What Does It Mean To Project? A Psychological Defense Mechanism

[@AeriaGl0ris]

Yes, please talk more about defense mechanisms!

[@LUrzidil-rn7nd]

make them to get activated at people, with your vomiting of, attacking with lies :D :D :D

[@Azure888]

Thinking of projection as a defense mechanism was revolutionary for me, and really helped me deal with a family member that really does it A LOT.

[@wildewildestrawberries]

She's brilliant. She takes huge ideas and makes it digestible to the rest of us.

[@alinw-n7t]

The thing is without considering the genetics, no one is born with self hatred, negative self talk or mental illnesses. If someone keeps destroying how you perceive yourself verbally all the time, in time, it's easy to believe these words instead of what you knew was true. So it's all in her head but others were in the first place.

[@hunnybadger442]

Mental illnesses do have a genetic base... Im adopted and had a great childhood... But Im still bipolar and im pretty sure my bio mom was bipolar and im pretty sure my daughter's bipolar... There are mental illnesses you can gain through trauma... But some of the really difficult one's that are life long you're definitely born with... There's no triggering event... They just seek up one you... But they do drop hints if you can spot them.. But having creeps spout a bunch of b.s. at you does not help either... Especially if you're already vulnerable...

[@alinw-n7t]

@@hunnybadger442 That's so true. 👏🏻

[@sekenamcmurren2217]

@@hunnybadger442 Facts!🗣

[@daniela9488]

Elizabeth Moore yes! There’s even some hypothesis that even trauma can be inherited because of how it might affect gene expression.

[@SarahDunlap]

@@daniela9488 Agreed. If you've ever read or watched Sapolsky, he talks about (so many things) but the seconds, minutes, hours, days, and years before a decision is made and all that happens in the brain before that point. We come to find out very little is actually decided by "us" in that moment.

[@Hyderagean]

I really hope the people in your life tell you every single day how much they love you, because you're a freakin blessing to the world. Thank you so much for working so hard and continuing to work hard both on and behind the scenes every single day. You're a real hero.

[@badandboujeee]

The internal dialogue, the drama, the twist at the end where you find out real motivations. These fictional scenarios are so gripping!

[@Chicobliss]

The key to healing from personality disorder is to be aware of the self unconscious thought that we all have. Meditation was a amazing tool to become self aware of these negative thoughts that make us trigger and go through another circle of paranoia episode.

[@MaddesG1]

People with mental illness can often psychologically project when they feel stuck or are suffering in their mental health and having a crisis. I've seen this happen a lot. I had took my own advice in the comments after ruminating about issues for years. I have decided to finally get real help for my neurological disorder.

[@Sharon-sw7mr]

People without mental illness project. It's an individual thing, not a mental illness thing.

[@MaddesG1]

@@Sharon-sw7mr You are right, anyone can really. I'm just saying from the perspective of someone who is mentally ill when it becomes unmanagible you can often project or blame others for stuff uk. It can be hard to be totally accountable for your actions anr faults when you deal with any sort of thing really not just from a mental illness. Its human nature when stressed to outright dismiss something if it pertains negatively to you or you make the negative association uk. Everyone can find themselvez projecting but few will actually call out their own bs to try and learn not to default to that uk.

[@mnamna9039]

You are one reason why I’m doing psychology as a degree because the way you explain these makes me hopeful for helping other people as well thank you!

[@toothpastehombre]

I can't say enough how helpful your clear, concise and compassionate content has been in (our) lives, esp lately. Learning how elements of mental health work and interact inside of ourselves, and in the world/relationships around us, gives incredibly valuable perspective. Sometimes a shift in perspective can be not only inspiring or healing, but life saving. Thank you

[@curlsgalore5521]

I told this to my mother last week & since she won't listen to me she should go see a professional that way she can speak with out feeling judged. It won't happen and I'm done trying to get a 61yr old to grow up. Thanks for helping in my mental growth. 💖💖

[@lorirees4248]

Yes to hearing more about defense mechanisms. One thing I do is clam up or reveal very little to those I feel are judgmental or self-righteous. I feel very uncomfortable talking about my life - small or large details.

