Dutch Women Wish Men Did THIS 🇳🇱

[@ottokos5487]

As a Dutch guy, I don't make a habit of approaching women. Their first body language answer is most often 'WTF, who are you to talk to me.' So, why bother with that attitude, especially when they travel in packs.

[@zippery]

OK boomer

[@JygjjVdcc]

Haha

[@DanielWurtz-h6d]

I am not Dutch, but I am under similar impression. Seems like It's a common thing nowadays. And let's make it clear, women want to be approached by men they are interested in, not a random guy😎

[@Moliere1000]

It's the sisterhood über alles. Fempower, etc. Why would you approach a random woman in the streets. You need a more intelligent approach than that.

[@Danniinnad]

everywhere it's the same

[@Answersonapostcard]

“Just go for it”, says someone who has never been rejected, ever

[@miketimberland4850]

I've been constantly rejected and even insulted, still I keep on approaching. But honestly, when you realize that it is useless, you'll redirect all that time and energy towards something else than trying to interact with people.

[@respectkindness-oj6xz]

"Dutch women want [...]" two females living in Netherlands out of millions

[@miranana1]

Guys are do cowards these days. Why we need to get t the point where we’re hitting on you instead? We don’t like it.

[@vivianelima4065]

Jesus, you dont need to take things too seriously, dont take yourself too seriously either, just learn to have fun when you approach someone. Use all your rizz and have fun! You may find a friend instead of a girlfriend, even if things dont work out as planned

[@vivianelima4065]

Learn with the Brazilian guys 🙃

[@K55365]

It's true, I'm Dutch and I would never approach strangers in public. I don't want to bother them.

[@tomriley5790]

Exactly.

[@vaxuvax]

I agree with you and Im Romanian. Also I would add that the bar is not a good place to find a good woman.

[@pietzaken2220]

I am dutch and i do approach women. Tyere is a good and a bad way of doing it. Most dutch girls like it if you do approach ;)

[@K55365]

@@pietzaken2220 Ik weet het niet man, Ik wil mensen gewoon niet lastig vallen.

[@pietzaken2220]

@@K55365 dat is logisch, want het is ook eng in het begin. Besef wel dat vrouwen benaderen willen worden op de juiste manier ;)

If you want to be approached act approachable

[@NourAmsterdam]

As a Dutch woman myself, I’m just gonna be blunt. Dutch women are so depended that they give that vibe off. We don’t look very friendly and come off as arrogant a lot. Especially the ones from the big cities who went to college. The ones that come from a certain family or background. If you go into the smaller towns or even the less “snobby” areas, you will find many fun and friendly ones. Sorry not sorry, I said what I said and we Dutch women need to realize this. We don’t need to be the boss of it all, have the last word or be the smartest. I married outside of My own and he pushes back and keeps me grounded. We are very social tho if you get to know us but every country has that certain group of people, that are just blowing it for the rest of us. Dutch men also attract more towards foreigners especially the last couple of years.

[@BERBERJESUS-jn5yh]

This is a very anyltic and refreshing clear text. 👌 I'd say what you're describing is exactly the same for german women. That's why I left them alone after two longlasting relationships.

[@discobomber]

This is so true, i am a guy, but lots actually come off really arrogant in the big cities. They simply are not that attractive when they have that vibe. I guess it is their own insecurity why they don't dare to be more true to themselves.

[@Mike-zx1kx]

I believe in serial monogamy. I am now in my fifties and do not understand why women say they are when they in reality turn out to be poly. Be what you want but be honest about it. I stopped dating 5 years ago and miss the sex but I am happy to be without the betrayal.

[@CAL-of9mu]

I'm not Dutch but met a lot of them in Australia and couldn't stand them because they were so full of themselves and arrogant. Because of that Ive never visited Holland they left such a bad impression which is super sad.

[@bellenvideo5629]

Hypergamy. 😂😂 keep telling yourself foolish lies that has been told on every effin platform and tv station.

[@mario10zeus]

"These egotistical men dont approach us...how are we supposed to reject them..?'

[@lxportugal9343]

😅

[@TaratraAvana]

Feminist mind no way😂😂😂

[@lobsterbisque7567]

These 2 are projecting for sure!

[@liukang85]

😂😂

[@ChicoLatino098]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@bobbylyle8634]

I was at a friend’s party in Amsterdam that had a cashless bar and used drink tickets. As it was my friend’s event he gave me a lot of tickets. I had to leave early, so on my way out I noticed a group of women. I offered my extra tickets to one of them and she threw her drink in my face and called me a creep. Not saying that speaks for all women, but it can colour one’s experience.

[@Moliere1000]

It does speak for all women, or rather for an ideology called Feminism. So, here we are. It's universal, in the west, and beyond the west in different degrees.

[@kerime5512]

That was really horrible from that woman. You were doing something sociable and friendly and this reaction was so inappropiate and mean. I am sorry this happened to you. As woman also from Amsterdam it makes me feel embarrassed 😳

[@amiquigonzales7917]

What a horrible experience, I understand you do not want to speak to them anymore

[@amiquigonzales7917]

What will a hispanic man do in the very same case? Well, generally he will not go alone to the gathering, but if he did, he will try to socialise as soon as he gets there. For this, dancing is helpful, we all love to dance, even if he/she is a stranger, it's not about asking private questions, it's just dancing. If the woman seems comfortable and smiles once in a while, he will start a respectful conversation about her connection with the host, what's her name, etc. If she keeps smiling, then he will ask her for a dance again. And they will go on with the chatting, and will tell her he's leaving and as he's got extra tickets for drinks, if she's interested and will act according to her answer. We're talking about friend's friends or relatives, polite people who will not embarrass you in public.

[@bobbylyle8634]

@@amiquigonzales7917thank you so much for taking the time to respond. As a somewhat socially awkward person, I can try your good advice and aspire to be debonair like you 😊

[@altairya40]

Men are drained because of rejections, it's your turn to approach the one you want without guarantee of any continuation, you have to taste your past circumstances.

