Entitled Behavior, Toxic Dating "Tricks" & Women Needing Validation Online?

[@Chrono826]

"When he starts acting up." Translation: - When he doesn't give me everything. - When he tells me no. - When he enforces healthy boundaries. - When he doesn't tolerate my toxicity.

[@Lonstermash]

And you forgot, "When they break up because he just can't deal with her anymore, even though she's hot as hell"

[@Ironman4u]

Sometimes....."The juice just ain't Worth"....... The Squeeze!!!

[@mehdinouira3540]

when he care about his mental health

[@cynicalidealist11]

I would rather die alone than be with that woman who expects guys to feel honored to date her because she has options. No self respecting guy should want to date her and I hope no does after seeing that, although I know they will.

[@adityamakwana612]

exactly that attitude made her ugly ,i would rather be with a 4/5 who actually likes me

[@adityamakwana612]

@DrRobotnik not all women are like that some woman do have character the same goes for man ,just because a person with higher sexual market value comes along does not mean i am going to leave my wife and a woman of character would do the same

[@adityamakwana612]

@DrRobotnik its not smart to say every girl is going to do the same thing women of character would never do that just as guy of character would never leave her for hotter guy

[@Lo-to7zh]

@AmazingTaternator look is the most important

[@SmellOfFruit]

Social media will be the downfall of modern society

[@JJsProductionx]

Tik Tok especially

[@MikhailFederov]

But think of the shareholders!

[@lord.of_iron]

@DrRobotnik it doesn't just highlight it, it exacerbates it tenfold and renders people maladapted.

[@Keyon_Wilson]

Has already happened!

[@kramer1372]

100%

[@thecommenter9267]

Thanks for another quick upload, Courntey! The way women act in online formats (e.g., dating apps, insta) is completely different from the way they act in real life, which is why I always advise against men using dating apps, unless there is no other option. A quick personal story: Two of my female friends who had never met each other once visited me for a special occasion. One had been single for the last 5 years, and the other had recently broken up with a guy that most women would consider bottom tier (short, skinny, less than ideal face, etc.). At a certain point (with the help of alcohol), the topic of dating apps came up, one of them pulled up her app, and they were shoulder-to-shoulder on the couch swiping on guys together. I couldn't believe what I saw. These girls were swiping left on more than 9 out of 10 guys. Furthermore, all of the guys they had swiped left on were far more attractive than the one female friend's ex. They laughed hysterically as they made fun of the guys for the most trivial of things. When I brought up the friend's ex, she was quiet as a mouse and looked to change topics ASAP. Recent experiments tracking the dating app journey for men and women show that the 80/20 rule is actually closer to the 95/5 rule (when it comes to swiping) and the 99/1 rule when it comes to actually meeting in person. I mean I guess it's still possible, but with those odds, you're better off doing just about anything else.

[@FSVR54]

Did you call her out on getting quiet?

[@thecommenter9267]

@@FSVR54 Nah, I realize that part of it is just women trying to look like they are overflowing with options in front of their female friends (it's part of the social game they play). No point in me cruelly embarrassing her in front of her fellow female friend. The point I was making was that despite how they act in the digital world or in front of female friends, reality is a completely different story. Lots of men get discouraged because they have no luck on dating apps, but it's disingenuous because much of those same women who rejected them on the dating apps would actually date them if they met in a real life scenario.

[@FSVR54]

@@thecommenter9267 I can agree with that. Online dating is where meeting people goes to die. In real life, if you have personality it's a million times easier and it's the way god intended

[@Lonstermash]

I must be beating the odds, then, because I have met in person with a lot of women I met online the past 16 years, since I turned to online dating after my divorce

[@CanucksxDream]

dating apps should have been destroyed long time ago, they don't help anyone but further prolongs the problem of dating.

[@pjalex8004]

I don’t think social media has created this widespread insecurity, it’s just revealed how bad of a problem it is. Insecurity is a HUGE red flag that I look for, because they will ALWAYS be seeking outside approval/validation the moment they feel they haven’t gotten enough from you. Also, my cousin is married and in her mid 20’s and she said all of her friends have “side guys”, so if/when their relationships fall through, they just move on to the next. Just happened to a friend of mine, he broke up with his gf of two years and she was on a date taking pics with some other guy the next day! So awful.

[@vapeking466]

That is sick most women today have a ton of followers on social media just waiting for a date and they also often have backups they meet at work or in public places. I have heard girls say the best way to get over a guy is to get under another one. My son's mother left me after five yrs. She went out on a "girls night out" and within two days we were no longer! I was never given a reason still today don't know what the issue was. I went to pickup my son for a visit two weeks later and she already had a new guy over and he was mowing the yard! 😂 She married and divorced him all within a yr. She now has ran thru so many that she has four different baby daddies, one whom has no relationship with the kid and another with no relationship or support for the kid. Now I believe the issue was her and possibly her friends telling her to just dump me. 😂 I have remained single every since leaving her and looks like I'm going to stay that way because I refuse to date most these modern day feminist! 👌

[@Krelian89]

Lol that thing even happened to me, finished a relationship in november, a week later she was dating another dude. She got so damn mad when i kicked her out of my life bitch thought getting another man fast was going to make me feel bad

[@slauzon01]

Spot on. I was unkowingly a side guy to a side guy ( 3rd in line.) and this was back in the mid 90's- pre social media age. They were the most clever bunches back then. The difference today is that men know the truth. We know what they're doing and I personally want nothing from it, not even sex at the risk of stds. Time to travel and retire alone.

