Dry Spell | Pretend Problems Ep. 31

This week, Chad gets his allergies tested and learns he's allergic to even more things than Kelsey is, they almost get into an accident on the freeway, and answer some big listener questions like how to end a sex dry spell in your marriage, and how to decide if you should have a second child. Write into [e-mail] with your dating and relationship advice questions and we'll answer them on the show! Subscribe to the podcast, and give it a 5-star rating and review to help the show move up the charts. Video for the episodes is on Chad's KZbin channel! Watch and subscribe here: / @thatchaddaniels
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[@MrTwisted72]

As a Commercial Driver I agree with Chad. I was trained to scan 15 seconds ahead and to check all mirrors every 3-5 seconds. It is a Commercial Driver’s job to be aware of what’s going on around their vehicle. IMO this truck driver was being an asshole.

[@kirstenkrieger1937]

Chad, that truck driver should have waited. Where you were at, he shoukd have seen you in his mirror and waited a second.

[@wonderboy7025]

I'm gonna side with Chad about the driving thing. One question about it is why was the trucker trying to get over to the left lane? Was there anyone in front of them?

[@maddbadger]

The way that Chad and I are the same driver is amazing

[@annickusa]

I am team Chad on the driving issue. Kelsey, you need to (try) to give Chad the concession on this one.

[@hafeya]

I'm like Chad, and my wife is like Kelsey actually 🤣 it honestly felt like how my wife and I talk about it.

[@thundre398]

I'm 100% Team Chad on "Truckgate!" This is a textbook passing scenario on a two-lane road, and Chad executed flawlessly. Also, Kelsey didn't know what cruise control was last week, got to level up to Chad's level.

[@WhatThatPrintDo]

As someone that drives all day long, Chad IS right that truckers constantly leave their blinkers on. Literally see it happen multiple times a day. Ok continue on with the story.

[@WhatThatPrintDo]

Ok and in Kelsey’s defense, I’ve let slow ass truckers in front of my faster tow truck for the exact reason yall experienced. There are a lot of bad truckers out there 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@hiatus_kaiyote]

If your entire job is driving, checking mirrors should be a constant habit, doubly so when changing lanes. Turn signals are the only way to communicate intent, but as someone that rides a motorcycle, I've learned not to trust them either. Not every driver consistently turns them off when they should.

[@jillhundrieser9699]

Agree with Chad on this one 100%. Traffic should FLOW.

[@user-on7ig5vr2f]

I laughed more during this episode than I have any other. Chad's explanations of why he's right had me chuckling every time. Honestly, it's what I find so funny in his comedy; that earnest distain for those who disagree. Love you guys! Keep it coming!!

[@kristinshaw5359]

Team Chad on the driving. You should never be causing someone to break by merging, that’s being cut off. If he wasn’t paying enough attention to see you there he shouldn’t be driving a moving house.

[@Sticks017]

Chad is 100% right about the driving/semi thing. Its not your job to allow down to let someone over. The person merging is supposed to slow down. If he hit you, the semi dude would have been at fault for the accident

[@JoeRandom-x6b]

I usually just listen to this podcast. Just came here to watch the Chad’s imitation of Kelsey during emergencies 😆

[@FightingMECFS]

CDL driver, the truck driver absolutely should have waited for any vehicle alongside it to be clear. #TeamChad

[@sporkspeak]

Am I a horrible person because I enjoy Chad and/or Kelsey saying something that truly bums the other out? Either way love everything keep it up great job.

[@kailrush]

When it comes to the truck story, the safest thing to do would have been to just let the truck over. However, the truck driver was way more in the wrong here. He's driving a WMD. If that truck goes down, a whole lot of people's days are going to be ruined (putting it super mildly). Someone driving a truck that recklessly, even once, has no business behind the wheel. Also, Chad was 100% correct that the truck driver should have been aware of there being no other cars behind Chad's car. I get Where Kelsey is coming from. It seems like she's often a great person to give a reality check, but Chad was not wrong in that situation.

