entitled brides and grooms and their delulu demands - REACTION

[@MissJellybean]

My husband is Chinese and his mother taught me all of her famous recipes that he loves as well as how to properly use a rice cooker. When it came time for the wedding we incorporated both Western and Eastern traditions in our ceremony. We felt that it was a blending of two cultures and our wedding should represent that. This woman does not deserve to marry into that family. They seem lovely she seems like the wicked witch of the West, lol

[@PlanetC64]

That is so cool!

[@ellemmenn2930]

That’s really lovely, as you said a blending of cultures… not a damn dictatorship… I fear for that marriage

[@jenniferwintz2514]

I see what you did there, very punny! What type of Chinese cuisine, if I may ask? I know there is incredible diversity in Chinese cuisine and of course other ethnic groups in China that are different.

[@wewenang5167]

@@jenniferwintz2514 most Chinese in north America are either Hokkien from Fujian, Cantonese or Sichuanese...so maybe one of those.

[@carriethompson7919]

I love this so much🥰🥰

[@entiro]

If anyone is interested in the first story's tradition, its called 四点金 / Si Dian Jin, that translates to 4 pieces of gold. Its gifted to the Bride from the the Groom's family as a "welcome" to the family gift and usually quite expensive as the jewellery is typically worn during the wedding as a sign of the family's wealth.

[@s.a.4358]

Is the jewellery then worn again at other events typically? Or maybe not the whole set together but the separate pieces? I have a close friend who is from Pakistan and the wedding there are very fancy with a lot of jewellery and it is also 4 days, so a lot of fancy clothes. But it is common to wear the clothes and jewellery from some of the wedding events again to other people’s weddings or other big events.

[@pixiestxNyomouf]

​@@s.a.4358well, someone did notice her mom wearing her necklace in order for it to be brought to the racist entitled brides attention, so I'm sure they can wear it

[@autumn1734]

Thank you, learn something new.

[@FishiesRCute]

Is it normal that the mom would already have a set for OP's girlfriend (even though they are not engaged) but not for the soon to be bride?

[@catsandfriends5918]

Thank you for the knowledge. That's really cool.

[@rebeccapierson5498]

I grew up with a Cambodian family and loved all the traditions that I was allowed to participate in. I’m a picky eater but I still found plenty to eat at these festivals. It’s shameful that this bride to be acts like this. Her attitude is disgusting.

[@angelface925]

Absolutely! Even if you don't LIKE the foods, it doesn't mean you can't appreciate the time and effort. ❤

[@LazyIRanch]

I've never met a style of Asian food I didn't love, but in my hometown in Texas, we had a lot of Cambodian and Vietnamese immigrants and those restaurants were my favorites. Lots of fresh vegetables and seafood beautifully served. I was lucky to grow up in a city full of immigrants from around the world and enjoyed experiencing glimpses of other cultures. I can't imagine anyone NOT enjoying the time-honored traditions of others, especially when it involves parties and celebrations! My favorite boss was from India and I got to be friends with some of his family who attended college in the states. They were such kind people and very funny. My boss would take us employees out for a nice steak dinner when we met production goals, 4 times a year. I asked him, "Aren't cows sacred in your culture?" He smiled and told me that American cows were much less sacred than Indian cows. I admitted to my boss's niece that I had bought some gorgeous silk at a local sari shop but now I feel bad because I want to make a dress from it, but I'm afraid I'd be appropriating Indian culture if I did. She laughed and told me to knock myself out and make something nice with the fabric. "It's just fabric, it's not sacred! Have you even seen a Bollywood film, especially the scenes in the rain?" (they are very sensuous and sexy)

[@AliceNsWonderland]

I've been a vegetarian since I was seven but I still found a way to be respectful, appreciative and thankful when I went to visit my parents in Malaysia! Especially if you're marrying into the family, don't be an asshat!

[@lawtraf8008]

@@LazyIRanch I thought y'all in Texas were racist af, your comment surprises me. Y'all are considered the American Nazis

[@awkwardDebs]

Much love to you from my Cambodian family!!! ❤❤❤

[@crichtonbruce4329]

I used to work as the caretaker for the largest Catholic church in my city. Brides love it as the best photos could be taken there. The pastor told me about the worst Choosing Beggar couple he'd had: The couple came to him saying they were having problems financially and could they get a discount on the cost for the church service? (which back then was about $200.00). Being kind, and moved by their tale of woe he waved the fee altogether. A week before the wedding the pastor found out their reception was for 250+ people and was being held at the most expensive venue in town with a live band, open bar, and all the bells and whistles. He, being now more than a bit upset, called the couple saying he now expected the full fee to be paid in advance or they could find another place to hold the ceremony.

[@buckfuddy5561]

We have a Catholic church in my town called the Cathedral..I think they actually started making a rule that ya had to be a parishioner for a certain amount of time if ya wanted to ever get married in it

[@buckfuddy5561]

And yeah, I bet they were having financial issues with a wedding/reception of that magnitude 🤣 It’s a shame they chose the church to try and weasel a freebie out of

[@buckfuddy5561]

So I have to ask, did they end up paying the $200??

[@crichtonbruce4329]

@@buckfuddy5561 Yup. It was that or cancel everything and re-book elseware.

[@crichtonbruce4329]

@@buckfuddy5561 The church fee was probably less than the brides bouquet.

[@lavender2290]

The first bride is uncalled for. You’re willing to ignore and shame and bully other traditions but want the one worth money? She’s probably going to pawn them

[@JanieBgrand]

That was never said. In fact, the op said she has never given any evidence of racism or other issues.

[@giggle_snort]

​@@JanieBgrand He said that, but he also gave examples of things she's said that ARE racist. Like calling Lunar New Year a made up holiday. I don't know if all Asian countries and cultures celebrate LNY, but I know that several of them do at least, and like Charlotte said, LNY has been around for thousands of years, whereas the western cultures have only been celebrating the new year on January 1st since the 1500s CE. Look it up. So who's the one with the made up holiday? This is only one example given of her racism. OP was either blind to it or trying to give her the benefit of the doubt, but she's 100% racist.

[@nehamaw]

@@giggle_snort agreed 100%. its nice he doesnt think of her as racist. but the comments he mentioned 100% are

[@ElleD308]

I mean, she's marrying the doormat bro for the money hahaha why do you think the hot gorgeous woman is there?

[@middylou]

YUUUUP that’s a down payment on a house

[@dmf1301]

A toaster is a perfectly nice gift if someone needs one. I got my brother a toaster once for his birthday. He had been complaining that his wasn't working, so I just decided to get him a new one. He opened the package, yelled 'yes!', hugged me, and immediately took the old one out to the rubbish bin to die! It's about what you need more than the actual cost sometimes. :p

[@mirabai305]

They were 100% planning to sell that jewelry, and not wear it in the wedding. Side note, I would really love a toaster that made the toast say petty.

[@LazyIRanch]

I saw a toaster at a thrift store that made "Jesus" toast by burning His image on the bread. I still regret not buying it. I have an antique plate circa 1950s that has an image of Jesus that looks so weird and sad it's kind of funny. That plate with a slice of Jesus toast would have made a great pic for a meme.

[@aoneal3723]

I would buy petty toaster merch

[@rayannejacobs8700]

Charlotte needs that toaster!

[@mirabai305]

@@rayannejacobs8700 I would buy it!

[@FishiesRCute]

There is something really off about this story. Why would the mom have a set picked out for OP's girlfriend (even though they aren't engaged) but not for the bride-to-be who is engaged. I get vibes of OP being the golden child and brother being constantly stepped over. It would explain why he is so willing to give up all of his cultural traditions. This family has a toxic streak that is hard to spot but it is there. No wonder the brother was mad about the jewelry... snubbed yet again because of the golden child. Sounds like he is ready to be done with his family.

[@sandralouth3103]

The most fun wedding I ever went to was my middle sons. We are Scottish and his bride is Chinese. We had bagpipes, and lion dancers. There were tons of people from both cultures having the time of their lives.