[@mimicotom]

These women, by doing this are limiting their own selves in the dating pool. In 10 years from now, they will be the same ones crying about no good men are left. You had good men in your 20s, but you mocked them, tried to find minor faults in the most minor things. As far, as I am concerned; they are the creators of their own misfortunes.

[@MegaColacho]

you couldnt say it better.. i want a nice guy.. a niec guy comes she says your too nice .. they prefer chasing sexy bad boys.. they are young pretty with flock of men after her validating her need for attention putting her on a pedestal... treat a princess like royalty she treats you like a slave... thing is her definition of nice doesnt match ours..they like older men being young .. they get 30 35 40 and complaint older men do not like them they prefer younger so they are victims of their own invention and sucess ..then they say where are the nice guys gone ?

[@Lo-to7zh]

Don’t worry many will do fine 😂

[@brainrich1358]

Honestly, with the things I've been seeing with relationships and dating lately, it's really pushing me more to just stay single. Too many people want to be taken seriously but not be serious. If anything I'll just stay single, be happy and until I meet someone at the same level of thinking as me, then I'll might consider a relationship. But for now, too many people are playing games.

[@FSVR54]

that's the mindset. with that mindset, people will gravitate towards you when you're happy doing your thing

[@Lonstermash]

@@FSVR54 that's a great attitude, and I've kind of reached that point. But, unfortunately, I'm now 51, so anyone who gravitates to me is not looking too good, anymore. But I look 40 and still have guns and a 6 pack, so, yes, I want someone who still looks good

[@FSVR54]

@@Lonstermash you should be able to pull a 30s woman. A lot of women peak in their 30s

[@Lonstermash]

@@FSVR54 I often have. But, unfortunately, most 30 somethings I've attracted all have one thing in common.....the C word and the F word. (They all wanted Children and a Family, but I didn't). And the few who didn't want kids were all emotionally unavailable, too independent, and didn't really want a serious relationship......they wanted what I call a Glorified Booty Call (we have fun and sex, but I have to wine and dine them and see them exclusively, but they want an arms length relationship and treat me more like an accessory than a boyfriend)

[@FSVR54]

@@Lonstermash sheesh lol. Theres gotta be a few that have given up....but who am I kidding. Good luck out there my man

[@brianborich2401]

I’m tired of dating all together. It has drastically changed from when I was twenty. I’ll be 50 next month, I’m tired of being ghosted and being liked by women who view me as a sugar daddy or a paycheck.

[@Lonstermash]

I feel ya on that. I'll be 52 in a few months and can relate big time. The sad irony is, thanks to online dating much of the past 16 years since my divorce, my amount of dates, hook ups, and flings have increased exponentially. But the amount of game playing, using, and ghosting I've experienced has also increased exponentially. I feel like the women I dated in my 20s took things more seriously, even though they, too, were in their 20s, probably because they hadn't experienced Swipe Culture and didn't have other options literally available at the push of a button. Yes, if they went to a bar or club, they had tons of options, far more than we men ever had, but that actually involved going out and putting the work in.

[@bruceleeroy8302]

Facts

[@nookindustries1986]

Women must change for dating to change

[@vapeking466]

I'm 48 and used to pull chicks on dating websites with no problem before social media but now I'm lucky to even get a reply. This is not what God intended when he created women to keep man company! I try to keep hope that maybe one day I will meet one of the few old fashioned feminine type but even women my age are delusional! It's out of control! 🙄

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

@DrRobotnik Lol...oh that made me laugh Of course women care about how good you men are in bed.

[@Booster85]

I'd say 80% of women love being validated, it's like a drug for them

[@CourtneyRyan]

For sure

[@tobiasolds1550]

@@CourtneyRyan If men are able to acquire such a supply of willing validation they would be and are as susceptible I reckon.

[@tobiasolds1550]

@DrRobotnik You sure these TikTok examples are entirely representative of the large majority of modern women?

[@FSVR54]

@@tobiasolds1550 tiktok has close to a billion users, so yeah. that's 1/7th of the world, and not counting babies and elderly

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

@DrRobotnik Must be like age Shaming women?

[@dcrezz]

Relationships fail in the modern era because there is a shortage of people willing to do the work that makes relationships beautiful. People feel so entitled to a person who will do everything for them; that they will go on to the next if they aren't "perfect". Relationships are give and take, but some people only want to take and move on.

[@rajanlad]

Exactly 👏👏

[@AlexanderSkinnerVids]

0:50 “every girl does this” …why? Just why? Are so many of y’all that petty and insecure? Most of us dudes don’t do that because we *don’t want to be miserable from our own doing.* Also, 3:58 “my love language is reassurance” just sounds like a romanticized way of saying “im insecure, need constant attention, and am *exhausting to be around* “

[@SpaceWizard33]

Girls be like “I’m focusing on myself” while texting 6 guys at once.

