Paranoid Personality Explained - When EVERYTHING is Suspect

[@shadrach6299]

I always thought my sister was weird bc she was so paranoid. Then she told me how much she was picked in as a child by her teachers and other students. It’s sad and I understand the problem now. Never bully or taunt others. The damage lasts. I will never understand why a teacher would pick on such a cute, loving little girl.

[@embrace7052]

I had a similar experience... that could explain why i can somewhat relate to this personality disorder

[@aubreyj.tennant1123]

I had very similar experiences growing up. I would suggest it doesn’t start in early adulthood but early childhood. It gets diagnosed in early adulthood. Thanks for sharing.👍

[@universallove280]

Home school. Why any parent would allow a stranger to mold the brain of their small child is beyond me.

[@thefellowshipoeccentricfor3669]

@@universallove280 Because normal parents typically expect some openness between the school and the parents. But unfortunately a lot of parents are fucjn crazy like you

[@kimberlysmith697]

But the Dr. is saying the person thinks their being attacked. But their not being attacked. It's just what they see and hear. Maybe she wasn't bullied.

[@spicyleg6723]

im sittimg here and i cant stop crying because i finally understood why i am like this.. its been so hard for me and ive been very close to some bad mistakes but this brought a lot of clarity to me. thank you for this video

[@МихаилВолков-л2я]

Relax, it's not your case. With this disorder you're not supposed to believe some random dsm-5 copy-paste. And you will unlikely write such an excited comment for the profit of Google.

[@ivywang416]

yes me too,and the nice thing about that is we are aware of it now.. keeo going and be strong, i know we can survive this.

[@lildude6475]

bruh i’m right there with you.. i don’t even know who i am anymore…

[@Nazirdin]

@@МихаилВолков-л2я now you’re the perfect example for this, aren’t you?) you’re just on different levels, she’s looking for solution being problem oriented and you are looking for a shelter being feeling oriented. But don’t let yourself outburst negativity just for the sake of your fragile self - it’s not working)

[@elviram3360]

@@Nazirdin we aren’t all the same, even if we have the same illness or take the same meds

[@luciferiamoon7836]

This really explains how I feel about people everyday. I have felt like a target since I was young

[@Nikki-xx3gq]

Yea I don’t trust people don’t even like going outside

[@JohnDoe-su8nq]

Me to crazy

[@alessandraalchemia3863]

Omg same

[@athulkrishnanr6568]

Welcome to the club

[@bcass5579]

how to you manage these triggers? I struggle a lot with my reactions because of feeling like a target

[@cosmicbeauty5682]

So this is what I've been dealing with majority of my life. I was bullied as a child by family, neighborhood kids and so called friends. A childhood friend own cousin was literally bouncing a ball off my head while I leaned against the wall repeatedly. I couldn't understand why she was doing it. But things progressed into my adult years with authority figures and personal relationships. I could go on, but everything started in childhood and my teen years of ppl making fun and taunting me about everything to where I would intentionally not go to school now I avoid work and social gatherings of any kind. I want to be with ppl, but I feel disconnected and believe they're mocking me when I'm around. Thank you for this video

[@KAHHHH8548]

Be strong. I went through a very similar situation like you. I was constantly and consistently bullied by my bitch older jealous sister for the first quarter of my life. If that wasnt enough, my treatment from other people got worse and just evolved but stayed the same, always negative, by many people. I am a deeply unhappy, angry, hurt and rightly suspicious person.

[@ronaldinhogaucho5460]

If you feel people are looking at you then look back at then... people don't like to be "found out" while doing their thing. I believe you must put your past behind and try to take control of the situation. Yeah people are assholes and society is weird but you need to enjoy being outside/out without feeling threatened. Look at then back until they look away, you will feel much better.

[@JenWIL641]

But it sounds like you have been around narcissistic people. We all need assertiveness about us to force people to recognize our boundaries. Are you paranoid as this Dr is talking about or being bullied. Your isolation is warranted.

[@Bluemoonjellyfishh]

Thank you for sharing, me too my dear fellow human ❤

[@melissawalker7570]

Yes my brother and cousins did same my brothers friend would hit me over the head hard. Not only am I paranoid of everything but defensive and angry. As an adult if anyone comes for me I am aggressive, to the point where I scare myself at times. I am a slow work in progress but I have never not been betrayed by anyone but having said that I now understand it’s human nature so I expect it and am not disappointed, call me cynical that’s ok.

[@CosmicPsychonauts]

This explains my entire high school experience. Every time somebody would try to come up and make friends with me, I would always question their motives. This got to the point where I would just dismiss people's attempts to reach out, resulting in people finding me unapproachable.

[@kstancil11]

I do that now & I'm 52

[@mirandarikkitasker7087]

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[@DrWarman86]

Same but add relationships to it.

[@p.e.k.k.a1811]

I had the same problem but the problem with me was I never realised I had an issue in the first place.Everything seemed to be going wrong I didn't know what was going wrong.

[@queenbeemo42]

My mother was sooo much like this growing up. Always suspicious, people were always disrespecting her and thinking bad things. She was constantly,lashing out at family members for thinking bad things! As she got older, and she became a widow, she got involved more with her church and I swear to God it cured her! A lot of her suspicions and anxiety and feelings of inadequacy involved him unfortunately. Which was weird because he tried he be supportive of her in everything. Such a bad situation.

[@imenemana2475]

I've been with relationship with paranoid person for 7 years it's so difficult to handle and you have always to prove that you ars innocent in every situation until you feel exhausted

[@gracesutton6278]

My mom is like this. The accusations & the bizarre conspiracy theories were incredibly distressing

[@krisalvarez3784]

Wow. It's nice to not feel alone.

[@ankushri5218]

Samw

[@ankushri5218]

Same as always my mother How to contact u

[@iloveyoutubeshortskillme]

same w my dad, its hard

[@ankushri5218]

@@iloveyoutubeshortskillme hi how to contact u My whole home is stuck for this

[@doomergirl]

Living with this sucks. I’ve been extremely paranoid since childhood. Im so blessed to have a forgiving and understanding parter and family.

[@marisac66]

This is exactly how my mom was. I always put her in the narcissist personality disorder category but this describes her personality even more because she was a loving person when she wasn’t in her paranoid state. Thank you Dr. Marks♥️ Your vids are so valuable🥰

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You’re so welcome mermaid spirit. I’m glad this clarified some things for you.

[@maje4120]

I felt that... I was the same! I used to not want to be around her bcuz i labeled her a narc who was nosey lol but now i just see someone i gotta be a little patient with and her questions come from a paranoid or fearful mind not an evil one.

[@talitacristianee]

@@DrTraceyMarks hello Doctor! Is there any way we could talk?

[@jbnjugj3560]

Same

[@g.h.7661]

I understand that some who are thought to be narcs may have a different PD than previously assumed, and I’m not doubting your comment at all, but for y’all other folks who have a narc in your life who abuses you (or used to abuse you), please be *very* careful about making excuses for them! To folks with narcissistic parents, it is not up to you to diagnose, understand, therapize or fix your parents. It may make it easier on you to tell yourself they’re paranoid or something else and maybe that’s true, but if they’ve abused you there is no excuse for that. None at all.