[@WillieBHardagan]

Team Chad all the way. When I need to merge lanes and there is a car there, I can't just push them off the road. They have the right of way as the one being there first. He plain and simply didn't see you guys next to him and just moved over without looking to be sure his blind spots were clear. Sorry Kelsey...... 😢

[@jeremyrockwell1287]

Whoa. Thought chad was wrong with crepe pronunciation, but it turns out it is pronounced kr-ehp. Looks like you got a new belt chad.

[@laureng8175]

Agreed. Sorry Kelsey!

[@samoprd]

The Driving Inccident : Why was he trying to get over? Was there a disabled vehicle on his shoulder? Was there a police officer on the shoulder ? Was there a car slowing him down? I'm a truck driver in Detroit.

[@lalah9481]

Okay… I have worked in transportation and operated heavy equipment most of my adult life. We also take several road trips every year, through multiple states. Truck drivers are supposed to be extra aware of all traffic on the road with them. Part of being a professional is assessing safety first, shortest vs quickest routes and fuel/mechanical needs. When traveling on two lane roads, especially when delays put trucks behind schedule, can be aggravating. Drivers with experience will stay to the right, even over the edge of the lane, in order to allow regular cars to pass safely. They know a line of slow traffic behind a truck is a recipe for disaster. Trucks that attempt to pass on a two lane road are being aggressive. Their blind spot is bigger, so avoiding having cars where they’re out of sight should be second nature. Inexperienced operators, lack of dispatchers, shorter travel hours, low pay, and longer trailers have given the industry a bad reputation. Too many new, inexperienced drivers now. More traffic incidents may have created a fear factor on the road. Driving defensively is safer, however not always possible since idiots do make wild choices. While I expect truckers to make good choices, I don’t trust anyone on the road. Once a driver-of any vehicle- gets into a second lane to pass, generally it’s best to allow the pass to complete before changing your speed. If another vehicle forces you to break in order to get passed? They shouldn’t have passed. I do try to let trucks in when they have their blinker on, mostly because most cars won’t-many people have no idea what it’s like to operate a heavy truck, so they’re not willing to let a slow giant truck in front of them… I HATE not being able to see ahead due to a big rig blocking my view. Buuuut… If you have a nervous passenger, it might be ‘path of least resistance’ to just plan on extra time to slow cruise on road trips (good tunes makes it easier). Aaaaannnd… When the main driver in a couple has not been in accidents nor received tickets for reckless driving, maybe focus work on trusting their skills and less on your feelings of fear and being out of control. Being a passenger can be hard for some. I still have to focus on playing games on my phone when my hubby drives-I’m a control freak about driving (driving is both of our jobs), and have experienced horrible accidents due to others poor choices in the drivers seat. However, logically I trust my husbands skills driving, emotionally I’m always working on not bracing for impact-insulting to him. Sadly we have had to talk about me not making startling or fear based noises; communicating with words is more effective and actually helpful to the driver. Squealing only communicates fear or danger without giving a direction for danger-what reaction can a driver have if they don’t know where/what danger is coming at the car? Use your words. Breathe. Focus on a game or a song or a book if your insecurities endanger the ride. Distractions, especially while operating a vehicle, can cause accidents. EVERY driver should be situationally aware. Not just of the cars in your immediate vicinity, ahead to the horizon, to both sides, all lanes, and behind you. Anticipate others behaviors, it’s all relative. Communicate with blinkers, but assume this is ignored. Peace on you two. Hope you feel better soon Chad🤧

[@Nocebolla]

I am like Chad. One thing that helps is to ask myself 'Do I want to be Right? or do I want the relationship?' It slows me down a little bit because in most cases, I care more about having peace in the relationship, than I do about being right.