[@Ron-SA]

Thank you Dr Marks. This video was like it was made just for Me. I took a lot away from this. I did not see the connection regarding my own self hate. And knowing that that I need to bring my own self acceptance and love up to a place where I no longer allow people's criticisms to pierce my soul. Thank you so much.

[@wanjikuwainaina3091]

That was exactly my takeaway!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Excellent takeaways. Best wishes to both of you 👍🏽

[@Ron-SA]

@@DrTraceyMarks Thank you so much Doctor.

[@Ron-SA]

@@wanjikuwainaina3091 I appreciate you saying this . knowing that it isn't something exclusive to me is very comforting. Often the mind and thoughts can be so convincing that it's an issue unique to myself and brings about even more shame and self condemnation because you feel like you're the cause of all life's problems. These videos and the cognitive behavioural therapy Dr Marks mentioned do help in recognising that it isn't normal and that these thoughts aren't always true. And I've learnt that often I catastrophize a situation. There's much work to do, but you're not alone. And neither am I. As the Bible so correctly says As well that we must "take every thought captive to Christ. " Grace, peace and best wishes

[@wanjikuwainaina3091]

@@Ron-SA Amen! And it says that you have the power to take every thought captive. And that there is NOW (not tomorrow) NO CONDEMNATION for those who are in Christ Jesus. He is where our help comes from. We need to know these things to be absolutely true, because they are. PS: my first name is Grace ☺️

[@cw3086]

Developing a string sense if self is really hard to be able to stop projecting and to protect yourself when someone is projecting on to you.

[@pearlvader]

Doctor Marks, your knowledge and willingness to share this knowledge is appreciated. For a future topic, can you explain why people live in the "past" instead of the " here and now"? Is there a condition for this? Thanks

[@lenebrantley221]

That's one I will like to watch. I don't understand people that are just stuck on the past.

[@InfinityCalling]

Most don't know they are stuck in the past, repeating the same patterns, until they become conscious they get re-cycled. Some people call it karmic loops.

[@jaybyrd3240]

I think if there was some sort of trauma its likely to repeat or replay the situation ( usually PTSD). When my best friend died at a very young age his Mother was never ever the same. Some things I dont think people get over. Maybe your asking about people that constantly dwell in the past. That would be an interesting talk. I would love something on re-training the brain to truly let go ( then sometimes I think we could almost get into a religious/God discussion.....sorry for the ramble!!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks @Maria D for the suggestion. I’ve saved it to my list

[@echase416]

Being ‘stuck in the past’ is called trauma.

[@ninawilliams9759]

As a therapist I appreciate your psychoed videos. I've shared them with my clients and find them to be a great tool for my own learning as well as theirs. Thank you for making this video, I would love to learn more about defense mechanisms!

[@アシキン]

It's hard to be honest to your own self. But my therapist once told me that I should own not only my positive feelings but also my negative feelings. Now that I understand that owning my negativities is actually a positive thing, it helps a lot. There's no need to feel ashamed to acknowledge that we feel or think negatively sometimes. What matters is that how we would navigate the emotions and thoughts skillfully after first acknowledging them. To have both positive and negative emotions is to be a human. It's normal, it just means that we're human. That's what my thrapist told me.

[@jamesduke5373]

How in the world do your videos not have +1 mill views each?! This content is very underrated. Your videos are amazing resources and the presentation is spot on.

[@emilywindle7973]

You explained projection and examples head on! I have enjoyed recently discovering you, and understanding the Psychological approach as to why we do things. I look forward to more videos!

[@austriaperez497]

Hi, I'm new discovering you, but im very glad i did...Love your videos...They are very educational and awesome

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks so much Austria!

[@BarbaraMathews-y6x]

I've been binging on your videos today. You explain things so well! Thank you!

[@intentionallyqueen.478]

🙃 I bet Dr. Marks is contributing to a better understanding of ourselves and others.

[@brianarbenz7206]

I like her work.