[@restezlameme]

That sounds awesome!

[@YouveBeenMegged]

That sounds dope! Congrats to your son and his wife!

[@paulagoeringer9466]

I would have loved to have seen something that amazing. It sounds like it was a blast. 🎉 Congratulations.

[@alyzu4755]

That sounds so fun! A friend of mine, who's Chinese, married a Jewish man. They had dragon dancers and a red chuppah. ☺️

[@valiantsfelinesmccarty6678]

That would have been amazing both cultures believing in dragons My goodness It would have been awesome I would have loved to have gone coming from a girl who is part Scots My goodness.

[@Vee-Shan-CC]

I was with my ex-fiance for 11 years. 4 years in his best friend is getting married. I'm invited but told that I am not allowed to interact with my fiance at all. No sitting with him, no dancing with him, I'm not allowed to approach the wedding party's table... nothing. I'm feeling bummed and excluded and suspicious of the bride or the groom. Well my suspicions were correct. Far into the party my fiance walks over to me with a woman in tow. This woman is the bride's best friend and the person that my fiance has been partnered with for the wedding. The bride had purposefully done so in the hopes that my fiance and her would get together! As they explained this to me I was flabbergasted. Completely shocked and angry. The best friend was mortified and annoyed at the Bride for pushing this agenda... especially since she is married with kids! So the bride and groom were trying to break up two relationships so their best friends could date. Absolutely delusional behavior. We sat around together and drank. The bride kept glaring at us as I had her best friend on one side of my and my fiance on the other. We just laughed and got to know the best friend instead of letting the bride and groom see that their plan was working in the slightest. I don't miss them in my life.

[@kyndread71]

This is absolutely glorious. We demand pics! 😅

[@1ACL]

What?? Just WHAT IN THE H WAS THAT? That's crazy!

[@buckfuddy5561]

Is your husband still friends with the groom?? They sound like awful people.. Just wait til KARMA pays them a visit!! Edit- I do hope you’re still friends with the BF tho!! Sounds like a pleasant person considering she wasn’t havin it either.. I bet her husband was not happy as well!!

[@buckfuddy5561]

Oh AND…I was the “69th like”..🤣

[@stampandscrap7494]

Glad their friend was a nice person, even if they weren't

[@stephanieblanchard1798]

If you can't afford a big wedding, don't have a big wedding. All my husband and I could afford at the time was a wedding on my friends front porch with a handful of guests and a sheet cake from Sam's club. We are about to celebrate 22 years and if I could go back and do it again, I'd do it the same way!!

[@mariedelaurentis980]

Cheers! We're married 22 years and after the Mass had our wedding reception at a restaurant with immediate family. We both agree we'd do it the same way over and over again.

[@RainyLS]

I love all these comments telling the stories of their weddings. I remember one with someone who got married in a prison chapel because it was free. May you and all those people live long, happy lives with your spouses ❤

[@juliamartin4141]

I wore Mom’s wedding dress, had the ceremony and reception at the church, Mom made the attendants dresses and the shirts my little brother and nephew (3.5years old) wore as the ring bearers. I think it was all under $500. I loved it. I wouldn’t have changed anything. Mom died in 2012. I miss her. My wedding was in 1972 and I and my husband were 17 years old. My husband died in 2007 and we had been married almost 35 years. My dad is gone too, sadly. I miss them all.

[@alisias8365]

I wore my SIL’s dress and got married in my in-law’s back yard. We’ve been married 19 years this year.

[@alyzu4755]

Yup! Married 23 years. Ceremony was in his parents' living room with a cake from Costco. 😂

[@LS-um3zq]

The first bride that rejected all aspects of Chinese tradition, except money, is indeed racist. If the family backs down to her demand for jewelry, I hope they don't spend their traditional amount and the piece SCREAMS Chinese!

[@chrisbuttonshaw2088]

she's certainly passive-aggressive racist

[@1COMIXMAN]

Id have a small gold necklace with a tiny Dragon on the outside of a yin yang symbol. Pure Chinese themed. Then see her explode in her racist rant exposing her gold digging ways.

[@LazyIRanch]

I've bought some cute jewelry from the Temu site. I got a really cute pair of earrings for 77 cents that has black kittens that look like my cat! They even sell pieces they call "wedding jewelry" that are quite lovely and less than $10. Problem solved!

[@brandybender4763]

YES, YES, YES. Preach it bro.😇😂🥳

[@t-and-p]

Yeah, that first bride is something else... As a student, many years ago, one of my friends was Chinese and away from home studying for a year. We hated the idea of him being alone over Christmas, so my family and I invited him to join us for our celebrations (all my relatives got him a small gift each, so that he wouldn't be left out, and we introduced him to all our Christmas Eve, Christmas Day & Boxing Day traditions). He seemed to really enjoy himself. When Lunar New Year rolled round a month or two later, during term time, he wanted to celebrate, so our friend group asked all about it, what was needed, etc, then helped him set up and celebrated with him. We did that for a fellow student who was only here for a year, and that bride couldn't do it for her future life partner? 👀 She's giving off more red flags than the bunting on Bake Off... 😬

[@karenneill9109]

To the bride who wanted to borrow her sister’s house during COVID…. How selfish can you get? Invade your sister’s house for an event she can’t attend? Do you know how much work it is to get a house ready for such an event? You have to clean from top to bottom, coordinate deliveries and set up for a couple of days beforehand (especially covering her pool!), arrange for pick-ups on the other side, re-arrange your entire kitchen for caterers, and generally have your life utterly disrupted for about a week. Dozens of people coming into her house, and she’d have to clean after every group in order to use her space comfortably. And no way would I let people in my house without supervising them. Besides, I’m guessing that gatherings that size weren’t allowed at that time (given that her event space drew the line at 20), so she’s risking fines, and having the event shut down (although it was outside, so that may have been different). Delulu.

[@buckfuddy5561]

I recall a wedding reception that happened in October when all that C@vid stuff was happening.. There was maybe 50+ ppl there and I believe 10 of them got sick, and one even passed away.. I figured if I wasn’t allowed to work my salon job how could ppl be so careless and gather that many ppl together,(when ya weren’t supposed to),and put ppl at risk?? I think the venue did get a fine that the couple ended up having to pay, as well

[@buckfuddy5561]

I can’t believe how entitled that bride to be seemed.. especially since her sister was pregnant.. And who TF wants that many ppl in their house in the middle of a pandemic?? Especially being pregnant

[@wardenm]

​@@buckfuddy5561ESPECIALLY at seven and a half months pregnant!!! Third trimester can be hell on a mother as is, nevermind all that added stress and risk!

[@cherie7100]

I know this is a late reply, but my immediate thoughts were it was only because she moved to such a fancy house! If she was moving to a regular house she would never have asked.

[@toecutterjones]

I honestly feel bad for their future children who probably won't know their Asian heritage very well or will push it away because mother doesn't approve.

[@brandybender4763]

Considering the way she's being now there's a good chance that the marriage won't last. Hopefully, that being the case, they don't procreate. Because if they do & then divorce there's a very good chance that she will turn the children against, not only her in-laws, but also their father. Definitely their father. "We are not here for that, babe." It's one thing when her attitude affects their marriage, & even the in-laws, but when children are brought into it, it's just plain wrong. They don't know any different & rely on their parents for what they do know.

[@cherami-nox-fleuret]

She's gonna say an Asian slur against his kids and he'll do nothing to stop her while she justifies it saying she's married to an Asian guy, I bet.

[@honestyisadyingvirtue]

Lol love the predictions based on a one sided story, neither of which are coming from the people that are actually in the relationship. Honestly sounds like the brother might not be into his traditions as well and if not, that's ok. We all choose how we want to live our lives and who are we to dictate what is right or wrong. Funny how you don't really get a strong sense of what the brother who is marrying this person is actually like as well, brother couldve made it clear that he still partakes while she doesn't but he doesn't clarify that. And maybe that's because he doesn't partake. Either way their both right. Now just wanting to partake in the monetary tradition while tossing all the others aside, makes her & him such nasty hypocrites, but that's about as far as an opinion a reasonable person can deduce from this story. All the other hyperbolic stuff is just hateful speculation on your end.

