changing yourself for others

[@bittergodsALT]

the “hey mamas” never gets to old

[@Pinkmannorris]

IKR!?!?

[@maliyahh19]

fr and i’ll never get tired of hearing it

[@sana_1783]

but these comments do

[@sarahnichols9673]

Yes

[@sarahnichols9673]

Yes

[@ONEPIECEGLAZER7]

When I was younger I used to get bullied for “being ugly” and so as I got older I got glasses and got less hate for having small eyes..and I never took of my glasses cuz I was so scared that they would laugh ..last week I got a hair cut with bangs and this girl (who was my friend) asked me to show her my forehead and I did abs she laughed so i never did it again and now I feel like it’s a must to cover it but idk But idrc anymore cuz they just dumb asf 💀and people be like “ur werid “ and I’m like”yessir”

[@milkywayo2107]

Sorry about those people who bullied you, I'm happy you feel comfortable abt yourself now. :D

[@ONEPIECEGLAZER7]

@@milkywayo2107 yeah and thx 😋

[@Alisonsgachaverse]

@ERINYOYOSUP I'm boring 😑

[@OnlyALexisOkii]

yass you know we got that vesremy pfp

[@SteelKitty17]

Slay

[@taytubeofficial]

Your podcast is somehow my online safe space. I always feel emotionally seen. Currently trying not to rage shit post on TikTok because they keep violating me and I can’t emotionally regulate.

[@1furfeelingsinist3r]

this podcast keeps me away from anxiety and depression

[@Ratty_Ratzz]

Literally same fr😭🫶

[@BridgetRoss-qb8ib]

I have two points. 1. The thumbnail is absolute perfection 👌🏽 2. Who the heck doesnt like chilis

[@addy9568]

i have different personalities ig for different friends/friend groups i have my attitude and personality changes off the vibe of that person i’ve started to stop doing that a little bit bc idc if people like me or not anymore💀 but i occasionally still do it

[@iamnotsrija]

Relatable!🙂

[@moistwrmonastring1017]

Yeah I do that as well, but I must add, KURT PFP! So happy to see his handsome face lmao

[@addy9568]

@@moistwrmonastring1017 lmao yes!

[@Tsukasa_Bestboy]

You gotta love the thumbnails

[@alice.1102]

5:15 omg yes cause im fluent in english but i start to use a french accent but i never speak like this and idk why 😭

[@OfficialViolet4]

❤️ the minions in the backgroud

[@micaelaa28]

I thought I was the only one who does all of this Especially the accents i don’t know why I do that 😭thank you for making this podcast makes me feel so much better and I’m sure for other people too.

[@uraveragepieceofcorn6100]

"if they don't like you, they don't like you, and if it's awkward it's awkward." Ben is my therapist and if you say otherwise... you're wrong.

[@batanguness]

yep I do it all the time too

[@Caca-yp1rm]

Your videos solve world hunger

[@BridgetRoss-qb8ib]

Fr

[@Xyris_silverfox]

I’m British/Australian randomly and it’s annoying 😭😭

[@louisthe18th]

Sometumes i watch too much bluey and it effects my speech😭😭😭

[@alourexial2323]

Yes

[@oklps3979]

DRAMA MAMAAAAA

[@ONEPIECEGLAZER7]

MAMAAAAA DRAMA

[@Ireallylikeanimalstbh]

I love you Ben, like actually ILYSM. Like ACTUALLY. Your my favorite person ever and I just hope the best for you man. You have helped me through so much and you are so hilarious. I FUCKING LOVE YOU.

[@haru4599]

I have been changing myself for so long that the fake me is me now. I was different in front of my friends and family but now I act the same towards both just more open with family because I am more comfortable with them, but everything else is the same. I don't know who I am anymore and including other experiences has made me act even more different. I hope that I find someone that will love me for the REAL me but for someone to love the real me I need to find that me. So I hope I find the right person and the real me soon

[@axparkmarquez]

5:20 Omfg yes. Yesterday, I was voice messaging my Swedish friend, and i was speaking Swedish (I'm not fluent), and he's never heard me speak Swedish before, and I got so nervous. When I switched to English in a voice message and I kept putting on a country accent (which I only use to clown around, I'm from Texas and have a standard American accent). I had to record the memo several times cause I would stop using the accent, and I didn't want him to think that was my real dialect 😭😭😭

[@parkerhull7404]

i talk British all the time and i am very concerned for myself

[@AthresGamingSecondChannel]

Ye

[@taytubeofficial]

Random, but I thought you and the mamas should know: I made a TikTok to make a KZbin video about “going undercover” on TikTok. I got distracted, went too far undercover, forgot the whole KZbin thing, it’s been a month and now I’m… just on TikTok selling shiatsu back massagers? Yes I do have ADHD.

