How to NOT Get Nervous When Speaking (Uncommon Advice for Speaking Up Without Freaking Out)

[@just_bee9482]

my mum gave me a great advice before my final year presentation at university: "imagine that audience 20, 30 or 50 years from now", she said. She was so right. All the eminent professors that I was so afraid of are all dead as we speak. May they rest in peace. It is not a big deal!

[@nechan3081]

lmao this is funny but make sense at some point. thnks for the advice haha

[@rolansanchez7046]

And maybe you might be one of those dead people, I don't find it consoling.

[@just_bee9482]

@@rolansanchez7046 it was not meant to be consoling but uplifting. And it was 20 years ago. It helped put things into perspective. We shouldn't fear men who are here today and ain't there no more tomorrow. Rather fear God!

[@lapeaches8006]

😧

[@just_bee9482]

The fear of public speaking is the greatest fear of all. The average person would rather die than having to speaking in front of an audience. Yes you heard me right. we fear public speaking more than death itself

[@nsp74]

the best person to teach you on how to overcome nervousness in public speaking is someone who was actually terrified to speak in public and have overcome it this tip is really uncommon, this is the first time I heard such advice

[@pkvs9]

Summary: To appear confident --> Work on your vocal modulation: 2 things to work on improving vocal modulations 1. Tone - conveys emotion if your voice 2. Intonation - rise and fall of your voice Practice musculature in your tone > by practicing embouchure. Why is it important? It makes muscles around your lips, tongue and pharynx strong. As a result, we lost control over our voice, resulting in shaking voice when you're nervous. To practice embouchure > squeeze your lips muscles, tongue and pharynx muscles with a spoon or fork and pout your lips like squeezing it.

[@drgracelee]

Awesome summary!

[@MasterTalks]

Agreed @pkvs9, great stuff

[@johnkim8907]

Conveys emotion of your voice, not if your voice

[@jaellegilberts]

Thank you!!

[@kenkingsb]

I

[@Mratta911]

I drink water and make sure I am prepared for my meetings. Sweaty palms is natural but I got use to it, this is coming from some one who wasn’t taught educational leadership but poverty taught me to be strong and it still works !!

[@richardbrown2348]

This is the first video I’ve see that really helped…. I get extremely nervous to speak in front of crowd, with eve. 10 people in the audience…. Always been a problem with me… Heart beat is high, hands shaking and unable to speak without shaking… hope your videos help…. Thank you…

[@tinglee8]

I'm not only impressed by the content and tips, but I noticed most of this presentation is done in a few takes.

[@CJ2K]

Yeah because when you come from the frame of mind I’m gonna wing this and not mess it up, you usually wing it. But when you say it’s okay if I mess up because I can edit it out, you usually mess up more than usual.

[@Wiensb]

thank you for being so transparent. I had the same issue in my 20's and can fully relate to it.

[@sandrarsd3393]

I have a hard time speaking and I do get so nervous. I cry at times. Because I feel embarrassed. Thankyou for this video. I will try all this techniques

[@wnbyyy]

thanks i have bad social anxiety and i get nervous speaking to someone 1 on 1 this helped me calm down

[@BihLinda-l9u]

Thanks so much Lee Your video is so educative. I am that person who is always nervous Forgetting even what to say when am with an audience or even a group of friends.

[@ngenuevalantina9529]

I am so so nervous when it comes to talking to a crowd even to strange people like in an interview I pray this video helps me to overcome it

[@LaToya_B]

I get so nervous when I have to speak in front of a class or if I have to do an interview. Very helpful video!

[@binkyfaith]

Same here I just blew an interview… it was bad😔

[@yankee2666]

There’s a great little book on Amazon entitled, “Hoots and Grunts” that addresses common everyday communication flubs that we make that can push others away from us

[@FuturequestTechLLC]

The best advice I've seen so far.

[@katebangert4528]

Dr. Lee's videos will help me to become a better ESL teacher.

[@helenschristianity9862]

Every time I get nervous, I talk fast 😂😂😂

[@makositali4224]

Same here,just to get done with it😔😔

[@mentallibrary5490]

Same. And my main goal goes to "no air gaps pls" -feeling 😭😂

[@ChangedandChosen]

🤚🏽same

[@arlyntoledo1992]

I feel you 😂

[@miru8723]

Same here hahaha plus English is not my native language so I always think that I'm making mistakes 😂😂😂

[@rosepompeus5289]

I need this so badly

[@chexa-8499]

I'm not getting nervous when i speaking in the front of us..i'm exited to speak in the front of us...because i want to share my confident or confidence in the front of us....

