EASY Way to Influence and Connect with ANYONE Instantly! | Ed Mylett

The 12 MASTER STEPS to MAXOUT your LISTENING SKLLS!
MY SECRETS TO BECOMING A BETTER LISTENER ! - with Ed Mylett
More important than what you say is your ability to LISTEN! People don’t respond to what you say or do, people respond to how you make then FEEL. And one of the best ways to make someone FEEL CONNECTED with you is to make them feel understood and listened to!
This is my MOST TACTICAL episode to date! I’m revealing the MASTER 12 Steps to becoming a better listener and MAXING OUT your connection and charisma!
This was a subject that I have personally struggled with throughout my life and am STILL working to improve. But I have found that the skill of listening is SO IMPORTANT and often overlooked in our quest to influence and connect with others . I’m guilty of it myself and and am constantly striving to improve.
There a tremendous benefits to learning the secrets of listening ! It’s the most powerful form of communication.
Mastering the skill of listening is a necessity to build in every area of your life. Whether you are building a softball team, building a church, building a business, building a family, your ability to make people FEEL good is based on your ability to to make other people feel LISTENED to!
Get ready to take notes!
By the way..WHAT IS ONE OF THE TWO OR THREE WORDS YOU CHRONICALLY USE ?(we all have them) COMMENT one of your words BELOW! (One of mine is “LITERALLY “ 😂)
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[@EdMylettShow]

What's 1 of your GO TO words that you use?

[@TySuite]

I say “Definitely”... another great video. It’s always a pleasure to listen 👂 to what you have to say Ed. Thanks again for blessing the world with valuable content that can be applied to life. Blessings! #MaxOut

[@mikebolus3041]

"Definitely" or "absolutely"... Normally in response to them asking if I understand them.

[@embraceyourpearls7391]

One of my Go To words thy I use is “Wow” along with eye contact and a nod.

[@vincewainwright3802]

“Interesting”... “would you please dive deeper regarding x?” That works well.

[@ryanfrisella5626]

@@embraceyourpearls7391 Ed does this in all his interviews

[@nicholewent]

"People are gifts, and the way you open them up is by asking them questions." THIS EPISODE IS GOLD! This is the kind of content that needs to be taught in communication classes!! Imagine this level of authentic teaching to youth to help them become strong leaders, develop conflict resolution skills, connecting to collaborate, become better listeners for family, partners, etc. Mylett University👊🔥

[@EdMylettShow]

Glad you found such enjoyment from the video! Appreciate the feedback!

[@maribethcondrillon1079]

Wow hopefully you can help.me.because I have big wealth I need t come there

[@maribethcondrillon1079]

I love it motivation

[@maribethcondrillon1079]

Yes I'm working on enfuencer 😳😲

[@maribethcondrillon1079]

My Instagram is the same on my wattsapp

[@karimnanji4163]

Every body should read "How To Win Friends and Influence People" timeless clasic. Thank you and have Awesome Day!

[@EdMylettShow]

Great suggestion! What was your favorite takeaway from the video?

[@karimnanji4163]

@@EdMylettShow do not interrupt someone when they are talking, looking into their eyes.

[@osse1n]

Remembering *NAMES,* places, conversations and what people were saying to you some time ago, makes people feel *VALUED* and their emotions get engaged even deeper. When that happens, they will open up even more and become loyal followers.

[@EdMylettShow]

BOOM! That's what i'm talking about. Love to hear you're already on top of things!! Curious, do you have a favorite interview i've done so far? Would love to hear your thoughts!

[@jra.x2enxtlvl]

great points

[@annettefluit3496]

Super true. Remember different facts about them. I've said that to people and they question how I remember. 🙂

[@brandonb4559]

EdMylett The interview with GC

[@josettgordon9374]

People LOVE the sound of their own name

[@melfes525]

Great content and reminder. 1 Speaking less is doing more. 2 People don't need you to solve their problems. We want a friend to trust, in a journey figured out and paced at by ourselves. 3 Can always be more humbled. 4 Let them finish. Stay put. #maxout #edmylett

[@KevinBrown-ss9hf]

"Talk to a man about himself and he will listen for hours. " - Benjamin Disraeli Great video, Ed! My biggest challenge is shutting off my internal dialogue so that I listen better. Often people say things that inspire me and I'll think on those things while they continue to talk instead of continuing to listen. Thanks for the wise instruction!

[@vadimtuchila9059]

Try meditation! It's a great way to gain control of your mind.

[@captainhuckleberry7428]

I’ll sometimes say lovely or “I hope you have a lovely day” when parting . You would be surprised how many people are seemingly starved for that kind of emotion.

