Teen Says A Critical Event From Childhood Left Her In Emotional Pain Which Causes Her To Act Out

Dr. Phil tells a teen who acts out that he believes she is in deep pain. Hear what the 14-year-old says is keeping her from being happy.
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[@delvinmallory3427]

Okay, wait. This behavior started when she was in PRESCHOOL and her mother just... let it continue? No counseling for an obviously traumatized child? No wonder she acts this way.

[@eartheatsyou2589]

Her mom just wanted to get rid of her. If she got her the help she needed she would have to confront her own demons too (years of abuse from her husband) and she wasn’t ready to face that and that held her kid back too. Pretty sad. Always put your kids first.

[@tonof.c.1397]

@@eartheatsyou2589 Why are you blaming the mother? She was a victim as well.

[@eartheatsyou2589]

@@tonof.c.1397 Because she’s to blame too? Duh. She saw that her kid was in trouble and instead of doing anything about it sent her away to wipe her hands clean of her. When you’re a parent you think about your damn child. Not your own self. If you can’t do that then don’t be a parent and screw up your kids even more. Some people aren’t meant to be parents. Deal with it and direct your sympathy where it belongs which is the children.

[@maryjanedavis9033]

@@tonof.c.1397 being a victim doesn’t give you the right to leave your child victimized tf

[@najhiahhall7080]

@@tonof.c.1397 even if she was a victim she should have been strong for her children

[@cam894re9]

I understand that she's hurt i get the emotional trauma but that doesn't give her the right to make threats of a school shooting.

[@upahtv]

You literally dont understand her at all. She is in really really deep trauma, stop comparing you with her, while you had a beautifull life on her age, lady????

[@yoons9294]

@@upahtv at her age, I had far from a beautiful life. I don't care though, if I threatened to shoot up my school, no amount of pain I was in could make that okay. No ones denying she's in pain here.

[@aabirazaman2644]

I agree that what she's doing is not okay and that school shooting threats are nothing to be joked about. Her trauma does not justify it but it does make u understand why she behaves the way she does. People react differently to trauma and sometimes this is how it looks. So I don't think it's fair to compare her and her trauma to someone else's.

[@cam894re9]

@@aabirazaman2644 very true which is why she needs to see a real therapist and counsellor

[@aabirazaman2644]

@@cam894re9 Definitely.

[@rahjeesh2476]

She just can’t wrap her mind around the fact that everyone else has their own problems as well

[@sableann4255]

She doesn't care. She's a sociopath

[@emoandproud7150]

Should she? nobody else does. You Dr. Phil fans are bullies lmao.

[@kiral.2119]

@@emoandproud7150 Many people do what are you talking about lol

[@strangeperson722]

@@emoandproud7150 ok but it is true. People have their own problems small or big that’s how it is. We aren’t bullies we’re people who’s brain isn’t small

[@strangeperson722]

Literally

[@starrsheppard8726]

Why does this give me second hand embarrassment?

[@starrsheppard8726]

I’ve been through some of the same stuff as this girl, and I feel for her, truly. But it doesn’t give her an excuse to act this way. I’ve was r@p3d, beaten, and verbally abused by my father for 14 years and I understand that trauma does play a huge role into shaping you into the person you are, but it’s not hard to act your age and learn other ways to cope with the pain. But I’m with ya, she has been through a lot, and it has played a huge role on the person is is(was in the video)💕💕@jessicagrebes

[@militor_207]

Don’t worry, it gives me embarrassment too bro

[@militor_207]

@@Jazzyb44455 can you stop copying and pasting the same text all over this comment section

[@recently1897]

@@starrsheppard8726 so you compared other people with you? People have their own sensitivity.

[@starrsheppard8726]

@@recently1897 no, actually that’s not what I did at all. I initially commented what I was feeling after watching the video, and when I received backlash, I explained why I felt that it was okay for me to share my opinion. Much luv tho💕💕

[@JestaLemon]

I feel that her mother invalidates her alot and never really discussed anything with her.

