Don’t Feel Harmed, And You Haven’t Been | The Philosophy of Marcus Aurelius

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Marcus Aurelius pointed out that regardless of the severity of circumstances, there’s always a choice in how we judge them. “Choose not to be harmed-and you won’t feel harmed. Don’t feel harmed-and you haven’t been,” he stated. Marcus’ instruction sounds easy, but it’s difficult to apply if we don’t understand what causes us to feel harmed and when we don’t have the wisdom to make a change. Luckily, the ancient Stoics provide this wisdom.
The work Meditations by Marcus Aurelius contains several ideas that shed another light on the experiences we usually consider harmful. His writings allow us to see our lives differently and change the way we think about the hardships we face, so we can be, as he wrote it, “like the rock that the waves keep crashing over.” This video expands upon several passages from the Meditations that could help us feel less harmed. Don’t feel harmed, and you haven’t been - The Philosophy of Marcus Aurelius
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00:00 - Intro
02:45 - The pain of judgment
06:33 - Are we asking the impossible?
09:56 - Seeing the beauty in adversity
12:57 - Focusing on ourselves
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[@monicawerner5762]

I know what you mean.

[@Dacademeca]

*"The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts."* - Marcus Aurelius

[@licandres01]

That's a misquotation actually

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[@pippipster6767]

And the quality of your thoughts depends upon how your life is going.

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[@lgr6709]

ABSOLUTELY CORRECT MARCUS AURELIUS.(in my humble opinion). I'll do a RETURNISHAN (PUN): *"The quality or satisfaction of your life depends essentially on the quality of your thoughts" *

[@Dacademeca]

*"Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one."* - Marcus Aurelius

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“Quote” - Some Guy

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[@ishzsbxux]

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[@pohfattpatrickchang4448]

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[@newuser689]

- the guy who spent much of the meditations writing what characteristics make a good man

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Where has this therapist been my entire life

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There is a channel called daily stoic. May u find ua Peace

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"It's not our problem when people hate or despise us. It's their problem". - Marcus Aurelius

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Do you like Bulgaria?

[@kerry1551]

Yes!!!

[@bentobarreirinhas5702]

depends on what they are willing to do to us

[@TKUA11]

Yes and no

[@Dowlphin]

Was it not a quote by Adolf Hitler?

[@sirlagsalot101]

Stoicism has done more for my mental health than any drug or doctor ever could

[@nativeamericancowboy5028]

Agreed

[@undrwatropium3724]

You haven't tried mushrooms 🍄

[@spitfire3311]

@@undrwatropium3724 I’ve done both. No reason they can’t both be equally helpful, or one might be more helpful for you. I think they work well together though.

[@Dowlphin]

What I don't like about stoicism is the slight smell of nihilism and selfishness. Stoicism seems like a prime candidate for tedtalkificated corruption. (If it would be corruption at all.)

[@nurulkarim6525]

Loss is nothing but change, and change is nature's delight. - Marcus Aurelius.

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“I’m living everyday like a hustle, another drug to juggle. Another day, another struggle.” - Biggie Smalls

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Thank you, needed this.

[@montacap]

Ok ok . I was raped as a child by my brother he refuses to even say he is sorry . what change should i feel the world had in mind for me ?I am working at fixing his mess he left for me at now 43 .

[@randalbuhler9042]

Truth

[@nurulkarim6525]

@@montacap sorry to hear that

[@ufoufo9182]

"Dishonest, jealous and shameless people are part of this world... Is a world without shameless people possible?" I have to embrace this instead of being appalled or offended by it.

[@meditationmusicvlogs7445]

so true .

[@True38]

@@meditationmusicvlogs7445 so me indeed.

[@True38]

Lying and jealousy is definitely something I've always despised throughout my whole life but I don't think being shameless is bad. People who want you to feel ashamed are only using it as a power tool. When you let go of any shame that you have, your life will actually be much better and productive. It does not make you a bad person at all, yet everybody out there is trying to make you feel ashamed for everything like eating meat or whatnot. Fuck that shit! Live your life and do as you please. Feeling ashamed is good for noone.

[@cellardoor199991]

It's the Yin/Yang of Life. Embrace the Dark. Trust me, I know. Gonna get a Yin/Yang for my next tattoo.

[@genkiferal7178]

@@True38 shame is usually used against others to control them. being shameless might just make you a bad ass. Depends on what you are doing, though. Directly harming others doesn't make you a bad ass - just bad and an ass.