[@sherrie9528]

I became exhausted with my sister’s highly sensitive personality. We were best friends … until we weren’t. Her decision, though. I grew weary of the marathon phone calls after family events where she would dissect every comment and gesture she interpreted as a slight against her. She struggled keeping friendships and husbands. She had so many secrets. The day I finally confronted her, she lashed out at me like never before. Brought up every past wrong I had done against her. I saw her behave this way with others which is probably why it took me 45 years to finally have the courage to say something. I was afraid of her. It’s been 10 years since we last spoke. The family is split. She hates some of us so much that she refused to attend our mother’s funeral. My life has a lot less drama now. I only wish she could see this in herself and get treatment. She exhibits every characteristic outlined here.

[@momofro1819]

sounds like you miss your sister

[@ClassicB3bituh]

Wow!! This is terrible. I know deep inside you still love her, although it was the best thing to stay away because it would have just continue to hurt you. Thanks for sharing your experienced with us. I just realized that one of my roommates have this personality disorder. She's always thinking that me and the other roommate talk about her all the time. It is sad because I love her, but the constant need for re-assurance and constant accusations makes it so difficult to be around her.

[@mexican_wbc9946]

Damn I believe I deal with this & it’s always been hard to distinguish what’s real & what’s in my head but as of recently I’ve decided I’ll let people talk bad abt me if they want because that says more abt their character than mine but I’ve also learned to trust my judgment on who not to trust which is usually people I see a lot of flaws in such as lying or manipulative, gossiping ect… but because of that I’ve also blocked off a lot of people besides the few I trust & I’ve made peace with it by embracing my loner image but now this makes me question if I’m doing it the right way

[@mexican_wbc9946]

For example one of my co workers, I really get a long with but I don’t feel he respects me or things of me in the same way so i detached when I really considered him a friend

[@pc_hmk2204]

​@@mexican_wbc9946people will always have to say anything without having proper information. They especially thinks people like us who don't always be normal with others are at blame. They are more in no.s and always pick on people who are different from them. And if you give them reaction then they will call you drama king/queen. But never acknowledge their own problematic behaviour.

[@flosotall3041]

I have been experiencing this disorder for 10 years now. But couldn’t understand what it was. Being suspicious and mistrusting of people thinking that people are always out to get me. This could happen at anytime and any situation. I think it may have a connection with the child hood trauma that I will experienced as a child. Thank you for explaining the concept. What a relief. Thank you Dr Tracy Marks for sharing such powerful, mind freeing information.

[@justinvenegas8669]

I grew up in the lower east side of Manhattan, I dealt with what I realize now a lot of trauma. Drugs, violence, abusive bf to my mother and lastly someone trying to take my life. I escaped at 24, to live with my grandmother. Now at 34 years old, a husband and a father, I see now how this trauma has affected me and has followed me long after these instances. It pains me to acknowledge that I’ve become this suspicious character in my neighborhood and all the people that tried to hurt me are still hurting me. I am strong, I am faithful, and this will not consume me. I’m a loving father, a loving husband, and a hard worker. I will overcome this. Always give someone the benefit of the doubt because that person can always be hurting.

[@HiroNguy]

You're *not* crazy, rather you actually see that there are harmful people out there to watch for. Congrats on breaking free of the toxic culture.

[@ronaldinhogaucho5460]

Let me tell you that most people have their guard down at all times and believe the word is good. You have a family and have seen the horror of a failed society. You are not bad or crazy, you are guarded and it is ok. It is not ok when it is draining you and causing negatively effects in your life. Be suspicious of others, most people have an agenda but if you find good decent people in your life you must do what you don't want done to you.

[@scratchypoos]

thanks i felt crazy but being able to say “im just being paranoid” helps me feel more grounded

[@UnashamedCaliforniagirl]

I guess I can try doing that

[@marimolen3122]

As someone with this disorder, I will also mention there's often self-loathing that follows expressed paranoia outbursts (at least, in my experience). In addition, I agree that there can definitely be a correlation between the paranoid & crime, but I'd like to think there is hope in learning to control outbursts and being trained to follow healthy thought patterns. It's not always a bomb waiting to 'splode. Idk, while I am grateful for this video, the ending was a bit doom and gloom for me. Thankfully, my parents have been very supportive and have helped me manifest fewer overt symptoms, but the symptoms are always there. Normalizing public discourse about paranoia (instead of seeing it as something to fear/a ticking time bomb for crime/ "low self-esteem") would have definitely helped me when I started manifesting 9 years ago.

[@user-hi6nm9od2l]

The self loathing is crippling after the fact

[@emilynewhouse6577]

This gal is incredible. She is so quick to the punchline very straight to the point and very helpful.

[@Lifeletnothingholdudown]

Yes she is amazing at explaining what each disorder is so everyone can understand. Very helpful.

[@dwilkins1189]

Man this explanation was simply beautiful. you definitely have a teacher's spirit.

[@unsearchablethings8167]

When you say EVERYTHING is suspect, you are exact. I have to live with a spouse who has this illness. It is a terrible thing to have to deal with.

[@ronaldinhogaucho5460]

Is not an illness, is a disorder and perhaps you did not help at all.

[@EMVelez]

@@ronaldinhogaucho5460Why are you blaming this person?

[@ronaldinhogaucho5460]

@@EMVelezyou must be crazy uh

[@EMVelez]

@@ronaldinhogaucho5460 crazy? You’re blaming the “crazy” person’s spouse. How is their spouse’s illness their fault? It isn’t.

[@ronaldinhogaucho5460]

@@EMVelez you must take care of yourself. Stop being crazyyyyy

[@narcabusevictimgermany9687]

I have this deeply hidden in me, but I healed parts of it yet don’t let anyone too close to me.

[@whaldoxd3295]

Your not alone

[@sladaras.9368]

Yes, my father had the paranoid personality! At the end of his life he made the hole family miserable, unfortunately; but the most interesting part nobody recognized his ilness. It was always just...'Nah, he's just a complex and difficult man'🙄

[@aveclasse17]

and they pass it on to their children :(

[@eddscall]

Yeah, I am going through that now

[@lal7103]

My mother has ppd as well, and she is about to die because of it, she used to say "Why seeing physiatrists? They cannot solve their own problems!"

[@salsashark8876]

This is exactly what I worry about, some days it's exactly what home feels like often

[@salsashark8876]

@@lal7103sometimes it's hard to open up to someone about these things be it a close friend, partner or a stranger (like psychiatrist, mental health worker etc), it's taken me over a decade to break out of the mindset and try to get help for mental health issues. And in all honesty it's been hell, trying to explain my mindset and thoughts, etc usually doesn't translate well especially with my partner. Trying to explain that I know my paranoia in alot of situations is obviously unfounded and I know to be untrue but that they will still grind away and eat at me. On top of that the worry that any of the mental issues will be used against me in future (have seen it happen to a few friends) . Just posting and saying this has been hard.

