The social media beauty cult | DW Documentary

[@kirstenbakker839]

It really depends on who you choose to follow on instagram. My feed is filled with art, plants and vintage fashion. It inspires me and makes me happy!

[@agneslaufer9579]

My facebook with minimalism, healthy recipes and kittens .we rule

[@elfeverlasting4632]

Mine is filled with my closest friends, book reviews and a lot of food, sometimes instagram can be a happy place

[@msgirly6827]

@Millinial Picasso just because YOU dont know girls/women who dont, doesnt mean its a rarity or that it isnt true

[@sharonliu2521]

mine is mostly cute animals and travel :)

[@elene7356]

Kirsten Bakker exactly what i’m saying.my sister always accuses me of still having social media but i’m just using it differently than other people, also i kind of know when and when not to go on instagram, facebook whatsoever

[@Avaricumstudios]

As a photoshop professional and photographer I can honestly tell you that these ideal images are not exactly what they seem...it's all about angles ,poses and manipulation

[@mylovelykids2704]

@Lia yep

[@plantmama7442]

💯💯!!

[@veryconfused9768]

But still they are so beautiful

[@janetwestwood9194]

🤔🤣👍🇬🇧

[@openlabtec]

well, but some womens has been work.

[@saraha8649]

I think it also needs to be talked about how this effects men and their view of women. It's conditioning them as well.

[@ACS402010]

And what about women and their view of men? When are we going to talk about this newfangled nonsense going around in the media and social media that men and their masculinity are "toxic" by nature, hence so-called "toxic masculinity"? Let's discuss that lie, shall we...?

[@venlapallari9484]

@@ACS402010 you've misunderstood something there. Masculinity is not toxic by nature and nobody's saying that. Toxic masculinity is about traditional cultural norms that are harmful to both men and women. You can be masculine without being toxic.

[@ACS402010]

@@venlapallari9484 You want to talk about "traditional cultural norms", specifically in western society? Let's talk about the idea that women have certain expectations of men, and certain standards men need to meet in order for women to deem them acceptable, tall, handsome, fit, high paying career, fancy car etc. And there is certainly no harm in women setting standards. But when men have certain expectations and set specific standards for they want in a woman, slim, fit, pretty, sexy, easy to get along with etc.,, out come the cries of "Misogyny!" and "Sexism!" and the "You should accept a woman as she is and at any size because all women are beautiful!" and other such foolishness. And everyone joins in the pile-on, because how DARE a man have certain expectations in a woman? Double standards...yuck.

[@marvin2678]

@@venlapallari9484 so If I say women need to be submissive and skinny that's toxic femininity...hmm ironic never heard that by the feminist, they usually call that one misogyny.. pathetic... It's obvious that the term toxic masculinity is purposely the way it is to blame everything on masculinity

[@marvin2678]

@@venlapallari9484 the term is victim blaming, it should be called misandry but feminist cant accept that men are victim too, thats why I don't support them even though I agree with a lot they say

[@jp4431]

There's a saying in Chinese: If you compare yourself to others, you'll eventually frustrate/compare yourself to death

[@straw1berry11]

@@rrr-tg1wk I guess it really is much easier to troll when your anonymous online, the journalist was right. You're a miserable creature.

[@rrr-tg1wk]

@@straw1berry11 do you really think I can't say the same staying face to face with him?

[@straw1berry11]

@@rrr-tg1wk I sure hope you do say racist shit to ppls faces. Because I know if you do that one day you are going to meet that one person that will put you in your place, aka break your nose and make you cry for your mommy. Please remember to film that moment because I know seeing that would make my whole day

[@mara_9178]

@@rrr-tg1wk no u can't. or why else did u delete ur bs?

[@rrr-tg1wk]

@@mara_9178 it was not me who delete my first comment

[@artemisamory]

Following "body positive", plus size, and fitness models are the same problem as following thinspo. You are still putting all your mental energy and self-value into your BODY. Don't put your self-value in your body. Period. You have a body, it doesn't matter how it looks. Be balanced, healthy, and enjoy what you love. If you love fitness and it's your job or whatever, then fine. But don't do it to LOOK good, do it because you love it. Don't put all your self-worth into your body is what I think the solution is.

[@poppynut]

Very well said!

[@EyeNoMrGREEN]

I agree to an extent, but I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting to look good. It is when things become an obsession and damage your mental health that it becomes a problem. That can happen with anything though not just body image. If you think of your self as very scholarly you can put all your self-worth into your grades and your degree, which can lead to just as many problems with stress or perhaps turning to stimulant drugs to study more. The solution is not to stop trying to get good grades or to stop trying to look good it is to have a balanced, healthy life with a reasonable outlook and to love yourself regardless of the results.

[@maximilianstrasse3904]

I agree, but the girl shown at ~ 8:00 isnt unhealthy or anything like that, shes really just a little bit curvier and I believe her taking care of herself. I dont think shes following the extremes (Tess Holiday fe) or worshipping them in any way.

[@cocobella5905]

So true !!

[@farahgrants6419]

Thank you. What you’ve written is amazing and I’m going to keep it with me ❤️

[@JOONEOR]

These poor kids have no frame of reference to a world where social media did not exist. I feel sorry for them.

[@asparrow5505]

I imagine after a couple generations of this nearly everyone will have a mental illness

[@tiedtruth1071]

@@asparrow5505 I think we're already seeing it

[@asparrow5505]

@@tiedtruth1071 You're right

[@abutaher9392]

Well said and true, but also the inverse is true as well, because social media now sets the tracking of "cultural/social capital", which is required for creating opportunity in the "capital" capital worlds of many industries. Social media has flattened things like Hollywood and made youtube and tiktok the platforms for being free agents of content creation and distribution. going from 0 to 1 to launch your brand or company has never been easier. whatever the negatives, we can't let that sink the entire ship.

[@Iron-Bridge]

@@abutaher9392 Good counterpoint. Tech is tech. And throughout the passage of history adaptation is required either thrive or get destroyed ( monolithic Hollywood and centralised institutions)

[@Apudurangdinya]

My mum said this about how i should dress, "dress your self in clean and tidy clothes, good manner, and polite tongue, and everybody will respect you" and that's it really

[@natalieireri8621]

I was told I dress like the help

[@cherchehacknostale]

Not really. Not everybody will respect you because of all above.

[@pinacolada1393]

You can't sew on a soul.

[@Kolosso_369]

Dress like an Indian so the cowboys don't get ya lol.

[@schoolwork232]

@@cherchehacknostale how sure are you?

[@alphaflow8163]

I'm 25, and never ever felt attracted to Instagram, Snapchat etc. I've never even uploaded a profile pic to Facebook. That doesn't make me smarter or better in any way, obviously. But it's always nice to see that I'm not missing out on much...

[@monalisa9636]

But even following the “ body positive “ people is still making girls focus on their bodies. Body positive is just as obsessed with outside appearance. BP is just as toxic. Maybe young girls need to help the needy, volunteer for a good cause. Do something good and take the focus off of fitting or not fitting in.

[@currybread5298]

It seems like you have gravely misunderstood body positivity. Please educate yourself on the matter

[@elyazidasri2968]

Body positivity is stupid, fat means unhealthy and undesirable.

