Viktor Frankl's Method to Overcome Fear (Paradoxical Intention)

[@DemetriPanici]

*"You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength." - Marcus Aurelius*

[@klyvemurray]

One of my most favourite Stoics

[@tygrrrmoore9815]

Ha, Ha, Ha. Good luck with that. As an alternative I think not of "power over" but Wu Wei. Empty mind, shit comes up - it's not me, not mine and I let go of any negativity because not real. The control does not work for me because the mind comes up with stuff that is at times outright bizarre. Not me, not mine - drop it.

[@spontaksback]

Gladiator is such a good movie I’m watching it again now lol

[@ANKIT-vd3ng]

But what is that "you" who says this, a fragment of the mind itself isn't it? Or is it the essence of all the fragments?....think about it.

[@gladman9634]

Can the ocean control the ocean

[@ez-e8012]

This man is incredible. "Never make excuses, your friends don't need them and your enemies won't believe you anyhow."

[@dfgrhbjkh]

Excuses are the skins of reasons stuffed with lies.

[@Dowlphin]

If they were true friends, they would appreciate them and use the insight to engage with you with greater enlightenment.

[@Dowlphin]

@@dfgrhbjkh Sounds more like the quote.

[@larrylucid5502]

your friends dont need to hear an explanation for why you wronged them ? major bs. They need it the most, if you wanna keep them.

[@christophdenner8878]

@@larrylucid5502 I think what is meant is: your true friends know why you wronged them and also know it was not to hurt them, but because of your underlying struggles. And for that no true friend expects an excuse.

[@unjoined]

I now welcome anxiety attacks as an experience to be felt instead of something bad that needs to be blocked. When I feel it coming I just let it and wish it to be the biggest one I've ever felt. Try it next time :)

[@billycox475]

That's cool. I'm not at that stage yet but getting better. Thanks for posting! You never know how much describing your own journey may inspire someone else.

[@tomrado5249]

Cool, that’s really interesting.

[@msbadgrl]

This trueee. Add to it meditation and deep breathing afterwards to recollect and somehow get back a bit on track

[@kasontransformation]

I did it and laughed with myself about it.

[@VestaJ17]

hmm i like this, im gna try it. ive always tried getting aggressive with my anxiety, and/or belittle it. saying things like "come on then anxiety, show me what you really got, i aint a bitch youve never killed me yet" etc etc but it can make you come across defensive in real life and others dont understand why, so im gonna try this now

[@DominiqueFrancon]

This approach really works. Years ago I was suffering from panic attacks. I went to a therapist and he told me that the next time I have a panic attack to make it the biggest and best panic attack ever. The next time I had a panic attack I told myself to just make it the biggest and best panic attack ever and guess what? It went away very quickly and I’ve never had another one.

[@superscience4817]

Woah, is it safe? (Is it worthy?)

[@jim-se5xc]

At the very idea of making it the biggest and best you'd probably start laughing.

[@DominiqueFrancon]

@@jim-se5xc that’s about right. Stepping out to give direction to the panic attack completely diffused it.

[@Kerrviii]

@@superscience4817not always. I passed out in high school. I saw someone else do it during a presentation (grown woman) and she hit her head. This is kind of extreme.

[@Kyoto99952]

I read Viktor Frankl's book Man's Search for Meaning and when I came across this concept, I was ECSTATIC. I was jumping in the air of and re-read that pages multiple times. It's a game changer. It messes you up biologically in a good way. You can't be afraid of something you are actively and voluntarily pursuing. Also, when you want to achieve A goal, the brain doesn't care what it is. Ethical, good, evil, good for you, bad for you, literally does not care. Only cares that you have a valued goal and that you are moving towards it. So how to do that when you're genuinely anxious about e.g. public speaking? You detail out the absolute worst possible outcome that could happen and then desire and pursue THAT outcome. That could be that every person in the room will laugh at you and that you cry and faint and piss your pants and forget your lines. Just be creative and ridicule as much as possible, because your thought that produces that irrational fear is ri-di-cu-lous. But you can't convince yourself that with a motiv video or rationalization. The emotion is too strong. So you need to teach your brain a lesson. Through action. Ruin the speech before it even started by saying good evening instead of good morning, so it's already ''imperfect'' anyway. And ''forget'' a line on purpose creating 5 seconds of awkwardness. This all may sound silly but you won't find a more effective and efficient technique in the universe to conquer your fear once and for all. When you do this 1x it's over. And it won't cost you a dime in therapy session.