[@AVKBA]

Thank you Dr.Grace for sharing. Very well articulated and it most relevant not even at workplace but also at personal space as effectiveness in communication is essential to avoid any wrong perception. Look forward for video content on Communication style in briefing. 😊

[@AVKBA]

Thank you Dr.Grace 😊

[@DD-dv4pu]

Thanks Dr. Grace giving an excellent tips how get confidence whes speak in front of a special audience and how you dominated yourself for magnificent performance

[@drgracelee]

You're so welcome, I'm glad you found my tips helpful.

[@natural_instincts]

Hi Dr. Grace Lee, I always have anxiety when speaking to someone. I always think that someone will get offended if I speak confidently. Therefore I speak them with soft voice but they tend to ignore me because they think I am unconfident and weak. Your help will be greatly appreciated.

[@Challenze]

Hi Grace, I always try to strike a balance between being confident, not interrupting the other speaker and passive in a conversation. I hate the interruption before someone finishes his/her sentence especially during the video call. Meanwhile, I do not want to sound passive during a conversation. When you get a chance, could you please share a video on this topic? Thank you.

[@chanavela141]

I do the same thing. One of my biggest flaws.

[@yankee2666]

There’s a great little book on Amazon entitled, “Hoots and Grunts” that addresses common everyday communication flubs that we make that can push others away from us

[@MasterTalks]

Great to see your work Grace, keep it up, cheering you on!

[@MohammedSani-n5y]

Thanks it really help

[@balenciaga6714]

thank you so much!! i am certain this will help me be more confident!

[@johnpaulbalanquit2692]

I helped of my language or Aphasia that I will be going for me, Doc. Thank you so much.

[@faithgracytyrus9371]

I really get nervous until my body and voice become shaky! I hope I can get over this

[@jamesjanuary5423]

Dr. Grace, you made my day. Thanks for the tips.

[@drgracelee]

You are so welcome!

[@alopanig7640]

Thank you so much for these advices Dr. Lee..yeah that's me .. I'm very nervous and loss in confident when I speak someone and specially in front of the audience. I want to be very confident When I speak in front of others.

[@natasharees8219]

I didn't expect that explanation. Will try it out

[@drgracelee]

That's why I called it uncommon advice! Let me know how it goes!

[@melveratycoon1647]

I think this was God sent🥺 I'm in grade 12 now and ever since my grade 5, I started noticing I had stage fright! The sweaty palms, the shaking of my hands and body, the horrible 'cut-down' voice, I tried everything to help myself but then whenever I noticed I was the centre of attention, or it was coming to my turn to present, I'd start shaking.. no matter what! I've prayed, done all and all,I couldnt even pass my speech class cause if this🥺 I was the centre of laughter.. I'm so sorry I'm being so negative, I just hope this helps!

[@vvm.2452]

WAHHHH!!! same sis

[@Dani-ef3cf]

@Melvera you are not being negative. I remember being in front of my class in high school. My ears 👂 buzzing, legs🦵 shaking, lightheaded. I couldn’t hear my voice. I swore never again to stand in front of people. Fast forward 30 years later. I am an advocate for pedestrians. So I had to stand up in front of the city council to speak. I started by attending the meetings. Getting familiar with their language and format. Thank God I could hold on to the podium. Other meetings I was able to sit in my chair. In one meeting they allowed 3-5 minutes. They made me stay up 10. I thought I pass out. The panel took notes, asked me questions. And this is usual. I am prepared. I speak well. I’m not thinking about me. It’s just my body won’t listen. I heard, you do what you have to do, and ignore the rest. So I have. But still it doesn’t get better. I just joined Toastmasters.

[@Dani-ef3cf]

@Melvera Oh let me say, maybe 🤔 I’m stubborn.. I just will not let it stop me from doing what has to be done. I have a saying: we do what we have to do, not what we want to do. So, onwards! I saw elderly people crossing the street and it wasn’t safe. Then, the kids at school did not have crosswalks on a road with speeds of 40 mph. I couldn’t just watch and stay quiet 🤫 I couldn’t, on my watch, allow a tragedy to happen. So I guess depends on the value of what is at stake. Looking back I will say, if your time comes, remember, they are just people. And you, know and have something they need. Simple.

[@Bromos777]

Find a Toast Masters class near you and attend it. You will get turns speaking in front of similar people and gradually you will gain more experience and confifence. Its worth the time and investment

[@aatali2001]

Dr Grace, I watch your videos now and then, I like them. Thank you very much for that. I am not sure though in this video you sound too fast.