[@rhondakorber3660]

Hi! I have been watch you for a long time! I batter severe anxiety and panic attacks and of course have depression. I have been on medication for a long time but since my ovarian cancer, chemo 8 years ago is had gotten so much worse! I guess thrown into menopause with my issues is more than I can bare. After watching you, I finally have the courage to see a psychiatrist. I filled out the papers today. I m scared and it’s expensive but you have given me the courage to seek real help. Thank you!

[@rebelliousfineart8202]

I think my most recent ex girlfriend was the most extreme version of this personality I have really seen. She would ghost me for weeks and then send me a long message about all of these generalized feelings of distrust pointed in all directions. She eventually broke up with me and then later told me that she was convinced that I called the owner of some bank that she applied for and talked them out of hiring her. I felt a lot of things, you know? about all this. But... I really loved her, and it just sucks..

[@JenWIL641]

I feel sorry that you went through this, but just think. If she stayed with you she would blame everything on you as if you are trying to destroy her. Can you imagine the arguments that could become very irrational. Yikes!

[@rebelliousfineart8202]

@@JenWIL641 I would have derived consistent satisfaction from reassuring her and loving her with every once of my person. What sounds like a nightmare to you sounds like a reason to wake up in the morning to me.

[@MoongyrlGuru]

My 89 year old dad has this and is a Korean conflict war veteran with undiagnosed ptsd. He's made my family disappear by alienating and gaslighting. I am the youngest and only girl out of 4 older brothers. As heartbreaking this is, I still live with him and one of my brothers. He'll never be helped. Alcoholism runs in the family, and I have a permanent disability with mdd. I'm his caregiver and have no life because of him and my circumstances. I'm waiting for him to die in his sleep. I did one beautiful respectful thing for my 50th birthday this July, went on a solo vacay. I'm still hearing about it from him, not the positive aspect either but the money part. He controls what I spend so I have to lie to stay alive. I don't know how my mom put up with him. God bless her soul. Thank you for these videos. This one made me tear up because I recognize how his behavior has branched into me, and I don't like it. Please continue these videos as a psychiatrist is unaffordable, so you're my go to for advice. I also want to say, don't give up either. Even if I'm in my room alone for hours, I color, listen to music and play solitaire ony tablet. No one told me that at 50 years old that life could turn around in a positive manner but it sure takes patience, time and self respect.

[@zia4582]

I've always been really paranoid but I didn't know that this was a real thing. I thought I was some psycho. My parents yell at me for being like that. Thanks for this video.

[@juanitablanco2198]

The same here I am 100% sure the world is trying to take advantage of me.

[@Tmcsinger91]

I can relate to this as ive been in a lot of emotionally abusive relationships /trauma and I found this video very helpful

[@marc5972]

Same experience here

[@rachelsimbhu4383]

Me too ! From a kid to now @ 60yrs !!

[@stefanadolfspies]

i am in one right now

[@stefanadolfspies]

@Sani Sani I am in no relationship anymore. it took longer than expected but now i am free trying to heal

[@stefanadolfspies]

@Sani Sani thanks :)

[@mpress2609]

This definitely helps, ive been through bad situations with lovers,family members, and friends to the point where I have major trust issues and paranoid if people really have good intentions. I always have a side eye/paranoia towards people now.

[@qlg8574]

Thanks Dr. Marks for this video. My ex is that way and has a criminal past. Trusts no one and constant conversations or mini interrogations of imagine scenarios, it is toxic and exhausting. You can't get your footing or enjoy the strengths that the person have to offer. You are too busy constantly answering questions, defending yourself or trying to bounce back from an attack because their beliefs of you trying to do them harm even if just trying to have them acknowledge and be accountable

[@elviram3360]

Reading things over and over and over again blending in my mind. I don’t know which is c right

[@flosotall3041]

I am so glad to have come across this video. I now understand why I think the way that I do. I’ve been experiencing obsessive thoughts and ruminating for years that I literally believe the thoughts are real. Thank you for helping me to put my thinking into perspective. Thank you

[@SuzD0n]

This is spookily topical for me at the moment. I just broke ties with a close relative who is showing every single sign you mentioned. I just don't know what to do. I have my own mental health issues and she was hurting me too much. I want to be able to support her but there is no way she would ever accept an evaluation, she would see this as evidence of a plot against her. I think this is a more widespread problem than clinicians would ever see. It's a diagnosis that would directly feed into the person's beliefs that everyone is against them. How do people come to accept they hava problem?

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You’re right about clinicians not seeing this very much for the very reason you stated. It’s very hard for them to have insight that what they believe is off and the reason for their problems. It’s easier for them to see other people and other circumstances as the reason for their problems. So many times you just have to break ties with them.

[@lizannehein1561]

@@DrTraceyMarks hi doc so sorry to be such a nuisance hopefully you may answer this. I'm asking cause you so good and know alot môre then these people in the UAE. Does halleperidrols take away hallucinations and delutions I'm not sure what I have but will it that these away

[@JustMe-fs5wm]

High doses of antihistamines it's supposed to help. Make sure you realize what you're putting in your body, like coffee the most widely and highly used psychoactive drug. Good luck and God bless

[@AbsolutelyAbsolute]

I have diagnosed PPD and the biggest issue I had with accepting it, is the word "paranoia" when I heard the psychiatrist say this I instantly felt like he was victimising me, however when I took the time to look at it, it was right. my distrust (in my mind atleast) I don't ever start a situation with other people, but my evaluation of life is that everyone is going to hurt you at some point, cos people always do, i built a big fort and made myself very independent of others to avoid this for myself and for the sake of maintaining relationships as I find it extremely hard to accept being wronged. I am always living in the future planning what could happen how to avoid it, in this situation this person could do this or that, I can be at home alone and I am planning how to best avoid being in these nasty situations which end up with me being abused even when I have no idea who they identity of this person maybe. It's chronic and hurts my head. What I find extremely problematic too, is that a lot of the time these defences are up and a lot of the time, they serve their purpose...it would be nice to be wrong once in a while, it would make me feel a lot more sane.

[@SuzD0n]

@@AbsolutelyAbsolute I'm not a doc, but from what you're saying it sounds like you have been deeply wounded in the past, and I am wondering if your doc ever addressed the issue of trauma. Trauma feeds into so many types and experiences of mental distress, and you deserve to have a life where you can meet people without anxiety. Maybe that should be the focus when you next meet with your clinician?

[@Apple-ml3rz]

Wow you described my son. He is 21 and just got diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia. Best description on KZbin!

[@secondopinion53]

Wow... Doctor I have been listening to your videos for a while now.. I went to school for Psychology and Sociology! I have learned sooo! Much from you.. Thanks! You are definitely helping someone. I can definitely relate to this within a relationship.

[@irishmarie9892]

I relate to much of this personality. It probably stems from my childhood (doesn’t it always?), when I didn’t know whether my father would come home from work happy or incredibly angry. I learned to try to stay under the radar in a house of six kids. In adulthood, I’ve had multiple men cheat on me. When I had proof and confronted them, they’d always deny and then finally admit it but blame me lol. Were all those relationships a lie? It makes you question everything after a serious betrayal occurs. All of those experiences I had only created a storm of persistent distrust, to the point of where I don’t trust anyone or anything. I feel like I can only rely on myself because others always let me down. It’s affects all relationships, from family to friends to work. I’ve been single for almost 7 years now and not sure if I will ever be able to trust anyone again.

