Embarrassing Things That Were Hard at Nearly 400 lbs. | My Gastric Bypass Journey

[@jaywagner6084]

I can definitely relate to to everything minus the female stuff.. I’ve broke chairs in crowded restaurants, always ordered a extra Big Mac, I started my weight loss journey back on April 19 2022, at 459 lbs started walking daily , was going to Mexico for surgery but found a place in Texas that was only 3 grand more .. so I weighed in for surgery at 393 on 7/26/22 today I’m down to 350.. and I’m exercising daily beginning to feel human again .. been watching you for my entire journey, your videos have inspired me thank you..

[@1FatBeet]

Thank you for sharing about your journey, congrats on your success! You are rocking it and I can totally relate to starting to feel human again. It's tough because the world really isn't designed for someone at our prior sizes and it's so alienating. Keep it up, you're inspiring to me!!

[@00shyden]

I actually came out of a handicapped stall and there was a lady in a wheelchair waiting. She gave me the stink eye 😂. Add to the list -clipping toenails.

[@barbragerhard9361]

Especially if you've been severely teased and bullied most of your life. I'm now 225 lbs.less than my heaviest & working on the last 40 lbs. Being an overweight child caused severe PTSD due to mean humans

[@susanhildreth1531]

I'm living most of these things. My sweat is all over my face and head which is mortifying. Then the "lean and clean" and you snap a toilet seat. I've done that at friends houses too. I met with a bariatric surgeon yesterday. I was going to get the sleeve but have to have bypass due to a large hiatal hernia. I'm almost 52 and second guessing if I want to do it but I can't live like this.

[@joycochran3707]

I could have said these exact same things! I had sleeve surgery and am down 60 pounds! Thanks for making me feel normal about the embarrassing things and giving me something to look forward to as well!!

[@1FatBeet]

These comments are making me feel less alone as well, I'm so grateful. Thank you! ❤️

[@bari_book_lover6670]

Thanks so much for being brave enough to share all of these. I can relate to all of them, plus additional ones like getting painful yeast rashes in those sweaty skin folds, walking down stairs cautiously to ensure I didn’t fall or have an ankle go out, trying so hard not to show how out of breath I was while walking downtown to a business lunch, plus serious anxiety over fitting into booths, airplane or stadium seats. The pain of squishing myself into places I didn’t fit, it still haunts me! I was sleeved on 5/2 and have gone from 321 to 248. I’m struggling with some body dysmorphia but am noticing that so many things are getting easier. I’m so so grateful to start feeling human again. Thank you again for being so open and honest, you’ve been a great source of inspiration and commiseration and I really enjoy your videos.

[@1FatBeet]

Thank you so much for your kind words. I know those feelings so much and agree, it's like being haunted sometimes by the memories of it all. Congrats on your success and your own journey. The body dysmorphia is real and is so strange to experience, it's hard to describe for those who have no idea what we are feeling and struggling with.

[@kyliefitzpatrick1256]

100% relate to everything. I’m just starting my journey, waiting to be approved for surgery in hopefully a couple of months. I travel for work and airplane toilets are NO joke. The butt sweats are humiliating, here’s a few more - you can’t wear skirts/dresses because of thigh rubs. So many skin rashes in any crease during summer. Not being able to paint my own toenails. Feeling like you smell (even if you don’t). Watching people wince when get in an elevator because you make it dip when you enter. Feeling so noticeable but completely invisible at the same time. Hiding in your car to eat so no one can see you. Hearing people snigger when you order diet soda or a salad. The list is endless, but you give me hope 😊

[@melaniecoffey2779]

I love a bath, and have a hard time getting out. I am about to start the journey.

[@heatherbaker3903]

I can't thank you enough for your bravery in baring your soul. This is stuff I've been dealing with for years now. Wiping in any public place is difficult for me. I'm good at home where I can hike my leg up on the bathtub ledge to gain access... but if I'm not at home, it's tricky! I'm betting there's a lot of people who are having these problems, but no one wants to be the first person to say it out loud. Good for you for saying these things so that the rest of us can borrow your bravery and say "me too". And yes! The nether region sweat in the underwear is HORRIBLE. In the summer, I'm just a fountain down my face and back... but if anyone knew what was going on where they CAN'T see!