[@tfkvng3187]

Church of Alexander is in service🤣🤣🤣 THIS IS A FACT

[@LatimusChadimus]

For every guy texting 3 girls, you have 3 girls texting 10 guys. 6 guys texting is guaranteed

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

'Be like' ??????

[@baldeagle4710]

@@LatimusChadimus women are the real players. a woman can go on a dating app and have hundreds of matches in one day. a guy might get lucky if he gets 2.

[@ThatShitGood]

They're focusing on which dude is a better option to manipulate for the next few years lol

[@kaleopodcasts3370]

Thank you Courtney. It’s so refreshing to hear this. A lot of this tiktok behavior causes guys to feel extremely insecure and it’s no wonder a lot of them feel that it’s not worth stepping into the dating world. There should definitely be more of these type of videos to counteract the toxicity that exists not only on social media, but in reality in general. Subscribed 👍

[@jpaul8589]

If I get a HINT that I have to compete for a woman - I’m a ghost rocket.

[@arnoldvelasquez6473]

I couldn't agree more! 🙌🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@pterodactyl048]

There’s was a study on women i saw that said that when women have too much time or things are going to well they create issues and tbh I’m starting to think it’s true

[@mahek3017]

That's true, when life gets too easier, that's when the problem begins, because you are less likely to be appreciative, you are more likely to be lazier and more nihilistic about life, and I am not saying it from the point of view dating and relationships, I am also saying this from a general perspective.

[@asdax8311]

One of the reason why it's hard for me to even bother asking women out is I already know that I am already but a number them. It doesn't matter whether whether I meet them in person or online, I just don't stick out compared to "the other guys". I still continue to work on my health and wealth, but I always wonder how much harder finding a quality women who would want me will be in the future...

[@LatimusChadimus]

Good! Keep building up your world, as women will want to enter it! Let them chase you

[@jazzyjake99]

It’s much easier to stick out in person than online. I would say do more in person approaches.

[@bhart3321]

Dude once you gain some self confidence you'll do far far better in person. Dating apps are a waste unless you're a top 10% guy & majority of those guys are happy f**kbois willing to sample till the day they die. Every woman on those apps is going after those guys but in person if they're average or just above average looking they probably almost never get hit on in person which makes them far more receptive to talking to someone. Believe me I'm far more charming & adorkable in person, when I was on the apps my self-esteem was in the toilet & stopped dating for 3 years, then I met my current GFs at the gym & it's been the best 4 yrs of my life.

[@JohnBrown-ig5nc]

With the ick thing, you can always find some little something about someone and it'll get to a point where you've trained yourself to always find them and in turn, you'll continually push people away who would've been a good match for you

[@zombiesnivy]

I have wanted to rush into a relationship because I always feel like I'm going to be too late or something (funny enough I'm not even 22 yet). But seeing all these crazy tiktoks about icks, how to make your man go crazy or how to use other guys to show him he's lucky to have me, just makes me appreciate that it's good to be single and just working on myself right now. These are great entertainment and also great red flag knowledge I can pocket for later.

[@FSVR54]

You're still basically a kid my man. Save up your money and increase your knowledge/wisdom, stay in shape

[@driftracerr34]

Enjoy your single life homie. I’m 28 about to turn 29 and I myself don’t want to rush into a relationship that could turn toxic. Build yourself up brick by brick and become the best you that you can be. Still put yourself out there, but keep your standards high (for the things that truly matter)

[@zombiesnivy]

@Driftracerr35 Thanks for the advice. Think that's a good idea to just put myself out there and be open to it while I'm building myself but not to make it a major priority or anything. Thanks again

[@SportsFreak217]

Your value increases at 30 grant it you work on yourself enough. Woman’s don’t increase as they age. Men age like wine woman don’t.

[@VideoGameRoom32]

Trust is one of the most important things in a relationship. Also she should also admit when she is wrong instead of always playing the blame on you. That is when that she becomes dangerous.

[@adriennengo5527]

Hello Courtney! You look great in glasses ❤. I'm actually a girl who never has gone through other people's instagram to see whose posts they've liked. But then again, I don't go on Instagram much at all. I definitely exist in the margins.

[@Grandmaster_Vic]

Part of the reason why I rarely go on social media. People are becoming so fixated on other people’s validation and how they appear on the internet. That Shit takes a lot of focus out of living in the present and also looking at your inner self.

[@julianabraham1071]

I appreciate you bringing an authentic side of women that have genuine interest and honesty and want to the same things genuine men do. I have respect for you that.

[@ktgn156]

My boyfriend and I are both not that active on social media. Our relationship is not public and we get to enjoy our private moments. Ive never checked whose picture he likes and vice versa. We are pretty open about healthy boundaries and I feel grateful to have such a relationship. Being overly present on social media is not good for anybody's mental health

[@alexford7298]

The last girl I was with she was snooping on phone from the beginning. Some people with trust issues , pick stuff a part it feels like and try to " find something from nothing ". One of my friends who's a girl I've known for 2 years before her. I come home and she says who's this girl and why haven't I heard about her? Or even a guy friend . She says why haven't I heard about him. Eesh!

