SOCIAL SKILLS YOU WISH YOU KNEW EARLY | REINVENT PRODUCTIVITY SERIES

[@queenimoh9696]

I can greeeeettt!😂 In a bus or taxi I’ll greet the person beside me, in an Uber I’ll greet the driver and make small talks, on my street I’ll greet the shop owners, climbing up the stairs I’ll greet a passer by. As an introvert it helps me do so much without doing too much to acknowledge and relate with people

[@wodlthedaughteroftheking8062]

My sister 😂 in the greeting department.❤

[@ChidinmaSosnero]

A fellow introvert finds this very helpful.

[@campusevangelism1859]

This video helps me realise why loneliness became a lifestyle throughout school.

[@David34976]

​@@campusevangelism1859 period

[@shegz_]

One other social skills I've recently started practicing and has been helpful is giving gifts especially people I look up to. It doesn't have to be so big.... Just a token of appreciation for their impact

[@abbas_jewel]

Niceee

[@olunugakikelomo9867]

Yes! This has saved me at my work place. Also, I became friends with many people in 2022 because I sent them a birthday gift. I recommend

[@isabellaoyeniyi1612]

Yes.. I think this is very important too. And many people especially Nigerians need to cultivate the habit of giving. Never go to any occasion or outing empty handed.. No matter how little the gift is.

[@oluebubeokpaluba9130]

@@olunugakikelomo9867 so amazing

[@Ben-Ace]

@@isabellaoyeniyi1612 Wow. I've never ever done this before. I must start practicing this

[@abbas_jewel]

Pastey does a lot for this generation to be honest. It's how he goes out of his way to simplify sound knowledge all round. Things that might be common knowledge suddenly become so profound yet simple to apply. Personally, I'm grateful for Apostle Emmanuel Iren everyday. God continue to bless and keep him. Amen.

[@oluebubeokpaluba9130]

Honestly, what a well-rounded Man of God🙏🏿

[@KingdomUpdates83]

Honestly, he's simply a gift that keeps giving. A truly balanced Man of God ❤🔥🙌

[@abbas_jewel]

@@KingdomUpdates83 yess

[@codeWithMomo]

I ask people how their day went, this helps me network with recruiters a lot, cause it makes me sound like I care about them. I do it for evangelism too

[@adebolaadekahunsi611]

Excuse me, when do you do this?

[@Maze_of_Africa]

"EVANGELISM" That's the office I function in for God to do his work, it's really nice meeting similar workers in that regard. I want to connect with you, also build this sense of community, what are your socials? Let me know what you think, God bless.

[@adejumoseyi2029]

Fantastic points sir! 🙏 Some others that I've learned and practice include: - Always avoid the urge to judge other people; let people feel like they can be themselves around you. - Can't remember if Pastor Iren mentioned it, but please smell nice. Wear a nice deodorant/cologne - you'd feel more confident to approach people. It could even be a conversation starter, lol. - Be ready to add value to people anytime or anywhere. For instance, "oh you're a fashion content creator, you might want to follow so so person to glean some ideas". People open up to givers easily. Still more, but I can remember these for now. 🙌❤

[@osatoogiamien1574]

I love these!👏🏽

[@adejumoseyi2029]

@@osatoogiamien1574 🙏

[@theskincarenerd4601]

Wonderful points!

[@adejumoseyi2029]

@@theskincarenerd4601 🙏

[@oluebubeokpaluba9130]

Awesomeee

[@teyiadzufehh]

it’s important to know that you’re not “less” than anyone. yes someone might be holding a higher position but that doesn’t make you any less of a human being. He or she is a human being just like you. That is something that has helped me be more confident when addressing people

[@RealJeRi]

Noted 🙏🏾

[@oluebubeokpaluba9130]

Wisdom

[@gbengaadejumobi7604]

I have noticed that not everyone has the ability to speak while a group discussion is going. Some will just stay muted as if they had nothing to say where as they have a lot to say. When I see my self in a gathering like that I figure out people like that very quickly, ask them very simple questions and I will ensure it makes them smile. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't.

