Entitled Tiktoker Tries To Cancel Trainer | Toxic Gym Culture

[@ObesetoBeast]

Thanks for all the support during the relaunch of my Be Kind clothing line! *48 Hours left* to get your orders in!!!! www.thebekindcollection.com

[@SuperJezzara]

When you see something moving out of the corner of your eye, you're going to look! It's instinctual. Plus, it's normal to glance around and look at people briefly when you're out and about, including at the gym. These wanna-be influencers need to realize that they are NOT the main characters

[@WomanWearingRed]

Thank you for pointing out how harmful it is for girls on tiktok to try and "call out" people for looking at them. It really does diminish the real problem. I've been followed, harassed and at one point had to get the cops involved to handle a guy I rejected at the gym. Stop filming yourself for clout in hopes of catching someone glancing in your direction.

[@xxx_vltr_xxx6794]

Sure

[@goat7651]

Rarely happens

[@iyanubanks100]

Oh wow. That must’ve been scary. Hope you’re good now❤

[@t_ylr]

One of the most comforting things you can learn in life is that most of the time ain't nobody worried about you haha. People are way too busy worrying about themselves to be looking at you lol.

[@Blackandwhitecat-u9v]

They’re called narcissists lol!

[@kittyb275]

The reality is there are people watchers out there. And we see it all! Lol

[@t_ylr]

@@kittyb275 that's why I said "most" and not all 😂

[@allisoncastle]

@@Blackandwhitecat-u9v Sometimes, but sometimes they’re also just insecure. But I’m not justifying her behavior lol. I have no words for how she’s acting. Like seriously wtf.

[@carolynj6144]

Yes! When I’m getting in my head about what people think about me, my dad always says “you’re not that important to people.” He says it in a way that doesn’t sound mean but that’s hard to convey in text 😅

[@punkybrewstar83]

Most women at the gym are there to workout and are far too busy to notice anything about anybody else. BEWARE the influencer in the wild.

[@Blackandwhitecat-u9v]

And to take selfies, sit on equipment they aren’t using, and checking themselves out over and over in the mirror while being in everyone’s way lol!

[@punkybrewstar83]

@@Blackandwhitecat-u9v Not at my gym 🤷🏽‍♀️ You are not even allowed to take photos.

[@Blackandwhitecat-u9v]

@@punkybrewstar83 That’s a good rule.

[@punkybrewstar83]

@@Blackandwhitecat-u9v pretty common I thought... they have had a few organised filmings with members for their own online classes and advertising. Nobody gets paid, I don't know why people do it. But they make people sign up for that and literally hire a different venue. I am not into that, but to each their own I guess. But it isn't something that you would accidentally walk into anyway- it is this whole seperate thing.

[@Alexis98765]

@@Blackandwhitecat-u9v not sure what gym you go to but that’s definitely not what women do at any gym I’ve ever been to. I’ve actually found more of that from men at the gym

[@marguaritetherese3156]

Filming yourself to share on social media while simultaneously complaining about people looking at you should be recognized as a mental illness.

[@Sophassofa]

This is in regards to your past video about your disordered eating and I just want to say thank you, I’m overcoming an ED myself and this week actually had an epiphany that I don’t actually hate how I look which is fucking insane to me and it came as like a sign or whatever. I don’t know it was just super comforting and reassuring!

[@sunshinehebert6545]

This sort of behavior is why I feel so deeply uncomfortable in a gym.

[@Tina06019]

It’s not polite to keep staring, but it’s no crime to just look.

[@Wynneception]

This guy is also a trainer who works there. It's literally his job to make sure people in the building are safe and to step in if someone gets injured, and also to make sure people aren't breaking the equipment or leaving it lying around just anywhere. He is literally required to look at people in this gym as part of his job.

[@pyrbyr]

What kills me is that they’re upset for people looking at them in real life, but then posts it on social media for people to look at them even more. I wonder what the psychology is behind attention online vs reality.

[@fwebster6226]

Narcism at its finest

[@VGobaira]

Not the same thing.

[@miabanana9498]

I get a feeling they want the attention in both situations. If they were someone who didn't want attention in person, why wouldn't they have just quietly report the trainer to another employee (if they had ACTUALLY done something wrong) or just said something brief rather than being so loud about it?