[@christaggart5687]

We have very little context to go off of here. Her mother is probably emotionally drained. I get drained just watching this girl. Imagine living with her

[@horsegirl07]

They both need therapy. The daughter has said I’m sure some very hurtful things to her which might cause the mother to feel the way she does. If they both get help I feel it would only help their relationship more and move forward

[@TheSunWarrior]

@@christaggart5687 it doesn't MATTER. why? because that's an excuse. also, it's not that she's drained; it seems like she gave up on her own daughter because of how hard it is for her to parent a child like her (not the daughter's fault though) and it's not that it's hard, she just doesn't want to do the work of being a parent. she reminds me so much of my mother (and also father). the more work she does in being a parent, the more easier it gets. also, should that girl be more important than the WORK of being a parent? if she doesn't want to be a parent, she shouldn't have kids at all. honestly.

[@YesRidley]

Bless her heart. She’s hurting so much on the inside that it has manifested in a violent and disruptive way on the outside.

[@blakeandrews3613]

Exactly! I can’t believe all these people in the comments saying she’s just a spoiled brat, she’s obviously had a very hard and sad life and is crying for help

[@coolum.5226]

@@blakeandrews3613 she’s scaring people from not going to school by screaming and yelling “I’m going to shoot up the school”. She disrespects her mom like no other and she thinks she’s better than everyone else. She doesn’t deserve any pity but she does deserve treatment if she has bad past trauma that she didn’t resolve.

[@hazel-vf7on]

@Wade Church it's a coping mechanism, and i can understand both sides of this thing. no excuse for her actions, but she's hurting as you said and thus it's taking its way out in the way she's been speaking - threats and rebellion and such. i still agree there is no excuse for letting it manifest and take control to such an extent where she seems to have no care in the world for anyone.

[@hazel-vf7on]

@Wade Church i'm defending someone who's been a victim of failed parenting who didn't have a chance to try getting a foothold. i'm not defending her actions or her threats, because no there is no excuse for her actions. i'm defending her side of the whole argument which is essentially that a mother who doesn't know (or doesn't DO at all) how to parent properly causing her to become suppressed and thus her pain is finding its way out in a not very good way. i'm not sure whether you're trying to tell me i shouldn't defend her at all, but you don't seem to understand what happens when a parent neglects their child leading to mental development like this though, that's what i'm saying. *edit: i don't want to fight about it, i just want to put my point across so you can see what i mean and why i'm defending her suppression.

[@rebecca7294]

It’s her attitude though and how obnoxious she comes across that makes it soooooo difficult for anyone to sympathise with her. Her facial expressions, the way she speaks to everyone... it just screams SPOILT brat to me! Bad experiences happening to you does not give you the right to behave so rudely and horribly to others. I’ve seen people on Dr Phil go through sooooo much worse than this jumped up little arsehole and they still have the common decency to be polite

[@kellicallahan5093]

This girl is acting out in pain. The comment section here needs more compassion and understanding. Her behavior is a cry for help. She feels alone and abandoned and that’s why her defenses are up high. She’s hurting inside. Hope she found peace.

[@NChant101]

For the sake of humanity, yes.

[@stephaniemc9948]

She’s obviously damaged beyond repair. The time to fix her was when she was small.

[@adamt2415]

@@stephaniemc9948 Beyond repair? Lmao she was like 13 or 14 here. All she needed was family counseling. Calm down and don’t be so stupid.

[@runsoncaffeine]

Perhaps, still doesn’t justify school shooting threats and disregard for other people’s feelings.

[@PlayBoyMicah]

@@adamt2415 there is always some goof ball like you who says something stupid

[@ThaneSPKM]

2:50 She begins to break through. No one is beyond hope friends. Bless you all and good luck in the shitty mess we call life. Hold onto joy where you find it. 😊

[@emiliawilson4378]

You're a sweetheart ❤❤

[@eileenlester4342]

🙏💜🙏

[@synthonaplinth5980]

Notice how she dies that AFTER Dr. Phil calls out both of her supposed 'parental figures' on their extreme gaslighting. He validated her feelings.

