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Hi Kiannaa. I gave a lot of thought to the wonderful explanation of EQ from yesterday's live. I missed today's so I'm just catching up now. I was wondering if at some point you'd be able to discuss cognitive dissonance, the separation of the mind-heart connection and inner death... where you experience prolonged distress and emotions switch off, like a breaker popping in the electrical panel. Why it happens, why the emotions don't start working after something is over and how exactly does it happen or work. I'm not sure how to phrase it.... I guess it's the opposite of growth and being alive , expressive and in sync with self and others. You've mentioned it in this video, how insecure or immature people can suck the life out of a person. People under tremendous stressed can do a lot of damage if they resort to those coping strategies that are not ideal. I experienced this at age 10. I remember it vividly but can't recall the sensation. Like having ones somatic space attacked , mind having conflicting thoughts and just switching off if you will. Not sure how to describe it. The mind stays on but all emotional processing, desire to connect, feeling, sensing stops. What follows is a numbness of the body, a growing distrust towards others etc. What if someone had no way of distancing themselves from individuals who were insecure/immature and a little abusive and had to live with it for a long time before they could get away. Even though it happened a long time ago, the body keeps track and I still operate as if it could all return at any time. The yelling, blaming, silent treatments and some stuff that I do not want to post publicly. The closest thing I can think of is a muscle cramp of the entire being/body/mind and nervous system. I know you recommend a book, titled when the body says no. I haven't read it yet. But I'm interested in the mechanics of what takes place when a person experiences crappy childhood stuff, I guess it's trauma/ abuse/ neglect. Why do our minds do that? Switch off or shut down... Is that normal? Anyway, I'm rambling a bit. I guess I was asking if you could describe what constitutes abuse vs just a person's lack of understanding of how to deal with people going through things. Many years ago I took everything personally, at face value. I didn't understand that it could be something a person is going through. So now I'm confused. Was it them or was it me. Mature people don't blame and can excuse themselves if they feel aggression building towards another person. Is it even worth understanding why we switch off or how it all works. Perhaps it's better to focus on EQ and unraveling the bound up emotions. I'm still very curious why it happened. Do humans have limits of what they can process and handle. Age might be a factor. Perhaps I should read that book before bombarding you with questions. Once again. I really appreciate you taking the time to discuss these things in today's and yesterday's live video. I used to spend a lot of time analyzing, trying to figure out the appropriate way to deal with my reality of the not so awesome things that were happening. Perhaps it's a fear not curiosity... Wanting to understand why we switch off or why people would treat their loved ones badly etc. I guess a better question/ topic would be... Distancing from those soul killing people is best, however if someone didn't know or didn't have that option, how does a person proceed? The damage is done. What now? I'd figure that healing would be one thing but also perhaps learning what to look out for would be valuable. I guess the answer always lies inside. To repeat the patterns or to change them. I am very aware that I attract people like my parents into my life. Emotionally suppressing, prone to anger outbursts and so on. I am beginning to suspect that I focus on them more than on my self. This is unconscious, my default. I'm terrified to trust, to let people in. That is what happened in my childhood. Trusted too much and got stage 4 soul cancer... Honestly, I feel like I woke up from a long coma. I remember I used to feel and be alive and look forward to connecting with others but I just can't remember how to. Take care Peter. M

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Thank you Peter for your thoughtful comments. Many topics have been listed here. I will cover ALL of them in the coming days. However there are many I have already addressed in the 366 series. Tomorrow’s topic will be a follow up from a question today that needs its own video “How to deal with immature family and friends?”

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Thank you I will add this to my list. Stay tuned.

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Ok I have gone through your comment and have created these topics that I will do videos on based on what you wrote. If I missed an aspect please let me know. I will do my best to answer as I understand it. ~ interpreting emotional processing ~ silent treatment ~ nervous system reset ~ confusion is required for a breakthrough ~ analysis paralysis ~ why are families dysfunctional? ~ trust