[@heathersaxton8789]

“Meow meow I’m a kitty” will be stuck in my head all night 🤣🤣🤣

[@ginger_snapped_]

the editing for this video was top notch, I was cracking up the whole time!

[@caitlinelmasri131]

The editing in this one was so funny. Really enjoyed it!!! 😁

[@itsfreezyfbaby]

People do look and in this video you can tell this person just happened to look her way and she decided to yell. When someone is creeping you know it. One time my sister went into one of the more private aerobics rooms to do her stretches and light bodyweight exercises, and when she changed her view and could see the door. A dude was just standing there at the door (it was glass) watching her, and before she could even say anything he ran away lol It happens, and it really sucks, but it didn’t happen to the person in the video. If someone is really staring you down like watching your butt on the stair machine or every time you do anything they’re looking at you, you can definitely call them out tho, embarrass them for being gross

[@amberisrad]

s/o to the editor, i loved the zen and no more zen edits 🤣🤣

[@SpookyBibi24]

John angrily meowing has me in stitches 😹😹😹

[@courtneychambersmusic]

your editing made me chuckle ... thanks for that😂

[@maryhamric]

This video is so refreshing and so cathartic. Preach!!!!

[@neenee_marie77]

"Curiosity killed the cat and meow meow!" Love it lol

[@richardsonIII]

The last time I went to a gym regularly was many years ago when filming was pretty rare. I don't think I want to go back. I'll stick with at home stuff.

[@katier.m.4088]

People look - it’s called situational awareness. I’m aware of the people around me but that’s it…? 🤷🏻‍♀️ Would she scream at me for that? Looking and legit creeping are not the same thing…and they look very different.

[@Cyndaleee]

new editor slaps! I'm still laughing at the owl and "WHO-!?"

[@DANIxDANGER]

I've never thought to say something to anyone staring at me. Either way, stare at me. I must look good meaning I'm doing something right 😂 but really, i don't care. Unless you're being extremely creepy and making me uncomfortable i don't care. I usually look at people at the gym because A) cute clothes B) looking to see how they do/use a specific workout/machine and C) admiring gains. I tell my friends/family/clients that no one cares about what they're doing at the gym cus everyone is minding their own business. This girl was looking for a fight

[@violetheise4717]

Yes, exactly! I will watch (but not stare) at other women who are in amazing shape at how they do exercises I do/want to do, so I can learn and do better myself. Unless you're in your own home gym, you don't get to be annoyed with people just looking (staring and oogling are different) and being aware of what you're doing. They're entitled to that space too.

[@locdap21]

especially b

[@Blackandwhitecat-u9v]

Memo to people when at the gym: You’re not that important or super attractive that people are checking you out!

[@trebm]

Loving the edits on this video!

[@Blackandwhitecat-u9v]

That’s a coincidence, so am I!

[@TheMissileHappy]

This person would not be happy here in Germany. Everyone stares at you, doesn't matter where you are or what you're doing.

[@vixeena6125]

I went to the gym on the treadmill and two teens kept giggling and looking over at me and my machine every 30 seconds. I just turned my music up, ignored them, and imagined myself alongside them running away from zombies but only I escape.

[@nastjaangelova3671]

These girls are bullies playing the victim

[@kaciewarren2626]

“We all have thoughts that aren’t the best.” 😂😂

[@jackiefae91]

I do glance and occasionally watch someone a little bit if they’re really fit and I’m curious how they got their arms/butt/legs/etc. And I’m sure people look at me sometimes! I’m a beet red sweaty goblin that will jam to my tunes, that’s hard to ignore lol

[@tasiatasia9751]

Omg i can't look at those veins it gives me chills all over a bit like nails on a black board. It makes me want to hide under a blanket.. such a weird feeling.

[@Ziploc-vg8oz]

Same it makes me cringe

[@daniward9008]

Seriously. I love the new editing. Hilarious 😂

[@veronicafrieling1803]

6:40 dude. This information right here is invaluable.

[@leslieedwards7329]

“WHO!🦉” 😂😂😂 I died

[@sundancemorrow978]

You pulling down your shorts 🩳 with that stripper music on.. lol , I nearly spit out my coffee!!

