Master Your BPD Triggers in 5 Simple Steps!

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@sarahs413 Ай бұрын

Analogy I use to explain and help: REACTION (like slapping a third degree burn) and RESPONSE (putting aloe on the burn). MIGHT help SOMEONE else who goes through this and makes sense to someone. Even one person who this could resonate with. I mentally do my best to put "aloe" on it and breathe while huffing and puffing. It doesn't ALWAYS work when that "burn" is slapped, but it certainly CAN and DOES even if it's more times than otherwise.

@magenta1963 Ай бұрын

Will follow these tips, perfect timing, you are saving lives Dr Fox

@DrDanielFox Ай бұрын

Glad you like them! 🦊👍

@Jesslynn29 29 күн бұрын

❤ I feel these videos are saving me. Just listening gives me hope. I have your BPD workbook, and it helps immensely

@badforgiven1 Ай бұрын

Thank god you put these videos out. I go to therapy once every other week, and I can barely afford it. I find a lot of learning from these videos more so than therapy

@cherylrajewski3390 2 күн бұрын

I found that making up a reverse affirmation to what triggers me helps. I used to go nuts over bad drivers on the road and then for a while I'd tell myself if I started to get triggered that I no longer get crazy over other drivers bad skills. It's like an intention and belief that I can control my emotions if I choose to.

@sarahs413 Ай бұрын

PERFECT TIMING!!! My manager was a no call / no show. I was there to work. It snowballed and I am trying to figure out how to work with her as she is EERILY similar to a boss I had a decade ago with the way she manages and treats people, looking for a way to stand up for myself and bring attention to corporate even health code violations she is not doing anything about while not losing my employment before I can get another job.

@sarahs413 Ай бұрын

VERY much emotionally triggered. I'm going to play this on repeat. This is a problem. There are a few problems that corporate would not otherwise know and have tried to keep in-house. I am looking for tips to stand up for myself without lashing out but in an effective way. It is SO hard to figure out what has the best result rather than making it worse. I was there and she was not! I would have gotten in trouble for that and unable to make up the missed hours had it been me who was a no call / no show. How??? I'm SO stressed out, it's CRAZY high stress and anxiety.

@sarahs413 Ай бұрын

I am nodding A LOT in ohhhhhh, yessss!!! You're SO right, and this makes TOTAL sense!!! THANK YOU!!!!

@sarahs413 Ай бұрын

It's as if you were here! ALL of this is EXACTLY what I am going through, and the reactive REACTION (like hitting a third degree burn) instead of RESPOND (putting aloe on the burn!). Yes, Executive Dysfunction like no other! RIGHTTTT!!! Clicking for it to replay a few times!! Reminders of DBT! Thank youuuuuuu! OMGGGGGG, ALL of this!!! YES!!! I wonder how to fix it after REACTING, if possible!

@johndolan5923 Ай бұрын

write down your feeling and play them back to to your support ally.

@sarahh4458 13 күн бұрын

Wish there were more Dr Fox's working in mental health all over the world - he knows his stuff about BPD :-)

@Aleister_Donny Ай бұрын

For me, because my mind is constantly playing tricks on itself, I document everything over the course of time before making a final decision.

@DhirendraKalra 23 күн бұрын

Beautiful thoughts & well explained

@DrDanielFox 23 күн бұрын

I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.

@vincentisvintage6522 Ай бұрын

Having a written tally of my triggers and correlation is a good idea, thank you!

@jodystrong3229 Ай бұрын

Thank you, I definitely needed this advice. Your videos have been a godsend. Thank you!

@mrsCRD Ай бұрын

I needed this.. thanks ❤

@CELERITAS-BONITAS Ай бұрын

I got triggered by my therapist saying I was "just scared", she repeated it 3 times... It was upsetting because I was feeling many other things too, and had valid reasons to be afraid of a past traumatic event that I had tried to avoid and she convinced me to do anyway (that ended in me having severe health symptoms ). Looking back I'm noticing my anger was also fueled by feeling unheard, invalidated and also from my childhood history where weakness was demonized.

@pupchubs6301 Ай бұрын

I wonder if it is also possible that your therapist said "just scared" with the intention of expressing that feeling scared is "just" a feeling like any other; and that it is healthy to push ourselves to grow (I believe cluster b have often suffered a childhood where avoidance of age appropriate challenges is encouraged) yet your misperception involved interpreting "just scared" as a minimization of your feelings.

@claireh.7605 Ай бұрын

I had what I call “SSRI discontinuation induced BPD” where the elevator braking for the fifth time in a row and a washing machine leaking three times in a row made me openly rage and just go along with the rage and obsession like my life depended on it and it made sense at the time due to my desire to express myself and improve the situation. Dealing with “neuro emotions” from SSRI damage is extremely confusing and annoying because you can’t trust your own train of thought to make sense of it.

