How to Hide Your Big Flabby Arms this Summer \\ How to Dress if You Don't Like Your Arms

Yes! We're going there! I'm sharing BIG TIPS for how to hide your big flabby arms if you don't really like them. Got big arms? fat arms? splotchy or bumpy or skinny arms? I've got tips for you! Links are below for items shown. ~ xxox, Kay
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[@c.s.s.8117]

At 65 I have deep regret that I always thought my young, healthy body was so imperfect. If I could only have it back ...

[@gloriapinskerportraits4801]

AMEN!

[@GussiedUp10]

Boy, can I relate. I have, in the past been so self conscious about my appearance and yet now when I look at pictures of myself I wonder what was wrong with my thinking! Now in my early 70’s I am very aware that I can do a lot to enhance my appearance by just taking care of my health and dressing in a flattering way.

[@user-dt3wm8rn4j]

Critical. It was so good, but who knew. I was a very young mother.😢 😊k just a young mother.

[@denisebrown4933]

For real, sister!

[@EmerCurran-up1ej]

Youth is wasted on the young!

[@robinr5669]

If your arms work, you have beautiful arms :)

[@coffeenow35]

Amen 🙏

[@TheKmonta]

I completely agree....Our bodies do not have to be perfect, just needs to work.

[@lisaboling5336]

thank you for saying that!

[@Mamallama-bt5xk]

Amen!

[@lisalambrecht6676]

What a sweet comment 🌷

[@vickyolson5921]

I don’t understand why designers don’t get this I’d like elbow length tshirts etc.

[@kmom452]

Me too, I love a elbow length or 3/4 length sleeve.

[@Integrity02]

bingo!!!

[@mommiedearest5337]

3/4 length sleeves add more to a garment, and they look lovely on anyone. 😊

[@judes1948]

Amen to that! 3/4 sleeves!

[@normavillanuevamendoza2801]

Omg I wish that too 😤😤😤 I hate baby cap sleeves I always wear 3/4 sleeves Cause all tshirt sleeves are so short

[@chrishoush9385]

Last year on vacation I saw a woman who was probably in her late 70s or maybe in her 80s. She was wearing a spaghetti strap long swimsuit cover up that looked like a dress. Her hair was done. She had on a bracelet. She was just relaxing and I thought to myself she looks beautiful. You can tell how old she is she has wrinkles, but I thought she looked beautiful and she gave me the courage to start wearing, sleeveless tops again.

[@lindawescott3824]

Oh, my goodness woman you give me hope😊

[@normakeith4472]

This is so wonderful and encouraging!!❤

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

How wonderful! Thank you for sharing!😊

[@susannahkassler2396]

Kay is right! If we spend all our “getting dressed “ energy trying to hide what we see as negatives, it will be pretty hard to feel confident, relaxed and fully present during our activities. I’ve learned you do what you can to feel well dressed, appropriate and attractive for an event, and then you have to turn your attention from how you look to the reason you are present with these people at this particular time. Let vgomog thinking you have to look your absolute best every time. Show some flabby arms and keep enjoying the event! 😊😊

[@eamer6029]

Good news if your arms are fluffy(😁) they are holding estrogen..that's why we get them after menopause..after I found that out I don't mind them anymore...it's a girly thing y'all 🎉😊❤

[@jeanpierce6140]

My late husband used to tell me the most beautiful outfit I wore was my smile❤

[@Anagrams458]

Your husband was a gem.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

I love that!😊

[@juststartingover2735]

Your husband was a smart man.😁

[@lisalambrecht6676]

Awe ❤

[@lindastutsman26]

Kay, You're right on! No one notices our flabby arms - they notice our smiles! We need to get over ourselves - we spend too much time worrying about what other people think about us. I read somewhere the other day "What other people think of me is none of my business!" So true! Great video!

[@annyoung1092]

Ha! Love that!

[@flowerpower3618]

My grandson , age 4 at the time, did. Last year when he was over eating dinner he asked me “ what is that ?” Pointing at my hanging upper arms. I told him sometimes when people get older they get extra old skin. I told him he can touch them if he wanted. He reached over and grabbed the flab , wiggled it back and forth and said “ gobble, gobble , gobble” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@andream2110]

@@flowerpower3618 My grandson age 3 asked me why my tummy wiggles when I laugh 😆

[@kayharms-vc1kb]

Aww. Thanks. And I also appreciate you more than you ever think. Xoxo.