[@sarabird7922]

I have a video of me lifting that I have never shared, but it's a random person spotting me, and they are such a hype person and I got three reps at my max with them. I don't know that person, but they are my favorite, and that is how gyms should be. People supporting others. I can't bench a lot, but I don't care, it's a lot for me. :D I am proud of me!

[@gengosselin1843]

The most self-centered people in a gym are the ones who think they’re the main character in anybody’s else day. A trainer who works the floor at a gym as a professional responsibility to look around to make sure people aren’t doing dangerous stuff that may get the gym in trouble.

[@FitLabb]

Regarding the genetics talk, it doesn’t matter that much unless you’re planning to compete in a bodybuilding competition or if you’re an elite athlete. The best way to think of genetics is that in terms of your physique, it determines where your muscle origins and insertions are located, which can play a decent role in the overall appearance of your muscles as you build yourself up over time, & it can have some degree of positive or negative impact on strength due to where those attachments are. “Genetics” are used far too often by too many people (fitness influencers & the general public) either to convince people to buy some product or supplements they’re selling geared towards “your body-type”, etc. (which is generally always complete BS), or it’s used as an excuse by the person in the gym to help rationalize why they aren’t making good enough progress towards their goals (while they’re just not doing one or more things properly), or as some false justification as to why they feel they should start using PEDs. In the end, we all have the same ballpark ability to build muscular size, strength, endurance, or lose weight, with some degree of natural variation from one person to another. By far the biggest determinants of whether you’ll achieve great or poor results comes down to if you’re putting in enough effort in the gym consistently, training smart enough by keeping an open mind & continue learning something new every day, eating properly to fuel reaching your goals, & resting/sleeping enough to properly recover between workouts. Genetics simply defines the absolute potential or limits of what you can achieve if you do all of the above optimally for a long enough period of time, which hardly anyone will ever actually achieve.

[@CometNuclei]

Meow meow! I'm a kittie! Best thing I've heard all day

[@sophieellison9515]

11:57 killed me

[@insidelaurensbrain3833]

You used my favorite vine in your video. (avocado thanks😂) Honestly,you are one of my faves

[@kyliemack1131]

Me who received exactly 0 genetic gifts: 💪🤡

[@krystlepoulin6382]

I'm old enough to remember when cameras weren't digital and good film was expensive. Back then we had different rules, cameras had the right of way and we were more mindful not to walk into someone's shot. It still happened but we would apologize and move on. Now that cameras are digital and we all have them in our phones it's harder to tell when someone is filming or taking pictures and people have the right of way. I still wait or apologize out of kindness and habit but I recognize that it's not a big deal anymore.

[@fwebster6226]

Thankfully most of the gyms in NZ have phone usage in their membership rules (ie. not on)

[@_kd_]

Re: folks who can lift more weight.. It also doesn't make their (the one lifting less) accomplishments/success mean anything less. Celebrate your successes, so cares if they aren't the same as the person at the next rack 👏👏

[@daniellesika3245]

“Meow meow I’m a kitty” 😂 same though

[@Zakuyuki]

I've never been in a gym but I heard it's where people go to work out, didn't know it was a movie set

[@annabland1110]

I mean, if she doesn’t want people to look at her, why is she posting herself publicly on the internet? We got more of an eyeful than he did, and she obviously wanted us to look. 🙄

[@BennettMarks]

John spittin straight facts in the video !

[@StayAtHomeMeme]

I agree. Genes do help in body shape and certain areas being able to look lean/muscular. I am very lucky in that I’ve always had muscular legs. Even when I was obese, my legs looked pretty nice. Now after losing 50lbs and lifting/running almost every day, my legs are SO freaking defined. However I’ve had friends in the past who have naturally skinny legs. And even after exercise, they still have skinny legs. Their muscles are literally skinnier no matter what. I have HUGE thigh muscles, they are naturally large so when I do a little bit of work they look diesel. However I can’t get my arms to gain muscle. I know eventually it’ll probably get better but I’m never going to have ripped arms.

[@TheMightyOdin]

Genetics loads the gun, behavior pulls the trigger.

[@sparrowlovett3964]

Can you please make a tiktok sound of “curiosity killed the cat and meow meow… im a kitty!”😂 please!