[@robertcronin6603]

"For the mind that expects too much, life is continually at fault" ... excellent 👌

[@sterix_gg]

So what classifies as too much then I think is the question? Obviously everyone would define that differently but how? How do we weigh an expectation to conclude whether it's too much or not? Somewhere I once heard that expectation equals desire+belief in the same place. If that is the case, then 90% of our expectations are actually just desires. Just us asking for things but not believing in the possibility of having them, hence the eventual disappointment. So I suppose the statement holds truth, sure - don't expect more than what you're able to believe in and you won't be disappointed. But how if not through aiming for more can we get more? How would one grow their faith if not by asking for more, although... we've already done plenty of asking... so I suppose it's time we focused on bolstering our faith, our ability to believe in the possibility of having what we want, whatever that may be. Because desire without belief is a contradicting state, one which feels anything but good.

[@Dzanarika1]

Entitlement comes to mind.

[@beadnix]

💥

[@Dowlphin]

The mind that expects very little might be the cause for the cynicism we observe.

[@Dacademeca]

"The universe is change; our life is what our thoughts make it." - Marcus Aurelius

[@montacap]

Really so my thoughts at 8 years old made my brother rape me now my thoughts told me if you want to keep alive shut down all memories . then at 20 i got married and found a man that did not want to hurt me . That woke up the beast called flashbacks which came with rage blinding pain and decades of hate . But yes thoughts are what makes life happen . He was 17 I was 8 . When the flashbacks came I called him and told him he called me a liar mom told me she still loved her son . So I cut them all out . My rapist " brother " has found god and told him sorry but still has not told me sorry . My oldest brother is trying to get us together for a "family" reunion . Really ?

[@georgebell9634]

😂😂😂

[@JZGreengo]

@montacap I have a similar case of ptsd but we really did shape our memory loss by our thoughts and emotions by repressing them so we don’t hurt as much, there’s no drug out there can fix this kind of trauma, it’s time and better thoughts, the longer we spend hell bent on the event that caused us suffering the longer we continue to suffer, I’ve learned now to move on but I have little memory of life because I chose to let go of the past, at least I’m here to live and to improve and I live in the moment now, something I struggled with before

[@sterix_gg]

@@JZGreengo Actually there is something like a drug, it's called Ayahuasca. It's considered the most powerful psychedelic known to man. Personally I'll be on my way to having that experience in a few months cuz no matter what I do and how much I improve, some way somehow I always revert back to the shitty thoughts that make me wanna kms... And sure, it's about thoughts and shit but one can't deny there are things buried inside so deep we may not even remember them and yet these things still control us and hence our lives.

[@JZGreengo]

@@sterix_gg I get it but from my own experience, drugs do nothing, they just provide temporary relief

[@PsychedelicActualization]

Anticipation of pleasure is, in itself, a very considerable pleasure. And anticipation of pain is, in itself, a very considerable suffering. 👀

[@100ghillie]

I understand this deeply, looking forward to the bowl at the end of the day is better than the actual bowl at the end of the day.

[@silentrotation6541]

Anticipation of pleasure leads to addiction because it sets in motion the expectation that the thing anticipated will automatically provide pleasure. Then we get the habit of thinking that pleasure absolutely depends on that external something.. and we give away our power to generate happiness by relaxing into the mind itself.

[@100ghillie]

@@silentrotation6541 yep I also understand intimately.

[@saistrology]

When the harm started in your childhood, the journey to stop perceiving/feeling harm is long and arduous.

[@dougwhiley4028]

As an adult I looked forward to leaving that pain behind. But I ran into new pain.

[@she_wizzdom4410]

Philosophy keeps me alive. It gives me perspective. It allows me to enjoy the worst days of my life. Philosophy is the food for spirit.

[@FutureMindset]

The most insightful technique marcus aurelius taught is negative visualization. It's in your ability to imagine the worst possible scenario and accept it that we'll then be able to live as true stoics.

[@southernsoul152]

🙏🏽 I needed to read this just now. Thank you for sharing 🌻

[@fujimuto4277]

Would this be a kind of shadow work? I am just starting to really learn how to use spirituality not just for discovering the transcendent dimension within me but also use this capacity to help my poisonous or cancerous tendencies to evolve. So it seems like the concept of shadow work is that practical part that I was searching for in all the awakening teachings. I would really appreciate it if some of you guys could talk about this and their experience of embodying awakening and evolving.