[@honestyisadyingvirtue]

​@@cherami-nox-fleuret😂😂 omg you all are funny. Really, your really gonna speculate that this action will happen from a one sided story from an outside perspective. From someone who clearly has different values from his brother. I can't with this 😂😂 to funny.

[@cherami-nox-fleuret]

@@honestyisadyingvirtue yea ofc, she wanted nothing to do with tradition until money was involved so..

[@rosie288]

These videos made me think of my wedding. I was 19, gave two shits about planning it. Since my dad and mom paid for it, they planned everything on a budget. Rented a bar, deli meats, cheeses, fruits. People wore whatever they liked. No rules, we had fun! Loved it!

[@Artemis.94]

Even if OP said they didnt sense racist vibes, I, as a fellow Asian, respectfully disagree. The SIL is deliberately rejecting her husband's tradition. Thats part of who he is as a human being so I dont get why you wont want to participate in that part of his life.

[@LazyIRanch]

She's blatantly disrespecting her future husband's family and traditions. My family immigrated from Germany @ 1870, to Texas. Many of my German ancestors met and married Mexican folks, and made our family much better and more interesting. The best weddings I've ever attended had Mariachi bands, wonderful Mexican food, and lots of colorful flowers and clothing... and dancing until we all dropped. Good times! I saw a tradition at a huge wedding in Mexico City that I thought was so sweet it made me cry. The best man took off his tux jacket and walked to every table at the reception wearing his white shirt (several hundred guests). He had a big jar of safety pins, which we used to pin paper money to his shirt. When he had been around the room and his shirt was completely covered in money, he went to the groom, took his shirt off, and handed it to the groom. When I realized the symbolism of the man literally giving his BFF the shirt off his back, I lost it!

[@stadot1427]

I'm afraid I may have to semi-disagree. This is one of those cases where race and culture are very closely intermingled. Race is a matter of one's body to which people attach expectations, behaviors and judgements. It's not something you can choose to change. Culture is a matter of the way one lives life in relation to family, socialization, and traditions. It is entirely one's own choice, though choosing to change things may be painful. If she's marrying him, she's presumably fine with his body. It's his culture she is rejecting at every turn. That being said, I agree that if it's to the point of avoiding family gatherings and wedding traditions, she is definitely rejecting and trying to change his culture and specifically familial traditions. Edit: and yes, part of his life & identity

[@VashtiPerry]

Yes, agreed.

[@olympiaelda1121]

Maybe in this case. But traditions can be many times toxic, shouldnt be treated as something untouchable and sacred.

[@Mariewolf_94]

i agree. being a racist doesnt necessarily mean cursing out, using negative slurs toward, and/or getting violent against someone that isnt part of your race. being disrespectful of and invalidating one's culture and traditions is also being racist. anyone w/ an open mind and a brain that doesnt see ppl based on their skin color/race would be absolutely THRILLED to experience other cultures, through one's wedding or otherwise! witnessing others' traditions and culture is such a fascinating, enriching experience. you dont necessarily have to enjoy it, because if you dont you dont, but it's incredibly disrespectful to just disregard someone else's culture. gonna have to disagree w/ OP FSIL isnt racist, she is, just not a raging AH about it

[@Slap_Shot1977]

My wife of 25 years is Thai and I embraced that part of her from the minute we met. Luckily I had already been familiar with Thai food, but I knew next to nothing about the country and her culture. She taught me along the way, I've visited at least a dozen times now and couldn't be happier, and even to this day I learn new things about Thailand that I never knew before. I love that aspect of our relationship. I never saw anything about her culture as weird - just different and people are people we just come from different places. I'll reserve judgment towards anyone in the video, but my advice is to give new experiences a chance before shutting them out. The world is far too vast too limit ourselves.

[@brittanybryce7596]

The chick who wants her wedding at her sisters place is out of her ever loving mind. She puts the Du in dumb.

[@InteriorDesignStudent]

Or the "duh" in dumb lol

[@plushypuppy2024]

it's awful, just chipping in on someones nice place...what a horrible thing to do to your sister, make her feel unreasonable when she has kindly bought your dress!...she needs to back off!

[@InteriorDesignStudent]

@@plushypuppy2024 I hope when she is 7 months pregnant, she will grovel at her sister's feet for this audacity. She sounds spoiled.

[@plushypuppy2024]

@@InteriorDesignStudent she's definitely had her own way one too many times!...you have to pull the plug on people like that before they absorb you like a sponge!...she'll probably guilt trip her too. Awful

[@omegabae1293]

Duh-lulu

[@michellerobin5461]

My brother is getting married in September… He FINALLY got back together with the mother of his children after…. 30 or so years! They’ve always been friends, great co parenting, and finally they’re tying the knot! She is the opposite of bridezilla. So sweet! I’ve been asked to be a bridesmaid, and I’m making the cake! I want to offer my mom’s set of pearls as the “something borrowed”. I inherited my mom’s jewelry after she passed. I hope she says yes! My mom just loved her. She would be so happy ❤️ To the bride who only appreciates the expensive tradition, eff you. You don’t deserve such a great family in law.

[@Vayeya1]

30 years, oh Wow! Sounds really romantic, why did they separated the first time? What do their kids say?

[@jworth7203]

My best friend is a labor and delivery nurse. Throughout the worst of the pandemic, she helped many many women with Covid to labor and deliver their babies and her heart broke for them. It was SO hard and made everything so much harder. That sister is not only an AH, she’s an incredibly selfish AH.

[@cbpd89]

I had a baby during covid, and I can't imagine having covid while having a baby. How awful! Those L&D nurses are legit heroes. This bride is completely missing the point that her sister's health was at a much higher risk than the average person and even if it wasn't, don't ask a pregnant lady to host and clean up after a wedding. She can't bend over, she has no energy, and she doesn't need that stress! Throw in the pandemic and it is downright dangerous!

[@melissagladstone5968]

I've had a baby and I've had covid. Not both at the same time. Could never imagine that and would never want someone who is pregnant going through that. How awful it must be.

[@purelightapologetics4930]

@@melissagladstone5968YES! Especially if she just moved a month and a half ago!

[@izzyrainydayz]

This rose gold type color she has set on the LEDS brings such warmth to Charlotte’s face and hair. I absolutely love it and I’ve been adoring the hair styles she’s been rocking in these past few videos!

[@joyfulinhope1210]

The first story is just malicious compliance. 😂 The girlfriend refused the morning ceremony, which is when the jewelry is given. It’s her own fault. Also, why is the brother marrying a woman who so blatantly disrespects his culture? I hope they break up.

[@deineroehre]

I find it sad that they marry in the first place. He should dump her and find a better woman because this "relationship" will only make headaches for everyone. Ok, perhaps she is extremely hot, a bomb in bed or has other advantages what would make one want to marry her, but these things can change fast and then there is nothing left in the relationship.

[@bubries]

probably a pushover. if someone pretended my culture was an inconvenience. they can leave.

[@Nekoriz]

​@MsJubjubbird that may be the case, but the SIL even refuses to eat together with the groom's family because of the smell. Now imagine if they got married and he have to deal to stop eating the food he grew up with because his new "wife" couldn't stand it. That marriage is doomed tbh lol

[@CHICK-A-BOOM]

He sounds like he has issues with his own culture and maybe some embarrassment. I have kids I work with and their parents, who are like that.

[@someone3187]

He's blinded by love. She's pretty and has a few degrees, which seems to be important to many Asians.

[@georgia3043]

Someone once told me "when you marry someone not only do marry that person but you marry their family and everything about your fiancée which includes personal beliefs traditions and traditions have a lot of sentimental, emotional and religious meaning to many people and sometimes it means everything or is a way they connect to relatives both living on earth and living in heaven "

[@dnahubs]

I work in one of the most popular restaurants in my city which has a function hall. Had a bride just last October come in 1 month before the wedding making a reservation for a certain date and time. I informed her that the date was already taken for another wedding and that they would most likely be using the venue over the time she wanted. She wanted me to tell the other couple to move their wedding to another time or better yet another day despite couple having made their reservation 5 months prior. The audacity!