[@EdMylettShow]

Exactly! What part of the video really stood out for you the most?

[@ALT_RIGHT]

This entire video is Ed critiquing his own faults and making a video of it. Which is great for the most authentic videos nice job Eddy myself.

[@estherharing4235]

This man not asking you one question about you on a three hour flight is a great example off that your value isn't determined by how other people interact with you an the amount of interest that they show. A good reminder especially trough hearing this kind of experience from such a well spoken, interesting and carismatic man.

[@vianeykat]

These are the type of living & practical skills that should be taught in basic education!! #MaxOut

[@nicola-socialmediasuccess8687]

This video will absolutely help me to do better business meetings! 🔥🔥

[@masonfern7387]

Your comments are so unauthentic

[@EdMylettShow]

BOOM! That's what i'm talking about. Love to hear you're already on top of things!! What's one thing said that really resonated with you?

[@jackieofee1921]

Nicola - Business Tips For Success I agree... my first thought was I can’t wait to try some of those tips with my clients today.

[@jrodliving]

@@EdMylettShow ive listened at least 10 times and will listen MANY times more and i cannot tell you how many times ive nodded my head, chuckled a little bit and just plain get excited about how much growth i have left in front of me. Its amazing that a few years back i thought that " i was who i was" and thats how its going to be the rest of my life.....SO not the case......again, Thank You.

[@nataliemikhail9136]

Wow, Manipulation...suuuuper cool🥳

[@MandiMillerMakeup]

Wow! I'm not even done yet and I've written 4 pages of notes. I didn't realize that I could admire you more than I already do. I watch every video, every Instagram, listen to every podcast etc...people's feedback to you at times have said, "Stop interrupting, let them talk." You, who I feel is one of the #1 in motivational speaking, growth guru, everything great have just admitted your weakness in this area and your desire to grow in this. THAT'S WHY I LOVE YOU!!! By teaching it, you learn it again. I love that you admit your areas that need growth. Makes me even more of a follower. I love your desire to grow and it gives me more of a desire to do so also. One of the people I admire the most, sees areas he can do better and it motivates me to be better! THANK YOU ED for your humility. Love ya man!!!

[@EdMylettShow]

Thank you for sharing with all of us! Massively appreciate it! Your words are far too kind!

[@marisaande]

I don't know how your kids feel but you've got to be a fabulous Dad, thank you Ed

[@skipwatson5258]

If you gave me 3 hours, I'd make you rethink letting me ask you questions lol! Great teaching in this one. Thank you!

[@UltimateGoldenGirl]

I just want to say you are fantastic. I listen to all of your videos....I have been reading self-help motivational books since 6 years old (actually before they really had such a thing as this goes way back)...I have listened to the best of the best throughout the years and I must say you are on my very top list of the best...I love your energy....I love your presentation. I love your honesty....I love that you give from the Soul and not to get something....You are blessed...Keep being you....You are amazing and fabulous...God bless.....dianna-brianne

[@VirtualWorkspace]

I used these listening techniques on a sales call today and it made a HUGE impact.

[@leifcron8054]

Ed... I actually can not believe that you put things like this out here for free. BUT, you make me feel connected to you, you want me to learn even MORE and want me to have access to the context, which is you, that means investing into coaching. That really became a new goal for the near future. THANK YOU for contributing SO MUCH!!

[@aleksandrdudko8451]

Hey Ed Mylett, you are one of the most powerful orators that I have ever listened to. The wisdom you share is straight up fire man! And that fire is what purges out the misbelief and weaknesses and helps one create that refined masterpiece of character. I look forward to every video you put out. I have been getting better at watching them quicker when they come out. I have yet to be the first to respond and win that phone call with you :) I look forward to connecting. And thank you for all the great content. #MAXOUT!!!!!

[@venessasnowmadisonco.prope7242]

I feel like I’m a pretty good listener but this was a great refresher! It’s a good reminder of all of the subtle things we do in our interactions daily. It’s easy to take for granted when someone is speaking to us but are we really listening? I want to share this video with my office and family and friends. Thank you for great content as always!

[@LTD2011able]

1:50 There are a lot of people like that. They want to be the center of every conversation. A gossip is the one who talks to other people about you. A bore is the one who talks to you about himself. A brilliant conversationist is the one who talks to you about yourself. Love listening to you Ed. Thanks!

[@romainsanderson4158]

You deserve an award for blessing people with your knowledge.. long life and continuous prosperity Mr ed mylett

[@EdMylettShow]

Thank you very much, your words are far too kind! What's one thing you'll remember from this?

