Dress For The Man Not for Yourself

[@tammybenaytv4631]

"Better late than ugly". lol

[@faithkorir6293]

You look preety girl.Yes!!.I am in college. And am so glad I found Shera .

[@Someonekindaspecial]

So are you going to bleach your skin? You know dark skin women are considered ugly by a lot of society. You know many white ppl laugh at black women with weaves under their breath because it’s thought that we cannot grow out hair. So You do know that this advice in this video is bullshit right? You’re only gonna end up making someone else rich.

[@DarkAries76]

You know SheRa inspired a lot of KZbinrs and other social media when you hear phrases like, "level up", "attract a man of means" and "dusty" in their videos. I've been watching KZbin videos for years and years, never has turning dusties away and attracting men with money/wealth been this big of a deal unless you were already raised that way. There's been a big shift in how women talk about dating and marriage in their videos now.

[@ginalienn1112]

I’ve noticed that as well but I’m glad that more and more women are changing their view. But I’ve always had this mindset

[@shaleenaabron2520]

@Diamon. Shera started the Level Up group before CiCi's song dropped.

[@shaleenaabron2520]

Yep. I am seeung videos in their feed with practically the same titles. Most are young and single so you know they are regurgitating someone else's wisdom, lol.

[@LuckyKeytailor77]

Yeeees, this one girl copied a lot of her words verbatim and acted as if they were her own. I called her out and added Shera’s name😆

[@shaleenaabron2520]

@@LuckyKeytailor77 Ooh Petty, lol! A woman after my own heart. I did the same thing, lol. I was wondering why this one YTer's vids kept popping up in my mentions and then I looked at the dates of her vids and gave her the side-eye, like "Shera's been doing this for years...".

[@CalledForSuchA7imeAs7his]

“If you’re not a walking fantasy, go back and try again.”

[@noran2096]

I levelled up in a week and now i start seeing some changes, a rich man just asked me for a date yay, all i did is dress classy and walk knowing im the price, thank you queen

[@jesuswilljudge7296]

I hope hes a yes dear man...im dating a lawyer and hes verbally and financially abusive...so men with money not all of them are good guys

[@codingiscreativity]

Where to go to meet rich guys?

[@tinasnow2006]

Jesus will Judge keep taking his money and keep looking. I currently have two boyfriends that’ll drop when I get a richer one to marry.

[@cloudsinthesky6095]

You are so pretty!

[@noran2096]

Simone Ramnanan oh thank you 🙏🏻

[@PinkPisces]

Just think about it. An unmarried man wouldn’t even be taken seriously if he were running for president. There’s a reason for that. Most successful men in higher places have families

[@shaleenaabron2520]

This is most likely why Corey Booker is NOT electable. The last time we had a bachelor president" was the 1800's and he was called the "worst president in history".

[@tonismith88899]

@@shaleenaabron2520 Corey Booker has a long time girlfriend. He just hasn't put a ring on it. But I do agree the optics aren't great.

[@shaleenaabron2520]

@@tonismith88899 He announced a couple of weeks ago that he NOW has a girlfriend. It's supposedly Rosario Dawson but it hasn't been a "long time" thing.

[@PinkPisces]

Shaleena Abron hmmm...sounds like a total political move. Not having an established marriage raises an eyebrow so he wants to polish things over with a not so longtime girlfriend...Which further proves Shera’s point.

[@shaleenaabron2520]

@@PinkPisces EXACTLY! He knows he is not electable as a single man at 50 years old.

[@jaleesaqueeny731]

Some women just don't listen though, they want Tom the billionaire but keep dressing fashionnova-ish, having tattoo sleeves, getting the crazy platinum blonde/pink/red weaves and say 'axe' instead of ask... It takes effort to look classy but it is not that difficult..

[@jlovesj3335]

😂😂😂 "axe" I feel attacked. But let me axe why lol.

[@jaleesaqueeny731]

jlovesj333 Hahaha i'm sorry!!!!

[@heymisswest]

So true!!!

[@phugh3878]

But fashion nova clothes are sexy lol there better than jeans and a tshirt

[@jaleesaqueeny731]

Parveen jj Sexy to attract a dusty.. yes

[@maddart4445]

Men are full of contradictions. They want you to be pretty but they hate makeup. They want you to have long hair but hate the time it takes you to do it.

[@mangkanor9403]

True that. Men do not have any idea how beauty is maintained.

