Man Finds His Wife Unattractive - Now What?

What options does a guy have if his wife becomes unattractive? Lets dive into this question, and how to handle it.
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[@simplythebest2k]

I think the confusion in hypergamy is when people use the wrong definition; which is trading up. Men do trade up to a person of a superior caste or class when it comes to the looks department. I Haven't really found a word for it, but I'm sure there is one.

[@sogeorgetownx6741]

@@MikeBarbarossa so what is your suggestion?? this is a serios channel, share us your advice.

[@SyntheticHuman01]

If it's a long video that tells me that you're going a good deed for the rest of us.

[@davideagen8653]

COOP, the V neck looks great.

[@showtime8968]

Open marriage is a bad idea, if she gets pregnant for some other man, he'll be on the hook for child support in some states especially if its a one night stand with an unknown man. Dont make sense getting cucked.

[@donsmith9194]

Her dad is a lawyer, this guy is probably already divorced and don't know it yet. Wow.

[@scuffedgodcxcx253]

@Beth Éireann Douchebag? Because his wife doesnt give a shit, effectively trapped him forcing him to forfeit his sexuality completely (which he up to this point had very little of) and because of her laziness and weakness hes just supposed to let it happen? Better luck next life? You wish. I hope he gets out of this situation somewhat intact and gets to live his life. This is why we need prenups.

[@donsmith9194]

@Beth Éireann At least it sounds like at first that he wanted his wife to improve herself like he did. It's sad when a marriage falls apart, but when one spouse doesn't care about their appearance because of the financial threat of divorce is sad as well. I question if either of these people love each other. Unfortunately their children are going to suffer.

[@anneb889]

Scuffedgodcx How did she trap him? When they met she was working, he was in school....a 26 year old virgin. I imagine he was more than happy that crooked teeth lady was willing to date and have sex with him. She still wants to have sex....he said she hasn’t done the married cutting it off....he just doesn’t want to have sex with her. He is now making money, got his teeth straightened, and works out. He didn’t say she got fat. He said her hair is always a mess and her teeth are crooked, she has had some health scares, and doesn’t like her annoying mom voice. How has she trapped him? She is basically the same....still working as a teacher (she didn’t quit her job when they had their kid). Her teeth are the same as they were when they met. She could try a different hair cut..........but it’s not about the hair, teeth, even her annoying mom persona. He has worked on himself, is no longer that nerdy 26 year old virgin and wants to go ride whatever the equivalent to the cock carousel is for men. Sow his oats. He has the women/girls on campus eyeing him up, he never had that before and wants to experience it. I don’t fault him......but don’t write some rationalization letter looking for the okay to divorce his snaggled toothed wife. Just divorce her, go have your fun, and stay involved in your kids life (and save up for your daughters braces, sounds like she likely will likely need them).

[@UdieIspec]

@@anneb889 why are you watching videos like this if it infuriates you? It doesn't make any sense as to why you'd come here and argue for the sole purpose of arguing. Do you not have anything better to do with your time? What you're doing is like me going to a car channel and bitching about how bad cars are. God help people like you who seek negativity 24/7.

[@anneb889]

UdieIspec Actually, I’m a glass is half full kind of person. I found this letter very interesting because it seems to be exactly what most men complain about women. I’m not angry at all. And I don’t mean to dismiss the pain of a difficult marriage. I feel for him to a point, but he is complaining about her hair and teeth (which were good enough before). I would have more respect for the guy if he actually just came out and said even though my wife was with me when I was a nerd in school making no money....I can do better now and want to see my options. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

[@luismaldonado-wu2ks]

She will change and have a makeover when she gets his child support and alimony.

[@RemcoStoutjesdijk]

She will, and so what. This is about his life, not hers. If he stays, she continues to vegetate in front of the TV.

[@luismaldonado-wu2ks]

@@RemcoStoutjesdijk oh yes I totally agree. And she can make his life a living hell through the divorce process like Richard said. Family Court is a Man Killer

[@yorkshirepud6676]

She will look a million dollars HIS million dollars!!!

[@mr.skeptical3071]

Ha! Good one!!!!

[@johnshore3095]

Dredd game..

[@johnbelt5204]

A man's market place value almost always increases with age as he gets firmly emplaced in his career and moves up the financial chain. A woman invariably goes down in value as she ages and loses fertility. I've been married for 37 years. I find my wife just as beautiful as the day we got married. Sure, she's older, a bit more wrinkled, a little bit chubbier but so am I. A good wife, im my humble opinion, is there for a man when he is in the dumps so he should be there for her when she is low.

[@Blahsheep]

Well said.

[@MegaDoom89]

The sad fact is that while i and a lot of men agree with you, every modern woman would call you a sexist pig and give a examples of celeb women who look good in their old age...forgetting those women have millions and can afford to look 30ish. Not to mention the whole "i dont need no man to be happy" then regret not having kids and are miserable when seeing good women with good men.

[@basicboomer519]

We are in a different age.

[@danielaion2457]

Well said and great example of a lasting marriage - it’s called seasons people … men don’t think it’s any easier just because you go and get a new younger fit wife… it all comes with stuff and expectations

[@SilviaLampa]

Men have zero value. Men are useless from the day they are born since they die

[@JeffreyWillis800]

I loved my wife of 20 years until the day she died from an aggressive cancer after she turned 40, held her in my arms and did everything I could to keep her alive. Sure, she gained weight in her later years, but I still loved her, and stayed by her side. Maybe I just don't live in the real world. But now that I am widowed, the world seems very materialistic and different, much in line with many of these videos. So I'm lost. Love doesn't exist anymore, just an illusion?

[@JS-sy8do]

Respect to you man for standing with her and doing the right thing. People are getting more and more shallow and selfish.

[@cur244]

Social media has made people far more materialistic and fake.

[@Jasmine-qv9gq]

Hey Jeffrey, don’t lose hope, find someone with your values

[@Last_one_before_I_go]

End game - the kids suffer.

[@ZelfgenezingbyMarijn]

Yes so true, I had a man like this one, wanting my attention like before we had a child but meanwhile he went to the gym and I was taking care of a little baby boy almost completely by myself. He was to selfish to help and just cheated (I was losing weight and still looked really good afterwards because people also told me my shape was really good). Our child suffered so much while daddy had his divorce and could screw around and not think about his child. They don't hurt the wife, they kill their childrens soul by this behavior.

[@CanadianMGTOW]

Some kids end up spoiled, so in the end the spouses of those kids are the ones that suffer (marriage less likely to work out if your partner's parents divorced)

[@Fernanda-wo1qk]

Not really, when my parents divorced, it was a relief

[@m2goofy760]

@JonnyC 289 That can be managed through 50/50 custody, which should be standard custody. As for staying married for the kids, this could be devastating to the man depending in the state you live in. In California the longer you are married the longer you have to pay spousal support. A marriage is a legal and social contract, once two people find no joy in each others company the marriage should be dissolved. You only have so much time on this earth, every moment is precious...do not squander that precious time in a life you do not wish to live.

[@shulex7]

@Jonathan Well said!

[@blondeaussiesurferpending6632]

While you cannot force yourself to feel sexually attracted to a person, this guy has to remember that his wife married him when he was just a 5/10 and was not earning that much. She was there for him and loved him at that time. If he gets divorced and tries to look for better women, he will attract only gold diggers and hypergamous women who certainly won't love him for who he is but for what he has. If your wife loved you during your tough times, she's a keeper. Besides, she seems to be a wonderful mother to the daughter. Why impose a gold digging, unloving stepmom on the kid?

[@qjtvaddict]

blondeaussiesurfer pending shit you are right this guy seems to be ruining a stable marriage

[@Shaolin91z]

Women trade up all the time......

[@war1980]

@@qjtvaddict An unhappy marriage isn't worth maintaining, no matter how stable. He wants his wife to make an effort, she refuses. He made a serious, prolonged effort to maintain and even increase his level of attractiveness, she isn't willing to make an effort. He has given her the chance to try and work on giving him what he needs, she passed. This shit ain't complicated.

[@blondeaussiesurferpending6632]

@@war1980 Marriage and life itself is not about having great hair and straight teeth. It's about the trust you have in a partner whom you know will love you no matter your level of attractiveness and through the hardships of life. Anyway, desire fades after many years in all marriages. The guy is young and handsome now but will be old and over the hill later on. The future is all about a stable relationship which will stand the test of time and hardship rather than a hot, hypergamous wife who will jump the ship when a better opportunity arises. You know what say, ugly women make the best wives.