[@kayharms-vc1kb]

Aww thank you very much. And I appreciate you for your love and kindness too. Stay updated

[@dwainapasarow6668]

When I notice someone’s imperfections, I almost always say to myself “you go girl, good for you out there living your best life”. I think we should say this to ourselves more often.

[@americafirst9144]

I think to be classy one needs to hide imperfections.

[@Scotchirish-SL]

@@americafirst9144 I agree with both of the above comments to a degree. There are times, around family and close friends, that “I do me” and can wear the sleeveless, etc. HOWEVER, I do sometimes feel that I am being more courteous and eliminating a distraction from the purpose of meeting if I pay attention and cover up more in order to negate those distractions.

[@annyoung1092]

Hi Kay! I’m 62 and a fitness instructor who USED TO have amazingly toned arms I was proud of! WELL, menopause has changed all of that AND I just had shoulder surgery 4 mos ago and am getting my strength back but probably never the tone I want. It bums me out but your encouraging words help a lot and we have to accept this aging thing and do our best. I am grateful to be pain free and able to do all I want in life. Thanks. You approached this subject with grace and positivity!

[@flowerpower3618]

I’ve been doing some arm exercises but at 65 I have lots of extra skin. That’s not going anywhere.

[@loriandrews6805]

Thank you for these tips! For the last 10+ years (I'm 64) I find myself working to accept and embrace my changing body. I try to stay in shape and do the best I can to look my best physically and with fashion. But the reality is....my body is growing old and along with that comes changes! But what a privilege to grow older. Let's keep a smile on our face and be confident, mature women!

[@kimberlyperrotis8962]

Absolutely, friend! I’m exactly your age and I agree. I keep a healthy weight, am active and eat healthily, but my body has aged and will age more. I’m just grateful to be a healthy 64 years old!🙂

[@susieg1]

❤

[@marysouthard804]

I personally wear 3/4 sleeves all the time. It's not as uncomfortable for me as revealing my arms .

[@nikkiwitt9475]

Ten years from now we’ll all be wishing we had TODAY’s arms and kicking ourselves for not wearing the tank top!

[@sherryobar5750]

Good point!

[@kdunk1287]

I’m sure you’re correct about that! 😅

[@carak4356]

My friends grandson said “gramma you love me so much when you wave at me your whole arm waves! I love you too!” ❤❤ ever since then we call them Bingo Wings and love them and hate them

[@eamer6029]

Be glad you have them, estrogen is stored in your upper arms,as long as you have that you should be energetic and feel good

[@m.b.ortega544]

We should all be appreciative about our aging arms working well and having strength in them. There are many people who can't use their arms. I try to remember that when I feel unhappy with my upper arms.

[@eamer6029]

After menopause estrogen is stored in our upper arms..yay !!!!

[@marthawoodworth]

Thank you!

[@sheilapatros2735]

I have the same problem! I'm 70 and I've covered my arms for decades. This type of arm is actually pretty common. I envy women with slim and toned arms. When fashion turned to 3/4 sleeves, I was very pleased. This type of sleeve is very versatile. Tops with 3/4 sleeves are cool in summer (there are limits!), and warmer when we go into air conditioned areas. So, I see this sleeve style as suitable for many occasions. Thank you for this enjoyable program!

[@michellefeller7950]

I loved this video Kay. I am 60 years young. I have given birth, raised a family, married the love of my life 40 years ago (and counting), run 5 marathons, built a career, survived breast cancer, and I am blessed to have a grandchild. All of these blessings and accomplishments say more about me than the size or tone of my arms. Nevertheless, I always appreciate learning more about how simple styles choices can enhance beauty and confidence. Something not mentioned in your video is that a soft tan helps arms look more slender, IMO, so I recommend using a self-tanner, along with other nice body products, to feel your best. Great video!

