How To Charm People & Make Them Feel Incredible

[@reshpeck]

The best thing about this channel's advice is the way it emphasizes how being kind and making others feel good cannot be manipulative but genuine. The general message is that to be likeable you actually need to be a good person.

[@ChutneyRomero]

Great comment!

[@sambhavjain8422]

But you need to learn some manipulation tips also for backup 💯

[@skaylingop9673]

@fb_conforzoif this video was about me doing those things, you wouldn’t have clicked on it

[@mariamkettani]

​@@sambhavjain8422 I ain't gonna manipulate nobody

[@ritazanin1429]

Some of the biggest backstabbers thrive in Hollywood. Woods are the teachers. If I were one of their friends, I’d not trust them. They just love to speak behind their ‘friends’ backs. 🐍🐍

[@__m__a__x__]

Finally one for us introverts

[@vinzenzs2805]

Yeah, i only need to learn to laugh like a human and not like an awkward darf

[@Dabaiko]

All of these videos on how to temporarily impersonate fictional characters are for 'introverts' (and more specifically people who are carrying a lot of baggage, not just introverts). People who are sane are simply themselves, no need to copy phrases or attitudes or any of that insane bs...

[@deleted01]

Just be handsome bro

[@ciroelim]

This channel made me realise being an “introvert” or just avoiding people and claiming to be one is just a lazy excuse for not being a nice sociable person. I’m an introvert and been watching this channel for years and made me realise that I can be an “extrovert” and still retreat to my room at the end of a long day and be alone to recharge … got a way better job that pays x3 times better than I was doing menial office work avoiding people which I had before.

[@Rise876]

​@Davi2010jk Most people are carrying a lot of baggage. That's part of life and part of being human.

[@hipnhappenin]

I'm glad you made that caveat: Not everyone you go out of your way for will stay in your life. BUT it shouldn't stop you from continuing to be kind and generous. Don't do favors for people expecting a certain response.

[@marijajanicijevic8211]

This should be a common sense. People like their relationships to feel genuine, and that rule aplies to people who tend to be fakers too, so you should not expect that every kindness needs to be out of some favour, because people will notice and noone will actually want to associate. However, it's true that not all the people deserve kindness, but that's where the rule of never chasing after people comes. If you feel you have to force the relationship (romantic and friendly), than give it up, it's dead already.

[@CorruptDemocratsJ6]

females always pick the wrong ones and hurt the good ones

[@egb8728]

I used to do these things naturally. But life happens. I’m really appreciative for these examples and insights. They serve as reminders to be your best self.

[@HeroicKhalid]

Same here.. used to be the #1 in the room.. now totally different due to live changes. Now i want bring back my old self

[@riddickloowi]

Do you mind sharing a bit? I think we’re on the same boat

[@arlecelarae]

I hope that since posting this things have gotten better for you. If you had charisma once (a light in you) it will always be there so not to worry 🫶

[@arlecelarae]

@@HeroicKhalidif you wanted it, I imagine you’re getting it, how are things 4 months later? I hope looking up 🫶

[@skubi7]

Just want to say, I love myself more because of your videos and little things I changed in my behavior. When I am at work, with friends, girlfriend, with just one person or group of people, I am a more approachable and make better connections. Also I feel like I am respected more. It is hard to sum it up in one comment here. I never did any of your paid courses, but just from your free videos here on this channel I changed my life to better.

[@thecoffeecurator]

no, thank you for posting this dude i whole heartedly agree, i realize now i have been watchin their videos since i was in high school. truly they helped me grow into myself and for not a dime off my back

[@goldiegolderman1842]

You done deepthroating him?

[@dannymarchiori4289]

@@thecoffeecurator I've had the same experience. I've got a ton of value out of the podcast as well (which is also free)

[@2jcward]

👏

[@1936840]

This channel but this video specifically is so amazing. They really teach you emotional intelligence and act quick with social ques and make yourself memorable in the best way. Being a genuine human being. Just fantastic. I’ve been watching for years now and have made such drastic changes in my life.

