Dr. R. A. Vernon's 10 Rules of Dating

Dr. R. A. Vernon's 10 Rules of Dating serves as a lifeline for singles who are searching for answers on how to successfully navigate the sometimes cloudy, unsettling waters of the dating pool.
Forego bad decisions, exercise sound judgment, and save yourself from unnecessary heartbreak by leaning how to approach dating with emotional, spiritual, and mental precision using DR. R. A. VERNON'S 10 RULES OF DATING.
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[@alexandriapeebles2903]

Today is September 19, 2023 and this sermon is STILL on point!! 🎯💯

[@ms.lisabailey1491]

Raw, Real and the Book ( Bible) Led! I am an over 50 widow and loved this Word. Thank, Pastor Vernon!!!❤😂 You and your wife are real mentors for the world.

[@helenmoody7230]

Thanks for being real pastor, my first marriage was like this me and my husband didn't touch or kiss until we were married and our union were special until his death and now I'm alone and single at age 68 and would like to find this kind of real love again and wait for marriage but it hard these days saved men don't want to wait anymore more and they claim to be Godly men, so thanks for this massage it encourage me to continue to stay celebrate 😇🙏👏♥️

[@littlebee41]

So right

[@Erroll_P]

I just found this channel. Can’t be by accident. GOD led me here. I need to share this.

[@CarmelaPattillo]

What an amazing ministry! I love my people, we keep it real in Ohio! Thank you, Pastor. I really needed that message and the way you laid it out was truly anointed. Thank God for you.

[@venitathomasconsultingcare9413]

Amen. Nothing like being a "BUCKEYE".

[@bridgettedaye7610]

OMG!!! I just came across this channel. This was meant for me to see. I have never heard it like this before. Thank you so much for this teaching. Can't wait to hear more of your teaching.

[@NurseMo337]

Me tooo!

[@godscreation3932]

This series helped me when I was single and newly divorced over 10 years ago. I have now been married 5 years to the love of my life.

[@Btj87]

OMG! This truly blessed me. This is one of the realist preaches I've ever heard. I have started dating again at 53. Trust me I'm going to use these principles.❤

[@caprid9937]

Wow I never heard this preaching before. Wish I knew this 22 years ago. Thank you Pastor for teaching us these precious words.

[@snewman777]

Awesome teaching! We need more pastors like you-you keep it real. I really enjoy your ministry.

[@kimberlywright4988]

This is the kind of teaching that is much needed...You set the date for marriage after counseling a potential couple....awesome. I have never heard it done that way. I wish someone like you had been my pastor 16 years ago 🙏😭😭😭😭😭

[@Forevrla]

He is too real!! I needed this message. Changed my whole perspective! Thank you

[@ucantrustme10]

The 30 day wait period is a great thing. It should be super hard and crazy expensive to GET married. Make people think it thru save people the heart ache and real money. If it is not real love they won’t go thru the wait or money to do it. Win in my book!!

[@deniselomax8380]

Whew! Thank you Pastor Vernon I needed this 34 yrs ago but Praise God This Time I'm Doing it God's Way❤

[@crystalbynum4465]

This is on point… thank you! I’m so thankful to God to let me see this message and I receive every bit of it! Thank you Jesus for this revelation! ❤

[@christinehowell431]

Oh my God, what a on time word. I received every bit of it. Pastor you have done well. Blessings to your ministry. You are guided by God.

[@thmoney25]

This was a good message. He is keeping it 💯 👌 and not sugar coating anything.

[@angelladavis9154]

Sound teaching Pastor

[@sheilaholcombe9573]

I love this teaching.. great word man of God 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙏🏾

[@shenitaboone6412]

You’re on it Pastor V

[@bsmiles7933]

I’m so glad that this message found me. I needed this pastor. Thanks for the instructions 😊

[@Trethomas43]

On point. A true blessing. I needed this word

[@helenaduncan2310]

This was great!! Very encouraging ♥️♥️♥️

[@MarzyMar]

That ending was the best hahaha. Had I not been in Starbucks I would have hollered LOL!!