[@ralphwiggum3134]

He's probably just horny and wants some different tail. As they say, the grass isn't greener on the other side. If he gets some new tail, it's probably not going to be much better than his wife's (at first it will seem like it is, but when the newness wears off, a hole is a hole). He'll find out that women aren't worth the effort and will regret leaving her, especially when his paychecks are garnished for child support and alimony. Maybe he should take a trip to las vegas and get a few call girls. That might be against his morals, but then again, divorce should be against his morals, too.

[@hvee2309]

Another option: honor the lifelong commitment you made, don't think too highly of yourself, work on having an awesome life with your wife and kids. Be thankful.

[@ivanzaitsau5847]

Unfortunately, It's only possible if your wife was virgin (or had only one affair she REALLY regrets) and she never cheated on you. And it's really hard to find a girl like this nowadays... so...

[@texuztweety]

@H Vee, EXCELLENT comment, thank you for common sense advice, God Bless you

[@williamjones6971]

What insipid shit.

[@unfazedo]

@Mike McKay And most men just accept that they are providers. Or worst not realizing they are just a provider to a wahman. It's sad most men were programmed to believe in love, marriage, romance, and all that bullshit.

[@sineadmorris2033]

Not one mention of this woman’s values, personality, intelligence, no, just shallow concerns like what she looks like and how much time she spends on her hair! Oh spare me! Save me and all my 10/10 friends from men with values like this one and the host offering him poor advice. By the way advising someone to stop their medication, particularly psychoactive medication is dangerous and ill informed. Please take care starting or stopping these substances. They can make you even more agitated than before staring. Unrelated but important that it’s said. Now, removing myself from this channel to something with more depth than the straightness of women’s teeth or her dress size

[@HaleyStark.]

I literally feel sick thinking about marrying someone who might feel this way about me one day...

[@basicboomer519]

Most guys and gals expectations become unreasonable when they’ve been validated too much or not enough. Has happened way too much with modern women in my opinion. Would not advise it today as the risks are way too high unless you would be strictly religious.

[@loriclark553]

Yes, I was completely blindsided when my sweet husband (handsome, charming, and financially successful ) announced that he was leaving me. He had never previously complained or commented on his dissatisfaction. I truly believed that we were happy, compatible best friends and lovers. Looking back on it now - I realize that I slowly had become fat, lazy, unconcerned about my appearance and I had just taken for granted, based on love and commitment that we would always be together. - Now, I am older, wiser, sadder and alone.

[@ozansimitciler5781]

​@@loriclark553 it's mature for people to own up their mistakes. on your ex's part he could be more open about it and give you a chance.

[@ethanlevoy3999]

@@loriclark553 Im 16 and run a pressure washing and lawn care business and have a large customer base of married couples with kids living in Florida suburbs and I see this happening allot with my customers. Women will have kids with husband and get comfortable and put on extra weight and put less effort into keeping up with appearances because they believe that having kids with a man makes them safe and then lose their shit when husbands leaves after kids are grown. Good on you for seeing the true reason your husband left you and not going crazy and trying to ruin his life. It takes a lot to take responsibility for something like that. Hopefully you will meet someone that can recognize that kind of maturity.

[@PoPo-xp7yk]

@@loriclark553 Sorry for you but appreciate the honesty. My wife headed to the exact same place. I did express my dissatisfaction about 10 years ago. It changed nothing.

[@cynthiahart8055]

I'm so relieved. My husband and I let ourselves go at the same time.

[@Steelhorsecowboy]

If my wife and I thought like this guy, Rich is talking about, we would have kicked each other to the curb two or three times over our 40 yr marriage. We both had our better and worse times.

[@Steelhorsecowboy]

@Beth Éireann We generally took care of ourselves but life happens as you age. I do think you should try to stay in shape in a broad sense out of respect for yourself and for your partner but as you age the body changes and it really isn't as important as it was when you are young. My wife is 60 and not a runway model but she is attractive, well put together, dignified and stylish. She looks great to me.

[@Steelhorsecowboy]

I am lurking the Manosphere here and elsewhere largely so I can speak intelligently with my mid thirties single son. He's a handsome advertising executive who attracts gold diggers and flashy superficial women like the guys here complain about. I want get updated on what is going on so when we are golfing, shooting, etc. I can speak intelligently to the subject. He can figure it out himself I just don't want to sound uninformed when the subject comes up.

[@cletussamboy8650]

Beth Eireann that guy sounds more suited to casual dating and flings than the committed relationships. He's just trying to play catch up now because he missed out on so much of his life and grabbed the first thing that came his way out of desperation.

[@Richjunior1]

Women today deserve true equality. Including being dumped for emotional reasons!!

[@dogesmith5396]

This guy is selfish. You chose this life. Once the kids are 18 you can leave her but until then take care of your responsibility! We bash women (rightfully) when they leave a marriage with kids, well we should do the same when a guy does it. Two wrongs do not make a right.

[@somechinesedude5466]

@@timv1.082 i can agree to this

[@raycebannon5194]

Do you want to have the child grow up knowing / seeing his father miserable? The father can get divorced, live very close, see his kid all the time, and pay his portion of child support.

[@somechinesedude5466]

@@raycebannon5194 do you want to see a daughter growing up with woman that were divorced by her husband because she turn ugly & her husband just spinning plate between girls around her age & getting his money being ripped when he can instead invest on her inheritance & stable environment where she can have stable family with potentially stable man This is what marriage is, stop complaining & commit Its what society demand, if this guy doesn't want it, fuck him & society still gonna execute him one way or the other Non commitment have consequences, if he want free, it ain't gonna come easy & without long term consequences

[@cletussamboy8650]

Yes this guy should of not gotten married or had children and worked on himself first so he could pull in the women he really wanted all his life. Then once he felt satisfied enough could of settled down.

[@war1980]

@@timv1.082 *" Failing to work hard to provide what your spouse needs in a partner is almost as much of a breach as cheating is. (Personally I’d redraft the vows to say that)."* Exactly right. She stopped trying to provide basic things her spouse needs. So why are you trying to point a finger at this guy for doing what "we crap on women for" when clearly he isn't?

[@nickbargas7352]

This guy is not a good person. Her teeth were crooked when he married her and now he finds her teeth ugly. 12 years of taking antidepressants tells me you have not done the work on who you are and you are relying on a drug to numb your true self. I feel sad for your wife and I usually take the guys side almost 95% of the time.

[@pg.n5694]

i agree with you my man.

[@impactproformance]

Nailed it

[@jackbroughton1431]

The moment the guy started to brag about his body and “six pack abs” along with his money making douche chills intensified, and I got the immediate vibe he was a jerk off

[@clowndriver5576]

I get your point. We may not be that 10/10, but willing to make things better must be in the relationship. He started getting better, taking care of himself, but his wife didn't follow up for whatever may be the reason. My best guess is he made a huge mistake when he decided to marry in his early 20's. Dude, don't marry before we figure things out. Our choices can ruin our lives forever.

[@Fetchup]

Well said Nick. Completely agree and I generally take the guys side as well.

[@DarcyCooper]

doesn't sound like a man...what should I do...lol...be the man and manage your family...sounds selfish and vain.

[@david5131971]

He's a beta that thinks he has become an alpha just because of a good job and higher fitness level. I think the truth is he would be clueless in relationships if he left his wife

[@DarcyCooper]

I agree totally.

[@cob766]

I am glad to see men like yourself sticking up for this unfortunate woman mentioned in this video. It gives me a tiny bit of hope that not all men are sex-crazed, image-obsessed, self-absorbed and disloyal. Thank you!

[@jimsteele2072]

He needs to keep his homelife at home. Start banging a waitress....

[@toplad8113]

@@cob766 Unfortunate ? She's a vegetative hag. Men are sex-crazed, sexual desire is literally the impulse that drives forward men, who drive forward civilizations. Also, he wasn't disloyal and statistically, women are far more likely to be disloyal than men, especially in an environment/society that heavily encourages them to do so without any regards for the man and without making them feel any sort of shame. You're either a stupid person, or a dishonest one. I hope for you it's the latter because you can't do much about the former.

[@carlosb1]

Who would have thought that crooked teeth could have a major impact on marriage.

[@cletussamboy8650]

Chae-won Seong He was obviously desperate and took the first thing that came his way. That's why he didn't bring it up otherwise she would of told him to buzz off. Either that or his sexual frustration caused his libido level to shoot sky high it made any woman attractive to him and now having regular sex has dampened his constant horniness.

[@WildBillHickums]

Teach I found that little bit kind of odd lol. Average teeth are surprisingly an easy thing for me to get around.

[@prepordietryin9119]

@@chae-wonseong8350 what's a lair?