[@Mariasclipssss]

The whole time she’s trying to get a reaction out of people and she doesn’t Accturally want to back away from the frount she puts in because she’s too scared of what will happen if she admits she has feelings

[@DarkEntries]

spot on

[@DarkEntries]

@@Jazzyb44455 Oh shut up, Jessica

[@NicholasEzclapz]

@@Jazzyb44455 Stop spamming the comment section of every video about this girl.

[@jessiew8503]

i agree. like she doesn’t wanna seem vulnerable.

[@jayfleming9647]

@@Jazzyb44455 I want a friend to talk to my parents don't understand me my name is jay fleming

[@tamatoa6946]

“The most important work you and I will ever do will be within the walls of our own homes.” - Harold B. Lee

[@jennalee3995]

Are you LDS too? 😁

[@cereal_qilla]

Yesss

[@runsoncaffeine]

Lmfao, sure

[@toughbikkies3699]

This girl seems to struggle expressing herself verbally, which possibly plays a part in her resulting to anger and snarkiness. There isn't a gift that is as easy, entertaining and that costs nothing which a parent can give a child and their future that is better than reading. It is great bonding and helps exponentially with development. Also a great part of bedtime routine to get the munchkins to sleep.

[@TheRealBirchtree]

That's not an excuse to be violent and to hurt people though I've been in her situation but not one did I think about killing someone

[@judithschumann3648]

All of her actions is her expressing the pain she's been going through that she experienced since she was 4. Her father leaving, her being present at that time, her mom not reacting in a very good way to her trauma and the missing of a proper treatment of her trauma and issues all ended in this. I really hope she gets the help she needs as well as I hope her mother gets help cause I see some pain also sitting in her from that time and that may also be a reason for her treating her daughter in a way that's very much fueling the fire. I'm afraid that if they don't work through this in a good way this could end very badly

[@jen-tv7fq]

:((💯💯

[@TheRealBirchtree]

That's not an excuse to be violent and to hurt people though I've been in her situation but not one did I think about killing someone

[@rodicapepescu4599]

There are lots of kids that went thru extremely traumatic events and did a lot better than her btw..she is a little bit too spoiled

[@victorbergman9169]

All these types of kids have weak parents

[@militor_207]

@@Jazzyb44455 if that had happened to me, I wouldn’t explode.

[@dillonjfortner]

I'm not sorry. Her parents never disciplined her as a kid. Yeah the the father is away and out of the picture but still. Instead of coddling the spoiled brat. Do what my grandfather did with me. "Here's a shovel. Now take it and take the attitude and bury it." Yeah it sucked but it taught me purpose aside from ending up in a pen.

[@victorbergman9169]

@@dillonjfortner yes

[@jen-tv7fq]

@@Jazzyb44455 true 100%

[@technonoob2521]

My parents are weak but at least I'm respectful

[@wtckcs]

As someone who has been to therapy, watching moments like these where people start to have emotional breakthroughs are really amazing to watch. Confronting what has been bothering her is one of the first steps of her journey.

[@God.sDaughter]

Oh my, her heart is crying out for her father that left when she was young. I know what it feels like to not have a father. It’s the most vulnerable thing for a girl child living in this male dominated world.

[@skyminji]

male dominated world lol bye

[@liamina3563]

@@skyminji You might not want to acknowledge it but pretty much most positions of power are still dominated by men, and that's besides the point anyway which is the father shouldn't have ditched his child.

[@skyminji]

@@liamina3563 Yea and u probably are a liberal don't talk to me

[@youtubechannel7736]

@@skyminji but.. it's true?

[@runsoncaffeine]

@@liamina3563 yea, all you chicks talk about when living in a “male dominated” world is the positions of power. Like- that’s it? That’s all you closed minded people think holds the justification of a male dominated society? Bye.

[@jen-tv7fq]

i can see how much pain she has been thru from her eyes and the way she was talking at the end, please ya'll try to understand her instead of making fun of her, i can feel her.

[@shawnpagel4217]

Shut up Jen! Damn!

[@najhiahhall7080]

@@shawnpagel4217 how about you shut up there's no reason you need to be hateful

[@TheRealBirchtree]

That's not an excuse to be violent and to hurt people though I've been in her situation but not one did I think about killing someone

[@nicosheldonflorendo]

These children don't realize this is the only time someone will try and force help on them. Give it 3 years and society is just going to keep locking her up and not caring.

