My Mother Ab*sed Me For Years - Ruth

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ENGINEER YOUR LIFE - EPISODE 115 - RUTH KHATHIDE
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[@teebee236]

Ruth the day I'm finally able to talk about my mom's abuse like you are publicly I know i will heal

[@lethukuthularuthmanyoni999]

@@teebee236 I pray for you to reach that point ❤️🫂

[@Blessed_for_life_2023]

Hey girl. All the best with that. Im still struggling with that for fear of being judged. But maybe slowly but surely ❤

[@EngineerYLShow]

God is strong for you and He is fighting your battles.

[@mphoteti6069]

May God give you peace that surpasses our human understanding ❤❤❤

[@NomceboMkhwanazizinhle]

@@Blessed_for_life_2023fear not my love ❤ you owe no one any explanations. People will be judgmental especially when they have never been in that situation.

[@jeffnyoka4904]

Ruth is a lovely human being. Her father is also a blessing..i hope he will be rewarded one day

[@MillicentM]

🥹 hearing how she went into the show to escape a place that was meant to be a safe space for her 😭

[@Blessed_for_life_2023]

Which show was she at?

[@simangelekhumalo6120]

@@MillicentM 😭 That cut deep

[@nandiphabaleni8474]

@@Blessed_for_life_2023 The Ultimatum South Africa

[@GrowingwithFaith_]

Oh I love Ruth especially on her opinion of not believing in forcing anyone to be a parent to their child. This is the child of God ❤

[@Gaopalelwe_Williams]

The amount of "uhmmmm mmm" I did while watching this interview😪😪🥺🥺❣. I loved this interview way too much💯🙏 , There is something powerful within Sis Ruth, her aura maarn. The way she handles life🙌🌊🌊 I am so teary right now. Did you hear when she said " That relationship is not only with God but that relationship is with yourself because if you have a good relationship with yourself ,if you have good relationship with God THATS YOU!!?" and she continued to talk and (I kept sighing )then she proceeded to say " (STUDY YOU!!)" ........and she kept dropping more 😪❤❤❤👏👏👏🙏.

[@lethukuthularuthmanyoni999]

🥹🙏🏾

[@khethiwengubo8035]

Before even listening to her... I love Ruth through out the show... her Authentic self

[@biancalosper]

This just burst into tears, this is my life story to, im in survival mode right now just to escape the hate i see myself ending up with a person cause i need security..Top it all my religion and his dont align 😢

[@NoloM-de4zh]

I hope one day my mom will realise how much i wanted us to have a proper relationship 🥺🥺🥺

[@athulegcamgcam]

@@NoloM-de4zh me too 😩

[@NomceboMkhwanazizinhle]

@@NoloM-de4zh it is okay my love ♥️♥️♥️. It is okay. God will always be your faithful father and parent. I am in the same situation and I have made peace with it. Every time when I pray I always declare to God that “Almighty Father God you are my faithful father and my parent I owe you everything I am” and believe me God shines his glory upon my life every step of the way. Some mothers were only vessels God entrusted with a task of only delivering the blessing that you are into the world. You don’t owe any human being your life, you only owe God gratitude for everything you are.

[@joseymoloi7169]

Parents children are not charity case neither weapon. Ruth you are responsible and loving girl. I am proud of you. The way you speak about your dad, just love it. You came out amazing 💓

[@Kazi-f1h]

Many of us went tru difficulty in the hands of mothers but we thought that's another kind of love bcoz u automatically thot mum loves u ,awwww Jesu we forgive them they didn't know any better

[@pheladitau6762]

Truth......I always tell my younger sisters that,they r lucky coz they have never endure what I went through as a first born

[@hildadavids217]

Raising my 2 Sons were the best thing that happened. Initially it was hard, but thank God, he was with me all the way. They are now 35 and 37 years old. Thank God my family supportive, but at the end of the day, it is my responsibility. We were married and divorced with my children's father. He has passed on now. It is only through his strength. They have turned out to be really decent young men. This is all about God's mercy.