[@DebraCole-dr5fy]

The soft tanner is a good idea to make arms and legs look more even toned and hides some imperfections. I am 70 and am beginning to have very few broken veins. This makes them less noticeable. I am also wearing more concealer on "age spots" as our family had a farm and I have the sun spots. I wear products with retinol and moisturize after the bath ALL OVER!!! Be Positive !!

[@IMOO1896]

I’m over 70, have larger arms with all over creepy skin, I love to wear sleeveless in the summer, so, since my arms are not visible to me unless I’m looking in a mirror, I go for comfort. I can’t imagine someone bringing this to my attention, and if they do, well, that’s on them!

[@americafirst9144]

Try Gold Bond Crepey Skin.

[@andrearoberts2776]

I agree with you about helping our daughters and granddaughters view their bodies in a positive light. I have polycystic ovarian syndrome as do my daughter and granddaughter. As a result we 're all plus size women. When I was first diagnosed when my daughter was young I made the decision to always make positive comments about how I looked and always dressed well. At the time I had no idea that both my child and grandchild would have the same issue. It wasn't always easy but now we"re three generations of confident women who look and feel beautiful and stylish no matter age or size!

[@marthawoodworth]

Grandparents are a blessing. Mine certainly were! My grandmother had a soft, round body, was the family "chef" and smelled like cinnamon. When she hugged me, I stayed hugged for a long time. Lucky me, I grew up living with my doting grandparents. My grandfather was tall and skinny, but very strong. He was a blast. If I put out my hand, I found money in it, lol. They taught me what '"beautiful' was, and it has nothing to do with your size, but with the good you do and the love you give. If you are friendly, helpful, understanding and generous with your time and consideration, you will look beautiful. Your arms will be the last thing anyone will see or think about. They'll be basking in your light.

[@suzannebartholomew547]

I'm sensitive about my arms. Thanks so much for these tips. I do have a big friendly smile on my face. I know that's what people notice first.

[@lisalambrecht6676]

❤

[@elizabethpetrie2732]

Very good tips. And I agree with the comments that if our arms work, we should be very grateful. Regarding snide/ rude comments: for a number of years now my mantra has been, “People who matter don’t mind, people who mind don’t matter.” 😊🇨🇦

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Thanks for sharing! 😊

[@laurie2715]

That’s a great quote ! I will remember that one ! 👏😊

[@columbabooth8368]

Great video, thanks! A friend told me when she was little she loved her Grandma's flabby arms. She would stroke them and say, "Oh Grandma, they're just like bread dough!" 😅😂🤣

[@eamer6029]

Yes after menopause a woman stores estrogen in her upper arms.. it's amazing

[@lindasuibielski4782]

Thank you so much for all your tips.

[@marthawoodworth]

Yes! My grandmother was my nurturer. She held me in her big, soft arms and rocked me when I cried. She's my Goddess now.

[@jeanettehigginbotham]

Kay, this really got me thinking. I'm such a perfectionist and way too hard on myself. I realized that I NEVER pay attention to others arms! I look for the smile, friendly eyes! This was a great video, and I'm going out with cap sleeves on today! Shoulders back and smiling!

[@kyleguersey5004]

Great fashion rules: 1. Horizontal lines will make your body look wider there. 2. Make sure horizontal line on sleeve does not end at widest point of arm. AND, my tip is, if you are large chested. Make sure sleeve doesnt end at your bust line bec it will make a large bust even larger!! 3. Angled sleeves, dolman sleeves, and raglan sleeves are a great camouflage but also draw attention away from large bust.

[@merrywalsh2809]

I have those darned plump chicken flaps. I am in my 70s. I recently found out (don’t know if it is true) that the reason the royals use that special vertical rotating wave is partly so nothing jiggles. That is gonna be my new wave.

[@donnamarie3930]

LOL I love that idea🤗

[@mommiedearest5337]

I'm stealing it too! Lol

[@loriwhitney695]

My mom has always talked about hiding her big arms. She has consequently caused myself and sister to focus on our insecurities. You hit the nail on the head with your comments.

[@krcal3020]

I used to have terrible psoriasis and spent many years hiding my arms and legs. Now that my skin is clear with the right medication, I love showing off my arms. They’re not perfect - but they look amazing compared to what I used to have.