[@theofficialgreenkane]

6 tips I’ve learned with communication- Tone inflections- Layer your words with ups & downs to convey emotion Stretch certain words- “Ayyyyyyee, how ya doooiiiiinnn?” Or instead of using “um” while thinking, stretch out the last word. Add little laughs, smerks, sighs, & head shakes/ head nods before responding. Use bridge phrases to start / end sentences- “Hey listen, ….” “Okay, so, …..” “…. ya know?” “…. you know what I mean?” Use your eyebrows, squinty eyes, & wide eyes to add emphasis on certain words Pace your words- If your nervous, don’t hold your breath- Exhale, inhale, then continue speaking in a slower, calmer manner. 👍

[@matthewjohansson9159]

I've watched almost all of the videos released by Charisma on Command, and here's one of the big self-corrections I had to make on my journey of putting these tips into practice: Many of their videos give the guidance to make others feel comfortable around you, by 1) Complimenting 2) Playful teasting I've found that when I watched these videos, I often forgot the 1st and tried to capitalize on the 2nd. Because I've focused so much on how to get a laugh through teasing, I eventually lost what natural skill I had in complimenting others. And it's shown. So to anybody with a similar experience, go back to the first point, and be free in your conpliments to others. Thank you Charisma on Command for the awesome video!

[@PinupSticknerd]

@matthewjohansson9159 1 is the roadmap for the other. 🫠 🛒🐎 I appreciate you.

[@edwinhandschuh864]

Ultimately, people want to be around you because of the way you make them feel. As long as you're focused on yourself, you will lose. In life, you must be a giver, not a taker. You must come from a place of unconditional love and service to others. Combine that with discovering your passion and incorporate these qualities into your day-to-day life and you will lead a fulfilled life. You can't get ahead by pushing down others, mostly because you'll be alone. We all need each other, nobody gets out of this alive and we won't grow if we're just focused on ourselves. It is through others, and our relationships with them that we grow. There's more, but you get the idea. I have been following this channel for years and the content never disappoints and it's always in alignment with what I just mentioned. Job well done (as always)!!!

[@noblepolygon8694]

@3:52 I find watching comedy has taught me to make quips about different situations on the fly and making others around me laugh

[@armorykittington]

Man, I feel so emotionally dumb watching this, lol, but it's like every time I talk I forget there's this whole world outside my head. Sometimes I knock and there's nobody there. This video sets me back in place. Much love!! ^__^

[@the21stsergeant]

Brad Pitt has always seemed like the nicest dude you could meet.

[@FeliciaSandiego]

thank you for the summary at the end! that really helps. I have today a big group event and feel uncomfortable talking (or just even being there: social anxiety), but I will try some of these tips. 🤞

[@chai_lattes]

Can you do a video on how to engage other people to ask you questions back? I feel like conversations with people I'm still getting to know never really go anywhere. I'm curious about them, but I'd also like to be shown that same curiosity. Anyone else having this problem?

[@hipnhappenin]

Maybe start off with talking about you first. Like, "I recently started getting into x hobby. Have you heard of x or what is your experience with x?" I don't think you should worry about being self-absorbed. Odds are they don't mind you giving some information about yourself, they're just too clueless to ask

[@chai_lattes]

@@hipnhappenin I've tried that before, but whenever I share something about myself that could be used as a jumping off point to further conversation, the response is so dull. Like they don't really respond one way or another. Not much interest or reaction, definitely no follow up question. So I'm just like...?😂 It's really strange because even if I like the person, the interaction feels a little lopsided and perplexing, and I walk away feeling kind of lonely for a couple days. I do think it's mainly an issue of people not knowing how to, so I'm trying not to think so deeply on it and focus on what does work for me within the friendship.

[@c.s2193]

@@chai_lattesThere’s also the possibility that the person you’re trying to talk to has no interest and is just being nice about it. I’ve been on both sides, it’s frustrating

[@NA-hz6ic]

This is a tip from one of their other recent videos about Chris Pratt: "Learn having fun with yourself." Then, when you are out or in a conversation, look for ways you could have some fun. This time you are not in the conversation to learn something about someone else or getting yourself noticed. You are simply trying to have some fun for yourself. Side effect: People will find you interesting, but you won't even care anymore ;) If you try it out, please let me know how it went

[@chai_lattes]

@@c.s2193 There's a possibility😂 It's definitely an insecurity that comes up for me. 1) The awkwardness and difference in communication style makes me feel lonely, and 2) Do they even like me??? Sometimes the beginnings of friendship can be awkward and clunky. I really appreciate that these friends make an effort to message me and make plans that we actually follow through on. Hopefully, we can break down the wall of awkwardness together.