[@joshuamorgan1269]

Just discovered your channel, and I'm hooked to your perspectives. Very articulate with a calm soothing voice. Also love the quite but tasteful background music. Great content, keep up the good work! 😀

[@JoeL91939]

Anyone who says “when I was toxic” is still toxic. Meritocracy is real. Still the same person that did that. The aristocratic lens that a lot of “women” view the world through is disgusting.

[@AmbercoolPhotography]

"Outsourcing your happiness" was a great way to summarize modern dating

[@eldenlion5850]

Honestly that ick one kind of hit home, I once got ghosted because when a girl asked me how my day was I said it was good and got some OT in. Suddenly we weren't compatible because I'm "obsessed" with money. We had built a good rapport and everything and that suddenly killed it for her.

[@LatimusChadimus]

That's a crap test. I always productive, or great, or went strong. They don't want details, they just wanna break the ice

[@eldenlion5850]

@@LatimusChadimus Yeah I learned that for sure that day. It was weird to I even asked her if she was certain ( I know better now) and she's like I go with my gut sorry. I wanted to say your gut tells you to write off someone who takes pride in their work but ultimately decided to leave it, because even if she did reconsider what would the next gut feeling be?

[@ragecl4120]

How are you expected to make a good living for yourself if you never do a bit of overtime?

[@eldenlion5850]

@@ragecl4120 Apparently I'm not supposed to

[@brookswashere3400]

Then she never really liked you in the first place. This should not write off any potential , and you were just chit chatting. She had other options and don’t feel bad for being a hardworking man

[@willfrancis6941]

Courtney got the librarian look.

[@Roozy_Persepolis]

Almost 300k subscribers. Courtney is on firrrrrrrrrre. You deserve atleast 1 million.

[@Chrono826]

Why would I involve myself with someone who is crazy, creepy, narcissistic, solipsistic, and otherwise sees me as something to be used and expects me to feel grateful for it? No thanks. This is sooo many women it's alarming.

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

Lol..i thought you were a woman talking about men

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

@DrRobotnik You think there's good men out there but no good women? Clearly women disagree as they are less interested in marriage and having children with what's available to them.

[@chrisj9849]

My ex wife bragged about dumping men for little things like the booth slide. I should’ve recognized the red flag. She always criticized me and never worked on herself. It was a good lesson, but I agree with Courtney……it’s far too common.

[@dochamp2]

I solved that problem before it started, I have, and never have had, any social media presence. Am single.

[@Cantetinza17]

I am a girl that has never done this. I personally don't have social media because it attacks your self esteem and I'm not for that. The detective work that I do is background checks. I need to know if the person I'm dating is married or if they have judicial issues. So I'm aware. I'll still date you depending on the judicial issue, but I'll be a lot more careful. I had an ex boyfriend that would say, "I'm a good looking guy and I could get anyone I want, but I didn't I chose you, don't get it twisted I can still get that"! As soon as he said that I grabbed my purse and I left. I think when you get to know a person ask them "What's your love language" if you know you can't satisfy their love language, save yourself the aggravation and don't choose that person. Oh girl with the underwear. She got that from the movie "2 Can Play this Game". It is a Toxic behavior, but she's acting like she invented it. She didn't. She Kardashianed that. Ick videos are immature. What said is that no matter how toxic or immature these people are on their videos (male or female) there are people that will still shoot their shot. Why?! 🤷🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

[@johngonzalez4298]

A small percentage of women are just like Courtney 🥰. The first one is from the movie Juice (1992) with Tupac Shakur

[@devincognito8932]

I would say most women are. It’s just that the craziest are The loudest

[@thecommenter9267]

@@devincognito8932 Yep, this is true. The normal ones just aren't out here on these social platforms doing these things. They are very studious and industrious and unless you know them from college or through family/friends, you'd have almost no chance of randomly meeting them. They go to school or work, go home, cook, and go to bed. This is a separate issue because it means a huge chunk of women are pretty much inaccessible to men, but by no means are all of them (or even most) crazy.

[@Lonstermash]

Agreed. Especially here in Los Angeles, where I've lived my entire life, especially if they're wayyy above average in the looks department. Courtney is a unicorn in a city like LA

[@Lonstermash]

@@devincognito8932 and usually the best looking, unfortunately

[@RandomPerson-zx9vv]

Courtney, thank you for being a breath of fresh air.