[@lethukuthularuthmanyoni999]

His mercy alone, Amen❤️

[@Ms-lb7lb]

She is BEAUTIFUL! Damn! 🥰

[@fentseapril.]

Omg, I have a similar story with job hunting & family dilemmas and this episode touched me so much. Truly all things fall apart to fall into place. God is good indeed even in the midst of our storms🥺🌷

[@KeleForm5]

Amen, Sis

[@teebee236]

Ruth telling my story everything im going through now but unfortunately i cant even pray anymore I'm tired😢

[@nickymahobe6518]

@@teebee236 hang in there, you're not alone. Before you know it everything will be okay.

[@Blessed_for_life_2023]

No, don't be tired. Prayer helped me a lot 😘

[@lesegonareadi6548]

Jooh I haven't been talking to God shem coz wow you'll get tired

[@pheladitau6762]

Stay strong...aslong as u still alive...there's a promise it will come together

[@amahKebonang]

Mama ka Ruth, how do you not want to have a diamond child like this one mama, Intelligent,well spoken, smart and lovely lady ❤

[@ZazaMakwenkwana]

I found myself chopping onions watching this🥹. . Oh Ruth I’m glad you’re in a good space now❤️

[@ntombikayisedubazane560]

I just burst into tears iyoo we going through a lot

[@ephraimmotho887]

"Your purpose is to be yourself". I felt that. ♥

[@nosisamohlakore5455]

Ruth is so beautiful and smart and truthful to herself. Wow daddy's girl. Sometimes it's easy to judge people not knowing their background.

[@mamolewamodiba9159]

I have learned to survive on my own because someone brought me on earth to ill treat me. I don’t understand but such is life. I envy you because you have a relationship with your dad. I’m inspired by the fact that in the end all things will turn out well.

[@halacele8571]

This was very emotional but much needed to be shared. Host is so gracious ❤. Love and light to Ruth. I love her ❤

[@ms.sonnie3000]

Love from Kenya, Ruth❤🎉Judging from social media one might think life is perfect for some individuals.who would have known, this is what she was going through while in the show."The joyful ruth in the show."God bless you for sharing your story.

[@ephraimmotho887]

"If there's one thing that I am certain of... it's that things always work out..." Ruth Khathide

[@leratomoepya478]

What a remarkable strong fierce woman you are Ruth ♥️…. Such a beautiful soul! Your journey of becoming is so beautiful and inspiring.

[@Soso-s5i]

Ruth is so wise.

[@ttsatsa]

what a content super human, I enjoyed the show and how she relates with God reminds me so much of myself. "spirituality is how you connecr with the universe" I love it for us❣

[@SehliseloMpala]

I wish he could have ask more questions. Firstly l didn't understand who is Ruth. Don't assume your viewers know your guest.

[@naledindlovu976]

I can see why she found it easy to sleep with Nola...she might be emotionally void because of how she was brought up, and she placed her needs above another woman's emotions, and also there wasn't a real connection between her & Isaac and wasn't afraid of losing him

[@abigailmasinga341]

I was abused by my parents and family but God came through for me,I was a blacksheep of the family

[@supermansmom]

Wow! Such an amazing woman inside and out. Ruth, you gained a new fan. I pray God continues to bless your beautiful heart 💞

[@nasiwe35]

Ruth has always been my favourite even on that show ❤❤❤ she's so cute.very authentic!

[@nomynoms1969]

Halfway through, almost to the End… im not happy with this interview today!😱😱Love Ruth❤…But I would’ve liked to hear her story from start to end, how did she grow up.. what led to what… The interview just went in nje talking about snippets of incidents that we don’t even know… it was just all Over!.. How did she meet Isaac?how was their relationship prior? What is this job that she’s doing e.t.c… what happened between her mother & her.. kuningi Okshodile!😏

[@zamagcabashe7502]

So with you in this...

[@letushilaalina]

9 minutes in and it’s already making so much sense 🙏😢❤️

[@nickymahobe6518]

Ore than anything, her story about how and why she joined the show teaches that you just don't know anything about the guests you see on these reality shows. 😮

[@LindileNibe]

True

[@KeleForm5]

❤❤ Thank you for sharing. Your story is so relatable. Sad to be Emotionally abused by a close family member (dad, mom, sibling). We lean on God!!