[@ssvillcYt]

Man, your editor timed the “then you don’t have to force a laugh…” with the quick cut to jimmy fallon PERFECTLY 🤣

[@danielfdez4140]

This channel should be at the top of KZbin, amazing content, congrats.

[@moviewryter1985]

I love your correct placement of Jimmy Fallon when you talk about a forced laugh.

[@ebarr9476]

The quiet types don't gossip and that's a plus

[@MeatCatCheesyBlaster]

We have nobody to gossip to

[@cledet9088]

​@MeatCatCheesyBlaster a whole 365 days have gone by and this comment is still funny🤣

[@sparklepugtea]

Brads really just a great guy. Period 😂

[@darss10]

I hate that this is simply a tutorial on how to be a human being, and yet I still needed it 💀

[@Cen-estpaslameraboire]

😭😭😭

[@PinupSticknerd]

What is 'human' in this context is just learned behavior. -secound chance😢😊 I appreciate you 👍

[@OArchivesX]

You don't have to do any of these things.. look at Eminem for examples. He's loved, and hes awkward and barely talks, never smiles. All this stuff is BS and for fake people. The point is just be yourself, be interested and listen to other people, And don't lie.

[@kirstentubes]

It’s nice to remind yourself of the top traits that display a quality of life/pesron you’d like to be! Nothing wrong with that 😊

[@joegreat98]

i was at a party and i tried to strike a conversation with a group of guys i never met and found myself in an awkward situation not adding anything to the conversation. they were busy speaking about somebody I didn't know. how to have a good conversation finding yourself in the situation i hust described?

[@egb8728]

Ask them how they know one another. Wait for the moment you have something in common. That’s you’re in.

[@adilbek.ermekov]

We need more of these videos for our fellow introverts

[@js2sgamer951]

You should make a video about the tv show 'would I lie to you" It shows really good examples of charismatic and funny people, great story telling, good and poorly executed banter. I would love to know how the hosts of the show are seemingly effortlessly funny and why when other guests sometimes attempt to make a joke it doesnt get received as well.

[@Iceageonmars]

I am astonished at the numbers of people I meet who go through life addressing their conversation to one in a group. Often I find that while I’m the one who steers the conversation, the follow up is directed at someone else and I am completely ignored. One man i know in particular who does this blames losing a big job he hoped to get on his plan for the company but I reckon the real reason was his inability to communicate, unable to address a group of people or communicate effectively, connect with others at a basic level as in making eye contact. Smiling, laughing and hand gestures discussed here are a few levels up on the charm scale but there are many people who don’t make the first step on the ladder. And they go through life never knowing why people don’t warm to them!

[@godloveskaren]

Summary of the tips is at 8:10.

[@COLOMBIASXE]

You’re my favorite channel ever. Thank you for your work. 😍

[@marcob5549]

It is spot on that when you say "fake laugh", a clip of Jimmy Phallus briefly appears.

[@abaker4692]

Smile, always. Move with confidence. Know your worth.

[@baneinvestment917]

Do one just in brad Pitt. I know people only see his face but I think they are attracted to his personality over his looks.

[@tobiaseaton200]

if he only had the face he'd be another high fashion stonefaced model. but theres a reason he was the leading hollywood man in 80s and 90s

[@JohnVandivier]

Wish I had a curated short list of the best content from this channel

[@SabrinaConstance]

You're videos are amazing. Keep on rockin'!

[@johnb6850]

Wow, just be like Brad Pitt during these interviews where he knows the questions ahead of time. So charismatic.

[@GregLhamon]

“That way you don’t have to force a laugh” while showing a clip of Jimmy Fallon. Bravo!

[@vonunterberg4313]

I have a problem that people like me on the first day, but get more distant when we continue to meet. Why is that?