[@CidVicious100]

"Maybe his leg was numb" 😆

[@LatimusChadimus]

That's like every woman from a 3-10 thinking they deserve a wealthy, responsible 6ft tall guy when only 14.5% of the US male population, 9% in the North American Continent, and those men 8-10 do not want the majority of those women. Idk how about half the population think there are 40-60% of men at 6ft tall. When it comes to 6+ figures and 6ft tall, that's roughly 1% Women have higher standards than reality can deliver. Be top notch, and vette properly fellas

[@CourtneyRyan]

Exactly lol it’s wild

[@LatimusChadimus]

@@CourtneyRyan 5'9 is the average in the US. I'm shorter than that and don't struggle with women, yet I'd probably find better quality women if i was 5'11 cuz even women 4'9-5'2 want 6ft+

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

Every woman? That's the reason for your demise. Definitely not every woman

[@SystematicMechanic]

@@LatimusChadimus Thing is High Demand Women don't really care about how tall a guy is. Just one of MANY reason they are so high in demand.

[@LatimusChadimus]

@@wyleecoyotee4252 my demise ? Of course not EVERY woman yet still the broad majority entering adulthood have this clouded idea that there's a 6ft tall guy out there for every girl I guess you didn't read my reply where i said i don't struggle. Read. Yes, i originally spoke with a superlative although it's a pretty darn high majority. Esp with online dating.

[@83series]

2:50 That facial expression said it all! 🤣 🤣😂🤣🤣f@#$ing hilarious!

[@sarahjane9644]

People have too many expectations when they go on dates.

[@DK-th5nt]

I will stay single for the rest of my life but at least it is way better than being in relationship with any of those crazy toxic people.

[@stevesmyth7413]

It can be misleading when a girl assumes they are pretty therefore the guy doesn’t date other pretty people as often because of online dating statistics because there are plenty of average guys that date attractive women often even through dating apps but as someone like myself who doesn’t use dating apps and haven’t ever had an issue finding women to date I still hear girls talk like this that iv met and it’s a turn off.

[@Kamanda010]

Killing it with the glasses Courtney!!

[@CourtneyRyan]

Thank you! ❤️

[@janpauledwarddedios5366]

One of my buddies post on social media and complain when he gets 1 rude comment instead of the other 100 supportive comments. It's hella annoying. I dont talk to him as much when he does this crap.

[@LatimusChadimus]

Welp....he's been feminized and if people become the average of the 5ppl they spend the most time with, glad you gtfo

[@trudgemankPhD]

Girls with ick lists need to see that episode of Friends where Chandler realizes he breaks up with girls for stupid reasons

[@AwesomelyAna]

Idk I trust that if I’m dating a guy and he likes a girl’s picture it doesn’t mean much and if it does mean something then well worrying about it and trying to get him to stop is not gonna help … maybe I’m in the minority here

[@bhart3321]

Thank you! A reasonable woman with a healthy self-esteem. My girlfriends have the same attitude albeit I'm hardly ever on social media so that may also be a factor.

[@MeddlerGhost]

People saying they want to avoid dating. Me crying every night because I know I'll never get a date.

[@DivineFrag]

Their roster of men that they don't want is like the bench on my fantasy football team - there's a reason they aren't starting.

[@JJsProductionx]

I hope the long term dynamics don't go down a negative spiral. I have faith people will wake up to the negatives of social media and the random validation through word of mouth, and vids like this, and just noticing it. I liked this one Courtney, keep exploring deeper

[@sickman5236]

I think we're lucky to get advices from such a beautiful woman. I don't know why but imo it gives so much credibility to it. Thank you, I'm now sub 😊

[@Keyon_Wilson]

Glad to say im not on any social media besides here and occasionally reddit. It's all a mental drain to me

[@HS24833]

Sad times we live in :(

[@josephstevens9888]

Courtney - are trying to keep us guys single? After seeing those Tik Tok girls you profiled, it makes it harder wanting to take a girl to the altar. However, I'm sure their are plenty of good girls out there - the kind of girls to build a future with - I just have to find them! Good work Courtney - love your content!!

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

She's Shaming all women for those Tiktok girls

[@SystematicMechanic]

So the girl at 2:41 thinks it's an honor to date her. In other words she thinks her "you know what" doesn't stink. Her Ego is through the roof. No high quality Man would want to marry this girl. Unless she changes real quick she'll get used and end up 10 years from now complaining on the Internet about how there are no good guys anymore. It's all self inflected.

[@philochristos]

This is the first time I've heard of the "ick" movement, but it sounds a lot like what used to be the "Seinfeld" movement.

[@SoWestMeetsEast]

3:18 Don't conflate attention with intention. We all want to get it in, we don't necessarily want to marry you.

[@teddychalgren]

Saturday afternoon 19 February 2022. 77 years ago today, the 4th Marine Division and the 5th Marine Division, with the 3rd Marine Division in reserve would begin landing on the southeastern beaches of Iwo Jima. When it was all over, thirty-six days of fighting, almost 7,000 Americans, most of them U.S. Marines, would perish fighting to secure this tiny island that was to be used as an air base. Twenty-seven Medals of Honor (our country’s highest military award for bravery) were awarded for action on Iwo Jima-more than any other battle in U.S. history. Just about all of the 18,000 Japanese defenders, led by Lt. Gen. Tadamichi Kuribayashi perished defending what technically was considered the Tokyo Prefecture. A moment of silence and reflection for all who perished in that terrible battle. Thanks for what you do, Courtney.

