The first steps of my living room makeover

[@PreciousMe]

I'm glad he was honest with you and told you on the first date. The reason he let you take control of the date is the same reason he wants open relationships. He does not want any responsibility. He wants to sit back and do as he pleases with no consequences. That's fine - it's his life. Glad you know yourself and know that that would not work for you. Big Hugs

[@JulentesDing]

👏👏👏👏

[@FASTBACKKAT]

i had a friend years ago, a older lady neighbor who use to tell me when we discussed my dates ,she always said go 1st class.......... never settle for less..................Hugs.

[@nixi7688]

I actually appreciate people like your date. They didn't waste your time by lying about what they wanted from a relationship just for their own gratification. If it isn't right it's super nice to know before investing a lot of time and energy into it and getting hurt. Kudos to him.

[@violetmartha916]

I agree...except..I think something like that should be announced on their dating profile.

[@dhall75608]

I agree!

[@wanya_telborn]

True this

[@wanya_telborn]

@@violetmartha916agreed

[@galaxygrl_]

“kudos to him” meanwhile he made her pay and sounded like a fuckboy, your standards are in the depths of hell

[@BellaRigelOrion]

If there's anything my friends and I have learned the hard way in dating, it is that men that don't make the effort initially(plan the date, insist on paying, open doors, etc) are ones that will stay that way and make you suffer in a relationship. They are "below bare minimum effort men" and seek women who will do most of the work and won't ever appreciate these women.

[@OssoLily-ix5vz]

I have paid for my own drink and think first dates should pay for theirs. But a real man, one who sees value in you, insists on paying.

[@NaturalLuxury]

Why is the man obligated to pay? Why is the man obligated to plan the date? Why should he invest in the woman when she doesn't put any effort in beyond showing up? Why do women automatically expect to be treated like they're made of gold and don't do anything in return?

[@pennywillis300]

Hello Elise. Just want to say I love watching your videos and to ask if you have thought about moving your large mirror on the wall where your green hutch was. It would reflect the window across the room and would help to add light.

[@wildflowerwind6941]

Exactly my suggestion I posted on her last video.

[@ehpeachylove]

Elise your videos are always good. I’m sorry you’re feeling poorly and pray you feel better soon. Don’t rush into doing anything and allow your body to heal. I love those green dishes you took out of your cabinet. As for your paint color on your table you will pick the right one. These colors pick up some of the colors in the pictures you have against the wall. A skylight will bring nice light into the room. Good on you sticking to your ideal. Relationships are a very personal thing and open ones are not for everybody. As you get older a person wants more in life, a partner that has the same needs as you will come into your life at the right time. Be true to yourself always. Be well and see your next post soon. ❤❤❤

[@joy5934]

Yes that mirror on that wall will be bringing in so much light into the space!

[@IShallNotBeSilent]

Hey Elise. Just a little FYI when painting...... always put a white primer or white base coat. The wood is as if you are painting over a tan or brown, which changes the true color of what you have chosen. That is why it dried darker. So proud of you and all you have accomplished through all the trials and hardships. Be Blessed!

[@debbibowen]

And put a second coat of paint on to really see the color.

[@phyllisgehringer5445]

Why not paint the table a shade of green

[@mocarra100]

Yes I think so too the color she's choosing will clash with her rust-colored sofa?

[@amywilkins]

Good point! Never thought of that

[@rhonda1505]

​@@phyllisgehringer5445I thought the same cause her cabinet was beautiful.

[@neuIyn]

I would absolutely keep the wood on the dining table, I feel like once you have the skylights it will look so classic and give you a needed masculine touch in your house! Everything in balance ⚖️

[@opinionated2]

I have a dark wood dining set right next to a picture window, so I can appreciate your comment. It wouldn't hurt to wait, but I know that Elise can come up with some really creative options, although I don't agree with every choice she has made. It's always enjoyable to see how it all ends up.

[@janetbreckon8211]

Agree.

[@rikkemeek1506]

I know it's her house and she don't care about my oppinion. However she keeps changing her mind of what she wants. She buys furnitures and paints them then 6 monthes later she has a different idea and sells them. Now she bought a table she wants to paint and put in a skylight. I think with prober lighting the dinningroom would be fine without a skylight. It won't add any value to the house if she wants to sell it.