[@queenofyoworld]

I was diagnosed with this. Sometimes I overreact. I need to learn to deal with this. I have discovered things the truth. I will always be aware of my surroundings. I do forgive people hard to trust. I survived toxic family members that disrupted the process of my life.

[@paigemcdonald6443]

This helped me understand my mom SO much! Thank you so much for making this video!!!

[@skam5572]

Im not paranoid at people, im paranoid about my safety and always feel like my life is in danger. I guess im just always anxious.

[@JJH-jc1fg]

Thought I was the only one

[@BansheeKing22]

Stay alert, stay alive. I learned that at a very early age. Better to be paranoid and alive then not and dead.

[@MOLLYM3]

I’m just paranoid and convinced there’s cameras everywhere😀

[@a.k.4085]

Well actually.....there really are. They are not everwhere but they are in a lot of places, yes. I figure if i don't do anything wrong, I don't have anything to really worry about. I just try to do what is right.

[@eagenthorror]

@@a.k.4085 yeah theyre called security cameras, so you are correct.

[@peepdawg8995]

Samee😂😂😂😂

[@eagenthorror]

@@MOLLYM3 my comment? i didnt mean it, sorry. but rest assured cameras are usually only in public areas (stores, schools, intersections, etc) and most likely not in neighborhoods and most certainly not in homes. also rest assured that if they havent caught you doing anything by now then they probably dont care.

[@sageaizen6837]

damn my father is like this and it got us all exhausted

[@AOBxXxGAMELIFE]

I have this problem the things that are being said were actually things that has happened I was put down my whole life. So yes I would see someone calling me beautiful as buttering me up because it has happened. I feel this way because all of those things has happened way too many times for me to believe a person is genuinely nice to me. A person would be nice to use me for sexual favors or for money...things like that mess with your psyche so much where u don't know whose smiling in your face to use you or just playing u for boredom &when being verbally hurt by friends to family, coworkers and dr's is all u know. If you constantly receive negativity from people how do you know when a person is just being a genuine good person. The past makes u remember so you won't have to go through the pain again. I remember too much to the point there's patterns of behavior of individuals which I recognize as a threat or warning sign to isolate myself from the person,ppl or situation.

[@Zoegottiy]

I can relate to yuh 100% percent I’ve experienced some things where it just leads me to be paranoid idk who to trust My biggest issue is being asleep and having someone in the same household is hard While your asleep is the most vulnerable thing for someone to do something to u I def understand your pain Hate to say it but we have heal from it and can’t see evryone as a threat it’s hard I’m dealing with it now hard core

[@chowdhuryskitchenusa7531]

I am watching your all videos because someone very close of mine recently has been diagnosed with psychosis. 😢. Its very painful to watch him suffering. He doesn’t believe he has anything wrong with him, so stopped taking medication and Symptoms relapsed. We are all becoming stressed to see our loved one suffering. But Thank you. Your videos are very helpful. Hope i can make him watch you too.

[@JustMe-fs5wm]

Due to complex PTSD, my therapist said I was hypervigilant, 1st time I've heard that expression. I feel paranoid or hypervigilant with my narcissistic mother mostly.

[@KarmasAbutch]

Just Me same I also have cPTSD and excessive hyper vigilance... plus do work in a long-standing toxic work environment ... so this PD and what I have sound pretty much the same... I’m confused. Usually people really were trying to mess with me or breaking a boundary though and I always regret not listening to myself afterwards ... which sure doesn’t help with the trust issues and hyper vigilance 😬

[@TheStuntViking]

This sounds just like my wife. How are you dealing with your mother? I'm genuinely curious. My wife has a very unhealthy codependent relationship with her narcissistic mother.

[@JustMe-fs5wm]

@@TheStuntViking I keep my distance, set boundaries and stand by them. She has tried taking over my property and home, ran off my roommate that was helping me for room & board. I tried evicting her but covid put a stop to evictions. Now I've let her do what she wants & she is totally miserable and so am I. Trauma therapy is helping me get my thoughts, feelings and actions towards my goals in order. Good luck and God bless ✌❤

[@JustMe-fs5wm]

@@KarmasAbutch I always follow instinct. We have been trained to be aware cuza past experiences. When in doubt, straight up ask someone what their intention is or whatever. Stand strong with boundaries and check out trauma therapy! I love it! Its online right now but I think it's more comfortable. I let EVERYTHING out without feeling guilty. ✌❤

[@beatricebenitezsalgado]

This sounds like me I thought I was being insecure but really I was being paranoid.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

I’m glad you understand a little better now

[@deepuv9150]

Oh!!

[@1badombre82]

I have been feeling the same way

[@philipphilip3731]

What if we understand what if we dont we suffer every day until we lose everything. I cant relax and everyday is just awful. I cant escape my thoughts and my self and i feel like hell is inside me i hate. God is not good he is devil for creating people like me just to let us suffer alone.

[@1badombre82]

@@philipphilip3731 it's that fear of losing everything that puts us in that mind space I think. I'm not going to tell you to be more positive because that's all anyone ever tells me and it don't help but what does help me is asking myself why I feel this way. Often I come to the conclusion that I didn't have a good reason for feeling that way. Stay strong ✊

[@tjszuch]

When you got to the explication of “girlfriend is always accusing you of cheating” you explained my now ex-girlfriend and our relationship to a T. She would constantly accuse me of cheating, but her accusations were fully delusional. Its was awful when she went into that mode. But the other parts were great. I did feel like the most important person in the world. But the constant accusations were so crazy! Which finds me here trying to figure it all out.

[@philipphilip3731]

She doesnt mean to. Shes just afraid of it and i would say best thing is to calm her down at the moment and then she will see straight again in some time.dont give up

[@tjszuch]

@@philipphilip3731 shes gone now though. it ended badly and now im dealing with the aftermath

[@philipphilip3731]

@@tjszuch did she leave by her self?

[@tjszuch]

@@philipphilip3731 i was trying to get rid of her because after being accused of something you havent done for the 17th time, you get fed up. she blew up the break up so badly.

[@philipphilip3731]

@@tjszuch ah...sad so i will never make it either. I kinda did the same thing :(

[@johnlomax2502]

An amazing and enlightening explanation of this disorder. I am currently dealing with someone in a work environment who exhibits these personality characteristics.

[@andrewhack3453]

Thankyou for this video. I can relate to this so much. The timing couldn't be better. Much gratitude. Keep the great videos coming 👍😊

[@empathicguidance]

Wow 😢 this is me. I really need help. I dont like being like this. I've been in isolation for 2 years because of this.

[@johnkovary5121]

Empathic Guidance look up the term gaslighting and what you can do about it. You might see some avenues. To get outside your predicament.

[@LADYDIVAful]

@John Kovary, I agree! I discovered, I was an empath and hypersensitive and CORRECT about my reality. My circumference was gaslighting and formed triangulation. Once I cleared the cesspool, life became so much easier for me.

