Embarrassing Moment/She Proposed To Her Baby Daddy of 10years

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[@tynaangelici3023]

Her desperation overrides her dignity and self worth

[@yana_yana2217]

Why do you think this is desperation? Maybe it’s not a big deal for her? Its depends of your self esteem.

[@XXLady]

Also, stop living with them. Stop giving them children. Stop giving them your body.

[@krisjustbegun9740]

She asked him in front of a room full of people because she KNEW he would say no if she asked him in private and she thought proposing in front of others will pressure him to say yes. Girl have some dignity. There are no schemes or plans to make someone love or want to marry you.

[@cd6741]

Yes, very manipulative. At the same time I'm wondering who her friends are and whether any of them said nah girl this ain't it! Edit: just got to the bit where the commentator is asking where her friends are!

[@MissKashira]

And the room full of people and cameras did not stop him from saying no. That's how little interest he has in being with her.

[@MissKashira]

@@cd6741 Her friends could have Ocean Elevened the ring out of her possession the night before the party and it wouldn't have made a difference. She would have just bought another one. I can tell from the way she's ignoring his body language she would have soldiered on no matter what. Some people are just beyond saving.

[@Gem-n-life]

@@MissKashira-“Ocean Elevened the ring….” 🤣

[@victorymusic7559]

I agree. I feel as well she did that with the family there for a reason but still. I can't stand guys who take it everything so lightly. It seemed like she was talking to the family and not him directly. Such Beautiful women with these clowns. Peace

[@madeleineclark283]

He looks awful. What a complete waste. She looks like she could have done better

[@kourtneydouthard-becker1501]

💀💀💀

[@lewid019]

Sadly possibly low self esteem

[@StephieGsrEvolution]

My heart hearts for her! I would've married her and I'm hetero, damn it! 😆

[@madeleineclark283]

@@StephieGsrEvolution She's out of his league!

[@dickie9748]

​ Not if she has had children with him and she doesn't believe she can do any better than him. A lot of women that want marriage will never marry. But a woman must be a plus not a negative to a man. A woman with multiple children does not always attract a top tier man. Children are expensive. Stop being a doormat for these men. Men will walk away from their children when women will not.

[@Ruu555]

Can we women please stop doing this and realise that ‘if he wanted to, he would.’ Proposing first instead of him is never the answer. 😅

[@Layla56333]

Honestly, I think women proposing is cute but talk about it with your partner first so you don't embarrass yourself 😭

[@PrayerOfMannesah]

Women need to understand you think it’s cute to have a kid before you get married just know that the answer is going to be no from here on out so if you’re not sure if you ever wanna be in a marriage place or get married don’t have no kids Because your kids will be at least 10 years old and embarrassed for you. They’ll let you have the baby because it’s coming out of your vagina. You need to stop thinking women need to stop thinking men actually give a damn they give birth they’re gonna look at you like that’s what you’re supposed to do and you’re gonna be like well you’re supposed to be a dad and they’re gonna say what’s that gotta do with marriage , you get and you get treated like how you allow people to get treated there’s nothing cute about this.

[@dinkyboss]

@@Layla56333you typically don’t discuss a proposal with the person you’re hoping to surprise with the proposal sis 😅

[@Gem-n-life]

I find it completely cringy.

[@truettadevil]

​@@dinkybossyou absolutely should discuss getting married to the man you're in a relationship with to see where he's at. If he says he's ready, then she's got her answer.

[@sierralavender]

This is so embarrassing. Why didn’t any of her friends or family step in and tell her the truth at some point in the last 10 years?

[@stephkais5613]

They probably did tell her but she wasn't listening.

[@jasminexxx3911]

They probably did but the pick me spirit in her didn’t want to hear it and she’s going to do whatever she wants . She wanted to prove to all those ppl that he would marry her

[@briasworld8]

Because SHE been knew. Her Problem.

[@morgan4567]

They probably did tell her but, she didn't listen and thought he would change. And as usual he didn't what a surprise.

[@SageIceDragonX]

Haha....you think they have said nothing all that time. And only if they did, she would listen. People won't listen when they are in love....they just tune you out.

[@cciv6100]

Them pressuring him to respond favorably….ugh. So uncomfortable to watch.

[@louisewilliams9417]

Women need to realise if a man isn't proposing, it's because he doesn't want to marry you. People were laughing at her.

[@Thequeensavedthequeen]

Everyone in that room HATES HER! And loved watching her embarrass herself.

[@watermelonlover745]

She had oneitus

[@theteleisewilliamsexperience]

As they should because she's a joke.