[@marieschmidt9416]

Especially love what you said towards the end about what other people notice and don't notice. Also your sharing honestly about what you don't like about your arms because we ALL have body parts we like or don't like...sharing is comforting to others.

[@kathywhite2838]

Love all the tips, Kay!!! Thanks for your hard work! But if we're going to really accentuate the positive let's not even use the phrase "big flabby arms!" Sounds awful. Most of our arms are still serving us well carrying groceries, driving, reading, cooking, exercising, and hugging the family!! Let's give 'em a hand and talk nicely to them. 😊😊

[@susannay.3437]

Love this! God bless you!🌹

[@marthawoodworth]

Yes! Arms are for hugging! Learning how to be a good hugger is an art. It helps if you had big-armed grandmothers and aunties to teach you how. My mother was skinny and withholding and critical of what I now realize was my perfectly normal size. That's why I am learning to love my (larger) arms without putting the trips she put on them.

[@kimberlyperrotis8962]

I refuse to be ashamed of, or apologize for, or cover up for “looking older”, men aren’t, ever! We’re supposed to not comment on their fat bellies and bald heads, so how dare they criticize us just for aging, which no one can control. Women don’t look like models, even when we’re young. My arms are slender, but flabby, it’s from the normal collagen loss of aging, not that I’m fat or don’t exercise!. My Mom was so stressed about covering her older arms every second even in 100+F heat, but I wear sleeveless tops and dresses if I want to. Our purpose as women is not to impress or titillate men. As a Christian woman, I have always dressed modestly (no cleavage, although I do wear short skirts still); I want to look my best, but I don’t want to hide anything just because I’m older, why should we? I wore a sleeveless silk dress today, out mall shopping, under a blazer, but I only added that because I got cold when the wind came up. I need to be lightly dressed inside overheated shops and, especially, fitting rooms. Keeping cool in one’s 60s is challenging enough without having to cover my arms and legs because of outdated ideas of what’s “age-appropriate”. Age-appropriate is exactly what each woman determines for herself.

[@juliejensen7370]

Amen!

[@conniewatson6711]

In the summer I usually wear 3/4 sleeve cotton tops and shirts. Covers my upper arms and still cool enough not to be too hot.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

That's great!😊

[@americafirst9144]

I noticed that Chico's has 3/4 sleeve t-shirts.

[@ameliaclark5792]

@@americafirst9144 Thank you I am always on the hunt for them 🙄

[@denisebrann8563]

Thank you for being real. This is such a missing part in social media.

[@bigsandybaggett6223]

Very helpful video, Kay! I am 82, active in my community, and enjoy fashion and am always checking my style, and you have encouraged me to be better prepared for the very hot summers we have in Central Texas Hill Country. Thank you!

[@Cadnaw70]

I have big arms, and I'm really strong. I don't hide my arms because I love myself enough to not give a hoot what others think. Life's too short for silliness like that. ❤

[@marthawoodworth]

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[@christinemackinnonauthor4873]

I decided three years ago to tone my arms. I went so hard and ended up damaging my rotator cuff, followed by some major pain and a lengthy surgery and a long recovery with 11 scars. Now I love my arms, have no more pain and if that’s what people want to focus on then that’s their problem not mine.

[@marthawoodworth]

Thank you! We gotta stop "hiding" our body parts...at least the ones that don't get us arrested, lol.

[@shogo8995]

I think it’s ok to have things we see as our best features and play those up and ok to have things we think are not our best features. Not that we “don’t like” that part; but maybe that we would rather not call particular attention to. It’s ok, as long as we realize that it’s not a big deal, and probably less so to everyone else. That said, I want to say how generous it is of you, exposing a feature that you consider to be less than your best and sharing how you work around it to feel your best self.

[@vbachman6742]

My upper arms are big and since I lost 40 pounds they are flabby. There is no way to change this except with surgery which I won't do. Exercise doesn't help. I just need to find tops that cover them.

[@moonbaby8743]

Congratulations on your weight loss. I promise the new shape you earned by hard work will be what others notice, and not your extra skin. Celebrate your new shape!