[@lorimav]

Look into vitamin D3 testing and getting your levels normalized. I need a very high level of vitamin D3 just to reach normal levels. Sweating is a symptom and it is correlated with metabolic syndrome and autoimmune diseases also.

[@WarnerSisterDot89]

I can relate to all of these. It was really, really hard to admit how much struggle and embarrassment I put myself through.

[@1FatBeet]

Same, thank you so much for sharing and making me feel less alone about these things, too ❤️

[@bigdogpray]

My highest weight was 495 pounds. I can completely relate to most of your problems Having to use handicap bathrooms pushing my arm against the stall.I had to stop wearing shoes for a couple of years and just wearing crocs that I could slip into stopped wearing socks because they were almost impossible to put on couldn't fit in a booth didn't trust most chairs broke several chairs and stools at workIt was a nightmare. Last 2021 Thanksgiving I weighed 465. 2021 December I was down to 445. August of this year I was down to 408 and had a gastric sleeve. 3 months out I'm done to 340. Almost all of the old problems are already none I still have at least a 140 pounds to go before I get where I want to be but life is a lot easier already. I really appreciate your honesty

[@1FatBeet]

Thank you so much for sharing, and congrats on your amazing success! It's amazing how it feels when those problems start to go away completely, especially when struggling with them for so many years.

[@bloopnation]

a year later, howd the weight loss go?

[@reneeblack2783]

I was very thin for half my life and due to many medical conditions, am now 300#. I’m treated totally different as a bigger person. Surgery in 10 weeks. I get everything you said. ❤

[@1FatBeet]

It's very real and can be very difficult to deal with for sure. Congrats on your journey ❤️

[@kiutpi]

Have you tried Mounjaro (Terzepitide) or Semiglutide?

[@1PollyK]

Yes! Almost all of these and more! That is one of the reasons I had surgery, wiping!! Ugh, I was having a hard time wiping and washing! I could do it but was so difficult and out of breath when I was done!! It has only been 2 months, so I have a Long way to go but I was I have lost 55lbs total. And I can wipe and wash no problem now! And shave lol! I am looking forward to not worrying about the rest of these!! I did go on a plane for surgery, mexico but a different hospital. And had lost enough pre surgery that I didn't need an extender!! That was my first Wow moment! Live your channel!!

[@1FatBeet]

Thank you so much for sharing - it's certainly not talked about a lot but we all seem to share a lot of the same struggles like that and it's so eye opening to hear about this from everyone else, too!

[@lisapontecorvo1737]

I hated the struggle to wipe myself. It was so bad torward the end, I had Zero Flexiblty, it hurt. I dont remember fearing sitting in most chairs but I remember thinking that the plastic ones arent strong enough for me to move while sitting in them. Life is so different at 170 pounds then that at 270 pounds

[@1FatBeet]

Agreed 💯! Things I will never allow myself to struggle with again now that I know what life can actually be like.

[@heyitsme87]

Dude I feel like this now. I've been contemplating the surgery. Watching u makes me confident I'm making the right decision

[@1FatBeet]

I know what it's like to experience that and I'm so sorry that's how you feel - I remember that feeling and it's not great. Congrats on your journey 💗

[@ebbosworth]

I know this video has been posted for quite a while, but I just found it. And I'm so grateful that you shared this. I thought no one understood. Thank you ❤

[@heidisegelke6243]

Sister, preach! I’m down 140 via OA…but same experiences…what a blessing to gain freedom one day at a time. Mobility is new-I walked downstairs without worrying about falling today…a revelation!

[@hilarywinters2283]

You look great! I've been following you since the start. I'm in Florida and had my surgery 8/10/22. I'm down from 325 to 185 pounds so far, and I have a LOT of loose skin. I'm so proud of you for always being truthful

[@Sylscast]

Thank you for sharing! Apart from the worry of not keeping up, since I didn’t really gain my weight until I was an adult, I experience all of these. Got my recommendation and just waiting to hear from the bariatric clinic in Hamilton to get the process started. Can’t wait until these things are a thing of the past.

[@qq1651]

I have binge watched over 20 of your videos and am your newest subscriber. RNY scheduled for 4/7 and your videos have been so helpful in preparing mentally for this journey, as well as informative. LOVE your videos and especially your sense of humor and honesty!!