[@currybread5298]

@@elyazidasri2968 yikes

[@currybread5298]

@antwinettec Don't "hon" me. I disagree with you but you are allowed to have your opinion

[@aidwkdccvvubibu5609]

I was with until you wrote your conclusion lol. That’s an absolutely useless solution. Women biologically are judged on their looks so it’s pretty logical that they often have to keep up with social norms of what’s considered beautiful. So a better solution would be to unfollow beauty bloggers, focus on your health (fitness, nutrition), do what you love and the beauty & confidence will come from within.

[@HankiMaus]

I deleted my FB account in January and I never even tried out Instagram... feels so good to be free. I can only imagine how exhausting it must be for a woman to be on Instagram. I will never go back to social media - my real life is just too precious.😌

[@birgitk6518]

I am a woman and I dont feel exhausted being in instagram 😒😒 all women are not the same when they see beautiful woman or fit woman in social media they get depressed 😒😒 some have their confidence still there.

[@susan638]

Social media pure evil. Yes, there was a time when natural beauty was OK. If showing off and being proud is your main goal, you have fallen under Satan's spell. Jesus loves you!!!

[@africanlily6107]

It’s not that hard especially since most of the photos are photo shopped 😂

[@monicavarona9316]

I used facebook just for memes and to know what's trend. I don't used instagram.

[@iliane0vono]

Markus RiverRhine wow duh, instagram is more “look” focussed then youtube. It’s a different system. You can be on youtube for workshops, talks, documentary’s like this one. Don’t you REALLY see any difference?

[@sockeeee]

Why am I watching a german documentary, translated into english, even though I'm german and would understand everything they say. 😂

[@MCArt25]

weil's die doku aus irgendeinem grund nicht auf deutsch auf YT gibt?

[@melnacholia]

Geht mir auch so XD

[@meenaz8]

😂🤣

[@nagsen4921]

Hey, guy it's helpful to non - German.

[@edlikestoboogie]

Because those anorexic girls make you go hard as a rock , the effect isn't the same in German.

[@spacebar9476]

As a guy who grew up in the 90s in a small town in India, I strongly believe in the ideal of simple living and high thinking. It's not how you look, it's the substance.

[@Geodendronitrian]

True.

[@SakshiYadav-lj3ib]

Absolutely correct

[@Aleklolo]

thats cool we are forced to work and shop

[@maxwell3499]

You're fkin' right ! 👍

[@traceyyeoman8391]

Wow% some one with a brain yes. definitely give you a thumbs up.

[@victoriakunetsky]

girls! delete instagram, less stress and less comparison

[@user-rx4jg8lq7h]

I mean, I don't even have instagram. But I can still compare with women I see on the street. Don't need social media to feel this way.

[@Marcelos8686]

​@@user-me7mm7gr1p haha shut tf up incel :D

[@riverdeep399]

Victoria Kunetsky they can't. They prefer the easy income.

[@8BitDarkNESsR3v14]

@@user-me7mm7gr1p why'd you expect them not to be picky on a "dating" app? I don't use those but can already tell most are a sausage fest for sure

[@lalemonani6808]

@@user-rx4jg8lq7h but atleast you see real people, not fake instagram models who edits almost everything to look good

[@TributesAndUnique]

A wise woman once said that body neutrality is the best way - Feel neutral about our bodies and not obsessing over them or have the need to show it all over social media since there's a lot more to us then our bodies.

[@chikooochikkk6235]

I don’t mind people showing off. But they shouldn’t edit their pictures. Show off your body, but don’t portray something you aren’t in real life.

[@sallylemon5835]

I had achieved that by dressing in high coverage. Cover not because it's ugly, cover because all these things are just for myself.

[@slaveNo-4028]

i like this a lot, and I think its the same with many other societal issues like ra*ism and LGBT too! In their attempt to change and improve bad norms, people jump from one extreme to the other, I think the key would be: Neutrality, equality, take the focus away on our difference or ideals. I think it would just be a wonderful world if people could just stop caring about bodies, appearance, race, gender, etc..

[@suedenim6590]

You then 🙄

[@amandanoelle734]

Yes!! 💖

[@Gorrgrim]

just limit your social media activity or close your accounts. ANYONE IMPORTANT is gonna be on your contact list or someone you talk to in person and WHY would you spend hours looking into other peoples lives

[@fetchstixRHD]

"ANYONE IMPORTANT is gonna be on your contact list or someone you talk to in person" to be fair, nowadays you can quite easily go quite some time without interacting with anyone (with possibly co-workers/other students as exceptions). While that's a problem in itself too which should be addressed, I guess that allowing people to be part of a community who would otherwise be excluded is one of the upsides of the internet/social media.

[@luisc.h.6700]

Amen. I deleted all my social media 2.5 years ago, and i am much happier that way. All i have is this youtube account, that's it. :)

[@luciatat4084]

This was my motivation to stop using facebook. I never installed instagram and hopefully never will. I want to live a real life.

[@rrr-tg1wk]

​@@luciatat4084 hello your idea coincides with one of mine, did you manage to stop using facebook now? btw where are you from?

[@CozierStitches]

Thank you for this

[@Gzl833]

I sometimes imagine explaining how starving will be a status symbol in the 21st century to medieval farmers .They’d be really confused

[@waiki8223]

Even nowadays, trying to explain the "coolness" of starvation to someone from an African country where famine reigns...

[@nm9688]

@@waiki8223 I guess it depends on which African you are talking to

[@mungimichael3131]

Yess iam African particulary from Uganda and you’re so right. Here a fat person is deemed rich cuz most families cant afford 3 meals a day. Being fat is an ideal body size.

[@emanahmad8049]

No Instagram No Facebook No tik tok I don't use social media it's a waste of time and makes me feel heavy burden plus full of negative energy that I don't need. Um better off without it

[@tuumanka7974]

youtube?)

[@blackwidow5228]

@@tuumanka7974 I said the same thing. lol

[@ajpfeifer652]

KZbin is a social media

[@randallgoeswhere]

Same. The best thing you can do is not be a part of that fake life. But I think for women especially its an addiction. Its instant gratification and non stop attention.

[@emanahmad8049]

@@tuumanka7974 youtube is different....i choose what I like to watch on youtube

[@poetrycorazon]

I wouldn't want to be young today. Being young in the 80s was about hanging out in malls, dancing, and writing hand written notes to boys you liked.

[@unlokia]

Yes AWWW I miss those times ❤️

[@casper-z9rkls6gl]

Today it's still about hanging out, dancing, shopping . . . . while selfie-ing yourself and uploading it on social media to impress the whole world.

[@NetSkillNavigator]

Nostalgic..

[@MountandbladeSteppeNomad]

I'd rather send my boyfriend photos than do boring things like that, I hate people eitherway lol

[@pleasesayhi4009]

I don't think we grew up in the same 80s.

[@dollsNcats]

I block anything I dont want to see , I hate “perfect” fake photo’s it’s all ridiculous and I don’t need it

[@TAROTAI]

then stop complaining about it - since you are _apparently_ through with it (which, from your rant, you are still stuck & sick of it)

[@TheYeayea420]

Lol, you follow and look like the “perfect” fake photos. Easy for you to ridicule others about it.

[@reggaefan2700]

I think I'd prefer the 2013 version 15:23

[@JA-xv3qp]

I am a very balanced, and “strong-psyched” woman. Not a lot that can happen to me that I cannot process and deal with. But instagram managed to get under my skin - quitting was the best thing I’ve ever done. So dangerous.