[@amasion2882]

I think a good “rule” to adopt when cultivating a relationship with a gentleman is: “Don’t give him what he WANTS, give him what he NEEDS.”

[@pianotnt]

And if you don't have long hair they treat you different I wore a curly wig to work the minute I switch wigs to something shorter drastic difference

[@alexissim8139]

Yeah then you're hygienic and his mouth stink sis imma pass out

[@maddart4445]

phyllis dawkins true that.

[@maddart4445]

I’ve been in the beauty industry for many years. I never leave the house without makeup and my hair done. I also live in the city you never know who you might run into.

[@zoenzimande535]

still trying to level up, I met someone last week and watched all your videos, today he paid my rent. I used all the feminine ways you teach baby voice and all lol. now I need to fix my clothing. trying to keep the cake away from him I can see he is huuungry loool

[@KDbelieves]

Shera defiantly has more patience than me because I would be pissed at the people that keep asking dumb repetitive questions. How are you going to ask if you can wear high waisted jeans or leggings when she clearly said WEAR DRESSES AND SKIRTS.

[@johnjohn2948]

Chill, it's not that serious lol. Let's keep the positive vibe going!

[@amasion2882]

Absolute most important thing: get good foundations. Bras, panties, shape wear and hosiery. Make sure you get the best fit, support and shape for your figure. Be willing to spend on these items. Good foundation makes a cheap dress look fine. But a poorly made or poor fitting foundation makes the best dress or suit look like crap.

[@johnjohn2948]

True, now that's how a high class woman thinks. Best post I've read so far, don't act light skinned and forget to speak ha.

[@johnjohn2948]

@Sky Dream Yeah right , sure convince yourself lol. You don't seem like that type 🤔.

[@babyc.3015]

Spanxxx

[@lizzyade2592]

Getting what you want in life is a SCIENCE: -Losing weight/fat: Calories out must be greater than calories in.... argue and have the strongest opinions to the contrary and remain STUCK exactly where you ARE. 2. Baking a cake: Necessary ingredients + method of preparation gives you cake... cooking potatoes and steak does NOT give you CAKE. Follow due process 3. Getting the type of man you WANT: know what works and DO IT( I bet you dont argue with the potatoe and steak meal wondering why you didn't get cake... why argue with the 'ingredients' of getting a man to provide? APPROACH GETTING THE MAN/RELATIONSHIP YOU WANT AS A SCIENCE... STOP ARGUING WITH THE 'INGREDIENTS' AND FOLLOW THE PROTOCOL TO GET THE DESIRED RESULT.

[@reginawanjiku4197]

This is one of the best explanations I've come across you are awesome Lizzy I am a Lizzy too

[@faceofantasy1194]

Somebody in the comments said Arab men don't love black. HA. I had multiple Arab men wine and dine n finance me boo.

[@nadia_vivace]

(I think that) like white men and even black men, many have love-hate relationship with black women; often based on the history of enslavement of black population in these countries. Some may act like they hate you but still might try to sleep with you.

[@PiscesSun_Capricornrising]

Exactly my bf is Arab and girl he spoils me like no other 😪

[@adbell4532]

@@PiscesSun_Capricornrising lmaoo girl "we getting Arab monnnaayy"

[@PiscesSun_Capricornrising]

@Maysa Adams And guess what some of them say worse things about us but we know it doesn't describe our black community. What if a white woman came and said be careful of black men they don't take care of their families. Or don't date black women they're loud and disrespectful it goes both ways. They're just stereotypes by what ppl see on TV. Please don't feed into that fear. My bf has never been controlling or abusive. Neither has his parents. They all have been nice to me and told me they knew he was going to bring home a black woman cause he just can't resist us. Don't fall for the hype you'll get proven wrong. And no he doesn't make me cover my hair or wear long robes only his grandparents dress like that. And his dad sometimes on holidays.

[@faceofantasy1194]

@@PiscesSun_Capricornrising yasss

[@Mirahreflections]

Will be dressing for my man for now on. I noticed he does respect me more based on how well I’m groomed

[@Cetza-qt8gd]

Samirah Is Me yes keep it up !

[@Blackdiamond929_]

Lmaoo Im listening at work and every time Shera say orthopaedic shoes I’m dying 😂😂😂😂😂

[@bessima2616]

Lol🤣😅😂

[@Someonekindaspecial]

What would you do if you gave birth to a daughter that needs that though? You may be the type of mama that kills her child over some bullshit.