[@steppingintothelight4551]

hi John, silly question, but on size charts for your shirts, I take it the measurements are from side to side and not circumference?? xx

[@weirdoneontheblock]

I was going to be like okay... that is somewhat reasonable... if it was 9 WEEKS. When I heard DAYS... nope.

[@arctic_desert]

"curiosity killed the cat and meow meow I'm a kitty!!" so few people know that this is how the idiom actually ends

[@cats.cant.contour8812]

If I need to buy medical equipment to use a product, I don't need that product.

[@ashh1371]

She should just go to an only women’s gym!! Sheesh, that’s what I do because I don’t want any men looking at me either 😂

[@lunaquetzal215]

The spin of the screen messed me up a bit Lmao

[@steelesauer7430]

Genetics. TRUE. I gain muscle very easily, but I also retain fat in my hips and thighs, so it’s hard for me to slim down in those areas even if I’m in deficit and my shoulders and arms look leaner. Some people are just-literally-built different

[@dsoul1305]

7:45 But would you warn your buddy to look at a chicks butt? That is the machine guy did with the trainer, he started staring at her body and really said something. It was not simply curiosity, he really seems to have said "Damn".

[@lisajordan8098]

john's in his catboy era

[@Diana-wk9qv]

If a guy was taking selfies with his shirt off posing in the mirror in the middle of the gym, I’m staring. Not because I’m attracted to him but because someone doing that just automatically draws attention to themselves 😅 these girls are crazy 😬

[@Va13chka]

It’s rude to stare. People can stare and get the wrong impression but can be verbally called out for that too. Men aren’t going to be uncomfortable with women looking at them the other way around is more likely and there’s a lot more to it than men and women like you like to gaslight.

[@Diana-wk9qv]

@@Va13chka I agree it’s not ok to stare too long. I should have stated that. But I meant that it will naturally draw my attention at first, but of course I would look away and not keep on staring. I think most people know the difference if someone is staring at you too much or if you just ask someone staring at you for a bit. It’s not a crime to stare at people, if you don’t want anyone looking at you stay at home. But if someone is being creepy and really making you uncomfortable then yea call them out. But in the video the girl was being way too exaggerated

[@Va13chka]

@@Diana-wk9qv That guy gave out creepy vibes for her probably I didn’t really see it other than common courtesy not to stare🤷‍♀️. She can call him out if she wants too but she was extra. He can look at her but if he senses triggered vibe from her his smart ass would do what’s in his best interest and try not to look. We all look away after an awkward mutual eye glance with the opposite sex and we automatically don’t look again for some time to not make it obvious. We been doing this shit since childhood a grown ass man has no excuse and not get that. He has his own business at the gym to attend instead of starring at her. A man can check out a woman without making it obvious or being a creep. That’s a general statement.

[@kaceyklos9510]

Agree

[@ginakoko1968]

I get where the girl is coming from because it's so common place to be stared and creeped on at the gym as a woman... but after she said that he seemed to stop looking so I really don't think she needed to post it and make a big deal lol

[@Blackandwhitecat-u9v]

As a woman? You think men don’t get stared down?

[@Va13chka]

@@Blackandwhitecat-u9v Men aren’t intimidated or sexualized negatively for showing skin like women are. People who pull “but men too” are disgusting just like pervs and should get negative attention to make a difference in society. No men are creeped out being followed by women from the gym or other public places who are smaller than them physically and don’t deal with struggles as women.

[@zahraaalz9621]

Girls who take selfies in the middle of the gym irritate the hell out of me. Go to the damn locker room! I don't get it. Or if you're going to do it on the floor (like an idiot) do it and move along. It just screams desperate to me.

[@KarlaIleana]

No! Not in the locker room! I was very annoyed one time that I was semi naked at the gym because I was about to get in the shower and this lady was taking pictures and I was on the background. There’s even signs where it says in our locker room that filming or taking pictures of others without consent is illegal.

[@zahraaalz9621]

@@KarlaIleana oh yes! Good point. At home then! Lol

[@roseinfinityy]

Toxic gym influencers: I want millions of people to look at my butt online. But whoever does it in person is a PeRvErT!!!