[@robertcallaghan4029]

As a 60 year old overweight man I now feel my g-string modelling career is not so assured.

[@mechasentai]

Lol you just disappointed so many horney women!

[@DadolfShitler69]

I think in this day and age you will do really well in your modelling career.

[@timberwolfdiesel5555]

little movie magic you be behind camera in no time no wories future is here

[@TheAwillz]

Robert Callaghan never give up

[@poopdaddy4217]

Never give up Brother ;)

[@niningrz4864]

I'm glad i don't have any social media. I only watch YT, mostly on history, documentation, travel and food. Made me aware of there's someone out there that really more miserable than myself. It made me grateful for the life i have rn.

[@adaninurs]

Wohooo same! I still have insta but never open it, purely for people contact me through dm:) KZbin only! Documentary, funny videos, and business related content. And because of it I have my own business and passive income😍 youtube change my life for real xD

[@jessicalewis5953]

same here

[@jessicawolff6560]

I agree, I only have FB and YT. Don’t care to be bombarded of pictures of individuals who alter their pictures to where they don’t even look like that 🤷🏽‍♀️.

[@bipashana5887]

I wish I was you

[@jessicalewis5953]

@@bipashana5887 y not b urself instead it might be more profitable

[@kylefenrick293]

Who ever told woman that Botox looks good in any way, played a sick joke on woman.

[@kylefenrick293]

Also all to common, is those pages and profiles with butts hanging out and over emphasizes looks, lack substances which would suggest a whole person, with a single thought towards individual ideas. Creating a self replicating issue.

[@mechasentai]

Lmao haven't you heard? Bloated dead fish face is the new gorgeous! Hahaha...

[@gaslitworldf.melissab2897]

chaching

[@riverdeep399]

kyle fenrick very sick. We don't know the long term effects of it yet. If it leeches into the nervous system, boom. No good news.

[@Lililililili333]

River Smith yeah we do, it’s been used since the 70’s for eye muscle hyperactivity, blepharospasm and cervical dystonia, and it’s absolutely save when used the right way 😊

[@jodiehuang2816]

In my teenager years I would compare myself to others, but now I think its nonsense! I think its so important to grow self esteem and accept yourself.

[@Tismeabbie]

It’s certainly not an easy lesson for most to learn and I would think growing up with social media would make it harder to overcome that. I’m actually glad social media wasn’t prevalent when I went to school. Then again I’ve never compared myself so maybe I’m missing the point to of had that mind set

[@jodiehuang2816]

@@Tismeabbie Yeah, totally agree with you. Its the inner mindset that matters.

[@famine3141]

True words!

[@douloureux.]

I wrote my bachelor thesis on the effects of Instagram of the body image of young girls and the results were shocking tbh.

[@saraf5414]

hey where can people read it? :)

[@pinangel681]

I would love to read it pls

[@MCArt25]

point no.5 may surprise you!

[@SkyyPiano]

I didn't know bachelor's degrees required a thesis?

[@everafterlark]

@@SkyyPiano not every country definitely. but in mine and his we are required to

[@adelhamdi9247]

I don't use any social media for 3 years now 💪

[@gaslitworldf.melissab2897]

I minimize my use of it, because too much of it is trite, filled with platitudes. Everyone needs to have their post liked instantly, so if no one pays attn, it's disturbing and you get paranoid about not being liked. So, when I notice that I'm looking at past dates, I log off and more importantly, I reserve Friday through Sunday for reading books and exercise.

[@yannis5697]

Never in my life i use any social media

[@misterprogressive8730]

KZbin is a form of social media you dumb ass

[@mambowumbo]

@@misterprogressive8730 exactly what i was thinking about

[@justincase4466]

You're using social media here

[@SamKGrove]

Before social media, they had magazines, Hollywood, and other females to which they compared themselves. Nothing new about this.

[@SamKGrove]

@@OpiumBride, there was photo enhancement before digital imaging. There were many tricks with the lens, the camera, and the development to smooth skin, remove blemishes and freckles, make it glow, etc. Also, most models already represent an idealized image. They are like the 1% in beauty.

[@RareJewel777]

@@OpiumBride umm, most of them had surgeries as well...

[@fetchstixRHD]

The difference now being that you're constantly reminded of other (fe)males existence much more frequently whenever you look down at your phone, and to add to that you then see (wo)men who are much more "accessible" seemingly looking better than you and having a life that appears much better than yours. It's the equivalent of looking at said magazines/movies every other moment rather than occasionally.

[@arielombura704]

You could always say they were exceptions to the norm that's why they were featured.

[@brightnessiordza2330]

True

[@AmScEn]

Me: What's your profession? Her: An Instagram model. Her: Yours? Me: A soldier on Call of Duty.

[@chunellemariavictoriaespan8752]

Me: A reader who wishes to be a doctor...

[@lkofie6670]

Or "an influencer"

[@reggaefan2700]

I think I'd prefer the 2013 version 15:23

[@reggaefan2700]

Jenni looks like Demi Lovato 26:40

[@heatherjohnson-raeburn4078]

.lol ha ha ha 😁😃😃🙂

[@MoonWaterX]

I'm an artist and I follow other people's art and it makes me feel like my work is CRAPPPPP.

[@allnargles]

HonestlyKi DW should make a documentary about that. The lies from Instagram aren’t only affecting beauty standards, you end feeling bad about your home, your kitchen, your creativity flow, your holidays...

[@MoonWaterX]

@@allnargles Literally your everything feels inferior...compared to falsehoods and fantasies. But it's so hard to give it all up. Looking for inspiration easily turns into finding discouragement.

[@tundrawomansays5067]

HonestlyKi The concept is share, don’t compare if that’s the route you want to go. But I bet the time you spend looking at someone else’s is time you could spend allowing your mind and your art to take you freed from preconceived notions to where you can’t even yet imagine! Your work *isn’t crap.* When it comes from yourself it expresses what makes you the unique human being you are-there is *no one else as good at your art as YOU.* Promise.

[@Dusk425]

Same

[@alystdesign]

same

[@PossibleBat]

We are living in a very superficial sad world

[@susan638]

March 18, 2020 - 4 months later and it's gotten even sadder. Take care. Jesus Loves You.

[@joesantos468]

WOW. SOME ONE FINALLY MAKES SENSE?

[@nameless592]

It’s always been like that what planet have you been living on

[@luismiguelmartinezsanchez4069]

@@nameless592 la heronina te ha matao el cerebro verdad

[@monalisa9636]

I’m not

[@Notmytoe]

Wow I'm surprised and impressed that they actually addressed the sexual assault, abuse, and escorting that models and actresses are pushed into. There's no female winner when you have a society that objectifies women

[@franz3810]

they said: it's empowering ....bullshit I am a woman and now women are more objectified than ever. People rate us (men or woman) as numbers...it's nonsense

[@kosovir]

Nobody is pushing them. They want the cookie, you can go and work a 9 to 5? But no. Amber had to marry Johnny Depp? Why?

[@gonzorichards9459]

@Josh Hernandez because the numbers are purely based on physical looks

[@therealdeal3672]

@@franz3810 the number rating thing has been around since the 1970s. There is a movie with a woman named Bo Derek and she played someone who was a 10 in the movie 10. That s*** has been around a long time! I do think it's worse now than before but the number thing has a long history. Just like stupidity.

[@jenniferogochukwu6886]

True but women are at the forefront of objectifying themselves these days.