[@daniel-zh9nj6yn6y]

Samurais did that too.

[@tempesnyder6243]

It sounds fascinating! I am going to look that up and learn how it is done! I am good at blaming and judging, perhaps this will help me get those things under control.

[@FutureMindset]

@@fujimuto4277 To be honest, I don't really think it's a spiritual thing. It's just a matter of imagining the worst possible fate so that you're prepared for it and aren't caught off guard.

[@cmcn1434]

When I was younger I accepted any treatment I received from anyone. The moment I believed I deserved to be treated better endless amounts of suffering entered my life. You can try to avoid some misfortune by surrounding yourself with people that will likely respect you but that isn’t a guarantee that they will and the general population will still treat you as they see fit. Now that I accept that how people treat me is their right and just a reflection of who they are not who I am I do feel more at ease.

[@PersephoneRising333]

🙏

[@lindaschultz7900]

But if we are attacked by someone, they still have to pay the price by going to jail. I guess the tutorial is just about how to accept the pain of what happened and not dwell on it.

[@ruthshere9468]

this is very interesting. if you look for your happiness from things ouside of you, you will not find it. my hope for you is you learn to build your world as you see fit.

[@paige172]

thanks, gonna apply this to my life. :)

[@pikabiga]

🙌🙌 going through this now, and came to the same conclusion. I deserve to be happy, and if anyone else has a problem with it, that’s their issue, not mine. No matter who they are to me, if they cannot respect my wishes, it is not my problem

[@beatleme2]

Pain is a moment - suffering is a story

[@Dowlphin]

You are applying different standards. Pain can span time as stories can. Pain over time is already a story. *Suffering is pain resisted.* - It doesn't need a time function. The moment you are experiencing pain, you can suffer through resistance in that moment.

[@dogsleddinginiowa]

“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” - Marcus Aurelius

[@favouritemusic8959]

I really wish. Unfortunately words do hurt us. But thanks for reminding us of these aspirational words.

[@Dowlphin]

@@favouritemusic8959 _Sticks and stones are hard on bones._ _Aimed with angry art,_ _Words can sting like anything._ _But silence breaks the heart._ - Phyllis McGinley

[@ReynaSingh]

Relinquish expectations is necessary to avoid pain and suffering. We’ve become too attached to comfort anyhow

[@jesse6029]

Good point , my Punjabi sister

[@Felipe-zl1rj]

True, but so so so hard

[@yahona3]

How is that not "losing hope"?

[@pohfattpatrickchang4448]

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[@mateor7302]

So true!

[@va_esiahvi]

I am diagnosed with PTSD years ago, and I've stopped getting treatment because I don't feel any better and instead I tried walking and spending more time on nature. I stayed at a countryside in the Philippines for almost 6months, slowly and slowly I found my peace and I realized that the person inside this skull is different from the person outside of it; so slowly I tried controlling my thoughts by meditating and taking a long walks to the hill, and picking woods on my wayback, (I didn't just find peace I also have a wood to cook my meals and keep me warm 😂) that's how and what I did to get sane, to take control over my thoughts and mind.

[@bennyheadofthechairmen8808]

Sounds tranquil

[@dougwhiley4028]

I problem with therapy is that you are encouraged to re live trauma. That keeps the trauma fresh.

[@urbanwolfep7195]

Nature walks help me as well.

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#1 Your content is A+ #2 Your breakdowns are superb #3 The background music is a perfrct fit #4 Last but not the least, Your voice and the way you speak in these videos, bro it's like everything is right and blended just perfectly.

Thank you very much for your compliment!

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True

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Yes, you are so right. I hear it all the same way! I hope he keeps it going like this.

[@kylelevasseur5789]

Well said

[@Dowlphin]

@ Why are you getting so invested over a compliment? 😉 Shouldn't you be equally excited about hatred coming your way? 😉

[@Diana-gt1rv]

“Choose not to be harmed, and you won’t feel harmed.” I really like this stoic prospective.

[@elsquibbs]

It took me forever to realize that regardless of how I wanted individual situations to work out, my wishes were irrelevant. Things happen as they should. It also took me forever to realize that all of those outcomes lead me to exactly where I am now, so I'm glad things happened as they did instead of how I wanted at the time.

[@PsychedelicActualization]

"Fear is pain arising from the anticipation of evil." ~ Aristotle 🙏🏽♥️

[@naturesfinest2408]

@Auhuhhuu being attacked or killed by a grizzly bear is an "evil". Your not giving the quote its fair due.