[@fabulousdolphin4221]

@@chae-wonseong8350 a lair. a real cavern

[@SovereignStatesman]

carlosb1: everyone but Austin Powers

[@garrett3441]

2008 I lost my job, learned my gf was seeing someone she met at a casino..and discovered she had gambled away our home equity! Quite a year.... this drove me to seek help... Anti-depressants mess up your thought processes and sexual functions. Deal with the issue head on, move on and get through the wall of fire. You’ll be fine.

[@superchuck3259]

Dump her, what a scamming bitch!

[@basicboomer519]

Holy shit! That’s insane! Hopefully everything has gone better since.

[@ozansimitciler5781]

that's awful.

[@leighlaj6914]

So basically forget having any integrity or compassion in life. Be selfish and live just to please yourself. Lol, this mindset is equally as destructive as the crazy feminists' views.

[@fettywap659]

Leighla J agreed, thank you for not being selfish💕 we’re the rare ones in the world

[@MayorOfMoetown]

Leighla J 100%

[@RealityHurts923]

It sounds like he wants to please other women actually. Nothing wrong with that.

[@kana22693]

You can't do much more damage to a collapsed building. I guess you could set it on fire? Meh.

[@jassimsarhan1728]

It's selfish that the wife doesn't do effort to please her man, for every action a reaction, if the action is bad don't expect a nice reaction

[@MrJimmy3459]

This dude is no different than a woman wanting a divorce her husband cause he lost his job

[@zsuzsuspetals]

Exactly. No women with real marriages divorce husbands because they lose their job. Job loss is part of life. My husband lost his job on our 1 month anniversary and then years later because the companies were moving the work to India. Divorcing wasn't a thought in my head for a second. Only gold diggers divorce men who lose their income. And this guy's marriage doesn't sound like any kind of an arrangement where she was supposed to maintain herself as his trophy wife.

[@oEXTRA]

More like if a woman wanted to divorce her husband if he lost his job and essentially refused to get a new one...

[@austntexan]

@@zsuzsuspetals Yes, listening to his letter is infuriating. Does he know how many men would probably kill for a solid woman like this? All of these things are unimportant, but I'm not in his shoes. I was with a woman for a while that I LOVED but simply was not attracted. . . but I didn't marry her. We split and are still friends, nothing more. It's a shame he didn't have enough dating experience to know this prior to making a human life with this person. I can't believe the lingo this guy is using ("game") and he's been married for so long now. People are weird.

[@danialhowe9814]

really? because last time i checked no guy ever sat on a couch watching oprah shoving his fat ass full of JOB - ones a choice, the other is a situation... grow up white knight

[@quantumcrash7266]

Glad I wasn't the only one who thought this. The impression I got from the guy's letter is that he is immature and self-serving. It's a fact that every woman gets less hot with age and familiarity. Love and commitment is about going beyond yourself, growing as a person, becoming a better version of yourself. Marriage is just a tool to help with that, in my view. I can't really cheer for this guy when the only reason he wants out is because his wife doesn't look like she used to.

[@godswordsaves7673]

it's funny when he was "less attractive" she was good enough now he knows he has options because externally he looks good, see how quickly he ditches the woman who was with him even when he wasn't saying anything.

[@Gree543]

@Victoria Johnsen has your husband read this comment? i think he should.

[@godswordsaves7673]

Victoria she was plain from the get go. if he'd of known who he was and what he could and could not tolerate (conversations you have before saying i do) he may not have been in this situation. this is why you marry for more than just looks. character counts.

[@godswordsaves7673]

Muhammad yeah. i mean I'm not knocking the guy for feeling this way. men are visual so it's understandable that looks matter but so does personality. it sounds a bit to me like this man wants to know leaving his wife for this reason is justified. there's no problem marrying as a virgin as long as you're not naive.

[@tadghsmith1457]

People in general are only as "loyal" as their options. That goes for both men and women.

[@godswordsaves7673]

Tadgh. i believe that. you may be tempted and even fall but she has nothing other than looks??? (and his child of course). Christmas eve- throw down a dress on the bed with the heels, book a makeover day/pamper day. say look we're going out babysitter is arranged, make sure you're ready by x'o'clock..... loving you're wife inspite of the fact right now he feels she's unloveable can help. she could have seen his potential and locked him down but isn't that what everyone wants? a good long term investment. anyway there's not enough information to come to a solid conclusion. he'll probably be back in years complaining about how the bitch divorce raped him he doesn't see his child and now he's on the run from a 8.5 out of 10 bpd f***s like a pornstar fruitcake....you wait and see 😅😅😅😅

[@cdixon5150]

I've made a lot of mistakes in life like most people , but at 38 years old, NOT getting married might be my greatest accomplishment yet. Lol , something I didn't do might be the best thing I've done. I'm alone drinking a coffee in Japan watching this video. Couldn't be happier

[@DIVISIONINCISION]

Totally spot-on! Not that I ever seriously considered it, but not getting married or having kids were the best decisions. People ask me how I've done it. I simply reply, "I was smarter than you, I guess!"

[@DIVISIONINCISION]

@Beth Éireann No, Bethie. You're taking time out to comment in an environment where you opinion isn't wanted nor appreciated. We don't care about you or your pseudo-life. I'd say I'm pretty happy with complete silence when I wake up and the ability to go wherever I want when I want. No obligations and a stacked bank account. I'll take that over your eggnog, thank you.

[@andreh501]

@Beth Éireann I don't think you're qualified to judge whether being married and having kids is 'one of the greatest blessings a man can have'

[@DIVISIONINCISION]

@Beth Éireann Fuck your blessings, Beth. I'm not a nice dude. I'm an asshole, but at least I'm an honest asshole who will set you straight instead of lying to you. I'm not getting married, nor having kids. Satisfied?

[@hamsterama]

@Beth Éireann Just because you think it's a blessing to pop babies out of your pussy doesn't mean it's for everyone. My sister and brother-in-law are in a sexless marriage, and they have a three year old that screams and throws tantrums at 4:00 am pretty much every day. Maybe among newlyweds, there's more happiness and sex. But everything changes after kids come into the picture. You're not better than everyone else because you consider it a "blessing" to be married and shooting babies out of your genitalia. There are over 7 billion people in the world, we don't need more! P.S. I am a woman, and I have no interest in having kids and getting woken up by their screaming 4:00 am tantrums (and I'm in my mid-30's, so I'm not going to change my mind).

[@Shawk95]

What if this guy contracts a debilitating disease and ends up in a wheelchair --- before or after getting rid of his wife? Life doesn't offer any guarantees.

[@luminescent__]

Let us pray he does... AFTER he's fully burned his remaining bridge ...

[@CurtisReese-tl7ip]

That can happen to anyone.

[@KimF1]

@@luminescent__ - Yep!!

[@kanyewest2729]

I mean if she's too lazy to get in shape and look after herself in the relationship; I doubt she'd have the effort to looking after him as well.

[@tulipbubbly3748]

That would be what we call KARMA

[@daniellefulmer]

I actually have a guy friend who went through this and overcame it. When he started taking care of himself and became rich (multi-millionaire), he started to get attracted to other women and starts getting turned off by his wife. His wife lived through it for the sake of their 3 daughters. Until one day, he told himself that his mind can be stronger than his own selfish desires. He did things to convince himself that he is attracted to his wife. He would wake up and look for something good in his wife and compliment her. He would even peep when she showers and tell her how sexy she is(even when she was a lot heavier than when he married her). He did everything he could to look for one thing that he like about her. Then she started to blossom naturally. She started taking care of herself more. Then one day he realised, he's no longer faking it. He actually starts to be attracted to her again and falling in love with her all over again. He honored his commitment and gave everything he could and it all turned out well. Forcing somebody to be what you want them to be is what exhausts this guy who wrote the email. Instead of being fixated with what his wife doesn't have, he could try to look for even one thing that he likes about her. The actual problem is not because the wife is being neglectful of herself, it's the husband's view on how he wanted her to be. He is planting seeds of disdain for his wife in his mind, and those seeds are now turning into a tree. What occupies your mind, controls your LIFE. And this guy is full of expectations and not actually doing what he can for his wife. How about volunteer to take care of the kid and the house to give her a time to pamper herself every now and then. And just the fact that he is even annoyed by her "mommy mode", like dude, she is taking care of the house and your kid. Grow the fuck up. I hope you read this is realize that she is not the one giving you that depression, it's you and your unnecessary expectations of her.

[@quantumcrash7266]

This sounds similar to a story I read in a Stephen Covey book. Someone was inquiring: "I feel like I don't love my wife anymore. What should I do?" The gist of his reply was: "LOVE your wife." In other words, he was suggesting that love is a verb and if he acted in a selfless, loving way toward his wife--even though the feeling seems to be absent---the concept of love may change for him. And it did! After he had behaved lovingly, the feeling of love started to arise once again, and it was a deeper understanding of what love is. This challenging time became a source of great insight into a deeper part of this man, and also enabled him to move his relationship to a more meaningful level.