[@vladonutueu]

They won’t. And society will collapse before we start again with the old ways of courting and extreme feminism goes to the history garbage can, and we embrace better man-female dynamics

[@alexpater2892]

So this basically just means that Dutch men are well educated and they don't want to disturb emancipated women sitting with their friends 😂🤷‍♂️ feels good

[@gloriousmdma]

Feels hella good fr

[@JohnHoulgate]

Yep they want first right of refusal.

[@TisiphonesShadow]

Men simply don't want to be accused of harassment.

[@Frivals]

I already like dutch men ❤ let's be the choosers not the beggers 💪

[@jonjonboi3701]

That’s not true

[@jonjonboi3701]

Most men don’t think like that when they are approaching women

[@jonjonboi3701]

Stop with this mgtow mentality

[@watchnoface8770]

Exactly, Thank you!! Also women pick who are creeps or not based on wether they think your attractive. A man they like can pretty much use any opening line he wants whereas another will be spending night in a jail cell 😂

[@qwertyca]

"Just go for it... but don't go for it TOO much." 😂

[@MichaelMcMichael-f2j]

It’s this sort of mindfuckery that I don’t appreciate, I’m done with these sorts of subliminal messages

[@anna-5104]

I‘m 25 years old, female and I‘m from Germany. I think I‘m average looking or slightly less attractive than the average. So far I‘ve been lucky and I have gotten approached around 10 times or so in the streets. I‘m really thankful when this happens usually, because the guys are very cute and brave when they try! Unfortunately there have been creepy moments, but most of the time it’s quite wholesome. I have to reject them nowadays, because I‘m taken though. I‘ve gotten rejected a lot in the past, so I‘m quite sad about it, but I try to give them a compliment and be nice.

[@Hristiyan1991]

This is the right way of thinking.

[@mrnice1976]

When I was younger, I let especially German (and other European) girls approach me. I found that worked well and was efficient. I am very at ease with German women and love a good conversation with them. They know how to carry on human interaction. Unfortunately, it's very different with American women. They make you feel like here is no reason for you to be talking to them, assume the only reason for it is to hit on them and don't understand cross-gender friendship. I am thankful that I spent my youth in a place where men and women were generally at ease with each other.

[@AnalExpedition]

In Germany women’s looks don’t matter much. The ugliest of women can date very handsome men

[@markypolo5527]

Very sweet

[@manisherande4568]

Show-off ....

[@jake20479]

if you dont go for it within the first 5 seconds of you thinking about it, the chances of you doing it are 50% slimmer per statistics. what im trying to get at: do it without thinking or else you think yourself out of it

[@Frivals]

I already like dutch men ❤ let's be the choosers not the beggers 💪

[@jeffreymorales6233]

​@@FrivalsHuh?💀

[@throwawayaccount12345]

good advice

[@yunleung2631]

that is way too reductive. It depends on the situation. And if she likes you, she will like you. As in, if you're good looking enough or her type, then she will want to talk to you. The timing matters very little

[@brianbozo2447]

3 second rule?

[@lebell79]

I need just 5 seconds to tell neither of those girls are actually nice to get to know.

[@Kiev-in-3-days]

Loser detected! 😅

[@DNA350ppm]

Neither of them are Dutch, they are from Italy or something non Nordic. They have expectations that don't match the culture. The signals and the responses are not properly read. It is liberating to be able to walk the streets and visit resaturants on your own and be respected, have your peace in your bubble and there's social distance. Ladies, in Finland you are safe!

[@lebell79]

@@DNA350ppm im pretty sure they are dutch, and you actually arent.

[@Grunn007]

Why is that? Because the are very confident in what they say and don't act like American or east European barbie puppets? Go Dutch girls💪

[@Maya77177]

The dutch girls like those 2 are loud, not feminine, give the vibe they can do everything themselves, emancipated, strongly opinienated, and very tall. In relationships they are the more dominant part. Thats why men dont approach them .

[@Killswitch-ON]

Alright, learn talking to woman without giving her the feeling of an approach. If you are the type, she'll be interested, otherwise you go your way without being rejected. Thing is that people work to much, have less free time and are aware of own privacy. They don't want anyone interupt own quality time. On the other hand, being in relation sucks your time, money and mental health which modern men don't give away that easy. Myself i married since 25 years, having three kids and if i ask myself today, was it worth ? With the right one... Yes!

[@indiworldentertainment]

Why the hell men should learn? Women should learn how to approach men

[@NathanXYX.]

​@@indiworldentertainmentdon't try to argue with a feminist

[@amiquigonzales7917]

@@indiworldentertainment Whaaatt! Men are the ones who approach, the ones who conquer, the ones who lead the way. Not ladies!! Ladies on the other hand have the right to accept or not in a polite, gentle way... unless the man is drunk and aggressive.

[@yutanarkavich]

you might be a father to three kids but you are such a big simp after all those years, you have a zero character, most of the new era men don't wanna be simps, we wanna be as equal as they ask for.

[@yutanarkavich]

After this video, I understand Dutch men.

[@whatsinaname7289]

☕ Women 😂

[@Desert-Rabbit]

I was about to say the same lol, youch

[@zvgs9006]

Still not worth the trouble lol

[@НенадМијатовић-ф2е]

Well, I know many guys that are not Dutch, but they live in Netherlands, some of them are Greeks, some of them are Serbs, Croats...and all I can say is...how in the world you think that someone wants approach to some girl that constantly looks angry or mad or etc....I mean...come on...

[@diavol5745]

Exactly

[@NourAmsterdam]

Jep 😂. I’m a Dutch woman myself , and I have the same face. I’m not wondering why nobody approaches me in the past😂. I knew because i always looked “angry”. I’m Married for many years now outside of my own people. It’s way better for me , Dutch guys ( not all Of them) but in general, are always doubting to push back.