[@shamanlee111]

Some women will do everything but leave 😂

[@jltdqw]

The man who wants to marry you will marry you. My husband is Japanese born and raised in Peru. No one in his family has married someone black. He got in a humongous fight with his mom because he wanted to marry me. He told her you get on board on you won’t see me again. We been married 17 years. Mother in law love me so much that she cook special meals for me all the time.

[@ss-ds2dn]

Not only did he actually want to get married, the fact that he gave an ultimatum to his mother showed that he was actually ready to be married too. Girl you won❤

[@MsLotusBlooms]

Certain groups of men respect and treat women honorably. Because they are honorable men.

[@PrettyBones-ho4rq]

@@MsLotusBloomsYep and a certain group doesn’t , smh

[@CoffeeMate-mu6ng]

Not to demean what you're saying, but I really hope your MIL is not spitting in your food or worse. I would never eat her special meals.

[@jltdqw]

@@CoffeeMate-mu6ngbelieve in the beginning I didn’t, I just give it to my husband.

[@Longhairdontcare34567]

Leaving quietly will never go out of style

[@MegTelevised]

Ever!!!

[@sagethenomad5929]

It's my favorite way to go. No need to explain. They already know.

[@Gemineye444]

My secondhand embarrassment is through the ROOF. I fought through the cringe of this. Proud of myself 🤣😩 My empathy is running out and I can’t keep defending!! 🤣🤣 She’s way too beautiful for this lmao

[@ARS-fn6px]

youre right but at one point you didnt know either. Dont judge people because their timing is different than yours. If she likes it I love it. Im just happy Im out of delusionland

[@Gemineye444]

@@ARS-fn6px exactly why my empathy is running out. You’re so right. Because I take the lesson and reflect. Reserving my empathy for those who want/seemingly could benefit from it. She is proud! Therefore I am proud right with her 💃🏽🙌💕☀️🤣😉🙌💅🏽💯😃😁

[@p.gizzle90]

🥴I couldn’t watch the whole thing I paused it and came to the comments. Had me uncomfortable.🥴

[@LoveK1]

My empathy isn’t for everyone and I’m very stingy with it because too often people ignore context clues, red flags, blatant behavior, common sense, safety, etc.

[@victoriaogunsanya9074]

Very beautiful. So sad

[@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living]

1. The sperm chases the egg. If the man is not chasing you, he doesn’t really want you. 2. A man knows relatively quickly (within 6 months) when he wants to marry a woman. If you’re dating with intention, and he hasn’t talked about marriage within 6 months, don’t waste your time. Find another man. 3. If you’re giving him wife benefits at girlfriend prices, he’ll still stay with you because you’re making his life easier at a cheap price, even if he doesn’t want you. He’ll wait until he finds a better option OR you give up and just leave.

[@leehalloway8787]

Many people will stay with you and waste your time. They don't love you, they love your utility.

[@sparklybubbles2680]

6 months is a long time! They know within talking 3-4 times that if the woman is wife material or not! I am speaking from experience, talking with so many men for many years!

[@vacaspen4002]

The egg selects sperm. She rubs edges then pulls in the one she deems fit

[@soulsearchingwithstina]

This is why spineless, passive people scare me. Especially men. They just go through life with no purpose, he wouldn't even stand up straight for her? Her "friends" are all there filming & giggling. He hates his life, but the worst part is, he will be too cowardly to walk out or break it off. He will just let the resentment build & grow. I just want to fight her friends tbh, it's clear they helped her plan this. This entire video is EXCRUCIATING.

[@Indigenous_DNA]

You deserve a 1000 likes your comment. You spoke truth!!

[@soulsearchingwithstina]

@@Indigenous_DNA awww, thank you so much! I friggin love this entire channel & how everyone discusses real life issues. Helps to make sense of things.

[@bloodfilledchalice6662]

They ARE NOT true friends! They know she is humiliating herself, they just want to be there to watch the disaster unfold, sit back & laugh! Geez-Louise 😢

[@aglo5297]

Yes its embarrassing - every woman knows that. Sometimes they have to do something drastic like this to finally get it through their heads. Bold of you to assume her friends would not have told her no to. I'm glad they are letting her see for herself while offering her support through it and after it - i hope she wakes up soon

[@soulsearchingwithstina]

@@bloodfilledchalice6662 exactly, made my blood run cold how they all just filmed her...they were there for the entertainment. Absolute snakes

[@sparkling_elegance]

Women really need to stop embarrassing themselves like this. If you’ve been with a man for 10 years and he hasn’t proposed, it’s because he doesn’t want to marry you. Not everyone wants to be married, but if you do want to be married, don’t wait 10 years without a proposal, and please don’t propose to him yourself. Men have said it themselves; it does not take them 10 years or even 5 years to know whether or not he wants to marry you. They usually know within the first year. Depending on his age, it doesn’t mean that he will propose within the year, but it will not take him 10+ years to do it.