[@uhhggg9335]

If she doesn’t learn in 3 years its her own fault. At some point we have to take responsibility and not blame society. She needs help but not at the expense of other people. Hopefully shell learn by actually seeing her behavior in action.

[@kingzoe5534]

@@uhhggg9335 👏 exactly

[@samanthagodwin1839]

Lack of parenting. Parenting is so much more than people understand. Open communication is a must. This poor girl. Her mother has failed her and is heartbreaking.

[@tinahuttner7280]

This ep was some time ago,hope she learned that if she keeps acting this way she’s going to have to take accountability and not use her father as a excuse cause that will end up getting old.

[@xx.illnana2996]

I think her mother needs to start to act like a mom. She wouldn't act out if she felt loved for once. Her mom is ignorant and points all the blame on her- not to mention she's constantly looking to get rid of her.

[@tinahuttner7280]

@@xx.illnana2996 her mom would of been better off giving her up for adoption, in a lot of situations it’s best to do that.

[@xx.illnana2996]

@@tinahuttner7280 Definitely, she should've done it sooner. But now she's older and it's damaging to see that your mom doesnt want you.

[@rachelelizabeth2880]

@@tinahuttner7280 You don't know what youre talking about.

[@ot7_76.5]

@@rachelelizabeth2880 true i dont like how people talk about others and giving their opinions like they know them on a personal level or even professionaly like some 'solutions' that you give out isn't always solving things it could do more damage than good!

[@comments306]

bro why did I start off hating her and then crying at the end

[@aaronreinhart7017]

I feel for that girl because I know at 31 years old exactly how it feels to have pain built up that you don't have a clue how to let it out of you or if you're even capable of letting it go

[@chloetaylor6789]

I feel this young girl, I was like her once.. I acted out, I was volatile I didn't care what people thought of me and I didn't feel like I owed anyone anything because noone took the time to try and understand me or why I was feeling how I was they just judged how I acted. I am now on a new path and trying to embrace my emotions and express them in a better way, I really hope she can get the help she needs. She's a beautiful girl with her whole life ahead of her! Sending strength and hugs to her and her mummy💖

[@TiveTobo]

Nobody took the time for a reason grow a pair. People aren’t required to care for your fragile feelings.

[@jeannedarc7533]

​@@TiveTobo Mind-blowing philosophical insight! Do you have any more advice on how to drive people towards suicide?

[@TheRealBirchtree]

That's not an excuse to be violent and to hurt people though I've been in her situation but not one did I think about killing someone

[@chloetaylor6789]

@@TheRealBirchtree well there for the grace of God go I..

[@TheRealBirchtree]

@@chloetaylor6789 tf?

[@babyblake2317]

Listen here little girl, I grew up without a father and I never treated my mother like that. You need to grow up.

[@kellicallahan5093]

Maybe you had a better mother than she did then.

[@raneemalotaibi8873]

talking about it something like this, something very private in front all these ppl... i get why shes acting like this. If she were alone having a therapy session with only the therapist and no one else she wouldnt be acting like that

[@emoandproud7150]

Glad i'm not the only one who sympathises with her, this girl has trauma, has been extremely bullied and then she gets forced to appear on national television in front of a hypocrite audience that will laugh at her.

[@mafaldabranco5817]

agreed. i agree that she is being disrespectful and intolerant, but i can see the pain trough that girls eyes. She is so hurt that of course it makes her uncomfortable to talk about toughts that are so personal in front of all these people. If she had a normal therapy session, alone, its a lot different. She could have not talked like that to her mom for sure, she was rude. But theres always two sides of the story and we dont know hers

[@RavinStrange]

She sounds like she's always ready to start a fight with anyone.