[@kharatoh7638]

@Auhuhhuu Would you call yourself getting mauled by a bear a good then? If not, then point proven. The act of the bear attacking you is evil/bad for you, the bear itself is not.

[@thawnesrevenge5249]

@Auhuhhuu in can be in relation to man. Aristotle was most likely smart enough to differentiate nature from the capability of evil. Your own example is keeping you from other perspectives of the words

[@halaenahurisse7799]

"Stoicism is a great practice because it helps us to accept everything that is happening around us and have an abundance mindset"

[@yamum6498]

it really isn't, it's self destructive as a growth philosophy. ( good idea, bad in practice in all aspects of daily life)

[@Bobin10101]

@@yamum6498 ok “Ya Mum” I’ll take your philosophical advice. What would you offer as an alternative?

[@yamum6498]

@@Bobin10101 Do drugs

[@husseinmoussa2947]

@@yamum6498 And why did it help marcus an emperor? And what alternative do you have?

[@yamum6498]

@@husseinmoussa2947 Alternative: make up your own mind.

[@spiritualanarchist8162]

And let's not forget this in't about toothache or a mild depression. This was written by a soldier, in an age without modern medicine. Pain, sickness and loss were a daily part of life those days.

[@georgebell9634]

You can experience he did today with modern medicine

[@paige172]

you forgot to mention brutal forms of torture.

[@spiritualanarchist8162]

@@paige172 torture rape and death. Those good old times hey 😅

[@yamum6498]

it wasn't written at all, just a past presentation of an afterthought of a man just as special as you or i.

[@spiritualanarchist8162]

@@yamum6498 yep, a Roman emperor, with total power over everyone and everything, yet being able not letting that power corrupt him , but living the life of a stoic instead ..Just like you or i . Nothing special hey ?

[@rebelpoxy]

"Keep your expectations low and you'll never be disappointed" -Kratos

[@lgr6709]

* "You have to have high aspirations, moderate expectations and small needs" * -William Howard Stein.

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Bro i started watching ur "self hate" video to help my girlfriend and now i listen to you 24/7... even in class, lunch, on the bus.... ur voice is just so calm and it makes me calm

[@jenna2431]

This is exactly what I've been saying for over a year especially: Stop believing everything dang thing you think.

[@normalman8447]

I'm reading Stoicism for inner peace. It's a freaking masterpiece, man, congratulations 😋

[@KlaxontheImpailr]

Watching this, it felt like there was a giant wrench in my brain turning a rusty bolt and releasing some great tension in me. I actually feel at peace.

[@she_wizzdom4410]

Ah that was a deeply satisfying analogy

[@aw7331]

Beautiful Eric

[@KlaxontheImpailr]

@@aw7331 thank you! 🥹❤️👍🏻 It’s always difficult for me to describe what’s going on in my head, especially since I’m on the spectrum. So whenever I do manage to express myself correctly it feels miraculous.

[@shaonic]

You have made me realize the error of my ways... I tried to change the world and in turn let it change me....

[@1jotun136]

Finally fully embracing Buddhist non attachment has freed me from so much.

[@MsGechi77]

Same.

[@Mugairyuiai]

So now you are attached to non- attachment😬

[@1jotun136]

@@Mugairyuiai not really. I know that even at my age, I can still waver and give too much attention to things outside of my control.

[@benmcreynolds8581]

This is the art form I am trying to practice the most. To be in a chaotic room, filled with people, but internally being at peace. Contentment is true happiness 🤘 heaven isn't something someone else can give, it's all inside of you

[@gareget]

"The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape finding oneself in the ranks of the insane." - Marcus Aurelius

[@Esmeralda-gt6uf]

If governments were sincere in wanting to save money, they would build asylums for the sane rather than for the demented.

[@she_wizzdom4410]

@@Esmeralda-gt6uf everyone is demented. Most demented are those who appear the most ‘normal’.

[@pits7035]

That's for sure

[@robyndawn]

You can feel that way and tell yourself that but if the trauma is serious it may build into a breakdown and become worse later than it originally would have been. In my experience processing it healthier than choosing to not be harmed.

[@jepsen1977]

That's the paradox isn't it?

[@robyndawn]

@@jepsen1977 hmm, I'm not sure. That's just my experience in "choosing to not be harmed".