[@SharrellKline]

A year ago, at age 63, I was diagnosed with lipedema in both my arms and legs, and it explains so much! Especially why, after losing 100 pounds and getting down to a size 2, I still saw that my upper arms, thighs, and calves are still abnormally large for my size with these weird pockets of nodules. Anyway, I'll always be disguising my upper arms and appreciate the suggestions.

[@conniegrant6010]

One thing I do as the warmer months come is pay close attention to the skin on my arms. By using a good body lotion, taking care of dry elbows and maybe even using a touch of self tanner I am more confident in wearing my sleeveless tops and dresses.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Great tips! Thanks for sharing!😊

[@victoriafreeman9061]

Great video, Kay! I'm so glad you addressed this issue so eloquently and tastefully. I've been a weightlifter and fitness fiend my whole life and loved my arms, but since turning 60 (63 now), the skin at the bend of my elbows has become crepey and I have lots of sun spots. So even though my arms are toned well, I still don't like them anymore. We're our own worst critic, aren't we?! My husband and friends said they never noticed that stuff until I pointed it out. So you're right about doing our best, using these tips, but just getting out there and living joyfully. Thank you for the encouragement and tips. I pray I use both well! ❤

[@deehill6266]

Your voice and laugh are infectious in a positive way I have missed. Thanks.

[@colleenjohnson4652]

As always Kay, you are right on, thank you! Love your videos, your encouragement and your positive attitude. I care about how I look and feel but never dress to please others. You talked about choices and style in a previous video. It was then that I realized that I actually make specific choices because I like a certain style for myself. I’ve always been told that I have a smile that lights up a room and puts people at ease…that’s what I concentrate on because I believe people see our ‘light’ first. Again, thank you for your time and videos. They always give me something new to think about. ❤

[@shellyhm2477]

Kay! This is one of the most helpful videos you’ve done! Great tips and I learned I’m not the only one self conscious of my arms.

[@rebeccawoods4488]

Such wonderful points, Kay! I especially like the “new” format with so many visual examples,😊

[@user-mx3pg3xi5f]

I always appreciate your content, positive attitude and your ability to help us in keeping our insecurities in perspective. My wonderful mom, who is now deceased wore sleeveless tops at 80. She was confident, fun loving and lived life to the fullest! That is what is remembered about her!! On one occasion we were having a conversation about dresses and how the styles I love most always seemed to be sleeveless. I was considering eliminating sleeveless dresses from my closet, swearing them off for my future, to which she said, "If people don't like what they see, maybe they shouldn't look"!!! She was a hoot! :-)

[@gwenbooth1615]

You are so precious 😊! I so appreciated this pep talk. I agree with all you said and thank you for helping my confidence to go sleeveless more often.

[@eileenbianchi4747]

I think you are incapable of "stepping on anyone's toes"! You are so kind and positive in your approach to dressing. Your success is in balancing the desire to be attractive and the desire to be comfortable. You do both at the same time. Bravo! I have been using some of your tips for disguising my wrinkly arms (I"m 79), but I live in SW Florida and when it gets really hot, I just let my arms hang out in the heat. But, for occasions, I now enjoy throwing a scarf over that sleeveless dress or I tie a pretty cardigan around my shoulders, or I wear a linen shirt like a jacket, and those accessorize the outfit as well as they distract from the wrinkles. Thanks for all your advice on the different sleeve shapes, and for your friendly presence on youtube.

[@celesteswank2041]

I just want to say that you do a really wonderful job of making us as women, feel better about ourselves! Thank you and keep it up Kay!

[@suzannebell51]

Thanks for going there and for the encouragement Kay, I really needed that!

[@karenlemire5159]

Really great and informative video. Thank you so much. You are also so right about how we are so insecure about ourselves but really don’t notice bad things in others and that smile makes all the difference! 😊💐

[@francinebennink7093]

What a wonderfully practical and encouraging video. Your closing comments brought me to tears. No, I don’t want people to know me for my arms, (LOL!!!) but for the way they feel when they’re around me. Thank you Kay!

[@MsKim1963]

Develop the inner Joy! Be gracious and hospitable. Mentor younger women. All these things are more important than my arms, but Kay, I appreciate your tips and tricks. If we can improve any situation...we should!