[@azeemunnisa9300]

Hey there , I have some advices as you mentioned you need help . I have gone through this so let me share how I overcame this feeling . First of all , stop thinking about people who have wronged you . It slowly becomes a habit to think in that way and you'll doubt people who actually have good intentions for you . Second , always question your negative thoughts . Find if whatever your mind says is actually true or not . If not , stop worrying about it and if yes , talk to that person about it for whom you're getting negative thoughts . Isolating yourself can make it worse , you gotta talk and make plenty of friends so you can learn more about people . What you have learned about people is only the negative side and the positive is yet there to see . Overcome grudges , forgive and move on . Make yourself happy 💜 • Take time to relax and try to forget about what’s stressing you out • Spend time with friends • Find something to smile and laugh about • Get plenty of exercise • Meditate to clear your mind .

[@jiltedlittle6868]

Im sorry I wish I had something more useful to say I just wanted to tell you you are gorgeous girl

[@mdsoulsounds]

Thanks Dr. Marks. It seems a lot of what you described here reveals a partial picture but not the extreme parts. My friend admired his mate’s intellect and rationality not realizing it was a decoy to tolerate the other shortcomings of her being controlling, pompous and suspicious. Never easy to see what’s around the corner!

[@TanyaRadic]

This describes my adult daughter . She has had this trait longer than I was aware...even in high school. She became more distant and " protective" after her daughter was born. At age 41 she dropped all connections with us , threw us out of her house at a birthday party. She then filed restraining order and I had to hire attorney. The judge asked her ," Is this your handwriting on a thank you note...saying without you mother I would be homeless?...and my mother forced me to cash checks !" She was a single mother with a very young daughter. After more of a year estrangement I walked into a restaurant where she and my grandaughter were eating. Immediately after my gd recognized me my daughter pulled her by the arm , ran out of the restaurant without paying , ran to her car and drove away. It's sad. She's alone without support , a job and soon to be homeless .

[@staceykatsnelson1152]

This definitely gives me perspective as an avoidant that I otherwise wouldn’t have, your videos are great and teach me so much about a subject I thought I already knew a lot about!

[@londonsounds6212]

Sorry this is off topic, just wanted to say you're super beautiful!!!

[@rpowell530]

I learn so much from your videos. Thank you!

[@johnkovary5121]

Regina Powell So do I 👍

[@stoneyvowell1239]

Very interesting dr. Marks. I would like to hear more on the difference between paranoid personality and schizophrenia.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Hi Stoney this is very different from schizophrenia. Schizophrenia involves multiple psychotic symptoms whereas paranoia isn’t necessarily delusional. Schizophrenia also Paris peoplesthinking. If you didn’t watch my schizophrenia video you should see it for an in-depth analysis kzbin.info/www/bejne/h3q8iGyAn79ghdU

[@stevenhershman2660]

I can see how someone could suffer from Paranoid Personality Disorder and AVOIDANT Personality Disorder. I wonder if a person can be diagnosed with Both ?

[@Natalaie]

@@stevenhershman2660 imo yes 😊

[@Spritualhealing_CRISTINA]

My Control & Trust Issues & my CPTSD made me Paranoid. Also being in Relationships with People i should have Never Trusted (childhood tought mechanism) aggravated my Paranoia. And yes I do Lack Trust i Physicians as my Experience with my 3 diff Therapists was inefficient to say the least. But I admit to my share of Responsibility in staying 2 yrs & hlf in Therapy with someone & Ignoring the Major Red Flags. Ty for the video.

[@undeadpresident]

Sometimes there is sufficient basis for suspicion but it's not something that can be demonstrated to others, which can put one into a pickle because they can't talk about such valid suspicions without appearing unduly paranoid.

[@kimbrown8136]

yessss so true!!!

[@kimbrown8136]

ugh the struggle is real

[@n3fi]

thank you

[@Squeegees123]

CBT. Thank you. It really did become more apparent to me in college, as I was had a new friend every year it seemed like. I think the fact I left college having ghosted all my friends because I didn’t trust them is the most telling something is wrong with me. Thank you, Dr. Marks.

[@sanya3398]

my ex was like this. I realized when his constant accusations of my cheating or going through his things or "losing my phone on purpose" and other nonsensical things started to be paired with belief in v strange conspiracy theories. he was the love of my life. it was so hard to try for so long and eventually realize that half the time my partner just couldn't see me and how loved he was.

[@icecoldgazpacho]

I think there are lots of things about other people we don’t know. I’ve been on the receiving end of this, just to make the joke back to my ex about a new text being from her new boyfriend texting her; and it was. Sometimes people think that you do these things because they would do those things themselves. Depending on the lenses in which a psychologist, psychiatrist or doctor looks at me I’m either part crazy, “disabled”, avoidant; I am somewhat aware of how my ADHD and whatever else makes me and I try to counteract this by my actions as much as my medication. I like to think I understand some things in life. Maybe one day he will, and it will be because of you leaving - maybe he won’t. Maybe he always did and by you leaving, he could never show you. I self sabotage out of spite at times, and I have deliberately stayed single for 2 years now. It’s been pretty good to work my issues out. Quite recently I probably “walked away from forever” out of being annoyed. It’s a strange feeling. Us people, we’re just people. What does any of it really mean? Note before: you haven’t specified if you broke up or what happened. I hope you find your peace.

[@agracefulfox6252]

Thank you for the clarification video, doc. Appreciate it greatly. Starting to realize that I've inherited all of these paranoid personality disorder symptoms from my mother but for some reason I never found them detrimental in my life and still wear them as a banner around me. Compared to what my father suffers from (schizophrenia) I'm very happy knowing I inherited a mild paranoid disorder.

[@NotaNazgul]

I would propose you watch these symptoms carefully in "close emotional range". I get along well with coworkers and friends. But closer bonds, especially a long-term partner, trigger more of the paranioa. Also, if I'm stressed, I bring this into friendships. Very destructive.

[@agracefulfox6252]

@@NotaNazgul You got this mister! ;)

[@kelzlondon2138]

I have a friend who is just like this like spot on and she is lovely funny caring friendly also .. so while these people may be hard work as long as you carry on accepting them and putting them right.. even if they don't like it... they will give you the benefit of the doubt and grin and bear you most of the time❤ I hate to see people being alone because they are misunderstood or misunderstanding or both ..

[@kimbrown8136]

This really resonated with me. I haven't talked with a professional in sooo many years & I haven't wanted to until recently. I never found the right one for me, unfortunately. Starting at 12/13 yrs old, my parents had me go see therapists. At that age I wasn't even fully aware of my inner turmoil or open enough to talk to a stranger. I could never forget one of my first therapists, his office & just being around him gave me the creeps..I finally had enough when he decided to keep putting his hands on me. His office is no longer there, which makes me feel a lot better. My parents put me in inpatient at 13, involuntarily, for 5 days. Which did get me to stop cutting myself every single day. I didn't want to go back there. That is when I got my first 3 diagnoses. Major depression, Generalized Anxiety Disorder & OCD (Trichotillomania) I still battle with those & have always been on medications. I was diagnosed with ADD at 21 yrs old..little too late :/ I ended up going back into the same inpatient for one of my suicide attempts around that time too. Now, at 31 yrs old, I know there's so much more going on, so much going undiagnosed. I've been traumatized more than I've ever truly known myself until this past year..I feel I may have either CPTSD or PTSD, somewhere on the autism spectrum, problems with processing things, possibly depersonalization/derealization disorder. Thank you so much for your videos! They're very informative.