[@kostakupanov5527]

To be a present while someone is talking to you is the most important thing. This is how you show that this person matter !!! Great video , Thank you !

[@EdMylettShow]

BOOM! I couldn't have said it better myself. What other topics you think I should go over next time?

[@kostakupanov5527]

You have helped me so much and I am very thankful specially for the topics- How to build self confidence, The secret to Growth, Control your Identity Change Your Life , Blissful Dissatisfaction all these topics gave me different prospective about life and how to approach certain situations with a confidence and believing in myself. I didn't realize that I have all the power in my inner world while waiting for the change to happen from outer world. Thank you once again , God Bless You ! #MaxOut

[@ameliale5575]

I love your content Ed! You are a very engaging teacher. New sub!

[@EdMylettShow]

You're welcome! Happy to deliver it to you. Did you have a favorite part of the video?

[@charlessimmons4962]

Love this! Thanks Ed!

[@carlchilders6069]

Yes! I love this topic. Fortunately it’s one of my super powers but I still have much work to do. Nobody is ever perfect. I have trained for acting for 8-9 years to be an expert listener, to truthfully connect, to respond truthfully in the moment. When you clarify what you heard then, as jim Kwik says, you are learning to teach. Body posturing is more telling than someone’s words. It tells the truth. Someone with closed arms saying they “love you” is telling you they don’t love you; or are mad at you. #maxout I would have driven you crazy by asking questions...ha ha...it’s because I am comfortable with myself...He wasted that time...3 hours?! Oh man...@edmylet when we listen and respond truthfully we can heal ourselves and others...most people just want to be heard...to be understood... Finally...waiting for your turn to speak is not listening. It’s not hearing. It’s deflecting.

[@LuisTorres-co3fl]

Great tips hey Ed I started watching your channel like a week ago thank you for all your contribution I love your show greetings from Orlando fl.

[@EdMylettShow]

Thank you so much, happy to have you on here! What's another topic you think I should cover?

[@LuisTorres-co3fl]

@@EdMylettShow I think you have so much potential there's a big latin America community in the USA I thing you should translate your videos to Spanish the followers will love this gracias.

[@pasquinilli]

Ed, please make this video ten more times! I plan on listening to this every day for the next month. Thanks brother, this is why I subscribed. I always get so much out of these talks. Thanks for sharing!

[@EdMylettShow]

Thank you so much! Happy you took the time to listen, and enjoyed the video. Give me a few topics I should talk about !

[@pasquinilli]

EdMylett thanks. As a topic suggestion, I am sure you have found that being a better listener to others helps you listen to your authentic self. When facing a tough decision or taking action in the face of uncertainty, how does practicing the act of listening to others, help you find the strength or courage you need to live more authentically? Virgil said “fortune favors the bold” and Samuel Mockbee said “proceed and be bold” maybe the root of that boldness is a quiet calm that has been cultivated through the act of “listening until the other person has finished talking, then responding thoughtfully.” Ed Mylett said that last one.

[@xxxrosexxx123]

Loved this. Love your gifts!

[@fahadahmed1315]

Thanks for the lesson.

[@j-manthevendor2253]

In my business I have to be very intentional about listening to understand and not listening to give my response. In general, Mirroring energy is where I struggle the most. Especially with really quiet people that do not show outward emotion. I was playing golf with a guy recently and I holed out for eagle from the Fairway on the very first hole. I was going nuts, and I would have expected my playing partner to react the same, but he didn't even say Nice Shot or a fist bump or any emotion he just put his head down kept walking.. the entire front nine was a one-way conversation of me asking questions or making statements and getting little to no reply. On the back nine I was getting a little frustrated and thought he must not like me so I won't give him any more of my energy. I kept my mouth shut and neither one of us said a word for about 5 holes. It was brutal! Then on the 15th hole he ask me a question, and a follow-up question...and another.... after the round he said he had a great time and couldn't wait to play again! It wasn't until I started mirroring his energy that he felt comfortable.

[@KavyneSean]

Listen more than twice as much as I speak. I’m going to learn more.

[@EdMylettShow]

BOOM! What other topics of discussion do you think I should talk about?

[@vibingwithmisty]

This is so good! Thank you!!!

[@clubx123]

This so valuable !!! Thank you!

[@martyjohn007]

Dude what I like about your korero is that you are humble enough to admit your short comings #Maxout

[@EdMylettShow]

Thank you! Appreciate the love and support. What's 1 thing that resonated with you in this video?