[@maelissa1200]

Just in the right time I was about to take a nap

[@Midnight.Rain.747.]

I change jokes with different friends because they know and understand different things from a standpoint

[@alice33113]

The accent thing is so true

[@Pinkmannorris]

Listening to this podcast feels so much better idk why!?! but yeah :)

[@baran6266]

You know what,when ever I couldn’t hear something I would say “what”,but I saw my friend say pardon and now I say “pardon” to everyone,just not my friends

[@Parkbr0s]

I talk in a random accent anytime I'm nervous 😭

[@gracie_knows2778]

nice video to make as school starts soon

[@kriparaiii]

ben i literally cant go to sleep ithout hearing ur damn podcasts

[@mayahdoring2838]

Same Lol its apart of my night routine at this point. To good to miss.

[@kriparaiii]

@@mayahdoring2838 YESSS

[@kriparaiii]

@@melissadaugherty8853 HAHAHA

[@mc_flairy3716]

HEY MAMAS!!!

[@PixelStarzzz]

I always code switch if I’m with my mom bc I have ✨mommy issues 🫃

[@DIZZY_CAT666]

5:23 I don’t talk in a different accent but I start thinking of band so I start mark time or I’ll roll my steps😭

[@mona-xz7od]

his voice is kinda calming

[@louisthe18th]

When i get nervous i start speaking spanish😭

[@zayra.]

“Hey mamas” -Benoftheweek💞

[@Awhcas]

I thought I was the only one who turned British when I’m stressed omg 😭

[@Niahx]

Help😭

[@annalisethibodeau5868]

Ig he does have a point. I've realized this in myself but its so hard to break.

[@kaiya54111]

This video kinda deep because it’s so true

[@fathaldinaljamal7740]

change is everywhere and is a natural process! Look how trees grow they literally physically change to adapt to their environment!

[@pinkdeer16]

No, because I see where you are coming from. For a long time I was thinking about how I was changing my voice, behavior and certain words around different people. I honestly think it’s a normal thing that humans do to adapt to the environment they are in. Of course your voice will be different when you are excited vs calm. Of course your word choice and tone will differ from talking to teachers vs friends. As for your behavior, I think you need to make sure that you are still keeping your authentic self in front of everyone, but if you have certain things that you do with certain people, that’s ok. The only time changing yourself is bad, is when you are fully changing everything about yourself to “fit in” or doing certain dangerous behaviors around people who are bad influences.

[@Ireallylikeanimalstbh]

When COVID first hit I hated the masks n shi. So when school first started I didn’t wear it that much (the masks weren’t that strict) and I became friends with someone who damaged my mental health and self esteem. To the fact where I wore a mask to hide my face. Worst decision of my life. I honestly am confident now but it damaged me more than anything else has. This year was the first year I didn’t wear a mask but I did under my chin cuz I didn’t want to show my chin and stuff. Now I believe I had a glow up, but it ruined me. And it fucking scarred me. My dad even wanted to take away my masks so I wouldn’t wear it and I had the worst mental breakdown. I almost passed out. It ruined me, I still have extreme social anxiety but I’m always open to try new things. I am very insecure about my arms, and eyes. (Sorry for ranting) 😭 I’m also very insecure abt my skin. I’m rlly pale and everyone makes fun of me for it. And they say I never go outside (I go outside everyday) I just can’t get a tan and EVERYTIME I wear shorts everyone points it out.

[@sun.fl0]

ME TOO OMFG

[@Ireallylikeanimalstbh]

@@sun.fl0 wait FR?