[@RealJeRi]

I'm kinda guilty of this, staying mute in a group discussion

[@afomacallista2785]

@@RealJeRi me too

[@obejohn2419]

I do that too, sometimes...

[@gbengaadejumobi7604]

@@RealJeRialways try to engage with people! They is happiness in it.

[@obejohn2419]

@Wisdom Moon Nice!

[@fiyinaladesuyi9830]

I've learned to get to know people by their names. It makes people feel loved and shows you care enough. 😊

[@tarebaby]

I love this, nobody talks about this. Your work is not enough and will not speak for you. People will speak for you. In school we are never taught this, all you need is to read your books and pass your exams. We then transfer this into work, we do our job alone but you need to relate, look at the office dynamics, and follow accordingly.

[@flourish_davidine]

One social skill that I keep reminding myself about is practicing my authenticity. Simply being oneself is so powerful in a world loaded with identity crises. So, within any given social space, I remember to be myself, to be genuine in my actions and sincere with every remark. I also consider it really helpful to understand that my way of having fun is legitimate and no one else should try to intimidate me because I don't want to hang out in their own way. Communicating this difference is the tricky part and this is where practice really helps. Thanks for sharing all these useful nuggets PIE. God bless you sir!

[@oluwakemijohnavong7452]

One of the things I am learning to do is, walk up to people and greet them. While I walk towards them, I look for something to honestly compliment them about

[@pearlmeg0]

Thanks Pastey... I have also learned to be teachable. It's okay to keep quiet when you're not familiar with the subject matter. Also, I try not to argue blindly in a bid to sound knowledgeable. This can frustrate the other party and give irritable vibes. Enquire, ask questions and be actually interested, like Pastey said. And if you know something, confidently and simply lay it out..

[@abbas_jewel]

Great!

[@oluebubeokpaluba9130]

Thank you

[@omowunmio9649]

Checking up on people regularly also helps in building relationships and social skills.

[@preciousutobivbi4547]

One thing that has helped me is that when I get to a new space, I take some minutes to observe the persons around, join in on open conversations, and may not talk much but at least I listen or I try to start a conversation with a smile, it works all the time. The little things you do also matter. One day, during my internship at this place, I didn't have enough money on me, so on my way to work, I bought some chocolates and shared them with my colleagues at work. Also, when visiting anyone, no matter how small, I make it a habit to not go empty-handed.

[@kemibassey3932]

Wow🤗🥰

[@campusevangelism1859]

Wow!

[@rowenakadiri8636]

DRESS WELL O ! Cannot be overemphasized.

[@chinazanwanya5313]

"Social skills can be learned", that's the comment!!!!! Thank you pastor Iren

[@Ajibola_Olowu]

One of the social skills I love and has been beneficial to me is saying Thank You!, regardless of the magnitude of the help, favour, assistance I receive from people. It works alot. Thank you Apostle, you are loved sir✨

[@favoursamuel_]

One social skill I practice is complimenting people. I won't just say you look good, for instance, I'll say "I really love your hair". People can tell when compliments are genuine, so say it warmly and with a smile.

[@AkuaPoky274]

Ive got to work on these. Ive lost beautiful friendships because of lack of Social Skills

[@AllThingsToeseen]

To think I remember when Pastey was running this series in 2023, I couldn't follow up for whatever reason back then. Now over a year later, I'm coming back to it because I have learned the hard way about how having poor social skills can affect your quality of life . Oh well, here begins my journey, and it's good I work in an environment that gives me the opportunity to practice what Pastey has taught here ... may God help me 🙏🏾

[@tobiadrian05]

Another social skill I have learnt is speaking my native language. I don't form 'big' by trying not to speak my native language. Over the years, it has really helped me to build relationship with people .Thank you Dad for this video ,was very insightful.