[@incanthatus8182]

Yeah, it's a kinda fine line between acceptance and victim blaming. If people who went through certain circumstances experience the same kind of problems afterwards, is it really a problem of those people's minds? I think it's good to work on both, getting more resilient, but also changing the circumstances when possible

[@robyndawn]

@@incanthatus8182 good point. I use to feel really ashamed from victim blaming from Christianity and even new ageism or secular people with no experience of what I deal with that its just mind over matter. This would have had the same affect but I'm numb to it now and keep those people at a distance. I just accept health issues and being an hsp isn't always a choice. Perhaps that's the best I can do not to be harmed. Interesting topic.

[@dockcom]

Sometimes to got ta scream and shout let it all out

[@neo6657]

Can't tell you how good the timing of this video was. You are doing an amazing work, sir. Keep this up!

[@froggo7215]

Exactly at one of the toughest days in my life this channel was recommended to me and saved my life. You are a blessing to the world for making these videos

[@annabellacrewe8858]

Accepting the unacceptable is a very difficult task, because we are human beeings ! Thank You Marcus and Einzelg - as gold to ones soul !

[@ICEcoldJT]

“Can’t Hurt Me” - David Goggins

[@ronprice1819]

In some degree this goes for aging, sickness, diet, lifestyles... If you worry about something it will grow. Of you forget or give no attention to something it will usually shrink. I have been thinking of this in terms of how some people can live as drug addicted , homeless, thieves. Yet seem to live such a destructive life for years without much visible effect. I have come to feel that atleast a good portion of these people exist in this way because they do not have shame of it. And in alot of ways actually enjoy what they do. But the addicts who hate themselves and feel ashamed, alot of this type will deteriorate quickly.

[@pyamju7419]

Just a little share: I feel like I've been summoned to watch this SKKSKS I was abt to sleep, exhausted from crying, feeling very much unarmed of knowledge and skills which made me felt I could be harmed and intimidated anytime. I thank you very much for this! Such a big help! 😭❤️❤️

[@anthonyhoward4743]

stay strong.

[@pyamju7419]

@@anthonyhoward4743 thank u so much ლ !!

[@pyamju7419]

@Ali It's Nishiki from Donten ni Warau series! :)

[@anthonyhoward4743]

@@pyamju7419 and never forget you are not alone. last year I was at the end of my rope and I got talking to someone online She really helped me and I think I helped Her when Her partner was away. If you ever need someone to talk with, at etc just get in touch.

[@arongardner4689]

I feel exactly the same way. Tonigh I learned I am not alone. Thanks to everyone here for sharing your feelings.

[@Donecece]

Your videos helps me move forward after a heartbreak, almost a breakdown

[@ShogunOrta]

It is not that you are harmed and feel nothing, that would be psychotic. Its the level to which you let that harm dictate things upon receiving it. Rememeber, you are still capable of so much, no matter what happens. Imagination is alwats what frees us.

[@marshaalison1569]

I need to watch this every day! I can accept some things that I can’t control, but my mind is still bothered when people close to me, like family, intentionally cause harm. If a stranger insults me, it’s easy to shrug it off. But when a family member rips me off financially, for example, it gets to me. I have to accept that some people are shameless, and sometimes those people will be family members.

[@Dan_Ben_Michael]

I try to be a stoic and it does help me in times of crisis. I come from a family of perennial worriers and that would also explain the predisposition towards heart disease and suicide which also runs in my family. Reading philosophy and meditation has helped me get through things which would’ve broken me before. I guess you just have to learn to let go and be as least resistant to things and go with the flow.

[@MichaelTMoore]

"Meditations" of Marcus Aurelius is one of few books that I'd feel lost in my life without..

[@violet156]

Your best video yet! Listened to it on repeat 6-7x! so much here, don’t expect the impossible, it’s not possible to only have good fortune. You are doing a great service by making these videos!

[@OYOKO]

Love the phrase “the mind is the ruler of the soul” and how suffering is optional. I guess the question is, how we can control our minds instead of the other way round. I enjoy watching your videos!

[@Esmeralda-gt6uf]

We may do this by thinking and by thinking about our thoughts.

[@newuser689]

Writing an essay on Marcus Aurelius meditations, this came out at the perfect time!