[@sun.fl0]

@@Ireallylikeanimalstbh YEA

[@Ireallylikeanimalstbh]

@@sun.fl0 YOUR MY SOULMATE WTF

[@ash457]

ME THREE IM DEADDDD

[@eggceterasart]

i was super loud and "different" before i met this guy who i had the fattest crush on (still kinda do ngl )💀and i started to change myself for him. now im more quiet and im rlly basic, but i mean im not bullied anymore and i get more attention from guys more. though sometimes i wish i never changed myself because i miss the old me but in a way i also dont. it was a blessing and a curse meeting this guy

[@gamergo7842]

I usually make dark jokes during long conversations but I hide when I'm around the older part of my family or ppl that are my friends that are "soft" and I'm wondering if that's justified or not

[@shanaedaye8259]

Don’t see anyone as above you and you won’t try to change anything to please them. You’re your own standard.

[@Manar38656]

the only podcast i listen to is ben's. and it's the only one i ever will listen to. Sometimes i wonder if ur just me morphed into another body cause ur opinions and experiences are exactly like mine. Ily ben

[@averymanchego6145]

I like how he always tries to make ppl feel better about themselves on this podcast

[@Meeeooowwwrrr]

i was just having this dilemma last night wtf

[@lloyddragon2036]

Once when my sister and I were kids we went to a McDonald's playground and for some reason decided to pretend to be British and that our names were "Susan" and "Lucy". We were going through a huge Narnia phase at the time. The other kids on the playground fully bought it. It was great. We literally kept it up the whole time we were there and played so many games with the other kids as these fake personas. For no reason other than it was funny to us.

[@Yourlocalprocrastinator]

That’s so adorable-

[@b__2710]

13:40 you quite literally predicted the clinton kane thing

[@pinkbubles8639]

I'm serious I had to talk Infront of aton of people the other day and I full on just went 🇬🇧

[@quackduck1093]

Omggg i love this podcasttt 💜💜

[@aja7151]

omg same

[@gachakid8567]

The way he gags when he says bag

[@lea-ou8qx]

my “friends” in fourth grade made fun of my double chin and big nose so i starved myself and lost 20 pounds and have a ed now, words hurt

[@24kandis]

Yeah. I’m 13 and I have a lot of arm hair. It’s an insecurity of mine. And my mom has offered to get it waxed if it really bothers me. But I say no. Because I want people or…😏boys, to like me for who I am and what I look like. So I say no because I want to basically say, ‘what you see is what you get.’ So sometimes I don’t really like to make big improvements on my body or face. I want to be able to remove all the e beauty care and still be the same person to my future loved one.

[@24kandis]

@sewerrat7418 I’m 14 now, but also the reason I’m so confident now is because I have Jesus and I know your probably rolling your eyes with all the religious stuff, but the truth is I was sitting in church one day and the pastor was telling us how we’re God’s masterpiece and how we are his beautiful bride, and I believe that with all my soul. We are all beautiful. And Jesus loves all of us. Whether we’re nuns or murderers, or pastors or we work at a grocery store. He thinks we are all his beautiful masterpiece. Apply that to your life and you will be insecurity-less. I promise you😇😊

[@Crowflight_WC]

My friends make fun of me for the way I say the numbers 20-29 and I don't know why

[@sharonhalder3199]

I love this ep and the topic~!!! Litarally what I've been realising and thinking abt this year and this made it a bit more clear 🖤

[@jakesaquaticworld2669]

I do this all the time! I often do it when talking to people I want to make a good impression to/ I want to like me

[@jamielus]

wooo! new podcast episode :D

[@vivid_dreams1415]

HII BEN I LOVE YOU THANK YOU FOR EVERYTHING

[@aesthete1015]

Lmaoooo I always break into accents when nervous, yea I agree with changing yourself for others because some enviourments just aren't as comfortable for sharing who you are, different levels for each group you know. Some groups I am a crazy fast talking idiot who breaks into accents and hops around, others im silent and my voice gets shaky, or some friends are just chill so its more mellow but still talkative. Ive been bullied s lot thats why im really uncomfortable around most people

[@themedkm]

ooh same! British when I’m nervous or excited, and Russian (sometimes mixed with American and German) when I'm inspired.

[@fruitypebbles8632]

whenever i played this, the same day i was thinking of ways to change bc of my friends. They are just very pretty and have good humor. and im here awkward, doesn't know how to make a good joke and consider myself ugly

[@yourequeensag1235]

When I was like 13 years old I went to the school and someone literally gave me a black eye and said I was fat so being the independent person I am I said well I bet you can't even walk two feet without taking a break and he never bothered me again

[@belleplayz7862]

i love your videos SO MUCH!!!!!