[@theskincarenerd4601]

Pastey this really was for me. Thank you Sir. I’m the type to do what that woman did and stay in my lane. But today I’ve learned that I should be a bit more flexible in such situations. Go out of my way to be kind to even difficult people.

[@ACupOfMaureen]

One of my goals for this year is to develop my social skills. I'm an introvert and shy person. I'm not so good at initiating a conversation but I can keep it flowing once someone starts it...... Cos after saying 'hi' there's just nothing more to say. Lol But i smile a lot and I see it is welcoming. This was a great piece. I'm going to make a video of myself and initiate a conversation with myself for a start. 😊 Thanks Pastey

[@tochukwudavid175]

This is so me and I am trying to do better and be more social this year, I pray God helps me

[@ayoadedunni4243]

Many times people cring on meeting someone for the first time. I believe engaging people first is something that makes them feel comfortable & also smoothen rapport especially when meeting people for the first time.

[@his.goldengirl]

Thank you so much Pasteyyyy for this huge insight. As a gen Z😅, greeting people is something I should intentionally practice. I do greet people but there are so many people in this world and greeting almost every seems like a hassle. Having a better quality of life is all about intentionality. We have to be intentional even in the things of the Spirit. I really admire you so much Pastey. You are dispensing great wisdom. You will definitely be rewarded Sir. Thank you!🙇

[@peculiaroreoluwa1884]

Tbvh, most of this things, I don't do it. Thank you Pastor Iren for the insight. I am so blessed to hear this, and I've decided to make changes

[@seyitanogunmokun]

I think learning how to do small talk will help a lot. I don't know if there is a system to it but I know being good at small talk can open up a path for more meaningful, deeper conversations while still keeping the interaction light.

[@etse340]

This was amazing. One way I spark up conversations is by saying something I like on them, like their hair, or dress, and beauty even

[@ola_simeon]

It is the simplicity and openness for me. Thank you, Pastor.

[@KingdomUpdates83]

Thank you Apostle for bringing light to these simple things that make all the difference in the quality of one's life. A gift that keeps giving🙌❤. I applied one of the skills thought here after watching and got a gift from my boss in the office last Friday.

[@FavourKuti]

One thing I do that really helps is my smile. I smile a lot and it has attracted some people to me.

[@olayiinkaosinuga1145]

Thank you Pastey. These tips are so enlightening am an introvert who doesn't see the need to connect with people. I will definitely work on this.

[@Blesyn_]

I just came across this and i was blessed New things i have learnt and i need to put into practice Thank you Pastey! God bless you sir Thank you for the diverse teachings on every aspect of our lives

[@andreamhampton1602]

Good social skills will improve your quality in life.

[@beshiwaya7009]

I try to smile a lot and compliment little things like..."your nails are so bright" just something out of the box and more detailed The next time the person sees me they'll want to say hy to me first I think being an usher in church and also being involved in campus fellowship has helped me develop my social skills... You always have to initiate a conversation with strangers or find a polite and respectful way to talk to elders (as a church police) or trying to make an acquaintance with a first timer in the fellowship omo some people's look ehnn😄

[@bestchristopher]

From the story, that is what is called Lobbying. Most times people tend to call it corruption but its not ( as i was taught). Its an act of influencing someone. It becomes corruption when there is a demand attached to whatever gesture (gifts, visitations, calls, etc) you give.

[@okorodasprecious9772]

I start conversations with a smile or trying to help with the current situation at hand

[@emezuonwachi7702]

Pastey talk to me direct.. This episode was for me, However, I've started practicing, starting with greeting people, even people I don't know, and also complementing peoples dressing, I've learnt so much. God bless you sir.