[@rick8575]

When are they going to get it? All we want is just a kind loving caring social woman

[@Moliere1000]

@@rick8575 Those don't exist in the west. Feminism has done wonders.

[@MariahLeyla]

​​@@Moliere1000 a lot of (Dutch) men complain about (Dutch) women. But it is the Dutch parents that raise them so there is the root cause. You cant just complain and bring them down and travel overseas to get yourself a child like looking women in Asia. You think they are all that because they are smaller but this is only because you are used to bigger women but ive been in many places and Dutch women are not that bad to be honest. İt is really the behavior, the way many Dutch women talk,walk,dress and foreign women learn proper hygiëne. They dont just shower , they take it to the next level because their mothers learn them this. Its a cultural thing. Also cooking and cleaning. Yes the women do all that but most of the time Asian men can cook and clean as well. You men focus too much on what Dutch women lack but not the root cause of it. Also , dont you realize the burden Dutch women need to carry that foreign women often dont ? They have to work a lot, they have no time for relaxation or to think about cooking or femininity. Its like we are not allowed to just be, to be women, to be. Our life has headed into extremes. Extremely busy and at the end , little money left. So you men play a big part in this and you have the power to turn things and be of influence. Also learn a little more from foreign men whom also are more charming in their behavior, are more gentleman, more romantic, more passionate. İts not just the foreign women. The Western culture in overal has become so cold

[@fujowpaiyingjowpai2885]

It's not ego ladies!!! It's a sense of not wanting to deal with nonsense or abuse. Too many women are down right abusive nowadays.

[@N3dita]

Abusive how? Could you give some examples?

[@MrAbdoman]

Feminist like Dutch women

[@Ufu4847]

@@N3ditaInsulting, shouting, violence, basically the same thing you accuse men off.

[@pableauxwr138]

In general; Dutch women are too much in the heads and not enough in their hearts. It's not very pleasant if you are looking for romance.

[@Random.sachen1]

​@@Ufu4847I am thinking of approaching guys in public but I'm worried if they would also react this way

[@ruchikakumarkranenburg7081]

Im indian and dutch men approach me all the time, my husband now, is Dutch. I think Men have a choice too you know. May be theyre out enjoying themselves too and not interested in Loud women who can make an entire conversation and still not say anything meaningful... Too much pressure on Men for nothing really! A sincere warm vibe is attractive no matter what gender you are! Or which country

[@ugomariapablo]

Wow nice one. I hate loud women. I like it if you talk a lot because my hobby is talking. But not loudly. Be feminine. Nice one. Thank you

[@AnalExpedition]

Indian women in Europe are known to despise Indian men and consider them ugly so that’s a win for you

[@ilhuicatlamatini]

Lol! They seem funny, I’d totally hang out with these ladies and girl talk 😆

[@harvey1954]

Funny if you like narcisstic bores.

[@yunleung2631]

SAME!

[@Tsuma_Vento]

They are confused and seem to want too much. "Yeah just go for it, but not too much? But when we don't want you to go for it, just stop." Smh. But the blonde one is right when she says they don't know at all, what's going on. That's their problem.

[@michaelb2279]

This is soo true. In my 20s I traveled to the Netherlands for holiday. My friend and I noticed that women and men in the bars were not interacting. We approached multiple young ladies over the course of the week we were there. Needless to say we had a wonderful time!

[@lucaselio-21]

I mean who wants to get rejected? Rejection is tough!! Change my mind.

[@Pdmc-vu5gj]

Exactly. I would rather ride my bike or pursue my hobbies.

[@Saileahgaz]

I didn’t realize this until now, but In my life, I’ve had two Dutch women approach and show interest in me. It was incredibly flattering, I really appreciated it, and it was also a huge confidence boost.

[@Rikhradouhr]

I dont either appoproach girls in Switzerland and Germany cause i dont want to get sued in the future.

[@szee8588]

What is it about swiss and swiss german women? I'm a woman and definitely felt the coldness from them.

[@eddyp483]

Jokes on them, I’m broke as fuck 😃👍

[@G0zert669]

Dutchman here. Dutch women can be quite a handful. Especially the educated pretty ones from the big cities like portrayed here. Often quite masculine and overbearing at first (and second 😄). Stand your ground and don’t take things too seriously. Be strong brothers. 😉

[@jacquelinesmit6467]

Ah this is the reason, they are afraid of educated and gorgeous women. Educated and pretty women are quite intimidating

[@Jamespwickstromw]

@@jacquelinesmit6467 As a dutch man i agree, the woman in the video sound like your typical city dwelling feminists. Nobody probably approched them because they are too masculine with a big mouth. Men can smell those girls from a mile away and what they are up too.

[@NourAmsterdam]

@@jacquelinesmit6467sorry but we the Dutch woman like to be the boss , and what not. Nowadays most are pretty snobby. We always have a opinion and something to complain. So yeah maybe we the women need to look at our own behaviors. We ain’t perfect and we ain’t all that. I’m not attracted to Dutch guys but for the ones who are, be less arrogant.

[@paulomendes4892]

we will try,theyre more dangerous than russian army

[@StillAwesome21]

​@@NourAmsterdam Everyone of your comment point out, that you don't like dutch men, why do you feel the need to make that distinction.

[@akbrahma7739]

Maybe the men understand the assignment, and these ladies are giving the wrong signals.

[@anthonytippett5997]

Says go for it I don’t feel rejection…. then tells you you’re going to get rejected

[@erzascarlet5078]

Men literally need to have the mindset that there’s a 50% chance of REJECTION when approaching a woman. Like, just cuz you take INITIATIVE DOESNT GUARANTEE SUCCESS EVERYTIME.

[@Redeemedmed]

​@@erzascarlet5078so there is a 50% chance of me wasting my time and possibly getting rediculed for no reason but still have to do it ? Nah i like this dutch thing of women approaching the men , men don't reject women as much women reject men

[@erzascarlet5078]

@@Redeemedmed gl with that. Cuz unless and until you’re in them countries where women approach first, you’re more likely than not bound to die single….. But then again, the same can still hold true for countries where the roles are reversed (ie places like the Dutch, Sweden etc), as women will only tend to approach a select few….. So regardless GL, cuz a) either way it clearly won’t help your cause, and b) something tells me you’ll need it.