[@noorahmed6193]

You are awesooooooooooooooooooooooooooome...... You even don't know how much we are benefitted from you and your videos...... Dr. Thanks thanks thanks thanks thanks thanks

[@eboogieex18x]

GIVE US MORE ON THE DEFENSE MECHANISMS!!!! You’re incredible, thank you! ♥️

[@Vic-jw7vb]

Asking questions to understand the unconscious mind - that is why journaling and writing your thoughts out to put language to thoughts that can be processed and worked on .... thanks Tracey

[@JustDr.S]

I'd like to hear about all the different types of defense mechanisms people use. As insecure as I am, this one did not apply to me. I feel better when a loved one, or a friend accomplishes something that makes them happy or proud. I could be using a different defense mechanism that I'm not aware of. Thank you, I love your channel and this was quite interesting. ❤

[@Q269]

6:30 I remember being told, excessively, that "People don't really hate their family; they're just saying that." It takes on a twisted meaning after awhile.

[@chinookvalley]

Mom would tell us kids, "Your dad loves you, he just doesn't know how to show it". We knew Dad was running around on Mom, and we knew he did not love us. So what kind of projections and fear was my mom living with? Sad when your family lies to protect their own feelings, while gaslighting everyone else.

[@Q269]

@@chinookvalley It's not common for people to realize what kids pick up on... Life is buried in the fog. Oh man, I remember walking 3 whole blocks from home to the school play at like 8pm, and the teachers in charge asking where my Mom was; me telling them she was working... and then hearing them "whisper" to each other about how she's probably too drunk to show up... I learned A LOT about the difference between what is said to you, and what is said about you.

[@chinemazing]

I’ve literally been talking about projection a lot lately and then I see you just posted this, wow.

this is gold. so glad to have found you on here. i love psychology as it helps me stay self aware and grow

[@DrTraceyMarks]

I’m so glad you found me to

[@athab8256]

I always enjoy and am impressed by your presentations, and I really enjoy how you enunciate difficult medical terms; words I would find hard to say. Thanks!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

So glad it’s helpful AthaB!

[@annamarie3886]

@@DrTraceyMarks hello. what are the common questions you ask to make unconscious behaviors conscious? and how would you know that you overusing defense mechanism? as stated, overuse of defense mechanisms will lead you to psychological dysfunction. please enlighten me on this part. thank you so much.

[@tornedsky]

for me, idk if this counts as projection or not, but one defense mechanism I use is to search for people's "weaknesses" so that I can feel slightly better than them. of course I do this all in my head though. but it makes me feel like a really bad person, and definitely adds to the stress. I am highly neurotic: I have low self-esteem, social and general anxiety issues, plus perfectionism combined. life has been real hard with this mental condition. some days I just can't stop crying and beat myself so much. :(

[@Sangeetha96Sarma]

You are truly incredible. How well do you explain everything?! Thanks for making this video.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks so much SangeetaSarma!

[@evian.]

Yes, please ! More of defence mechanisms:) thank you

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks. Will do

[@Thenbafan45]

Can I tell you something? I did a search for what is neurosis to educate myself and found your video. Now I’m hooked! Your voice tone and cadence are splendid. I can listen to you talk for days. Please tell me you’re single.

[@joseAlvarado-xe8ss]

Today I was thinking about this video lol I watched your old video (Stop Projecting) and I keep thinking about it . It’s so relatable I am the King of Projecting 😅 I read everyone’s mind it’s insane .

[@cleft_3000]

Yes please I would like to hear more. In my case specifically as a child who’s mother didn’t know where I ended and she began. As an example, she would often tell me I looked like a “streetwalker” when I left the house if it wasn’t in clothes she would approve of. It was almost like it was an affront to her own personal reputation.

[@EnjoyingYourLifeWithJesus]

Excellent Dr. Tracey! Yes please can you speak more on this. Thank you for your knowledge & expertise, thank you for sharing. God bless you, you are helping so many!

[@ebunni5862]

I was trying to tell my brother that he was being a jerk and he accused me of projecting. No, brother, you're being emotionally abusive and manipulative.

[@Kaybye555]

This! I hate people saying that everytime we lash out it's projecting. Or that everytime you don't like something about another person is because you hate that about you 🙄

[@ebunni5862]

@@Kaybye555 would that be them projecting that you're projecting? Projecting inception?

