Afraid to Mess Up My Kids!

[@butterflyrebelde]

I fortunately, against my family saying to let them cry to sleep. My heart couldn't do it. I was told not to let them sleep in my bed either. So I put a matres next to the crib and I slept there i would crawl back to my bed I was exhausted but it never felt right to let them cry. I still cuddle with my 10 ur. But he says to me. You can go to your bed now. I love you. ❤. I do not regret any minute. I'm glad i did that. The 14yr old doesn't need me a while ago. ❤❤ thank you Dr. Shafaly for the reassurance. 😊

[@carojaen]

“This is not the age for autonomy, this is the age for interdependence”, “surrender to the child’s needs”… I LOVED this. This WHOLE video was an AHA moment for me, thanks Dr. 🙏🤍

[@doctorshefali]

Well said!

[@paolacheong]

Yes! When we meet our children’s needs, It’s less work! Everyone sleeps better! Everyone feels better! ❤️❤️❤️

[@andreeabadulescu9227]

I am so happy you started this podcast! Maybe into a future video you can explain how parents should deal with heavy emotions, fury of their children after they take them from kindergarten. I know the theory but having 2 children to take in the same time is a struggle because they fight for my attention, they want to talk in the same time and if one feels he is not listened, he starts a tantrum on the streets. I try to learn them to take turns. How shall I organize? I feel that I m not organized, I don't know to approach this situation.

[@doctorshefali]

Thank you for sharing your concerns! That's a great topic for a future episode. For now, try to stay calm and practice turn-taking with your children. Please follow and share the podcast! 🌟

[@cecitorres2814]

Yes omigosh! The rawness of the story is so relatable and the way you communicate to the parent is both kind and direct to the point. I’m so grateful how you do not steer away from repeating your point directly in different ways and would not let parents get away with it. Give it to me straight! Love it! ❤but most of all the energy you emanate is compassion for the parents and ultimately saving every kids childhood from unnecessarily struggles! ❤

[@pemawang6961]

Amazing insight into parenting, real life teaching. So glad you are doing this podcasts. Thank you Dr Shefali.

[@doctorshefali]

Glad you enjoy it!

[@alliam4622]

Love it! It’s exactly what a parent needs

[@jash6760]

I am so glad you start these podcast.

[@doctorshefali]

Thank you! I'm glad you're enjoying them. Please follow and share the podcast! 🌟

[@janetphilbin-showingup7602]

I love this episode, really helped me connect with what is really important - connection!

[@doctorshefali]

I'm so glad you loved it and found it helpful! Please follow and share the podcast! 🌟

[@OL1820]

God bless your patience Dr. Shefali! Thank you for all you do. I love your work and wisdom whole heartedly. ❤️

[@doctorshefali]

Thank you so much!

[@creyes9702]

I would love to hear you and parents talk about the older kids as well (ages 20-24). I feel like that would be an amazing and absolutely helpful topic.

[@doctorshefali]

Great idea!

[@creyes9702]

I feel like for me these ages has given me even more stuff that has invited me to keep deep diving into myself as a woman and a mom to figure out more about myself and how I present my true self on a daily. To be honest I don’t think the growing up part ever stops for us, lol and I can honestly say that I’m finally cool with that! Lol😂. Resistance has never worked for me lol 😂.

[@PoPhamsdotter]

Dr.Shefali is so wise. Made me cry.

[@doctorshefali]

Thank you for your kind words. Please follow and share the podcast! 🌟

[@1985grandcan]

Dr. Shefali skillfully guided the conversation, leaving me with goosebumps. Her experience and confidence shine through. Truly beautiful inside and out.

[@doctorshefali]

Wonderful

[@hiphop2987]

Thank you for the podcast ❤

[@doctorshefali]

You're welcome! Please follow and share the podcast! ❤🌟

[@cathyzoccoli2221]

So excited for your new podcast! As one of your coaches, it makes us better coaches and individuals to watch you do your thing! Love your message and energy. Thank you for everything you do ❤

[@doctorshefali]

Love that!

[@Loveandlight-Iam]

This is wonderful. Thank you Dr Shefali! My 13 year old has had periods of sleeping in his own room but now he always wants to sleep with one of us. And we are just going with it .

[@doctorshefali]

Thank you! It's great that you're following what works best for your family. Please follow and share the podcast! 🌟

[@creyes9702]

Love it!! I'm so happy about the new podcast!! I love how organic it is! Your work has been a way of life for me and my kids. I thank you and they thank you. Everything is not always perfect, its an ebb and flow for sure as with all of life's moments, but what I know is that its healthy, its authentic and balanced.

[@doctorshefali]

Thank you for your kind words! So happy to hear the podcast resonates with you and your family. Please follow and share! 🌟❤️

[@sophie8v8]

So helpful! ❤ 🙏

[@doctorshefali]

I'm glad you found it helpful! ❤🙏

[@LotusSun639]

Hi Dr. Shafali I’m glad more are talking about the importance of this with our children. I have 5 ranging from oldest 31 to youngest 10. I have always approached going to my child at night as soon as I heard. I also with 3 girls needed me more to sleep along side them as they fell asleep from birth. I breastfed all my children on demand. This is something I felt innately to do as a mother even though no one around me practiced this or flowing with nature. I did so without sharing that with others as they had the mindset of the “western culture” belief. I felt a more stronger pull towards nature and my heritage over going along with Western culture. It was hard at times to stand alone but I’m glad I did bc of what is being said about this area for our children. I can say that my girls have very strong wills, speak for themselves and follow their own paths. The men felt very loved as well. Thank you❤

[@doctorshefali]

Thank you for sharing your journey and insights! It's wonderful to hear how you've followed your instincts. Please follow and share the podcast! ❤🌟

[@suzannemarambio1]

such great advice, this is so true, our western culture is so quick to cut the cords but the key to conscious parenting is to re connect and surrender

[@doctorshefali]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@TeraChantelle]

This is evolutionary wisdom for Western parents❤️

[@doctorshefali]

Thank you! Glad you found it valuable. Please follow and share the podcast! ❤️🌟

[@AnthiPsallida]

Hello ! If mom sleeps with children, then what about the father ? What about the couple ? Don”t you think their relationship is going to be affected ? Thank you

[@SarahJonesDecor]

The key to what she said is parents have their own agendas. This is mean they have expectations and it lead them to frustration later. I don’t have kids and I think raising children is so damn hard and most people think they should have two , three children to fill up their own needs and happiness. I honestly don’t get it as I see challenges more than happiness in parenting. 😅

[@doctorshefali]

Parenting can indeed be challenging, and it's important to recognize that. Thank you for sharing your perspective! Please follow and share the podcast! 😅🌟

[@lailabegum7338]

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[@Mr_Fbro]

I think dad could sleep beside the child also for that connection. Dad's can have that maternal energy too. Making a pregnant woman do that seems a little cruel.

[@doctorshefali]

Great point! Dads can definitely have that nurturing energy too. Please follow and share the podcast! 🌟

[@analozada9475]

I’m glad I don’t have kids. 😬😅

[@doctorshefali]

That's okay! The podcast has insights for everyone. Please follow and share! 😅🌟

[@analozada9475]

@@doctorshefali Absolutely! I was thinking out loud! 😬 I love your videos. They’re quite informative and educational. Specially to us psychologists in training. 🤓☺️