[@FelipedeZwaan]

brilliant

[@momomtjiddu3920]

“Do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson

[@noahlapuz3853]

This!❤

[@myrhythm7522]

I didn't find this to be true in my life. It often got worse.

[@april1st183]

​@@myrhythm7522 like what? Give examples

[@keelobrown4991]

This exact thing is what I used go stop having panic attacks a few years ago. I just sat there and thought you know what? Let this shit just kill me, ill wait, do your worst and it just faded away. I just accepted the sensations and told my brain to just finish it, make the heart attack come, give me a seizure, make me faint idc anymore. And i havent had a panic attack since, used go have them several times a day.

[@Soaditish]

That's what I'm going to practice. I've constant fear of dying from a panic attack tho i know it's not scientifically possible. The fear is still intense. I'm gonna try it. Thanks for this comment. So I've to wish for death, heart attack, the worst that can happen, right?

[@oneidea1121]

Man , thank you

[@Soaditish]

How many times you did it?

[@Soaditish]

Whenever you feared it, you asked for it?

[@l.w.paradis2108]

Brilliant, thanks!

[@RealJamieBarclay]

Anxiety exists between hope and fear. You hope it will go one way, and are fearful it will go another way. Therefore, removing your attachment to the outcome, will remove anxiety. This is easier said than done, but this video gives a pretty good explanation of how to do that, great stuff.

[@bobbijolene]

I love your explanation! ❤️

[@bobbijolene]

My Mama used to say "what are ya afraid of? They can't eat ya!"😂

[@davecom3]

Cease to hope, cease to fear. Its a powerful stoic principle. Live in the present.

[@mitfreude]

decide what you fear.... make it big so that your mind is unable to comprehend and make it ridiculous...

[@drybowser666-bo3kl]

Can someone tell me how I can apply this to my life?

[@LauraHenneforth]

The wisdom of these videos are rubbing off! This week I faced a stressful, fear inducing situation and had the option to avoid it. Instead I decided to go on with it because it will arise again. While it was unpleasant I obviously persevered and I feel stronger as a result. Then this video drops and my resolve is greater. Thank you for sharing these truths with us!

[@bella3775]

Laura! ❤️👍🏻👏

[@paradox7743]

scared of snakes ? Go Get one as soon as possible...

[@MikeCarmineA239]

This channel just made me a different person. As a matter of fact, I’m not the same person that I was when I saw the last video, it’s incredible how can a simple video create a powerful change in someone. I really recommend this channel if you are feeling lost or sad, there’s so much content to help you out. Love from 🇨🇦

[@josephllinas417]

Its helped me immensely, the narrator does such a good job its reinvigorated my joy of studying and practicing alot of these teaching including primarily stocism.

[@4Mikes4Mindset4]

May God Bless You Brother

[@mar2nya789]

Agreed!

[@spontaneousbootay]

Yep this is why i love reading

[@billycox475]

Same here! Best wishes for your continuing journey!

[@AlissonWololo]

"If you want something to be removed, you must first allow it to flourish" - Lao tzu ☯️

[@wornahpid2983]

time to allow those intrusive thoughts in

[@stacielivinthedream8510]

I guess that's why we have to feel feelings without resistance. At first, it sounds crazy or wrong, but it does work. ​@wornahpid2983

[@delq]

This also works with pain. The more you fight it in a controlled setting such as the dentists chair or having an injection the more shocking and intense it feels. If you believe that you are always supposed to be in a state of no pain, the fact that you are in pain is something you will never be able to accept. Instead if you consider it as something more natural and more curious about it as an experience, it feels as if you are riding the pain, as if our playing with its extremities and your limits, not like you are being submerged and crushed by it.

[@octaviomoreno3542]

Pain is unavoidable but suffering is.

[@domihase8148]

I think that's true. But I would be careful in engaging situations with pain. I did it because I wanted to hurt myself as a punishment for the bad person I thougt I was. Every pain was well deserved in my mind. I got proud how much I could bear. So if you test your limits of pain like this, be aware of the reason, which drives you. Having said that, I like your idea. I haven't thought about it this way. Have a nice one. :)

[@squishrabbit]

Last time I was at the dentist, I was told "this is going to hurt...". So I thought, "yesss, come on, do it to me! Show me what you got!!" For five minutes, I convinced myself that I craved pain. The experience wasn't that bad in the end, barely even particularly unpleasant.