[@maddiemadness0]

SheRa I have a tea update for yall lol. Okay so I am dating a pilot that makes very good money and takes care of me, BUT I did go and get myself a part time job. I still did my makeup,hair, a wore a dress and heels to work everyday. Then immediately after my 4 week training is over, MY TRAINING MANAGER added me on facebook and started hitting on me, calling me gorgeous. I was so shook I didn't want to believe it lol. but I really am the only girl at work who comes with their hair and makeup done. He was all up in my messeges calling me gorgeous, and saying how glad he was to have met me haha. All of Shera's advice is 100% right ladies, always keep that in the back of your mind. Listen to her videos while you do your makeup if you start to feel lazy 😂 oh and edit: I still wear the oudh of heaven oil too almost everyday as it is still my all time favorite perfume.

[@jessmewow]

I just love you! You’re changing my life one video at a time.

[@evaa3944]

Your tough love is so much appreciated Shera💓 you’re the voice in my head when I choose what to wear💖

[@faceofantasy1194]

Same her voice stuck in my head

[@christianaojiogo6871]

Evita Noneya same with me. Before I do almost anything I ask myself will sheera do it?

[@PortiaMonique]

50:57 I'm 6ft1 w/o heels 😊... However, I wear heels on a daily basis which makes me around 6'3ish and people ALWAYS ask if I'm a model... When I lived in Houston, my nickname was "Slim Goody"... It's all about confidence and how you strut gurl 🌟 Tall and lean keep em keen 😇 Put on those heels and go get it 😉!

[@rrb2895]

I needed to hear that!

[@PortiaMonique]

danielle c I had to rethink that 😊... My heels are anywhere from 3"-4" high. I only wear flats to the gym

[@PortiaMonique]

Teach 1 Reach 1 Growth we tall gals have to stick together 😁

[@saraazizam4519]

I love this I am 5th9 and always wear sneakers or boots

[@PortiaMonique]

@danielle c Listen to Shera, working out and eating healthy will get you there 🌟🌟🌟

[@diamondgoddess5857]

Pay attention to how Melania Trump dresses. There are reasons why Trump made her First Lady.

[@diamondgoddess5857]

@B B Yes, she walks that line between classy and sexy perfectly! I always peep her style as inspiration. I love her!

[@diamondgoddess5857]

@Bella Maria Oh no, Melania definitely has her stan base! :)

[@tonismith88899]

Hate her politics. Love her style.

[@Hadda23]

Yes I like how her and Ivanka currently dress. I like that type of style more know that in my late twenties

[@valeriew.lovecraft]

Law 32: Play to People's Fantasies! Shera is out here supplying us with power moves.

[@heymisswest]

Some women don't even want to change..... They look a hot mess! And are not even trying! Just pathetic!!!!

[@misslorena1]

Oh yeah I know a few and I don’t understand how they are comfortable like that

[@danyale06]

After binge watching your videos, I've come to realize I wasn't mentally prepared for your type of information before my divorce. Guess I had to go through heartbreak and figuring out how to love my own self before this all could make any sense. I love how you explain the "why" women should do the things they do instead of simply the "how." Growing up people always mentioned that this is what women need to do, but never explained the importance. At the same time, the men in my life (family and friends) complained that this type of woman is evil. I hate to admit it, but I know a whole lot of dusties. So my perception of a gold/goal digger was skewed. I confess I was a bob the builder in search of love outside of myself. I'm now ready to embark on leveling up even if I'm late to the game at 31. I've been a little bitter since the divorce. That made me decide to dress down and comfy. I swear that brought in all of the dusties. Then I attempted to look cold and angry with it to deter them. That made the dusties happy to have a challenge. When I thought I was making myself invisible, I was instead making dusties think they actually had a chance. I couldn't for the life of me understand this. Since it seems I will be getting attention anyway, I might as well get the attention I want and deserve. Thank you SheRa for your valuable information. Whenever you have an opening to your fb group, I would love to join. Until then, I will continue to binge watch your videos and implement your techniques until my brain is reprogram.

[@wouldntyouliketoknow873]

So true, everything you went through is how it really is. If you’re attractive and dress down, the dusties gonna see that you’re attractive and they’re gonna think they have a chance b/c it looks like you don’t love yourself!