[@she_wizzdom4410]

Would love to read it

[@magicalsimmy]

There are times in my life where I have consciously made myself upset about something that I felt, for a brief moment, that I could have chosen to not be upset about. There are times I have been genuinely upset (lack of sleep, an already bag day and other factors play roles), but I can remember a few occasions where being upset was a choice, or being upset later upon ruminating about it became a choice. It’s easy now, in the late hours of night when I am relaxed, to tell myself I can choose differently in the future, and sometimes on good days, I do, and it does get easier the more I do it. I cherish the days I am able to choose not to be upset over injustices, unfairness and entitled people trying to take advantage of me, and with practice, I look forward to being able to say “No” and eventually not be bothered when someone starts yelling at me because they refuse to hear my “No” and to just calmly repeat myself until they either give up trying to manipulate me or I choose to walk away from the conflict without trying to explain myself or people please. I eventually want to be able to say “no” to someone without leaving things open to negotiation or explaining myself, and if they get mad about that, to see it as their problem, not mine.

[@moses4437]

Just what i needed. Definitely saving this. Thank you.

[@GamerSix66]

Once again man, knocking it out of the park with these videos. You truly deserve recognition my friend

[@rob4631]

"Can't touch this" - MC Hammer

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[@bhoomikachaudhari1784]

So thankful for this channel! Always publishes time-worthy and knowledgeable content 💯🌟

[@myouounoanjii]

Thank you, Einzel. Always appreciated.

[@MathewsNunes]

Very good video. It has a long time that I don't feel so unanxious and relaxed as I'm now, after watching this video... Releasing my back from the load of "feeling harmed by other people's insult" really made me feel at ease.

[@damianwong7503]

Thanks for your work. Your content is life-changing and brings much needed comfort and perspective into people’s lives.

[@nehainthebay]

Beautifully articulated as usual. Thank you for sharing the wisdom.

[@snowarmth]

I always love these teachings. Thank you so much, these videos have made it much easier to be a happy person. ^^

[@kraemo8473]

Einzelgänger gives such great insight in his videos on life. It's stuff like this that inspires me to create videos on self growth as well. I wanted to say you are appreciated!

[@shirokazama]

Following your channel for a long time. In the lockdown period I gained inspiration and rational insights. The studies you have done and the way you lay the different philosophies out, makes them easily understood and absorbed by the individual. I appreciate what you do, and I’m sure I am not the only one with this opinion. Just ordered your book mentioned here. Thanks! Cheers!

[@teonunez4734]

I truly love how this channel explains these topics. I am so grateful for your work. Thanks for sharing the wisdom!

[@PressureTvReviews]

I love it when it's just the right time I see one of your videos. Very inspiring. I needed this.

[@PraiseAra]

Your content is changing my outlook on life for the better. Thank you

[@rodka2334]

This change my life's perspective as a whole. I'm still wondering why you still haven't got 1 million subs, cause you're so really really good at doing these kinds of stuff and it's inspiring at the same time life changing. Much loveee.

[@jerealms]

I really Love your channel. Thank you for sharing your gifts & passion. You have touched my life immeasurably. ❤

[@dgexpressllc7450]

My life experience with "good" and "bad" pain is especially true for pregnancy. I noticed that women who treat their pregnancy as an illness have the hardest pregnancy while those women who understand that pregnancy is a natural process that comes with discomfort and extreme pain in labor but for the best outcome (beautiful blessing baby), have the best pregnancy.

[@michaeldetroit.8125]

“Resisting adversity and pain, but it’s part of the game of life” yes, indeed. How dare I expect no significant pain, anguish and adversity. It hurts man, real bad. Enduring and moving on, with inner strength and conviction, let us endure. As John Lennon sang, play the game of existence to the end…

[@cheesepuffs180love4]

Hey. I just wanted to thank you so much for creating the things you do! Marcus Arelius Meditations is the best I’m going to buy a copy right now. Thank you❤️

[@mayankagrawal4648]

"pain is inevitable, suffering is optional" really brings a different perspective

[@crashmer]

No one chooses suffering it's a reaction of a complex set of circumstances. You do the best you can to understand it, the learning is the freedom.

[@yetidodger6650]

Subconsciously people choose to suffer.

[@princesscrybaby9992]

Damn!!! I love your videos!! So inspiring and motivating. So much you can learn.

[@metamorphosis_77]

Individuals can act in any way they find plausible, and this allows them to accrue benefits or suffer costs, depending on the circumstances. The responsibility that our actions necessitate is the only true weapon we can exploit in order to antagonize the nefariousness of the world around us. Marcus Aurelius realized the power of that weapon and that helped him become an exemplary emperor despite adversity and despite his weaknesses. That is what makes him a respectful example for all of us.