[@Redeemedmed]

@erzascarlet5078 you don't need to be condescending bro it's just women not a pot of gold , it already happens to me but to be fair I wouldn't classify them as desirable for me , my approach is to just stick to the women in your friend or work circle , they almost always have an interest in you

[@erzascarlet5078]

@@Redeemedmed it’s not condescending when it’s the TRUTH! LOL, yeah I’m sure “women” approach you all the time (hence why you’re here trynna prove yourself to strangers on the net).

[@manisherande4568]

Dutch men smartest…..they got key to happiness

[@MariahLeyla]

Thats your opinion and after a while anyone can become annoying 😂

[@manisherande4568]

@@MariahLeyla You never got the subtext ?.....the reason for their happiness.... the moment I associated men with happiness I got cancelled....

[@JackJohnson-d2y]

short man here, 5'5" (30) ive never been approached my entire adult life with a romantic prospect. definitly not about to start approaching people with my short self.

[@leonelpereira8831]

Come on man just work on yourself man you know be the most handsome version you can be of yourself but also to most interesting, Look another advice approach anyone you take an interést on like an example the best way is through compliments, like you’re waiting in a line and there’s a cute girl in front of you, you compliment her and depending on her reaction you se how open she is to conversation and there don’t complicate yourself I’ve been there. I believe in you man 🖤

[@NeedMoarRage]

I am sick of hearing this defeatist attitude. I am pretty much your height and age but I am not making excuses. Yes, a lot of women like taller guys but if women sense you have yourself together and you approach her respectfully like a normal person you're halfway there. If she is not receptive or even horrible, move on rather than whining after

[@SnowLeopardForever]

I am 5’4” and have been told I am pretty throughout my life. I like guys my own height (or taller if they are, I have no preference for height). Approach women who smile and look friendly; don’t use your height as an excuse not to.

[@AnalExpedition]

@@SnowLeopardForeverWhat’s your ethnicity?

[@szymonpartyka7944]

As a polish guy who lived in Netherlands for 3 years I would say that Dutch ladies seem much more approachable than polish ones. Not that I would try very often but simple "hi" or a wave from afar was usually recived with a smille, but that's to say say about the Dutch in generall who are more friendly towards strangers. In Poland what you usually get would be at best an awkward look saying "wtf, do we know each other?" or no response at all.

[@CuckedSociety]

Polish girl love ethnic men especially asian and blk. Once heard that they hate their own men because Slavic men are not good looking that what they said.

[@AnalExpedition]

How tall are you?

[@Ufu4847]

@@szymonpartyka7944 If Polish women don’t like to be approached then they can start approach Polish men themselves.

[@aramrahgozar]

in this 30-second clip, They show exactly why men don't approach them.

[@Frivals]

I already like dutch men ❤ let's be the choosers not the beggers 💪

[@jonjonboi3701]

That’s not true and very sexist

[@aramrahgozar]

@@jonjonboi3701 Just listen to what they are saying at the end. They seem confused.

[@Trip4man]

@@jonjonboi3701 Sexist in what way?? If men don't want to approach women, it's their right and their choice! That woman said "men are afraid".... Afraid???! I just don't want the hassle to dodge their minefield of behavioral checklist! You heard it 'approach but don't make a big deal of it'.... Already is giving the limitations and constrains of approach, so I have to do ALLLLLLLLlllllll the work and still be worried about what I can do/say and what I cannot do/say. Why don't they do that work huh??? If they want things their way, then they should do it THEMSELVES. They always preaching equality and alllll that stuff... How about they start to do equal stuff too??? Afterall I'm the "sexist" one and not them right? Righttttttttt

[@swepower3597]

@@Trip4mannoone said its gonna be a walk in the park! If you know all of these ”truths” and just give up it’s just a loser mentality. Have some fucking fun with it and capitalise on all the bitter weak men that are out of the game instead!

[@mewtwo506]

Must be nice to live in a society where women do some of the approaching.

[@harvey1954]

Dutch women might, but American women still want to work the double standard.

[@harvey1954]

yes, please continue @giwrgospetrou1159

[@AbelPeña2067]

soy boy xD

[@DDA532]

Well dont go to the netherlands yhey dont do it there

[@FactsDawg]

They do not lol

[@earthling07]

Approach you , just to get rejected, no way

[@W1LDWESLEY]

Dont make a big thing out of it. We want women to lower their expectations, we should do the same.

[@mohammadchavoshi5568]

Thanks for sharing this 🎉

[@gprastogi]

Thanks for the candid replies !!! - it was an eye opener for me !!!

[@conservative-proud]

Absolutely nothing to do with ego !! It’s because women keep telling them to stop harassing them…

[@user-dostiBaniRaheBus]

say a Trump supporter.....what a irony

[@conservative-proud]

@@user-dostiBaniRaheBus always a Patriot, I love my country… pity that you don’t !! Trump 2024 !!

[@vladonutueu]

@@conservative-proudnobody who loves his country would vote for that maggat puppet 😅

[@bramposthumus9300]

​@@conservative-proudTrump is going to prison, where he belongs.

[@Tsuma_Vento]

​@@vladonutueuYes, they would. And this comment hasn't aged well with the absolute trainwreck that Harris is in her interviews. You don't look at the bigger picture. Trump is the only way, Harris only brings us to the brink of despair.

[@My_dailyL1fe]

Men stopped approaching nowadays because they don't want to be labeled a creep or get accused of something they didn't do if the woman doesn't find him attractive thank-you social media and woke ppl

[@yunleung2631]

Love the direct responses. This is why I like Dutch women. Lol

[@MrAbdoman]

Until you date them

[@throwawayaccount12345]

@@MrAbdoman what was your experience like?

