I’m in the same boat! My only kid moved thousands of miles away and I haven’t been the same. I don’t know where the time went but I want it back so badly

[@praktijkjoypowerelburgvand1104]

❤

[@markbrey52]

You shouldn’t have divorced

[@michellebenjamin4632]

Omg me too x I’m 56 and have empty nest x

[@hairstonwilliams2770]

I cried when i heard the way he explained the very first question.

[@Sadworld2024]

Dr.Mate’s calm, connected, compassionate voice and thoughts are healing on its own.

[@pkp6791]

1/ Recognize that you may have unhealed wounds. 2/ Seek assistance from an excellent therapist. If one has an inability to self reflect and be totally honest with oneself about his/her own contribution to his/her own unhappiness, it is especially important to seek assistance from a good therapist. Do not rely on strangers to heal your unhealed wounds. Get help from a professional. 3/ Your relationships with others will only be as healthy and consistent as YOU are within yourself. You owe it to yourself to heal your unhealed wounds and it is your responsibility to do so -- no one else's. 4/ The more healed you are, the more peace will become important to you. You will not be willing to admit unhealed energies, toxicity, chaos and even abuse into your life. At that point, solitude may actually become preferable or even desirable. Good luck to those who are intent on healing and recognize the importance of it. Good luck to those are still in darkness of not even realizing that you may need to focus on some aspects of healing within yourself( we all do).

[@ktkee7161]

Not everyone can afford it and some professionals are crap.

[@pkp6791]

@@ktkee7161 Do you.✌️Stay toxic!😘

[@ktkee7161]

@@pkp6791 😂 oh the irony

[@urielapophis9229]

I keep to myself & work on my voice inside my head . Cause I don't know any one or live with any one so I stress free have money have a simple life no luxury. Avoid humans especially females avoid them at all cost.

[@bluegreenworld333]

Gabor woukd be more compassionate, he wouldn't say it like ' its no one else's responsibility' its a community thing, he'd be like listen to your younger self, hear it, and be kind to it. I'd recommend journalling to folk without therapists and listening to Gabor as regularly as needed.

[@elliehayes3704]

After just coming home from a 4 night wild camping trip with my two young boys I felt proud to hear this. Very true false values of a toxic culture.

[@lapecoraneradellafamiglia]

Gabor Maté saved me from actually falling into misery. I was tilted by many losses I had to face last year and he helped me cultivating self-comprehension and self-compassion.

[@nazarethforest8313]

'pecora nera della famiglia' wishing you pink dreams and blue skies...

[@Job.Well.Done_01]

I had several tremendous losses in 2022/23 myself and they almost accumulated to a point of me vanishing. I started completely over again. Everything. Best wishes to you. ❤

[@user-qz7zx2sd4v]

❤

[@mamaurku]

I live in an indigenous community in the Andes where the natural family environment Dr. Mate speaks of as if it were lost long ago still exists. I know because I live here and I see it every day. I wish Dr. Mate could spend time here and learn that his ideal family model is still alive and now available to modern people from other cultures who think it is dead.

[@zigulimiguli]

...❤

[@karendalsadik7119]

Great idea and thanks for sharing.

[@mirandaandrea8215]

Your lucky to have that❤

[@pnaratik9383]

I lived in Peru for 5 years, and travelled to the Andes many times, I was looking for something all those times, something that I felt was beyond ayahuasca retreats.. which kept eluding me but gave me that strange feeling of being on the right track.. I developed a cultural design project later on, I called it oriandina, I use traditional andean fabrics quite a lot.. my trauma and self worth issues keep blocking my progress but who knows.. I am still here trying and missing Peru.. un abrazo a la distancia

[@MCE851]

He's talking about the west 🙄 this family structure is extinct in the west, obviously it still exists in less developed nations

[@tnt01]

Yes, narcissists will drain your soul.

[@tedwilson1477]

only if you are unaware, if you are fully aware, they have no power.

[@tnt01]

@@tedwilson1477 obviously.

[@tedwilson1477]

@@tnt01 not for the unaware, which is a lot of people.

[@shirleyfrost9909]

I never felt safe in my childhood home, only recently found that my mother was a malignant narcissist. Healing slowly now at 70.