[@skyhigh2118]

I think the "choice" of being harmed or not gets predecided during our childhood. The need for love and acceptance can be so overwhelming if one did not receive those things as a child. As we grow older we are told to repress those feelings and emotions and that makes us angry and bitter deep down. Everytime someone insults us, those angry emotions instantly tell us "not this time", and we lash out, or worse, we supress it further and get even more resentful. Trying to not feel that way can not be a solution because at the end one is still not feeling loved and accepted and therefore ignoring their need for those things will only spiral one into a vicious cycle of hate and resentment towards the world. I don't have the answer to what we must do, all I know is that we will not stop untill we get what we want 😔

[@dropremix635]

I need to listen to this every morning. Thank you 🙌

[@loaddkz819]

It's good to see this channel grow, almost reaching a well-deserved million. Your vids really helped in my self-improvement journey so thank you 4 that

[@malcolmajayi2073]

"Can't hurt me " said David Goggins 😂

[@MindVersusMisery]

I don't know if Goggins have read stoic philosophy. But if he hasn't - and he has come to the same conclusion as people like Marcus Aurelius through introspection - that makes stoic philosophy ever more solid; like a more universal Truth. When a perspective survives over time and over cultural space, then - to me - it seems much more legit.

[@nomorediets]

Exactly. 👍💪

[@moenibus]

a con man, a fraud. don't bring him here.

[@radeksendecki9922]

I love your creative and insightful works. You give lot of value to our lives. You do things that brings greater good.

[@genesisa.espina]

Thank you Einzelganger! This is total reconfiguration of my lens of view in the world 🙂

[@matthewsanchez4047]

🎶 Ain't never gonna break my stride, Ain't ever gonna Hold Me Down Oh No🎶 I gotta keep on grooving🤟🏼

[@Fair-to-Middling]

2:10 Unfortunately, crashing waves eventually wear away the rock.

[@yusufmurat150]

Take it as it is haha

[@100ghillie]

And the rock goes from a roughness, void of uniformity and beauty (meaning),, to a smooth ideal only through the beating of waves (life)

[@orionlleyessa1306]

But the rock doesnt get upset about it.

[@rawfoodphilosophy7061]

Thank you so much, that is exactly what I needed!

[@zacharyfindlay-maddox171]

I had a mentally rough work week, and I stumbled across this, thank you.

[@BigAnt123456]

Amazing! Just finished your book Stoicism for Inner Peace.... such a great read! Thank you

Thank you, and that’s great to hear.

[@ajithsidhu7183]

@ please do one on how we can be like colour sergeant bourne in zulu please

[@ajithsidhu7183]

@ please on how to build his traits ,character and stoicism

[@tonijohnson09]

You have presented this idea in more ways than one and from different philosopher's perspective. It's not that I don't understand it or agree with it but when people rub me wrong I can't help but want to 🤬🤬🤬

[@bluecaster]

Thank you Einzelganger, thank you KZbin. This came at the right time.

[@abdiabdi1990]

How I’ve been thinking lately is I don’t deserve to feel hurt so I just choose not to be.

[@berbudy]

That part about seeing beauty in the jaw of beast, maybe living on earth is just to learn the undeniable role of "evil" without being evil ourselves, like yin need yang to teach each others role. Doesn't mean we can't imagine a better world for human to minimize unnecessary suffering though.

[@youtubechannel12371]

Amazing video, thanks for putting this together!

[@theresaabonado5522]

This is very timely because im going through this now. Thank you for this realizations.

[@NMahon]

I agree to an extent. However some people WILL take advantage of you and want to hurt you and you should not let this kind of thinking let you just endure the punishment of others. There are times when you need to resist rather than just be passive to other people, sometimes you need to get angry. Also this kind of thinking can lead people to wrongly choose to bury their emotions and pretend like things havent affected them when sometimes you need to be honest about your feelings and deal with them. I think its important to remember that Marcus Aurelius was an emperor and his perspective is wildly different to us who are the ones who are in many ways subservient to the powers that be. It was in his interest to keep people in line.

[@Skin_Man]

Interestingly, while Seneca encouraged people to get rid of anger completely, he did allow people to "appear angry". Stoicism appealed to everybody, not just emperors like Marcus Aurelius. Epictetus was a slave, for instance, and Zeno was a merchant. Diogenes the Cynic was made a slave at one point in his life, and Socrates himself was under the yoke of the 30 tyrants. Seneca had to put up with Nero, and in the end was ordered to commit suicide.