[@oluwasegunphilip5467]

Thank you so much Sir. All important... another thing in showing interest in others dressing is compliments, even though some don't know how to accept compliments 😂give it courteously still

[@confidenceagochukwu8520]

This video is Timely! Thank you Pastor Emmanuel

[@danieldada7295]

Pasteyyyyy exactly what you said is what I do and I have actually been feeling like mine is too much but now i am encouraged to continue sir... Thank you sir🥺🙇‍♂️

[@oluwapelumiojo1462]

One thing I do is to give compliments to people. Everytime I compliment someone, they give me a very bright smile because they aren’t expecting it.

[@jemimaaiyelangbe5891]

Thank you so much for this pastey! I struggle with my people skills, but this has stirred me up to do better, learn more and put it to practice. God bless you sir ❤️

[@campusevangelism1859]

Thankyou pastor iren. I thought being is just limited to greeting people and asking questions but I realize people are willing to learn to ways of socializing these days.

[@favourrita74]

I think the second social skills speaks to me. I always do not remember people's name the second time I meet them. Like I'm literally very poor at keeping names in my head

[@StoryhunterKaz]

I'm watching this at the perfect time. Apparently I set a big goal to talk to 15 ladies that I don't know yesterday Sunday. I was scared for a while but I canceled the feeling of fear by having a conversation with myself. Abi is it not just to talk with babes?😅😅. One lady didn't give me a favourable response though - she gave me elbow 😭. Lastly, i actually spoke with a group of 3 and 4 ladies that were together. This helped me achieve my goal faster. And by the way, the ladies were pretty 😍

[@olasumboosuoji-nwakanma6873]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@FavourFavour-h3t]

S😂

[@mikeroyalpriest2040]

Thank you Pst Iren. The Church needs this!

[@thehagiosfamily]

Personally, to establish confidence, I get comfortable with whatever it is, topic, behaviour, choice of action etc, just be sure to be open to learn otherwise, you'll just look stubborn and ignorant. Also this may be complex but creation of mental images in the mind of the person you're talking to using choice of words, That first statement (Opener) matters alot and even through out the conversation. For example, Just by greeting this way 'bros welldone o' I can create a conducive atmosphere with say a mechanic, taxi driver and so on, If I say 'good afternoon, how are you' In an office (while dressed appropriately), I'll be accorded much respect and perhaps even mistaken for a highly placed person in the company. Along side other subtle but asertive statements and much practice, you'll pretty much be at the top of your game.👍

[@preciousehireoluwayanmife3460]

God helping me, I will put to practice all I learnt in today's serie. I have a very poor social skill I have always wanted to improve. I came across this video and its catchy title caught my interest. Thank you so much Pastor Emmanuel Iren.

[@samirahamaddin3531]

This was very helpful, Thank you, Sir The part of eye contact is always awkward for me, I find it difficult to maintain eye contact, especially with those much older than me

[@OPEMAS-OPENMIND]

Thank you sir, I will put my social skills to work....

[@lilianoguh3301]

The greeting part is important! Thank you for this sir.

[@Justdiddy-d3w]

Thank you, Pastey. Having to say 'Good morning' has been the foundation of some of my relationships.

[@emekachidube3880]

I love this topic because I feel it comes naturally to me 😅

[@teyiadzufehh]

I’m waiting patiently for the dressing episode. I will be opening my youtube at hourly intervals until you post it 😭🙏🏽 I must not miss it😭🙏🏽

[@samuelmehinsan_]

Greeting back! Sometimes I don't just get it 😂 Someone will greet you, you'll just snub

[@maikanojeremiah6373]

Always try to listen to people to understand or gain knowledge and not to just reply.

[@jonathannlebem503]

I was really like this in my school days and I had alot of friends, I don't even know how I fell off, but this is indeed a great reminder. I appreciate Pastey

[@marvincuche]

Wardrobe 🤩

[@euniceokunmwendia]

Thank you, Pastey. Learnt a lot from this video and the comments too. I receive grace to practice them! Amen. 😅🙏 God bless you, sir.