[@Paragon_Reason]

My mother. Selfish horrible narcissist. Like I don't want her to die, but I do look forward to the day that it's done, and I can finally have relief from her drama, and Indifference that's caused so much trauma

[@fefetwaits2645]

This is so valid, trauma informed practioners are still rare. So grateful for Gabor, makes me feel less isolated ❤

[@scatterbain1628]

love the voice in your head being labelled "your stupid friend" such a great way to put it

[@ksc2736]

Learning from being triggered only works if the person who triggers you is mentally healthy and does not mean to hurt you

[@LaymensLament]

you are still free to choose your response, if you cant thats why its a trigger. but thats why hes talking about ammunition. you are (in most cases, as an adult) not dependant on the other persons intet.

[@bananaman17]

@@LaymensLamenti really hope people take the time to read your response and not just agree with the other comment. it’s spot on.

[@Antonocon]

@@LaymensLamenthow do you get over all of your triggers? Won’t some have many more than others. Wouldn’t it depend on the amount of trauma you’ve gone through? Feels like it would only be a choice after you have dealt with the trigger. Do you mean your verbal response or physical? I thought it was not possible to completely get rid of the trauma we have over certain things. We can just acknowledge and accept some of it and not let it control our lives.

[@rachelsmename6]

@@Antonoconone trigger at a time. It doesn’t have to be overnight. Something that helps is learning about how to use Internal Family Systems (IFS). Lots about that on KZbin.

[@JoeySkate24]

Thats not true though is it? The point is that in every case you got triggered. Something happened within you. Another person would say "oh that stupid guy again will talk negatively about me whatever" and brush it off and move on with their day not caring about it. Yet youre getting triggered. That means something about you. Happening inside of you. I wish you well and to overcome your issues

[@dawndid5972]

Two extremely human gentlemen right here. It's ok to feel and not hide it.

[@Sh0n0]

No its not okay to show weakness, be a man.

[@rahabredeemed1690]

Healthy human connections, and connections to a higher purpose, spiritual with Holy Spirit at it's best 😊 I also had to walk away from a relationship and friendships that were bringing me down, they were narcissistic people who have not awakened to their brokenness. Daily Bible reading, a good church and a part time job that are supportive. I have found contentment in this, I am in my early 40s.

[@xodus8077]

Amen to that. The word of God is the way to truth, freedom and peace +

[@bluegreenworld333]

Structure and community us healing 🙏

[@selmabodlli7071]

Gabor Maté as always you soothe my heart and make me feel relieved 🥺

[@violetaddams1035]

Gabor Mate is beyond words brilliant. What he said about believing the world is against you because you experienced it - spot on. If you have ptsd please read and listen to him.

[@anitahajdu3050]

Köszönjük Gábor 😊

[@mariemonn8912]

Love his honesty.. and that’s How we heal.. lol..

[@meenabells9854]

Wow...thank you so much for this conversation. It's truly helpful.

[@gr33neyes1000]

Thank you so much for this, in so many ways.

[@kabeverett]

Excellent!!! Thank you

[@dbruce5760]

Absolutely wonderful content! Thank you!

[@heartandsoul4520]

This so loving and brilliant. Needed it. Thanks Doc.

[@Cori86]

We love you Gabor!

[@TheEvilGrandmother]

Mate is a treasure for this world!

[@mariannehay4209]

I love your work so much! Thank you! ❤❤❤

[@Antonocon]

I really needed to hear this right now. I fell through the universe yesterday evening when talking to someone I had felt was a friend. I was wrong.

[@Sky10811]

it s so true, that base of anxiety is the trauma! i honestly do not understand while treatment does not start from addressing the trauma!

[@haonyoass9556]

I just discovered this guy yesterday and can’t believe how interesting and compassionate his insights are. I’m looking forward to learning more about his work.

[@linhquy2913]

Thank you so much for posting this and your important questions. I’m truly grateful I came across this video. Dr. Mate’s work is so critical and your questions are so honest and relatable. I really do thank you for this because I definitely needed to hear this. Finally, a video with actual answers! 👏👏👏

[@jonnyh7936]

I listen to quite a lot if this type of content , regarding mental health etc, and Gabor really has something special for me. He makes sense in a good relatable way.

[@elainemorris4806]

This is excellent information. Thanks for sharing.