[@albertodeulofeu5277]

This is good advice and should be taken from both genders. Specially today when women leave ALL THE TIME.

[@edwardlewis1963]

had kids, then the fire died out. question is can he get the fire smouldering again. and perhaps one thing to account for in the back of the mind - menopause.

[@harrisn3693]

He is probably Indian who married her for GC

[@MegaDoom89]

Alternatively, the woman gets fatter and becomes more dominant because "he loves me no matter what i do" and the male partner becomes more miserable. Your friend should consider himself lucky that route didnt happen when it happens so often to other men.

[@Steelhorsecowboy]

Rich, are sure you didn't get punked? This sounds like the classic story I read on men's channels where a guy marries a woman and she starts to think she too hot for him. She's on mood drugs. She begins liking the attention she is getting from other men. She complains about her husband's appearance and starts withholding sex. Then she starts talking about divorce. She thinks she can trade up. This guy sounds like a woman.

[@wagondragon]

This guy sounds more like one of those douche jocks in college.

[@jozo8070]

exactly my thoughts. seems like a test to see if we men have the same double standard women has. gladly i see pretty much all the guys in the comments section didn't fall for this and think the guy is at fault. and i don't think that's because we all realized this could be a a hoax, we are logical with no double standard.

[@JoeBieber1]

"sounds like a women" y'all sound sexist

[@lmoral222]

Still waiting for Rich's opinion to you, Steelhorsecowboy. You speak some real stuff here, appreciated.

[@basicboomer519]

Sure, but at the same time, if women can do it and we say “well sometimes it doesn’t work out” then if a man does it then we can go by the same logic “it sometimes doesn’t work out”

[@FromDream2RealityNow]

As soon as I heard virgin, it screamed mid life crisis.

[@klew262]

I was a virgin when I got married and was the worst decision I ever made

[@klew262]

Cherry Ember lack of experiences and not knowing what I wanted with an intimate partner

[@jjm152]

Clearly this guy is having a mid life crisis. He wants to go out and fuck around and he's such a beta that he's basically going around trying to get people to tell him it's okay to divorce his wife so that he doesn't have to feel bad about it. You see women do this kind of behavior all the time and Richard would definitely call them out on it, but when it comes to this dude he doesn't once call him on his bullshit.

[@brucejackson3403]

@@jjm152 Dude paid him $100 for his opinion read the bottom of the letter he shows

[@impactproformance]

@@jjm152 freaking NAILED it bro.

[@jennr6928]

As a mental health professional, I have a little different take on this. While I sympathize with his complaints about her letting her self go somewhat, I think there is a bigger issue here. He is not happy and is expecting her to make him happy which is common but this is false thinking. She can fix her teeth and jump through hoops but until he works on his own issues, she will never be enough. From reading the email I see a lot of issues with this guy. I sense a deep insecurity and immaturity even though he is touting himself. He has no commitment or true love for her. He is lacking in morals and values.. as are you. Opening up the marriage or divorcing will not make him happy in the long run. Sad situation and equally sad advice.

[@JL_hahaha0303]

Agree with you, and constantly measuring him and his wife solelu of the so called SMV seems to be objectifying the people involved as if they carry no emotions at all.

[@ryanmitchell4266]

You're a joke of a "Mental health Professional" if you can't see that he is miserable in large part due to being forced through marriage to stay with this woman. It is clearly in his best interests to move on. Richards advice here should have been to sack up and leave, regardless of the financial impact. Better to be happy in a 1 room shack than miserable in a mansion

[@ianremsburg613]

Disagree 100% . He is not happy. Needs to walk away.

[@m2goofy760]

I am actually shocked by this email, not for what it say but because I would swear just by the reasoning for the unhappiness it sounds like it was written by the modern woman.

[@muskokamike127]

YOu are forgetting that he married the first woman he had sex with. He has no experience and yes, he has no commitment or love for her, what's wrong with that? He has to leave. Face the shit storm that will come his way via a divorce and then move on. People fall out of live or get married for the wrong reasons all the time. That isn't a flaw in them, it's just making stupid mistakes. If you see him as having deep rooted issues then do you say the same thing about every woman who leaves a man because he lost his job? let himself go? lost interest in sex?

[@ceezee5522]

Wow, cognitive bias, much? This dude lacks empathy. She should divorce him, immediately, and take whatever she can through the divorce. He really says it all with the "I can understand why she has no game, she is a new mother, has a full-time job, and has serious illnesses (which thankfully don't impair her breadwinning harhar". He never gaf about her, lol. This guy was a low-self esteem narcissist, now he is a high-confidence narcissist. She is a low self-esteem pushover. She needs to get a backbone, dump this pond scum, and fix herself.

[@wagondragon]

Can't agree more. This guy seems to think highly of himself. I hope he also finds a narcissist like himself.

[@Vlada2237]

sulu I hope he doesnt find anyone hahah

[@nekitagoddess9331]

cee zee 👏👏👏

[@albertodeulofeu5277]

I agree. Now U know how most women talk about their men behind their back.

[@areafortyone]

First mistake was getting married.

[@DIVISIONINCISION]

Why men don't realize this, I will never understand. There are women who will be cool with relationships without marriage. Find them. Date them. End of story.

[@vongolaprimo837]

Nice coat of arms

[@GomChingu]

this man things the divorce is going to go well. when his wife's father is a lawyer. ohhhhhhh boy this is going to be rough.

[@ojosazules8828]

He may not be a family law lawyer though...while my gut feeling says he should leave, you do have to question if he's trying to make up for all the various women he could have slept with in his 20's to give him that rounded experience of what he missed out on...the downside is when he's with the next hottie having mind blowing sex, that will be a transient moment as the cycle of beauty will eventually wear thin on her too...so he needs to decide, is it marriage he wants, or just women that sexually blow his mind🤔

[@anneb889]

bizkitgto He didn’t really call her a lazy fat bitch. I don’t think he mentioned her gaining weight at all. He said she still had her teaching job, she didn’t stop working after having a kid. He didn’t mention her never cooking or cleaning it not taking care of the kid. He said he was feeling less attraction because her teeth were a turn off, her hair was a mess, and she was always acting in annoying mommy mode. I guess maybe mommy mode was bitchy. Having a kid does sometimes effect the attractiveness of a spouse. I think he’s only every been with his wife and he wants to see what else is out there.

[@andreasleonlandgren3092]

GomChingu hahaha!

[@keithwisdom1663]

he's not the judge in the divorce case.

[@joseluisherreriaslarios5216]

This dude lives in lalaland!!! jajajaja

[@TuAmigoElMorrocoy]

Sounds to me that this guy married his wife when he was a 5, and now that he's fit and goes to the gym he feels he can do better and it's looking for a younger newer model, despite of his wife still being loyal and caring. I mean I'm willing to be that his wife probably hasn't changed much from the day they got married. If she had fucked up teeth, well your adult teeth don't just get crooked over the years, it's probably something she had he met her... Oooh but NOW that he feels he can do better, it's become such a bother to him that he feels the need to mention it on one of the reasons she turns him off to the point of getting a divorce. If anything, this is proof of male hypergamy at it's best. But again, instead of higher resources, men trade up for youth and looks.

[@sanjacobs6261]

Trading up for youth and looks instead of resources is exactly what makes it *not* hypergamy.

[@prickowens9341]

San Jacobs man you are stupid

[@shulex7]

@Graham, King of the Britons! Okay, it has a different name, but it's the same thing as hypergamy

[@8i68rother6]

Fuxk that im climbing for money

[@Dentsun4228]

women do it all the time..and worse for stupider reasons.

[@mikeodonovan9299]

Is the writer Bi-Polar? I hate feminism & have been through the mill, but he sounds like a bit of a narcissist. Just saying.

[@jimsteele2072]

He sounds like the wife

[@pingu7271]

Just a bit narcissist?

[@Gigi_J.]

So true.. and with very inflated ego and self-esteem... like the one bi-polar people have when they are in manic phase. Teeth? Didn’t she have the same teeth when the guy married her? Messy hair? I mean... I suspect that it is a case when a guy projects his own problems on the woman. I do agree that lack of attraction can be caused by medications or he is just bored... maybe divorce is the best way to solve this because that woman truly deserves someone who would love her with her small imperfections.

[@varunishere]

He is just truthful & u can’t handle it.

[@SovereignStatesman]

Keep Auckland Moving: sounds more like Asperger's. They tend to be self-absorbed asshole-PhD's who are super-aware of everyone's faults but their own.