[@adamscott6749]

Holy crap! 31 episodes?? Loving it! Way to go guys. Can’t wait to see KC in Raleigh in July! Can’t wait to catch Chad next time he’s on the East coast (NC 🤞🏻)

[@robertw4196]

I am so distracted by the Little Chaddie pillow

[@KoupeDeVille716]

The traffic conversation is the best example of men and women driving passive vs aggressive! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@bjw936]

As a former truck driver and fellow idealist regarding the flow of traffic, I wholeheartedly agree with Chad's choices in your "near death experience". In fact, the best reasoning was when Chad explained that it is irrelevant as to how long the trucker's blinker was on. In truck driving, there's an acronym SMOG= Signal, mirror, over the shoulder (look,) Go. The driver simply didn't do his/her job well, and while I'm sure it was plenty terrifying for young Kelsey; managing the distance to impact of a merging vehicle from actually resulting in impact, is quite manageable for any competent male driver. Sorry you got scared for a moment, sugar-nips... It'll be okay. Let's just take a deep breath, be grateful that it didn't go south, and maybe not go building a criminal profile or pattern of road raging irresponsibility.

[@crb2771]

Po just patiently waiting for his segment 😂

[@jasonvahl9770]

Chad's joy at realizing he can vent his food allergy frustration out on the parade is pure joy! That drive sounds awful, and that truck did not have a safe window to change lanes if you guys were anywhere near that close- his bad

[@snowmanap]

Chad's right. It's actually much more dangerous to slow down on the interstate than it is to proceed past that truck. That trucker is responsible for being aware of the roadway.

[@AT-Prophet]

100% for chad on this. If a vehicle enters your lane and causes you to adjust your speed in any manor, they by definition, didn't have legal standing to do so. Also yes that driver can and SHOULD be checking mirrors to find opportunity to come over just like every other driver. Could you have let him in? Sure but that's up to you to be nice, the law says you sure don't have to.

[@robertbriceno4837]

If I want to merge into a lane, it's my job to safely move into that lane. If my merge requires a driver (that is already in that lane) to brake, then *I* am doing it wrong. That truck driver is in the wrong.

[@juliarlr]

I’m French and I have to say Chad’s pronunciation of crêpe is closer to the French pronunciation, even though Kelsey’s is the way I hear most Americans say it 😂

[@figure8analogy677]

Oh man, watching this AFTER she already apologized and seeing her super concerned looks beaming at you is just sooo priceless lmaooo So glad i discovered yall on my day off……..Buckle up Chad, gonna be many more apologies coming your way buddy boy😂 (Jk Kels, sorta lol

[@sovietNIKOLAI1911]

This is like captain America civil war all over again. #teamchad

[@lalah9481]

After listening to this one for 2nd time-I laughed over quite a bit of the dialog-great episode! When you’re right, you are right… no need to be arrogant tho lol. Information is usually received better when you’re not making the listener feel ‘less than’ or dumb. Maybe consider others points of view without comment some times, corrections are not required unless there’s danger involved-right? It can turn into a battle of right vs wrong or good vs bad or being right means you’ve won. Winners and losers in relationships usually leads to divorce. It’s not a contest. Y’all are on the same team, why approach it like adversaries? Do you want or need so badly to be the winner that you’d be willing to lose in the end? I’ve found that there’s often a disconnect in this kind of communication. Everyone’s points of view are valuable, just maybe a person who feels shut down all the time ends up losing their desire to explain their own views. Something to consider?🤗

[@kayelaadams2539]

Chad is 100% correct about the truck driver.The other vehicle being a semi doesn't give them the right to cut people off.

[@LiftedYellowTJ]

As a truck driver, I’m with Chad. Unless there was a vehicle and or emergency vehicle on the shoulder

[@WhatThatPrintDo]

I’m just throwing this out there but I think throwing away the family you already have, just because someone doesn’t wanna add to it, sounds insane to me. That’s also kinda bogus to be like “put another baby in me or I’m leaving with our other child, enjoy split custody and thanks for the child support payments.” That’s just my 2 cents nobody asked for 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@jokerjason99]

Chad was definitely in the right during the truck story....but as my dad would say, he (and Kelsey) were almost Dead Right! But then to take credit that your amazing driving skills are the reason you are just right (as opposed to dead right) may not be the best move. :D

[@katrinak8318]

I think the truck driver was in the wrong. You shouldn’t have to brake for someone to change lanes unless the flow of traffic doesn’t give them a choice or it’s obvious you are letting them in front of you. I’m not an aggressive driver but try to be a decisive one.