[@delq]

@@squishrabbit i had to remove two of my teeth due to infection and therefore had to be injected, i would say it is the initial shock/disbelief that offputs you more than the actual pain. If you look at it as something totally inexperienced by you before, there is a peculiar curiosity that engages yourself and distracts you from all the terrifying thoughts that you have associated with pain. But then again pain is useful, it helps us to notice immediate damage or danger.

[@domihase8148]

I've read, that a lot of "painful" experiences (like a visit at the dentist) comes from conditioning. The example was, if I watch other people, who are making painful faces at the dentist, I will imitate them. I expect and experience pain even if there is no real pain. Hope it makes sense.

[@anthonysum1668]

Paradoxical intention has literally help me so much I remember reading about it in mans search for meaning it literally works instantly. Your brain just says “oh why was I scared of that? I guess I don’t need to be” and the anxiety just goes away it’s pretty amazing.

[@no_one2197]

I've been doing this for a long time, even before I knew what it was or that it was a thing. My friends would always make fun of me cause I constantly say things "I'm probably gonna faint during the presentation" or "I will fail the presentation so bad it would be hilarious" and then I go and do a magnificent job. I'm usually selected to speak in public events in representation of my classmates cause I do it "pretty natural" and don't take myself to seriously according to people but this method is what has helped me do it. It's surprisingly helpful and I recommend other introvers and shy people like me to try it.

[@ann29light]

i have ptsd, so i've so much fear and anxiety in life, and ever since i let it just exist as a part of me, letting the panic attacks happen instead of fighting it, and keep doing the things i fear despite feeling it, the less it bothers me. i've never really "conquered" or "overcame" my fears, they just gradually became less distracting. so embrace the pain, embrace the anxiety, embrace the fear. thank you for another amazing video.

[@georgehancock2307]

Try ART therapy for PTSD. It really helped me.

[@JohnOrbit]

There were so many times as a young boy where my brother would laugh at me being worried about something. At first I took offense, (he should take my problems as seriously as I do!) but then it helped me step outside of myself and look at my own problems from his perspective, and often it completely dissolved my angst. I really love this video. It, like my brother, has helped me remember to step outside of my story and look at it objectively, or with humor!

[@peli9605]

I agree

[@FeelingIsHealing]

Very true. Sometimes laughing at our own neurosis or even troubles can help us let them go.

[@DanielNguyen40]

I don’t know why but this video just popped up on my screen when I was trying to figure out about my fear. It suits me in a bizarre and unexplainable way but it might be explainable in God’s way. So bless you all and hope you will overcome your fear and many people will watch this video, in the name of Jesus, I prayed. Amen.

[@j.m.b5441]

This video makes total sense to me, without knowing this technique this is exactly what I did to get rid of my hypochondriac anxiety, I started making jokes and laughing at my problem, excellent video!! Thanks

[@j.m.b5441]

@Tracey Nolan I wrote back to you but it's not showing here, I don't know why, maybe it was a long answer, please let me know if you could read it.

[@helloMRdj1]

@Tracey Nolan Hmm my stomach hurts, hopefully let it be cancer, this way I will be in the hospital and wont have to prepare myself food everyday.

[@nadirali5777]

Love your comment

[@lineoflads1388]

I suffer from social sweating as well, I’m going to try this!

[@FutureMindset]

I've noticed that action eliminates fear. When it comes to taking the first step towards something new, simply doing it, regardless of how you feel, helps to eliminate anxiety. So when it comes to public speaking, you may experience a lot of anxiety initially, but when you just go head on, the nervousness, at least in my experience, fades away.

[@DivingHawker]

The way you lay down things for us, with such a calming voice, it almost feels like meditation and it's often very appeasing on a deeper level. Thank you for your work!

[@TEAforMIND]

“Filling the conscious mind with ideal conceptions is a characteristic of Western theosophy, but not the confrontation with the shadow and the world of darkness. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.” Carl Jung. Facing our emotional wounds is one of the most difficult lessons in life, I think. Instead of treating negative feeling like an enemy, it could be better to be open to 'listen' to our fear, anxiety, hurt feelings, like the way we treat a friend. Because negative feeling reminds us that there is something wrong in life so that we need to Aware, Accept, and then Change. It sounds like what a true friend may tell us. Thanks for sharing ❤

[@sandtx4913]

Beautifully said. I agree, facing our emotional wounds is one of the hardest things in life. Thank you for sharing. ❤

[@Mr.Honest247]

Ironically Jung is dead and his physical body only sees darkness.

[@jumpingship3001]

Just like Rumi's The guest house poem.

[@sandtx4913]

@@Mr.Honest247 how would a dead physical body "see darkness"?

[@jodo1971]

Nice!