[@Kaybye555]

@@ebunni5862 right 😂 never ending loop of projection

[@kppk1396]

Please please please make more videos like this Dr. Mark's. I just became aware that I do a lot of projecting. I would love to have more information and tips on this subject. Your videos have made a phenomenal impact in my life my health and my mental health. Thank you!

[@bribaxterherrick9599]

Good morning Dr Marks! Thank you for another awesome, engaging video

[@DrTraceyMarks]

My pleasure and thank you!

[@monaebreak561]

After experience the horrors of depression I project it on my loved ones, always asking if they're feeling down as soon as they are a bit quiet or tired. 🤔

[@STILLSTANDING23913]

Clear, concise, and precise. Not emotional, but very easy to understand and identify with. Thank you. Be blessed.

[@maluribeiro68]

I came here trying to find out why I project positive emotions on others. But perhaps it's not projection. I had two long term relationships with jealous men who projected their insecurities on me more as you describe, they automatically assumed I was flirting with others, that I was dissatisfied. I can see that. I've been insecure in my life, but actually that was not the biggest issue, It was more low self-worth when I should have expected better quality of suitors, or chosen from better quality of people. I always settled for mediocrity without waiting & looking for better suited people in terms of interests, integrity, exposure ... But what happens to me is that I (think) project love, connection, bonding onto the other person, I think they feel the same as I do. I plan and fantasize with doing beautiful things together, I like to give, to please, to think of the person and give them what they may need from affection to material things, I think they're better than what they are, I sublimate mediocrity. I think I began not to do that as much now that I'm older, I'm well into my 50s, but if I'm smitten with someone, I go back to idealizing them. I thought that was projection, projecting what I feel about life & others, but I guess that might not be called projection. So I don't know what it is, why I idealize and think others feel the same ... I come from trauma, from much trauma and seeing people suffer around me, I don't know why I "give"others deeper emotions about me that they have ... I'm not sure most men can love a real woman, I think most love an idea of woman, or of that woman, there, I guess they're projecting on them a set of expectations, then they're disappointed with the real woman .. I think people are better than they are, my naivitee is to the point of stupidity, then there's disappointment, but I've been able to love a few people despite their flaws, I thought that was growing up, but the truth is, I feel in love with the wrong people over and over again, never properly loved, ... so how do I find the middle term where of course, nobody is perfect, I should love someone beyond their flaws, but on the other hand, how not to project emotions, and see people for what they really are from the start ... I think I'm beginning to do it but it'd take decades for me to get conscious and good at detecting what I'm doing ...

[@jamyllemendes8588]

Omg I'm so tired now after Journaling, praying, crying watching your videos. I need to heal and get better. 3 years and from time my traumas came back to hunt me😬

[@andrewdrewandy]

mine never leave they just hide for a little bit to tease me into thinking im fine all of a sudden

[@violetlove1893]

Oh my goodness, Dr. Marks!!! You're awesome. Have you been reading my journal? Secretly reading my thoughts? Due to my miracle child I was bedridden. Then I had to have a c section so I was late in losing the weight. After that, I was In a car accident and live with back problems so the weight just stayed. And add relationships with verbally abusive men, I just gave up. This video explains so much. How can I lose the "not good enough" mentality??

[@JustDr.S]

I don't know what Dr. Tracy would say, but my situation is a lot like yours. I went for counseling. It became about asking myself the question: Not good enough for who? Whatever little I could do, to be the best version of myself, that's what I did. I couldn't do much, physically, due to my health, but I tried doing the best I could. I stopped telling myself I wasn't good enough, and all the other negative things you could imagine. I had to give myself a break, and NOT compare myself to anyone else who was fit and fabulous! Because I'd always be on the losing end of that, and it was not a fair comparison. I had to stop blaming myself. I had to stop blaming others. I had to learn to accept my limitations, and only be better at what I was able to. It took a long time. But, it helped me. I learned to try really hard to be better than 'good enough' for MYSELF. Nobody counts more than you do. Nobody's opinion of you should make you feel not good enough. Your opinion, is all that matters. Then work with the other stuff, like relationships. Was hard, but it can be done. No matter how small the steps you take are. You ARE good enough, you just don't know it, yet. Good luck, and good health to you. ❤❤❤