[@catsaresocute650]

I agree with the 10 years, if you want to marry say it and consider how your relationship is devloping according to the goal. But there's nothing wrong with woman proposing!

[@nephtalie5889]

@@catsaresocute650only pickmeishas propose

[@jessikajane4967]

They know within a few weeks and it only takes about 2-3 months for them to confirm it with themselves.

[@DeeDaKang1]

This is embarrassing....What if he says no???? U look like a jackass!!!

[@omphilemoerane2569]

​@@catsaresocute650 Unpopular opinion but I feel like if you have to bring it up to him, you may as well go on one knee and propose to him. Men know or at least assume they are expected to propose. If he is not doing it, it's because he doesn't want to or trying to see if he can get away with not doing it.

[@jessikajane4967]

But when I tell women to STOP living with men, they think it's "old-fashioned". No, it's common sense! Stop giving men 24/7 access to you if he hasn't given 24/7 formal commitment (i.e. marriage)😒🙄

[@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living]

I don’t think you’re “old fashioned”. I think you’re sensible.

[@amberd5318]

​@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living yes, I agree, too. Not old fashioned at all. These days, we need to protect ourselves and our energy. Overdoing just to say "I have a man" is not cute.

[@BWTM]

I used to be one of those 🤦🏾‍♀️ But now I’m in the choir. Don’t move in unless and until he puts a ring on it. Bounce after 3 years if marriage is what you want.

[@mysticmoves999]

Facts this is the comment right here❤❤❤

[@LoveK1]

People are always shocked when I tell them I don’t live with boyfriends and they don’t stay at my house all the time. No pop ups visits either. I’m not sneaking and doing anything but I need notice. I need my down time ALONE.

[@Brandy205]

Bless her heart. 😢 My heart really goes out to her. Side note: Not him wearing a “King” shirt and acting like the court jester. Girl, he’s lazy, unmotivated and doesn’t like you. Take your child and live in peace. Respectfully and peacefully.

[@mrshappilymarried1]

😂🤣😅😅🤣👑👑👑 I screamed!!!

[@Yassss-rj9zf]

Girl, cut the cake, do the electric slide and go home🤣

[@rita88584]

This comment is hilarious 😂

[@Yassss-rj9zf]

@@rita88584 Ty! 😝

[@ultimateenigma6038]

Lmao..my thoughts exactly. Get dressed up...buy cake..have a party , do the wobble with friends, family. Go home.v

[@PrettyBones-ho4rq]

😂😂😂😂

[@synthiamiller5990]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@dallasflynn5200]

It’s so humiliating to see these videos! And the children must have been so confused and sad! Ugh. Have some pride.

[@AIBot929]

I think TF not... after 10yrs and a child he does not want to marry you sis and you need to move along. Embarassing

[@ss-ds2dn]

The idea of their baby having his last name makes me irrationally angry 😂 Same for those kids having this nonsense normalized in front of them

[@Sweet_Dee]

The secondhand embarrassment was painful!! I wouldn't propose to a man in the first place, but if I did and he gave me that lil head shake I would be out of there so fast! The room, the relationship, all of it! Ain't no way 😭

[@kristenmoonrise]

Right! I would have evaporated lol

[@Gem-n-life]

Yes, I’m not even asking a man out. I still believe in being pursued.

[@am-harris7458]

The DUST is global!😱😱😱

[@Gemineye444]

Yoo 🤣💯

[@Lets_Talk_About_it_Luv]

If a man wants to marry you, he’ll marry you. This was so painful to watch 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@nowlaterkiss9811]

She put the cart before the horse. He already got the milk for FREE!!! Learn Ladies!!!

[@almondjoy123]

I bet some of these men say YES at the proposal but then break it off afterwards because they don't want to deal with the awkwardness of having to say no.

[@amberinthemist7912]

They probably just say yes to avoid conflict then do everything to secretly sabotage everything so she is forced to be the bad guy and break it off.

[@laylarahman11]

He's thinking in his head: "Is this all my life could ever be?" Even tho she's considerably more attractive than him, he doesn't want this type of woman, the woman who would chase him.

[@lesley-anngilmore7524]

I need to have a word with her friends because there's NO WAY I'd let any of my sisters embarrass themselves like this!