[@borischum5733]

There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts fear out. Indeed, the one who is fearful has not been made perfect in love. 1 Jo 4

[@april1st183]

Amen! 🙌

[@squaretriangle9208]

When I was young once I met Frankl and his wife in the street in Vienna, my mother pointed him out to me and we greeted him and his wife - I cherish the memory

[@amulyamalhi]

Congratulations EZ for hitting 1 Million Subscribers. Finally bro you have made it!

[@Einzelgänger]

Thank you :)

[@purecheese9012]

@@Einzelgänger Congratulations! Your channel changed my life, it introduced me to so many philosophies and ideas that have given my life meaning and purpose! Keep doing what you are doing!

[@OtubeShalhoub]

I was diagnosed with panic disorder in 2013, and got an SSRI prescription for that, with no effort whatsoever made to first try some cognitive behavioral therapy. A year later, I decided to throw away the meds, and start conquering the anxiety. The way I succeeded is detailed in this video. It was death that I was afraid of, and the moment I started welcoming death, it ran away! Thanks for the great videos

[@Seekthetruth3000]

Sadly, psychiatry has a dark side.

[@thenovicenovelist]

I have the same fear. What steps did you take to welcome it and conquer it?

[@adrianthomas1473]

In a medical environment I have found two things helpful. The first thing is to tell the patient in a stressful situation that being anxious and fearful is normal and OK and that everyone feels this way. This stops the anxiety about being anxious. They are responding the same way as everyone else. The other thing to to is to tell someone how they are feeling. If someone looks anxious tell them that they are looking relaxed. When they respond by saying that they are anxious repeat the statement saying - but you look relaxed and continue with hypnotic language. Instead of asking how they are feeling tell them how they are feeling. You can carry the load for them.

[@limitlessfelh1109]

Great...

[@kamilahynas2327]

That would make me furious.

[@pleaseleaveamess]

​@@kamilahynas2327what they mean is not saying "you're fine" dismissively, they mean something more along the lines of "you're handling this well better than most patients" or "you're calmer than other people who go through this" and other similar phrases, speaking with compassion and understanding.

[@kamilahynas2327]

@@pleaseleaveamess Thank you for explaining. I appreciate it 🙂

[@hugojj101]

Well, it’s actually insane how well it works, I feel like everyone has been relieved from a fear in this way before, like letting go basically after getting fed up of stressing. But this genuine methodical version actually works so well. Even for my complex fears. Crazy. What a great video. I’m really happy.

[@johanneshalberstadt3663]

I came up with something very similar myself as a teen. I was taking singing lessons and twice or thrice a year there where recital where I had so sing on a stage either in front of a jury for evaluation of my progress or in front of other students and their parents. There came a time where stage fright really had a grip on me. Silly to me now, but it got really bad, my heart beating, my.knees shaking and/locking up, feeling like I could not get my bodily symptoms of fear under control. So scared of hitting a wrong note, not singing clean notes, forgetting lyrics, etc. But one day I came.up with this trick: I thought to myself: Most "mistakes" will probably go unnoticed by the audience. And even if they'd notice, it would be a fleeting moment, already gin once they realise it, and it probably won't really impact their experience of the piece that much. So I told myself that I would deliberately insert mistakes I to my performance to see if anyone would notice. Or to enjoy that fact that no one would notice. That freed me of my anxiety immensely. I don't think I ever actually made a mistake on purpose. But just telling myself that would or just that I could was the trick I needed to lose diddipate my stage fright

[@sonyavincent7450]

That was a really clever approach. Well done.

[@1heat-t3b]

“Fight your fear, and you will stuck to it. But, Wish for your fear and you’ll conquer it.” bro’s cooking fr 🔥🔥 menyala abangkuh 🔥🌾

[@igeljaeger]

I relate to the "falling asleep" part A LOT. I often skip sleeping when I notice it happening now. Otherwise I lay there for hours and just waste my time. It happens when I feel uneasiness about my career/life. When that is fixed, my sleep ususally gets fixed as well.

[@acosmos4672]

the message was very interesting and the swaying trees were even more relaxing. Loved the video.

[@fernandocamacho5088]

Hey Einzelganger! Your service to humanity will be remembered for ages!

[@ash8207]

"If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment." - Marcus Aurelius

[@Shelly-cp7gj]

The comments here were wildly inspiring. So wonderful to hear so many amazing successes! In just a day of saying “bring it on” to any form of not-positive feeling or thought I had awesome opportunities of feeling more empowered. What a wonderful practice!