[@mrbritesideoftheroad]

Thanks for Your insight and wisdom 🙏

[@christianmeza4529]

Thank you Dr Gabor

[@bserene6328]

Thank you Dr. Gabor for another great enlightening video.

[@melanie.l6282]

your voice is so soothing😪thank you for your help

[@dknox90803]

This is so very helpful. I am crying listening to it.

[@mariamanuelgouveia6351]

It's so rewarding to listen from you and answering me is so important to me feeling loliness. You are a great human being besides your professional skills. I have no words to be so much grateful . ❤ Greetings from Portugal in the Algarve, once again from an EFL teacher of a high school. ❤❤❤

[@kaanaydemi.r]

Dr. Gabor Maté is a gem!

[@hikkikei]

This 15 mins talk is life-changing to me. Thank you so much.

[@jontamlyn6375]

Such a profoundly wonderful and insightful man. Thank you, Gabor.

[@zulenededekind9743]

I love this.... Dr G - u r amazing!!! Thank you ❤

[@deedee9312]

Dr. Gabor, this is such a game changer ! Hello young voice, goodbye now, I can handle this now! Love you 🥰 ❤ Tysm for all your teachings 😊

[@Olivia0585]

Wow… so many amazing points made in a short video. ❤

[@robertgirard4862]

Great knowledge ..., Great healer ! ... ❤

[@wellbeingmill]

Feel the love and share the light 🫶🙏

[@rhonalipshitz4333]

Excellent interview❤

[@maricazermatten2103]

Dr Mate is wonderful, love listening to him!

[@joh.9531]

Wonderful talk, wonderful man - great depth in bringing to the surface the benefit of looking into trauma deeply. Thank you

[@thehillmanator]

i watch this video every morning for the past week, every day i take more from it ! this man’s life experience have given him the most amazing understanding of human function, every human on earth could learn from this amazing man, thank you for taking the time to interview and post on here 👌

[@KiwikimNZ]

My mum was very neglectful, but she was also an escapist, she would bury herself in a magazine or a book, you would ask Her something and she would never take her eyes off the book or look at you, you knew dam well she was t listening it was bloody annoying! She still does it today! It is the same as your parent on their phone I guess and the child not feeling like what they have to say is important and what you say is not acknowledged or validated. It was like I wasn’t there. Her books were more important than I was. That pretty shitty really. Parents give your kids your full attention, social media is definitely not more important than your child and their need to feel like they are being heard! They are with us for such a short time ! Make every second count! (Empty nesters lol)

[@AL-sg2jd]

So beautiful. Seemed like a great girl by others reactions. May she rest in peace

[@carolinetodd1492]

Dr Gabor, i have & do watch you on KZbin & probably like so many others I feel you are 'speaking' to me & so understanding. Each time is like a therapy session. You are amazing so knowledgeable & you are relatable because you've lived so much of it. I have recommended you to so many people. 🤗

[@PINA7606]

love you doc Gabor

[@gabrielepini7703]

Thank You. This very coincise and poignant conversation says it all….it really shines a light on a topic.❤

[@cassiestevens8382]

Thanks, GM.❣️

[@richoneplanet7561]

5:22 - great response - thank you for the perspective 👍🏻'I wonder why this is coming up?'

[@irenebienek3864]

Thank you 🫶🏼✅❤️

[@jameswayton2340]

My autism makes me Victim at age 32 of the same thing at age 6. It’s called: everything I want, is to much. Think it kinda explains why i got triggered when people told me I’m in a victim mindset because they did not know I had autism and it just never stops. And I was already punishing myself thinking I was not trying hard enough.

[@zigulimiguli]

...🙏🏻❤️

[@motoboy6666]

Same here, i still somewhat cant get to terms with accepting myself in that i just cant preform or that i get exhausted so easily. So much shame and limitations in being this way, and its just hard to accept.

[@bingflosby]

I have multiple sclerosis and doctor mate has helped me fight for my life I’m so grateful

[@user-dt1vz4ce2w]

I love Dr Mate ❤for ever 🙏❤️I am from Transilvania and I am watching him from long time ☺️✌️

[@banjiegirl2001]

I love his blue glasses❤

[@1STBUCKLEY]

This came up at the right time for me. Thanks 🙏

[@VenturaMargherita]

I’m on my way to becoming a Somatic Experiencing practitioner and to hear Gabor Mate validating this training feels so good! I’m honored to help others heal their deep wounds.