[@violetlove1893]

@@JustDr.S aww that's so kind of you. Thank you for the encouragement. I will try to get back to "wanting" to live life happily instead of focusing so much on my health issues. Thank you 😇

[@JustDr.S]

@@violetlove1893 I'm really glad to hear that. I had to do the same, with my health issues. ~hugs~ ❤

[@violetlove1893]

@@JustDr.S hugs back at you. P. S. I just saw your picture and you're beautiful. I'm not gay, but if I see something beautiful, I make sure to let the person know. Sometimes we need to hear it to remind ourselves that we're not the horrible thing others make us feel like. You're no Igor. You're a snow white.

[@dlppl3407]

I would love to hear more about that content. The example of using food as a weapon against someone was incredible!!!!!! More of that!!! You are the best!

[@DrJustininJapan]

REWATCHED three times!! Maybe one of your best videos ever. Your explanation centering on self-responsibility and focusing on improving oneself over blaming others if excellent. Thank you for explaining this in such a clear way

[@g0d5m15t4k3]

Dr. Marks! Your video is so good! I love the deep dive. To stop Projecting: "Work through your own negative self talk".

[@yvetteblalock]

Dr. Marks, I ABSOLUTELY LOVE how you tell stories to explain mental health topics. It captures my attention (because I love a good story lol) and it makes it feel less like an abstract concept and more like something that I can apply. Thank you for such phenomenal teaching! See you next Wednesday! 😀

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks a lot Yvette. I like to help people “see” things. I love stores and examples too. 😊

[@cgweagles]

Wish you had a radio show segment to put these topics in the ears of listeners in the morning to educate them on mental health

[@JAE1324]

YESSSSS MY QUEEN ALSO GAVE A VOCABULARY LESSON!!! BLESS YOU DR MARKS

[@Sam-le1nl]

Hi Dr. Marks! Your channel has been enormously helpful for me and I wanted to thank you for creating this content🙏🙏 and yes, I would love to hear about other psychological defense mechanisms such as self-defeating which I've noticed exists in my own behaviour.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks Sam for your vote. I’m glad the content helps you

[@RE-hw4tt]

I've just found your channel. Thank you for the "real life" examples you give , it make more easier to understand and relate to another experiences.

[@fionakiely3505]

Thank you!!!! Really struggling with a new friendship that involves an extreme amount of projection.

[@kirkrichardson2795]

Thank You, Dr. Marks you help so many people with your videos Hope many blessings come your way, kirk

[@maryampharmd]

Love Love Love this video! Thank you so much for sharing! I've seen my own fair share of projection in the workplace and I've wanted to understand why for a while now. I realize that I cannot help heal this person's own issues. I've debated pointing them out, but it seems like it may just upset them more. I'm starting to think that maybe just privately letting them know about the resources available to them may help them the most.

[@echase416]

re 3:20. This is a gem. Wish more people understood it. Unfortunately people have to be ‘psychologically minded’, in order to grasp this concept. Creating and using ‘positive self-talk’ is vital, as our brain is like a computer which we are constantly re-programming.

[@aswanghalimaw]

Thank you dr for inspiring videos like this!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You're welcome Hunk!

[@lenebrantley221]

Dr. Mark, you are an amazing person and doctor. Thank you for sharing your expertise. I really appreciate you. ❤❤❤

[@privatemarked]

Like looking into a mirror, blaming the mirror image for what we see, then going around with the mirror and telling people to look how bad it is. The funny thing about this is when you turn the mirror around to let others see your reflection, all they can see is themselves that they in turn blame the mirror image.

[@chadwiley6917]

I do appreciate the clarity of your explanations on each topic. Thanks

[@SweetyShanice96]

You explain things so easily and articulately! I love your videos.