[@Therika7]

Thanks!

[@harmonydreamers]

Sometimes fear can be overcome by its positive opposites, for example, trust that things will be fine. Mindfulness seems to be a first step, noticing the negative thoughts. Great videos, thanks.

[@kristyboxx]

So, fight your fear and you’ll be stuck with it. Wish for what you fear and you’ll conquer it. Love this ending statement. Your videos are stunning through out all these year as I stumble upon them once a while. Thank you :)

[@andriyandriychuk]

This is how Frankl conquered the problem of attribution. Bad thoughts gain power from attribution. When we make a thought important it gains power. When we ridicule it, it loses power and control over us. Genious!

[@jimcoyle4453]

This video topic is so apt for me. I once was plagued with panic attacks. My heart would beat very fast and it came on suddenly, and I was unable to stop it. I felt I was going to die and the attack would last for several minutes. Eventually it would pass. But these attacks were terrifying. They continued to come on suddenly for weeks until finally I told myself, well, if I'm going to do then so be it. The attacks promptly stopped! It was actually very freeing. It turned out it was all psychological apparently, and in facing my fear I conquered it just like Victor Frankl said.

[@_Solaris]

I love it that doctor and patient are both chillaxin' with a smoke. A different time for sure... and somewhat compelling.

[@shimankumaheshwari6904]

Thanks

[@Einzelgänger]

Thank you!

[@Jennifer-bw7ku]

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

[@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU]

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

[@elizabethwilliams6651]

Yes, dr.sporesss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

[@steceymorgan814]

I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

[@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU]

Is he on instagram?

[@elizabethwilliams6651]

Yes he is. dr.sporesss

[@leandrobaluyotjr5181]

Wonderful video about conquering fear and paradoxical self -talk about anxiety ,fear & related negative emotions! Viktor Frankl's approach to psychotherapy is counterintuitive and unique but effective and long-lasting ! Thank you so much for featuring Frankl and wishing you more success in your personal & professional endeavors .

[@Karine-108]

I actually found a trick for myself. When i dont arrive to sleep, i imagine myself reading, then it makes me feel "No im tired i dont want to read", then this feeling of tireness really helps me fall asleep.

[@saiactually]

LOLL this sounds funny but im so gonna try this soon!

[@Karine-108]

@@saiactually lol, hope it will work for you as well

[@Bigchurchmusic]

I used to suffer from depression, I used what I now know as paradoxical intention, I said to myself "I want to be more depressed, I tried to visualise and project my thoughts ever darker and darker." I mentally reached the bottom, could not delve any deeper, I had smashed the viscous cycle.

[@jacksavage279]

Man's search for meaning changed my my life. .

[@jgurskey]

Great to see you now have 1 million subscribers. Your fantastic content, sincerity and insight are really needed in the crazy world we live in today.

[@Nonduality]

One way or another, it's essential to stop the constant unnecessary activity of the mind. Do whatever works. What's remains, ideally, is only necessary mental activity.

[@PositiveEnergy733]

Dear everyone, I wish you peace inside your soul. We are all light and all connected, don’t be scare, all gonna be ok. Your futur gonna be fantastic because you are fantastic. Thank you so much for your reading.

[@BlaiseLabs]

“Think of the worst thing that can happen and use the answer to relax” - EARTHGANG

[@robin-vt1qj]

I did this intuitively

[@user2653]

@@robin-vt1qj how? I learn through examples, could you share one please

[@robin-vt1qj]

@@user2653 For example dying. Contemplating death

[@BlaiseLabs]

@@robin-vt1qj I feel like anyone who meditates regularly will reach certain conclusions like these. Though education is probably a pretty important factor as well.

[@larryfuentes9404]

I thank God, and the universe, for bringing this video in my life, at the right time. Thank you so much for this video. I appreciate the time and the energy poured into creating this video. Thank you again.

[@hugoruiz1422]

"He who has the why to live for can bear almost any how." - Friedrich Nietzsche

[@paradox7743]

Replace the wording "bear almost any how" with can bear Anything!