[@kathy1001]

Thank you!! So informative and useful...

[@JIMKATSANIDIS]

Great video! If you feel lost in life, you might feel unmotivated and uninterested in your hobbies. You might feel “like life is meaningless.” You might no longer recognize yourself. Creating healthy ways to manage intense emotions can help you cope better, and avoid risk of suicide. Some of the things you can do are: Acknowledge and accept how you’re feeling, Take compassionate care of yourself, Keep engaging in activities that make you feel good, Attend inspirational events, Seek out help from a therapist. Thank you for the inspiring video Doug and Dr. Gabor!🙌❤👍

[@robynhope219]

He is not a licensed doctor. Just a shrewd and self interested businessman...selling books and selling himself.

[@robynhope219]

Forget to mention: visit dr bessel van der kolk, worlds best trauma expert.

[@JIMKATSANIDIS]

@@robynhope219 Robyn, Gabor Maté is a Hungarian-Canadian licensed therapist-physician and author. He is internationally recognised for his expertise in addiction, trauma. Dr. Gabor is a well-respected clinician and is listed as a doctor in many sites.👋

[@EugenieMacGillavry]

​​​@@robynhope219 a licence proofs that we rembered what has been put in our heads. Knowledge is using our heads with or without licence. Wisdom is knowing where knowledge is useles when there is no Understanding and Compassion used. For those 2 skills , no licence requiered only a loving heart. 😊

[@robynhope219]

@@EugenieMacGillavry not convinced he has a loving ❤️

[@lauraselig4904]

Love Gabor ❤ always has the best advice that I can directly relate to, and he has such a calming presence about him

[@Liam_Noman]

❤ Dr Gabor Mate

[@jessesebastiansamuel]

It’s unbelievable how screen is the only tool we have in our family to get our kids to eat and for us to have a bit of a breather. This requires some major changes in our own lives and address our own traumas. I’ve sensed for a long time that the more time our kids spend on the screen, the more they behave erratically in real life but I can’t convince my wife who says we have no other option.

[@flynnzilla8796]

I totally admire gabor’s work but for him to say that traumatized people need to find help after emphasizing the almost impossibility of finding it, is frustrating! And most of us are not wealthy, well-connected, celebrity doctors, but normal traumatized folk; so where can we turn for help???

[@caseymoeger3737]

We can turn to God(if that's in your current belief system), support groups could help if one is patient enough to sift through the bullshit that floats around... I personally grappled with that question, where to go for help? Honestly, putting down the drink and learning to accept my emotions for what they are, amidst my twisted state of mind has definitely been a profound nudge in a better direction..... and for me, as long as I'm not actively dwelling in hatred, resentments and self pity/victimhood, I know today, I have a chance to experience a higher quality of life. ❤ 1 day at a time. 1 hour at a time. 1 minute at a time. 1 breath at a time. "Keep on keeping on" "in the end everything will be okay; if it's not okay it's not the end"

[@JamesBongo]

What do you expect him to tell you to do?

[@jamesyoungquist6923]

It might be frustrating, but it's not his fault for the lack of adequate resources. I'm glad for this channel and the information it provides, that's definitely better than nothing, and also gives pointers on how to find additional help

[@rkgomes3875]

What he’s telling you is the truth. He said it’s difficult to find - he didn’t say it was IMPOSSIBLE.

[@user-iy5pc3xo9k]

Madd respect for this old guy

[@Dtchmastrkilla7]

Not very respectful to call him an old guy

[@BuckleyDiaz]

When he said talk to your 7 years old self I just started crying . I haven't slept for days . I have depression / insomnia / anxiety . I have so many traumas from childhood , and most of all I am a 30 years ild and I have no job . And I can't afford therapy . I stay up at night till 6 am and I am at thr level my heart started to hurt . Panic attacks every night and day . I exercised . I meditated . I turned to gid . Nothing works for me . Each time at night I just wonder , with all these things that are happening to me , am I gonna be alive tomorrow or am I gonna be dead . If only life is not this hard .

[@Arrasel]

Take medication I have generalized anxiety disorder and I sometimes take sleeping pills and benzo. Sometimes they are necessary. Better to take a pill than not sleep at all.