[@itachiuchiwa6875]

I already smile like this while talking, but instead of this confidence it’s that nervous smile

[@kevinsims2876]

4:15 I was one of those guys that said "girls don't like nice guys" and it was painful of the idea to think nice guys finish last but the problem is I didn't have insight. If there was a grizzly bear in the group I wouldn't nearly give her the attention as a 10. Just let things happen and be in the flow of the moment and give props to people where you see fit without it becoming nauseating 💁🏽‍♂️

[@witch-kx8oe]

Thank you for the re-cap! 😊

[@realgrowncrown]

Your creative skills are awe inspiring❤

[@moonlitgirlie]

This channel has taught me so much.

[@RigSMP100]

It’s great that you can recognize Scripts, looks of Hollywood stars, but this of course does not prove you can do anything with everyday people, so all we know is that you are a good editor!

[@AZ-gs6hj]

Well, real life is just a simulation and we are all pretending to in one way. Your interaction with your loved ones is an act, same with the interactions with your coworkers and strangers. You put on the appropriate mask for the situation. The only time you’re ever truly yourself is when you’re in solitude. I spent 120 days alone in the jungles of South America hunting my own meals. Almost died twice and caught an infection that had me pale white foaming at the mouth. I’m thankful the locals found me and rescued me, but I learned a lot about human nature during that trip. I recommend you do the same and figure the true meaning of life.

[@ericswinton8742]

I love how you still have to be an extrovert for this

[@JONAC-CANOJ]

Not necessarily, I’m an introvert and I use these techniques. My feel good habit is working out so if I go out after the gym I’m almost an extrovert. I’ve always been super shy but did very well in sales because even getting to work required physical activity. Sometimes the shy me would feel overwhelmed by the fact that I’d often become the focus of multiple people’s attention and felt like I had to perform and entertain them. Exercise isn’t everyone’s thing but it definitely is mine, when I don’t do it I withdraw big time.

[@BD-or5yh]

Was a huge Brad Pitt fan before and now I’m a even bigger fan!

[@pandeni4512]

This is my favorite yet coz I have a similar personality

[@ChristianSoschner]

This channel is awesome. Thanks for the content

[@Sudeshsspanchal]

Love your content ❤️❤️❤️

[@emily60156]

Thank you for all that beautiful Brad Pitt footage.

[@J0yB0mbad1l]

Gwyneth Poltrow's story about BP is so cool🔥

[@MusicAutomation]

Be extremely attractive

[@rae5954]

You should do a breakdown of Barney about his charisma and charm! (from how I met your mother) It would be a super helpful video

[@haileynichelle8343]

How to know if your eye contact is warm and soft?

[@nahorletap]

I recommend for you guys to make a video on Jon Zherka. Dude is so charismatic, yes he says some crazy stuff but every podcast he's on and every video I've seen him on, he's always the star of the show. I watched both his podcasts with Bradley Martyn, I watched them both, start to finish.

[@Lyf-3276]

I do feel that status and looks naturally help though

[@TheHumanRanger]

Be your best self!

[@Werdxp]

Another great video Ben

[@etylenodiamina]

Hi guys, 3rd season of The Morning Show is out now. Please do Cory Elisson!

[@MarkRayner1998]

Has anyone done the program? Is it worth it?

[@xlathon3358]

I love these videos, I've been following for many years now, my daughter is benefiting from these videos now too, great work in my opinion I just felt compelled to say that many of these videos come off as manipulative, please don't get me wrong I like this channel very much and it has helped me a ton, just a comment keep up the great work

[@lamborghinicentenario2497]

how do you have relaxed eye contact though I always look intense and angry

[@LollieVox]

Lol that’s funny! A Mona Lisa smile helps

[@ry_an.]

Practice your eye contact looking at people on screen

[@colinmoras2385]

Press your tongue to the roof of your mouth. The rest of your face will relax.

[@bellanewler6611]

Keep Trying finding your kind of crowds, boxers, drill sergeant, and many more. Lol.