[@arthurmorgan2906]

TENNOHEIKA BANZAAAAI

[@toddgoogle4387]

Courtney is a well grounded lady

[@Razear]

The girl that thinks the guy she's dating has no other option outside of her will be in for a rude awakening when she hits the wall and the tables turn. She will be the one without any options when she's 40 and unmarried while the guy will be free to date women half his age.

[@MikhailFederov]

Jesus Christ. Guys have the same access girls do but I’ve never heard of a dude going through another guy’s post to see if his girl liked them.

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

You would never hear about it but it happens

[@MikhailFederov]

@@wyleecoyotee4252 Edge case

[@MKF30]

Nice vid the only thing I respectfully disagree with you on is the *dealbreaker* thing I know a girl who won't date a guy no matter if he's nice, has a job or lives with family or not but if he doesn't drive thats her "deal-breaker" to me thats kind of dumb and comes off as a materialistic element to judge someone prematurely or that tells me as a guy she just wants to be picked up and driven around everywhere. Is it convenient? Sure but necessary? No. Jutmst my opinion on that especially in say a city like where I am we have alternatives cabs, users, buses etc Nice video I agree with most of your points.

[@arminxvs3372]

Mediocre and average people expecting the extraordinary on every date. Man social media really selling a dream-lifestyle people started to believe that.

[@bryonkielian225]

I think it’s time you make a fake dating profile project! Do it with one of the girls you feature, one make a female profile, other makes a male, and show how much different it is for men and women on dating apps! Also, it’s just insane how little the dating population thinks of the other side. If guys were to start posting “don’t mess up bc I have options” content, they would be lambasted into the next century. One reason of many why finding myself and being happy single, while being patiently optimistic about finding someone is perfectly okay for me at the time being lol

[@bhart3321]

Trust me you can break it down even further. Make separate male profiles that are exactly the same, but make one a very attractive guy & make one an average looking guy. Then make one with average looking guy but 6 figure high status job vs really good looking guy that has low wage dead end job. Bet without a doubt good looking chad type profile will just blow both average looking guys out of the water, even the average joe that has high status job & 6 figures.

[@anandaalvarez4336]

I’m a girl that has never scroll dawn the people he follows

[@Phantomcrust91]

If a women was going to tell me that she could date a pile of other guys beside me, I would say good luck to you and have fun because I don't want to be with someone that is willing to dangle the carrot just to prove a point.

[@danielmankowski922]

Courtney's Cringe Reaction @ 5:53 is priceless!

[@ilai7893]

Lmao about the first concept of stalking -- as a single guy who's told female friends about a girl I've been seeing, it entertains me to no end when I post a pic with another friend while getting food and it captures her painted nails, or I tag a coworker in a FB meme, and the first friend comes and msgs "👀/ date?/ Is it her?" because they see my social media activity #baited

[@MG-qd6im]

You have solid content for some, namely the young, immature, and insecure.

[@idomalion6167]

I've learnt to invest as little as possible time, money and effort when dating women , I also go for the hook up. It's the only way to avoid the jokers.

[@jarodorla6949]

Courtney I think an interview with Alexi Turner from tiktok would make for an insightful dialogue

[@johnangiolillo4051]

People get off more with having a victim mentality and posting it online for attention than simply being happy.

[@90s-Trance_86]

someone can explain to me about the icking part?? dont understand that on

[@Thebackyardfest]

Courtney where can I send you a question for you to read and possibly answer in a video or just read and answer? I feel like it’s a very good topic

[@CourtneyRyan]

I have a highlight on my Instagram profile called “Need Advice?” and you can submit it there on the Google form!

[@lord.of_iron]

These videos sure make me feel vindicated in my decision to just not play the game and stay celibate.

[@johnmetzger7646]

Social media lets people know that crazy is okay and normal.

[@zeroh2hero]

Great video Courtney keep spreading the word. 💙

[@michaelbabbage9146]

There's a girl I dated and we were instantly a match . So we linked up a couple of times and it was always worth it. So one time she went through my phone and she saw me texting other girls and I apologized for everything and tried to patch things up and it worked. So recently I started noticing how she changed her way of texting. She was responding late,giving off horrible energy etc. Then I asked her about and it became an argument. So I didn't Wanna escalate things further I just decided to play it off because I love her and I didn't wanna ruin what we have over a silly issue. So the next day she ended texting me and sent a voicenote then she blocked me.. I tried to call her to ask her why she did but she blocked my calls. It was a day before valentine's day and I decided that I should get her gift just to make up for the argument because I didn't wanna lose her. So I went over to her house and I left the gift to her cousin so that she could receive it. I was hopeful that she would unblock me and we can work on things. so I waited. Valentine's day came and went she didn't unblock me. I started going through depression for 6 days . I didn't know what to do. I was constantly sad and I didn't know how to move on. Then on the 6th day after valentine's day. She decided to unblock me and thanked me for the gift so we decided to patch things up and I was happy again. So for the next two days she had toxic energy whenever we texted.late replies and horrible responses. So yesterday I wanted to meet up with her but she ended making excuses about why she couldn't meet me. So I just ignored it. Then today this morning I texted her , hi , how's your morning going. And she texted me saying that she'd prefer that I stay very very far away from because we're not going anywhere. Right now am depressed because I don't know why she would say that. Please can anyone help me 🥺