[@kaoticmind09]

​@@ArraselAgreed. Try an ssri. I tried Lexapro and it changed my life. Time to heal now. But this took a weight off of my shoulder to help me focus.

[@RD12349]

Take one day one hour at a time. Live in present. Find higher power. We are not in complete control of our liives. Life is hard and unfair. You have to deal with the hand given to you and make the best of it. Things cut nothing remains the same. Miracles happen. Read about Santa lives Go to Catholic church and stare at the cross & alter & pray. God loves you. Jesus saves.

[@markpowell6062]

Hear you there mate . I'm same as you . Deeply feel for you. Hang in there 🙏 x

[@mbm3099]

Accept what happened did....not your fault....but continuing or changing is your choice.

[@user-ui2if1lx2f]

Thank you Dr Gabor for your valuable insights and helpful advice on the complexities of the human body and our emotions, the impact of our childhood experiences on our emotional development and wider health. Truly admire your courage to question, challenge and comment on today’s harmful societal norms and pressures of internet/screens, and the limitations of the training received by general doctors and therapists. Excellent video interview!! 👏🏼

[@timfinneran5047]

Thank you for very interesting comments and discussion

[@paulalane8638]

So simple, yet so profound. .response to triggers! Imagine a world where we could respond without the pain, rage and defense! I believe it's possible. On my healing journey. I'm hard on myself as well because my alcoholic mom criticized me. I thought something wrongvwith me. My alcoholic husband triggers me. Thats a 60 year old voice!THANK YOU, DR. GABOR MATE!❤️☺️

[@bharathn1059]

Excellent conversion it was so relevant in my current phases of my life to face the demons you have nurtured since the childhood that are haunting you back given the similar circumstances

[@smiley1958]

Thanks for this

[@tinaahl4597]

I had to listen to this a few times. There is so much healing in every word Dr.says. it is very difficult to find a good specialist in all medical departments. One needs $$$$. I went to the public library where I found some helpful work books❤

[@GraceNow]

I need all the doctors he spoke of and him and a few others on staff for myself. My X wife dis not understand when I told her, the professionals need professionals.. Never ever give up. I know I love u

[@mercedesblanco7470]

Great video, thanks!

[@vaibhavkohli12]

Wao! Amazing. Especially the part in the beginning and the end.

[@venturesomeactivist]

I think this taught me a lot about how the language we use can hinder us from actually finding a solution to move forward in stead of perpetually victimizing and shaming ourselves. Objectively asking “why this is?” would allow a person to look outside of their suffering and have the presence of mind to actually analyze emotions and allow you to regain control over your life. When you’ve been raised in a volatile environment you tend to dwell on things and feel like you don’t have the ability to move forward because it is hard to express why things trigger you or even what triggers you until it happens and you don’t have to tools to process your emotions or regulate your thoughts. Great video! ❤

[@mirandaandrea8215]

Gabor Mate is such a gift! ❤

[@pgreen6840]

15:00 until the end is the goldmine in the message and a great game changer regarding our lives and healing backwards and forwards

[@phoenixlight1111]

I very, very, very much needed this today. It's been really fascinating to me that over the past few days, the videos I've needed to listen to have been coming into my stream for some reason, guided I'm sure. I've been struggling intensely, ready to check out. I went through intensive therapy (DBT, CBT) about 8 yrs ago...I thought I was 'fixed' and then as it seems to go, I feel like I take 3 steps back again, ultimately. I'm diagnosed with ComplexPTSD/Borderline Personality Disorder....it's been very difficult lately. I have been experiencing flashbacks, intense emotions, alone, lost, stuck, angry, overwhelmed, defective, a mess. I always feel so incredibly soothed and comforted when I hear Dr. Mate'.....it soothes me deep in my Soul. I needed to hear this today, and I'm grateful to be here listening. Thank you.

[@jonathantrunz4482]

Currently reading “The body keeps the score”. Check it out. Best.

[@Brissles]

I'll be your friend

[@evadebruijn]

Those first three years... I hear it still, so often, how one parent accuses the more attentive parent of "spoiling" their child, a baby, it truly breaks my heart how deeply ingrained this is, so far drifted off the natural instincts, see how a mother ape will always attent to her babies cries. ✌️