[@ubermensch117]

Keep going forward no matter wat

[@knighthawk882]

-Viktor Frankl

[@DSAK55]

"there is no _why_ here", Nazi guard in "Man’s Search for Meaning"

[@sophiec3592]

Thank you so much for posting as I’ve been waking up every night and you know what I’m gonna do now is - stay the hell up - fight with whatever this is because I want my dang sleep 💤

[@morohunkejiidowu1603]

This is one of my favorite KZbin channel.....you’ve propelled me for greatness.....I’m grateful 🙏❤️

[@QueenEra33]

One way I recommend my clients to set a paradoxical intention is by encouraging them to say “this is what I’m doing great right now, I’m going to focus on that therefore that other stuff will have to resolve itself somehow!” That way the paradox feels gentler and less like ‘wishing bad’ on oneself yet is still being satisfied as a shift in perspective to a more paradoxical one which leaves us open to the unknown in a curious way. Subsequently the other stuff resolves organically and brings peace with it, in due time

[@Surya933]

Like redirecting attention to what they are doing great? But are they also resisting the compulsion at the same time? Or does this approach make space for the anxiety or compulsion to also play out?

[@horednaxela6919]

Interestingly, in Buddhist meditation, primarily mindfulness, one is to neither avoid once fears nor embrace one's desires but to befriend it nonjudgmentally. Put it another way, don't identify with a thought but merely think of if it as 'just a thought'. Of course this is easier said than done and that is why meditation is called a 'practice'.

[@ohnoo4468]

Aren’t you, in a way, befriending your anxieties by welcoming them though?

[@savageantelope3306]

This book helped me an insane amount, especially the section on this topic in the extended edition

[@philthyrich1433]

What book?

[@La_Maquina806]

I always try fear-facing exercises when I have the chance. I'm currently working in sales which helped me decrease drastically my social anxiety.

[@jasonchavez3786]

I thought this was a great video! Viktor's paradoxical intention reminds me of Exposure Response Prevention therapy(ERP) which treats OCD. When my OCD got out of control, I decided to try ERP. In each session, my therapist would expose me to what triggered my anxiety. I had to sit with it and resist the urge to perform my compulsion. After a few weeks of ERP therapy, my anxiety fell, and I no longer had the urge to perform my compulsions. Now, a few months later, my OCD hardly influences my life. Again, great job!

[@clai6445]

Great to hear... I have developed covid phobia and OCD pattern in these past 2 yrs... I wish to overcome both and live without the unnecessary stress

[@Mr.Honest247]

I suffer from severe OCD and have had it all my life. I’m gonna use this!

[@maakirey387]

The only channel in the vast KZbin universe which has content that’s worth a million bucks … just superb

[@willywagtails7984]

Thich Nhat Hanh.......breathing in I "know" that Im breathing in....breath out I " know" that I'm breathing out....take this to heart practice ..your life will overtime be transformed💕( Victor Fankel what an incredible human being!)

[@yopueelin7300]

Wow! I've totally experienced this paradoxical intention technique before in meditation: instead of trying to avoid the bothersome thought or emotion, I would challenge it by wanting it to arise, inviting it in, and then suddenly it would go away! I always thought it was my Oppositional Defiance Disorder, that my Ego was being defiant and spiteful, "Nah, I'll wait until you're not expecting it to show it to you again;" that it was just the Irony of Life, and maybe it IS all of these things, but I'm glad you shared this and now I have a bit more proof of and a name to this phenomenon! 🌟🌸❤❤❤🌸🌟

[@coopersmom8339]

Thank you! This is what I need to hear. One the best KZbin channel.

[@zovalentine7305]

Rest in powerful peace Viktor Emil Frankl 🙏 26 March 1905 ~ 2 September 1997⚘

[@tch908]

This is one of the channels that I've known from the very beginning Since before in your solitary days actually, and throughout I've seen how the channel grew and developed. The channel was a change from your previous content but looking back a welcome one. I'd be lying if said I wasn't surprised that you have a million subscribers since it's so different from the few 1000 you had at the start so I can't imagine how your feeling but congrats on a million you deserve it

[@nadeenmohsen6258]

I really ADMIRE this channel! 😍

[@elpapu2410]

I have social anxiety, and I have an oral presentation next week and I've been feeling stressed and anxious like 3 weeks in advance. Thank you so much for sharing this video, brother. I'll try this technique :)

[@dianafoster7883]

And how did the presentation go?

[@irenadziovaliene7082]

I’m working on it and seams I won! When my panic comes I just accept it and watching it. It works! And as the winner I’m laughing at the end! Thank you ❤

[@2F098]

I used to beat myself over small mistakes at work but after I started to just laugh it off like I would if a friend had done it instead, I lightened up considerably.

[@Being_Jeff]

As a lifelong sufferer of social anxiety this was brilliant thank you. Although the concept of paradoxical intent is not new to me (I've Known it as "Acceptance Paradox" Dr. D Burns) and I haven't had much success in the past it has inspired me to give it another try as there's always different ways something can be presented and reviewed.