[@opinionated2]

As far as skylights not adding any value to the resale of the house, I would check with a realtor, first.@@rikkemeek1506

[@ayseirem]

Hi Elise, I was 16(ish) when i started the following you because of your dreadlocks. When I was that age I couldn’t understand how you struggled with life and feeling down somedays. Now I’m turning 21 and I understand you very well. You were my comfort person and now I feel more closer to you. Love you 💛

[@mariafusco7899]

Meeting a person for real is probably better than texting and texting. It is easier to size up a situation and make a decision. Be well quickly, Elise!

[@mandeliongardens]

“It’s so January …” EXACTLY! Hope you feel better soon!

[@dawnross2514]

Get well soon, Elise. You are a goddess and deserve a BIG love with a wonderful guy who is a match for you and I'm sure he's out there X

[@EliseBuch]

awww thaanks 🥰

[@Carolyncreatesmore]

I’m so glad you opted to leave the relationship. Sounds like someone to stay away from. You are worth more than that. Hold your head up high. You’re a beautiful person and worth so much more than that. I’m so proud of you.

[@Clairedaffodil]

I think you should perhaps wait until your sky lights are in before deciding on a colour. I actually like the wood as is and maybe a runner or table cloth in a similar colour could serve as a temporary solution to see if you can live with it xx

[@MaryDavis-h9j]

At 58 I have been on quite a lot of dates. Some good, some bad. I see each as a learning experience, which you seem to have done as well. It is a positive action on your part to have a drink and listen to someone, and learn about different ways of life, without judgement-knowing the spark was not there! Bravo!

[@susanreed4996]

Those pictures will make a great gallery wall

[@ellenrawls7557]

Always enjoy your videos. It amazes me how clean you paint. I make a complete mess. I could not imagine laying a piece of plastic over my cream rug and painting on it. My rug would be destroyed. As always, love your style and creativity.

[@traceywu9123]

I KNOW RIGHT ??? SHE IS SO NEAT & TIDY

[@missybekind5022]

I think that every time I watch her paint on that rug. 😅😅

[@laney1267]

Having a man who makes you feel comfortable enough to be in your feminine energy is sooooooo nice. I previously dated so many men where I had to be very much in my masculine, and it was exhausting. My current boyfriend, and the man that I plan on marrying, make me feel so comfortable and safe. It feels wonderful to embrace my feminine energy fully and I wouldn't trade it for the world. I totally understand what you are looking for.

[@anngray398]

I love the Twiggy One!❤🇨🇦

[@ginaferracini9375]

The snow looks beautiful 🤍 wow it is a beautiful chilled 🍷 wine oh not that wine! 💜 get better and keep warm. 🔥 Mr Right will come along give it time.

[@LilGypsy69]

Hi Elise, the beginning clip of your house and yard was amazing!! I can't get over all the things you do, you paint like a pro!!! and as always your fashion is flawless!

[@thesnoopydance645]

Always good to see you, Elise. Hope your cold is of short duration. One thing to be thankful for is the guy being that honest. Most guys, in my experience, who live like that try to string you along as long as possible.

[@cyndiesmith2516]

Feel better Elise. You're always enjoyable! Loved the vest!

[@irishartn]

You've taught me so much about taking your time and waiting for what you want in your home...and in life!

[@judithholder2537]

A house is never really finished; always evolving.

[@michellebyrom6551]

The big picture of tulips in the gold frame has some great colours for your sitting room. Your sofa has some reddish undertones in it, that's why the redder sample works better than the purplish one. Try looking at the rusty red side of burgundy. A soft white like your fireplace used as a contrast design on top would soften the expanse. Perhaps different sized lacy stencils randomly placed. You could copy or reverse the colours on a sideboard. Artist with adhd here. Forgive the stream of ideas. You know what works for you.❤

[@daft-imagination4114]

Honestly people saying they prefer "Open relationships" are juste people who don't want commitment and don't want to put the hard work into what a sane and healthy relationship is. I hope your next date brings you more joy than this one !

[@MadAboutBrows]

You're very judgemental of people who think differently than you, what a closed mind you have 👎

[@vickinoeske1154]

Exactly! No one should ever settle for that BS.