[@yunleung2631]

@@MrAbdoman I have a few Dutch friends who are women. maybe it'll change when I move there lol

[@mr_movieguru]

Well Dutch woman are very difficult and demanding. And in this conservation they say just approach us so we can directly reject you...good luck

[@Oppenhiemer1]

Men took the power and now they can reject

[@chg26]

"I think ego" , so she never asked a man to find out the reason. Smart!

[@1Est87]

As a man cold approaches aren’t the route if she sends chowing signals then it would make everything much more easier

[@michaelscott181]

Women: "Men never approach us, I think it's ego" Also women: "Just don't go for it too much" yea, I think I'll just avoid these two completely

[@quxantipe]

To add. The risks to reward ratio, going up to an complete stranger is pretty bad. Half of women are already in a relationship, so they reject you for that reason often. And than the remaining 50% of women, maybe only 1 in 7 will like you. So, most likely you will be rejected. or I'm just ugly

[@jadbiz]

Happens with most men.

[@respectkindness-oj6xz]

"Dutch women want [...]" two females living in Netherlands out of millions

[@ronberman8947]

I'd definitely approach you, Dutch woman are awesome...

[@DDA532]

Aprouched a couple girls. But no luck been working 6 days a week in the city and literaly not even one girl came and talk to me.

[@FactsDawg]

Truee

[@profexor1551]

In Amsterdam?

[@AnalExpedition]

How are you looks wise

[@nuromeroglu]

Turkish boys are usually quite comfortable in doing the first move so they can find European tourist girls easily.

[@timarinkin4788]

Consequences of the feminism 😂

[@CAL-of9mu]

Dutch man are the same. Dutch people are so arrogant for no reason

[@JennaHasm]

@@CAL-of9mu The problem is you. YOU'RE full of yourself.

[@LIBRAN-LOVE]

They speak the truth...they just don't want to be fragile/vulnerable and get hurt! Body language/energy is all they need!

[@Noahmovies-h7f]

my confidence after listening to this grows exponentially

[@Shan21.]

I would never approach a stranger unless I was asking for directions. From my experience, I like social settings where people with similar interests meet. It makes the conversation more authentic and natural.

[@MihalisNavara]

I want to see this in Arako's video.

[@norwegianlandscapes]

YOU HAVE TO COME TO GREECE.I WILL APPROACH YOU FOR SURE.

[@MalickMan]

Perfect advice.

[@rescuingmodernity]

Yes, the fear of rejection was always big with me! (I am so happy to be old now and out of the game!)

[@gavriloprincip5683]

She: Just go for it Also her: Don't go for it too much Women's logic.

[@jorjocadan5808]

Exactly my thought

[@RandomUser13324]

Lol she meant as in "Dont literally harass women or repeatedly ask them to give you her number after she said no." The fact that you immediately feel the need to insult women shows why none of the men in this comment section are wanted by women at all, its pathethic af.

[@alwaysright3943]

"Woman logic" is an oxymoron. Logic is a male feature.

[@alwaysright3943]

@@RandomUser13324 Has white knighting helped you get laid yet or do women smell the desperation from a mile?

[@vern0123-t5j]

Haha good stuff

[@A909GA]

Damn, I have a different experience. I am not Dutch, but when I was studying in the NL, I was always surprised how many Dutch guys approached me in clubs. I always thought they were very confident.

[@Ufu4847]

It’s the alcohol.

[@rudratanayagupta4994]

Well my boyfriend is Dutch and he approached me first!! So, umm not always true…

[@Tsuma_Vento]

Yeah, but you're not a Dutch woman, are you? That's what this is about.

[@rudratanayagupta4994]

Dude I know what is all about so chill! 😅…I was just explaining about my experience with a Dutch man.

[@MariahLeyla]

​@@Tsuma_Ventoshe wanted to feel better about herself. And better than Dutch women. Like many in the comments. Like to bash them

[@MariahLeyla]

Hope youre feeling better about it congratulations 😊😊

[@Tsuma_Vento]

@@rudratanayagupta4994 Which is irrelevant and not worth mentioning becauuuse... This video specifically is about approaching and dating Dutch women. Smh. It's okay to admit your comment added nothing to the conversation, if your pride will let you, that is.

[@MM-qx6br]

I'm kinda a Dutch man😂 Not very good for an Italian 😅

[@Frivals]

💪💪💪

[@paolomartinelli345]

Va bene invece socio

[@christianmusso629]

😂😂😂

[@gliboperuta9213]

dont need to approach in 2023 with all the online platforms you can talk to women stress free even from your toilet 🚽

[@Frivals]

@@gliboperuta9213 but still it's you that must virtually approach and beg

[@VonGoldfinger]

Approaching a woman in public is illegal in the Netherlands . A new law was passed in July 2024 which makes street intimidation illegal. Therefore if a woman deems it fit she can charge you with this if you approach her in public.

[@Moliere1000]

The simpness of Europe doesn't stop surprising me. What?!!!!

[@ElGeusinjo]

Approaching is allowed in the Netherlands, harassing is not. Big difference...

[@jessicaluk74]

​@@ElGeusinjo men think it's the same

[@Lazerecho]

HR meme too deep for some

[@leviticuscornwall9631]

“Chivalry is dead, and women killed it”

[@conservative-proud]

I’ve had 2 Dutch girlfriends, both were a handful… but I’m always a sucker for beautiful women !! 😂

[@Tony.Giovani]

No,I pass .

[@Daniellaranjeira10]

I just not approached her because I'm not comfortable with my English. But when I have had my confidence. I'll cauch you 😂

[@juliej5917]

Don’t let that stop you. And start a second language class. Your English is fine, just keep learning!

[@Daniellaranjeira10]

@juliej5917 I don't know, but for now, I just need someone to speak everyday I almost understand everything Thanks 😬.

[@jadbiz]

@@Daniellaranjeira10 dont waist your time men if you are not top 5% of men in looks money and popularity please dont waist your time.