[@johncarty1939]

So what about a narcissistic parent projecting all of their attitudes onto their children and the children growing up with a shame. Or siblings projecting their inner core being onto each other by which the narcissistic parent or parents projected onto their children

[@jaybyrd3240]

I was going to say the same thing. When your brain is developing and that is all you hear your whole life, how do you get out of that mindset? I had a Mother like that. Best thing I did was cut her out of my life, yet I can still hear her saying her hate daily. Even in therapy its very difficult to conquere

[@kellymoi7959]

@@jaybyrd3240 affirmation videos are literally replacing cruel words spoken to me. They make me remember who I Know I am!! Loved and a very precious gift to my loved ones and this cold world. Fight fire with 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@lauragadille3384]

Good question. All I got was how disappointing I am to the family.

[@jaybyrd3240]

@@kellymoi7959 wish you a thousand thank you's ....and if I knew how to make a heart signal I would. Guess I'm too old for that. ...but thank you

[@lesliecas2695]

@@jaybyrd3240 emojis!💙❤️💜💛🧡💚

[@vulindlelamagagula7793]

I feel like people don't really realize how much of what we say is indicative of the world inside of us. whenever you become negative or positive it's a direct reflection of how you feel inside. and more often than not this is how you felt even before getting "triggered". so let's stop blaming others for our actions. our environments do shape us but once you become aware enough of this environment, letting it shape you into doing or saying negative things is a decision and this decision hurts you and everyone around you.

[@deerkeeper]

Thank you doctor. I learn more from your videos than I have in 3 years of grad school for my masters.

[@palumbog2]

please do all the defense mechanisms! I love your examples

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks Palumbog2! That's the plan then.

[@beccabooer]

Wow! That was extremely helpful! Thank you! I do this a lot and didn’t even realize it! 💖 Your videos are very helpful!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You're so welcome!

[@bigrplayer4070]

Dr. Marks, I cannot thank you enough for tackling the viewer's question and this topic - this has been eye-opening. I appreciate you and all you do!

[@Jordan-pf9ws]

I'd like to see more videos like this. I find them very useful for self reflection.

[@saraht8474]

Yes, i would like to hear more on other defense mechanismes. Thank you!

[@andreasluxbr]

Please, do talk more about defense mechanisms!! And thanks for your work, we appreciate it!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You’re welcome Andreas! 😊👍🏽

[@lisatuckett6386]

This was really great. I’d love to hear more about other defense mechanisms. It’s also interesting to see how different therapy approaches handle the same subject, like you did on CBT and psychotherapy. Thanks!

[@michaelineshadman844]

You are such a gift to the global community. Your professional insight inspires change and understanding to so many of us.

[@nataliewaldrop4894]

Wow...thank you....exactly what I needed to hear before I go to see my therapist with my mom to mend some fences this week. Can you make a video about gastoparesis? Bedtime procrastination?

[@MaddesG1]

Thank You Dr. Tracy Marks for making me realize some of my issues. Your chanel is a god send to those troubled and who need to know the real signs of when to seek real help. Thank you again, so much.

[@Linda2]

I would very like to hear and learn about these things. It resonates in me strongly Thankyou Dr. Tracey for your help.

[@Christine-j7n]

You helped me to be able to see what a friend was doing to me . Recognizing that makes what she did feel less painful. You also helped me to recognize it in myself. Gave me something to think about . Do I project ? Lol . Maybe all humans do ? It’s a good thing to recognize. Imagine all the pain and turmoil we could bypass if we just knew what was happening.

[@DivaonaDollar]

Thank you for your videos. I love how you explain things and provide examples in a way that I can understand

[@tifftreads]

I unfortunately experienced this with a man I cared about. He continuously told me that I’d ruined our relationship after his erratic behavior and impulses actually ruined it. I was actually trying to repair it. To know that he projected onto me because his emotions/thoughts felt unacceptable is nice to know but it is painful. Likewise I’d tell him I wasn’t his “type” because I was overweight and attractive but didn’t have great self esteem and he was very fit and attractive. ❤

[@gtorr47]

4:52 Thank you for clarifying that. A coworker tried to mansplain why unconscious was wrong and subconscious was correct. I let him think he was right 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@jchase5158]

Thank you so much for your help.🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You’re welcome

[@Sharon-sw7mr]

This video is very helpful to me. Thanks again Dr. Tracey Marks! How about a video about fending off an attack in a healthy and mature way? I don't know how to do this. My mom has Narcisstic Personality Disorder and I've lived into middle age compulsively compliant. I'm becoming my own person later in life.