[@LazyIRanch]

I hope you threw your head back in pure Charlotte fashion and said, "ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!"

[@1ACL]

DE LU LOOOO!!

[@nicolejohnson184]

Story time. My brother and his wife got married back in May 2019 and I was asked to be their 5th bridesmaid, which I felt honored to be a part of their wedding. Fast forward to the wedding day, I learn for the first time that the bride has a sister (she and my brother had been dating for 5 years at this point). So I felt kind of guilty being a bridesmaid while she wasn't. Until it was time to get ready. Her sister threw a stunt where she was throwing a fit in the hotel and said she wasn't coming to the wedding at all unless their mom came to the hotel to get her (even though she was supposed to ride with her grandma to the wedding so mom could help the bride get ready). So my poor sister-in-law didnt get to have her mom help her get ready for her wedding because her sister threw a fit. Was a bit tense between them the rest of the day 👀👀 My sister-in-law is one of the sweetest people Ive met too 😢 I still dont like her sister 😅😅

[@jeanams07]

I really wish these really sweet brides would learn not to have their Narcissistic sisters in their weddings. It would save them so much heartache.

[@paulagoeringer9466]

I can see why the bride didn't want her as a bridesmaid. What a spoiled brat.

[@queenbee23225]

I’m a white & come from a very mixed heritage (Croatian/Mexican) & love learning about different cultures because of learning about my own. I’m dating an Indonesian-German man. I absolutely adore him & his family so I’ve been trying very much to get involved in his different cultures. I made his German dad traditional cookies for Christmas & am trying to learn a few phrases in Indonesian to surprise his mom & also looking into learning how to make Indonesian food. If you can’t accept or try to take in at least some parts of your partner’s culture, then you don’t deserve to be part of a family with that culture.

[@ejburgess]

Same. My grandfather chose to pass as white and everyone assumed he had Spanish heritage, not Mexican. The Irish side of my paternal family knows more Spanish than my mom's. I'm olive skinned with reddish hair, dark thin eyes. I get asked what part of Asia my family is from 😂 only one of my aunts and her son actually look Hispanic

[@queenbee23225]

@@ejburgessHad a few times where I was asked if I was filipino & even recently someone asked if I was vietnamese & I was like "....no???" lol

[@lipstick02151]

My relative married a woman from different culture. After their morning ceremony, they served food. My family was excited to try everything and we loved being able to have an authentic feast. The family did bring out containers of potato salad and a few other big store type foods. Guess they expected us to turn our noses at the homemade dishes. It was thoughtful but none of us ate that food. Lots of big store food left. Great wedding.

[@daniellephan7391]

My husband is Vietnamese, while I am white and we were going to do the tea ceremony but my mom passed away so they said we didn't have to. I was kinda sad because I have been to a few and they are super pretty and interesting to watch. We did go to temple to have our marriage blessed and we had the traditional reception. 450 guests, 7 course meal, Vietnamese band, dj, and we went around to every table to take shots and get the blessing from every table. It was an awesome party that people still talk about 8 years later. Same with our destination wedding which only had like 20 people. It was low key and we had dinner at a local restaurant and cupcakes. I loved both parties we had for our weddings because they each had something of us in them. I just realized that I did get the necklace, earrings, and bracelet from my in laws but I don't think they were anywhere near $40k but they are still pretty. I don't understand people like that who don't embrace and appreciate other cultures, especially when you are marrying into them. You marry the family and culture as well as the person.

[@Ariel-lol]

450?!? Holy cow, thats a ton!!! It sounds very nice. But genuinely, how do you know that many people?!? 😂

[@buckfuddy5561]

@@Ariel-lolI don’t think I’ve ever even met 450 ppl in my life TBH!! Same with these huge wedding parties..these couples that have over 4-5 couples are wild to me as well.. Idk if I could even find 2-3!!

[@RomanoFeliciano]

Well normally Vietnamese weddings will invite guests on the groom sides and the bride sides. Which not only include the guest of those two but also the guest of the parents + almost every representative of the relatives. Everyone will expect to be invited when someone or their kids having a wedding so yeah. A LOT of people every time lol, except during covid 😅 I’m glad you enjoyed your wedding that different from your culture! Just from your writing I can tell you’re having a very happy marriage and I hope your happiness will only grow from now on ❤

[@Ariel-lol]

@@buckfuddy5561 yuppp! Same with spending so much money on a wedding, a price of a 80k wedding is more than the house I live in 😭

[@daniellephan7391]

@@Ariel-lol @RomanoFeliciano explained it pretty well. We had to invited a lot of people that we didn't actually know but the family knew or they were part of the extended family, kids, grandkids, family friends and their families. It was a huge party and it was a blast.

[@borountree4539]

I thought the clueless sister's biggest delusion was that she could just remove the tennis court nets and let her guests walk all over the court in their wedding finery shoes as if that wouldn't damage the surface.

[@bobkat1007]

Omg that was my 1st thought to

[@autumn1734]

Wow don't play tennis so never would of thought of that's.

[@HighAsHeckPriestess]

All the reasons the sister in law doesnt wanna experience cultural traditions are exactly the reasons she NEEDS to experience cultural traditions.

[@LazyIRanch]

Well said! I can't imagine thinking that way. I'm thrilled to be invited to anything, but especially to events that have traditional and cultural significance. I love trying new things and learning more about people. I want to be invited to the BBQ, and I promise to never complain about the music or food, and I won't bring bad potato salad with raisins (who TF does that?). This chick is really missing out on life. Her future husband's family sound wonderful and very kind because they don't assume that she's racist even though she very much is.

[@1ACL]

Good point! The best point!

[@marthaduncan7694]

Best comment

[@nokaoi6414]

My husband is Japanese but has lived in SoCal since he was 15yr/old. I absolutely LOVE different cultures & different religions! I always wished i was from a culture full of traditions! I have loved learning about his family and how he grew up, etc! Most his family is back in Yokohama, Japan, but fortunately there are a few who live in Hawaii. I was absolutely THRILLED when several of his cousins in Japan, wanted to make the trip to California to attend our wedding!! I was so excited and wanted to try to find a way to acknowledge & include them in our day! I had my husband help me learn a “welcome & thank you speech”, all in formal Japanese. I then had my caterers serve everyone an ochoko (ceramic sake cup 🍶) of our cousin’s favorite sake. My husband and I then lead all our guests in a toast to my new Japanese family! “Kanpai” is the word for “cheers” Japanese! That moment was absolutely one of my favorite memories of my wedding reception…being able to be involved in a tradition! His family is absolutely lovely! They have welcomed me with open arms & I now am a real part of something bigger than myself! It absolutely baffles & saddens me that that first bride did not care to embrace her husband’s family & their culture….the culture that will be a part of her future children’s! My kids have learned both English & Japanese. We have many family customs, celebrate many old traditions & attended many different festivals during the year! How lucky am I! 🇺🇸❤🇯🇵

[@Number1Pencil]

Imagine that greedy bride's reaction if she got the traditional JADE jewelry instead of the diamonds she's probably imagining. Good thing the parents weren't passing on something that had been in the family for generations. Another Chinese American here, agreeing with the others- her terrible attitude towards their traditions is a type of racism.

[@alipennington3764]

Man jade is actually so pretty and unique, I’d take that over basic ass blood diamonds any day 😂

[@1ACL]

Oh, it's not 'a type' of racism -- it's full on, for real, total racism.

[@donnapauley8183]

I love jade.

[@gr33ngirlsea]

Saying their food smells gross is racist!

[@reut0094]

That's so cool! I didn’t know that, thank you for sharing the tradition.

[@lediona3996]

"Trying to knot... that's one way to put it" 😂😂😂😂 omg Charlotte. Tying! TYING!