[@honeybee6154]

💯💥 I'm so glad she held onto her standards and boundaries. That's very healthy minded.

[@myopinion4600]

@@MadAboutBrows I think you’re the one being judgmental. If a date tells you they don’t want commitment on day one, then it is correct to assume they are not willing to put work into a relationship. That’s fair and not judgmental at all.

[@cynthiamurphy3669]

@@MadAboutBrows You do realize syphilis is back with a vengeance these days, right? Do you really want to trust your man not to bring that "gift" home to you? Just how "open" would you like your man to be? Lol.

[@wenDesigner]

I also live in a very cold climate (Minnesota). I do not understand constantly bemoaning the dark days. I prefer spring and summer but there is beauty in all seasons. Maybe it is our age differences, or stages of life, but I choose to be happy in my here and now. Your home will be fun to watch evolve. ❤

[@lenaramoon4617]

Hi Elise! I've been a long time subscriber now. I want to thank you for being you, because you've inspired me and made me hopeful of a future I can strive toward. I've been attempting to have my own living space for years, and seeing you have the freedom to create and bend your environment to suit who you are as a person is inspiring. Now I have that for myself as well. Hope you're having a good day!!

[@penelopepivots3156]

I agree Lenara!❤..Elise is so inspiring, as she putters around creating a beautiful life! So many valuable lessons !

[@maya-gur695]

Your house makeovers have quickly become favorites of mine!

[@lorenapeters9149]

Hello Elise! I enjoy your videos, no matter what you want to share with us! I have to say that I agree 100% with you about what are you looking in a relationship! If that was your first impression with your date, imagine what is going to happen later! There is no point of dating someone that is not serious, wasting your time and energy! I wish you to feel better, allow yourself time to rest and heal! Love to you 💖 from a grandma!

[@AM-bm2xw]

It seems that *most* people have recovered from the trauma of losing the green cabinet and then you throw us into the agony of painting the table. We are on a rollercoaster Elise, stop torturing us 😂

[@maureenabray7660]

Some thoughts on the open wall: consider removing the door and instead hang vintage fabric draperies across the open doorway to close the opening for any drafts, etc. That would open up the usable wall area for the art and future furniture installments. The fabric could be either solid or vintage design and even changed out for winter/summer. Color paint: Look at colors used in your favorite art pieces for inspiration. Get well.

[@kathleenkaleookalanismith8724]

This is brilliant idea 😍😍😍

[@Robin-MP]

Thats a great idea!

[@LaFarmhouse]

love the second purple colour! for your table, and maybe someone more mature to date with your old soul, not too much older of an fella, but maybe someone with a different background, and not so artsy so to enjoy from a friendship point of view first, and maybe more established, to do things with, like dinner, traveling, and shopping together, having a home as well, like you in doing things together❤the table would look perfect in a white shabby chic, maybe two toned as well.

[@gailbradford305]

Him letting or forcing you to take charge and even the open relationship thing says loads about his personality. He doesn’t even want equality, he has bowed out! You go girl!

[@LisaWilson-m7v]

Love your explanation about relationships. You deserve someone special and don't settle for anything less.

[@NomehoMasya]

I agree if you like a take charge guy let him see it immediately ,don’t try to prove your independence,they will see it in the relationship and never talk about a past relationships on a 1st date no , your learning about each other not the past ,your dating lessons are for you to grow not tell a new person , you can share what you learned not bore a person with details about it they will feel your comparing them and that isn’t a good start , just shine smile a lot ! be your true self if they are compatible it will happen organically . Dates are not a resume or job interview just talk about fun & things your excited about & enjoy your selves .

[@carolynhamilton3316]

Yes, as far as that date, as they say, scrape your shoe and move on. 😁 Get better, lots of rest and lots fluids. You work really hard. Your house is adorable. Love your clothes as well. Take care.

[@SunshinesART]

Sick in bed, candle going, hot herb tea, feeling dreary in January is for the birds. But then your video popped up, and I must say, my day just got a little brighter! Love both the colors you chose, didn’t think I would, but you always surprise me with your choices. Loved this video, we love just hearing from you, and no expectations from your subscribers. 🌞🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻

[@Sword_and_Crown]

Hope you get well soon 🌤

[@judyfaul8524]

At least he was honest,unlike most.You made a good decision as he is not done playing yet!❤Get better soon!