[@BashaerB-h2c]

The whole "women that have standards and ask for more" portrayed as evil by men trope is really what messed me up. I was sold the same bs that these women are selfish, greedy and cannot be good mothers. However, I was confused because it seemed despite the husband complaining, he still treated her well and they didn't get divorced as much in comparison to Bob the builder type of women. I'm still working on re-wiring my brain but it's really difficult.

[@jessic9743]

Shera can you do a video on the difference between girlfriend and wife duties and as a girlfriend how you become a the wife process.

[@theangel5416]

PLEASE

[@sarahjaynescott545]

you become a wife by NOT being a girlfriend first

[@faa1412]

Don't shack up with a man and wait as long as you can to have sex...

[@astrokit]

Auntie Shera is always the voice I need to hear ❤️ A Pisces Legend ! ♓️

[@blkimble]

I learned the hard way. I had Tony McDaniel( wide receiver for New Orleans saints) walk into my office one day and I was looking a hot mess. LMBO

[@refinedqueen2260]

Whenever I wear my natural hair, eyeliner and lip gloss is when I get most attention. Compliments fly lesser when I really put effort into glamour.

[@johnjohn2948]

You aight , don't get the big head ha ha.

[@clauaome25]

The leveling up process has been eye opening. I have been receiving so much positive attention from men and people in general. Now I don't want to go back to old ways.

[@tonismith88899]

I wear a lot of dresses and I keep my hair and makeup on point. But I'm terrible about heels. I own a lot of heels, but it's so easy to slip those flats on.

[@johnjohn2948]

Flats are lame , I need you to step up lol.

[@johnjohn2948]

@Sky Dream Interesting, you seek male attention and do you love yourself?

[@Ladonnasmith01]

Just ordered Oudh of Heaven thanks to you Shera. ! So excited can’t wait. Scent is going to want my man to marry me this year 😉

[@roxannecosmotology9306]

Thank you for the advice you're absolutely right a few years ago I used to always wear skirts and dresses and heels out and a lot of guys with approach me but then I became lazy and started wearing flats with boring leggings and no one approached me you're absolutely right it's not easy for us women we have to get up early and make a big effort, and beauty is pain because wearing heels is not always comfortable sometimes you just want to put trainers on but that is not going to attract a man that is the truth thank you for this video you're amazing and honest

[@alexissim8139]

Always dress like you're going to meet your soul sugar daddy

[@sidsolovelyyy]

Just blocked a dusty from my life !

[@beautyinthedark7406]

U can find wealthy African men at parties.They love hanging with other Africans. U will find drs, lawyers mechanics etc hanging together

[@shy-redhead]

Wanda Acheampong I’m praying for a wealthy African man 🤞🏾

[@beautyinthedark7406]

N. I can definitely guide you on to them. I’ve been married to a Ghanaian for 20yrs. Because they LOVE American women so much u have to follow SheRa’s advise an play on it. Do not under any circumstances play wifey with til there’s a wedding ring on your finger. Dress feminine, lady like behavior, damsel in distress etc. they love it. SheRa’s advice is dead on accurate especially with these type of men.

[@shy-redhead]

Wanda Acheampong thank you so much for your advice ! 😍 I really appreciate that , I would love a decent African millionaire , I already dress feminine and act lady like but I’m struggling with the entitlement and telling men what I want part WITHOUT being nice about it.

[@beautyinthedark7406]

N. Be nice, but subtlety direct. It’s all about your tone. And don’t settle for nonsense. They’re attracted to us because of our independent attitude until they hook you and want to convert you into a maid ie cooking, cleaning etc. Don’t fall for it. Plz have more than 1 until you’re walking down the aisle 🤣. Like most men they love the ladies. Watch SheRa’s videos about taking the emotion out of relationship and not dealing with broke men etc. she is a wealth of information. Watch them all lol keep me posted 😉

[@beautyinthedark7406]

Ps. Plz add Michaela Pink videos to your rotation. She also has her game down right 😉

[@slayernae]

The echo of the empty bank account just put me on the floor 😂

[@Ladonnasmith01]

New lace wig on the way straight and long. Gotta look like the prize 🌟

[@HajerahBibiDegia]

Almost caught u live. Your content is full of wisdom wish i found you a few years back. 🔥👌

[@jasminejp5899]

I have 3 sets of clothes: Gym, classy and conservative, and I want a man to see me clothes😂😂

[@aundreabunnie]

1:52:43 VERY TRUE! My ex worked for a company that did not promote unmarried men!