[@hillbillydeluxe27]

Had a bride demand that my band and I play her wedding for free because we owed her. Apparently, over a 5-7 year period, she paid cover charges of $5-$10 to see our band at various venues at various times. Needless to say, it didn’t happen.

[@buckfuddy5561]

I attended a RobZombie/Alice Cooper show (the HalloweenHootnanny”).. and I got a HillyBillyDeluxe tee!! Rock on,🤘😜🤘.. And yeah, don’t ever play for free unless it’s a cool charity the money is goin to

[@hillbillydeluxe27]

@@buckfuddy5561 I’ve played at many charities for friends and continue to do so but if you want me to play free at your wedding because “I owe you”, you’re delulu…lol

[@buckfuddy5561]

@@hillbillydeluxe27 yeah that’s definitely not cool.. (Heck, idk if I’d be playin for free at all..) I’ve had friends who played in bands and no one actually sees all the work that goes into even just performing even at a small town bar venue.. I try and support the local music scene as much as possible cuz I know that’s the only way they’ll keep playin out

[@hillbillydeluxe27]

@@buckfuddy5561 thank you for supporting your local musicians. I’m at that point in life that I’d rather play at special events. (Weddings, corporate events, anniversaries, private parties etc.) they pay a lot better and generally are more fun. We still play in the local bars and clubs but we charge a lot more than most bands so those gigs are few and far between. We’re also getting to the point that we’d rather sit around, have a few drinks and jam…lol…even more fun.😎

[@RamaSivamani]

I didn't realize paying cover charges can be applied like a down payment towards hiring a band for your private event. Since when has this been the case?

[@AdisaKola]

I can't never forget my delulu friend a month before she got married. She invited all us friends and she said" I want "this amount" of money for my wedding from you guys. I don't want my wedding to be loss of money and expenses. I want to profit from my wedding" She said that to our face, and we were so disappointed of her 😮

[@wendywestcott-reynoso441]

I would decline that invite!

[@AdisaKola]

@@wendywestcott-reynoso441 I went to the wedding and gave half the amount she asked 😁😏

[@ejburgess]

​@@AdisaKolaoof I wonder how many people gave her money

[@paulagoeringer9466]

Say sure, but make it monopoly money 💸😂

[@jayeclements6452]

I have two large dogs. My neighbour - nodding/good morning terms only - has 3 small -medium dogs. My dogs are not fans of the smaller dogs. Last summer, with some COVID restrictions still in place, they asked me to look after their dogs for the day while they got married - second wedding for both. Then it became "Can you have them from the evening before because it's a morning wedding and we have so much to do?". Um....okay. Then another neighbour said "Oh, you are SO kind having X&Y's dogs while they are on honeymoon...." When I confronted X&Y they said they didn't think it would be a big deal. Yes, it's a BIG DEAL!! They told several neighbours I had "offered" to have the dogs for the 16 days of their honeymoon. I think they did that so I would be guilted/embarrassed into having the dogs. Sadly, they didn't realise that I can't be guilted or embarrassed so I withdrew all offers of dog sitting. Their response was to tell the neighbours that I "ruined their wedding and honeymoon because I was SO jealous of their getting married because my boyfriend won't propose....". Then they did what they should have done in the first place and put their dogs in kennels for the duration of the wedding and honeymoon. As to my boyfriend not proposing; they don't know that we have been engaged for several years and have been waiting for the global emergency to be over so family who live in other countries can be with us on our special day. Our dogs will be there too.

[@gloriaalex11]

You got lucky. I kept a former coworker's dog at my house when she had an out-of-town emergency. Her dog did not get along with any of my dogs, which resulted in 3 days of utter chaos and my complete exhaustion. Plus my dogs contracted conjunctivitis from hers, so I had to spend a lot of money on multiple medications. Never. Again.

[@skyeceleste8395]

These bridezilla videos always make me feel like a good person. My husband is active duty and we got married last year - online. I didn’t really care to have a big wedding plus Covid was worse. I’m super happy with our decision, I love him to bits and pieces and if we ever did want a wedding who says we can’t have a renewal?

[@tallouse2146]

I had a bride change her color scheme the day before her wedding because she just went to a wedding that had the same colors. I explained that’s impossible and she yelled at me telling me it’s my job to make her wedding the way she wants it because that’s what she paid for. She was absolutely delusional to think it was possible

[@Vayeya1]

So the wedding she went to had the same colors she already had?, Or she wanted to copy the ones she saw? Either way she is crazy.

[@tallouse2146]

@@Vayeya1 the other wedding had the same colors as her wedding and she didn’t want to look like she copied it and she was irate because I couldn’t change them . Then she didn’t pay me and tried to sue me. It was a hot mess.

[@linseylinsey]

​@@tallouse2146 i know this comment is months old, but WOW. I hope you won that suit against you and got paid. Linens and supplies obviously need to be ordered in advance! Any rational person who went to both weddings would just think "I guess this is a trendy color scheme!" Or "both these couples have similar taste!"

[@superstarcat7654]

Military wedding cake-order some sheet cakes from Kroger or Giant or your local grocery store. Use your county park. Have a bring a dish dinner. You can have a pretty outdoor wedding on a dime if you try, just like a lot of us middle class families. A big venue is for the rich.

[@CharmedGaymes]

I had a coworker who didn’t get along with most of the people at the office. She usually made snarky remarks on people’s culture, the way they dressed or behaved, how she was better than everyone else, etc. She quit after a few months ‘cause she was getting married and wanted to follow the love of her life to his town. Soon after she quit, she started messaging people at the office and started asking if they would be kind to sponsor things for her wedding. One would think she sent a gift registry link, but no. The list included EVERYTHING: from napkins and silverware to the venue and a musical group (who NO ONE HAS EVER HEARD OF, and they were more expensive than the venue). No surprise that no one responded, and hold and behold, the wedding never happened.

[@t4kfamily735]

Her audacity is atrocious!!! Idk how some people live like this; living like everyone is beneath them and treat them like a gum under their shoe. I'm glad the groom-to-be caught on before making the biggest mistake of his life 😌

[@CharmedGaymes]

@@t4kfamily735 Me too! He dodged a bullet

[@buckfuddy5561]

Wow!! Some people!! 🙄 I could see if she was nice and had been at the job for many years and was loved by her coworkers..but even then, someone who is like that would never ask that much.. Tacky AF!!! (She probably wasn’t even getting married..just figured ppl would send her money)

[@mike90317]

I love happy endings!

[@paulagoeringer9466]

Did the groom suddenly come to his senses? I don't know if it's the autocorrect, but the term is lo and behold.

[@erinlomax7048]

Mr Krabs being stitched in was hilarious 😂

[@Dobviews]

My husband and I have noticed something in the past 17 years... the more expensive the wedding the quicker the divorce.

[@carolinemarchand4743]

haven't found my husband yet... but I am dreaming of a simple countryside wedding... bbq style, no big fuss, just dancing with the loved ones and family till the morning!

[@Dobviews]

@@carolinemarchand4743 We had a small gathering of 50 close friends and immediate family. Best decision of our lives. The only things to not skimp on are the video/pictures! Those moments captured on film are relived each time we flip through them.

[@doctordolldesigns4009]

I am a musician and used to do hundreds of weddings. I can honestly say that some of the most extravagant weddings had the most unsuccessful marriages. The exceptions would be a traditional Chinese wedding, and an Italian Catholic Wedding.

[@Dobviews]

@@doctordolldesigns4009 I used to own a floral shop, same. The more money spent... the less effort went into picking the mate it seems.

[@solesuna]

I think there is even a statistic that shows this 😅 Even if not in our friend group it definitely is the case. Biggest wedding: marriage was over after a month.

[@mistycuz2011]

As a makeup artist I had a girl ask for a discount after she insisted I use her foundation when I told her many a times I was more than stocked with my own products. To make her feel better I caved and used it (rookie mistake 🙄) then the wedding party tried to not pay. This was way early on in my career and would never stand for any of it now.