[@tracytarle]

I really dont care what people think...but I really care how I feel...I just will not do sleeveless. I live in the northeast so its not too unbearable in the summer. I put 3/4 very light weight summer sweaters over tank tops..its comfortable and really cute too.

[@anacastillo8023]

Thank you, Ms. Kay. It’s getting warm and tee shirts here I come!

[@bibigems]

This is such a Fantastic video! I have learned so much from you Kay. Thank you very much!!!

[@lu_re7198]

Thanks for the great suggestions and links! Other things you can do are: 1.). make sure to moisturize your arms/body (maybe use a retinol moisturizer at night), 2.) use a SPF 50+ to prevent age spots on arms/hands, 3.) use a moisturizer w/ a “shimmer” effect or one w/ a sheer tint. e.g. Coppeertone Glow Shimmer, Jergens Sunless Tanners, Vaseline Cocoa Glow, etc.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Thanks for sharing!😊

[@kimberlyberlin4999]

Happy to see your beautiful silk kimono again. I loved it.

[@betsycosmos2054]

I like that "unique adaptations" for our "unique variations"!🙂

[@BedaKantarjian]

This is without a doubt the most useful video I've seen yet, packed with ideas I can use. Thank you.

[@NadoCrowFriend]

I love that you addressed this very sensitive topic ~ I was always made to feel self conscious about my arms & thighs while growing up… fast forward to age 69 : I look back at photos of me during those years & realize my arms & thighs were Not “too big”, rather, my Mom & grandmother, who were very critical of a person’s appearance, wanted me to be their idea of perfection. At 69 I still feel self conscious, and appreciate your video on those.

[@donnaschindlbeck7457]

I’ve always been petite with nice looking arms but bam! Menopause changed all that! Now I have the jigglies 😮Your ideas for making them look their best are spot on. As a sewist I know you can do an adjustment to make sleeves fit our individual bodies but you just can’t do much with ready to wear clothes. Also make sure the bust and back of your top fit properly and have the proper ease, that will also minimize your arms. Too snug and it draws attention to all those areas. Dolman sleeves, light and breezy shirts or toppers are my go to. Thank you for bring attention and solutions to this area of our changing bodies.

[@gloriayouchisonbrown7734]

Love that name jigglies

[@eamer6029]

After menopause the (jiggles) upper arms store estrogen for us,be glad!!!!

[@allsquaredup9717]

I had a friend who grew up in a fairly conservative country. When she moved to the US and saw nicely dressed women showing their arms in sleeveless tops and dresses, she said “I used to have such nice arms. I should have moved here sooner because my best arm years are over.” 😂

[@gaymillette2731]

Thank you, Kay. You were spot on and your tips are all great. I’m glad you talked about sleeveless shirts and tanks too…the narrower tanks and sleeveless blouses really do to make a difference. I really enjoy your blog, Instagram account and U Tube channel. ❤

[@lyndastevens9726]

Thanks, Kay! I totally appreciate all your suggestions!💞

[@jdhazle77]

Kay, I really enjoyed this video: the smart tips and the positive commentary inspired me and made me feel really good about myself. Thank you!

[@rachelparadis7069]

Thanks for this, Kay. I, like so many women, hate my arms! So many retailers feature sleeveless dresses for summer! I noticed Talbot's summer dresses are overwhelmingly sleeveless, which I find so discouraging. Thanks for the helpful tips!

[@americafirst9144]

Wear a long sleeve shirt over those dresses. It is ridiculous that 90% of summer dresses are sleeveless. Probably only 20% of grown women want to show their arms.

[@cswan1541]

I think manufacturers are going sleeveless and collar free because of the cost. Not only the fabric cost but it takes more work to assemble. Aggravating for sure.

[@darlenebuck3991]

I love your videos. Today's message was the best. You did a wonderful job without "stepping on any toes" Thanks for the positive message at the end.

[@julainetraxler2641]

Loved this video. This is the first year I have started to notice my flabby arms. Thank you!

[@BuffyLittle-ch2rw]

One of your best videos! Your advice is encouraging. Thank you.