[@Natalaie]

Sounds similar to my experience 💓

[@landrybeck]

Dr. Marks, I just love your channel. You are so insightful when my psychologist isn't around and I need some clarity or need a question answered. I've been diagnosed with Paranoid Personality Disorder, Avoidant Personality Disorder, and Dependent Personality Disorder. It certainly makes for a turbulent life to navigate. I've seen your video on AvPd, but could you do one on DPD too? Thank You.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Hi Landry that’s quite a few disorders there. But it’s actually fairly common for people to have a mixed personality profile. I am gradually working my way through the personality disorders so I will make sure I don’t miss dependent personality disorder. Thanks for the suggestion

[@barbaratea4701]

Thank you again for this informative discussion about paranoid personality disorder. I definitely feel this to some extent and I see it often in some people in my life

[@knightsalmon42]

I'm afraid of relationships. I don't know what's wrong with me. I will push away a man no matter how good he is.

[@melonitha6531]

Maybe you got borderline personality disorder just like me, but I don't think so.

[@potatochalbro]

Personally I don't mind relationships, but I fear intimacy even though I'm handsome

[@blu3j00Ls]

Self-esteem issues, possibly.

[@tomcleverley18]

Dr. Marks, thank you for your efforts to help those (and those who love them) who have various MH issues. GOD bless you and your loved ones.

[@aubreyj.tennant1123]

I grew up in a neglected & abusive attachment with 2 older bully siblings. I would suggest it doesn’t start in early adulthood but early childhood. It gets diagnosed in early adulthood. Thank goodness mine is a milder form. :)

[@tagamanilako]

Mental Hygiene is extremely important to everyone- Thanks Doc. Tracy

[@fortune2673]

This is a very spot on description and I appreciate the video. I'd love to hear your thoughts on Health Anxiety/Somatic symptoms (aka hypochondria I hate that term). Specifically when struggling to take the actual medication to treat the disorder itself (i.e.side effects real? not real? etc.) Very frustrating ironic cycle. Thanks Dr. Marks

[@erinsymone1645]

A cousin of mine is like this, beyond paranoid. His daughter is a diagnosed schizophrenic, so it's definitely something that runs in the family. It really is quite sad, both for him (imagine not trusting ANYTHING in this world? No peace) and for those of us who have to watch. But you said it right at the end, how can you get through to someone, when they just think you are an idiot who is too stupid to see the "truth"? A lot of conspiracy theorists also seems to have paranoid tendencies.

[@erinsymone1645]

I've also always thought of it as like an extreme form of anxiety... I wonder if there is any basis to that theory?

[@chiefzombie9184]

This almost feels like a call-out.

[@byua1835]

Honestly... I felt like crying.. holy shit

[@JustaComment93]

@@byua1835not me. I’m coming to accept it. I’ve known this for a while now. But my parents were abusive and I was heavily bullied growing up. It actually all makes sense why I am the way I am now. Nobody ever bothered to care or help. No the world is my enemy. I never had a real friend

[@rhinoskin7550]

Every natural human survival behavior is exploited.. we ALL posses these traits but express them in various degrees and different ways.. it's OK to be who you are. When you are yourself, you'll simply attract that type of people.. the more we "upgrade" ourselves, the more we elevate ourselves and others, but it isn't MANDATORY to adjust your mindset and behaviors.. be easy and patient with yourself ❤️

[@blu3j00Ls]

Me too.

[@AshaL2377L]

Dear Dr Tracy, I'd firstly like to personally thank you for the work you do. I appreciate the time and energy you put into making this available to your audience. I have benefited from it tremendously and owe you a great deal of gratitude for it. It's it's not too much trouble or at all possible, I would like your input on two questions I have: 1. How would you suggest managing or overcoming paranoia or worry in the supernatural context? So for instance, the idea of curses, hexes, bad luck or some supernatural force working against you. Something as minor as 'there's a broken mirror in my room which is part of a large fixture thats difficult to replace so I wonder if it's bringing me bad luck'. Or conversely something major like, 'there is 'a powerful spiritualist' living in a place you visited that you bumped heads with so maybe he did something to you'. This can also include bad experiences with 'psychics' whom have told you something disturbing that you often fixate on, palm readers, prophets, horoscopes ect. 2. How to you suggest managing or overcoming paranoia or worry to do with health and the external world. So for instance, I started to really love oatmeal in the mornings but then I came across an article about the harmful effects of herbicides used in the cultivation process so I gave it up and somewhat avoid it. Or more recently, I ordered a memory foam mattress that I was excited about because I believed it would help with soreness and arches but shortly after, I heard that the material might have harmful properties so I'm considering returning it before it's even arrived. This can also be other things like phone radiation, environmental toxins, fluoride in toothpaste, plastic drinking bottles ect. I thank you for you time and help thus far and I hope you have a wonderful weekend. God bless & kindest regards Asha

[@easelminch6887]

When I was in the third grade the teach went around the room asking our birthdays. I told her I forgot, I would rather be seen as dumb than tell her my birthday. Because I thought she was going to kill us all on our birthdays 🤣

[@m4b957]

I love ya 😂😂😂

[@easelminch6887]

@@m4b957 🤣🤣

[@patrickp6676]

This is hilarious… stay safe and happy

[@lovejade1151]

This is so me 😂😂😂

[@fridaymanly]

Did she?

[@BasedHoss]

i actually have been diagnosed and i feel like i do very well with it considering where i came from but it is a daily battle. i struggle with the feelings constantly. knowing i had it was my big first step and then i started mindfulness training just to help step out of myself when i get spooled up. a lot of the time now i can talk myself down but it really is an every minute battle with every thought and every perception and even every glance someone gives me. i wish i could share more with people. I've watched a ton of videos and tried to join groups to help but there is ton of misunderstanding and pigeonholing that makes it tough.

[@timefortee]

I wish you true healing, keep that positive attitude and you might change your thought patterns. Key thing is accepting you had a traumatic experience when you were small and helpless and realizing you are more powerful and in control now.

[@Brimarieddddddddd]

Dr. Tracy... I think my mom has this. She would secretly record her own mother speaking sometimes and constantly talk about the mistrust of her sisters, family members and even me. Constantly. She constantly would accuse ( search for evidence) of my stepdad cheating ( in her defense she usually did find something) as well as was paranoid to trust in doctors, therapists were a NO, and any officials. After separating myself from her for years, I found myself with a partner who was extremely emotionally abusive. The toxic relationship stressed me out so much I was in a new state with no family, depended on him for my living situation and all emotional needs.. I found myself so hurt afraid and alone. Unfortunately, I am still here. But after hiring a life coach/ mindset coach, working with a couples therapist & meditating & journaling daily for the past year- I feel a lot better. However my distrust for people, coworkers, and family members is still here. Could it be I am just mirroring the distrust of others I’ve almost been programmed to have by my mother growing up? Could I have ptsd from trusting my ex, or do I have this 😔😞 this hurts so bad

[@bretert]

Hey Brianna hope you're doing well. Being cheated on by their spouse seems to permanently worsen this disorder in patients.

