Enneagram Type 1, The Story Of Your Life

[@JFox4587]

Ones don’t want to be good because we want validation from people. I would rather be good and people think I was bad, then be bad and think I was good. This is why we are labeled “critic”. Because sometimes you need someone that is willing to tell you things you don’t wanna hear. And we know that. So we tell you, even if it will make you like us less. Because we value doing what’s right over being well liked. And we see it as a selfless act…even tho sometimes we are fooling ourselves, and we use our criticism as an excuse to hurt someone with the truth. At the end of the day, we have an extremely high opinion of what makes someone a good person, and we are saddened by the fact that the world falls so far short. And we are trying to fix that, starting with ourselves. But we can’t help but try to fix the people around us too, especially the more we love them. -1w2

[@rainbomg]

1w9 here. I have legit said that before so many times, I’d rather _do_ the right thing than _be_ the right one. I do not understand the preference for winning over doing what’s right. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 I agree with your comment so much the _right_ thing is like plugging a leak in a boat, it’s *necessary* bc doing the wrong thing is how the leaks got there, I’ll focus on nothing else until I secure the situation. Even if I say something slightly inaccurate out loud, I’ve always had a need to “correct the record” out loud as well, to put it out into the universe and correct the mistake. I don’t think other types understand that doing what’s right feels like scratching an itch, or taking a breath, and doing the wrong thing (doing harm, neglecting the needs of others, being reckless or wasteful, ruining things, missing something important, allowing evil to proliferate) feels like putting your hand in a fire or drowning. I’m not doing this because I “prefer” a certain thing. I’m doing this bc I must protect certain things. I’m doing this bc if I don’t, I might implode into a black hole and suck up the entire universe. Another channel I like (you’ve got a type) is run by a 1 and he said for ones, criticism is a love language. 😹

[@JFox4587]

@@rainbomg you’ve got a type is an excellent channel. And I agree, it’s very difficult to work in health care when you see how much neglect is taking place. But I can’t work for money because it makes me feel hollow somehow to do something meaningless, so I just do my best to help people (probably cuz I’m a 2w and have a savior complex…probably all those WWHD bracelets are to blame 🤣) but it’s draining especially when I feel like an army of one surrounded by slackers.

[@rainbomg]

@@JFox4587 yeah I get that for sure, I try to think of it like, from the perspective of who you’re helping; “thank goodness she was here tonight and I wasn’t stuck with some slacker” LOL. I was recently explaining a sorta similar thing I do to psych myself up for business and professional introductions, meeting higher ups and whatnot, how I psyche myself up to have a good energy in the room. I didn’t realize I did this until I articulated it for him: I take a minute to think about how boring and predictable most of their day has probably been, and how every one they talk to and meet probably looks and acts a specific way, with little variance. Then I sorta feel relieved on their behalf, bc they’re about to meet me! And while my fear would be imposter syndrome-esque thoughts of “I don’t belong here” normally, I sorta flip that by thinking about what a breath of fresh air I must be, and how I’m probably the most interesting looking and acting person they’ve talked to all day bc I make jokes and call powerful men “girl“ and put ppl at ease.

[@voltaire5427]

Glad the algorithm gifted this to me. I'm a 1w9. Was a 5w4 before. Perhaps I needed a better idea of who I am before becoming a 1 or the world around me pushed me to become a 1. I would rather be putting out fires than fiddling.

[@twlahue]

Awesome

[@lebenergy247]

Great contrast and insight

[@twlahue]

Thanks

[@eliaszeray7981]

Thank u. Dr.Great! One question: what enneagram type complies or appreciates type one and does not want to comply or appreciate?

[@twlahue]

Interesting...Type 9 "Just tell me what you want" and Type 4 & 8 "Don't tell me what to do"

[@eliaszeray7981]

@@twlahue can you explain it more Dr.

[@rainbomg]

A 9 feels the most discomfort around conflict, so in turn will allow a lot to happen before pushing back bc pushing back is their nightmare. They want the easiest, smoothest relationships and situations possible and they’ll allow their own needs to be neglected just to avoid friction. They just want things to be harmonious, so if compliance is how they achieve this, they’d jump at that opportunity to keep things calm. They would rather eat around something they’re allergic to than have to send a plate back. An 8, on the other hand, is just as willing to say and do whatever they deem necessary to ensure that every situation they are in is the most comfortable to them, but for 8s, who are obsessed with protecting themselves from being controlled by being the one doing the controlling, they have almost an opposite approach. 8s respond aggressively and swiftly to any perceived loss of self autonomy, so they aren’t likely to appreciate or comply with type one HOWEVER- 8s and 1s often team up if their interests and goals align. (When a 1 is feeling indignant) 4s are easy to convince of things if you understand their almost pathological need to feel special. Any appreciating done by a 4 is mostly performative and likewise any rebelling will be as well. 4s are easily swayed by reverse psychology and feigned ignorance. 2s will be quick to seem as if they appreciate and comply but this could accompanied by plenty of internalized resentment that will eventually start showing in passive aggression and learned helplessness/weaponized incompetence 3s will be pure allies who just want to succeed, right up until you get in the way of that. But up until then they will greatly appreciate your hustle and integrity 7s wil appreciate you if you keep it interesting, are knowledgeable about cool stuff, and fun, and entertain them. So if you are able to show them the direct results from how taking your advice can/has benefit them, they’ll be more likely to consider your ideas later but they will almost as a rule make the changes on their own terms and on their own time. I married a 7 and he is incredibly stubborn but alas always eventually made giant gestures towards really giving all my ideas honest tries. He is the only person I’ve ever known who will take action on improving his own life with glee. 7s are healers of the 1s soul. 5s will do anything if you have the data and details to prove why it’s a good idea, or if it’s interesting to them. They appreciate the details, as do 1s usually. 6s will align with you on the ideas of what’s proper, what’s necessary, what’s safe. If you prove to them that they can trust you, that you have consistent and respectable intentions, that you’ve got their back they will make you feel seen maybe for the first time in your life. They are allies if you both agree on what’s expected of ppl and what’s appropriate, and they’ll really appreciate your unflappability and unwavering dedication to a reliable and clear moral code (so long as you both agree on the parameters of the code)

[@OlesiaP.]

great video! thanks x

[@twlahue]

Thanks

[@v-22]

As a 7, you don't sound like a 7. Just the fact that it took you 2 1/2 mins for your vid to start, tells me you are not a 7, since 7s can't stand boring.

[@elw463]

“there is a Savior, and that Savior is not you…” ❤😂 I didn’t think I needed that reminder, but then I laughed…and it was probably ‘knowing laughter’…😳😬🫠