[@muhammadsajidkhan3078]

Wao Dr Grace, this is amazing, same issues I am having while speaking in public.

[@AVKBA]

I am in a consultant role at workplace. Every articulation when i end up with i doesn’t feel that it was effective whereas it was very effective rather impressive at receivers end. But when i get compliment about my articulation immediately my mind turns into accomplishment of effectiveness. Why such kind of feeling exist and how to overcome with it , offcourse with pratice but what could be ideal practice recommended to overcome with it. Additional information- i am strategic and analytical thinker. Andy ! 😊

[@asinobigift5221]

Thank you so much for this great teaching, honestly I need help.I have been searching for a good couch who would train me in public speaking,the fear of public speaking has really dealt with me all these years , but I have a strong confidence that I must overcome it and manifest my true intelligence.

[@drgracelee]

Hello and welcome to my channel! If you want to receive direct coaching from me to help you gain confidence in your communications, I invite you to apply for my coaching program. I invite you to submit your application for a Discovery Call with my team here: careerrevisionist.com/application

[@mewhoelse2840]

Thank you so much for your tips. English is not my first language, so I get very nervous as I am very conscious I might make a mistake when I am speaking. Is there any way to overcome this fear

[@Bamboo11A]

Dr Grace you are awesome. Thanks for your videos ! God bless you 😊

[@drgracelee]

It's a blessing to have you here, Ken! I appreciate you.

[@hongzhen1514]

Thanks for the tips, Dr. Grace

[@kay4742]

Excellent advice young lady! Did a nice job.

[@joysiannepomuceno7441]

I love your contents, Dr. Grace. Thank you so much for sharing your expertise.

[@cleanerrosie5349]

This is big help for me❤

[@kumarmenon6118]

Truly effective. Thank you

[@deidrebrown6742]

Thank you so much for sharing Dr. Grace

[@LSNeely]

Thank you! I truly found this advice so helpful! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@chinnapeddakahanilu2024]

❤❤❤❤❤ great advice

[@mariatangled]

4:40 it starts

[@johnson48931]

Thank you

[@jacksonamaral329]

Good.

[@Manifest_yourself_daily]

Thanks for tips

[@rebeccadashe5361]

Thank you for the tips. I will keep to your channel.Nervousness and heavy tongue is what I face.

[@christiewhistler5295]

Yes it never stop

[@brandonlott1717]

I like your energy! Thanks for the tips.

[@lifeandbusinesswithjoan]

Thank you so much for this.

[@sp-pz8uc]

500 people in a room listening to you, is no different to 1 person. Why? Because everyone in that room isn't magically transporting their individual thoughts to everyone in the room. Their all individuals.

[@ChangedandChosen]

Thanks! This is very helpful.

[@anetalandova6135]

But they will probably share the thoughts with each other later. And it is not one person making an opinion but 500. Also one one talking even tho it may be a presentation Is more like a conversation so the attention Is not just on you. But in a presentation with 500 people, it is not possible that everybody asks and people also dont ask in front of other people that much either.

[@rattybabby]

Thank you for these videos and knowledge 🙏🏽

[@orokawandimienwankwe7773]

Dr grace Lee nice one thanks.

[@ygmjphpoaifbmidhkmg]

Thanks

[@drgracelee]

Thank you, too! Welcome to my channel.

[@ajinkyakhandare4748]

Tysm Dr.Gracee lee

[@thomaschinga7409]

Thanks so much for this

[@obi5157]

Hi Dr Grace, please how do I apply for coaching on this you mentioned.

[@drgracelee]

Hello and welcome to my channel, Obi! If you want to receive direct coaching from me to help you develop your communication skills and position yourself powerfully in your career and life, I invite you to apply for my coaching program. Normally before I accept new clients, you'll need to submit your application for a Discovery Call with my team here: careerrevisionist.com/apply

[@jamesgatuku7211]

Yes for a long Timehave suffered nervous breakdown when communicating with people.please walk with me.

[@updatetodayajlbyshripaul2301]

excellent

[@blessingshutton5582]

Poor public speaking hinders progress in life.Most of us have great ideas but lacks the skill to successfully convey them by speaking.Thanx for the uncommon tips.

[@aedenmartin3577]

Thank you 🙏🏼

[@musamajid7876]

Amazing Dr thank u sooow much

[@davidsen3931]

Dr. Grace, thanks for the video. how can I be fluent in English speaking?