[@Natalaie]

Yes 🌺

[@rudyleotardo8278]

Dr. Tracey you just diagnosed me with another mental health issue (can’t trust anyone everybody lie to your face I’m very independent can’t relying in No one and so on) added to many others that I suffer from

[@johnrushman1586]

My cousin had this. He bought a handgun. So our family had to contact the authorities. Very scary.

[@HoodScents]

I have Paranoid Schizophrenia, I feel everyone has an agenda, I don't trust people. In my episods i see people walking around with microphone in their ears and looking at me very weird, like they stare into my soul and behave in a cetain way I feel threatened, when that happens my voices get louder, they say "They looking at you and they are very weird don't you think?" this becomes stronger when I have forgot to take medicine. But everyday no matter if I take medicine I am suspicious to anyone. But it's so much I could say, noices in my home that I haven't heard before I get scared and so on.. So many things.

[@playacuz5001]

I literally was in a relationship with a girl like this. She has constantly refused to talk to anybody

[@alexdeleon7829]

I have a question, I went through a lot of trauma during my early teenage years and started lashing out at people. These episodes got progressively worse until finally I saw therapy and a psychiatrist who assigned me the right medications. The thing that turns me off most about these psychotic breaks is that I just don’t feel empathy or remorse afterwards until it’s too late. Could this be due to my depression or something far worse?

[@Natalaie]

Yes 🎎

[@recalled_heart5491]

i'm paranoid of those who hurt me i think it's perfectly normal

[@johnkovary5121]

LazyNB21k Look up the term gaslighting and what you can do about it.

[@thebandit1959]

John Kovary gaslighting is actually a form of mental abuse where you make people think they are going insane or starting to get forgetful. He is implying something else I guess

[@UterineBlackmail]

I absolutely love Dr Marks. She is extremely intelligent and very eloquent. That being said, my paranoia has always been 100% right. It is my biggest gift. Every single time I have suspected something, I was proved right

[@n3fi]

we manifest such fate

[@AbolishTheATF]

I’m always suspicious of people but I’m usually right about them

[@DrTraceyMarks]

OK then your level of suspicion Is it kind of discernment for you

[@Tmcsinger91]

Same here

[@KarmasAbutch]

Omg saaaaame... the only people who called me paranoid, distrustful or over sensitive... were the ones I later found out were definitely “takers” who were manipulating me.

[@Tmcsinger91]

AGENCYisTheEqualizer omg same

[@raedradha6403]

That’s different. These are people you know

[@medschlive]

I have paranoid personality disorder and experience 6 of of the 7 traits but my judgement about people is always right but I also hate how unforgiving I am.

[@yourlucidnightmare7213]

Same!!! I'm not diagnosed but dang does it feel like I may be struggling with this

[@ComicPower]

I wish I knew about this stuff 20 years ago. I've been in relationships with narcissist and paranoid people and all kinds of disorders. Nobody is perfect. Not even me but I overlooked some real erratic and destructive behaviors out of romantic partners that I should have never been with.

[@javaskull88]

This describes my brother. If he runs into an acquaintance in the grocery store, he decides that person is stalking him and he gets very anxious. If he hears a sound outside, it means someone tried to break in.if I ask him to meet for coffee, he asks what my motive is. It’s just so exhausting dealing with him, and it pisses me off that despite a lifetime of treating him well and honestly, he suspects me of crazy crap.

[@moombapoomba6036]

Does he ever get triggered easily? Always telling you that you're saying bad things about him and accusing him of something when you make an innocent statement?

[@vonnies.1516]

You just described my soon to be ex down to the last detail. I left him after 16 years of marriage after he had a brief psychotic break in my opinion. I told all of our family to please help us, I knew he was suffering from this disorder. He never got the help, I left and would never return. Totally destroyed our family.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

I’m sorry you had this experience LaVonne. I wish you well in your recovery from that I know it can take a while to shake it off.

[@vonnies.1516]

@@DrTraceyMarks Thank you Dr.

[@aletheam.4371]

Dr. Marks, please answer this question: Can trauma (in childhood and/or adulthood) lead to mental illness, or is mental illness already present in someone's brain regardless if they've experienced trauma?

[@Natalaie]

Imma not dr Marks, but yes 🌚

[@i_the_big_one_i8244]

Her dr, I have this problem where I feel like someone is always following me and walking behind me. Any idea on what this could be?

[@davidtichborne2912]

Don't worry dr Tracy marks will probably have a diagnosable liable for it😆 no offense

[@DrTraceyMarks]

It depends if anything else is going on. If this is only thing that’s a problem, then it could just be an obsession

[@yoyoyo8011]

It’s your ex. Ok bad humor.

[@faizaaladawi8160]

Thank you Dr. You made it simple to remember and understand especially with the DSM5... The suspect

[@yamchayaku]

I carry a lot of traits on what would be considered a "paranoid personality disorder", but I don't find this to be a disorder. More likely than not, constantly being on guard is due to having to deal with people that ACTUALLY are malevolent, with many of their actions bearing ulterior motives. It also doesn't help that we live in a society where it is encouraged to screw over the person next to you and even more so if you have the ability to screw over a multitude of people at the same time in order to get ahead. What some may call a "paranoid personality disorder", we just call it playing it safe.

[@melanin_monroe]

Playing safe at whose expense. Hurt everyone around you by projecting your past hurt onto them? You have just become what you're so afraid of. You're the malevolent person. Because you know that there's as good a chance that a person is genuine as there is that they can be disingenuous. But you just treat everyone poorly just to "play it safe". How do you think you make people who are actually good feel. You're the villian in your own story

[@yamchayaku]

@@melanin_monroe Who said Paranoia is projecting your hurt to others? People with paranoia doesn't pull that kind of crap like that. Paranoid people are the type that doesn't show any cards to the other party. You talk as if they live like hermits in dark rooms when they clearly don't. Most are high functioning people that are indistinguishable from the person next to you. The only thing they have that is different than everyone else is that they are ALWAYS on guard. That is not something you can observe unless you really analyze their behavior... Which you DON'T. You seriously need to get your facts straight before you talk. And seriously, who hurt you to think that such people are like that?

[@melanin_monroe]

@yamchayaku well that's what the video is describing so....the video is saying it. You felt triggered by the video for a reason

[@yamchayaku]

@@melanin_monroe and you felt triggered to respond to my comment.

[@melanin_monroe]

@yamchayaku but at least I can trust and love people. And accept love. Because I love myself. Self loathing attracts negative people. I'm just thankful my life has been full of people who live and support me unconditionally. Because that's what my energy attracts. Ahhhahaha fix yourself. Ultimately you are responsible for your own misery. Enjoy 😉

[@teshayazzie7712]

My husband has been diagnosed with paranoid, antisocial, schizotypal and narcissistic. We have kids together can this be passed down? What are the effects on the family after years of living with him like this? Yes your %100 correct. They attack. He broke my jaw and corners me with weapons. They don’t stop either. It’s terrifying when they get that empty wide eye look. De-escalation does not work. Your best bet is to keep your mouth shut and pray you can signal for help.