[@karlaharvey2623]

The paint is drying darker as you should always use a primer on wood, dry then apply your paint color and it will dry its true color. Welll, that color really clashes with your couch in a baddd way. 😢sorry. You videos are always enjoyable, please don’t ever feel like they are boring sweetie. I will keep you in my prayers that you get well asap. Stay in and take care of yourself. Well, at least he didn’t string you along, you’ve got to appreciate his quick honesty. I cannot imagine trying to date in this day and time. Sweetie, your Mr Right will come when the time is so right. I hope you don’t get bummed out over it. Enjoy being single and enjoying life. You live such an amazing life for a 30 yr old. Can’t wait to see what you do with your dining area. The skylight is going to be amazing. Lots of love and thank you’s from me, Karla in Oklahoma

[@lauriehessler8639]

Love the dark red for the table! Always ❤ your videos.

[@roberthill9011]

Flowers 🌺 do not chase the bees 🐝. Love and light little one 🎨X

[@kazapthegreat5306]

Only you Elise, would paint dark purple while sitting on a white rug!😂 can’t wait to see the skylight going in! Your little house is really looking beautiful. Get well soon 🙂

[@kokoslores9666]

Stuck in bed with covid, your video made my day. Thank you, Elise. I like the more reddish colour for your table, but you know, what you are doing, I am sure. As for your cold: Hope you get better soon!

[@doreenb3411]

Loving your color choices. Can’t wait to see what you pick. I love your style so know whatever it is, it will look amazing. Sorry your date didn’t go the way you would have liked. I think it’s good that you know yourself and won’t pursue a second date with someone who doesn’t share your values. Please don’t apologize for a video not being interesting. I show up for you, which I’m sure is the same for most of your followers. I think it’s a testimony to your strength and character that you show up at all when you’re sick. Take care and I hope you’re feeling better soon.💐

[@michellebyrom6551]

Well put

[@penelopepivots3156]

Definitely!🎉..I don't need a performance, Elise in every day life is an inspiring reality!❤

[@helibloo3867]

Must have been an interesting date! Love both the colours you chose, so cheerful 💙

[@joansheppard6576]

Loved the picture of Twiggy

[@tammyfennell4982]

"Where are you parked?".....so, we can get your Azz away from me...😂 Next!😊❤ What I wanted to see is the cute little black and white top you were folding with the kitty cat on it!❤🐈‍⬛

[@hilbina]

Elise, when testing the paint colours, it will look different against dark stained wood, unless you are sanding it down first 😊

[@MaryDavis-h9j]

True! I wonder what the rose shade over the purple would look like!

[@Laura-rx9mp]

I think waiting on the dining room paint may be wise. I say get the side board first!!!!! be patient my friend!!!! Cheers and yes try the large mirror where the green hutch used to be, you can always move it back if you hate it lol. Hugs

[@debbebunch9973]

No worries! Hope you feel better soon! 😊

[@pamlove625]

Elise, I also would suggest a primer first to neutralize the dark wood. I would also suggest that you might want to wait until the skylight is in since you mentioned the difference of tones closer or further from the window light. Also have you considered how the color will look with the wood of your chairs? I can definitely sense your excitement for redecorating so be sure to think out your long term goals. Have fun and thanks for sharing your journey.

[@2Elkhounds]

TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF ELISE!!! Feel Better!!! You need some down time!

[@annlanceley8021]

You made the right decision, I'm the same all or nothing, in a relationship 💞

[@2Elkhounds]

Girl, you need to be in a big city to show off your wonderful styles. Where I live in rural Vermont, US, we dress in flannel & boots to stay warm. Recommendation for preventing colds & flu....Oscillococcinum by Boiron (France) Can't believe you are selling that beautiful cabinet that you worked so hard to paint.

[@amyweaver7413]

Feel better soon dear girl.

[@CherieAllen-g2y]

Eluse you look Gorgeous in that 1940 s cap💯❤️

[@PattyPaints]

Hope you feel better soon, Elise! Sorry your date was a dud, but good that you found out right at the beginning, and not after your heart was committed. When I was in my mid-20s I decided I was going to date more like guys do and not tie myself down to one guy. That lasted about two weeks and then I met my husband. 😂 That was 37 years ago, we've been married 35 years. So much for playing the field! In all seriousness, though, I think having a more laid-back "I'm just in it for fun" outlook helped me to relax and maybe not have as much of an "I need to find Mr. Right RIGHT NOW" aura. Or... maybe it was just the right time/right place. Who knows? Whatever it was ... it worked.