[@thecommenter9267]

Oh boy, where to start.. First of all, if a woman is trying that hard to cut off connection with you, block you, etc., it's already over. There is no negotiating love or attraction. No gift will have her running back into your arms. Think of it like grabbing a fistful of sand. The more tightly you try to hold on to it, the faster it seeps through the cracks of your fingers. I understand it's easier said than done but it's important to be able to separate your own life from the status of the relationship (whether good or bad). The fact that your mood and happiness is constantly swinging based on what the current state of the relationship is not good. It's a feeling of helplessness and loss of autonomy. I've been there. If she has "toxic energy" towards you, why are you so desperate to have her? You must be able to define your own boundaries and not allow a woman to walk all over you. And if she does, SHE has to realize that it will spell the end of the relationship. The problem here is that's exactly what she's trying to do (the first point I made), and therefore it's already over. Women take a long time to make up their mind, but once they do, it's done.

[@abraheemp2171]

She had another valentine's, hence why she got so mad out of nowhere. Just move on, best advice.

[@michaelbabbage9146]

@@thecommenter9267 it's just that I was Soo hopeful that things would go back to how things were at first.

[@thecommenter9267]

@@michaelbabbage9146 "Do not pray for an easy life; pray for the strength to endure a difficult one." - Bruce Lee You cannot try to control everything in life and it really doesn't matter if you were "hopeful" or not. Life will always manage to throw a wrench your way. The most important thing is to be adaptable.

[@jleano609]

You sound pretty young, and this relationship sounds pretty short term. You don’t say so I have to read between the lines. As others have said, you are putting way too much emotional investment into this, and way too much qualifying to this girl. You’ll learn over time that this is not the healthy way to approach things with women. You just got a big lesson. It’s over with her. It was the first time she started pulling away. All you can do now is exit with dignity. SHE’S ONLY A GIRL. You got one, you can get others.

[@adamcraig1468]

What these women dont realise is that men also get the ick but they just work through that. But they're too self centred to realise their own flaws

[@dochamp2]

You are correct, women date on easy mode, men on hard mode

[@LadyGabriela-77.]

I don’t follow my boyfriend on Instagram. Too much stress and not real life.

[@TheMirabillis]

A lot of Girls and Women are going to have horrible lives when they get older because they are going to find out that not many people will want them anymore. Once their youthful looks are gone, then People will not be validating them by liking their pictures. People are attracted by Beauty and older people lose their outward Beauty. Gravity sets in and things begin to sag.

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

No one wants older men either.

[@Rick_Cleland]

@@wyleecoyotee4252 Not true.

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

@@Rick_Cleland Lol..reality bites men too

[@todds.6028]

8:02 Wrong. Exactly the opposite. They're clearly VERY happy with themselves. Women have had their egos fed for so long now that they really do have an over-inflated sense of their own self-worth. They REALLY DO believe they're ENTITLED to an absolutely perfect guy...and will settle for nothing less. The future is bleak for these women. A lot of them will die alone.

[@belladonnabudgets7362]

The “I’m the only one that likes you, you’re not the only one that likes me” statement is something that abusive people say. What she’s saying is, Nobody else will love you.” Classic narcissist.

[@Lafilledlapluie]

All these videos were narcissists especially the underwear chick 🤣

[@joshuaparson9902]

Holy crap Courtney those glasses look amazing

[@natedavidoff668]

My cat found all the girls I liked on my Instagram feed and she walked out on me.

[@bhart3321]

I've heard her say that many times stop following ig models etc, but what about women that are supposedly in committed relationships still posting thirst traps or talking to multiple guy "friends" isn't that even more disrespectful than guys that are just looking at women? I mean what's bad for one is bad for the other right? Just seems like she doesn't touch on that bit nearly like she does the guys following e-thots like that's more of an issue. Maybe I'm being defensive but my GFs literally follow all the same chicks I do, albeit they are almost all their cosplay/streamer friends but still their socials are absolutely full of lewd pics & if I don't like their friends posts they tell me about it so I can login to like in support. Tbh I have social media but I'm hardly on it.

[@Kal.El1]

The first thing I think when I see these toxic videos is ‘there’s going to be a LOT of cat ladies in the not too distant future.’ Meow. The best way for young women to avoid making these toxic mistakes is for them look to those in their lives who have good, healthy relationships not faceless people on social media who clearly have massive issues & couldn’t hold down a good relationship if their life depended on it. Don’t complicate your life needlessly, ladies 🙄

[@chewbrocka6833]

All relationships are transactional. Social media has made the opportunity for options. This makes people less dedicated and committed. Most people are not willing to work through rough patches. People then set up conditions but can't find anyone with them or they compromise, but then it's back to comparing. Relationships are jobs. They require work. How women and men have their options also are completely different. Men seem to be having hard time to just find people that want them, let alone compare their options.