[@BlahBlahPoop617]

No, not SOME women who get married eventually get lazy, fat, and more entitled. MOST women do. And that is coming from a marriage counselor who has seen and dealt with THOUSANDS of marriages. It is SO common that if men knew that one thing alone and nothing else about marriage laws, most probably would ever want to marry or think about marrying again.

[@BlahBlahPoop617]

@bizkitgto Because most men (especially young men) are inexperienced at life and male and female dynamics and thus they see through a 'blue pill' glass darkly. Female nature must be experienced and cannot just be taught to men, because most young men who have little to no experience with women can't be taught this because they're ignorant of it and never experienced it. So most will just use shaming language and call you bitter...especially the ones raised by single moms and feminists. They project how they view women and are attracted to women onto women so they usually have to learn the hard way when they find out that men and women are not equal biologically and look for different things or have different mating strategies. This is why Entrepreneurs in Cars is spot on when he tells men to spend their 20's figuring themselves out and building their empire. Most men that young have so much to learn. But even if men do the right thing in their 20's, I'd still never tell them to marry. It's akin to putting a gun to your head. Especially as every year it seems the laws become worse. (Just look at how Canada's court ruling recently threw out mens ability to use video as proof in rape allegation cases.)

[@Cynnas]

After 16 years of marriage and two kids I weigh around 10 pounds less and am more active than when we married. I went into it thinking, I don't want to end up like most of my married or divorced friends; overweight, lazy and miserable with defeated men. My husband and I have a healthy and active lifestyle, I do my best to keep him and our marriage happy.

[@butterflymage5623]

@Beth Éireann how many states have 50/50 by default?

[@LAKE4742]

What about gettin married to a woman who makes more money than you, and whom you have no children with? Is marriage some kinda prize? Not really (especially these days). But some guys still want to be a part of that tradition as well. The institution of marriage is not horrible. It's the people who've changed, and made it horrible.

[@eperot]

@@Cynnas That's awesome, Laura. It's great to hear from women who understand this, and men too (guys can be just as guilty of letting themselves go in an LTR). Seems like you are on the right track...You want to strengthen your marriage ladies and gents? Work together to keep yourselves on track with fitness, health and lifestyle goals.

[@simplythebest2k]

This dude never wrote about having major marriage problems. He just doesn't like the way she looks anymore. The way he wrote, it's all about the looks and that's a bit shallow. That's always going to happen people get older, get kids and all that. Marriage is not a picnic. It would be understandable if the woman was hell but all he wrote was that she is a little naggy. Yeah that's all women at some point. Feels like he is getting women attention he has never experienced before. He is going to keep trading up for younger prettier model and karma is going to catch up within him one day. One of the trade up is going to wreck his world and he wont see it coming.

[@simplythebest2k]

Great, however, it doesn't make anything you said not shallow. He improved his body not his mind he sounds like he has ways to go. Which is why I said he is going to get wrecked by someone just as shallow as him. That is what he will seek and no doubt what he is going to attrack.

[@dezkightz]

Ayanna Mett What? You know nothing about SMV....

[@EhunterL]

Ok, it is men like this that are responsible for feminism. Back in the day some guys would wake up and decide "I can do better then this" and would just leave the wife and kids. Would take everything and leave them with bugger all. This guy wants to live a better life, ok thats his choice.. but can he stop playing the victim and be open and just leave! Yes Mate you will have to split the assests 50/50, yes mate the mother will want to keep custody and rightfully so, yes you will have to pay child support. If you don't want to then don't leave. But it takes two to tango. He hasn't exactly described his wife as an evil woman, she a standard working mother.

[@ivaylopetkov6707]

I think that you are wrong about why this guy is depressed. He has been married for 9 years and he has been on antidepressants for 12 years, so something was wrong before he got married. You are also making the assumption that the wife has gained weight. The person who wrote the letter was very specific about what he did not like so if weight was a part of the problem, I am assuming that he would have mentioned it. Overall I think that the guy’s complaints are very small. In my opinion hair is not a problem. The complaint about the teeth is totally without merit if the wife had the same teeth at the time they got married - he had the chance to say no to those teeth. Did she suddenly stop brushing her teeth after they married? I am also not sure why the mommy mode is a bad thing; you talk different to children than you do to adults. That’s common sense. Later in the letter the guy even seems upset that his wife’s top priority is being a mother. This situation reeks of hypergamy. When the guy was a 5 he married a 5, but now that he is an 8 (or so he thinks) he is unhappy with a 5. Looking down on people like that is textbook hypergamy. Also if we are going to talk about market value (like in economics) its important to say that the market determines value, not the individual. How many men are looking for a woman who can work full time while being a devoted mother and according to this letter seems pretty loyal too? On the other hand, the type of women that this guy seems to be after, how many of them would date a guy who is 5’ 7’’ and who could be making a lot less than 85k a year after the divorce? Also engineers with a Ph. D. can do better job wise so will the ladies see him as enough of an alpha? Not all women are obsessed with money, but they still like to see some ambition. At the end of the day this marriage seems headed towards a divorce. It’s not possible to force attraction and nobody wants to be in a relationship where the other person is not interested. I think the wife is unlikely to go crazy, because he lawyer father would advise her to remain calm, because she looks like the victim here. According to this letter, she has not really done anything wrong. It’s also worth saying that the letter was kind of rough and if the guy has said this stuff to his wife’s face, well people have probably claimed emotional abuse and distress for less. As far as what the guy should do, I think that he should figure out what he wants and deal with whatever caused him to start taking antidepressants a dozen years ago. I agree with you that his inexperience could have worked against him. Based on this letter, I am not sure if he wants to be a husband and/or a father.

[@josephalbatross5961]

Very well said. Everyone is latching onto "She couldn't do orthodontics" as a sign she is exerting minimal effort and not serving his needs and wants. Honestly, it sounds like she is exceeding most men's wildest dreams! But the husband is a man who missed out on life in his 20s, and consequently still pines for what a 20 yr old pines for. He will give up a 30-yr old's treasure to chase down a 20-yr old's trash.

[@bmeeseeks2881]

Years ago I had a massive family tragedy and gained about 40 pounds after dealing with months of depression. My ex bailed. Well guess what? After 1 year I lost the weight and came back hotter and better than ever before. He wanted me back and I said NO. 5 years on I am slim and look good and he is fat and grey. How the tables have turned. This guy may find the same.

[@humansvd3269]

You only bothered to take care of yourself once he left. You were going to stay that way because you felt you had certainty. I've been married twice and they all got fat because they thought they could.

[@soumya9484]

@@humansvd3269 pretty sure you wouldn't be saying this if a woman left a depressed man instead of staying by his side and helping him take care of himself

[@humansvd3269]

@@soumya9484 No, I'd say the same. Op had no intention of losing weight or changing until she lost her man.

[@jsgdk]

A woman being feminine, caring, fun, making a guy feel good/relaxed, not being bitchy/problematic etc. could be called game, but its obviously not the same, I have dumped pretty hot girls because they were playing silly games, which can be mitigated and minimized by me having game obviously, but some girls are just too much work and I cant be bothered, my current girlfriend is not super hot, but she just makes me feel so good and is so easy to be around.

[@katiespade8625]

Sounds like you're a loser

[@anneb889]

Katie Spade Why? He’s basically saying it’s what on the inside that counts.

[@LAKE4742]

Well said, man. Everyone is different, and no matter what, there are still good people out there that value themselves in a relationship with another, and value their partner also. It's not dead yet, but sadly we're nearly there. Oh well, hip-hop is nearly dead, too. 🙁

[@redpillcoach1855]

Marry her for science. Report back 2 years after the nuptials and or 8 weeks after the first kid is born. Makes you feel good and is easy to be around. LMFAO. She will be howling in your face: Is it all about you? You are a dad now and it is time to grow up! I can't spend my time making you feel good any more......

[@LAKE4742]

@@redpillcoach1855 Yup.

[@HH-vx3gs]

Hope this woman gets a divorce. I wouldn't touch this guy. He's truly pathetic and she's better of without him

[@wowster762]

I agree this guy has no spinal cord

[@tulipbubbly3748]

Yes

[@samcashdan1255]

Been in a very similar (albeit condensed) situation: dated an ex for about two years, she was hot as hell when we got together, but she got comfortable nearly immediately after we got together, and started to let herself go (she optimized her "single" season to get in great shape, then when entering a relationship, instantly let herself go with the eating). She held an ultimatum over my head to move in with her, and I fell into it (first relationship, I was very beta). Knew it was a bad choice from the first day of moving into our new place. Let it go on for 4 months, as she grew bigger and bigger and I grew less and less attracted to her. Cut ties in the 4th month, was sad as hell for a couple days, then came to my senses with a massive weight lifted off my shoulders. Got into great shape, moved up in my job, dated a few hot women, etc. This girl was great and amazing in so many ways, but the attraction waned, and I felt like she was holding me back. Again, it hurt for a few days, but ultimately I'm way happier with who I am now than who I was then.