[@shandacrouch4946]

"Misinfluencer" lol that's funny

[@niknak950]

People have main character syndrome and so because they are the main character in their life they always think that other people are noticing them or looking at them but in truth, since everybody is a main character in their life everyone’s mostly focused on themselves and not others. That being said, as bad as her behavior was in this, I can kind of see how this might’ve been an overreaction to experiencing some of the things that women tend to experience in spaces like gyms. A lot of women have to deal with unwanted interactions and attention from men in exercise spaces and I can see how the irritation from those interactions could bubble over and result in a huge overreaction like this. I’m not defending her behavior because it was ridiculous and she should have apologized after over reacting. I think overreacting can sometimes be a valid response to previous experiences but it is never an excuse for bad behavior and should always result in an apology

[@iwant2haveu]

Been seeing “women☕️” in MPDP & Greg’s channels when they did a video on this and now more men hate women.

[@ItsNat]

Meow meow I’m a kitty - next merch line

[@polloduh]

No one stares at me 😭

[@leldesaulite-rozite]

I go to gym for many years now, and yes there have been instances man have looked more than usual or I have been even harassed or followed some times, but at that moment never I ever would think to film smth, I was so uncomfortable and felt harassed that I wanted just go away as fast as I could, but this seems so staged. When I was followed by one gym member even to my house I called police, there was nothing funny to film it, it was just awful, so this is sad that she portrays it like that...

[@magda_pie]

I thought the guy was going to say 9 months and he says 9 days! what the fuck LOL

[@thePavuk]

I you dress to get attention, you loose right to not get attention. She is angry because she dress like that for more views on tiktok = more money. Just because she's cheap, doesn't mean, that she's free.

[@alfveba1]

Does clen count as a supplement a medication or a ped also what's the difference lol seems arbitrary where we draw the lines

[@krydala7650]

All of this is the reason i will probably never set foot in a gymn ._. even though i would love to learn how to lift barbells. I have one small dumbbell that goes up to 9,7KG but that only goes so far. I have crippling social anxiety as is and knowing that THIS is what other people potentially think or even worse do (filming stuff) just makes it impossible to muster up the courage. I'm still a really big woman even after dropping close to 20KG. (around 44lbs i think? used a converter so.. idk) and to be quite frank I struggle a lot with the way my body changed. I want to do certain things and thats why i keep working out but the visual part? Yeah.. naah...not confident at all. Guess I'll just stick to my one dumbbell and my resistance bands and stay the hell away from people like that. It's just so sad because a lot of gymn people seem to be so damn nice and helpful but all it will take is one shitty encounter and it'd crush years of personal work on my already shaky confidence. I can't risk that. Maybe some day but surely not while this shit is happening.

[@trexxy9628]

Seriously, people look. It’s a human thing. It’s one thing to look for a moment of curiosity, a few more moments for *ahem* “appreciation” or a WTF situation (and please be cool and help anyone struggling)…. and then the full on creepy stare down.

[@Blackandwhitecat-u9v]

Hey John!

[@RisingRose94]

It's so stupid when people go to the gym just to take dumb photos. DO THAT AT HOME! And stay out of everyone else's way 🙄 they're probably just judging you, not checking you out lol

[@Blackandwhitecat-u9v]

💯 agree.

[@RachelReduces]

How dare John still have hair on his head in this recording?!?!?! 😂

[@steppingintothelight4551]

there looking at someone and then there's perving, people are social creatures and tend to look at each other, what are people supposed to do? stare at the ground to keep from having such ridiculous accusations made? or.......we could all be super cool...blues brother style and wear shades 24/7 😎😎😎☺☺☺

[@VGobaira]

I won’t doubt the clout attempts but IF it’s genuine, ya can’t fault a lady for being a little uncomfy with all the bad press lately. BUT, in context and with the possibility of it being a set up, I’m like “boo.”

[@BabyAPoland]

Interesting... I don't think it's a coincidence anymore... MMD's fans knows...

[@TheMenInTightsPodcast]

#NoMoreZen

[@WileyCylas]

Lord what a goober!! 😠

[@Reppintimefitness]

She's making hard For us Who really do Go through this 🤬

[@punkybrewstar83]

Somebody helping you with your form or technique in a respectful way is freaking awesome. Nobody owes you that- people get paid for that. Plus you should be careful because you don't know the quality of the instruction. However, it is a really, really nice thing to do if done with genuine care and respect. I've had people help me and it is great.