[@WhatAMessJada]

that "wouldn't you?" at the end really got me damn

[@pgestacy]

As a child with both parents in and out of prison all my life, and as a father myself now, this is heartbreaking. I feel for her so much. Hope she was able to overcome that baggage. 🙏

[@ZENTEMPLE_]

“K? Your point?” This kid just called her mum stupid but she can’t understand the simple statement

[@rananashi6755]

I can understand the hurt that Destoni was carrying. A father means a lot to child. It doesn’t come from leaving the child for life. And it definitely does not mean beating up a child just to make “discipline” or get “respect” in the household. It means you love your child and you wanna have a good relationship with your child, you wanna nurture, support, and fight for your child. My father was emotionally and verbally abusive. He had beaten up my mom and it was serious. Consequently, I cut him out of my life and never talked to him again. Abusive men never change.

[@thunderbolt513]

There you have it. Mighty Dr. Phill opening this girl's ❤️ like a tin can. Bringing out all her feelings and pain. Bravo.

[@nickyz2032]

Sorry but I have only a mother and she played the role of father AND mother after my father left cheating on my mom when I was 5. I’m 19 and I had that phase when my life was bad but at no point did I felt neglect and it’s just proof that there are strong single parents that raise not one but two strong, smart, and reliable kids who never had a fathers love only my moms and relatives who believed in her.

[@DreadArsenol]

Some people react differently maybe her mom reacted differently to that event and that affected the daughter it’s just a show we won’t truly know the whole story

[@emoandproud7150]

Keep telling yourself that. You're messed up, maybe you don't realize it yet.

[@nickyz2032]

@@DreadArsenol that’s true but that’s when they say that as a parent you need to act like the parent. Your a role model for your child. Though ofc I understand that it can be hard on them just as much as the child but that’s why you should seek counseling on both ends and try to move on

[@kellicallahan5093]

Good for you but she’s her own person so you can’t expect her to act like you did.

[@mehakk7656]

Why would anybody want to show their vulnerable state on national television? I mean she needed somebody like Dr. Phil but in private, Who would understand her, help her and not blame her.

[@eartheatsyou2589]

Dr. Phil isn’t even a real doctor. He lost his credentials long ago and sent all these troubled teens to a group home where they were even more traumatized. He’s a joke. These peoples pain is all for his ratings.

[@dimmiecandy2928]

This show is just messed up

[@cassiefriedman8685]

Get the help you need sweet girl and may Jesus put his healing hand on you 🙏

[@nigelft]

Amen ... But not before she is guided to find an actual Licensed Psychologist, whom won't treat her as just another spoilt, snotty, brat ... She is in absolute agony, and the only clear outlet she can see is just rage ...

[@clarkobannon8740]

Amen!

[@Sarapeaches23]

Guys let's not be mean in the comments. She's a 14-year-old kid who is clearly very hurt and broken. She has put up a wall and is using the attitude as a defence mechanism to protect her feelings from getting hurt further. At 14 what she is going through would feel like a pretty big deal and she is very clearly overwhelmed. Everyone digests loss and hurt differently. I hope she gets the help she needs.

[@peytonharmon5089]

I appreciate her honesty. She was very mature in this moment and that is very commendable

[@madinicole5863]

It's so hard for me to feel bad for her because your trauma doesn't give you the right to do and say the things she does. She's like this because of how she takes and handles her trauma yes but being unwilling to listen or try is all her.

[@markbrown5117]

This is so sad but I am glad she is able to speak and tell her truth.

[@rambojoe2323]

She went from full blown oppositional to insightful with just one question. Good work finding the wound.

[@tignarita]

I'm so glad I have kind yet authoritative parents

[@Brook_Nichelle]

Yeah sounds like her mother is trash.... like she brings on this type of behavior.

[@caitlynraebex7401]

This girls parents are some of the shittiest dismissive parents I've seen on this show!! This is sad.. she is crying out so hard for help and hasn't got it from her parents. I pray she is doing better now.

[@anthonyreyes3922]

Dr Phil did a good job with this one got her to open up to not feel like her feelings were in question

[@korogumi]

I appreciate that dr Phil is being calm about it and not snapping back at her because she obviously doesn’t understand she has issues

[@amyhaupricht6295]

My God someone hug her and don't let go. She needs held and let her cry and yell but don't let go. She's hurting so much inside that's why she explodes in spurts. She wants them to feel the pain with her and work through it with her.