[@richardraffensperger6808]

Personally I think he should stay. She does seem willing to make some effort and is not putting all the blame on him. Also if he leaves this will damage his relationship with his daughter. What turned me off from my x-wife was her attitude. She blamed everything on me, I was never good enough, and made no effort to make herself more attractive to me.

[@Chrsboling]

Richard Raffensperger I agree. I think he has serious “the grass is greener” syndrome. Getting strange pussy is not going to make him as happy as he imagines; particularly if he really loves his kid. My advice? In the words of the great Patrice O’Neal: “get yourself a side bitch; stop being a pussy”. If he is careful, he won’t get caught and will get the poison out... assuming he can close. If he gets caught, it may be a wake up call for his wife to step it up.

[@ArisenMind]

Question : If a woman were to write in under the exact same scenario, how well received would it be and would it still be hypergamous? Say for instance how you said that he could tell her to open the marriage, would you give her the same advice?

[@Richjunior1]

Women deserve equal lefts

[@BardicLiving]

@Johnny Five That may be better for the man's happiness, but allowing it is virtually the same as having "no fault divorce." Eventually attraction to one's spouse is going to fade; it isn't necessarily anyone's fault.

[@jennifermenth-pavel1260]

I like the video about promiscuous women and how horrible they are. Yet in another video about internet dating he clearly states by the third date you should be getting sex. In my opinion meeting someone online requires more time for ppl to get to know each other. With that being said a woman who moves that fast is promiscuous!! Lol

[@puddingpudding9579]

@Johnny Five I agree. My brother went on a date recently she went ape shit on him because he rents and didn't have a house, she was a single mum. If he did that he would have gotten so much backlash. It's wrong and unfair.

[@zeomarmob]

Jennifer Menth - PaVel, well, if you follow the logic of red pill, it’s pretty simple. The reality of red pill is merely response to feminism, the farther the feminism goes the farther opposite the red pill will be. It’s some what a natural counter balance reaction. That’s why it seem that he is bashing on feminist women but then goes and builds a counter response. That is why we will be seeing more LGBT population growth because men and women lost touch and sense of dignity. This country was build on and held together by Judea-Christian social fabric but unfortunately this fabric reached it state of decay.

[@brittany1484]

And men wonder why women initiate divorce. lmao She saw something in him that no one else did and look how he treats her now

[@survivorxxx6455]

Women always divorce men no matter the circumstances. It will not matter, even if husbands put lot of efforts into a relationship, she will never be happy or would wish that she had top 20% men.

[@jasonb3687]

I never heard you ask him if he loves her still?( or maybe i missed that part) Or if divorcing is good for his daughter? (It never is) What's sad is everything he talked about is superficial and no one seems to care about his daughter and how it will break a family apart. He seems to me he is doing it for selfish reasons and choosing himself over his family (for better or for worse?) Now that he's up his game he now wants to experiment but sadly he will regret it and it will all turn bad for him because hes doing it for all the wrong reasons. You should have told him to try again and help her and work with her and be patient, notto have open marriage thats a disaster for their family.

[@erudite1987]

or he should get a concubine.......

[@Uzodesign]

Sorry Rich, but your standards for women seem to be pretty low. It's not good enough for women to just look nice. It gets old. A woman should look nice first and foremost, then have a great personality, be interesting, fun, caring and supportive.

[@dezkightz]

I'm gonna start replying to Blue/Purple Pilled comments by writing *BLUE PILL* in bold lettering and then explaining myself. You're my first victim (godforbid you're trolling). *BLUE PILL* No. Outside of aging, no man should feel obligated to stay with any woman that he finds unattractive. Why? Because 1: she wouldn't do the same thing if roles were reversed, and 2: you should never defer to a woman. His SMV is clearly at its peak, he's maximized it. His problem isn't necessarily her attractiveness, but the fact that she doesn't want to put in the work to make herself more attractive to him. Rollo puts it best: you may love many women, but if you're married, you're probably only going to be fucking your wife. The question that this guy needs to ask himself is: "Who am I fucking, and why?" He's got the why down, but he doesn't have the who down, and that's why he's here. Rich's standards aren't low for pointing out how men view women. Personally, I don't give a shit how nice she is if I just want to fuck, and if I'm marrying the girl, I give just as much of a fuck about her looks as I do her personality. I don't think any guy should marry anything outside of an (to them). Why? Because the 8 will be the girl that has the best personality for her hotness. Any higher and she won't feel the need to cherish the relationship (like this woman here) and any lower, and she won't be able to really get you off and make the sex worthwhile (this man's dilemma). Rollo says a 7, but if you were to go for maximum hotness, I'd definitely say an 8, ESPECIALLY if you are at peak SMV. A 7 is best for guys that have high SMV but not max (and are alpha enough) and a 6 is best for guys like myself who have a lot of work ahead of them. You should NOT go lower under ANY circumstances, and this guy is settling for a 4. Personality is irrelevant here. He needs better pussy. If the sex was good enough it wouldn't be a problem, but it obviously is. He needs better pussy. K I'm done ranting. Good day.

[@miguelfilo962]

How many women do you know?

[@Uzodesign]

@@dezkightz Thanks for your unneeded response 😂😂 Like can you even read with comprehension? Did I say the dude should stay with his wife? Rich said a woman doesn't need game all she needs to do is be beautiful and I'm saying that's not good enough. Ever heard the saying, "Show me a beautiful woman and I'll show you a man tired of fucking her"? So, pretty much Rich is saying if a woman is beautiful with no personality that's good enough? Nah, thanks. I'm good. In other news there's too much bs and hypocrisy in the manosphere. Even if a woman meets the arbitrary "quality woman" qualification many men would still cheat on her if they can get away with it and they will justify it with, "People are meant to be monogamous. Alpha men are meant to spread their seed".

[@dezkightz]

@@Uzodesign See that's why I commented, I misunderstood. You're still wrong tho, and here's why: You misunderstand what Rich is saying. Of course women need more than looks to truly keep a man invested in them. You're absolutely right on that front and I retract my earlier statement because of it. HOWEVER, I'm pretty sure he's merely talking about the level of effort that women need in the SMP. To begin to attract a man, a woman doesn't need personality, she just needs good looks. We are more attuned to a personality (and some of us are more turned on by it, like you and I) BECAUSE of the Red Pill. Our understanding of it cuts through all the bullshit pretty much instantly, and looks at things from an objective standpoint. Objectively speaking, a woman doesn't need a personality to attract men. She just needs to be hot. This is part of why porn is so successful. My bad for jumping to conclusions though, I get you now. A simple misunderstanding is all.

[@Uzodesign]

@@dezkightz Yes, looks grabs a mans attention first and foremost and a great personality + the looks holds the man's attention for the long term. Yes, even if it's a shory term long term (if that makes sense). I understand you're giving Rich the benefit of the doubt (nothing wrong with that) but I'm going based on what he said. Taking him at face value. As Rollo said a man is only as good as his options. So, we often accuse women of hypergamy but most men given the opportunity will fuck the next hotter woman and maybe even leave their woman for her if there was no risk to them. This to me is the male equivalent of hypergamy.

[@jerelwashington]

The best thing you can do is be honest with your lady. She may not hold your attention or desire at this time but you did promise a life with her and you created a child from it. There is some responsibilities there. You owe her honesty not your life. Before you speak with her figure out what you want to do. Maybe it's a separation, maybe it's straight divorce. But figure that out first make plans for that. When you speak with her do not make her wrong. It's okay to change your mind, which you did. Ask her what she needs to be okay or to get on her feet. Try to work out an arrangement before getting the courts or attorneys involved it will save you thousands of dollars. Get it on paper, be generous, did not make an offer however asked her what she feels she needs and for how long. Agree on a custody situation, be fair. No matter how she responds or Acts you must remain calm. When that is not possible you must exit the space. Always take the high road. Lastly make sure you evaluate the good parts of your relationship and the reasons why you were with her in the first place. You may find that when you get out in the dating world these women are not what you expect. Good luck brother!

[@NaturalBeautyGlow]

Jerel Washington it’s true grass is not always greener on the other side.

[@knightrider1979]

@@NaturalBeautyGlow the grass is always the greenest where you water it.

[@Uzodesign]

What I find funny here are the women here praising him. If you read through most of the comments here or in most manosphere vids were women are criticized you'll barely see any women posting, lol.