[@nikkinotesweightloss2065]

This is why so many ppl fear the gym. I’m Farley new myself and this scares me. Like mind your own business.

[@lavenderlemonade4322]

MEOW MEOW hahaha

[@brittany16950]

Oye vey. Ya know, you could always leverage the attention you would get in this situation by KEEPING YOUR SHIRT ON. No woman NEEDS to work out in a sports bra. If you don’t have a t-shirt on, you’re looking for some attention.

[@jeffreysherman8224]

Influencers In The Wild. 🙃

[@krystlepoulin6382]

I wish the US would study Cas juice from Costa Rica as a weight loss drink. I was there for a month and drank it with every meal because it was delicious and my host said it would help me lose weight. I was on vacation so weight loss wasn't even on my mind. I ate countless desserts and steaks and pork chops that were huge slabs the size of my head. I was shocked to come home and find that I was down 25 lbs. The cas juice worked when nothing else had. It sucks that we can't buy cas aka sour guava here in the US.

[@marjase9172]

But if I'm sincerely honest in my humble opinion, without being sentimental, and of course without offending anyone who thinks differently from my direction but rather looking into this serious matter with a perspective distinction and without condemning anyone's point of view, honestly think and feel that I have nothing to say

[@TKD_Link]

One of the things that has made me fear lifting is those negative attitudes. I'm a TaeKwon-Do boy. I have legs that most gym bros dream of. But I was required to stay around a certain weight to compete in my category. Adding muscles to my upper body wasn't worth the weight gain. But now I'm out of TaeKwon-Do and into climbing, I really need to work on my upper body and it's beyond pathetic how weak I am compared to even an everyday dude who has never set foot in a gym. I'm in my 30s and never, ever successfully done a pull up. Yes - EVER! I just never really did anything substantial with my upper body my whole life. Add to that the fact I'm transgender and so people staring at me makes me worry they've simply clocked I'm transgender and might wanna start something, especially if they're jacked and I'm projecting nothing but weakness. So all that happens is that I feel very self conscious about my upper body, but too scared of toxic gym culture to address it. It's kinda sad to know that a lot of us have to do a lot mentally to push ourselves to do what I need to do just because a minority of assholes make us fear being that struggling beginner in the background of their ego video.

[@12cyberninja]

Yes yes! Please pull them sexy shorts down. Just made my day. Lol. Also nice video keep it up beautiful

[@SioLazer]

Just to put this in a different context, I ride bikes. I love bikes. When I'm out riding and I see another rider, it's perfectly normal to examine another rider as they may have done some sick mods.

[@TheTjoy910]

If you go to the gym looking like ass with a fuzzy bun in your hair wearing a giant old ratty t-shirt and baggy mens basketball shorts, men don't bother you. Lol. True story. You don't want attention, do that. You want attention, wear the latest gym fashion and sports bras with no shirt and booty shorts. That definitely doesn't warrant harassment, but if you want some looks, you go in your matching expensive gym gear and looking as cute as you can.

[@danielx555]

I think that people exaggerate the negativity of physique and bodybuilding and exercise influencers. When I see people with those ridiculous bodies, it's pretty clear to me that they are not normal and probably not natural, and most exercise and fitness and bodybuilding influencers are pretty clear that it takes like 5 hours of work every single day to look like that.

[@ZairUmbras]

"Ima show my ass to the camera. Wait, this dude ain't on my onlyfans. No free shows. Gotta put him on blast now."

[@Conformist138]

So I was just driving home and something caught my eye. I look over and there is a woman who is full on naked right by the side of the road. She's messing around with a pair of leggings and as I drove by appeared to be putting them on. But she was 100% nude right out in the sunshine in full view of late afternoon traffic. You better believe my head went on a swivel. I didn't even mean to--it just was so surprising, my eyes locked on and wouldn't let go. It happens when people are doing something we don't expect.

[@shandacrouch4946]

Ain't no one looking at you honey lol and If they are you're taking your shirt off everyone is gonna look...women, men..anyone