[@hmrobert7016]

Hi Dr Marks, I really enjoy your videos and your genuineness. I was wondering if you could do a video on medical issues that can mimic psychological disorders (like PANDAS or hypothyroidism)?

[@DrTraceyMarks]

That’s a great suggestion Robert.Let me see what I can come up with

[@maharahimee5993]

I always feel like people are trying to kill me or poison me, put black magic on me, recording me or cameras in my room. I even feel like little kids would try to kill me like my 5 year old cousin. I always feel like I’m going to die and feel like everyone can read my mind. I’m always panicking and it’s very frustrating. I always have to watch out for everything when I’m out. Especially if someone is behind me or someone on top of a building that’s going to shoot me. There’s so much more. It’s an everyday thing. It’s more of a gut feeling than a thought.

[@ramyr.6063]

Hast du eine Diagnose?

[@simplylily336]

I never was like this before. After suffering with PTSD after a narcissist relationship 2 years of recovery and now I have been experiencing paranoia and fear. Also after watching your videos I suffer from some depression. I am just so surprised because I have did much work in healing. And have had great results.. I just don't know things seem to be getting worst all of a sudden.I was caught off guard when i realized I was no longer trusting others not even my family. I just am not understanding..but i can not ignore what i am experiencing...what do u suggest..

[@mikasame]

You just described my sons father to the T. And that example given at the 6th minute, is exactly the reason why to this day i try to see past the accusations, longing for that connection. I myself have mental illness that i need to work on as well. Alot of feelings of abandonment. Which further pulls me into him, despite the negatives.

[@katelynw4099]

Hi Dr Marks, I really enjoy your videos. I'm wondering if maybe you could discuss obsessive thinking at some point? I definitely ruminate on past experiences, however I also find that I can't stop thinking about the things I'm currently involved in and it becomes the only thing I can focus on or want to talk about at all times of the day. It's not so much negative thoughts; it's usually about something I enjoy, but it absolutely consumes me. It becomes all I want to think about, and I find myself losing sight of the other good things in my life, and I can tell people get annoyed when I always stray back to the same topic in conversation. Any insight into this? Thanks.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Take i’ll look at this video I did on obsessional thinking kzbin.info/www/bejne/mIrQaZ6afNKjm6M

[@JamesRileyYoutube]

It IS a way that a lot of people nowadays view the world, except it’s just very amplified. I like to think of all personality disorders as a way that everybody feels at least once throughout their lifetime, just personality disorders take over their victims’ lives.

[@truecrimes1435]

The power of dicernment and knowing your surroundings and the nature of what and who surrounds you is a gift but some say it's paranoia.

[@PITTSBURGH06]

MOST CRAZY PEOPLE THINK THEY HAVE DISCERNMENT AND SPECIAL POWERS! TYPICAL DELUSIONS!

[@NotaNazgul]

Believe me, you can have good antennas AND be paranoid.

[@suprchickn7745]

Thanks so much for your video! I think this may really help me with a loved one. Bless you!

[@kylalessing8384]

Dear dr Tracey, I am a medical student in South Africa. I find your videos extremely helpful, not only when it comes to educating myself on mental illnesses, but specifically working on my own mental and emotional problems. I know this is an odd request that will probably not be helpful to everyone, but I was wondering if you would consider publishing a video specifically on mental illnesses when studying medicine (or any other stressful career). A few moths ago I was diagnosed with severe depression by my GP, but I honestly feel like most of my classmates share these symptoms with me. How do you differentiate between the stress of studying something like medicine, and chronic depression or chronic anxiety? Are there certain mental illnesses which are more common among medical students? Thank you

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Hi Kyla thanks for the request. It is a tad specific but I’ll think of another way to broaden it to apply to other intensive situations. Hang in there 😊

[@attheranch873]

This would be an interesting video

[@lautarosebastianrodriguez7059]

Wow. I see my self in your speech. I was actually hit days before because of this conduct. It feels natural to behave like this for me. Because of my life experience. This change happened to me 10 years ago from a day to another. My life was al about give without thinking. Even when I was living in the streets i'd always give to my friends or anyone that needed me. Till I had two "spiritual" Experiences in one week. When this happened I just snapped. I started to see what I couldnt during all those years before. I was 20 at that time. Sometimes I get mad on myself but in other cases it feels natural like needed to protect myself and even though I view people genualy I feel I cant trust no one. It's like my brain cant stop reading between the lines. It is very destructive as you say it is. To resume it all into a question Can this conduct be adopted or are you born with it to later evolve in it?

[@lichtes]

Hi! I Feel that at some level I'm experiencing this, can you please make a video on how to stop (or get better)? And thanks por all the amazing videos

[@itsm3th3b33]

This video was good in explaining the symptoms. It'd be helpful to also mention if there is medical treatment for PPD. If a person we care about has PPD, and mistrusts doctors strongly, what can be done about it?

[@mikefanfare]

The military creates this type of paranoia. It can take a LONG time with LOTS of help to get "better"

[@miranx5735]

How?

[@THE.N1KO]

@@miranx5735 like every person is or can be a menace. Like every ideal that is beyond what their government believe in every way is a menace. So it is the people who doesn't believe in what they consider "normal". That's because there will always be wars and death. Because we are so egotistical as human beings.

[@mistymidnight4447]

@@THE.N1KO I’ve just been dating someone ex military with this personality. Gave him the benefit of the doubt because of this but it turns out he was screwed before he went in the military from childhood abuse and drug problem from age 15. He had no emotions at all for years. I think he went in the army because of his mental problems. I managed to survive 2 months with him. That’s all I could take. I’m severely ill with a chronic illness that leaves me bedridden, so I couldn’t allow him to keep draining me with his constant accusations and interrogations and need for attention. I thought he was a narc at first, because he twisted everything I said, had a false sense of grandiosity and entitlement, gaslighted, data collected, and thought every single thing revolved around him. But after seeing this video, it may be more of this instead, or both. There was one trait, I’ve never come across before from then off and don’t know where this fits. But he was extremely selfish with money, and obsessed about how much each person had paid, calculating to the last penny, every couple of hours, if he thought he had paid 1 pound more than me on a date, he would bring it up and remind me 3 days later 😳 At first I thought he was just mean, then all of the other stuff started showing itself. I’m too ill to deal with it all though. So it had to end. It’s made me very ill.

[@THE.N1KO]

@@mistymidnight4447 I hope you get better. It's all about time. Have a rest whenever you can. Breath deep. And I hope that person can fix himself. That's the thing too. In the end it only depends in himself to get better too. He can have a guidance at teraphy or something like that but it depends on him to continue. And it's fine. You couldn't help him in that way. No one can. Of course nobody's perfect. But we want to share love so we can get better. And when all those things that are beneath the surface starts to appear everything hurts. And it's like that person never treated them with respect to be fixed. You are not a superhero. You couldn't fix him. I hope he will. Someday.

[@mistymidnight4447]

@@THE.N1KO thank you ☺️

[@mghtwehtwemg8674]

Thank you very much DR.T.Mark for the very good information and I would like to know more ways to erase this mental condition by my self. May God Bless you with ALL GOOD THINGS.