[@crissahope9657]

Watching this video hits close to home. I struggle with low self esteem because I am overweight and not pretty. Growing up, my mother was always knit picking at me about all my flaws. I had acne, so she would always bring it up about how bad my acne was. When I started to gain weight, she would knit pick at me about my weight. She used to tell me that a man would only want me if I was skinny and flawless. If I have to be constantly on eggshells about that and in order to meet a man, then it is not worth the anxiety and depression.

[@laylasmulders8082]

wow .. ur mom is abusive sorry 😢

[@laylasmulders8082]

appearance is fake its molded by social media its really nothing, its in the eye of the beholder also. ur worth isnt determined by your beauty, pls love yourself for the interests u have the love u can give

[@skycloud4802]

Rather ironically pressuring people about their heavy weight is likely going to make them eat even more as they begin getting depressed and comfort eating. Apparently acne can be caused by stress too, so why heap even more stress?!

[@annieridesagain3867]

It's sadly your mom that has problems, which is often the sign of a personality disorder . Glad you are clever enough to know what's going on in your life, and you can be skinny and flawless, but absolutely horrible. Anyone with a genuine lovely personality is going to be attractive to many other genuinely lovely souls out there in the world . Good luck.

[@andreaspoom1621]

I get you and I'm glad that your acne is gone. I am 24 and still trying everything to cure it. Looking at the mirror disgust me. 0% self-confidence. Never had relationship. The covid isolation has been very easy for me because i have done it most of my life so others don't have to see my disgusting face and don't even get me started on anxiety and depression. Acne is so much worse than anyone thinks. So i'm glad that you don't have it anymore.❤

[@charlottecady9417]

I am so glad as I mature, I realize how little my looks matter in comparison to how I show up in my own life and for others.

[@3dinutil919]

"My motivation is to keep getting better. I don't compare myself to others, I just want to improve myself." (13:53) - Says a girl who takes part in fitness modeling competitions and shares it all on social media. I am not saying she is a bad human being, but she is either lying or totally unaware of herself. Taking part in competition is the ultimate way of comparing yourself to others and living an active life on social media does not support your statement either. That mindset most people have, associating problems always with others while not reflecting how you contribute to it yourself, is one of the reason why we fail to deal with complex issues.

[@rutabagage8176]

yas I agree. she has the same obsession as an anorexic person, but can hide behind the word "healthy" or "fitness".

[@dystopia390]

@@rutabagage8176 it is called orthorexia

[@rutabagage8176]

@@dystopia390 thanks, I didn't know

[@JamesConley999]

noo... not everything is a disorder people can be happy and not compare themselves while still wanting to improve and knowing they aren't perfect

[@dystopia390]

James Conley yes of course, eating healthy and exercising doesn’t mean orthorexia. However, orthorexia appears when one has an unhealthy obsession with eating healthy, to the point of having difficulty to live normally

[@mr.marius5094]

And this is one of the reasons that I quit Social Media years ago. I can say I was a visionary!

[@mr.marius5094]

@Ben Grimm too

[@SonofChrist77]

I'm a guy and I even have body image issues. Until 21 I had bad acne, at 22 I noticed that my hair was falling out and I would be extremely careful not to look down because it would show my balding spot. I had gynecomastia (man boobs) until 27, and walked with my shoulders rolled forward to make them less noticeable and always wore jacket even in hot weather to hide them. I actually believed that girls wouldn't want me because I had to have perfect pecs and defined abs. I still have wider hips than normal men and wonder if any girl would want me. Most guys won't open up about their insecurities because society demands men to be a "tough guy" and punishes those who show even a little emotion. I think social media/media in general has the potential to harm men as well as women's self esteem and their self image. We are all humans and experience the same things so we should not separate men and women. Men should also be encouraged to open up, even though its harder for them, it is much better for their sanity and mental health in the long run. Insecurities are insecurities and we should help each other to overcome them, regardless of gender.

[@nadulamb4141]

You go man Own your self 👑

[@xerxes1615]

i agree with you.

[@MA-gu2up]

Well, a lot of women will try not to talk a lot about their insecurities. I don't think it is society telling men to not be emotional. It is people who do not want to burden others with their problems. Also, men and women go through some similar things and some different things, generally speaking. It isn't like men go through pregnancy and periods, right?

[@mgh62000]

IG and Tinder are making people more superficial. I don't see the upside of that.

[@PBLCDMND]

IG and Tinder - they do nothing. It's us who misuse these tools.

[@JOVI08]

Well, i met my soon to be husband on tinder. It really depends if you get influenced by fake people on the internet or you become as authentic as you are. Social media is a useful tool to influence people be it through authenticity or superficiality 🙂

[@mgh62000]

@@JOVI08 Congratulations on your engagement and your attractiveness, because if you and your fiance met on Tinder, you're most likely both quite attractive.

[@onlyhuman5669]

Ikr

[@klo786]

It makes women more superficial. Men dont care about social media.

[@mollygibson4402]

"I wake up in the morning and the first thing I do is watch pictures of thin models." Right. Put down the phone, girl.

[@raulh5008]

Easier said that done. A vast majority of people check their phone first thing in the morning.

[@ностромов]

It's not even "thin models", oh, ok she says it: just normal girls, with anorexia.

[@glorymanheretosleep]

I google my favorite brothels in Switzerland to see who is working.

[@Janewomanpower]

Check out the latest documentary on netflix called @social dilemma. And there is much more info out there. It can help bring more insight in the underbelly of social media. Don't take my word for it. Check it out.

[@Janewomanpower]

@@raulh5008 indeed. The latest Doc on netflix called Social Dilemma is very eye opening.

[@positiveandstrong]

Makes you realize mental health issues are more widespread than one suspects.

[@theresak5906]

There was a time in my life when I posted photos of mine on FB daily. At some point I noticed that my real life and life on FB have almost nothing in common. I did everything I could to create an impression that I was living a super colourful and interesting life online while feeling depressed and anguished in real life. A few years ago I made a decision to stop posting on FB. I still have my account but I log in just once or twice a week to check my messages and catch up with foreign friends' birthdays. I'm so happy I'm not addicted to FB anymore.

[@why.soooserious]

After I have spent 15 days at the hospital taking care of my uncle and witnessing the suffrage and pain of young, adults, kids. My perspective on life was changed. I realized the huge amount of trivialities I was sinking in.

[@deezimmo4814]

I have never used instagram, ever. I have been made fun of, bullied, left out of groups because I was the new person in a school system. I have become strong in my own identity and do not need social media to rule my world. No one ever fits into a mold of beauty..it is an unattainable ideal. You must love yourself.

[@katelily7619]

Adversity builds character. Kudos to you 👍

[@reabetsweimanmoabi7911]

I like your comment Dee 😁... wish more people thought like you ....

[@lourdespaints8646]

Great attitude! Keep it up!

[@freeinternet6582]

Inferiority complex is dangerous. A real underlying mental issue that needs to be addressed. It goes both ways, for models and for wannabe models.

[@lorichaudhry7290]

I raised my daughter to know that what’s in her heart and in her mind will serve her over any other features she might have. So far so good. 👍🏻🥰

[@xxanonymous6130]

but that isn’t enough today, especially in school. Believe me

[@Katharina14031982]

@@xxanonymous6130 But school will be over eventually. And life is easier knowing your true worth beyond the outer shell.