[@AZ_TONY]

Courtney, I apologize if this question comes off as ignorant but do you have a strong relationship with your father? One thing I've noticed is majority of women that behave as depicted in this video usually have very little to no connection or relationship to their father, I'm beginning to wonder if there is a correlation there

[@CourtneyRyan]

I don’t have a relationship at all with my biological father. However, I am lucky enough to have an amazing step-father in my life who I consider to be my dad ☺️ so yes, my situation just looks different than most.

[@Void_of_Light]

I’m so glad I don’t have social media apps. Cesspool of filthiest behaviors

[@Grandmaster_Dragonborn]

Courtney, I understand you’ve probably gotten this kind of comment loads of times, but I need to get my take of my chest. 📝 I just turned 18, that’s adult age in England, and the prospect of relationships with girls is more in my mind than ever, but the drawback is that I genuinely hate most kinds of girls my age. Most are: - Loud - Obnoxious - Hyper-sexual - Seemingly try to act masculine all the time - Go overboard with makeup - Lack of respect - Spend their lives on their phone - Are totally unreadable And they exhibit most of the toxic behaviours you talk about. All this is one of the many things that’s caused me severe depressive states these last few months; I’ve just been referred for counselling by my college. I genuinely want a strong, healthy & long lasting relationship, but most girls I see, they’re standard is just so poor. I feel like I’m in a sea of zombies. But, I discover you; a woman who’s: - kind - pretty - respectful - smart - has a life outside her phone - honest - relatable - easy to talk to - not afraid to embrace being feminine And as a golden rule, is down to Earth. You make wonderful videos that show there are genuinely good women in the world who are different from the masses & worthy of a healthy relationship & having a ring put on her finger. So, thank you, for helping with my stress, teaching me how to be a better man & giving me hope in love. I could go on all day but, that’d take too much space, as much as I’d like to ;) God bless your soul. 💟

[@celticc9580]

I am 50, and I hate to tell you but girls your age were exactly the same when I was your age. The only difference is that they are less in shape (as are men)

[@jleano609]

It will get better. Girls at that age are pretty awful for the most part. For the next few years they are at their peak SMV and are “playing with dynamite”. Some will start to level up and fly right in their early twenties when hit with some of life’s harsh realities, but many won’t and will get run through before emerging from their wild and crazy phase with no guy wanting to take them seriously. As a young guy you just have to be patient. At 18 you don’t yet have the power to take a girl and mould her into GF material but if you get in your purpose, via education, job, money, fitness etc in time the power dynamic shifts. You can have fun with girls through this period but don’t commit to anything serious. This is your learning phase. Keep building through your twenties and you’ll find there will come a day when you have the upper hand with semi- sensible 20-25 yo girls, and have enough frame and game that you can get them “flying right” and ready for a committed relationship. As said, be patient and keep grinding. IT WILL COME!

[@RestingRelaxation]

Is it bad if I don't have an IG?

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

You're smart if you don't have it

[@thelegendarycamel]

If I ever found out my girl was snooping through my stuff we are done right there, I don't breach your privacy you sure as hell won't be breaching mine, if we have no trust there's no point anyway.

[@Jotaro5181]

Women have crazy standards sometimes.😔

[@balham5606]

Courtney Ryan with her glasses today 😊

[@CourtneyRyan]

🤓

[@IAmTheRawls]

Good morning, Courtney. Thanks again for the advice watching your videos.

[@stevenbrashear3408]

Okay, I get it that it's not respectful for guys to be following and putting likes to half naked women on social media if and when he's with a girlfriend. However, what about when a woman does the same thing if and when she's involved with her boyfriend? Don't you see the double standard here? It's not respectful for either party to do that.

[@CourtneyRyan]

I totally agree with you! If a girl doesn’t want her boyfriend following/liking stuff like that, she shouldn’t be posting it herself lol

[@stevenbrashear3408]

@@CourtneyRyan good, I'm glad to see that we're both on the same page!

[@SaturnVII]

Great videos. Ive been doing better in the game the last year (just stop worrying) and I really get a kick out of these girls who act like they're hot because "I can call up any one of 30 guys" So? Like I can't? Like you're the only one getting laid? Like you're my one shot? Few people are so blatantly rude in person because they have no stomach for the response, but this guy 👍👍 doesn't negotiate with terrorists. No ultimatums in this dojo. We're going to be adults.

[@juliooquendo220]

And this why Most guys are single. I guess SOME of these women were raised by their stepdad who treated them like crap or by a single mom to tell them about how bad men are. This generation will head down a dark path.

[@LatimusChadimus]

It's society. Public schools and universities are geared towards women; teaching women how to succeed and teaching boys they're defective girls. Women end up becoming the man they want to marry and marry themselves while at the same time molding the boys into the betas they don't want. This is why I fully support Courtney's channel. She needs a JOIN button 100%

[@sinthujanvinacithamby1901]

I like how Courtney gives the most sound advice while most women out there aren't as level headed as she she 😂. For a lot of us in the dating game logic and principles don't exist