[@Daniellaranjeira10]

@@jadbiz I agree with you in part. I have not money, but I'm working with cleaner in the mall, but I have been relationship with women who has money , but you need choose women who has maturity, but you need be funny smart , you need love your live and than you gonna see , but yes there's woman who think just money

[@Daniellaranjeira10]

@@jadbiz my problem is , I can't be myself in English. And I am ugly ,

[@aris9560]

The vibes these girls give, encourage the behavior of Dutch guys. Flirting is a game and neither side wants to give up power to the other. It's like this in every country but they use a different "love language". In Greece for example, women act more vulnerable and men act more macho but the game is the same. Actually Dutch ladies have a higher bodycount than Greek ones based on my knolwedge. I've lived 13 years in NL and didnt manage to connect with Dutch women very well btw

[@florisdejong4661]

Women approaching men is the better default. Rejection *before* approaching benefits both.

[@johnkochen7264]

It’s not fear and it’s not ego. It is indifference. Approaching a girl just leads to another crash and burn so why bother? In all of my relationships, it was the girl who approached me.

[@charlesponzi9608]

As a Dutch man I would never openly approach a women and make the first move. It's very easy to know whether is woman is interested because she will look at you first and her body language immediately tells me whether she finds me interesting or worthy of her attention. Women are the gatekeepers and they are the ones ultimately responsible for deciding whether something is going to happen or not. If you like a Dutch man, just give him a warm smile--we are not likely to chase you and make the first move. It works for us Dutch men as many, including myself, are happily married.

[@johanexxxx]

I though men and woman are equal? why can't a woman ask a guy out if she likes him?

[@Trip4man]

They are not equal lolol If you're a man you'd know how LAME it is a "female approach". I've actually had girl friends telling me "why you didn't do this or that with that girl?? she liked you" and I was like "who? that girl??? I thought we were just having a normal conversation!". And then they call me "dumb". Ahhhhhh women....... They can never be direct or frontal, they just pass the potato to others. Women asking men to go out???? Dream on!!!! Oh yeah... I'm TOTALLY for it! What.. Me not worrying on what to say, how to behave, what to do, not to be creepy, not to be boring, to be sentimental/romantic, be funny,.... Dodging the freaking minefield like a seasoned ninja?!??? I got sh*t to do Miss Center of the Universe...

[@erzascarlet5078]

Whoever said that men and women are “equal” are nothing but DELUSIONAL (re- read that again).

[@felixg.6493]

Feminists delusional propaganda

[@harvey1954]

They can't, but are too chauvinistic to do it. By expecting men to ask them out they can turn around and expect men to pay for the date. Business as usual.

[@ThePhantom712]

Governments saying that men and woman are equal is not true its just propaganda in reality woman are where been for the past 2000 plus years support for the man. In Canada I have had more then a few woman approach me to ask if I wanted to sit with them to have a drink because they were interested in me.

[@punk4rockorz]

I was blown away by the comment of these ladies; 'are we ugly or something?!' Like they expect guys to approach them quite regarly out of nowhere? And if not or never they act buthurt? An average looking guy is most likely getting rejected or ignored.

[@icascone]

It's interesting in English speaking countries it is almost considered "unwanted sexual advances" so I don't ask anymore... And whenever I reaise this I get told it's because they way I approach them must be creeepy.... Well have they seen me in "action"? (Ready for the trolling)

[@linda3482]

Really difficult thing, expecially if you are not the most confident woman in the world. Doesn't have to be too big, but just a little sign that he would like to do something together. A hint would already be nice.

[@cobrakaineverdies5006]

Would actually make way more sense if it was the norm that women are the ones who approach men. Then they can choose exactly what men to give attention and don’t need to complain anymore that men they perceive as creeps are talking to them. On the downside of course they have to deal with rejection (especially as most are overestimating themselves and likely only will approach men out of their league), which is why the don’t really dig this either.

[@AnabethalightASMR]

Then just date men… problem solved

[@cobrakaineverdies5006]

@@AnabethalightASMR why should i date men if i am heterosexual. I said, it should be the norm that women are doing the first step and approach men. This would solve the problem that women are approached or molested by men they are not interested in. However, it would mean that they would need to learn to accept rejection which I have the hunch they will not particularly like. What you said makes zero sense to what i wrote.

[@StillAwesome21]

​@@cobrakaineverdies5006 Don't pay her any mind, she's just a salty female, who doesn't get approached.

[@BillLaBrie]

Word is out: they only want free drinks and the ego boost that comes from turning guys down.

[@oguzhankara7085]

Well, getting a 'no' is not been rejected, it is simple a no and thats ok because the guy who gets a no also says no for other women, thats very normal. And a real mature man should respect that no and keep going on, he tried and will try again, this is life, we cant have all what we want and that is a good thing. Have a great day, greetings from Istanbul Turkey 😊

[@BERBERJESUS-jn5yh]

Approching women randomly in public is nothing that makes sense at all to men. You don't know who she is, what she wants and even you don't know if she's already "occupied" by a guy. The guys who don't care about all of that and approach you, are just the ones you better avoid as a female. The video shows clearly that it's an ego thing on the female side, when not beeing aporoached in public. That's why Dating Apps work just better. In this setting it's clear that both are searching...

[@Gibberish1983]

I’m Latin American (Colombian) living in The Netherlands. It’s in our culture to approach strangers and hunt on women lol I have approached many many many Dutch women and have been with many many of them in casual and serious relationships, you just need to follow your instinct and go for it in a bit of a casual manner, without overdoing it, and I think a lot of guys either come off as too shy or too creepy lol. I feel like I have a good feeling for reaching a balance in this.

[@mariachiingles2348]

the fact that you said hunt says a lot. You're probably a typical paisa who is far from reaching a balance and chases anything with a skirt.