[@jennabolmgren]

I think the food sensitivity is more so your body’s tolerance to specific things not an actual allergy

[@isislepord23]

I am sweating watching this driving conversation. I'm very uncomfortable and need to go to my happy place. Please don't fight, Daddy and Dumplin'!

[@claytoncourtney1309]

at about 0:21 when Kelsey is doing the ad read I swear I heard her mispronounce "pharmacy" or at least an accent comes into play and instead of "pharmacy" I hear "firmacy". Of course, considering the subject of the advertisement "Firmacy" is the correct word. So I will go with it was done for comedic effect. Good job Kelsey :)

[@rapfreak7797]

29:10 the worms crawl in…

[@JodyEMaas]

I've driven for a living, for the last 25 years, and unfortunately you are wrong little Kelce, with your mayo breath! Lol any driver merging must yield. Chad had the right of way

[@andrewsteck8534]

On Chad's side on this all day long. The truck driver is literally at work in his work vehicle, situational awareness would be prudent. But given that, sounds like Chad's made some previous bad driving decisions that has scared Nutella there. And now anything wrong that happens when he's driving goes into that trauma bucket for her. In this case, don't blame Chad

[@mikeyrocks8664]

Nothing upsets me more than someone who turns their blinker on to TELL me they are switching lane, other drivers be damned. You turn that mf on when it’s CLEAR then you switch lanes.

[@gregfogel]

For the email about a lack of sex in their marriage, I'd recommend the book "Mating in Captivity" by Esther Perel. It covers a variety of struggles that spouses and committed partners can come across as they strive to keep the sexual flame alive over time - and examples of how she has helped couples work through these issues.

[@rjmacready505]

Damn! Not only does Kelsey have the superior genes but she's a better driver? Does she also compete, and win, in Girgamu(?)? If someone writes in, could they also ask how Girgamu(?) is spelled?

[@johnmossjr1898]

Eggs are high in cholesterol, but they don't seem to raise cholesterol levels as much as other foods, like those high in saturated and trans fats. In fact, large studies have found that eating up to one egg per day doesn't increase the risk of heart attacks, strokes, or other cardiovascular diseases. Chad what happened to you getting a Oura ring? I think the truck should've waited for you to pass.

[@lauraking7234]

Would’ve done the same thing Chad did the semi was in the wrong

[@kerredderrek]

I usually side with Kelsy. Chad was leagally in the right. Chad had the right of way. His driving skills saved your lives. :) It sounds like the truck driver had issues and did not yeild to Chad's right of way. Chad could have been a "nice" guy and let a truck driver who had his blinker on over to be "nice", but that being said we do not have a system of laws that govern trafic that relies on people being nice. I will go so far to say that Kelsy should have Chad's back and be mad at the truck driver for not obeying the law.

[@Guy-qs5nz]

When your wife is funnier than you 😂 he's a beast but she's a monster

[@billtcheapbuiltcheap9568]

Knowing others do t have your skills and backing off can save the life of your loved ones. Not the time to "keep it real". You don't know society better? Who gives excrement about your driving skills when you can just use you cognitive and social skills.

[@dperez578]

Chad is the master of gaslighting. So if the semi had his left blinker on when would he have left that on? That doesn't make sense, so the logical thing is that he is actually moving over. Why would you try sneaking in at that point. I love Chad's stand-up but listening to him here he's very narcissistic and gaslights Kelsey all the time. She's gonna be messed up when this relationship ends. And it will. The trouble is Chad is smart and can manipulate easily. Good luck to your Kelsey. Chad i love your comedy but as a partner, you kinda suck balls.

[@liamjohnson2474]

15:04 this is why the Taliban doesn't let them drive. "kind of a lot of planning" what? to ask a Semi-truck driver to DO THEIR FUCKING JOB!?!?! good lord, does her brain only understand foosball?