[@martyjohn007]

@@EdMylettShow Be present in the moment and master the art of listening thanks brother

[@coldwarunicorns]

Great stuff brother , very insightful and well spoken. I recently changed how I administer advise , and have taken to only speaking of things that I know from my own experience , in hope that others would see and hear the truth and sincerity and not ever feel like I'm just pointing or waiving a finger at them , so to speak. It has not been going so well. It has been brought to my attention that I talk about myself too often etc. my thing is, I and my personal experience , my testimony is truly all I have to offer. Perhaps at times , others are not seeking truth or wanting to learn from me but simply wish to spend time in speculation . Any thoughts? I'm listening...

[@marinasalazar299]

Awesome 👍 thank you 🙏🏼

[@PaulaDTozer]

I concur with the comment below..."I think people are gifts, and I think the way to open them up is by asking questions.". This, my friend, is PURE GOLD!! I will be quoting you! Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

[@toolsforthesoul217]

Few weeks ago it occurred to me that I was being a major douche to my wife. I did a fantastic job confessing it and apologizing and assuring her that I was going to try to do much better. I thought I killed it on the apology and we could move on. Nope. She needed to express how she felt about it. Even though she was pretty much restating what I had just said, she needed needed to go over it with me from her point of view. It was wicked difficult to keep my mouth shut and not defend myself. Super hard to look in her eyes and not say anything while staying interested in her speaking with my body language. It was a pivotal moment in our relationship. I know it's difficult but if people could just listen to each other better it would save marriages for sure.

[@gustavolazio8]

Yes! Pair this with Robert Greene's Laws of Human Nature & you can master the art of listening. 🗣👂

[@timdouglas-theinspiredway4085]

SO GOOD! Thank you Ed.

[@groundup249]

Totally needed to hear this, thanks Ed!

[@mikebolus3041]

Give me three hours with you and you'd be annoyed with the amount of questions I'd ask!!! #MaxOut

[@EdMylettShow]

haha Was there anything I said that really caught your attention in a positive light?

[@mikebolus3041]

@@EdMylettShow definitely NOT saying "uh huh", "right", etc during someone's sentence. Also NOT completing their sentences or replacing their choice of word with another word. That's a HUGE thing that I have a habit of doing

[@zyx963]

@@mikebolus3041 exactly or correcting a word with what I believe would sound better.

[@jgarcia7664]

This was amazing, thank you!!

[@freshlifecounseling]

I am a Licensed Professional Counselor and this is spot on and incredible!!! I will use this to sharpen my counseling skills and share with couples and parents to better their important relationships. You’re the #1 teacher in the world Ed! Can’t wait to read your book!

[@RickyKhamis]

Great content Ed. Love tactical posts like this from people I respect. #MAXOUT

[@kgpublicationsinc]

Thanks Ed! 🙏🏽

[@DonovanWert]

Awesome thanks brother 🙏 always informative!!

[@Happyfam1]

Thank you for this, Ed! You explained it so well!

[@vincesalmo6538]

This videos only get better and better loved it just shared with my team and on my FB page thanks Ed God bless you!

[@selvarajan4331]

Awesome!...truly important communication skill Ed...thanks!!

[@mad85123]

Thank you for this content!!

[@oscarpalacios7198]

Every new video it's GREAT it's not a clone of the other ...Thank you

[@tomfisher8161]

Ed!!!! Great talk!

[@marvinbecker7948]

Thank you so much brother! You are doing so well!

[@MichaelStrachanowski]

Exploring teachings from Ed is like discovering America. I regret that I did not hear about Ed 3 years ago. It would change my way of seeing things much faster.

[@giovannymadridwealth]

So much value.

[@tariemacmillan1240]

Love how you're so transparent!!

[@racheljanzen3568]

Looooooved this!

[@PexReyes]

Thank you for this Ed!

[@jonahkai509]

This was great. Thank you Ed!

[@FILA104]

You've put out so many awesome videos. This was the simplest & most effective one I needed to watch! Thank you!

[@LifeofSol1]

Wonderful as always

[@kimmcdonald2022]

Excellent . Thanks

[@johntrindade]

Ed Mylett, thank you so much for your teaching and the energy you spread from your heart through your words. I am so grateful that somehow - I am sure it's a gift sent by the Universe - i listened to you and gave me hope to carry om fighting and look for new opportunities.... At 71 I've been seriously considering "throwing in the towel and give up life. I will follow your videos and just bought your book through a local (Portugal) bookshop. My GOD bless you always for being the "light and the salt" to me and many others.

[@arooshas224]

This was amazing! Thank you Ed 🙏🏼

[@Schwinner23]

Such great insight! Thank you

[@76sassyonly1]

Presented in a group and this has helped so many individuals to listen better and support appropriately during communication. It's never to late to get it right. Be coachable to do better!!!