[@susankultys7745]

Kay you did a great job with this video. We all have something about us we are uncomfortable with. This video was uplifting, positive and had so many good tips. We need to accentuate what we are comfortable with. Thank you again. Great job. I think you look great in the sleeveless blouses.

[@sallysublime]

Kay. I’ll bet you anything that if you cut out bad oils like vegetable oil those bumps on your arms will go away. Worked for me. After having them for decades they went away immediately and permanently (as long as I don’t eat greasy foods at restaurants that still use vegetable oil) as soon as I switched to avocado oil.

[@cday3898]

You looked lovely in the light coral pink top w the necklace. You have a real women’s body and it’s very encouraging to see how well you wear current outfits. It’s more than just clothes. Our clothes have such a big impact on our self confidence. ❤

[@rolson1695]

Very well done, Kay! This was super helpful-thank you!

[@jenniferwitt2745]

You are a very sweet person. Thank you for all your help and tips!

[@JackieOlantern]

Pro tip… lift weights. I’m 55 and I’ve lifted weights since I was 20. It’s not too late to start. DO IT! 🥂💪🏻

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Thank you for the tip. I’ve lifted weights three times a week all my adult life. We’re just all made differently. 🙂

[@edennis8578]

​@@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarmsYour arms look great, Kay. They look firm and toned, just right. Not muscular like a man's but just like a youthful woman's arms should look. Your arms look like you could be 29 years old.

[@JackieOlantern]

@@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarmsI wasn’t being critical. I was just encouraging woman our age. We should not only resistance train to look more toned and firm, but for strength and none density as we age. It’s so important!

[@jewv2231]

That was really great! Awesome tips. I’ll look for those little disguising tops.

[@jomcmahon2956]

I just came across your video and loved it. Thank you for the wonderful tips.

[@RS-ov2st]

Great info. No one has ever focused on this before. Very helpful.✨

[@barbiec4312]

Very uplifting and informative Kay. Thank you!❤

[@kdunk1287]

You are right that others don’t notice my arms. I’m 66 and I live in central Texas. It is hot here from May til mid October. It’s even too warm to wear layers like a light weight shirt over a sleeveless top when going out and about. I love your style and sweet personality. I think that I’m very much like you in coloring, body type (I’m definitely a pear shape), height and weight. I love the styles you wear. 😊

[@emmsue1053]

Thank you so much, my arms are slim but they flap around a bit now and the skin is so saggy although its moisturised nightly!! I really wish T shirt makers would add an inch or two onto cotton T shirts and dresses? Just at elbow length would be wonderful.

[@delanelauderdale9099]

Thanks Kay for these tips; personally i like your arms, they are shapely & seem in proportion to your body. Ive never liked mine as they seem too skinny. Now that im older they're still skinny but flabby too. Ive worn tank tops or shells with an over blouse thats has a half or 3/4 sleeves in sprng, summer and fall when im out, but short or sleevless when im home. I like those sheer sleeves for dressier activities, very feminine & romantic. Have a blessed day & thanks again.

[@fishandfloral]

I have huge upper arms and have considered surgery for them. About a year ago, I decided I was done with it. I bought multiple sleeveless tops and refuse to wilt in the heat any longer. Your tip about showing a bit more shoulder with a tank top is spot on for me. It’s a much more flattering fit.

[@marybrigden4663]

Great video, so upbeat with lots of practical ideas and positive encouragement! Thank you!

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Thanks for watching! 😊

[@kimberlyperrotis8962]

Great ideas and tips, Kay, for those who want to cover up or minimize their arms.

[@flowerpower3618]

I love that botanical print top- must be from the UK. Thank you for doing this , you chose some lovely tops.

[@kathybarringer8491]

Thank you! We worry too much about what others think!