[@sunny12341000]

Girl, I have on a grandma dress and orthopedic shoes right now. I also have on eyeglasses. I need to get it together. Lol

[@Hannah15677]

How’s that working out for you?

[@Ruthmarahill]

You look so radiant, love this look

[@maiyaharshaw9625]

I had no idea what this video was going to be like given the tag line.. I thought it was going to be some female oppression type shit lol. BUT it’s great advice and facts all day.. this is what you need to do in order to be treated BETTER than a man not same! I’m on board. ❤️✊🏾

[@nylaspeaks7272]

I’m in my 40s I’m on a fast track to a husband lol...oh not to mention I want a child...I got work to do

[@mangkanor9403]

Have your eggs frozen right away.

[@nylaspeaks7272]

Mang Kanor I will be ok no need for that I got some years to go

[@brownsugardaisy6717]

40's? and now u want a child....forget that just live ya life....not fair to the kid...you'll likely be 60 by time ur kid finishes highschool...my advice maybe adopt an older child..at this point if you have a baby( if your eggs are healthy enough) you are old enough to b that kid grandma

[@nylaspeaks7272]

Tashawna Giles I’m having my child that’s the problem with us so limited in our thinking..I’m a vibrant in my 40s (still get carded so that should tell you what I look like) and I put most of these 20 30 and 40 year olds to shame...if I’m 50 having a child so be it...AH ME DAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!(in a Caribbean accent) LoL

[@nylaspeaks7272]

Tashawna Giles you can do anything at any age...I knew a 50 year I’d who went back to school to become a doctor he is now 60...guess whose practicing medicine...No limits here my dear....no limits

[@TJ-sr7dd]

I love to dress, having several furs coats, items. I had them over the last few years. Purchase another in 2018. I feel sexy and classy wearing them.

[@tinasnow2006]

T J for nice fur purchase from Pamela McCoy. People stop and stare and compliment my coats. A bit pricey but absolutely worth it.

[@zinmomo7192]

This video is amazing! Exactlty what I think and what my family discusses! You are amazing!!!

[@c.mechellebanks2072]

I swear to God some women try to hard to keep a man. Like if your 15,16 let go. don't trip so hard. Don't live so hard. Be free. Be happy. bill pay is something the parents should be concerned with. I like this women's advice 👌.

[@Amanda-ev3lg]

I hate "country southern" type dresses but my husband has a weird kink for them so i wear them to get my bag lol

[@wouldntyouliketoknow873]

If you walk around looking homey and like a grandma, you can still find a man. However, he gonna see a wife to cook and clean for him, not to wine and dine and take care of!! Been there, done that! 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@astrokit]

Omg yes you should do a celebrity story time !

[@SomewhataMystery]

I dress for myself someone wants to be part of it they glad they get to be part of it. Dita von teese said this you can't dictate women for being sexy. If you dress up for man is he respect you man can not change a women they can agree on things tho.

[@megajustme09]

I love to be comfortable. I do wear dresses but I don't like, wearing them.

[@PacificNWGrl]

Showing up to the church of Shera today. Brokkkkkke is the echo of the empty bank account. 😂

[@ms.thomas5758]

She can also go to African and Caribbean restaurants or clubs

[@Someonekindaspecial]

What about women that can’t physically wear high heels due to a disability? Maybe kitten heels or flats are their only option? Any suggestions?

[@denisafasola9395]

ignore her, she is saying some really stupid things in this video

[@babyc.3015]

Chanel flats

[@babyc.3015]

@@denisafasola9395 maybe it's why you don't have confidence in your own pic

[@Someonekindaspecial]

@@denisafasola9395 I am interested in why Ashera didn’t even answer my question. I forgot I was even subscribed after my initial comment. Anyhow, I’ve learned a lot in the past 2 years. My beauty and wisdom in this life is in my struggle with my physical deformities. This info is for the women that are capable of pulling it off. I’m ok with that.

[@Someonekindaspecial]

@@babyc.3015 I looked up some Chanel flats. If you take the logo off, a pair of Chanel flats look just like Walmart flats. Heels elongate. A woman has to have the structure and posture to be able to walk in them. That’s what makes heels sexy. I will never, in this lifetime be able to dress for a man. I’m ok with that.