[@aperture0]

Your first name means truck

[@lorichaudhry7290]

@@aperture0 I know! 😆🤭🚚👍🏻💛

[@aperture0]

@@lorichaudhry7290 oh I see 😅😁

[@u2ooby]

Thank you for including english voice actors in the documentary. It makes it much more easy to watch when i'm working on other things.

[@kirstenbakker839]

The double voices confuse me a lot. I listen to the German voices and then suddenly the American voice comes in. Switching all the time between languages is pretty exhausting.

[@binodthakur6113]

Every documentry of DW is highly appreciable.Thanks DW.

[@kelseylane9077]

Haven't had social media for 3 years now. And it's honestly toxic to have. I haven't been happier.

[@PlaceboEllie]

how are you on KZbin then

[@kelseylane9077]

@@PlaceboEllie this isn't social media its a platform for entertainment not used for keeping in touch or anyone to find me etc. Have a blessed day!

[@revanruler6404]

i still get angry over the news and yt because people are so stupid it physically hurts me (just watch any karen and you'll want to nuke the entire fucking country)

[@kelseylane9077]

@Long Duk Dong see what? The father of my kids giving me a kiss? Lol married to a Jamaican and PROUDDD :)

[@kelseylane9077]

@Long Duk Dong I know being a mature adult is fuckin difficult huh buddy :( *pat pat*

[@andgnd3674]

what people have to realize is that on social media you are a customer and those influencers are just trying to get you to consume their media. You should never make decisions or build opinions based on social media. It s hard to be smart but not that hard to just look and sound smart

[@classycosi9914]

Watching this, I’m so grateful for being 40 now, for having had the privilege of growing up in a world without mobiles and Facebook. When I was 22, I had better things to do than sitting at my parent’s home and to compare myself to photoshopped “models” and feeling inadequate.

[@sorchx]

Good for you, I see so many 40 plus complaining about their age. I'm 26 and would do anything to have been a teenagers in the 80s/90s. I mean Chris Cornell,. Eddie Vedder, Layne Staley? Fuck yes, No mobiles, no internet, Real life dates rather than tinder. Being on a bus/train and striking conversations with people, looking people in the eyes rather than staring at their phones. Man it must have been wonderful.

[@juizee98]

I’m 40 as well and I’m sorry but I remember the time period when we all tried to be model thin. Even video vixens were thin during that period compared to now. We just didn’t have social media exaggerating it and easy access to the procedures and plastic surgery. Especially if you were from California. And it didn’t let up until around 2005. But I will admit. It was way better then than now.

[@KennaDeMerkedo]

@@juizee98 what do you mean "tried"? We were all thin back then!

[@jewelcool9917]

@@sorchx It was wonderful I miss those days so much!! I feel so bad for today's youth its made them into zombies its really sad to see

[@crispyclay]

Oh whatever. You didn't look at magazines? Or watch TV shows or Movies? Get off your high horse m with that " I had better things to do" 🙄. All you're doing is shaming and blaming women and girls framing body issues as something that's in their control

[@joannewalker4232]

The cult of narcissism. Constantly gawping in the mirror and taking selfies, get out there and volunteer for a charity and give some much needed help to those less fortunate, if your brain and all your limbs work then you are already truly blessed.

[@Pink-756d33]

Something a low value individual with no social opportunities would say. Hmmm

[@MikoyanGurevichMiG21]

@@Pink-756d33 the lack of self awareness and nuance in this comment is astounding.

[@EdMcCornhole]

Extreme narcissists should be a new reality show like all the other stupid brainless ones.

[@tiffanyroseangeles7517]

What ever happened to Let It Be" as Song to get thru the Pandemic thru"??

[@tiffanyroseangeles7517]

Secure people do not require excessive validation

[@savynsavvy2180]

"comparison is a thief of joy" 👌

[@LoganTanner]

This started out as a message we've all heard and know, but slowly transitioned into something really beautiful and empowering. Great video. Image is a difficult thing. Whoever you are, know that you have value and are loved. Even people that don't know you care about you. Many of us know your pain. Society won't change over night, so don't let yourself get dragged down. Be hopeful for a better future.

[@casianionescu3241]

image is not difficult xDDDD Difficult is to live life. And why should image be easy too? Everything meaningful is hard in life, but image is one of those things that if neglected wont harm objective life aspects, such as income, building a family and/or health. If ur ugly u still can live, and that's that! Disclaimer: If u are fat ugly, then yes, its bad for your health too

[@aamnahere6250]

I know it would sound clićhed but beauty comes in different shapes, sizes and skin tones. This is not to shade celebrities but if they were as confident and comfortable with their looks as they claimed and seemed to be, they wouldn't be having rhinoplasty and botox among other procedures. Even they don't look like the ideal we're all told to chase in order to be considered beautiful. You don't need to have a straight dainty nose to be beautiful. You don't need to have high cheekbones to be beautiful. You don't need to have big lips to be beautiful. You don't need to be light skinned to be beautiful. Your facial features are unique to you and they add a balance to your face that you cannot otherwise achieve. Don't ruin your individuality to become like everybody else. Later in life you'll realize that the only thing that truly matters is health. Take care of your body. Don't punish it and treat it like an enemy. If you do, it'll react likewise and start giving you health issues. Be grateful that you have a body that is mobile, helps you get things done and doesn't hurt most of the times. These are all huge blessings.

[@jesuslovesyou3402]

Well said

[@aminaalhassandiasso1842]

This is what the world needs

[@aminaalhassandiasso1842]

@Thee Apollo it is that's if it's not caused by an accident. People just need to be honest with themselves and own their bodies the way they are.

[@2ears1mouth786]

"If I post a problematic picture and 5 people take it as an example, that's my doing." RESPECT!!!

[@r3dp1ll]

not sure about the ending .. You show young girls from well off families looking for external validation. it conflicts with the positive message you want to bring.

[@tania8879]

weird thing but at the end of the video i compared myself to these girls

[@allnargles]

Caucasian girls.

[@Mathlorono]

Stupids richs kids change the world such 1 world fairy tale

[@slayer40sw]

Thank you for making this documentary. It's like the 4th one on this issue I can show my daughter to break away from all this body dysmorphia bullshit that is destroying countless kids lives. My kid is on a better path now of self love and confidence.

[@amyg8176]

The best thing she can do for her body confidence is to lift weights. Female weightlifters and powerlifters look strong and beautiful and don’t need to be super lean. That did more for my mental health regarding my body than I can put into words.

[@seanmcdonald5859]

Is there a documentary that explores the similar social media affect on young men? Note; this is not a criticism, im actually curious as to wether there is a similar recognition of the social media affects upon young men.

[@phosphenevision]

Men don't tend to internalize their problems like women, they tend to become aggressive at others instead, because society tends to send the message that women have to be perfect and it's their fault for not being and men don't need to be perfect because they already are, even if they are mediocre at best. (See the common sitcom cliche of beautiful housewife who does everything right and ugly dorky husband who always does everything wrong but somehow they are a good couple) Ofcourse all people are different and deal with their problems differently but statistically you won't see men behaving as much like this.

[@samaraisnt]

id suggest any doc on the mindset/psyche of bodybuilders and why they do it/their self image. they usually explore inferiority/body image but youd have to find a newer one to have a social media angle.

[@bilbobaggins5408]

There is very little interest in any of the 'traditional' media in the problems that males face.