[@nomvulamabaso3487]

Im so sorry Ruth💝 Im blessed to have my parents, and i love them. Shout out to all the super dads.

[@susa_maringa]

Wow Lethu, used to reside in the same res(Pigeon residence) samthandi😊❤ she'll always make us laugh lapho course is chowing us 😂

[@lethukuthularuthmanyoni999]

Sussie 😍 but finally we made it 😂😅

[@Miss_Greatness]

Her father is a great man🙏

[@oloratolefenya5992]

She is a gem , Love her

[@eyethumkumla]

Absolutely loved this , she is so emotional intelligent!

[@ephraimmotho887]

The only thing I'd say - Ruth is no ordinary girl! ♥♥♥

[@ecb-u4q]

Amazing conversation, absolutely beautiful woman❤ the way she talked about a relationship with God it was refreshing to hear her, divine intelligence and absolutely powerful 46:04

[@nikkihlangu8103]

I really enjoyed this interview.. Thank you!🙌

[@fjg1997radebe]

"My siblings are my peaceful place" I can relate❤

[@mphihlengmagoro2957]

The question you asked her about how she feels inside regarding the father's child not being in his life was deep. Contrast that with thr fact that her father is still supportive to this day. Paradox.

[@thatsbahle443]

Ruth is such a lovely person now hearing her story oh my Goodness😭 Lungelo you forgot to ask her how she felt about the fact that we as the public loved her because she stood on business ughel😂😍

[@GraceMohale-fz9nb]

I love Ruth ...thank you for your story ❤

[@yvonneaddeh3136]

Ruth, I love you so much. You are a very strong personality and honest. Keep being you ❤❤❤

[@royalndebele-1]

Great interview. Ruth you are strong my girl . I got your take on making decisions when one is in an emotional wreck and you are right .The context of the use of “ cognitive dissonance “ I didn’t get it but perhaps that’s just me. Overall great interview, i subscribed.😊

[@jayngubane4636]

Loved this so much …. I’m not one to comment but I had to ❤

[@doinglife_love]

I love you Ruth...amazing and phenomenal woman ❤

[@zamagcabashe7502]

The heading is so Catfishing... even your start to the conversation it was "it might help someone who is having issues with their mother? Been watching to see when we get to the that, this interview was just everywhere couldn't find the point. Anyways this is just my view

[@nontsikelelonoruwanahealth8035]

I really love this lady

[@oloratolefenya5992]

Now, a lot makes sense, she was there for a break and had break behavior on the show.

[@LesegoJoel]

God is good all the time 🙏🙏🙏miss keep up the good work

[@Ithabeleng_Kopo]

Oh I love you Ruth ❤🥰😍

[@kholekilemotloi]

Lovely conversation.

[@CathrineChoga]

Its so touching guys

[@nokwazimtshali7104]

I know her mom she hardly smile 😢😢😢

[@elrethauandara8921]

Glory be to God

[@Adimissslay]

You are awesome 👌.

[@unlockwiththandomaumela]

Ruth 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🥰🥰❤❤I love her.

[@polaokhoarai4421]

which show

[@abulelezotho7411]

The ultimutum South Africa

[@harmonyharmie43]

I love her❤.

[@DineoMabaso-n4r]

Guys who is Ruth?

[@sisg.official]

Oh Ruth nice to see her 😂

[@zamaswazihlatshwayo8227]

Ruth❤🎉🎉🎉

[@boity88.bm.]

So we never gonna address why he wears socks in every interview ?

[@zamambhele242]

Shuth Kade yaqala lento of ukuzala for vibes and den throw the child away when things don go ur way

[@amandamadlala4682]

😭😭😭🙏🙏🙏

[@Zuko_N]

Wow I went to varsity with Ruth used to call her Lethu 🫶💯 what a positive energy …

[@lethukuthularuthmanyoni999]

❤❤

[@caronenkhonjera760]

We make decisions while in survival mode that are what they are. I love her accountability, vulnerability & honesty. 🤍