[@Aa-pb8se]

Ok bro but how tall, and how white are you 😅

[@Gibberish1983]

Why do you ask? Are you a frustrated guy looking for silly excuses not to go for it? Anyway, I’m not even white (mix of Native American and Spanish) and yes, I’m 6ft2 tall

[@Aa-pb8se]

@@Gibberish1983 I don’t need advices or recs as I have a girlfriend, relax and breathe. Just wanted to verify something - 6.2 is a major advantage especially in a country like the NL. Your advices can not be applied by everyone, that’s the reality.

[@Gibberish1983]

So you have a girlfriend and STILL think it is possible to sustain or even get into a committed relationship with a Dutch woman without having intelligence? Without knowing how to talk to women? Without having the emotional intelligence to know how to read people and how to conduct yourself in a manner that is attractive to a woman? If you really think only looks can sustain a relationship with a woman, then I’m wasting my time with you. Go meet people, learn about what makes people tick and go read about human psychology. You make absolutely no sense. Sure, looks can help enormously to get you a one-night-stand, but even so you need a personality to turn that one-night stand into something serious.

[@goldilocks913]

Why don’t Dutch men just go for it ? It’s their ego! So go for it But not too much and we’ll tell you anyway Yikes, what a palaver 😂

[@jeffreymorales6233]

Nah, I don't think soo 💀

[@ciptaninasurbakti6672]

Couldn't agree more 😂

[@jamalgreen3056]

Us black and African men we are more assertive.When men lack self integerity and self assertiveness he will never take the initiative at all.But women should also take initiative and make the selves approachable.You cannot have a look on your face as a women like you don't want to be approached but at the same time you do.Men are direct so sometimes if you have men jumping through hoops to find out every little thing about you chances are they won't. Because at the end of the day if you are a women and no man ever approach you then that mean you need to be the one to approach them.

[@Sisterlisk]

The woman makes the first move usually, such as eye contact or a smile or a benign question

[@MartinMendoza-bu1yn]

Lmao

[@jadbiz]

are you a woman??? Then you would know that even if theydo that they can still reject us so whats the point on approach most women?? Waist of time.

[@dozermint1344]

We don‘t wonna end in Jail😂

[@kevinatenine9797]

Women: Just go for it. Men: Wanna go out? Also Women: That's harassment...

[@dernevalribeiro4503]

I approach women in public. But I got a whole etiquette to do that. Too bad I was naive to make good use of it

[@ThenewPhonene]

Okay this might come across as a bit contoversial to some people however its 's time someone spoke the truth. I've been living in The Netherlands for around 2 years now and the closest female friends I have are Dutch. They mean the world to me really we have fun we can speak about anything and usually I get a sense of sisterhood that I dont get from any other nationality. Howeveeeer...they are special people and they like me a lot but not all Duth women are like that. This country is literally made for women especially those born and raised here. You have people who almost never were criticised or ever faced real discrimination which is good for the most part. But you also get a massive sense of entitlement and this combined with idea that men in general are toxic. Ehm Dutch men are probably the least toxic ones out there. I've dated different cultures and honestly the only complaint i have about Dutch men is that they get avoidant at times. Besides that they are the most polite, healthy and respectful man out there. Dutch men are raised in a culture that basically tells them they suck and every lady should be put on a pedestal and the women are taught the same thing. I've met Dutch women that did AWFUL things to men, that insulted and humiliated them for no reason and the vibe of other Dutch women is YAS SIS DO IT AGAIN HE DESERVES IT. I heard some couples arguing and the lady called the guy a neo coloniser and he apologised which is a bit too much. When Dutch women go abroad - again besides my friends who are few of the most priviledged people out ther and they know it and they are respectful to everyone - they have the same princess treatment they find in Holland and just call everyone toxic or a misogynist if they dont get thigs their way. Which somehow works here. But some of them are straight up rude and unfortunately put other women down a lot. Last time I checked feminsm and female freedom is about equality and a mutual sense of admiration and support. Most Dutch women , and Dutch people unfortunately, hate the international bubble and never miss a chance to how it in a so called feminine way. I call that bs. If youre going to break down another woman at least own it. Chances are if a Dutch woman reads this she will acuse me of having internalised misogyny but thats not true. You cant dodge every realty check unde the flag of mysogynism and every reaction people have of you as a sign of "beig toxic" or "disliking women" . Dutch women do that with every. Single. Critic. I heard stories of someone who whisteled at one riding her bike (I heard its illegal now thats good) and she came back and straight up punched him in the face. And everyone cheered for her. Ehm... is physical violence something to cheer for? Yes what the guy did was wrong but is it feminst if someone beats another person up? Yeah but he's toxic he shouldn't have done it h had t coming. This is EXACTLY the mindset other countries that abuse their women have. The exact same mindset, placing one gender that can do no wrong on a pedestal and taking their side first completely and not only justifying but applauding violence, especially physical. So friendly advice for Dutch ladies that are still reading and dont feel like punching me in the face for what I said... take it easy. You aren't even that gorgeous or amazing, you mostly want compliments all the time and lash out if you dont get them and outside of Holland most of you act like spoiled brats and are the equivalent of Dutch men that played Pokemon Go in temples :)) and some of the female friends I have from Holland 100% agree with that but they wouldn't say it. My closest friend grew up bullied and insecure and got criticised for being too emotional or too soon in love with a man when your go to is rejection or avoidance. Your man think that too and you ar the quickest to judge. Whenever a Dutch man gets an international gf is because "he couldnt pull a Dutch woman" oh really? Maybe some Thailand sex tourists do that sadly but most of my generation does not. The last Dutch man I've dated had everything one, even a partner desired. He dated Dutch women too and some really liked him a lot. But then he traveled a bit and realised hold up i can actually speak my mid in a relationship and I wont be put back in my place or I can do something nice for someone and she wont see it as a threat to her independence. Those things happen ladies and it'd be nice if you acknowledged it. Genuine listening to well intended criticism or observations isnt toxic nor an insult ❤

[@ThenewPhonene]