[@sourgreendolly7685]

phosphenevision becoming aggressive is a symptom of internalizing problems but okay

[@jackjackthompson5771]

Yes, its not social media but rather pornography.... they are the ones looking at the girls that are posting all day long..

[@mimmikibilly]

Some people in the comments say "how can you be so focused on looks when life is more than that?". I agree, but you also have to consider why the focus is on looks in the first place. I struggled with my body image since I was 5 years old. My classmates used to tell me I was fat when I was simply tall. I wasn't visibly hurt by their comments, but I got sick of it after a while. Then I started seeing my body grow, my family was a pretty daunting and toxic one, so my brain probably used my looks as the -rightfully so- most noticeable flaw I had on top of all the others, in order to find some direction to project my issues and pain towards. Even if you are lucky enough not to focus on looks to the point where you cry when you look in the mirror, good for you. That doesn't make those who do (many of whom live in an image-driven society) any more vain. That would be like saying you can't get depressed over moving from a house to another. There are vain people, but this is a real issue, and the reason why we need body positivity more than ever. If we can manage to have one less reason for mental issues around, I'm all for it. Many eating disorders seem to have deeper roots than just what you look like, but when you add insults, jokes, unrequested comments or hints that can have a toll on people. By perpetrating this mindset, we will always keep discriminating people, and the idea that people who care about their looks more than the average person are low on IQ.

[@tundrawomansays5067]

Fruitorsch A “daunting and toxic family” is a Petri dish of a mess in which to be raised. There are vestiges of growing up in a family like this that remain with one for the rest of their lives, neither good nor bad, just Reality. When the only thing you feel you can control in all that chaos is your body, there’s a myriad of potential sequele. Sorry you had to endure that mess.

[@lalakuma9]

I'm watching this while eating. And as they talk about eating less, I just got hungrier.

[@cthomasking81]

Eat girl.

[@user-pm6uq3nc4s]

😂😂😂

[@nadakhalil9938]

Funny 😂😂😂

[@luciacarralarmella2666]

me too! haha

[@mo3225-c8r]

This goes to show how empty and shallow people are nowadays.

[@FinlayDaG33k]

"those who are judged the be the most beautiful are rewarded with the most likes, emojis and clicks" U forgot to mention money...

[@zuzanazuscinova5209]

This has been always the case.

[@EffySalcedo]

💁‍♀️its true 😓

[@Ilovesushi123456]

And status, and free stuff, and fame, attention, and more selection of partners, and higher chances of getting a job (even if it’s not related to looks)....

[@SnowofLight]

"My body just never fit into that mold" - Cut to a picture where her body fits into eurocentric beauty standards perfectly.

[@katerinafolvarcna1698]

Well that depends. I look like her in that picture in swimwear and I feel fat. I know I'm not (I was even told my body would be fine with a.bit more fat at a fitness center) but seeing other girls with amazing figures makes me put myself down so often.

[@AllisterCaine]

Lol, yeah. It's in their heads, and they need to get over it. People should stop blaming their personal maturing process on society. If she was ugly, yes, blame society for being mean to her. But she isn't. It is her problem, and she needs to work on it. Not a bad thing if she asks for help though, that is ok....

[@satan4518]

AllisterCaine You’re miles beyond stupid lmfao. The education system wherever you’re from is complete dumpster fire. I don’t know if you’ve ever heard of anorexia or body image disorders in general, but they’re not cute little quirky hobbies people just pick up because they’re bored. Read up on anorexia; your brain experiences involuntary changes that distort your reality when you look in a mirror, it’s not something you can “just get over” without years of work. It’s shaped largely by your environment. Lots of women naturally are bombarded with propaganda and programming since birth about how hot they need to be to matter. For a lot of women it takes years after adolescence to unlearn that shit and accept themselves.

[@tuumanka7974]

yes))) lol

[@tyiffpeijc8702]

@@AllisterCaine It is in their heads, absolutely. But like Satan (who shouldn't have called you stupid, that was uncalled for) said, most women are bombarded with propaganda their whole lives emphasizing that womens' value comes from their beauty. And men get bombarded with social structures and propaganda as well that hurts them negatively. My point is that you're mostly right: it is her problem, and it is in her head, but the cause is environmental/social.

[@LadyCoyKoi]

'“We will gradually become indifferent to what goes on in the minds of other people when we acquire a knowledge of the superficial nature of their thoughts, the narrowness of their views and of the number of their errors. Whoever attaches a lot of value to the opinions of others pays them too much honor.” - Arthur Schopenhauer

[@ParisianBookworm87]

This is such a well-done, extensively descriptive, factual, and expert mini-documentary. This was truly thought-provoking and interesting. Thank you.

[@DWDocumentary]

Thanks for your positive feedback! Glad to hear you liked the film.

[@jewelryboxballerina]

This is exactly why I deleted my social media accounts. I have more peace of mind now.

[@kitsontuli2713]

Same

[@jackjackthompson5771]

Yet here you are texting away on KZbin 🙄🙄🙄

[@lastdays3148]

@@jackjackthompson5771 ,hilarious🤣🤦🏾‍♀️

[@reabetsweimanmoabi7911]

Same :):) I prefer KZbin plenty of things to learn here

[@Juniperus_Godegara]

The first girl who tells her story is living such high quality of life that 95% of all humanity can only dream of.. she really needs to go out to the world, look around and learn something about human values.

[@gigi4266]

being rich doesn't make you happy....

[@Analysis_Paralysis]

She's a privileged empty soul... Like many others here!

[@lordmurphy4344]

@@gigi4266 tbh compared to the problems faced by more than 90% of the human population, it's kinda hard to sympathize with her

[@mirta000]

Do you mean the anorexic? She nearly killed herself with starvation, no amount of money in the world will help you with that. And indeed when you're on the brink of death from not eating you will feel very weak and very cold.

[@potatorekt7046]

Adela Setara And you are no better by attacking her, what’s your point? You are more tolerant and compassionate? Clearly not for her hypocrite, be Jealous.

[@Astteroth]

“You are not special. You're not a beautiful and unique snowflake. You're the same decaying organic matter as everything else. We're all part of the same compost heap. We're all singing, all dancing crap of the world.” ― Chuck Palahniuk

[@gabriellarowden9442]

Asteroth ah how i love the humorous irony that is Mr Palahniuk, a modern day version of my other favorite author Kurt Vonnegut . Without those two and their hilarious commentaries on society as a whole, you would not have this barrel full of laughs standing before you in the comment section. .

[@MCArt25]

"I make hundreds of thousands of dollars and you don't." --- Chuck Palahniuk

[@fauberkaupfmann982]

Just because not everybody can be special, doesnt mean no one is you know 🤷‍♂️

[@janetday5431]

Everyone is special! Who would like to see only roses? It would get boring really quickly yes. Stop being bad, okay!

[@JohnnyBot71]

@@janetday5431 no they're not.

[@ipekergin630]

Even the ads that ran in the middle of this video were suggesting me to subscribe to low-calorie meal deliveries. It is so hard to ignore all these types of signals and accept your own body the way it is as a woman. As always, thanks for the very well-made documentary, DW!

[@jacksonthompson7099]

Same for dudes, the amount of "get big muscles,6 pack,iron man legs and a super chiseled jaw line" ads get a little tiresome after awhile, i'm a over average weight and less than average looking dude who works 50-68 hours a week in a box factory. Ah well just gotta focus on the "what can I do different aspect in my life and also try to focus less on my sleep schedule since thats all I seem to do now is sleep in my free time.