[@pitviper346]

Per this video, Brad Pitt is the only example of charm

[@homiekeen23]

My problem is I am quiet + awkward + insecure + not physically attractive 🙃🙃 I need to be remade completely 😂

[@yuihanima]

Find people like you, i am all that you say but my friends are like that too❤ that way you can be yourself with them 😊

[@liljoe3378]

can you make a Channing Tatum charisma video? it would be nice

[@Iksiksinski.]

This is my one of Favorites stories / i never Forget

[@Bekbolot-mw1gb]

I would like to see an analysis of Damon Salvatore's charisma from the Vampire Diaries

[@flyit5625]

Best channel❤❤

[@MykeHawke-r9r]

I would say I love this video and thank you, but I'm an introvert

[@itismeanttobe]

i already do these things thanks to your videos . PHEW that's a relief. I find myself overthinking it sometimes but i realized these tips are just guidelines for your inner self everybody has a unique strength of expression

[@wasikasteven7201]

Funny how this guys videos work…🤔I have been watching them for about two years now… Am pretty sure he is one of the few people with legit online courses that actually work🤔

[@ChimwemweMakanjila]

😮😮you see how brad helped the actress and you say girldont like nice guys,be nice but dont expect anything in return i,they will never forget about you😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮

[@frequentlycynical642]

Kissenger allegedly said that power is the ultimate aphrodisiac. Maybe it was best. Anyway, I've learned way late in life that laughter is equal to power or damned close. And even the powerless can make people laugh. When I was in high school sixty years ago there was this kid, somewhat crippled, that always had girls around him. Being super shy back then I was very jealous of Leonard. It wasn't until decades later I realized why the girls hung with him. He made them laugh. Today that long ago shy kid is long gone and I am gregarious and outgoing. I have a part time job managing a herd of volunteers. I'm always looking for moments to make them laugh. As good as power, even if the intended results aren't sexual.

[@iamapat]

I love how the video cuts to Jimmy Fallon laughing as he says you don't have to force the laugh

[@bb.22.b]

Good stuff thank u

[@carpediemearth]

Despite Brad Pitt being widely considered one of the most attractive men in the history of famous people, notice how the comments aren't all "be attractive", as they are in the videos highlighting women. When 90% of Brad's fame and supposed charm was from his attractiveness.

[@sendit7777]

I will never forget this phrase "True people never need a mask". If your morally corrupt, unintelligent, and rude, you will always be unlikable to others. Start there. Don't learn to make yourself worse.

[@PumperPanda95]

How do I do that Duchenne Smile?

[@vonroretz3307]

What are the Seven words ?

[@isaisa967]

I feel like I am naturally charming. But I still get rude glances and people treat me like I’m nothing. I go to Uni here in Texas and I attended a frat event and literally everytime I was speaking theses people would roll their eyes

[@scientiaorbis]

So maybe you might not be as "naturally charming" as you think?

[@sancho608]

You’re probably just very cringe and socially unaware ngl

[@bellanewler6611]

Keep smiling and don't have to say anything. Find your people. Good luck. Happy Thanksgiving. 😊

[@sarkakulova5071]

More for introverts please

[@Tropdop]

This one hit different.

[@MommaOsoIrish67]

I'm now in my 50s. I've owned my own custom built home, I've been homeless, and everything ib between. I recently didca luttle self reflection on my dreams..what they used to be, and what they are now. I used to dream of being married, the big house on land, 2.5 kids, the shining new car, "white picket fence" life. Now, my dream is to have a safe, sound roof over my head with a comfortable bed, a reliable vehicle,and enough mobey to pay my bills without worry, pay for my medical needs and to keep healthy food in the fridge. I don't NEED designer clothes. I don't NEED flashy jewelry or the newest tech. Would it be nice to be able to travel and see new places? Yes. Would it be fun to be able to purchase something i see just because I want it? Yes. But I don't NEED to have enough money for those kinds of things in order to be at peace, to be happy.