Oh and one more thing for the 1-2% of Dutch ladies that are true feminist and genuinely want to help and empower others. First of all, I salute you there's not many left and second of all gender discrimination and gender based violence happens A LOT in Holland to mostly foreign women and I mean especially Eastern European women that are more or less forced into prostitution. The real victims of gender discrimination and systematic violence are the most silent ones and the ones that most Dutch women completely hate. I would strongly advise to erase the "Eastern European gold digger / husband thief" mindset that sometimes, this I have to admit, is very true but it doesn't justify for the times in which it's not. They need your help the most! Most of you really are the highest emancipated and if you are real sisters who really care, not just signaling that to fit in, listen to those ladies and try enlightening their minds as well. The real bad and toxic Dutch men do atrocities to foreign women who don't have your power. They know hurting a Dutch woman would cost them a lot so they rage and hurt less heard international women. Unfortunately there is little to no sense of sisterhood within the Eastern European women and yes its their responsibility. However you are the host and a host that wants all women to be their fullest and most beautiful selves and I'm afraid for every difference that matters it has to be one of you that speaks up. Your privilege and emancipation came with an awful price that no one saw coming and that is the fault of exactly the toxic men you were supposed to silence and get back in ther place. They kinda won again but this time in a meaner and sneaker way, this time for every asshole or bastard because I can't call them otherwise, that gets shutted down by a Dutch woman you know he will lash out his toxicity at another that won't speak up her mind! And Dutch women don't speak for them either so the cycle continues. The Netherlands keeps the show of feminism and happiness, statistics prove indeed most successful women in the world and then Mr Nice guy with you goes to Red Ligt District and beats up an Ukrainian woman. And when some hear that in order to keep the facade of Mr Nice Guy they say oh but ofc it was the Eastern European gold digger that made him do it. Think twice and admit you probably thought that, especially if your partner took a trip in certain holiday destinations dont tell me you weren't angry at first at the other woman. I'm telling you if the really oppressed women of Holland would act like you and speak up their minds in the ways that you do which I admire a lot, then The Netherlands will be indeed and for real one of the if not the most feminist country in the world. We've got some way to go until that happens.

[@MichaelMcMichael-f2j]

As a foreign student who is studying in the Netherlands, I have no energy for relationships, sometimes it’s just that simple. Oh and please, don’t say the typical ‘just be you/just be yourself/don’t make a big deal out of it’, always mindfucking. I won’t approach because yeah, guess what, I don’t wanna bother anyone and I sure as hell don’t want to face rejection. Had some bad experiences when the girls themselves were just crazy and delusional so nowadays, approach me, not the other way around, and stop being arrogant and egotistical, which is what you accuse guys of doing. Especially if you are at a bar, the last thing in my mind is ladies, I’d rather drink 8 cocktails and have trouble vomiting the next morning like days prior than approach any girl

[@bigfootpart4therevengeancing]

The issue isn't one of a simple "I am not interested," but more of "Ha, are you serious? Fuck off." There are plenty of assholes who should be told off for being aggressive, but that's not every man, and there are plenty of women who will go nuclear on a man for simply offering to buy a drink.

[@DepressionOfMyCat]

Im a woman and I wouldnt approach these kind of woman, so scary😅😂 what do they even want

[@jadbiz]

they only want to inflate their ego because they only love themselves or rich, famous, big , tall, muscular men. The rest of men are simply garbage for these women.

[@Jamespwickstromw]

Yeah these girls probably have a big mouth and like to humiliate you by rejection if you approached with good intent. We men can smell it from a mile away thats why nobody approached them LOL.

[@MariahLeyla]

Very rude of you. A lady would never say such a thing about anyone 😊

[@Victor-fg1ky]

She's not getting it🤦‍♂️we men aren't afraid of approaching modern women. We just don't see the benefit anymore of doing so 🤷‍♂️

[@Frivals]

I already like dutch men ❤ let's be the choosers not the beggers 💪

[@jonjonboi3701]

That’s not true and just sexist

[@LisaSoulLevelHealing]

Are you American? Because those men have way more issues than men in other countries.

[@harvey1954]

They're talking about Dutch men, not American men. @@LisaSoulLevelHealing

[@perrrkele]

That’s true. The feminism ruined the world

[@juventinos81]

When i am into mood i go for it.I go,i choose,i pay,do my thing and then go away. Its cheaper and safer.

[@michaelpotter9071]

I'm kind of getting mixed messages here! I guess they were thinking it through as they spoke

[@1973HenkY]

I'm gonna assume these good looking ladies are both single. If yes, there is reason for that. If no, why are you looking for men to approach you. Also: good men don't usually find a good woman in a bar. Hope this helps you women improve yourselves.

[@robertoortiz2922]

I lived in the Netherlands for 2 years. Every time I approached a girl and tried to start a conversation the girls were all very unconfortable and embarassed.

[@dm4life90]

Dating in the Dutch big city isn't pleasant for a guy, on average. Relatively many good looking guys and average looking women, and everyone has very high expectations. Also most woman are quite direct and some even intimidating, so you'd better have a good pick up line/natural suave otherwise you will be hammered into the ground like a nail almost instantly.

[@Utubedeletescomments]

Dutch women have black teeth

[@No29999]

“Go for it” “but don’t go for it too much” pretty much a hard balance these days where everything is politically correct

[@TaratraAvana]

Guys, I think the hunting and loving way of Dutch women is beautiful and epic, they are hot and full of charm, and all they have to do is treat the guy or the flirt or the boyfriend well and they will be well loved. Wow, 2 hotties like that flirting is charming, what's not worth it is making a man look like an idiot. And a guy should say his feelings, yes, but with the guarantee that he will be loved and not rejected or made a fool of. There has to be respect and love between the two parties without love pranks and love games so no one gets offended 💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛

[@Thepasserby-z2s]

As someone who already rejected several times, Nahh... the answer is "GO AWAY, I HAVE A BOYFRIEND...!!!!" 😂