[@acertree1980]

I'd love to hear more about projection such as "can someone work on this by themselves?" If a person keeps meeting the same toxic/narsasistic person over and over again in different relationships. How is that person a mirror of their own projections? Or am I confusing two different concepts??

[@icecrystal3255]

Yes, I'd like to learn more of this type content. It's fascinating. Plus, projection is really rampant in society and individuals right now.

[@seymorepencilart]

Great video! Thank you. Your explanation of the difference between subconscious and unconscious was the only explanation I’ve heard of the difference between those two words.

[@Ikigai747]

SPOT ON ! GREAT EXPLANATION, THANK YOU FOR POSTING!!!

[@UmSureWhatever]

This is extremely helpful for the ones being projected onto... A special thank you for this one.

[@cloudcat0]

I love that you talk about the nuances here. There is so much going on under the surface in our thoughts and core beleifs that we have to look at and work on gradually. A therapist can really help us see what's underlying that we may not be aware of, and help us work through it and track progress.

[@mkxv1]

Wonderful examples! Please do talk more about psychoanalysis, it is a neglected theme but so important! Thank you so much!

[@icystorm9968]

Yes! I'd love to hear your thoughts on psychodynamic therapy!

[@SoleEtLuna]

Mulțumim!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks Happy Bear for your generosity! ❤️🙏🏾

[@Stephanie-yr5du]

This is like eating food that’s so good for my soul. I appreciate so much the content you provide as a mental health professional ! You’re a blessing 💜🙌🏻

[@DrTraceyMarks]

So glad to be nourishing! Thanks Stephanie

[@mrorange159]

Wow your videos are so rich with useful advice and information. Thanks again.

[@hamen03soft]

best sense of *style* ... I hope you are proud of yourself, because I am!

[@augustaseptemberova5664]

I'm a little confused, because I thought to project means assuming/interpreting someone else's words, actions, mental state etc. within one's own frame of reference. I never thought that has to be connected to negative internalized stuff. Example: "What do you mean, you don't want a bday party? _Everybody_ loves bday parties. You're gonna get one anyways, and I promise you're gonna love it!!" I'd argue this is a kind of projection without negative internalized stuff. As a person with autism, I often feel that people without autism project their abilities and enjoyments on me, not out of any negative internalization, but sometimes out of an intent to do me smth good (party, spontaneous visit) and almost always out of forgetting that I have limits that they don't have (spontaneous changes of plans, unpunctuality, well-meant advice "why don't you 'just' do " where will likely send me into a meltdown etc.). In turn, I project too, for example, when I see someone being sad, my instinct is to comfort them by leaving them alone - because loneliness, peace and quiet comforts me, when I'm upset. And I did act like that for a long time until I got social competence training that taught me that most people like a hug when they're sad. I always called these situations projection. Is there a different word for this?

[@chillgaming650]

This was very helpful, thank you. I understand this a lot better and I can change this behavior.

[@MatthewOhioKettering]

Projection is pretty cool! Thanks for the video!

[@sweetlaughter78]

Your videos have helped me realize even more about myself and the relationships I keep. Thank you!

[@TravelingPhilosopher]

Yes please I would like to learn more about self-defense mechanisms! Keep up the incredible work! :)

[@evenfrivold3033]

Thank you for sharing! for me its money at the time, luckily I am changing career and will make allot more money. Now I can get my own luxury place and move on with my life. It is very positive to observe Your self. I have done allot of mindfullness so allot people say negatively just goes away like dust. About saying something negative to a partner, family member or friend can hurt thier self esteem. Some years ago when I was younger, my mother who did not work, and had a injury. I was working and getting in a little money with my father, I told her that all she do is just sitting home doing nothing. It may not be projecting, but it really got her on her own self esteem. So now I try being positive and encourage her to become a clothing designer, wich she has allways dreamt of. She has declined becouse she cant do it becouse of age, physical health etc. But for all I know, some spark can come and she will pursue her dream. Thank you for youre warmth. Sending good toughts :)