@melaniep8377 Ай бұрын

How long did it last? And how long did you take the ssris?

@melaniep8377 Ай бұрын

How long did it last? And how long were you on the ssris?

@nbrackenrich31 Ай бұрын

I’m sorry this happened to you. I would like clarify something: BPD is not something caused by medications. What you experienced is simply withdrawal symptoms. emotional and mood dysregulation caused by withdrawal of SSRI can sometimes mimic the symptoms of BPD but it doesn’t “induce” the disorder. Cheers.

@claireh.7605 Ай бұрын

@@melaniep8377 8 months on; three years later still have the rage but maybe its because I drink coffee and have a bad lifestyle - not sure

@melaniep8377 Ай бұрын

@@claireh.7605 that's interesting. I recently quit paxil after 24 years and also have rage. I attributed it to perimenopause, but who knows.

@AdiraNatali119 Ай бұрын

Thanks this really helped me

@InstrumentvanVrede Ай бұрын

My sister has worked out a plan with me, since my mom doesn't drive anymore, to enable me to leave mom with her if I become activated by someone's comment or perceived dig. If I can't calm myself down. Usually an emotional button not a trigger. My sister also has it set up where my mom can come stay with her for a few days to a week to give me the space I need to regroup and utilize the skills I've learned over the last two years (Including prayer and meditation). Get Dr. Fox's book and a DBT workbook. Pick a few coping techniques, don't get overwhelmed by all the options, you only need a couple to use regularly. I'm 44, my dad died two years ago, mom and I share an apartment.

@gabysblog6582 Ай бұрын

What a great video. I definitely do not wanna get whooped 😂. Thanks Dr. Fox

@hologramhouse729 25 күн бұрын

Im definitely working on that but I am also learning mma and mind power techniques...

@YuYu-qs8mz Ай бұрын

Sounds good. I often get triggers seeing some people or whatever, several times in a day. Mostly I feel urge to attack or cry.. sometimes I just suddenly unload my bio on random people. Perhaps it’s time to try.

@DrDanielFox Ай бұрын

It sounds like you’re really aware of your triggers, which is an important first step! Trying out new strategies can definitely help you manage those feelings better. You've got this!

@ThinkIsMe Ай бұрын

I have a problem with getting triggered in the car, and I don’t have a space to step away… This obviously is very distressing to my partner. Any advice? Also I realize, that once I raise my voice, that my partner is then triggered as well, and really just wants to enforce her boundaries in how she wants to be treated. For example she said, I’m not going to keep supporting being yelled at like this, and I hear, “ next time you fail to control your emotions I’m leaving you forever.” Now an emotional button is pushed, and it’s very difficult to recalibrate and I go into catastrophizing which puts a huge weight on my partner and pushes her away when I really want some reassurance. Help.

@Thebabeamour 27 күн бұрын

Idk if this is good advice but if it was me I’d try putting some AirPods in and full blast ur music so u can kinda zone into ur own space, until u can actually remove yourself from the situation

@bentosan 18 күн бұрын

You could practice express your emotions in different ways like talking about how your anger feels in your body and then asking for a positive need to be met. This lets you help express the emotion in a healthier way. I liked the other guys advice too. Also count back from 100 by 7’s at a time could help otherwise distract you.

@ThemeParkLife-nv6uh 24 күн бұрын

My mom is my biggest pet peeve because she was the most abusive to me. I cut her off 8 months ago though and now do no contact. But am still upset with her and feel like there's no resolution because she's not sorry for what she did

@Spritual-life-lessons Ай бұрын

I have really hard time reading others emotions on the surface level however I can read the hidden ones fine. But I struggle to connect coz I m not sure how to understand or connect with ppl. Many ppl talk to each other n they become friends or start doing things and I feel alone n left out.

@fairygurl9269 Ай бұрын

*Smiles 9:15 Thanks Sir

@arabellacox Ай бұрын

Irrational jealousy! I have to avoid relationships now, its really sad

@DrDanielFox Ай бұрын

Sounds like you had some tough times. Be well

@jmanke6057 Ай бұрын

If you risk a relationship again couldn’t he go to therapy with you? Or is that too personal to share? I’m falling for someone with a multitude of issues. I just want to know proceed or avoid what would be the right thing?

@jenmarie2030 24 күн бұрын

@@DrDanielFoxcan you do a video on retroactive jealously... feeling like your partners are still with all their partners. Everyone has experience these days. The need to be the one and only.