[@susanmarks416]

There was an tradition somewhere (I forgot where maybe the states or the UK) that on Feb 29 women propose to men, or just asked them out. I think it started in the 1800s but died down in the 1950s. Also notice he said "As an African man I have to do it the proper way". So why didn't he do it the proper way when he find out she was pregnant all those years ago??? Because he didn't want to marry her. Oh Yeah, congrats on proposing to yourself lady.🙄

[@thesecretshade]

Yeah that stood out to me as well. Him saying that just means, he doesn't want to do it. He's wasting her time on purpose. He doesn't want to marry her. She already gave him everything he wanted for free so there's no purpose in "making her his".

[@hollymartinez1911]

It's called Sadie Hawkins day

[@susanmarks416]

@@hollymartinez1911 Thanks, I had to look it up. Bachelor's Day is the leap day (Feb 29) an Irish tradition. Apparently it once had legal basis in Scotland and England. Sadie Hawkins Day is usually in November, based off the Li'l Abner comic strip.

[@justj512]

He probably wanted a green card to stay, after 10 years no proposal and say African tradition if it was that then he would have married her long ago as traditional African men do, his mother probably dint approve or he benefits from being with her or he has another woman back home or in the uk

[@luna_soleil]

Her "friends" and "family" really sat there and let this happen

[@teoleno4019]

The best thing I ever did was not have kids. I'll be damned if I'm attached to a male permanently that I have to beg to marry.

[@dcg590]

Well if someone chooses to be a single mother without the title of wife, it’s her own fault. If he wanted to marry you, he would. Simple. You are correct, never have kids without being a wife first. Good decision making for you.

[@rebel8440]

I'm 34 SAME HERE SIS SAME HERE!!!

[@Zintlle]

I swear! The thought of being stuck terrifies me

[@92spice18]

I remember when these proposals were very popular a few years ago. My then boyfriend and now husband told me if I ever had the nerve to get down on one knee and propose to him he would say “no”.

[@motorcyclesandmakeup1297]

Are we all gonna ignore the song playing bahaha

[@DeeDaKang1]

When a man loves a woman, he gets down on 1 knee and professes his love for her in front of the entire world on the flipside of that coin when a woman is tired of her baby daddy dragging his feet she says 🗣 " Look dude you're either gonna marry me/ it's over....See the difference 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@LisaSoulLevelHealing]

Trying to control what they cant control.

[@magoo9279]

When a man gets down on 1 knee to profess his love in front of people. He is over compensating for something. I cringe when either person has to express that much love in front of others. Cause they are most likely lying to themselves and each other. A marriage proposal should not be a spectacle. In fact, we should be at a point where people shouldn't be getting married. Marriage was created by men for men. Women feelings aren't even a consideration. Some people still do the step of asking the fathers permission. Why is dad going to marry you? Marriage is the ultimate fuck you to women. They got all these women twisted trying to get married, waste money, and time on a ceremony and reception. To be in a worse position than you were before getting married. Now you are living with the guy who thinks you're the live-in maid and nanny, and you are not getting paid for the extra work. Unless you marry an uber rich man. You got Hoodwinked, Bamboozled, Run a monk. If he makes less than 1/2 billion a year. Don't get married. Even then, work out a contract so if you do break up and you're not married, you walk away empty handed.

[@pyotrkropotkin406]

The incentives for men to get married differ from those for women. Don't have children with a man you aren't already married to. This isn't about tradition. This is about incentives. And don't waste years to decades of your life on someone who isn't all in and seems only half interested in you. If he'd rather hang out with his friends than you most of the time, then quickly move on. You're not the one.

[@qxy7440]

Proposing is not the issue here, he doesnt want that proposal. I feel bad for her cause that wasted time is gone. I hope your future is better. May she have abundance

[@tanisha7789]

This is sad he obviously don’t wanna marry her if he wanted to he would’ve asked already ain’t no way in 10 years he don’t know if he wanted to marry her she need to move on

[@Golden.Delight]

As somebody who had a shut up ring… I’m embarrassed for her. I’m embarrassed for my shut up ring. Her life will be so much better if she just left. My life has done a complete 180. You think you need that man until that man is gone and you realize that man was doing nothing, but holding you back and down

[@nataliesparks4829]

this is so sad, I feel so bad for her, men are so cruel honestly 10 YEARS!!!, it's like they are a curse to women for some reason, maybe because of eve😩no but I really need to stop blaming eve for grown men's behaviour 😔

[@omphilemoerane2569]

Yup the men are cruel. Women need to start being stingy with their wombs.