[@jemimalees7764]

I love your podcast so much everyday on the way to school I listen to it ❤️❤️❤️

[@evan.rosier.3]

I really get that sometimes you should be yourself and sometimes you should be fake because I'm home educated and a lot of my friends go to school and quite a few of them are doing SAT's and GCSEs. I have nothing against doing exams and things but I don't understand why you have to stress about something when it's not actually testing you, it's testing the teachers. half the time it doesn't mean much in the real world at all. I try not to put my opinion out there because lots of people will get really angry with me but one of my closest friends studies for tests and stuff and gets really really anxious and I tell her but you don't have to pass! it's not actually going to matter if you don't pass. She tries to explain to me but it still doesn't make much sense. At this point I'm so sick of people telling me that "oh it does matter" that I don't care. I will say what I want and if they care that's their problem not mine. Sorry this was so long, it's just something I need a Social filter for, lol

[@choisoobin1224]

3:28 Blud when from better help to chime HOW 😧

[@twinkle5612]

Thumbnail has a separate Fandom 🤌😌

[@iamnotsrija]

Hello Ben and other mama's. Hope u all are good! 😃❤️ I was bored because Ben didn't post his funny stories on insta. But if he needs rest i totally understand 😌

[@grug_]

Ayo, I don’t need Betterhelp when I got Ben and the Drama Mama Podcast 😆

[@lx3nnyv]

YES IKRR

[@-Ash_on_pawzz-]

OK BUT WHY HAS NOBODY TALKED ABT THE THUMBNAIL 😭

[@xploringplaces1100]

HI BEN, I LOVE U ❤️❤️

[@miaemilyd6479]

I really love this podcast I love how real u are with your content thank you so much 😊

[@zoras.domain]

Same Ben. According to me consoler though it’s a psychological thing sort of hard to tame

[@isabellajackson4935]

I'm British and I always put on an American accent when I feel awkward 😭

[@hallelujahlockandload]

33:15 ben in his derealization era 💅

[@splitze10]

Hey drama mamas

[@-ari-25]

No like for real WHY DO I GO BRITISH WHEN I GET SHY and no your not alone little Ben lol

[@kolbij8026]

hi ben!! i love you so much and i hope you are having a great week!! :)

[@daedaisy]

Hello! You shouldn’t change yourself for others to

[@fishshoes5312]

I love your videos

[@caydenbower8952]

5:15 hell yeah. I do it all the time help

[@iriscore7604]

No one is gonna talk about the minions poster in the back?

[@yoanna9410]

omg ben, thank u for this video. first, all your podcast are incredible! actually, i think it’s good to know ur « point of view » about things like that !

[@caitcawaii750]

I feel like a dried potato

[@Ins4n1ty.]

Tbh I do this cs I don’t want them to like have a bad impression of me and like for me it’s sad cs l always do this and I’m so sensitive, to the point where I do it for the better or worse :/

[@Dndndndnsdndndnddndndn]

*ben talking about having fake personas" me with 2 different discord accounts of 2 completely different people to just escape my life

[@Cami-ll7oo]

Tom Holland look alike number 1452

[@Uglyass347]

I like your videos

[@nausheen._.511]

Wait- why does it say "no views" ? When there are clearly comments on here...? Edit: no but why does it still say that? Edit 2: ok it's 5.7k views now-😅

[@MadyXia_doesstuff]

i feel like hes reading something in the sponsers

[@_strkey]

Ik this is really random but this topic kinda reminded me of this, anyways it can’t just be me, have any of you been to a place that you know you won’t see any of the mf there again and so you just make shit up abt your self💀💀💀 it could be something like having an Australian accent or I have 26 siblings… idk just a random thought💀💀💀

[@sageosmundsen]

Heyyyy

[@normafontalvo6444]

SLAYY

[@mimiamipooh256]

Heyyyyy

[@brittanyhayes4970]

Hey

[@teaganslife1718]

Hiii

[@jelliefisher]

ben can u add me into ur podcast and then make me in there for 2 seconds and then get hits with a rock and never to be seen again thanks i think this will work out for us

[@Theatre123]

Helloooooo