[@tW0shaDE]

Yeah

[@vanessaizoita4657]

she feels like everyone is going to abandon her, so her defense mechanism is to not let anyone in so they cant, and if she does she wants to always show that she never cared anyways.

[@Marir-dk2zx]

Still dosen't make up for the fact that she threatened to do something horrible to her classmates

[@hazel-vf7on]

as i said in an earlier comment; the threats are a coping mechanism in a way. she's hurting on the inside and that pain is getting its way out one way or another, and in this case in anger and incitement to violence - as well as her not having a care in the world for anyone else. it's a fairly common coping mechanism to turn to violence, i've faced the same type of issue (albeit not to the same extent as this girl) so i can understand both sides of this thing.

[@judithschumann3648]

It doesn't excuse her behavior but it gives an explanation on why she's doing it and it unravels a deep sitting trauma that needs to be treated or else she will go on like this and eventually act by all the threats she's making. Leaving the trauma and her issues untreated will only result in worse

[@emoandproud7150]

Her classmates are probably bullies just like everyone else in her life, just like this audience who entertains themselves with other people's problems. Give her a break.

[@emoandproud7150]

@@GCMC-m2h Everyone has violent thoughts towards those who wrong us, this girl just made the mistake of voicing it outloud in front of paranoid america. She's not the bully, everyone else is, including this hypocrite audience laughing at her.

[@MoNehNeh17]

Emo And Proud “everyone has violent thoughts towards those who wrong us” UHHH, NO, MAAM! Some of us who are logical thinkers or at least use common sense, knows that nothing good comes from punching kicking stabbing shooting etc etc. Just walk away from them or dont talk to them. once you realize that some people are just stupid and you cannot change that, and some people you’re just not going to get along well with, you’ll be alot less angry and have better, more calm thoughts when someone does wrong to you. its actually really arrogant to physically harm (or take the life of) someone because they dont behave in a way that YOU FEEL that they should- as if theyre your child.

[@MyHeart1955]

And Dr. Phil, you are giving this child a happy time that you are calling out her mom in front of everyone. She’s enjoying that.

[@kellicallahan5093]

Her mom needs to be called out. She’s so oblivious to her own daughters pain. She should’ve gotten help for her long ago. Horrible parent.

[@amelia-rosehamilton7120]

You are a bright young lady who is capable of so much good because you've had traumatic experiences that will enable you to be a sincerely empathetic peron. Don't be afraid of showing your emotions to those you trust and know that your emotions are justified in themselves and you deserve to be heard. As a survivor of abuse, I know the brain reacts to situations in ways others wouldn't, but you can be heard and loved so deeply, give yourself a chance, you deserve it x

[@adairmacias4824]

I feel like the audience claps at anything

[@sunshine5033]

this girl reminds me a lot of a friend i had when i was little, seeing this pokes at a very specific part of my heart bc i knew why my friend was the way she was and i cant imagine what this girl feels like

[@laceyhogue]

Imagine your child starting this behavior in PRESCHOOL and you don’t even try to put her in therapy?

[@crazyhorrorchick6581]

This girl is making no sense. She will just say “ummm ok” “okay?” “I don’t know.” “ your point is?” I feel for her. I think she can be a sweet good girl but she needs help AND SO DOES HER MOM AND THE OTHER WOMAN. It’s not all just her. It’s them too.

[@katies5537]

This mom lacking compassion :( giving her attitude back like wth

[@igen-vagy-nem]

The two relatives are so dismissive (mom and ?) and super frustrating. I’m glad dr Phil shut them up. This poor child, although her behaviour is awful she clearly needs help. It’s so sad.

[@meganschultz8259]

My mom left mydad when I was 3, he was never in my life.. and I didn't threaten to shoot up a school!

[@oliviastanford8961]

ik she’s mad and probably uncomfortable but the way she responds is just very… interesting 🤔

[@Meh-sn5kj]

Im so sorry for her.. Everyone was being rude to her and it really hurts me. Lol i could read her since the beginning.. i hope she heals

[@lalamakeuprehab]

I pray she can get the help she needs! And mom cutting in to tell her that her memory isn’t correct, is not okay!

[@kristenchalker2797]

Omg 😳 if I talked to my mom like that ever!