[@aileenbell6750]

Oh I am sorry you are not feeling well. Sending good vibes from Arizona . ❤

[@zenalawrence9903]

Get well soon Elise ❤❤❤

[@maryraymond8375]

Elise this video was very good. And you look good in everything. You will meet the right man for you one day. He will be as fabulous as you! Hope you get well soon!

[@Missylou_art]

One thing that I've been doing a lot recently with my artwork is using a color wheel when I get stumped on color. You could check and see what is compatible with rust a gold tones. My guess is probably a deep, warm egg plant color. Your home is looking so beautiful and cozy!

[@xanzibar5374]

The snow at your home looks beautiful. Can you do a video out in the snow for the day?

[@paulamcnabb7940]

Good for you! Open relationships are just people who are looking short term and just want to play around

[@bobbibartley549]

Always stay true to yourself Elise and don't ever settle for less than what you know is right for you! We love you!! XX

[@susanpoulos6596]

Hello from Iowa where we have had temps below zero. I love your videos very much. I am concerned about your table being painted. There are other options using tablecloths, runners, placemats, etc.for many different colors during seasons and holidays. That way your dinnerware, flowers and such can cordinate better. Get well soon.

[@lindaedwards7840]

Hello thank you for the video, hope you feel better soon, take care . Hugs and Blessings.💐,🙏

[@AntaresSelket]

I like the purple paint with the red tone, but I can't wait to see what you do with the living room. Your whole aura is monogamy. You work hard at relationships with your viewers, the customers at your shop and website, your family and friends, so you definitely need a one on one romantic relationship. I love the vest jacket.

[@getthoma300]

Hope you are feeling better. 🙏🏽❤️

[@suehall3298]

Love your video get well soon ☕🍰🌹🌹🌹🔥 Love Sue ❤❤❤🇬🇧❤❤❤

[@rainahrediger267]

Feel you girl. I've been sick with a cold for 2 weeks. Winter is hard on me

[@aliahspirituality]

I love your assessment of the date at the end. it was very mature and insightful to see that you were able to look at the date objectively and realize it simply wasn't for you. in a way it was useful even though it won't go any further. it helped you to see what you do not want and that was so cool to see in real time.

[@amberbrealey1122]

Rest up, thank you for your wonderful video xo warm hugs xo

[@cheskydivision]

Of the purples the second one is better. A rosey burgundy would be nice with you style but a sage green would be nice too.

[@nonisnest9718]

Feel better soon.

[@desertwitch9608]

I hope you feel better soon. Take care ✨

[@Margaret-r7j]

Loving the house Elise..🌹

[@lindahansen9413]

I just love that green cabinet, its so beautieful.❤ 🤲🏼💞💕✨💕💞💕✨💞💕✨💞💕✨💕✨💞💕✨ If you get sick try to take some vitamin D, it will help a lot. I think its so awsome, that you was intoutch with your feelings and that you still were open to listening. Its so so importan.. for finding the right guy... and you know what it is that you want, in a relationship. I also search for that special person. And I know what you are talking about... that man who can take charch some time so I can shine in my feminie energy‼️❣️❣️❣️ He is out there..🤲🏼❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🤗❤️

[@aromamargot]

I found myself nodding like a car dog toy to every word you were saying while elaborating on your last date experience. Also, I resonate profoundly with the statement that in order for a woman to step into her feminine fully, her male counterpart has to be fully in his masculine energy. There's of course so much to it and I don't want to oversimplify things but any human interaction is an exchange of energy and I just find it fascinating how, through this process, we can facilitate each other's growth or the opposite. Sending you much love ❤

[@12B4Christ]

What strange language in all your profundities. "Step into feminine..."Step into masculine...". You miss the points altogether. Masculinity and femininity are not something people step in and out of....it is WHO THEY ARE. They don't change for any and every occasion, or like some kind of alter ego. This is half the problem, people talking who are clueless. It is so easy to see the true character of Miss E in this five minute date scenario. She is a self driven boss, she has to lead to survive. For her to ever become a truly feminine lady would take a good long while to unwind and require a man providing for her with no personal performance pressures for her to even know what true femininity even feels like. She actually has no idea! This entire "step in and out" of a particular character mode is ridiculous. Let me paint this picture for you: a boss chic works all day being boss and "executive" with all that attitude. You think I'm going to believe you when you say you come home and instantly become feminine? Not a chance, period. That type doesn't even know who they are, and they're everywhere. No thanks, but have a nice day.