[@fizzydizzystudios4768]

My dad is French and my mom is Filipina. I grew up eating Filipino food, and attending Filipino gatherings. My dad is super respectful to his in laws and their celebrations and they love him too. My mom’s family adore my dad and it’s great. Furthermore, I have a lot of extended family members who are Chinese, and we all get along so we join in the celebrations. So maybe I’m biased because I grew up surrounded by different cultures, but if you do care for someone you should be happy to celebrate their traditions with them.

[@silvannamk8339]

My husband and I got married in April and only invited family. We had 39 people including 8 kids. We paid it all with the money we got from our generous family and founds ways of making everything beautiful and special with a small budget. It was beautiful! What matters is marrying the love of your life and having family there.

[@janethall8444]

How could you not call her racist? I would welcome mixing traditions from both our sides,and I don't mean the expensive giving of a gift to me.I attended a wedding with a mix of Chinese and American traditions.It was a wonderful celebration.

[@Carrot880]

She doesn't sound hateful about other nationalities, she just doesn't give a shit. Being completely uninterested doesn't count as racism. It's disrespectful and arrogant, yes, but not hateful. Bet she doesn't participate in anything else that is outside of her little bubble, even if it's a white people thing.

[@M_IAWIA]

She's not racist, but ethnocentric.

[@karenneill9109]

It’s so disrespectful to only want the one tradition that involves a large gift.

[@ThatGuy-vi8ch]

How could you not? By understanding and having knowledge about other words in the English language that are better to describe her attitude. Learn more words.

[@honestyisadyingvirtue]

Good on you but Not everyone makes the same choices and lives the same life you do. And not everyone is open to things they dont understand. How do we know the brother even values these same traditions the same way the OP does? If he doesn't it would explain why their getting married, he sees no issue. It's possible to not want to partake in something you dont understand while not being racist. She could be closed minded, selfish, unwilling, whatever bad label you want to put on her while still not being racist. People's willingness to quickly stamp someone with a label (usually the worst one they can think of) all because they don't like how someone moves, while not realizing that life is never black and white and as simple as that, just baffles me. 😂

[@mariyamarkova5672]

Comming from someone born and raised in a culture with some bizarre wedding traditions I can relate to the brides and grooms that want a simple ceremony and a reception. Here we have traditions of "stealing the bride" (her family blocking the door and his trying to get it open), stuffing the bride's shoe with money, being escorted by a gypsy band... the list goes on and on. Personally I wouldn't want any of that on my day, but if the groom wishes to have some traditional elements, we'll talk and see what compromise we can agee upon. The issue with the first couple was she never wanted to participate. If Lunar New Year is just a normal day for you and you don't have to pick between it and some other holiday that has personal significance to you then what's the peoblem to immerse yourself in your SO's culture and show some appreciation.

[@dinasilva9263]

This Channel is my daily reminder that life can be a little bit more easy when we have Charlotte's amazing sense of humour to make everything better. God bless Charlotte.😂👑♥️

[@lizziefirkey6385]

9:36 It's 1am. I'm exhausted. Gotta get up for work at 5am. I cannot tell you how many times I replayed this to confirm that you were, in fact, saying "trying to knot with my sweetheart". This is my favorite little verbal stumble. Thank you for the great laugh xD

[@savannahvicenti3068]

Does anybody else love Charlotte peach lighting? 🍑 Your beautiful eyes and your gorgeous hair is just giving summer and I’m living for it !!! We love you, Char!

[@Ya11uss]

She set boundaries! Respect them!!!

[@jenmiller1081]

In the first case, what happens when they have children? If she doesn’t like your traditions, chances are, your children won’t be learning them. This is stuff he should consider before marriage. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@shania991]

Exactly my thoughts seems like she’s gonna only push one culture for the kids and sadly the husband doesn’t even seem to care

[@dialiann]

Exactly

[@sewistnotsewer]

She sounds like she'll be shocked when her baby is born with some Asian features.

[@FishiesRCute]

There is something really off about this story. Why would the mom have a set picked out for OP's girlfriend (even though they aren't engaged) but not for the bride-to-be who is engaged. I get vibes of OP being the golden child and brother being constantly stepped over. It would explain why he is so willing to give up all of his cultural traditions. This family has a toxic streak that is hard to spot but it is there. No wonder the brother was mad about the jewelry... snubbed yet again because of the golden child. Sounds like he is ready to be done with his family.

[@clarab5110]

i'm just sayin, i subscribed to you when you had 300k subscribers and i am so proud of what you have become!! you're by far my favorite influencer

[@kimschuler2906]

I have issues with the last story about the military couple. I was active duty and I know how much they make. If you are not getting married for another year, then save up for it. You can pay for a the wedding and the cake if you budget. Get rid of some of the guests, pick cheaper venues, do your own makeup and hair. My wife and I got married on a $4000 budget and we were under that because we understand that the wedding is one day but the marriage is forever. Your going to need most of that money for other things such as a house or vehicles.

[@s.a.4358]

Agreed. I am currently engaged and while we do have the money to pay for a nice wedding, I also think it is just one day (or one weekend if one includes related happenings like the bachelor / hen night) and there is a limit to how much money I am willing to spend. Some things are worth it to me to spend money, like a good photographer to have memories to look back on, but I am planning to save on things like the dress I will only wear once. A family member even offered to buy me a ‘real’ wedding dress from a fancy shop, which I think is so kind but I refused because if I wouldn’t do it myself, they also don’t need to just because they have the money.

[@mariedelaurentis980]

We're retired military and agree it's a little cheap for the couple to ask for a free cake but then host 200 people at the reception. They've probably gotten military discounts from the venue and all other vendors anyway.

[@serahloeffelroberts9901]

So buy a small wedding cake and have a sheet cake in back that you actually feed the guests.

[@alisias8365]

@@s.a.4358I always think of Friends and how Chandler wanted to use his savings for a house and not a huge wedding.

[@ejburgess]

Same! We rented my husband's childhood church for $100 (for two days), one of the ladies who works there collects antiques and offered to decorate our wedding! All from stuff she had at her own home. It was absolutely gorgeous. My brother in law offered to pay for our wedding photos (his friend is a photographer) as a wedding present. I bought a dress at a blow out sale for $99 and had it altered for about $200. My husband rented a suit for himself and his groomsmen. My bridesmaids wore dresses they had on hand or whatever they wanted to buy if they didn't have any. The biggest expense was the food, drink and favors for our guests. We spent about $5,000 tops

[@marstrull]

My family is Jewish my cousin married a Chinese women. They did both traditions at their wedding it was so cool to see the pictures and hear about it. If one persons traditions and background will be in the wedding then both should if the other person/family wants it to be. At the end of the day your bringing to people and there family together for hopefully for the rest of their lives

[@kyro-jaxxsonofkosmos23]

"This bride has just discovered culture" ICONIC.

[@AskMiko]

The craziest request my cousin who does events and styling freelance work got was a mom and bride wanting her to set up and breakdown decorations for a wedding event three times in one day to save money. They wanted her to set up the altar, breakdown the decor, take it to a park…set it up again for photos then break down the decor and take it to the reception hall for a 3rd set up. It’s like they didn’t realize the set up and breakdown time affects the amount of work needed. She declined the job midway, refunded them, etc.

[@AlexandraVOA]

I’ve been asked to shoot their wedding and engagement for free so many times because “it could be my gift”. (Professional photographer here) or because I did it for my best friend lol

[@kayceyraimer9098]

The last one irks me. I was in the military for 6 years and I hated when coworkers would go out on their days off and hang out in uniform or go out to eat in uniform knowing that someone would offer to cover the bill 🙄

[@joydupre5363]

I love those lights, they are really valorizing you and your beauty❤

[@allisonfisher9304]

If people can’t attend your wedding, for whatever reason, you can always do what we did. We got married spur of the moment in February, only 13 were in attendance. Then, the following June, we had invited lots of people, about 50 showed up to our late reception. It was really fun, we did it on the cheap with a big pot luck, and I got to wear my dress again for gorgeous photos on my parent’s property. Weddings don’t have to make you go bankrupt to have a good time. Just sayin💖

[@Seir84]

My husband and I had two weddings. One micro wedding and one full Southern Indian Traditional wedding. I barely did anything for the planning and let my husband's mom take charge. It was magical.