[@jase87]

For me pain can be dealt with like mindfulness, it’s sometbing that can be observed from a third person perspective rather than ‘felt’.

[@MindsettoMastery]

Negative emotions are unavoidable. If you feel bad, that doesn't necessarily mean there's anything wrong with you. Don't try to run away from it, because whatever you resist will persist. Give yourself permission to accept, then let go. 💫

[@domihase8148]

"Whatever you resist will persist." A great teaching of Conversation with God. Did you read it?

[@a-aron5508]

Thank you for this important information! I've found myself after a lifetime of suffering and trying to deal with my anxieties, doing exactly those things talked about.

[@triet7631]

I have applied this method when i couldn't sleep and it worked. Before that i struggled with it as the video mentioned.🎉

[@user-lk8tt6sx7r]

When I started looking at my life through a comedic lens, it calmed me down and helped me see straight. I catastrophize a lot less now.

[@bella3775]

Thank you for this video. Viktor Frankl is an absolute legend!

[@zovalentine7305]

Rest in powerful peace Viktor Emil Frankl 26 March 1905 ~ 2 September 1997⚘

[@mofomartianp]

An absolute legendary liar.

[@DemetriPanici]

*“Everything that happens is either endurable or not. If it’s endurable, then endure it. Stop complaining." - Marcus Aurelius*

[@mofomartianp]

What if it's not? Then what, Marcus? Do we just end it all?

[@phumlanindlovu5653]

this is amazing I did know my coping machaism of ridiculing myself through comedy was healing me in a way

[@ElectricPhantasmagoria]

David Hawkins had a book called letting go. He too was a psychiatrist. He described letting go as letting the physical sensations come up in the body, not resisting them and trying to ask for more of them to come up. It takes energy to suppress emotions as well as the energy of those suppressed emotions. Avoid thoughts as thoughts are the leaves, feelings and physical sensations in the body are the source. Labeling the thoughts or feelings should be avoided because it will focus on the detail rather than the mechanism. Also it is helpful to realize a feeling is just that, a feeling. You have to recognize you may have feelings you don’t like such as ugly feelings. That is ok. Everyone has a shadow. If you can’t let go of the feeling just let go of any resistance you have to letting go of the feeling. That is common if you can’t let go.

[@smcamden]

This was good to watch. I see the fears mentioned, social anxiety and hyper sweating and can see how the approaches work for those, but am having a hard time figuring out how I would approach my phobia which is claustrophobia. I am trying to get to a place of Wanting to be in an enclosed space that has no opening such as an elevator (with the fear that it will become stuck) but immediately the butterflies start and the heart begins to race, even thinking about it. I agree the fear itself has become the fear - the worry that I will completely lose it in sheer terror - just because of how my mind produces images and thoughts of the panic I would feel if the elevator stuck. This is a recent problem, begun after an experience with a medical test in which I had to be in an enclosed place, nuclear cardiac testing, with the machinery around me that I could not open myself. The room was dark and I started panicking, trying to stay calm, but ended up calling for help so the tech would open the thing up. I also had to have a cast on my leg for a fracture and not ever hearing of such a thing, I could not stand that cast - was anxious and panicky wanting it removed after just a day or so, and did end up going in and having it removed at the ER. I learned later that others have this problem, called "cast claustrophobia". After these experiences the problem has slowly grown worse, to the point now where I'll go way out of my way to use stairs rather than an elevator, and keeping a vigilant awareness of situations I want to be on the look out for and avoid. And yes, avoidance is not helping, of that I know. I do understand desensitizing therapy. I am going to be making an appointment with a clinical psychologist for hopefully some Behavioral cognitive therapy. This is the first time in my life I have had an issue that reached the point of feeling I need outside professional mental help.

[@morrisalanisette9067]

Mabye you can hink the enclosed space is too big and should be smaller. like taunting it. since space is a perceptual thing, an elevator could appear quite large from one perspective. to train for this you could look around a normal room as if its an entire world. like an insect. discover every nook and cranny that you've never noticed before. i imagine after awhile of this when you go into a small area, it may seem larger once your perception begins to notice details more. i'm just throwing out ideas. but the idea is everything should appear too spacious

[@SeeSawMassacre]

I've found this type of thing useful myself. Years ago, i gave up on trying to play bass guitar well, always hitting the right notes. Instead i play badly on purpose, if i'm feeling inhibited, and dwell in the discordant sounds for a while. It really frees everything up. A lot of the ideas we have about how things should be are nebulous and of no real consequence anyhow.