[@dianecyment1715]

You presented this subject with such flair! I agree that we are the ones that notice our flaws, not other people. I remember when when I was young, my siblings and I used to flap my grandmother's hanging arms. It was an endearing gesture that she embraced. Another thing that I do is drape or tie a light weight cardigan over my shoulders. Thanks for all your inspiration.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Thank you! 😊

[@cassandrafine6373]

Thank you for this!! Now approaching 64, menopause is finally going away, but hormonal issues, weight loss surgery, and subsequent weight gain have caused my bat wings, which were never a problem in my younger years, as I was quite slim in my 20s-30s. I was also active and also used weights, especially in my 40s and 50s, but it seems I've got some family DNA where the big upper arms come from. I've not been happy with the current situation, but I'm working with the "here and now." I do wear many of the types of blouses and coverups you show in this video, but do wear sleeveless tops with a coverup as needed. I'm slowly working to get my upper arms toned along with weight loss so I can go back to wearing my fitting blazers and long sleeved blouses, but one day, I'll get back there. Keep the videos coming!!

[@elainemckee1031]

Thank you for all your wonderful tips. I'm going to take your advice.

[@susanthompson23]

Now that we are headed towards summer, I really appreciate these ideas. Thank you Kay. I really love your style and appreciate you sharing in your videos.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Thanks for being here!😊

[@kristywhited8857]

Great tips! Lovely message!

[@daniceglenn5897]

Thank you Kay, I really needed this one. You looked beautiful in everything you wore. I especially liked the sleeveless pink shirt, you looked especially pretty in that one. I’m going to try to wear sleeveless this summer, you’ve inspired me. I always look forward to your program every week.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Thank you!😊

[@bethhollis6201]

Hi Kay! I appreciate this video. As a former amateur cross-country rider and stable owner, I once had ripped biceps AND triceps. A near 2 decades later with a new career of sitting professionally, my triceps need their own life-alert and my biceps, which still pretty strong, are shy enough to hide under a protective layer of fluff. I love cover-ups. I adore the 3/4 sleeve in general, for I also do not need/want more sunshine on my shoulders (red-head, glow-in-the-dark-skin, blueish eyes). I have found two things I adore in tops: prints and spandex. LOVE me some stretch and prints in general help my upper arms blend in with my torso. I find as along as I do not exuberantly wave madly at someone, all is well. I probably will not ever get into a tank without some kind of pashmina, cover-up, loose overshirt or darling cardi, but that is okay with me. I sooo appreciate having strong arms (still) and if I had thought I wanted to work those triceps out, I would have. I did not, and well, at 65, as long as my sweet husband thinks I am beautiful and my kids say I am the best hugger due to my schmooshiness, all is well! Have a great and beautiful day!

[@cindyprice546]

Great video Kay. A lot of helpful ideas for everyone.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Thanks!😊

[@vickidriscoll1940]

Great video, brought up so many good points.God bless

[@Julie-gz2lx]

Thank you for your honesty, support, and encouragement!

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

😊

[@joansmith3990]

Kay, what a polished and positive presentation. I also feel that a self tanning lotion or bronzer helps to hide imperfections and makes me look sun-kissed even if I’m not! I think it also thins me a little. Just get a shade appropriate to your coloring. 😎

[@LilyOlea777]

I love all the things that you shared. Some thing I would appreciate are ideas modern toppers for sundresses. I know I can do a jean jacket or a cardigan, but I would like some updated modern choices and something besides a jean jacket.

[@laurasebakijje9008]

I lost two hundred pounds so I have horrible skin hanging so I always cover my arms cant afford surgery

[@gigi2819]

Congratulations! 🌹

[@beverleyderby1536]

Way to go!!! WOW!

[@lindamatyas5526]

Great insight, beautifully presented. Thank you for your hard work from which we all benefit.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Glad to help! Thank you for watching my channel!😊

[@suzyhall2608]

I can get through some years without showing my upper arms. I have the swinging flab and always seem to be waving at somebody when my arms are out in the open! But my brother wanted me to come see his pool a few years ago and so I had to put on a BATHING SUIT in front of all of the family. I decided I would just scoop the gnats off the water and not swim. So I could put on Sally Hansen Airbrush Legs on legs and arms. And not wave at anybody. I was no longer bumpy and blotchy. I had to catch a dog at some point and wound up IN the pool - and that stuff stayed put!!! So if I ever have to go out in a shift dress, I would absolutely apply that stuff to my arms. It really helped MY confidence. Thank you for another great video.

[@suzyhall2608]

Let it dry before you get dressed and, while I wouldn’t dare sit on a couch, it doesn’t seem to transfer!