[@aperture0]

Buy KZbin premium 🙃

[@teshn1229]

​@@jacksonthompson7099 It sounds like you'd need to sleep a lot if you're working that many hours.

[@jacksonthompson7099]

@@teshn1229 it has gotten worse lol last two weeks i've punched in 70 hours. Most of the guys at the plant think we will be working 60-70 hour weeks for another month & a half.

[@HavingfuninBerlin]

i just unistalled instagram. Thanks

[@pseudonymshqipe854]

Bravo ladies, liberate yourselves!

[@lesliewheeler7071]

I did a few months ago... it's so toxic!

[@reabetsweimanmoabi7911]

Me too!! I have more peace

[@tanvishetty1]

Been off social media for the past 5 yrs and i ain't complaining .

[@PlaceboEllie]

KZbin is social media tho

[@relanimh1039]

Guessing Geo it depends on how you use it

[@PlaceboEllie]

@@relanimh1039 no it doesn't, it's a social media platform. anyway, this person has commented...so they're using it to communicate.

[@tcm-pi1ku]

Guessing Geo ok bro email/letters are social media aswell 🤡

[@PlaceboEllie]

@@tcm-pi1ku no they're not ❤️ look it up

[@annoloki]

Wow... there's a whole world out there, full of fascinating and interesting things, how can ppl spend all their time looking only at themselves, finding nothing to be interested in but themselves, of course they'll be miserable, they forgot the whole of the rest of the universe exists, no one is that interesting that you won't be bored

[@agalvan91]

Most accurate comment ever

[@jackjackthompson5771]

Good point, agreed

[@williamwood8281]

This documentary is talking about impressionable youth! It's very easy for a new nervous system to gain addictions and distorted pictures of reality, so I would say this documentary covers a real concern for what's happening in our modern society

[@alexireland1435]

Outer beauty will fade ladies ♡ its the inner beauty that really counts, when it really counts ✝️ learn to love what you were blessed with

[@siveeye9379]

I am skinny naturally and I'm stage artist and I always have been ashamed of being skinny. Society doesn't approve skinny people because it doesn't look healthy and not so much beautiful too.

[@mara_9178]

true. I'm also skinny and I get constantly told how sick I'm looking, I should eat more and more weight would suit me better & especially my legs are disgusting... skinny shaming is a thing. and body positivity should include all not just curvy girls

[@chunellemariavictoriaespan8752]

No offense but I'd rather be naturally skinny so I can run around and go anywhere without anyone noticing me... I missed my childhood body type😓😓

[@anonymusmaximus805]

Don't let the envious, fat folks talk you down. "Body shaming" is not a one way street always going to the fatties... they are the worst body shamers becaues they are envious.

[@beasttitanofficial3768]

@@anonymusmaximus805 body shaming like you just did?

[@immir6647]

Yes I've always been skinny was happy with my weight now because of a health reason i lost weight and look like a skeleton. I don't like it and I don't understand who wants it

[@kaytequila]

If you feel that you need to post pictures of your "lifestyle" on a social media platform, getting acceptance/recognition for your image is still an overwhelming factor.

[@realSimoneCherie]

Lifestyle is my least favorite word this decade. TF does that even mean.

[@tomasgomez9925]

It becomes an obsession and like any other obsession, it is not good…

[@TimBullins]

There is NO REASON that ANYONE has to be on Instagram (or social media), it's YOUR choice. Also there is NO requirement to post your pictures on social media. Do people actually have no common sense these days???

[@curious6190]

Because social media is the second public space now!

[@randomuploadsism]

*man not getting it.

[@earlmyname4257]

Nice u discover hot water.... What u said is cacca

[@babyyoda7311]

@@earlmyname4257 caca

[@earlmyname4257]

@@babyyoda7311 non so chi tu sia... Ma mi hai conquistato

[@christyk4371]

Social media is not always bad... I've met nice people who have the same hobby as me from social media and they're really fun to hangout with! They're very nice and supportive. It all depends on the user. I'm really grateful for social media because its hard for me to make friends irl.

[@ninobk196]

I can't imagine building a life around "looking good" as this bikini model. How depressing and not sustainable. She looks amazing but I think it's beyond trying to be "healthy". I actually feel sad for her and she really seems like a nice girl.

[@Roastpeef]

deleted instagram 8 months ago , Im feeling sexier each day😉💃

[@导演文森吴]

but you aren´t

[@elenas906]

@@导演文森吴 no need to be negative and rude , negativity is not invited I recommend you to try being more positive

[@aidwkdccvvubibu5609]

SAME

[@aidwkdccvvubibu5609]

Norris Horris oh shut up troll

[@babyyoda7311]

@@elenas906 it's not negativity , it's the truth

[@gueraloca416]

These Instagram "models" don't always actually look like their very filtered pictures.

[@juns597]

As a former magazine editor, I can definitely tell you that it's all about manipulation, like big time. That 4-pack ab, check, that tiny waist, check, that smooth skin, check...you get the point.

[@louisecampbell2628]

IT SURE IS!!!!

[@shekioio]

Psychiatrist : Today's animals live more relaxed and comfortable life than humans. Girl : How! Psychiatrist : They don't use Instagram.

[@nikolajchristov7590]

what is intsagram ?

[@mmtrzz]

My cat lives a pretty more decent life than me, for sure.

[@shekioio]

@Asherah 1147 I'm not comparing we can learn many good things from animals. Animals follow natural instinct & we humans follow fake social customs.

[@upamaish]

And me 🤓 i dont have all this shit for straight 3 and a half year. Its all for rubbish showup and makes u feel less valued and beautiful

[@ArtsofZhen]

I think you should also have an male version for this, it would be such an eye-opening for the older,current, and the next generation. Greatfull to see this channel.

[@scoooter78]

@@VeganV5912 your first line is "go vegan and you can have loads of food and LOSE WEIGHT". You are part of the problem they are discussing.

[@vishnubishnoipodcast3505]

I agree

[@FINSuojeluskunta]

Men compare themselves with regards to their income and career, not their looks

[@ArtsofZhen]

@@FINSuojeluskunta Maybe for what we widely known point of view, indeed it's one of the reasons, come to think of it, there are a lot of factors upon it. Anyway thanks for that.

[@moonlightbae5425]

@@FINSuojeluskunta straight men maybe, gay men have it harder on our looks, we’re expected to look perfect

[@paulg3012]

"why you tryin' to be something you're not keep it real and be content with what you got..." The Late Ones

[@lim8581]

This documentary sheds light on the sobering impact of social media on young women's self-esteem and body image. It's disheartening to see how unrealistic beauty standards are perpetuated online. Thank you for raising awareness about this crucial issue.

[@---ck3ou]

Focusing on looks is so shallow.

[@alifaras693]

Looks is a factor for being a better you. Not the only factor tho, not the most important factor either. Nevertheless you should care about your looks too, you can be an awesome person inside with a shitty look, or you can strive for better, an awesome person inside with a (practical) ( real) good look.

[@gaslitworldf.melissab2897]

Evolution seems to disagrees with you. The most illustrious looking feathers (and other appendages on males) attracts the female of the species ahead of those with less lustrous features. Think of your own reaction to a bare broad back or if you look at women to hour glass curves. it happens naturally, even if you don't obsess. We're driven so much by the desire to procreate that we rely to heavily on physical attractiveness. Yet, has it ever stopped in human history? Nope. So, shallow? Perhaps, but human? Absolutely. And sometimes it backfires.