[@mizty7844]

Omg!! You're on 1M noooww!!!! I'm so happyyyyy

[@Einzelgänger]

Thank you :)

[@gemaperezrios1972]

Thankyou, Einzelgänger. You're always an inspiration

[@davebeedon3424]

Fascinating theory. I'm going to apply it to a fear I have. Thanks for sharing this!

[@theunraveler]

I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past, I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.

[@luddity]

Dune

[@wanderer37]

@@ludditythanks❤ i was wondering where i heard it but was not able to remember😅.

[@georgemuhoro]

I didn’t read the book, but the movie is absolutely fantastic

[@lupusyonderboy9363]

“Father, the sleeper has awakened!”

[@Handey79]

@@georgemuhoro wich movie?

[@syedzeeshanahmad4998]

This video was much needed. Just graduated and yes I have been fearing myself for not getting a job. Let wish for the fear, and see if I conquer it.

[@danialmr5960]

One of the best channels on KZbin

[@whatrtheodds]

Iv been practicing leaning into my fear. It's no easy thing. It became a monster 👹💀☠️🕸️⛓️ it was terrifying for me. I started to do things I was always afraid of doing and that's when I felt it. It was a month of my mind spinning, I felt like I was going crazy, but I wasn't, it was anxiety, really really bad anxiety. Where the mind races, random words 🍥 swirling through my head, broken sentences. I feel like a mad woman, I depersonalize many times, for hours, for days. I felt like I was outside my body and then inside it ,the walls caved in, the ground felt unstable, I couldn't think straight, I couldn't breathe properly. I accepted it and for a month like a demon it screamed hard. I wanted to run, but there was nowhere to run to, I don't do drugs, I don't over indulge. I wasn't procrastinating I was facing it, I was living my dreams, but I didn't know in order to do so I had to face this. I decided to do it no matter what. The adrenaline squirting through my body I could feel the blood pumping through my veins, I woke up in the morning terrified, like an electric shock woke me, and had to face it over and over and over again. One day, after facing it again I had a breakthrough, I was waiting for a tram at night while it rained lightly, I began to sob, underneath my tearless exterior, underneath the years of saying everything is okay was a fragile skinned being who cried and trembled. An overwhelming sense of compassion enveloped me, I care for myself I realized, I feel, I really do, I loved myself in that moment so deeply, I was so brave, I had been through so much in my life. I felt wrapped in kindness, in understanding. Such a intense experience.

[@mgal6234]

I love this comment. I hope you’re doing well, and I hope I can have a similar experience! Sending love from Florida. ❤️

[@paradox7743]

You have done it. Now UNCONDITIONAL LOVE FOR ONESELF will soon follow.

[@marsz4980]

❤❤❤❤

[@april1st183]

This is such beautiful writing to me. Where can I read more of your work?

[@yonashira3853]

This video is what I needed right now. I say a lot of principle from my cognitive behavioral therapy app explained here. I hope it will help me further to live with my tinnitus

[@chrstinedivinagracia7259]

I missed your videos you used to be on my algorithm alot. Glad to be back 😅

[@Dowlphin]

Maybe flagged as dangerous medical misinformation or terrorist propaganda. /s

[@boursitocard]

its been a while i havent seen something so valuable on youtube. Thank you !

[@petersuvara]

Ha, I noticed this too. What I told myself, come on, bring on the worst, it was never as bad as it seemed. That kind of "Bring it on" mentality really did work for me.

[@Unknown4444-ne3lk]

I totally agree with this man. This technique is more powerful than medication or anything else.

[@marieantoine]

I've been doing this since before and it really helps to eliminate the fear. I just didn't bother explaining or teaching it to others because they might think I'm crazy or weird 🤣

[@eeshitapotter]

Thank you for this!

[@omalimillings1655]

I really appreciate the some the enlightening philosophies that you cover in most of your videos. Were as not only am I learning something new when I watch them, but I'm also inspired by some of the ideologies and most importantly the new ways in which I looking at things.

[@mr.chrisaquino]

Surprisingly, as logo therapy discussed here, I realized this is what my psychologist did to me and it works! I was living with my fears my whole life and realized now that the technique she used to me is logo therapy.

[@liafuentes326]

These type of videos are amazing. I want to learn more about psychology and neuroscience.

[@unjoined]

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[@liafuentes326]

@@unjoined Thank U. Very resourceful.

[@TheDhammaHub]

Do not wish for bigger shoulders but for a stronger load to carry - so many cultures discovered this truth!