[@midcenturykat9829]

Oh my word! I can totally relate! 😂 I currently do all of these things! I have to wipe the same way, and have even researched assisting devices to help wipe. Actually, until this video, I thought the moistness down there was normal for everyone! The misery of plane seats has caused me to only travel when necessary, and when I weighed less, travel was my whole life! My last flight was horribly painful and embarrassing. I'm contemplating surgery. I have started tracking macros and weight to see if I can lose some on my own. You are an inspiration! 🧡

[@darthnickula6705]

just started watching your videos and im almost in tears now. im going through some of those issues now especially in the shower and restroom. doesnt help that i have shorter arms and being 5-9 and 340 with sciatic nerve issues, it makes my life depressing and a struggle. in 3 weeks we have open enrollment at work for our medical and they are switching insurances (supposed to be better they say) and if weight loss surgery is covered, im getting it done since last policy it wasnt. if not, im going to mexico bariatric center as i already contacted them and have already applied for my passport. i cant live like this much longer. its very frustrating. im so glad that it worked out for you so well. it gives me hope. thank you for your videoa.

[@Fiona-w2i]

If you can just start eating meat vegetables fruit and eggs the weight drops off and you feel so good I still have coffee with milk and 1 sugar I have lost 40 lb in 3 months and still going never Hungary and feel great

[@brendaschwerdt2601]

You are describing my life right now. I am 2 weeks from duad switch and needed to hear about the stuff getting better.

[@markcarter-nm4lj]

Thank you for your candor. It’s not easy and lots of us had the same struggles! Thank you for sharing.

[@tiffanyfraser6938]

This is all so relatable. Thank you so much for sharing. I always felt so alone when I used to have all these struggles.

[@1FatBeet]

Thank YOU for commenting and making ME feel less alone, all of these comments are making me feel so much better about posting this video ❤️

[@vanessajenkins5703]

Thank you for this video. I am just finding you because I am considering gastric sleeve at 64 yrs old and you touched on some things that I can resonate with

[@christineschueneman4147]

I love your channel! Just had bypass 2 days ago! Plan on following you through 3 yrs💖💖😳

[@bigb63fsu]

I’m listening to this, and it’s making me realize how much I can relate to all of this when I was 432lbs. I’m 2 months post op gastric sleeve currently at 327. Got down to 380 prior to my surgery. Love your videos!!!

[@daviddepaula112]

Just had my gastric sleeve done 5 days ago at Mexico Bariatric Center

[@1FatBeet]

Awesome! How are you feeling so far?

[@daviddepaula112]

@@1FatBeet really good. Tolerating everything well. No more pain and haven’t been nauseated or thrown up. I’ve heard some horror stories lol just getting used to not having as much energy

[@kiyagarner8040]

This is really good I feel this is has put a stigma around going to Mexico like it’s so bad but the same things can happen in us

[@kimberlywilliamson4522]

Your videos are so open and honest. Thank you!

[@Page2PlateMyVSGStory-kg9rs]

I've had most of these same issues. I'm still waiting on my surgery, but even the weight I've been losing on the pre-surgery diet (I had to do 2 weeks of a liquid only diet + 3 months min. of a 1200 cal restricted diet) has already started to make a difference. It's like gaining my life back a bit at a time. I don't have to be quite the contortionist I had to be before. Looking forward to when I don't need to be one at all.

[@kathyoleary24]

Thank you for putting yourself out there like that. I have all of the same problems. Sometimes I feel like I’m the only one, and that just creates more shame. I’m just at the beginning of the Bariatric program. Surgery will be in about 5 months. At times I wonder if those issues will even get better. I really appreciate hearing from someone else that they do get better.

[@1FatBeet]

Thank you so much for the kind words and I'm glad this video helped! It has helped me feel not so alone as well to read all of the comments from people who have also been in my shoes. Congrats on starting your journey - you will do amazing and doing all of the research and seeing peoples experiences beforehand really helped me, too. 💗

[@counselorchip2248]

Very cathartic video. Kudos to you.

[@tanyamunie2800]

I had the sleeve in 2016. I used to be incontinent. So embarrassing

[@barbragerhard9361]

Sorry, the last message meant to b first. I love you! Everything u said is right on point. Although, the feeling of people laughing at me all the time is still a very frequent and frightening. I've got a whole lot of mental work to do!

[@jeannegoodness6067]

I have felt many of these concerns. Thank you for your vulnerability in this video. Love all your videos!

[@1FatBeet]

You are so welcome, thank YOU! 🥰

[@nursekaki]

Thank you so much for sharing this- I know it took a lot of courage! I can relate to all of it.