[@ramseyluke1415]

Many thanks Mr. Mylett! I love the tactical stuff!

[@ChanpreetSpeaks]

I definitely needed this ❤️

[@billbryant6156]

Great video! Great tips! Thank you!

[@yanalalaqabaniempoweredsel7830]

Thank you!

[@trevtravels]

Thanks for all the life changing value bombs you’re dropping on us Ed! This was just what I needed to hear before having a sales call this morning!

[@gregmooney4090]

thank you for your lesson

[@kele6wele]

This is sooooooo useful thank you so much

[@lyn403]

One of my pet peeves in gathering is I'm having a pleasant exchange with someone, and another person walk up, cuts in the conversation with something else - always non-emergent- and that's the end of the first conversation. In fact, I quietly walk away, and neither of them notices. When an interruption happens in business, ie; at the conference table, I let the 'intruder' finish...and I continue with: "....as I was saying..." and pick up where I left off. The only time there are never interruptions in conversations is in movies, television and radio - why? Because the conversations are scripted! The greatest joy I receive is from listening - folks share very personal things sometimes - especially when I'm writing a feature article. The other thing I grant when I'm listening is tending to the speakers' trust via empathy. Mr. Mylett is one of my all time faves! He's always right!

[@kimberlyrenard2274]

Ed, thank you for your tactical videos! These tips help me in my interactions with people and I love filling up my tool box! I always appreciate your content!

[@jasonatkinson408]

Deep listening for connections with ppl. Very critical. Great stuff

[@supercamargo]

Thank you 🙏🏼 Ed!

[@ARBOLISTAEdgarGarcia]

Always giving great information Thanks

[@user-fd9jy6et5y]

Thank you so much

[@billbryant6156]

I literally love that tip about matching words, I've never heard that before

[@dwightheck2873]

Thanks Ed I needed this, definitely need to work on this...connection is forsure key #maxout

[@roshanpariyar4759]

Thanks for your information for me.

[@CufflinksMade4U]

Thank you! I love listening to you

[@wipke11]

That’s why I love you man!

[@thehonestchannel]

Always excellent advice, thank you.

[@miamissdria]

Thanks Ed

[@JP-sg8ng]

Awesome ED👍....

[@jacobcasallas5460]

My brother Ed. Thank you once again for this amazing content! I have noticed a huge change in myself when I listen to people & then when it's my turn to speak. I used to be the type of person that would let them speak & interrupt them wheb we're conversing. However, now that I have been watching & listening to you! You have helped me become a better listener during a conversation & then I speak when I am able to. I even do repeat back what they say so that let's them know that I truly am engaged with them. I also thank them for opening up & sharing whatever it is that they want to tell me. Just yesterday when I went to get some lunch, I prospected the lady that helped me. I then followed up with her over the phone & she opened up to me about her personal life. I then repeated what she had told me & then I made her feel good about herself with a compliment. I have an appointment with her next Monday. But that just goes to show how much I have changed as an individual & as a listener during a conversation. I do need to ask more open ended questions, that I will say. Brother Ed, thank you again sir. Phenomenal job! By the way, if I had a 3 hour plane ride with you, I would be asking you as many questions as possible & then soak up your wisdom like a sponge. I definitely wouldn't be talking about myself unless you asked me to tell you a little bit about myself! Just saying. Have a great & blessed day. #Maxout #EntrepreneurLife #HoustonTX #IAmWorldClass #SingleDadLife

[@veraarena1583]

Fantastic!!!👏👏👏👏

[@freestyleez1]

Amazing knowledge Ed, thank you so much for sharing this! You're great inspiration for me in tough times. Keep up the good work 💪

[@adriangooden2897]

Awesome stuff!! So true.. great pointers! Thank you I can sooo relate

[@098riku]

Great value thanks

[@jsalas329]

Thanks, Ed! Needed this one. Will revisit this video again.👊👊

[@sbnatomicrecords]

This is sooo on point. Thank you Ed. I love your content

[@HomesHealthGatitude]

Thank you Ed

[@jonathannieto_official]

This was such a great video. This was a reality check for me. Listening with the intent to understand rather than just respond is so important and it’s something I struggle with sometimes. Shared this video with 3 other friends. Thank you Ed.

[@stephenwomack3776]

This is huge! I’m that guy that jumps in before they finish, never thought about it as being an ego thing. I love learning about people and having fallow up questions.

[@JaxAndree]

Becoming a better listener is one of my top priorities. Thanks for the tips, Ed!

[@kimmcdonald2022]

Ed you hit it right on. Thanks man