[@nathalieandparis]

Seriously so shallow and SO boring)!

[@tomgeorgestory]

Theyreeeee so vain... bet they think the song is about em dont they dont they wooooo......

[@tyiffpeijc8702]

@@tomgeorgestory lol, Trent Reznor called and wants his song back d:

[@wsmcke]

The true beauty that stays, is the beauty inside.

[@braydenturner7397]

Very true..

[@lalakuma9]

People unsubscribed because she has pimples? Meanwhile I'm on youtube watching pimple-popping videos.

[@eyeofthepyramid2596]

You are a demon.

[@junglecat_rant]

This ia gross

[@bellapallon1033]

Same,I’m your spawn 😂

[@mehrisaydullaeva9622]

I'm insecure not because of social media but only because of my family, my ex-friends, I have never felt good about myself because my mom never had told me that I'm her little princess or I'm perfect, no, she used to point out my belly when I was only 12 years old in front of other people or telling me that my friends are so pretty and I'm just OK, then my grandma used to say that I'm ugly and no one is going to marry me and my aunt used to call me weak and useless. Basically, my anxiety and problems with eating a proper amount of food and picking my skin started because of my culture, I didn't fit into the cultural beauty standards (and I'm so sorry for my English it's my fourth language so please don't judge)

[@mainchannel1566]

22:20 "Why is my bra in the way if they're taking a picture of my face?" Oh honey baby.

[@RaulTorresMorfin]

ladies, being thin, putting lots of make up and having a toned body does not make you beautiful. Beauty starts in the heart and your thoughts.

[@ismaelalejandro4150]

hahaha of course.

[@azkamil]

you went all the way other direction, which is also false

[@dncviorel]

Forget it, women know that only the prettiest make it with great boyfriend/husband/job opportunities/etc.

[@chusganzerla14]

The girl still obsessed with image. It's just a new perspective, but it's the same problem. And social media it's just a echo chamber.

[@KaytchC1790]

It’s interesting how just a few years can make a huge difference. Especially with the pandemic forcing all of us to stay home for longer periods, people are valuing real, raw content more these days. Less filters & perfect lighting, and more vlogs and unfiltered photos. Shows how the beauty/advertising industry is so flighty and ever-changing. We’ll never be “perfect” because the definition is always changing. Sad that so many are making permanent decisions on temporary trends.

[@lucia--1047]

Go a year without any social media and find yourself, that’s what I done.. it was one of the best decisions of my life, my goal was a year but I ended up going 2 and a half years without any form of social media, and even now I only have Facebook mainly for family and KZbin, it really does help if you want to find yourself mentally and it really helps with anxiety if you struggle with body confidence, you end up learning to love yourself🌸❤️

[@mryan4452]

I always understood the concept of loving and helping others, not this new phrase of "I love myself". Seems so shallow to me?

[@t-renallux3125]

: What's your facebook? can I have it?

[@traylong]

As a 52 year old woman I love being on Facebook, can easily connect with my friends and family. Its also interesting to see their lives unfolding. I am not on Instagram which appears to be quite shallow full of selfies and fake influencers. Influence yourself. Love yourself and your uniqueness. At 52 I am more confident than ever.

[@meowmeow8114]

traylong Yeah, this is also why people are getting off of Facebook. No one wants to see their grandma on there.

[@traylong]

@@meowmeow8114 most people? Hardly, the real reason why a lot of young people use Instagram instead of Facebook is that they don't want their mommies knowing what they're doing and who they're doing it with, not because they are "offended" by older women being on it, get real. Just because you hate your grandma and are afraid of growing old doesn't mean most young people feel the same way. Sorry you're such a miserable insecure twat. Instagram has no age limit, a lot of older people use it also. Facebook is still way more popular with over a billion people using it, way more subscribers than Instagram, and all ages are using it.

[@meowmeow8114]

traylong LMAO!!! Where did you get this craziness from? You sound so pissed off. You must be one of the old people on Facebook. Edit: Read your comment that’s as old as you, sorry I mentioned your age again.

[@tundrawomansays5067]

meow meow Right? I’m an antique and even I know Farcebook is considerably out of traylong’s demographic. Social Media accounts are for the young, FFS. Grow up!

[@ingenueblue8914]

@@meowmeow8114 Maybe that is an issue. Shouldn't people want to connect with their family? We don't live forever.

[@josli3548]

I was only surprised at how 10 English words = 20 German words.

[@Kononekaya]

It would be interesting to see the original. they might have missed some of the translation

[@lisamo1013]

It's always easier to speak fast and without unnecessary pauses when your reading a text instead of just talking about something.

[@ellymae00]

Nah, it's really only 5 German words, but they're twice as long!

[@Pink-756d33]

Their inefficiency is prob why they lost WWII

[@randolphpinkle4482]

@@ellymae00 Haha! Exactly. Oh those compound nouns!

[@gessie]

You can't refer to problematic beauty standards and at the same time strongly emphasize attention seeking individuals. Actual, serious examples do exist, not just whiny public sphere successfuls.

[@vollyballgirl257]

"my body never fit into that mold" *girl has perfect body*

[@Hannahbanana353]

vollyballgirl25 I was scrolling looking for this comment 🤣

[@JaiFlame]

Its mental. I was 125 lbs. I thought I needed to lose 20 lbs and that my thighs were fat. I was too thin. Looking back I was sick. Now 8 years older and 175 and I feel happier because I deleted all my social media and focused on being a happier and spending time on creative hobbies with friends. Just bc we see her as perfect doesn’t mean she does.

[@grantrobbins68]

@@JaiFlame good for you and your right is is mental I believe the correct term is body dismorpha I had it. I thought i was huge but in reality i was tiney and poorly

[@gurpreetbhamra9752]

Did you see the belly?

[@Mathlorono]

Rich caucasian female “ owwch my body is not fit enough “, such a problem....

[@markusfredscholl]

I prefer witty conversations, at the end, a body is nothing but the carrier of your mind.

[@maiateves8277]

Very well said!

[@Erintii]

Very true. Also, best conversations ever I had with my friends who are not skinny. They read a lot, send me useful links and have no time for fitness crap. My great friend stated cross fit and we no longer can discuss books, stories we write or pictures she draw as she gave up all her hobbies for fitness. It's sad. She was unique, artistic and gentle soul. She is still nice but become boring, fitness person.

[@muhammadshehreyarkhan1851]

As Bruno Mars famously sang "Girl you're amazing just the way you are".

[@DWDocumentary]

♫

[@revanruler6404]

unless you're obese then you need to lose weight so you can be healthy and no longer be a burden for health services

[@frenchvanilla7109]

Ha I love that song I'm going to play it now thanks💕

[@АнастасияКуликова-р2ч]

There's also a very good song by Colbie Caillat - Try. I really recommend you to listen to it. I'm a teacher of English as a foreign language. And I use this song. My students like it.

[@martinverbeek8862]

Right and now search for Jessica Caban because thats his wife. Empty words imo

[@taramei-leewagstaff9332]

I’ve found guys set their expectations based on these IG models & when they meet up with a gal, treat us in comparison to these images.I had an eating disorder for years to be considered a pretty gal guys prioritise