[@themaggattack]

Those internal dialogs of "everyone is judging me and laughing at me" ... we don't just get those thoughts from nowhere. I remember people (including doctors) saying the MEANEST things about my fat grandma and my fat mother. Both to their faces and behind their backs. I was a kid in the 80's when fat jokes were everywhere. All over TV, movies, magazines, at school... just everywhere. Even people who weren't fat would get fat shamed. Fat shaming was MERCILESS. My mom grew up with a lot of fat shaming in the 60's and 70's, too. And my poor grandma. When you grow up with that, it really forms your core memories and gets deep down into your soul. The butt sweat thing could happen to anyone in the summertime. But if it's happening in the wintertime too then yeah, that might be a problem.

[@johnbesse7737]

Wow, I totally relate except for #9 😂, I'm scheduled for the duadenal switch surgery on Aug 15th, I was 426 at my heaviest, 409 at first dr.appt 391 today . Thanks for your videos

[@Shannonsmom1369]

This was horribly relatable, thank you so much for posting these!!

[@gayledougan237]

SAME!! Love your honesty! Thank you for posting!

[@tudormiller887]

Great video. Really informative. I've been on a fat loss journey for the last couple of years. I'm experiencing less joint pain. I have more energy, more flexibility. As well as my clothes fitting me perfectly now. The loose skin around my belly is a concern, as well as trying to get rid of the fat around my hips and lower back.

[@talks2squirrels953]

Appreciate your honesty

[@roelinkabek9286]

I hope that after my surgery most of those things are over for me

[@Jeanniebugg]

Once I have my surgery, I'm looking forward to being able to bend down and breathe at the same time. :)

[@1FatBeet]

Oh man, the first time I bent over to tie my shoe without difficulty I was AMAZED!

[@ProudMarineMom89]

I LOVE your glasses! Can you tell me where you purchased them?

[@CarrieredAway]

Girl, relatable

[@1FatBeet]

❤️❤️

[@francesjuntunen4234]

Although at 71 my weight is about health so my surgery was approved for health reasons! Severe GERD to the point I can no longer keep things down! 5’4” and 235 lbs! I however have experienced all that you spoke about! I am looking forward to new clothes and going camping with my Son this summer! So looks do play a part even at 71! Lol. Not fooling anyone!🤣🤣🤣

[@maryfrancesswartout4642]

Shaving is overrated. I shave when I know I'm going to wear a swimsuit, but that's about it. I keep things neat... BUT adult women have hair!

[@1FatBeet]

I mean, fair! I don't like the scratchies on my legs personally. But no, no one NEEDS to shave. The fact that I physically couldn't when I wanted to was the problem.

[@SaraShire]

My feet and lower back hurt so much. I use a walker for my balance issues. I have Hypermobile Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (a genetic connective tissue disorder). I know some of my pain and balance problems are from that, but hoping it won’t be as bad. I have frequent yeast infections under my breasts, belly and thigh folds. I have difficulty repositioning myself in bad. I’m still pre-op, but am down 30 pounds from my peak. I do use the handicapped stalls and parking spaces. I can again reach my bottom, thankfully.

[@1FatBeet]

Congrats on your success so far! I remember how good it finally felt to lose during pre-op and know that I was starting this journey.

[@daviddbshhh6548]

Nice 👍

[@1FatBeet]

🤘

[@debramiller8950]

For those still struggling. Give intermittent fasting a serious try. You will be amazed. No pills, special diets or surgery.

[@1FatBeet]

I gave it a serious try years ago. Nothing is a quick and easy fix, not even surgery. I am pretty sure most of us have given a lot of things a serious try before surgery - it was the only thing for me that finally helped after years and years of struggling and tears and heartache.

[@tinaherring8622]

that was me

[@williamvasquez4857]

Not just cashiers, but anyone behind you in the queue. Being very fat is kind of a disability because there are things that are near impossible to do. They should classify it as a disability because how is any fat person able to get in and out of a car when the parking bays are standard size? And is it even possible to get into a bathroom stall if the door opens into the stall -how do you get past the door and close it behind you? I assume you aren't using the NuvaRing anymore because Google tells me it's been discontinued due to a high risk of DVT.

[@barbragerhard9361]

About the laughing; I disagree! People do stare and laugh constantly at very obese