[@streetcatentertainment310]

Facts..Good game right here

[@theseventhchildspiritualgo8963]

You are so funny you said no grandma shoes I know thats right lol🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Someonekindaspecial]

And if you live long enough to be a grandma are you going to give up on yourself?

[@Genevii]

How does one freestyle successfully? 🤔

[@SacramentalASMR]

look as good as possible and stay off your phone.

[@bhilaire1bj]

Hi shera, you look beautiful as always. Love your wig, please share the details on this unit. Thx!

[@sammi6279]

Thank u mom

[@c.mechellebanks2072]

On point. Work is one thing. Off work is something different, as far as clothes. getting what u have in common makes sense. She's right. when we have responsibilities we won't listen to b.s.

[@LaDeeDah]

I need a stylish coat that is warm because I'm miserable when I'm cold. Any suggestions? I have the worst luck with shoes and coats. I'm busty with long arms. Nothing fits cute. And all shoes hurt my feet 😟

[@vliciouss]

Wear your clothes in layers. I look up how to dress in arctic weather. Dramatic but it helps teach what fabrics keep you warm in the layers so you won’t have to wear such bulky coats.

[@lisar915r9]

Hi I'm new here. What is the meaning if a dusty?

[@Caribbeana]

A man if no means

[@lisar915r9]

@@Caribbeana Thanks.

[@Ayurvedicashakti]

Ohhh. . the mic is perfect here. . . for the asmr voice:) got so much more asmr from you here than at the indended channel. . . . and bunches of wisdom too. . !

[@IAMSOGLAMMCreole-id6gl]

Brooookkkke 🤣🤣🤣empty bank account OMG … I’m on the floor 🤣🤣

[@tmcswain007]

Diva...I’m a law enforcement officer who has to dress conservatively...when I am off....yikes! Jeans and sweats come out!! 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️#gotta do better

[@asheragoddess8894]

tmcswain007 try a midi dress And heels 👠

[@tmcswain007]

Lord!!! I have seen granny and aunties in my 👞 that I wear to work🤦🏾‍♀️😱🤦🏾‍♀️ loving this knowledge

[@c.mechellebanks2072]

Maybe she should try under armour...Adidas...Nike..I don't know...Miami sun dresses maybe..😁

[@tmcswain007]

C.M. B no

[@iamczcz]

Orthopedic lmfao I can’t

[@vanoylifestyle]

Orthopedic Shoes"... SheRA crazy. We love you in Philadelphia

[@soulqueen3819]

U ON POINT

[@ennvee1989]

I have dark spots keratosis pilaris on my lower body so skirts are not a good idea for me 🤔

[@boldandcourageous4176]

I had a customer that had that there is a solution call lidex solution look it up I don't know what your ethnicity is but if you're African-American here in Atlanta there's a dermatologist that sells it.

[@TrueBeautyExists]

Do chemical peels, TCA is good but make sure you do your research and wear sunscreen always. You can do it all at home. Just spot treat with the acids.

[@amasion2882]

Have you tried salicylic acid (beta hydroxy acid)? Paula’s Choice has some great skin care and body care products that are irritant free and very effective. They’re not super cheap but certainly more affordable than salon services.

[@boldandcourageous4176]

@@ennvee1989 wear dermablend for the body you can get it at Macy's for about 40 to 50 dollars it is water proof and will cover the spots. A little goes a long way.

[@ennvee1989]

@@amasion2882 i started using neutrogena salicylic acid body wash along with lemon castille soap and scrubbing gloves.I have seen great improvement but the dots dont disappear there just a bit lighter.my skin is also a lot smoother.I dont think i could ever get rid of the dots i believe they are genetical.my mom has them too.

[@bethanyday3471]

I don't understand all these women complaining about heals! They don't hurt if you get a well fitted pair that are built well! You can't just wear the same size heals that you wear sneakers. The more you wear them, the more comfortable you will become. Get some insoles ffs. Stop buying your heals from crappy places like fashion nova and the like and you might be comfortable in your heals! Don't know what to wear? Go watch Fashion Week and runway shows and pay attention to what the people in the audience and on the runway are wearing. It IS NOT HARD TO DRESS CLASSY LADIES!!!!