[@Shaolin91z]

Go be happy. Life is too short

[@montag4516]

Anything you do and say will be used against you. What if the tables were turned, you think she'd openly reveal her strategies and all the aces up her sleeve? No. Protect and value yourself first gentlemen.

[@jeffreymiller540]

This guy sounds like a few guys I have known they turned out to be looser s and lost contact with their kids true men do not talk this kind of crap

[@soapysuds9942]

I guarantee the real reason he’s having such a hard time as he’s probably already having an affair and striving to justify It by blaming her for everything

[@naturebc]

maybe,maybe

[@trevorcrozier3172]

Unpopular opinion: being 5'7 is a big deal. you're going to have to settle for your wife and treat her better for the sake of her and your daughter.

[@L5death]

5'7 is easily the average height of a woman these days.

[@elenaway3903]

As a woman Im not going to lie 5'7 is unacceptable, many of us unless desperate won't look his way

[@WarDamnATL]

It's not that big of a deal. Confidence plays a big part. I'm 5'7 and my wife is 5'9, and I never had a problem attracting good looking woman. Also, those women that say they only date guys 6ft and up are full of shit, because I dated some of those women. However, I'll admit that tall guys on average have it much easier lol, it is what it is. You just have to work with what you have.

[@moonmaiden4197]

I’m a 5’6 125 pound women and I laughed out loud when I heard that. That alone would turn me off. Over inflated ego. He will have to settle for mexican women, they are usually under 5’3 😂😂😂

[@LukaPlaysVideoGames]

My boyfriend is only 5"7" but I am not even 5 feet tall so.... And he is a nice guy.

[@dianalee603]

This guy had "issues" previous to marrying his wife. Too bad she didn't take that into consideration before she married him. I hope she got in touch with daddy as soon as she found out he was moving ahead with plans for divorce. She will be much happier. He's a real piece of work.

[@apeiceofmoldedclay]

Full time job, serious illness, and new mother. Sounds like a gem in need of support. He doesnt care how she contributes to their family. Also he didnt see her teeth before he married her? Were they a problem then? And leaving someone due to messy hair is bizarre. Hair can change in 15 minutes or less. It's usually not the determining factor to a person being ugly vs attractive, neither of these things are. If he does divorce her I hope she drains him dry. He made the weird decision of marrying a woman and having a baby w her when all he wanted was a sex object. And hes about to create another broken home all due to messy hair. As if we dont already have enough of those.

[@ilyakr]

He’s smart enough to to have a PhD but not smart enough to realize how bad of a deal a marriage is. Unbelievable.

[@DIVISIONINCISION]

Many intellectuals have horrible common sense. Some of my best professors were absolute idiots when it comes to daily life choices.

[@DIVISIONINCISION]

@med ray Back up, baby Ray. A Doctorate in Psychology makes more than you do and has the intellect to back it up. You may have a point if you're talking about Social Work or Sociology, but Psychology is a whole different animal.

[@DIVISIONINCISION]

@Brittania When you say "most" without statistics to back it up, you've already lost the argument. Welcome to academia, my friend. Having a PhD means you were able to get admitted in to a program that many students were not smart enough to get in to. Most Psychologists I've known through my own educational experience have worked in Mental Health and some practice part-time, so your argument is ridiculous. I would prefer a PsyD to a PhD in Psychology, but that's splitting hairs. Your comments are hilarious because I work with these people and they make more money than most of you and make better decisions with their lives. Having a Doctorate doesn't mean you are smart, but it also means you're not a complete idiot either.

[@DIVISIONINCISION]

@Tuco The Rat You don't know any Psychologists, do you?

[@stevet6665]

Vigking - I'm sure he's smart enough to realize how bad of a deal a marriage is. But he's been brainwashed by our gynocentric society and this social programming is very powerful. Consider yourself fortunate that you are not brainwashed like he is.

[@davidgroenewald1078]

First mistake, he married a school teach.

[@S2GUnit]

David Groenewald Why is that a bad thing. That's a really good thing. A lot of teachers are soft, feminine & less materialistic than women who go for big time jobs with a high pay. If she cared so much about making money & her image, being a teacher is definitely not the career you'd choose.

[@email5023]

Any school teacher (female) I ever met were used to getting their own way. I think it came from being the only adult in the classroom.

[@TheXabl0]

Unfortunately, that's as "successful" as most women get. Steady pay, unionized usually, secure and can potentially Branch out to bigger/better positions. Could DEFINITELY do worse

[@zzospreyzz55]

Come retirement, you'll be glad you married a school teacher. Those government pensions are out of control.

[@stephen_101]

They are typically leftist bigots

[@SoyJo2024]

“If you try to focus on your weaknesses all you’re gonna have is really strong weaknesses” so true!!

[@SAGEM1A4Me]

The fact he CHOSE to make a lifelong commitment and how much his choices and word means to him says all that needs to be said about him. Feel bad for her, but I guess she made the choice too. Sucks. At the end of the day a man who doesn't keep his word has no value.

[@wonderboy4993]

I had the same problem.. sex was ZERO. I was repulsed. Divorced now, she didnt get a dime and life is much better now

[@Zeriel00]

@Beth Éireann lol at Beth sorry the truth hurts. Women are not worth it anymore and getting hate from feminists is just a blessing so we know to GTFO. Enjoy your cats!

[@MaicoMoon]

Right, you divorced her and she didn't get a dime. You obviously don't know how divorce works and are making shit up. It's a legal agreement, and by law, there are certain things that will happen when you get divorced. STFU and quit your bullshit.

[@superchuck3259]

@@Zeriel00 HA HA some women are worried that they will be dumped at the altar. It might happen!

[@Richjunior1]

Women will always defend satan because he gave eve attention.

[@LukaPlaysVideoGames]

If she was a zero why did you marry her in the first place!?

[@alibertylover]

Marriage is supposed to be for "better or worse " even if you have a ugly wife..... Don't get married if you cannot follow through

[@EntrepreneursInCars]

Disagree, you have an obligation to maintain attractiveness.

[@alibertylover]

Entrepreneurs in Cars / That is because you are not a Christian.... What if someone comes down with cancer or something ?? I guess in today's world, it ok to just dump anyone, for what ever the reason. If you cannot grasp a spiritual connection, then lust & materialism will prevail , so never get married....it means nothing...

[@greymort8783]

@@alibertylover not everyone has the same perspective as you. Dont blame others because you can't prove your beliefs to them.

[@alibertylover]

Greymort / Blame ?? Stop using words out of context... Beliefs ??? That is not what Faith is. Go buy a dictionary ; you need one.A person without a spiritual perspective is an empty vessel & egocentric.... that's the bottom line... but don't worry ; The tooth fairy loves you & the Easter Bunny will bless you....

[@greymort8783]

@@alibertylover let me educate you on some basic words. Belief and faith are two very diffrent words. Belief is something hoped for and not seen. Yet you trust it's there. Faith is 100% an action word. (Read think and grow rich) faith is actually living by what you have belief in. No one can accually prove their religion. Ya just can't do it. People actually think feeling the spirit is proof. Its all just chemical reactions to hearing pleasing beliefs. Kinda like how men are attracted to woman.... because of chemical reactions and how society tell you what is attractive at the time. I could probably think of a better example but you get my point.

[@shyrees2982]

This guy, is screwed and he doesn't even know it. women are more than well aware, of when a relationship has run its course. Given the fact that her father is a lawyer, she'll divorce him before he ever divorces her. Especially given the fact that his only hang-ups, are how she looks. Plus the annoyance he feels with her for no apparent reason. Furthermore, the fact that he works on a campus. Will give him an unrealistic view of what single life will be. He needs to remember, he got out of the dating pool as a young virgin. His sexual experience, is with one woman. He's not entering the dating pool, as his 20-year old self again. He's a 36 year old 5' 7" man, whose only ever been with one woman (his pleasant fuck that his wife likes, won't impress anyone). Plus the added baggage of a young child. This is not the type of man, that women are banging on the door to get to.

[@bescuit]

I disagree, most women do have game and some guys don't notice it.

[@webdev3661]

mind: don't say it mind: don't say it mind: don't say it mind: don't say it mind: don't say it mind: don't say it mind: don't say it me : Florida man strikes again

[@packrcch]

he has given up on his wife and she sees it. she is making a half-heart effort to keep her place with him because she does not feel that she can do any better. what did she do for him that gave him the opportunity to finish school and become who he is now? i don't think that she really wants to stay with him either, but she has no constructive place to go. it means nothing if she is only improving herself for him. she has given up on herself if she is doing that. she needs to step back and make an attitude adjustment for herself....not for him. the six sixes that are mentioned here (and in other videos) are all material/physical things and mean little if the guy is relatively inexperienced or has no game. it''s like a woman who is physically beautiful and has money, but nothing else. i would like to see his wife step back and get herself together mentally and physically and make herself smokin' hot for herself, not for him....and then let him prove to her that she should stay with him! i know that i kind of flipped this one around, but i see the possibility that this fellow may be the source of his own problem because of his lack of early-life experience.