[@imisioluwabamidele9039]

I really needed this.. just today I was saying to someone that I really need to improve on my social skills then I found this

[@GtapWellington]

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[@FavourKuti]

Thank you sir. GOD bless you

[@benjaminoriele377]

Thank you so much Apostle sir

[@lydiaajide9915]

It's the superstory in the background for me loool

[@FavourFavour-h3t]

❤

[@simonemmanuel9990]

I use to be shy talking to people and most especially with ladies, but with time started working on my social skill. like you mentioned complementing people and smiling at them actually still working on myself thanks PST iren

[@mbageljunior]

I was blessed

[@oluebubeokpaluba9130]

I'm actually looking forward to the dressing episode! Sounds like so much fun

[@ConfidenceChristian-lb3nr]

Thank you so much Sir 😊

[@spiritmeals]

Thank you Pastor. Your videos has inspired so much in me lately and I am following.... I really need to build my social skills....

[@iyeagenyi8116]

I love you Emmanuel Iren. Thank you for this🤗

[@winningkateolajumoke]

Speaking of eye contact, some cultures, like Yoruba, consider it rude if children look into the eyes of elders when they are talking to them, especially when they are rebuking or scolding a child. They get beaten for keeping eye contact. Even as a grown woman, on the 4th floor, I still struggle with eye contact but I'm more intentional now. God bless you pastor Iren for this

[@kemijones-larbi8268]

This!!

[@LifestyleWithHadassah]

Thank you Sir for this series

[@_Ministeroffashion]

God bless you Paastey🤲🏾🥺❤️❤️❤️

[@Omoge-ErohOghenekenoJeff-vh2qs]

Thank you sir for this Lecture

[@alumaanselem5321]

Thank you so much Sir. You have been an inspiration to me recently.

[@auntyjoys]

Thank you so much Pastor Iren. I didn't even know how much I needed this.

[@johnsonclevi]

God bless you Sir ❤️❤️❤️

[@inspiringgen.z1073]

Amazing. Thank you, sir

[@AdejohBlessing-x8i]

Thank You Greatly For This Sir🙏

[@RebeccaKusinu]

This was really helpful ❤thank you pastor

[@diiretkinaanmanasseh9804]

Thank you Apostle ❤ You're always teaching us to be better versions of ourselves🔥

[@chinonyeokeke5603]

Very insightful Sir. Well appreciated Sir!

[@njokusandra2697]

Greeting,Smiling and eye contact have helped me a lot and are still HELPING ME. I’m trying to improve on my handshake and dressing mehnnnn! Thank you 🙏.

[@racheluwak5631]

Thank you sir!, God bless you for these tips, and for the entire re-invent series🙏

[@alukopelumi1849]

Thank you pastey

[@ogundejitife998]

You are a blessing sir…God bless you

[@Miss_doma]

This video came in really handy. Thank you PI

[@chisomada2031]

I try to compliment people.

[@lindaoge6668]

How to win friends and influence people. Dale Carnegie

[@AdedayoDavidAdenuga]

Thank you ✊🏾

[@uduebholovictory8976]

I cant wait for the live to start, i am excited!

[@uduebholovictory8976]

Thank you sirr

[@patmpioobari709]

Thank you so much sir for sharing all of this. It's really amazing how one should be intentional about Simple things that really do matter.

[@obomaharry-ayerite8011]

Thank you so much sir for this❤️

[@jenniferokafor3156]

Social skills is one aspect of my life that's in coma,I've read how to win friends and influence people,it didn't work for me And yes I've lost a lot of good people because of this I need help

[@o.s.a.official]

More grace sir I’m blessed

[@opehassan2772]

Awesome section pastey🔥🔥 Sure going to put this to work

[@VicthaGodwin]

Thank you Sir!

[@ponmileboluwade8275]

Thank you so much Pastey 🙏🏾❤️