[@MsLotusBlooms]

It's mostly certain ones. It's the ones with the low marriage rates.

[@Gem-n-life]

Please stop blaming Eve, when the instruction was given to Adam. They were both there when the serpent tempted her. The Scripture says, she turned and gave Adam the fruit. If it was by Eve that sin entered the world, why then did God not send his only begotten daughter. Men haven’t changed since Adam….smh! These same men want the respect of leaders, but defer responsibility to women.

[@carlaalegria3658]

People treat us as bad as we allowed it, she didn't stand her ground and let herself to be taken advantage by him, she may not be conscious of her lack of self respect, and boundaries but it's still her responsibility.

[@TheMentalLevelUpPodcast]

I just h@te when people drag children into their mess, setting them up to feel rejected. These things can be done in private, away from the children, if you're going to run through 1000 red flags like a linebacker in a football game. smh

[@Gemineye444]

Underrated comment. I lost it at “run through 1000 red flags like a linebacker” 💀💀🤣 because she looked them flags dead in the eyes and kept going fr lol

[@biblethumper8088]

He doesn't care about his children, which is why he didn't marry her. He has no intention of providing them stability with family commitment or a house and inheritance. He's not in it for the long run, so they will be exposed to the trauma soon enough. There's nothing she can do to protect them from him.

[@cherryivana1129]

!!!!

[@tynee123]

WHY is this not the top comment?!?

[@winter_s_44]

Am I the only one who feels it is problematic to even give a man an ultimatum AFTER you’ve been together? Because even if he ends up proposing after that ultimatum, why was he proposing? People will say: “well you have to be on the same page, don’t you?” Yes. That is why you state at the outset that you date expecting marriage and that if you have been together for ____ years and he has not proposed, you will end the relationship. No ultimatum. No “If you don’t propose now I am leaving,” just a statement: “You have not asked me to marry you and so I take that as you not wanting to, so I am ending our relationship.” You stated your intentions upfront at the beginning of the relationship, and if he was truly listening and heard you, he would remember. If he didn’t, that not only tells you all you need to know about the kind of man he is, but it is confirmation that even if he did marry you, it would be due to coercion. You don’t want either. To me, THAT is how you prove he is worth a damn and that you are on the same page. I told you where I stand, how you handle that info tells me what I need to know.

[@michelleandreya7208]

Exactly!

[@amberd5318]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽❤ This!!!

[@magoo9279]

I agree. Those are the women complaining about shut up rings. I've been with the same man since I was 24. 25 years and 3 kids. We are not married because he is not rich, and I'm not rich. Us getting married will not garner an empire, unite a nation, or create more wealth. We are working class American getting by. There is no financial benefit for us to getting married. Marriage does bring love and commitment. That's what your relationship brings. Marriage was created by men to benefit men. I really wish women would stop making marriage a life goal. If you met a man you love. Love him, build that life, but keep your name and don't marry him. It only benefits him.

[@winter_s_44]

@@magoo9279 Exactly. I am not on the marriage train at all, but for women who see it as an end-goal, I truly believe the way I suggest handling it is the way to go without being a pick-me and giving a man an ultimatum that will make him marry you just because. But I consider myself lucky to not have the desire to be married, so I am not on a time clock.

[@victoriaogunsanya9074]

Yes, give the ultimatum at the start of dating/relationship

[@oompaloompa83]

His t-shirt 😂 Why?!?! This is so beyond mortifying.

[@rachelsinclair731]

The delusional. Plus, a Queen doesn't propose. Chile, these clowns can't leave the circus.

[@princessthandie2192]

😂😂😂😂😂😂l bet It was her idea 😢😢😢😢😢

[@oompaloompa83]

@@princessthandie2192 💯

[@toscadonna]

She’s lovely, and I feel really badly for her. She’s given 10 years, a child, and her love and labor for a male who doesn’t even like her. The good thing that will come out if this is that she can rewatch this video of him actually showing how much he hates her and how he looks like he’s being punished as he stares at that cake. This is a great wake up call for her. She’ll end up dumping him and moving on, because this is the ultimate ultimatum enshrined on film forever. He can’t backtrack and lie in private saying he loves her and that they’ll get married eventually. She’s got proof now that all she’s done for him is in vain.

[@originalpanda5000]

This was extremely painful to watch.