[@jasminejp5899]

My man loves me in heels but always complains that he doesn’t like me being taller than him😪😪

[@LuxMeow]

Even wearing a brown t shirt covered in cat hair, I can get a man of means. lol

[@witch777000]

Why do some men do hot n cold method on us n how sud b react to the cold times

[@theconcealedmistress]

Ghost him. Does he pay all your bills? Or are you emotionally involved?

[@SacramentalASMR]

The reasons vary. It could be anything really. Truth of the matter is when a man really wants a woman, he won't play games and risk losing her to another man. Believe his actions over his words. When I get ghosted I know he's not that into me, if he leaves and comes back repeatedly, that means I'm the backup chick. Do not get attached, do not sleep with them. Use them, and once the well is dry onto the next.

[@johnjohn2948]

Good question, we rather play Madden 19 with our friends lol. Seriously though, keep your head up.

[@teddybedlam2022]

I cant rock heels any more . my footz is broken . . feels like walking on glass , what alternative do i have ?. i wear diamanti flat sandals .or cute kittens, i cannot walk 5 mins in heels . and agony . lol

[@dorisortiz1356]

I can't walk in heels because of my knees. Should I just use kitten heels or thick block low heels?

[@amasion2882]

Wear what you can comfortably and safely wear. Spike heels traditionally have the most sex appeal but if you can’t stand and move gracefully and safely in them, any sex appeal gets lost.

[@rocil9073]

NO NEVER KITTEN HEELS! they are unattractive and granyish. Ask any man and see.

[@dorisortiz1356]

@@rocil9073 I can 2.5 inches or maybe 3 but 4 inch hurts my knees.

[@rocil9073]

@@dorisortiz1356 try platforms. Or block heels with platforms. They may look intimidating but most of them are super comfortable and easy on the feet and knees because they aren't as steep and have that extra support in the front. Also wear them around the house. Heels used to really hurt my feet and knees too. I couldn't even stand still in stilettos without pain so i practiced in my highest 6.5 inch heels everyday for 15 min or more until my feet and ankles obtained the flexibility required to wear heels. Now its a piece of cake for me. You cannot gracefully wear heels if your ankles are not flexible it just takes a little practice.

[@dorisortiz1356]

@@rocil9073 Thanks!

[@santaramartin]

It’s really easier than you ladies make it out to be

[@Mizfashionablylate]

dang i felt so ugly watching this video

[@natalie8105]

Me 2

[@lapuerkdejaehyun4330]

Same here

[@4Dia12]

Love you Ashera, But what’s your thought on Tamia the rnb singer and her NBA husband. They both look amazing and there age isn’t far apart ?

[@babyc.3015]

Grandma orthopedic shoes 👀

[@suzan698]

Hi shera , how u doing , good to see you

[@shamonilove6797]

I miss live everytime

[@ms.thomas5758]

I live in the Caribbean and alot of the roads and side walks are bad for heels also it's very hot and harder to walk in shoes all day. What shoes are still sexy and island friendly?

[@Vesayah]

I need help I have a physical job, that requires no dresses and I have to wear tennis shoes. Is there something I can do to keep it classy?

[@RoseNthenya-oz3vu]

Dress classy and feminine from home then change to work clothes

[@Jellybeanjam1991]

Lmao! You are soo funny girl

[@wouldntyouliketoknow873]

We all need a male gay friend! 😂

[@cydaviasomerset1372]

@sheRaSeven1 please make a video on how to change your reaction once you start being treated like a goddess. How do I act? How do I receive it?

[@lonamarie]

I’m new to this. Is it pick me to sign a co-habitation agreement or pre-nup if he asks?

[@nkreseknowledge2241]

Not if you make it clear what you want and are entitled to in the agreement. Nothing wrong with a prenup that makes sure your provided for. Make sure your needs are met as well as his.

[@Telletell]

Cohabitation agreement? What the heck do these men have y’all signing up for lol? What exactly is this lol

[@babyc.3015]

Prenup if you're rich too so ur money is protected

[@saraazizam4519]

What are you’re fav classic outfit combinations ladys ? And where you get inspired from? Sometimes I don’t know what to wear because I don’t like to wear heels in daytime because I am pretty tall I love some of Kim Kardashian outfits but she always wear heels 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@SacramentalASMR]

I love the Kardashians, but they can dress however they like because they're the Kardashians, arguably the most famous family in the world, and have a lot of power and wealth. They have some great looks, but aren't the type to emulate for the average woman. Instead, I emulate the styles of women like Amal Clooney, Meghan Markle, Melania Trump, Tika Sumpter, Gabrielle Union, or Michelle Obama. My person fav is Melania, she has a very classic, feminine, and sexy style that is elegant and put together. You look at her and can tell she's the kept wife of a wealthy man. That's the look you want.