[@WilliamJonesChess]

Top Moments. For each key moment, I have put a heading for me to refer back to. [square brackets are own thoughts] Smile 0:48 speak through a smile Hook 2:12 use a one line hook which captivates a listener. This is my favourite Adam Sandler story. [This also increases respect from person who you are complimenting] 2:37 another one line hook is 'I will never forget.' Funny 3:22 you have a shootable face [When you laugh at other's jokes, you appreciate their skill level. I am certain the actor now really likes Brad as we saw Brad burst out laughing !!] Do not do this 4:22 selective kindness. Do not do it as it appears not nice. Shared Joy [This is Mudita. A big idea mentioned in the book 'Think like a Monk' by Jay Shetty] 5:05 Eevate others. Hence people will love being around you. Defend others. Be there for them. 6:36 be a shield in their shield wall 7:30 He leveraged his fame and power to defend me at a time when I had no fame yet. He is a good person. Summary 8:38 all key points written out Thank you for this video Charisma !!

[@mgt81music]

Man, in addition to being that handsome, Brad Pitt is also charismatic AF.

[@axtonjcranston1064]

Your advice is great and all, I've seen many of them, but you use professionally trained actors in so many examples, they are in situations and have natural skill to use these tricks, it's not really transferrable to normal daily life for the rest of us. You should use broadcasters, interviewers, or ted talks or even student demo reels of what works and what doesn't. Anything to make it more realistic for 99.9% of the population.

[@jeffzest8393]

Valid point. Actors can make articial appear genuine. Further, actors generally have great upturned symmetrical smiles to go with good looks. Advice may have merit, just more difficult for most to execute.

[@HappyHuman89]

Fully agree.

[@TheSodaShop]

But on the other side, wouldn't you want to learn these skills from the best of the best?? The guys are so good wouldn't you want to observe them??

[@josephrosati9921]

Best video you've made :)

[@TonySoprano007]

Please do Tony Soprano

[@itsabdelg]

bradd pitt starring this youtube video too be like 😂

[@Fwransen]

nice, simply what i need

[@TheGreatGYROFLUFF]

Does anyone know how to prevent the resentment response that people often have later down the line after you help them in a time of need? It's not an uncommon occurrence when people feel an immeasurable dept to someone who helped them for them to turn it into resentment to free them from the cognitive dissoance.

[@bellanewler6611]

😊 May be a constant reminder during the conversation that, it is just a hypothetical situation to get the other side into an exploring mode rather than draw up your shield mode?

[@jgprice9990]

The advice in this video is really good but why do i feel like it never works irl for me.

[@thetemplelaboratory]

Hahaha I love this story, this is my favorite story I'll never forget ...uhm. ...like ... so how are you doin'?

[@jackthefrog80085]

Thank you, now i am good at humaning

[@andriyzolotov]

Guys, you're the best

[@oyeeHunter]

Does it Mean Brad pitt is an Introvert 😮😮❤❤❤

[@sp-uf6tx]

Great video! But I personally dispise the pre-scentence laugh, it annoys me a lot when people to it

[@eristhdr2733]

Alright….got it 1. warm soft body language 2. capture hooks with kindness 3. threaten harvey weinstein 4. join some academy

[@JohnCornellier]

5. Look like Brad Pit.

[@conor2079]

Next video on Michael Scofield from prison break. Pleaseeee Btw nyc video

[@davidfariello3972]

Be really good looking if you are quiet is the message.

[@imomuganda]

This channel in a nutshell: Be kind.

[@mattnguyen1672]

Can you make one about aragorn

[@HeineHenriksen-h7r]

I dont know how to use these tips in real life on people. Any Advice?

[@vigil3429]

This is basically what you do when you're engaged in any normal conversation and they're situational, most social skills are situational and you need to pay attention to the person, understand and empathize, you can learn the ideas of how to socialize, but, what you say and do will depend on the person who's at your side, how they feel and the conversion, you can't apply these things as a step by step manual. For example, if you talk with a person that never makes jokes, you can laugh at their jokes, no situation for that. You could still help them, be friendly, make them engage in an anecdote you want to tell them. If you're in a restaurant, you could treat well to your friends or date while also treating well to the waiter/tress, showing you're kind with everybody, what you'll tell them it again depends on the situation, "thanks, good service", that could be said in almost every instance, "you brought my order so fast, thanks", that'd be situational.

[@yuvaldemayo0]

love it, thank you