[@namatovuhadiijah1226]

Look at his face, he hates his Life🤣🤣🤣

[@abetterlifestyle_24]

I’d rather pluck out each hair from my eye brows before I ask a man to marry me ugh

[@tiffanypayne6124]

I just want to know black women. Do you feel like your image is being attacked by other black women? Who is putting out this narrative that, we are needy and will do anything for a man. They're making us look bad out here. I think it's time for us to separate from desperate women.🧐💯

[@Cancam1997]

Their image is being attacked my black men

[@tiffanypayne6124]

@njcs420 ... We're going to have to learn how to take responsibility, for our own actions as well. Black men are evil, but we are allowing it?

[@MsLotusBlooms]

Yes, it's all these women who are race loyal doing this.

[@PrettyBones-ho4rq]

I agree these desperate please pick mes are extremely embarrassing and yes they are making BW look bad. I too wish there was a way we could separate from these pathetic, embarrassing BW women

[@NamasteInYourLane]

​@@Cancam1997 Our image is definitely under attack by black men and "pick me" black women. I have never seen another race of women proposed to a man. They will give incentives like, "marry me or I'm leaving" but they never propose. Pick me's are so destructive and black content creators are helping them destroy our image by circulating videos like this and making it go viral. We need to be louder than them.

[@rjlondon5801]

All im thinking about is those poor children will remember that for the rest of their lives man 💔

[@blaqwabbit]

Listen... She probably does not see his reaction the way it actually is. Delusion is a powerful thing. I was so delusional with my abusive ex....that one time we had a fight (no idea what about, he probably said something that hurt my feelings. he did that a lot) and i let 112 cupid song on the radio convince me that i was meant to be with this man 😂😂 Delulu

[@quelquun2018]

Yikes, glad you’re are in a better place.

[@ascott4502]

Delusion is POWERFUL

[@NarcNerd11]

Her friends/fam probably could not reach her after yrs of her telling herself it was OK. Tears came to my eyes. I watched a childhood friend do it for 7 yrs. She moved back across the country to make herself stop. And he did not try to make her stay. Please, pour ur ❤ into urself & be elated to know the truth, you are not alone, and now you are free. Thee one will see ur worth & hold onto it with all he's got. Be blessed! Please don't block urself from ur own blessings.

[@shauntikayvette]

Sir, blink twice if you need help!!! This is bullying or coercion. He does not look happy at all. He has been put on the spot and is being goaded by the folks in the room. Y’all had the cake ready and he just looking trapped.

[@misspriss2482]

Right? Why would she even want him under those circumstances? If she wants marriage and he doesn't, they need to split. They are not compatible.

[@jessikajane4967]

Agreed. But instead of leaving this woman, probably 9.5 years ago when he realized he didn't like her like that, he instead soaked up all of the benefits of living in her house, paying less on bills, then had a baby by her. Agreed, this situation sucks for him, but he was too lazy to man up an leave YEARS ago.

[@shauntikayvette]

@@jessikajane4967 no disagreement here. I’m not sure if he split bills or even lived together but if he knew he didn’t want to marry her then he definitely wasted both of there time, especially hers.

[@Gem-n-life]

He didn’t need to blink at all, because he could have helped himself a long time ago.

[@Wall0fCatz]

You ain’t get 3 years of my time let alone 10 without a proposal smh

[@ksis86]

I’m really not into majority of gender roles but i would rather skydive with no parachute than propose to a man 💀 if my man couldn’t put a ring on it in 3 years or less it would be a WRAP and there definitely wouldnt be any kids between us either 😬 sis embarrassed herself

[@Cynni393]

So here's my thoughts on this situation: she looks at herself as lower than she is. She doesn't see herself as the prize and that's really saddening. But she must get that self esteem for herself. It's gonna be a journey

[@crestfire8008]

Gosh these women are desperate and embarrassing. They literally gave him the wife experience without being married. 10 years??? With kids?!? And she is the one who had to propose?!? Yuck!

[@angelsweet9611]

Ladies stop being delusional!!!! If he shows you/ tells you he doesn’t like you leave him alone. If he ghost you leave home alone. If he doesn’t ask you marry him, leave him alone! LEAVE MEN WHO DONT LIKE YOU ALLLOOONNNEEE! YOU CANT CHANGE HIM OR HIS MIND!! LEAVE HIM ALONE!!

[@mamat1213]

I could be wrong but I’ve NEVER seen a woman of another race propose?! What are we doing it is a spectacle at this point 😢

[@greenytaddict]

Bw aren't too desperate.😩

[@queenprincess4life]

They don’t do it, that’s why.

[@Sisa_Limpson]

Go into a relationship with standards. Let that man know that you are looking for a committed marriage. Have YOUR OWN timeline of when you want to be engaged/married(it is up to you whether or not you want to share that with him). If he doesn’t meet that standard then leave and keep your independence throughout.