[@joliearytravels]

How do I stop being childish? I'm 18 years old btw.

[@PiscesSun_Capricornrising]

It comes with experience. Be more independent adults don't have to rely on others for every little thing. If you don't know something look it up that's what technology is for. Be cautious if you're going on a date tell others who or where you're going to be. Go out alone but only during the day.

[@mangkanor9403]

Can anyone suggest a website where I can find classy casual dresses. Help a sister here haha. I live in asia btw.

[@elizabethjones4325]

Zara is perfect

[@tinasnow2006]

ms liz all the dresses on uk Zara are damn ugly 😭😭

[@Lanainvestor]

how don't u have wrinkles?

[@shaleenaabron2520]

@@artistasha9331 lots of women have wrinkles in their 30s. Usually stressed women.

[@jesuswilljudge7296]

Botox and fillers....facials at the spa etc

[@SwanTheQueen]

Great makeup lol she is 40 and she looks like that because she take care of herself. Follow her advice.

[@iamme7664]

It's called living stress free 😊 She doesn't have a stressful 9 to 5, she has a respectful caring and generous husband and she has plenty of time during the day to take care of her kids AND pamper herself. Stress free living will have you aging in reverse! 👏👏

[@coffeenocream8640]

How do I join the level up facebook group?

[@ennvee1989]

Are block heels and wedges okay or are only stilettos appropriate?

[@mangkanor9403]

No wedges please 😑✌

[@lemonvate9860]

Mang Kanor idk why am laughing at this 😂😂😂

[@amasion2882]

Wear your wedges with your jeans and slacks. Works with boot cut, flares, or palazzos. Just be sure your hem drapes nicely over the shoe (just above the floor). You’ll add a nice long line (leg length) to your outfit and have the comfort/stability of the wedge heel. You still get all the lift and sexy walk.

[@ennvee1989]

@@amasion2882 thank u dear

[@theconcealedmistress]

@@amasion2882 no maam never a wedge period especially with flare jeans, they make your legs look chunky!!! I read that in a fashion magazine.

[@tammybenaytv4631]

Why does this title remind me of a Dusty Springfield song. Sounds like Wishin' And Hopin'.

[@c.mechellebanks2072]

What I don't get is when a man wants a woman's tubes tied, yet he can't afford it. Makes no sense to me. 😁 Dresses, lol, boutiques bought to be empty. 😁.

[@faceofantasy1194]

Omg i bought that same dress

[@nongcebodladla6225]

You made it when you have 3 lol

[@jellygurl27]

Do you think men don't care about the looks of pick me or 50/50?

[@desree00]

ConcertJunkie27 deep down they do care. But they’ll only settle for them because they know they’ll never have to spend so much . Dusties 🤮 Not too sure why you are asking this? Don’t be a pick me!!! even if that’s the last set of women walking this earth.

[@jellygurl27]

@@desree00 girl I never will Have learned From Shera. I am just curious just based on people I know. Seems like they do not care for the looks

[@globalsetdarkpool8276]

Big sis I respect your hustle but reality is.... Sigma males can be successful in corporate world without a family. He just isn't flashy or spotlight look at me everybody Alpha. He does his best work alone and mingles well with crowds. Thing is... He doesn't stick around a pack long. Only when work needs to be done. His best asset is the mind... Cause he may be outnumbered most cases. Shunning the rules and hierarchy structure... Yet still being successful. That's why Alpha males and females that love them hate our type. Cause we don't follow the system ways and can be successful. So we click well with Sigma females and Omegas. Which they can damn near take out all your beta female followers. In ancient Kemet Sigma male and females click together to be Tomb Raiders. Cause the Alpha hierarchy was rigged and fixed. That's why I say.... The Alpha family man isn't the only one who can be successful.

[@c.mechellebanks2072]

I wander if sugar daddies have families, do they have friends, do they have lives? I'm curious now. 😁. She's right If men are on drugs they will spend your money to get It and you're better than that. Lol. Places get real expensive....wish I had section 8. But I don't and I'm not gonna be made jealous cause I don't have it. That's how some do the guilt trip. I swear. Not good. Ladies your better.