[@joyh.729]

This was Gooooood!!! Thank you Pastor💛

[@teekib]

My God, I needed this years ago AND today. Thank you Lord for this word!!!

[@cecilia262]

❤ this was everything! Thank you 🙏🏽 ✨✨✨✨🙏🏽

[@lifewords4161]

Wow! Thanks for sharing this! It is very late for me but was so good it ministered to me as if my late dad had told me this so I feel healed of the lack of a dad syndrome. I shared this with a youth pastor in hopes that he would listen to it and suggest it to the one in charge but idk if they will but I also shared it with a young woman who also had no father figure making a valued input in her spiritual and sexual life to teach her these things. May you thrive in ministry and stay pure in Christ.

[@kathyjohnson2354]

Amen Thanks again for the message.

[@mjt2386]

Fireworks 💥 pastor. I’ve lived through all of what you’re talking about.

[@marcenapayton6946]

Thanks for sharing this message.. awesome information!!👏🏿👏🏿

[@bsmiles7933]

This Word is such a blessing

[@simoniamarlin1895]

Hallelujah and Amen. Great message...I really needed this. Thank you very much and God Bless you 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@tonytaylor3640]

Whooop Whooop This Blessed me so MUCH M O G Thank you Dr !! Holla from NYC

[@shenitaboone6412]

Preach!!!!!!!

[@ingridphillip5367]

Good food at 53 I’m in no rush to fall for the wrong person

[@yngridbarett528]

Real talk

[@echoday8376]

50 y.o.a. here, not in any rush to fall for anything! Not smart talking you promise

[@vinnettepeterkin9366]

Thank you thank you so much heavy coaching

[@uschicamamaluv1]

Wow just wow. Tell it Pastor!!!

[@stephanydenisebaker5991]

That was amazing!!!! Thank you so much

[@bonitamcneill3256]

I love this!

[@audreydumas6423]

Lord, I thank you for this word

[@machellethomas6672]

I am 63 and this God has me in the palm of his hands I thank God for this was so awesome so good oh I ate all this is what you call a real Pastor it never to late wait on God.

[@primrosesmalling7639]

Hallelujah 🙏, am bless by this massage, because this is for me,

[@tammyrichardson2553]

This is phenomenal!!! Bless God!

[@juliasaunders1495]

Awesome teaching. I've surely learned alot

[@littlebee41]

Yes Lord, oh my God. I have fallen in love with this teaching. I wanna cry out to God.

[@celestinebennett212]

couple jealousy is real and dangerous you speak the truth💯 they even tell you Education is nothing and am like what??

[@candacebutler7011]

This! Thank you

[@michellejeanmarie]

Nice work love.

[@latonyajackson667]

I appreciate this teaching. I didn’t come across this by accident. This is real talk! Thank you!

[@machellethomas6672]

We need this ladies may God continue to bless to the man of God and his family ❤️🙏🙌

[@jeanineleocadia5971]

I am listening to this it's good!

[@pauladavis2433]

Thank you!!!!

[@faynelson9476]

Thank you pastor this is such great teaching. My current situation is there is no passion sexually in our 22 years relationship it saddens me I feel like am bullying him into submission, I am now very tired and do not wish to continue this way he still tell me he loves me and we still laugh much.

[@salenacephas5692]

Thank you for allowing God to use you in sharing this message!!!

[@hazelhairco88]

😂This was amazing ❤ what a blessing this word is to my life while I’m in this dating season. Thank you 🙏🏾

[@tutuzelwagcina4332]

Am Blessed in SA by this preaching

[@uniquesoul4018]