[@cinnamongirl5410]

is she giving him a pink cake w/ flowers?? I wonder if he'll wear a blush or white dress at the wedding.

[@Gemineye444]

Oh shoot, you just brought that to my attention. Lmao I know that was emasculating af 🤣 if he has anymore emasculation left …

[@In_TheHouse]

lol!!!

[@MegTelevised]

He’s going for a mother-of-pearl

[@Key-Key444]

He looks like he still loves his elementary sweetheart and is waiting for her to finally call him back.

[@omphilemoerane2569]

Or waiting to cross paths with his celebrity crush 😂

[@SoCal_Chick619]

She has given him everything without requiring anything in return. What's the incentive to marry her? : /

[@naegarner]

So the "King" shirt was ALL CAP 🧢 no gown 😂

[@RainaSaxxon]

She deserves Sooooo much better. I hope she comes to that realization!

[@truettadevil]

For her to love him so much... my god 😢 How does he actually feel about her to sit up with her and just exist? And, to publicly reject her... how are they not on the same plane???

[@Fitnessefficient88]

At this point I can’t tell if these women are trolling us or if they are for real 😭

[@CeeCeeOnIt87]

I'm just astonished that this is who she wanted. For the rest of her life...like how bad off she gotta be to think this is the best she can do? That she even let him touch her is beyond me!!! This gotta be a dam joke!!!!

[@CutiePieSweetz]

The only good i can see coming from this, is that it may force men like this to double think about having a placeholder girlfriend. The embarrassment for them and the publicity of it may make them rethink

[@charlierlaflosstv]

First of all she proposed. Second of all 10 years no ring from him. She needs to open her eyes…

[@Donique_23]

I think he was wondering why would she even want to marry me cause I ain't shit.

[@Reviewland963]

Embarrassing 😳 I would be super embarrassed. 10 years and he never thought to marry her. Wow. 😢

[@heartjewelry-hh1nz]

She’s so beautiful. Why does she do this to herself? She even got the children involved. I’m sorry life isn’t a fairytale if you’re not with the right person. I also want to say that if you want marriage then state it before getting into a romantic relationship or move onto another one.

[@kamjohnson6877]

Shes quite literally TOO GORGEOUS for all of that omg

[@luw5244]

She’s too beautiful for this mess😭

[@fadumosahro8683]

Too bad she was not intelligent! Beauty is not everything.

[@almondjoy123]

It's such a disempowering position waiting around for a guy to propose. It means you're putting your OWN life on hold waiting for HIM to take action and get his act together. You're powerless to act as long as you keep waiting! You're just waiting and waiting! I couldn't do it! I'm too impatient to wait.

[@GDL364]

Don’t wait. Leave him and move on with your life.

[@chitlinjuice]

Idk why it's so hard fo some women to wait and find out if a man wants to marry you before you have his kid and get too deep in.

[@availanila]

The other day one of my cousins begged another one for his marriage certificate so she could forge one for herself and this man emigrating soon for her to go with him and their babies. Sometimes we are the most pathetic creatures on earth us women! 😭😭😒😒

[@MeganP1970]

I feel so sorry for this girl. She is so beautiful and she really is a queen! However her actions let her down. Babe, he hasn't proposed for a reason. Hes waiting for the right one to arrive. Whether that right one arrives or not is another story. This poor girl wont be able to live this down for quite some time. I feel for her.😢

[@JettSettingBengal]

The sad part is, I bet she stayed too smh

[@yerushalom87]

Girl, that's embarrassing. Not only did you give it up, but you had his baby and you proposed and he denied you. Pray for this woman to find The Messiyah and self esteem and common sense.

[@JzanellJ]

That man just needs to be honest

[@jennayoung99]

My cousin was with a girl for 8 years, she started leaving hints with pics of rings, it made him realize he didnt want to marry her. They broke up and got engaged to other people with in 2 years. Sometimes you get comfortable, but it's not what you want.

[@paulineelumeze9433]

If you want a man to propose, after two years if he doesnt propose, cut out all the sex and start detaching yourself. A man knows after 6 months if he'll propose. Cut your losses and move on.

[@nadine4634]

Don't give sex to him in the first place. Don't live with him.