[@MozanHaytham]

If she really wanted a “traditional” gift she should accept the other tradition, period. She showed disrespect towards the culture so she deserves nothing, end of discussion.

[@elainehelms4076]

At least some of the traditions. Going around to the tables to meet your guests and be toasted sounds charming.

[@sarahserenityqueen117]

At 0:51 I couldn't stop laughing. Edit: for the wedding gift story, buy a jewelry gift from Walmart and say it cost 40k lol.

[@deetorrance3659]

I love these wedding videos. My son just got married to his long time girlfriend back in February. So happy it went pretty smoothly and my now DIL is wonderful. She is of a different nationality than us, but we were excited to see their culture represented.

[@Beautyinthebreakdown.]

I now say f around and find out way too much 😂😂I said it to my mum about my personality and she laughed so much because she was like yes! That is exactly it! 😂 cheers mum.

[@jasonellis4330]

Sorry but Charlotte reading "tying the knot" as "trying to knot" has me cackling

[@erchanel]

and then ending it with "well thats one way to put it" loll

[@NumTecho]

Nah. She straight up said that your culture and traditions are fake. Now when the traditions is to gifts expensive jewel she doesn't find it fake or stupid, nah, she will never be welcome

[@emilyhollis4231]

SIL was 💯 going to sell that "tradition" ASAP. 😂

[@zainabjilani3701]

Love the editor’s commentary, especially the timing of Mr. Krabs references in the first one,😂❤❤❤

[@relaunchinglife]

Having attended many traditional Indian weddings, where the gift of jewelry is also part of the ceremony, my first thought was that not only will this be expensive but the style of the jewelry will definitely be very traditional, and since she doesn't care for this culture, she probably won't even like the jewelry (since she doesn't get to pick it out) So it will have cost a fortune, she won't like it & most likely won't wear it since it will clash a traditional American type wedding gown. And she'll never look at it again, or she'll sell it, and they'll probably get divorced, so in the end it will be this family who will be very resentful & upset.

[@TaylorStrutton]

When I was a teenager, my cousin got married and his bride decided that no cousins would be at the dinner but I was the youngest and didn't drive and it was an hour from home. They had the dinner in a room off of the dining room of a restaurant. I ended up eating dinner alone in that restaurant starring through a window at the wedding dinner happening. They will not be invited to my wedding when that happens.

[@Vayeya1]

So the dinner was after the wedding? If cousins weren't invited, who was invited to the dinner?

[@bobbysmith1956]

Thank you for posting for us every single day at noon! I look forward to every post from you. You have grown soooo much over the years and your dedication and commitment to this is unmatched! You deserve every good and great thing that comes to you, Charlotte! Much love from GA, USA!🩷🩷

[@dawnpalmby5100]

3:02 just buy her a set of fake jewelry worth nothing. Keeps the tradition and she'll never know unless she tries to sell it

[@klm_shadow]

This. I love this.

[@bluemoonslightASMR]

My spouse is Jewish and I was raised in a cult. It wasn’t hard to embrace the Jewish traditions 😂it’s called love and respect of your partner’s family and culture.

[@1ACL]

❤️

[@bellaprincesa2452]

Facts I absolutely HATE horseradish but I definitely ate it every Passover with my ex . That damn Jewish Passover plate is like a fear factor challenge fr but I never did that to their face and I did it anyways bc I loved him

[@TEWMUCH]

Nice!

[@jameslaidler2152]

This cult Scientology or The Family?

[@RayBekk]

Ooo I like the blush background. So so peaceful!

[@arcaderat1613]

My SIL is also chinese and her family does a lot of traditional stuff. Honestly, it's fun. For their wedding they did the tea ceremony and door games before, they did a banquet the day following the wedding (I missed it unfortunately but it sounded fun). They've done the 100 day celebration for their son and things like that. I could get having some trouble with the food or things like that, but to completely refuse to participate in anything unless there is a large monetary value attached is just ridiculous.

[@taraelyse6989]

I was the MOH for my cousin's wedding. I organized the bachelorette party, bridal party, bridal brunch, massages, spa day, makeup and hair for bridal party, flower girls, mothers, sisters, and grandmother's of the couple, and booked hotel and transportation for the rest of the bridal party. I paid for a lot of it. I came up three weeks before the wedding to help my cousin move and paint their new house. I was happy to do it. We'd been besties since we were little. As soon as all the work was done and the rest of the bridal party flew in for the three days of wedding events, I was told I needed to skip all the events and babysit the collective 7 children of bridal party, SIL, and just show up to the wedding and reception. I was confused and hurt, but I did it anyway. The day of the wedding, my cousin sent a bridesmaid to ask me to come talk to her. She sat behind a changing screen and told me she didn't know what my problem was but she was very disappointed that I wasn't involved in anything and didn't seem to care about her wedding or our friendship. I smoothed things over, did my bit, got through the ceremony and reception and went home, assuming it was all wedding stress. After the honeymoon I tried talking to her on the phone and social media like we usually do. She ignored everything. I finally get an email saying she's sad I didn't take her big day more seriously and that we shouldn't be friends anymore because I'm single and only her married friends (the bridesmaids) understand her now. I exposed her to our entire family, many of whom stopped talking to her, and we've never spoken again. It makes family reunions EXTRA fun. Wish I had done more.

[@Vayeya1]

I'm glad you exposed her, but what the heck is wrong with her? What is that she wanted you to do? You did everything and more! If your family is on your side, it shows that everyone noticed all your effort. Why do you think she started acting like that if you were family/ best friends before all of these?

[@serahloeffelroberts9901]

I would have set my limits in advance and flat out said no to babysitting 7 kids. Furthermore when she told you that you were being dumped after the wedding you should have presented an itemized bill with hourly rates for your services and take her to court if she didn't pay you.

[@taraelyse6989]

@@Vayeya1 We had begun to grow apart a little and I didn't notice. I went to college, got piercings, started travelling. She decided to be a preacher's wife in her hometown and....never wear pants again? Not sure what that's about. Our differences didn't bother me. I figured we're still family and no reason we can't stay friends. I think it was just a convenient way for her to "dump" our friendship. Looking back, it's the way her mom treats my mom (they're sisters).

[@taraelyse6989]

@@serahloeffelroberts9901 Yah, I was not great at setting boundaries or sticking up for myself back then. But I think that experience was the start of learning how. And YES! I should definitely have sent her a bill.

[@SamanthaTotimeh]

Your editor had so much fun with this video lmao thanks Vanessa 😂😂❤

[@Rauta-Tulen]

About the first story. It's not about the fact that the bride doesn't want the asian traditions in the wedding specifically. It's about the fact that she constantly disrespects them. If the OP's GF was to ask him to have a classical European wedding without asian cultural aspects, the family's reaction would be very different and much less harsh, for she respects their traditions on an every-day basis. It's not about the wedding, it's about the life

[@mage1439]

The last one, that is 100% a woman that will be walking into restaurants expecting military discounts and saying "respect my husband's rank!"

[@goldengryphon]

She sounds like a "Address me as my husbnad's rank" Karen. She'll either fit in really well with the senior officers' wives, or not at all.

[@ElizabethT45]

That last bride definitely has the "Address me by my husband's rank" bumper sticker.

[@goldengryphon]

Right? I saw that and was appalled by the whole situation. I hope it makes it back to his command because that will definitely reflect on him, too.

[@4everasinger286]

The bit with Mr. Krabs labeled as the SIL with the "I like money!" line KILLED ME 😂 First of all, tradition matters and is important, whether she likes it or not. Second, it's one thing to not like the smell of Chinese food and try it out anyway, and another thing to completely refuse to try it at all. It is extremely inconsiderate and rude to refuse food. Third, if this girl really loved her fiance, she'd at least try things out from the Chinese culture. If she refuses to be a part of it in any way, why the heck is she marrying into this family in the first place?