Continued… highest potential, it doesn’t mean you’re going to be perfect, it doesn’t mean there’s not going to always be room for improvement. What it means is that you are striving to be your best you and then you are trying to bring your best you to the table when you are dating, which again, will increase your ability to receive the person who’s truly best for you. So, do not accept mediocrity in areas that need to be improved. Do not make excuses for your flaws out of the name of well, I love myself just how I am. If you love yourself, you want to give yourself the best, you want to give yourself at a higher level, a higher quality of life. And that means working and addressing those issues, that means taking care… taking better care of yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, that means making sure that you’re not holding on to negative energy. All of these things encompass you truly loving yourself and embracing what you truly deserve. But not just loving yourself, know yourself. Because again, the mistakes so many people make before they start dating or when they start to date and get in these relationships is they don’t know who the hell they are. And if you don’t know who you are how do you know who belongs in your life? How do you know who you truly match with? How do you know what’s truly best for you? You won’t, you won’t and by the time you figure it out while you’re already in this relationship, you’re going to wake up one day and say, what the hell am I doing? How did I end up here? Why am I with this person? All right. We don’t need that to be the case, we need to nip that in the bud from the beginning. So, the quicker you can learn yourself and get a good handle of who you are, what you need, what makes you happy, and what you are willing to provide in a relationship. Because please understand again, relationships aren’t just about what we’re going to receive, it’s about what we’re willing to give. And so, you have to understand, where do you draw your line? What are you unwilling to do so that if you meet a person, that you may really like but they may say well listen, I want this, this, this, and this and if you know that you’re not that person can give those things, all right. Then we can say okay you know what, we’re just not a good match, it’s not a good fit, it happens, we keep it moving. Rather than trying to make it work with someone it’ll never work with. And that’s what happens to so many people because they don’t truly know themselves and they don’t truly love themselves. So, be sure you have checked that off your list and you have that covered before you start dating. And now, the fifth question to ask yourself before you start dating is, have I healed and released my baggage? Listen, I know some of you all are already thinking, if you’ve seen my face right now 😂 lol, just kidding, you’re already thinking well, everyone has issues, we all got problems. Listen, everyone has gone through some things. Everyone at some point or another has had some issues, not everyone right now is holding on to their issues. People have healed, people have grown, people have become better. So, do not use that as an excuse, do not let that be your scapegoat. You need to look yourself in the mirror and address any lingering issues you need to release that baggage and make sure you’re not projecting past negative outcomes onto your present, onto your future. You’re not holding this new person responsible for something they have nothing to do with, all right. It wasn’t their fault but you’re bringing it to them because you have not released it from your past. And now you are sabotaging your ability to have successful dating and relationships. So, it is important that you take responsibility men and women to heal. Go to a counselor, go to a coach, do what is necessary. Do what you need to do, but do not make excuses for your baggage also understand this, even if you want to believe with all your heart that everyone is walking around with some kind of issue well, then would still encounter that by saying, not everyone’s issue to be detrimental to a relationship. So, basically it’s one thing where some people may have an issue with procrastination. But that procrastination is not going to destroy the relationship with the person that they would end up with. However, someone else may have an issue that stems from their childhood that will without a doubt directly impact their ability to be with the right person. And increase the chances of them being with the wrong person. So, again, sometimes these issues aren’t about just how they affect us within the relationship. It’s how they affect us in who we choose. Who we allow ourselves to entertain, how we may become so accustomed to dysfunction that we will only choose dysfunctional people to be with. This is what happens to so many individuals. So, you’ve got to make sure you address these things for your own sake first and foremost, but yes, for the sake of that you’re going to be in. So that you can live life at a higher level.

[@madfutloverfodda]

Hi uniquie soul, powerful coment😊

[@anithamsoke2329]

U nailed T! May Almighty God bless u

[@darnellcollier8391]

Amen Amen Amen Amen Amen Amen In My Family We call it the Eagle Principle...The concept comes from My Father and Grandmother.

[@angelajackson1924]

❤I needed to hear this.. thank you sir

[@peaceful22023]

Excellent Pastor! Praise the Lord.

[@kimberlywright4988]

Wow. Wow this is some great teaching. It is tight but it is right.

[@plantbasedliving247]

Pastorrrrrr - Mercy! What about us 60+ year olds? Talk to us please

[@sherricason1548]

Wow, why is it that they leave out the FINE 60 year olds!

[@plantbasedliving247]

Imagine!

[@sherricason1548]

Okay Pastor, holla back at the single and fine 60 years young sistas!!!