[@ruthmchuwen]

If only women knew the power they poses!!! All this desperation, go take a course, find a new hobby. Why carry before you marry?? Do things in reverse.. If only 😭

[@janschild]

I feel sorry for her. But please know that If a man wants you, you’ll be the first to know

[@mrod87]

He defffleeee gonna spend the rest of her life with her and make sure she doesn’t move on…and probably live with her…but he ain’t marrying her. 😂😂

[@biblethumper8088]

It's a feminine trait since the beginning of time to be asked for marriage. Bowing down is a sign of submission. In the animal kingdom you will observe the weaker animal bowing down to the stronger one in an attempt to save it's life and end the fight. Not only is it a masculine thing to ask, but you are signifying that you are taking responsibility for his life, protection and financial stability. Hence why you are asking to marry him. What is he supposed to do in the marriage, get a manicure? He definitely looked like a woman with a fade and mustache.

[@costumeink147]

My thing is she now has an answer. Yes, truth has no mercy and that was probably really painful for her. But now she can dump him and find someone who will give her the solid family household she wants and deserves. If he thought this moment was embarrassing, wait til he sees some other man raising his kid.

[@deborahgardner7862]

It’s fine she did this, now she should know where she stands and can make plans accordingly, some times you have to force their hand to see where their head is, it’s easier than guessing. If a man can lay down with you and reproduce, but can’t marry you, he doesn’t like you very much, and you’re a convenience until he finds someone else, or why is he there, if his intention is not to marry you? To fill you full of babies? Ten years is to long to give a man to make up his mind, two years tops a year to get to know each other, and a year for him to propose, if he doesn’t, walk away, this man doesn’t even have to divorce you, he can just walk away, dump him ASAP.

[@rgeorge8618]

I wouldn’t pull a stunt like this because who wants an obligatory yes anyway? I don’t do ultimatums either, so if it’s been 2-3 years and we’re no longer even on the same page about marriage intentions, I’m done. And that’s why it’s super important to hear the words that aren’t said and the actions that are. Think about it, if you have to take matters into your own hands, that means on some level, you know he wasn’t going to, which means he doesn’t want to. It may not be what you want, but sis, that IS your closure. She may not realize it, but she got her closure because his response actually makes everything crystal clear. No need for further clarification, just cut your losses and move on. And please don’t modify the situationship to “friends with benefits.” I hope her kids & other young ladies in the room are learning what NOT to do.

[@EdenAdele]

I would vacuum all the sand on the beach first!!! 😖😖😖

[@Ohsnapitzann]

Black women keeping taking huge losses. Spending 10+ years in a relationship with someone that doesn't want marriage is a huge waste of time. If you are smart you would leave within months.

[@freezelacold8184]

I feel bad for her. She is in denial and am sure she is heart broken. I hope she will find the strength to move on and find self love. This man is not in love with her.

[@tynaangelici3023]

Queens don’t act like that. She needs to change that shirt.

[@jmjenkins97]

Just leave the kid with him and move on

[@martinecooper6669]

I remember look at wedding dresses at one point and then I snapped out of it.

[@blacknbougie8021]

I really hate this for her. She thought so little of herself that she felt the need to do this 😢but he thought SO HIGHLY OF HIMSELF that he didn't even say yes. He didn't even want to her to THINK that he wanted her. Baby pick your crown up & stop humiliating yourself.

[@YmustTh3w0rldG0r0und]

It should always be the man proposing. They are they hunters, the conquerors, not the opposite. Do you know how many guys I've heard complain about not being approached, but then when it happens to them they're immediately turned off. I know there are some that would appreciate that and actually like that from a woman, but the majority don't. I would not propose to a man, I would only propose to a woman. There are only two instances that I can name that it actually worked out where the woman proposed first. It was with Selena and Chris, and Queen Victoria and Prince Albert.

[@PINKBOIKWEENOFSOUL]

🤦🏾‍♀️🙄🙄 ALL I CAN DO is shake my head that's all I mean they are never going to change because they are worshiped for doing ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!! ABSOLUTELY GIVING NOTHING! BUT HURT PAIN TRAUMA AND DRAMA!! But oh well oh well!! It's not my life that's being destroyed here! 🤷🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🙄

[@ddrebrne3336]

Every video I've seen of desperate women proposing to their men, the guys look embarrassed. I'm sure they resent them for dropping on one knee because the man is supposed to do that, but they don't wanna marry them in particular.

[@marlyd]

I want to know how they got here. How often had she brought up marriage and what has he answered? Has he explicitly said he wouldn't propose? Has he lied and said 'in the future'? Not enough context but nk latter the context that must be a terrible relationship and I feel bad for everyone involved, especially the kids.

[@stephiiuni]

Us, women, need to start setting deadlines and stop wasting time with men. For real. 6 months, no relationship, no talk about commitment or marriage? Goodbye. 2 years, no engagement or wedding plans? Time to go. It was nice knowing ya, homie. 😂😂 They don't deserve us. They really don't.