[@jilliansherrard2152]

I used to do wedding hair and make up….I did a lot of weddings and was exposed to many different religions and cultures….can I say that Asian weddings….particularly Indian…were so much fun and myself and staff were treated like family usually….I is those fun and moving experiences….

[@theoriginalbridgetconnors]

I have to tell you, if I suffered a massive head injury so that I wanted to get married, I would LOVE a Chinese - Irish mix of a wedding! That mix of food, drink and music would be amazing!

[@sherripenner1051]

also I love how the first bride called their new years a fake new years even though the lunar new year came before hers! Like WHAT!?????!!!

[@caylahtaikoi]

I got married when I was in the military active duty and we paid probably $600 total for everything including the wedding dress. This was also in HAWAII. Expensive weddings are unnecessary.

[@fieryphoenix2020]

My cousin and his wife got married in October, she’s Vietnamese and the reception had plenty of Vietnamese food and they even dressed up in their own ào dài in matching red and gold. Still did things considered American for the wedding such as the bouquet toss and cake cutting. They were having so much fun dancing with their guests and everyone was enjoying themselves. I’d say it was a fun wedding 😊

[@ellenasaldana3931]

Not a bride or groom, but a high school best friend and a friend had a baby. Yay. They sent me the registry, now I'm the type of person who customize gifts. She's a goth model he's in a band. A mutual friend of our came over and told us how awesome the baby shower was. I wasnt invited but asked to gift. Btw we have 3 kids and my husband was gonna pitch in $100 worth of diapers!!!!! When we found out we were like. Nevermind

[@dustinriley8059]

I never understand how people can still expect gifts for things when they're unwilling to have them at the events.

[@ellenasaldana3931]

@@dustinriley8059 dude same. I was so pissed, I had her at my Christmas exchange!!!! Didn't have to invite her but I did because of multiple mutual friends.

[@OttawaAnon1001]

We had 80 people at our wedding... and I'm pretty sure 80% of them were family not friends. It blows my mind that people are trying to have 200+ people weddings

[@Lollie.W]

My friends went to a wedding and when the couple went out to take photos (for over 3 hours), everybody was locked in the venue hall because they didn't want people to go out in groups as it would be too hard to gather everyone for when they did their entrance. They had about 80 people in one small hall with only a couple of small windows and people took turns to stand at the windows for fresh air as it became super stuffy. There were no food or beverages available during this time and people were just trapped like prisoners. Worst thing - there were only two toilets at the venue and you had to ask the groom's family (who was at the other side of the door!) to open up and they only let somebody out when the previous person came back. A couple went to the toilet half an hour in and never came back so they wouldn't let anybody else out. That couple cleverly went home.

[@nicolad8822]

People who let the photography and videography take over the wedding are idiots. I don’t even know where my wedding photos are, I have no photos on show.

[@serahloeffelroberts9901]

I would have called 911 if someone locked me inside for 3 hours especially with no food, drinks or bathrooms

[@KnawedOne]

That’s outrageous

[@blacklatinabutterflycortez6354]

Happy Saturday Charlotte! You are a true gem. Your videos help me fight against my battle with depression. Sending warm vibes from California. 🧡🤍

[@Chyronn]

First story, yes she's a gold digger. As soon as enough time has passed she's going to divorce the brother and get the jewellery. She marrying him only for that payoff

[@molly_in_mke]

I was a bridesmaid not too long ago. As we were setting up, decorating the tables, etc, we were told we had to wash +100 dishes for the wedding tomorrow. Now I'm fine with that. You tell me to do anything and I'll make it happen. Where I got irritated is that we found out once we got to the venue. Therefore, there was 1 measly sponge and i dont think any rags or anything to help dry. I think just paper towels. At least tell someone beforehand, delegate, so I can bring sponges and soap and rags etc and am prepared for it

[@carynllee]

I can almost guarantee that she wouldn’t even wear the jewelry at her wedding. She would have accepted it, put it away, and worn whatever “something borrowed” she had already chosen

[@SandySilva-u5l]

My best friend is a wedding planner and not long ago she worked with the most entitled bride. Invitation wording: “ Kindly give your monetary gift at the door before entering the ballroom. No less than $250.00 for each guest since each plate was $75.00. She had two people at the door collecting money and writing the amount on a checklist and also if it was the groom or bride side.

[@natnatnat1989]

I just got invited to a wedding taking place NEXT YEAR. She's my friend's daughter. When I told her that it was to soon to tell her if could come or not, she told me they already sent the invitations because everyone has to pay for their menu, mandatory. If you don't pay, you don't come. I haven't told my friend, or her, that I'm not going. I think it's awful to demand money because you don't have enough money to pay for your wedding. It's obvious that, when you gift the couple, you try to give enough to cover your plate, but if you can't, it usually doesn't matter that much (at least here in Spain). They're reserving a whole country house (which it's gorgeous, I went to another wedding there a couple of years ago), they're inviting 200 people, they have to rent a bus to take the guests to the place... It's crazy. If you cannot afford a big wedding, don't have a big wedding. It's that simple.

[@nicolad8822]

Inviting a year ahead is nothing unusual, would you be waiting to see if you got a better offer? Just put it in the diary. Expecting you to pay is weird.

[@natnatnat1989]

@@nicolad8822 here in Spain is very weird. Usually we get the invitation 2-3 months before the wedding. We all know the date of the wedding pretty soon, but to get an invite a year before? Not normal here. Another good friend of mine is getting married 14 days before this girl and neither of us got the invitation yet.

[@jenniferpearce1052]

The tradition of going table to table to be toasted has happened (maybe without a toast but at least a chance to congratulate the couple) has happened at every wedding I've been to. Takes a long time with a big wedding, but I don't think talking to guests is an oddity. It's weird to refuse to do that.

[@janelleelizabeth4629]

I'm finally up late enough (2am in Sydney, Australia 🇦🇺) to see Charlotte upload, yay!! ❤

[@priyatachaudhary9493]

Me too!

[@georgia3043]

Someone once told me "when you marry someone not only do marry that person but you marry the family and everything about your fiancée" which includes traditions. You can't pick and choose which conditions you want to follow just because you get something out of it traditions have a lot of sentimental, emotional and religious meaning to many people. I wouldn't marry a person if i didn't respect or like their religion or traditions as in the end its hurting them as its a major part of peoples lives

[@niyennaliving1978]

A little story. When I was trying to plan my wedding, I suggested that my bridesmaids buy their own dresses. I was ridiculed by my family, especially my eldest sister, for even making the suggestion. Fast forward to about four or five years later, and my eldest sister announces she's getting married. Again (granted. This time, we like the guy and hope they have a long marriage). But guess what she does. She announces that all of the bridesmaids have to buy their own dresses. No one bats an eye, and everyone that had insulted me for making the same suggestion was now saying how great of an idea it was.

[@susanhals]

Family dynamics are fun, right?

[@jenniferwintz2514]

That's so silly! Idk, traditions vary, but I grew up in a region of the USA where bridesmaids were typically expected to buy their own dresses. Back in my parents day, most bridesmaids were skilled in the home arts and sewed their own dresses from the same pattern and fabric. We were all pretty frugal through necessity or choice, and it was an honor to be a bridesmaid. You only picked your best "good Judys" and family you liked, such as sisters, aunties, the groom's sister, etc. ETA: IDK if this standard has changed. The last wedding I was in was my own nearly 22 years ago. Before that I was only in one of my sisters wedding, same year as mine, and my other sister is not married. A few very close friends prior to that. I bought my own bridesmaid dresses.

[@nicolad8822]

If you want bridesmaids, pay for their dresses.

[@boogermaiden]

Favouritism!

[@sherriv4860]

Weddings are super expensive. I would not want the bride or groom to buy my dress.