[@theghanaiananalyst7195]

Wow. Thw girl really opened up

[@tylerclair3714]

Millions of people go through what she has and worse for longer than she has. There is no excuse.....

[@kellicallahan5093]

No excuses but explanations for her behavior.

[@middlechildrenofhistory6134]

Shes trying so hard.

[@eileenlester4342]

Go Dr. Phil...stand up for her!

[@laughingallthetime50]

Dr Phil is so patient. If she was mine, I'd have thrown her out until she treated people with some respect.

[@dedicateflounce]

Still doesnt give her any rights to act like that

[@ranitagadling4312]

She's lying she's possibly just desperately seeking her parents attention & sees acting out as the only way to get it.

[@kokuhakuqiun4215]

I was adopted from foster care at 2 1/2 to 3 months old and had contact with my birth parents up until i was 2. I don’t understand why. Haven’t asked my parents why because i know they did drugs and all that, and I’m afraid that if i ask my adoptive parents why, the answer won’t be “They just couldn’t do it anymore for some reason”. I’m afraid that the answer will be “Your birth mother is still doing drugs and alcohol and living on the streets”.

[@solozenno]

Straight from Mount Caucasian

[@lovechafes]

I honestly feel really bad for her. She’s so defensive and clearly neglected. When she starts opening up about her feelings she suddenly seems much more articulate compared to when she’s lashing out and she seemed dazed or of low intelligence. I hope she can get proper counseling to deal with this trauma.

[@wrd2zal]

if i ever spoke to my parents like that I'd have a one way ticket to see god

[@msmichelle746]

Surely she knew some kids with single moms and no dads in the picture. That's not a unique situation.

[@Heavenlycharlee]

My father killed himself my mother abused me. This girl has no gratefulness to the one parent she did have.

[@RagnarHoff]

Her mom getting hung up on small details about throwing chairs and suspension when her daughter i trying to make a point shows her poor parenting skills. Her troubled daughter is clearly suffering and her mom just judges her.

[@Cnightz]

Hope this kiddo pulled through and changed. She needs someone to listen to her and not correct her or dictate her feelings to her.

[@firstnamelastname3280]

2:12-2:18 that’s how trumps mouth looks when he talks lol

[@strangeperson722]

LMAO PLEASEEEEE🤣🤣

[@janeryan2709]

*looked He's gone now! :)

[@strangeperson722]

@@janeryan2709 :)

[@cocoputhyxo]

🤣🤣 omEYE-

[@Kiki.Atkinson]

I felt this child’s pain went through the same thing at 8 .. I lashed out like this too tell I was 23 with the best help the pain fades and we stop hating the world

[@outsidersongs2682]

I really feel for this girl. I'm.actually crying! Teens, they do experience some brain regression (which then regrows towards them having an independent adult mind), and it varies according to child but it affects their reasoning skills if they are affected,which affects their ability to process emotional pain. It's not their fault if it's severe, and maybe trauma makes it worse. I just feel like this girl is full of trauma, is pushing people away because she's done with people hurting her. Rejection can cause this too; because it is so painful, a child traumatised by rejection will often push absolutely everyone away before they can even get chance to reject them. It looks like arrogance and insolence but in fact it's self defence. I hope she is doing ok. My heart goes out to her. I saw the clip where she is sent away to a foundation and it looked hugely traumatic. You can sometimes sees new trauma in someone's eyes. Poor girl.

[@jarnehermans1318]

It feels like she has no personality developed and she just copies what she sees in other people, making up this new 'person' She needs to figure out who she is, what she stands for and how she wants to act around other people

[@adamt2415]

Well she was like 14 at the time so she has the rest of her life to do that.

[@kumarparth6478]

Just because u had issues with family and u are in so much pain it doesn't give u right to think that u can do whatever u want to the people and u don't care about if they get hurt even though they have nothing to do with you? Damnn the audacity

[@geral096]

She obviously is hiding her sadness by being defensive and angry she doesn't want to feel vulnerable. Showing this on tv expecting she will show her true colors in from of a lot of strangers is not the best idea

[@alexistrebexis3195]

I really hope she watches this 5, 10 years from now and is ashamed by the way she talks, acts, and her ridiculous facial expressions and obnoxiousness.