[@yusufmurat150]

Explanation: dont fight the tyranny and the lies. Let them come over you like waves. Let it be what it will be. For me its like dont giving a fck about anything. Dont change anything, be at the place you are.

[@johnz8843]

No it's not, don't care about anything in response to what happens. It's whatever happens, care still about your duties as a virtuous person.

[@deyvydh.jogadorprofissiona5182]

That is unhealthy. I honestly doubt that's what martin luther king thought and held near his heart, the man who was responsible for ending the Segregation in the United States, or what Nelson Mandela thought about as he fought against the Apartheid, or what Mohhand Ghandi etc. I could go on and on.

[@Dzanarika1]

Well-said, Yusuf. You will be the only one who suffers at the end anyway.

[@beckyevans889]

You know, this video is exactly what I needed today. Thank you!

[@charbam9506]

Thank you so much...your video is helping me get through a crime that would otherwise drive me crazy with anger and grief. You have loaded this with the best and most incisive teachings of Stoicism that can make a difference in shaping how one thinks about and then as a result, feels about difficult circumstances. I was seeking a reminder of these teachings and you gave it to me.

[@mshammond_uk1831]

My grand father is in his death bed :(, I'm so heartbroken..how would stoicism help me in his departure soon.:( feel so devastated 😢

[@bossywossy111]

His body may go, but you will keep his love forever. The love will always be there, when you see beautiful flowers or a painting, or just remember your own heart beating, he will be there, in spirit, always. Love will help you to understand everything, just keep following your heart, it will be there for you like a good friend, always. The sadness will pass, the love will remain. Bless you.

[@anntrope491]

Sad for you being in this situation...focus on being in the moment, appreciate the present, (it's a gift), maybe you can give him comfort...recall fond memories you have of him, & you together...this is part of his journey, & whatever you can do to help him, he will appreciate...loss, & grief we must accept...this is part of our journey...we are all lucky for the time we have here, & if we have been loved, & able to give love...do not let grief consume you, I'm sure your grandfather doesn't want that for you...instead celebrate his life, & the legacy he has left in his loved ones...the gift of his love for you..." DO not weep for your loved one...for they have seen the face of GOD"...I hope this help both of you through the transition to spirit, we all must go through at some point. Blessings on you, & your Grandfather, your so lucky to have each other...

[@ZaKrakilla]

When my mother died I felt thankful. Her pain was over. My heart was crushed, but I knew that is just me being selfish, my pain existed because I knew she won’t be there for me anymore. I was grateful because her suffering ended and sad because I lost her, in the same time. Your grandfather will not suffer anymore, this is the most important thing you need to understand. Because when you understand that your pain is you being selfish, it becomes a lot easier to endure it. Stay strong!

[@anitsazubovichdoesntlivehe4912]

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[@unassailable6138]

Your thoughts need to remain in the happy times you shared with your grandpa. Life , including ours is finite so nature takes its course for all.

[@adamswierczynski]

Dissociation will create more disease. If Marcus Aurelius wants us to be like a rock the water crashes on, we are left broken down into sand over a lifetime. The Tao teaches us it is best to "be like water." Taking on the shape of the circumstances we are within allows proper reaction and response to those circumstances. If the container becomes hot, so does the water. If the container becomes cold, so dies the water. Water takes the path of least resistance and adapts instantly. Only when we fail to adapt to the current circumstance are we suffering. Life may call us to anger or sadness in one moment, and this is to our benefit. Anger can provide the energy to overcome adversity. Sadness can allow us to accept closure. When someone remains stuck in a holding pattern of a circumstance which is no longer relevant, this is the same exact suffering as failing to adapt to the current circumstance. Feel everything, for there is wisdom to be found in every experience.

[@boadicea5856]

🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻❣️

[@EverythingHappens4AReason]

exactly what I needed thank you!

[@miqa5911]

I appreciate your videos and your outro. Very well done. Changed my life

[@practisingthelawofnature2705]

Health is the greatest gift, contentment the greatest wealth, faithfulness the best relationship. -Buddha (morningfame)

[@meditationmusicvlogs7445]

how to practice the law of nature on my daughter who lost her job.

[@taylormemes8394]

this kinda has a "if you feel depressed just stop feeling depressed" vibe to it

[@Ellis_B]

Lol pretty straightforward isn't it my friend