[@rorakakar]

Thank you mam

[@CostarPelotheri]

How can I effectively listen to a presenter while at the same time looking at their presentation slides? I have a huge problem keeping up with presentations.

[@JnPSwirl]

Great tips!

[@yanponikithan3663]

Hi Grace, I really enjoyed your presentation. Do you mentor student from India?

[@drgracelee]

Glad to have you here, Yanponi. Yes, I do have students from various parts of the world!

[@mishin3163]

👍🏽 Thanks Doc.

[@arlice818]

Great work 👍

[@pinkymadhuri1559]

I'm having same problem I'm unable to speak with new people and feel nervous and get fear and shrink myself Can u give me some advice

[@drgracelee]

Hi, Pinky. Being able to start a conversation with new people is essential in getting the things that you want and even the things you don't know you needed. I have 5 tips to share with you. Watch them in this video here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/g6PHYaKneqp0pLc

[@truthbesaid5440]

Love the veracity, your awesome.😎

[@hamstainz4884]

I wish I had a clarinet so I could be as confident as you 😢

[@angelreb1]

Hi dr grace Lee I am unable to understand the link to sign up. Be coached with you for confident speaking all link directs me to a common link is it the right one. I am confused.

[@drgracelee]

Hi Angel, I hear that you're looking for coaching to help you develop confident speaking. You are in the right place. Confidence in communication is one aspect that I help my clients with in their executive coaching. Usually before I take on new clients, I will schedule a Discovery Call with you to explore whether it is the right fit for both of us. If you're serious about creating results for yourself with coaching and accountability, I invite you to apply for a Discovery Call with my team here: careerrevisionist.com/apply

[@vishaltripathi3812]

Hi , i am first visitor in your channel please let me know

[@miru8723]

Omg, you just described me in this video 😂😂😂 I'm learning a lot with you, thanks

[@drgracelee]

That's how I described myself too before I decided to develop and master my communication skills. You're welcome! Glad to have you here on my channel, Marlon.

[@maxwellmaccarthy6840]

Great!

[@G35-i6v]

Can whistling be another method of practicing embouchure?

[@jeanteach6575]

Yes , helpful

[@scribemanjustice2028]

One day both of us will meet together. I cherish your videos and responses

[@lebbiechung2529]

Is whisling also a way to get rid of nervousness?

[@sammiloc]

Would playing the Chinese bamboo flute help? I have a flute, no clarinet.

[@nholvirtzvlog8811]

Exactly

[@LuvHartSpainValence]

My challenge is to speak in front of a group of over talkers who are rude and aggressive with a big ego.

[@l.sanathoising9508]

I m also Asia staying in Asian country .I really want ur voice the way how yuProduce sounds. Give tips plij.

[@r.m.90]

I get nervous speaking to one person in an interview, even worse if it's a panel interview. I don't know why because I know I am smart and capable. It's a weird thing.

[@rgm_1136]

These are my techniques when attending a meeting or conference with managers, senior managers, and bosses of my company. I always keep in mind that: 1. All of them are humans just like me. 2. We all have red blood. 3. All of us will die and rot, the only question is when and how? 4. We all have smelly farts. By that mentality, I keep my composure and focus.

[@nz1264]

Omg I also turn so red when I'm talking in front of people 😳. Please advice me how I can stop blushing

[@roseystroup]

How is this work public speaking when you have an accent?

[@Nameless-tp4uz]

Avoid drinking coffee, sleep early, and eat healthy. That way you can control your thoughts.

[@chanavela141]

I stutter a lot when I'm nervous.

[@melveratycoon1647]

But please how do I stop shaking? That has to be the most obvious of them all.

[@walangkwentangtrader5379]

If you don't own a musical instrument, you can always kiss someone to exercise those muscles. ;-)

[@nayebaleflavia1582]

You have a story just like me

[@binkyfaith]

Too late Went to interview and completely blew it Stuttered broke eye contact… it was awful

[@juvylauragerona2614]

Stagee freight

[@HANGNGUYEN-im1wg]

Dear Dr , could you please speak slowly a little bit? Thank you for your kindness.

[@marieljadem.9694]

My face turns burned 💔💔🤣

[@Aaravi1245]

This is me 😢

[@vulpes1982]

You lost me when you said you are not afraid anymore at all of public speaking. Even the biggest rock stars say they still get nervous and excited. It's less about losing fear, more about how to handle it.

[@uchennanwokorie7934]

Nice video but you spent alot of time describing nervous.