[@K1ngAw3som3]

All these problems are very real when you’re dealing with the emotions of it all. If you’re lucky enough to make it through and address shortcomings, looking back it will all seem so silly. And hopefully as we mature we can pass our wisdom down to our children. It’s very real in the moment but the pain fades and we learn how to cope. So don’t make such permanent decisions during a temporary stressor.

[@nolimits300]

Cause YOU are in pain doesn't give you the right to cause pain in others,this is the most selfish thing you can do

[@eartheatsyou2589]

Yet people do it all the time. She’s a child, not an adult. Give her a break. Literally no one in her life has tried to help her. You think people really want to walk around being in pain and causing it? No one wants that. But it happens everyday. Just how life is.

[@8888-9]

It’s so easy as a mum to feel smug and superior when your kid is acting crazy. This girl is very bright, and insecure.

[@elliejobe2512]

I was just like her as a kid & sadly there was no Dr. Phil to help me. I would have done anything to have a Dr. Phil in my life.

[@adamt2415]

You’re kidding right? He’s not even a real doctor and he sent all these troubled teens to homes where they were traumatized even more. Look into it. You’re much better off without his “help” lol look into Turn-About Ranch. He hired people to pick up these kids in the middle of the night in their beds and took them there against their will.

[@fleshxhammerx0351]

The perfect example of why a household needs both mother and father equally.

[@natusia2947]

XDDDDDDDDD

[@CatherineKol]

This has more to do with the pain of your parent going to prison than just not having a father in general.

[@gordonlin6120]

Not really, they just have to be taught right from the beginning.

[@msitalianaxo]

That’s not always the case though. Things don’t always work out. Being hurt and feeling sad is one thing, but acting out (like she is) in unacceptable.

[@canary4365]

ew with the misogyny stfu

[@brianbrunty1467]

Her facial expressions tho 😂 😆 😝

[@StealthMode3924]

Such a brat, but what her mother said was irritating. "But that's not what happened anyways," And then Dr. Phil goes on to say "For God's sake, don't argue details, she's telling you what she remembers. It doesn't matter what actually happened. This isn't history class, it's about what she recalls." Too many parents do that when a child is trying to explain what they recall and how it hurt them. Parents need to listen to how a child feels instead of the parent telling them how they feel, and what they recall. Listen to what your child is trying to say. Don't enable. Just listen.

[@ItsTaniworld]

Oh I absolutely understand the pain she going through when my father died it impacted me greatly knowing that he is dead and he is not coming back. So it’s a lot of childhood pain and trauma that she is experiencing that has to do with why she lacking out like the way she is. But still just because she dealing with that kind of pain doesn’t give her the right to try to bring a gun to school to hurt others

[@emabrunton]

Please can we have an update on this broken little lady please

[@d_l5832]

she calls everyone "stupid" but can't answer a simple question lol

[@NasiMack]

Thank the lord I grew up in a black household

[@leoniea138]

Rude children . Can't handle them.

[@adamt2415]

Then you’re not cut out to be a parent if you can’t handle them when they become teenagers cuz this is all of them.

[@jacobmanzo2788]

Destoni is such a smart mouth.

[@winkieblink7625]

Man....I would have timed this kid out YEARS ago.....on everything!

[@michaelterkildsen7964]

She really think she's the only person that grew up with one parent

[@rananashi6755]

We may share empathy for Destoni. But that doesn’t change that her mother shouldn’t have waited to get help for her and her child, until she was fourteen. It doesn’t help to sugar coat her violent behavior at school.

[@shinn3003]

Geez , if I ever have kids like this I'm disowning them girl bye- 👋

[@ginettechiverton7113]

Kids often take their hurt out on the remaining parent.Very sad.

[@nonnaza]

Theres so much time from 5 to 14 to shut her up. That attitude is horrible.

[@Cluffiee]

I have no sympathy for her honestly I know several people who have been through traumatizing events and they know better than to threaten to shoot up a school. Having gone through trauma does not give you a right to act hateful towards others and not care for other human life and threaten to shoot a school....