[@tanyaramsey5312]

Good food. Thank you!

[@deborahbrown8570]

Thank you.

[@newtownking1]

Good grocery Pastor Vernon. Very real and truth 💪🏾🙌🏿

[@sh-rt5dq]

THIS WAS ABSODERNLUTELY A FACTUAL,RIGHT,AND SO A BABY CAN UNDERSTAND WORD.

[@celestawilliams5234]

My God!!!! Preach pastor!!!!

[@saundrawhite1041]

You are right! I have been a widow for 11yrs married 41 yrs. I want a Christian Man. I prayed and ask God to take my feelings for a man away from me. I am a senior citizen but I still desire a husband.

[@roncooley4753]

Heard this yearssssssss ago didn’t listen been married and divorced 13 years MAINLY because of IGNORING wise counsel such as this!

[@genisetrent5073]

This is 😊 good

[@littlebee41]

Yes Lord, help me to see this next man as my husband. God help me save my body for my husband, please.

[@demecapinkney6405]

This is so good. I'm sending it to all my daughters. I have 4 :)

[@teenspirit9837]

Thank You GOD!!! 🙏🏾💪🏾❤️

[@kathyjohnson2354]

I love you for the truth ❤️

[@Courie11e]

If we can just be obedient to God...there'll be more marriages and less divorces.

[@kitavick809]

1st time listening to you...this is awesome teaching! Thank you🙏

[@tuesdaeholland3108]

You Better Spit this Truth Pastor!! If I can't look at without my glasses He Ain't IT👏🏽

[@gladyszimmerman7058]

To God be the Glory!!!

[@LigiB]

All funny but also true. 😂😂 I love this man of God.!! I think God want me to listen to this ten rules..

[@veragoodwin6605]

Amen 🙏 lol 😂

[@gholmes100]

Pastorrrrr. Thank you for these wise ordained dating instructions. I appreciate you! I laughed so hard abt “The Come On Up Here Ministy.” 😂🙌🏽

[@arendajacobs2338]

I lnow right. Come on up here ministry

[@Coolct]

The come on up here ministry!😂😂

[@sylvialittle890]

🙌🏾🙌🏾 whew what a word

[@carolynrose3171]

Amen! Amen! Choices! 🙏🌹

[@luevondataylor6286]

😂😂😂😂 this is Awesome thank you

[@kadzgodbless1176]

Hallelujah

[@mjt2386]

Thank you pastor. I need the word church ministry. When and how will you host pre marriage services. I’d like to serve. I was married and did it without God. The next time… Im going w God. Id love to minister to myself and others to get with God and therapy. 😊

[@littlebee41]

I wanna be save for real. My GOD.

[@machellethomas6672]

Amen Amen 🙏🙌

[@beautyland8770]

I love this pastor… where is his church?

[@roncooley4753]

Cleveland Ohio

[@tikajoubert2473]

Can you handle their past is rule #4.

[@tammyrichardson2553]

That is rule #3

[@jeanineleocadia5971]

Amen

[@veragoodwin6605]

Amen 🙏 lol 😅😂

[@kathyjohnson2354]

Wow

[@user-db3ql8kt1m]

Hi Pastor u r a reality pastðr

[@fayebrooks7359]

They're real,I've been in Ministry over 40 years,People find his Ministry ,He's real,my life lines up with their's life,in church 24>7 closes reality to natural life,I love them,I related, real people, fun,realness and natural, no Stipulations, natural living in the truth,I haven't seen a Ministry as honest as there's ,Paul Morton was locked out of Thankful in Decatur Ga,God gave him his owned,New Beginning Although he has passed, God left Pastors associatedwith his walks of life,Paul and Legacy of R A Vernon goes on,he standing,don't complain, everything is predestined accordingly to psalms 139,God is Wonderful, God is good

[@janicesmiley6473]

Lol facts❤

[@veragoodwin6605]

Amen 🙏

[@uschicamamaluv1]

🔥🔥🔥

[@tuesdaeholland3108]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