[@carolbuchel3011]

I'm so sad the green cabinet went away..I loved it! I love the second color for the table. I'm sorry you don't feel well but admire that you power through. Please take care and have a lovely new year!

[@ceehunka7344]

I went with a dark aubergine paint colour for my heritage house living room I totally love it 😊

[@andreabenson2491]

I'm excited to see how your new home project turns out! I like that you share your opinions on your life and what you are looking for towards your future...I think you're feet are on solid ground which having a good foundation is necessary for building on! Blessings Elise 👍👏😊💖

[@EliseBuch]

Thank you 🥰

[@brendasnow8255]

I hope you’re soon well, Elise! Being sick definitely affects one’s optimism for the new year. This, too, shall pass.

[@kyliedownes6048]

Hi, I can't wait to see your lounge /dining evolve into your vision. I love your paint colours, I'd find it so hard to choose lol

[@peinteumal22]

Agree with comment about the more reddish tone and the ivory paint choice especially since your brick wall has that undertone, and puple might conflict. If you go lighter, it will also brighten up your darker dining area and bring out the chairs more

[@johnmelissaziech6207]

Glad he was upfront with you about what he's looking for. Sounds like he's not looking for any commitment and you are. Sounds like you were the more mature person and he's not ready to settle down. Glad you didn't waste any extra time with him. But like you said, it's good to get out and meet people. Hope you are feeling better!

[@bobbikalmer9184]

Hope you feel yourself soon. With the room facing your amazing garden, I thought a beautiful green would have been the natural choice but I'm still excited to see where you going with the purplish tones you are leaning toward.

[@GoAwayEvery1]

Hej Elise! I love how youre building your own little home! 🏡 I love the garden and nature sceneries you capture in your videos! Super pretty! 🌳🌱🌿🌼🍂🍃 The snow is beautiful! ❄️ I just wondered what do you think about making one video like this one as you always do but in Danish with english subtitles? 🇩🇰. I personally would love to see that! Ive been watching your vids for years so I just thought it'd be nice 😅

[@lamar9331]

The big painting in the middle of your collection with the wine and red colored flowers and gold frame would look spectacular on that wall. Maybe some sconces.

[@isabelle5157]

I slightly speed up every single vid I watch, EXCEPT yours. Yours I want to watch in full because you're lovely and your vids are calming and peaceful to me. Wishing you the best from Tennessee.

[@JR-kz2xn]

I like the red toned paint better. It doesn't clash with your sofa so bad. So fun to watch. Thanks for sharing.

[@mitrokousi1378]

Hello from north greece!At last is snowing now!

[@tracey8506]

Hope you ate feeling better ❤. I have never done an open relationship. I have been happily married for 28 years 😊

[@chriskiefel7735]

"A big white wall of opportunities". I love that!

[@cynthiahagen3658]

You’re amazing Elise. I love watching your videos. Rest up and go easy on yourself. You are your own best friend

[@MaryBeth1965]

I think rose-gold would look great on the table. :-)

[@ValeriaVincentSancisi]

I would make a color choice after the skylights are in.....kudos on the dating wisdom.. take care

[@bethannmorgan4999]

Hope you’re recovering swiftly! I just got over my own virus, it was awful!

[@donnaleonard276]

ELISE U NEED THE COLOR, EGG PLANT. IF' ur hanging ur Wall Art on that back wall. It would be best to leave the wall white. Be blessed 🙏🏾 hope u feel better soon 💜😷

[@kathymachen8342]

Get well soon!

[@jeanlilley3139]

You are a special person who is a very interesting person. I hope you feel better soon. Rest and drink fluids.

[@FrogeniusW.G.]

Yes, it's four month of winter here. November, December, January and February.