[@humansvd3269]

Wife doesn't give a shit.

[@thomaspaine374]

She will lose the weight, straighten her teeth and do her hair only after the divorce. Then she'll attract another man and the cycle will start all over again.

[@mitchrichards1532]

TRUTH.... not at all rational, but spot on to reality.

[@paolafriedrick]

I have an interesting take on this. I met once the owner of a distillery that used to be probably a 4/5, invisible to women, his (at the time) wife devoted her money and time to him for years while his business didn't give any money. When his business got sold to a very big company all the sudden he started to hit on pretty women and started to look for an upgrade. It was pretty heart breaking to see. This guy on the podcast sounds like going through a mid-life crisis, recently a dad of a 4 yrs old that never got any attention and now all the sudden got some abs, some success and is getting some attention and realizes he didn't sleep with as many women as he now wants. It sounds to me like his wife was there for him when he was a 4 and now that he's a 7 or whatever he thinks he is, he can jump into the hookup scene and be happy without thinking the consequences to his daugther, wife that was there for him and even himself. Has he maybe thought his wife might be having a hard time finding balance between raising kids and have time for herself? has he made sure she even has the time for herself to rest and energize to even want to work out or look better? no, all I heard is the complaint of a shallow person that got abs and all the sudden feels he should be out there banging people instead of being a real man, have a nice conversation with his wife and find out if she needs any type of support and work on his marriage. Weak!

[@Daniel-tx2vt]

I think his biggest mistake was marrying when he was down. Should’ve became “high value” or whatever he thinks he is now, while still being a lonely virgin. If he had kept his head down and got to the stage hes at now and spun plates like mr. cooper advices then he wouldn’t be in this silly position to begin with. But you can’t undo the past. I actually hope she gets half if he decides to go the divorce route.

[@pantareiaachen7989]

Whenever a woman uses arguments line „he should be a real man“, then I know her arguments are BS. If he were a woman he/she had already banged the post man, taken the kids to her mother and got divorced. And you would cheer her: „You go girl“

[@paolafriedrick]

​@@pantareiaachen7989 nah, I'd give the same opinion. Im not into the femenist crap or the same sex cheering crowd. I have a lot of respect for men to not call someone like that a real man. I suggest listening to Jordan Peterson and reading his books, we need more strong, courageous real men in our society. And yes, we also need less of the "u go girl" or whatever toxic feminism crap is out there.

[@ThePitPony]

The subject of this video,the man,is unaware of the hard realties of hypergamy. If the situation was reversed, she'd jump ship without a second thought. Basically he's suffering from what I call the root of male suffering, namely ; UNWAVERING LOYALTY. This characteristic is what women lack,which is why men suffer more emotionally when relationships break down. Short answer : Be ruthless and get rid of her.

[@monkey1346ful]

The difference is that he can't jump ship without risking everything he worked hard for. She can just leave and have a great chance to make a profit

[@kobygrimes1234]

😞 the truth hurts sometimes

[@IKARIANOFFICIAL]

Jason Robson - You're statement of: "........the root of male suffering, namely; unwavering loyalty" just smacked me across the face. Myself and so many guys I know suffer from this while their ex girlfriends and wives move on in an instant.

[@simplythebest2k]

Nah the subject of this video is a man acting like hypergamist women. You guys are correct the truth hurts and while the OP said truth that truth is universal. The unwavering truth is both are capable of the worst things imaginable and like to blame the opposite sex because it's easier to blame some one else rather than your self. You guys sound exactly like feminist. Grow some balls! If you are finding horrible women it's your own fault. men don't have an unwavering loyalty anymore than women do. People either do or don't, stop thinking with the lower head. Can any of you guys say you would be friends with an asshole? I know the answer is no, so why do you guys hook up with asshole women? cause it gets your dick hard right...well. Truth is truth.

[@johnhue8933]

Jason Robson He is not suffeing from UNWAVERING LOYALTY from the way the guy is behaving it is the financial fallout from divorce that he is frightened of that is keeping him in place. There will be loyalty to the daughter but if there were no financial consequences and no daughter he would be off.

[@cornstar1253]

This guy is probably overestimating his SMV. Most people do. Unless you really are top tier male, which you probably aren't, things won't be as easy as you think Making like 80 k as an engineer with a PhD is not very good. I only have an associate degree in Chem engineering and make almost double that. I am more than a decade older, so maybe that has something to do with it

[@wonderboy4993]

mick i have no degrees and make 150k zero college

[@roberth4395]

mick He said it is good where he lives. Based on his hight and the previous comment he could live in an European 2nd world country.

[@greymort8783]

I make 80k a year in aerospace with no degree. In todays world thats not very good. Im only 26 so I have sone years to go.

[@greymort8783]

@Victoria Johnsen its enough to live on and have a couple nice things. I know because i live it everyday lol. Id never try to get married and have kids on that salary though haha.

[@cornstar1253]

@@wonderboy4993 awesome.

[@gihanelhage]

Feel like i need a shower after watching this....

[@alexvalls7209]

Right? I’m thinking of those teeth. Yuck.

[@cheerfulsatanist]

I'm seriously concerned that this man does not seem to be putting any inclinations toward his child well being...this reads so similar to leaving ones longterm wife for a prettier (almost definitely usually younger) woman. In those scenarios, or this one having daddy leave mom because she isnt pretty enough anymore, how do those girls often end up? It's not easy to find a good loyal woman who is also a steady wage earner and good attentive legitimately involved mother; having all those attributes down in her and then trying g to equalize their worth to be equal or less than her physical appearence?! And if he does divorce? Your going to be hard pressed to meet another woman whom satisfies your sexy/body/beauty requisits that also happens to be a fine case for morherhood(sake of argument lets assume the next one is not s divorcee or single mom; therefore would want children of her own someday,ideally with you obviously) , is capable and willing to contribute to the domestic income, and is loyal. Finding a woman like that who is also at ease with the notion that you left your first wife because she just wasnt attractive to you anymore, that you broke up a seemingly complete family unit, your not sir. A good woman with the qualities and traits you require (lets not forget, that you already have) will take one look at your single parent homewrecker status and swipe left before you can blink. In a divorce situation with kids involved they should be the primary priority, nor your penis's degree of contentment. I'm not saying he should "stay together for the kuds" and be miserable. But the fact that he DID NOT ONCE speak on his child welfare in all of this is nauseating.

[@Zanatos9]

Sounds like the situation I was in, tried EVERYTHING to get her off her bump on the log. Tried being honest, tried suggesting, tried it all. She was content to being fat, lazy, and poor. I suggested the open relationship, which sent her over the edge. She also tried the domestic violence card on me but had 0 proof and got thrown out. I was VERY careful before, during and after the exit. During family court she'd sit with other women and you heard them "take him for everything, you deserve it". Money was hidden, I sent the financed car packing, sold it got out. Bought a new one cash once I had a new address and court paperwork started. She got nothing out of it.

[@katiespade8625]

Good for you

[@Twelve20Inc.]

Tony Montana. Sounds like a living hell. At least you are on the other side of it now.

[@redevous]

Hell ya good for you.

[@greymort8783]

Nice! Good job.

[@katiespade8625]

@@proudcynophile1901 I don't know who you are referring to - but I don't take these things too seriously, cause they're anecdotal stories.

[@kobygrimes1234]

Another great video, Rich. Thanks again

[@charlesbrewer1426]

For better or for worst he married her. Wrk it out. Also this guys seams like he is too big headed its all about ones self today

[@arnieus866]

The vows say "love honor and obey, till death do us part" not "for as long as my wife stays attractive". Love and honor can make a woman appealing well after the wall. I suspect this is what is really missing.

[@s.u.5285]

of course the lawyer would say he would come out ok in divorce. That how lawyer gets his money is convincing you to do it so he can get the guys money

[@begone7167]

Her father is a lawyer so he is screwed and she knows it. He is trapped and will pay either way: divorce or stay.

[@jorgea.floresfelix8493]

@@begone7167 yup, it will definitely be cheaper to keep her. Once her Dad is done with him in court he will need 2 jobs paying 80K to afford the alimony and child support and still be able to afford his expenses in a new home.

[@NM-tl6pe]

My ex let herself go to shit and I had depression for years. I also, took anti-depressants. Let me tell you, divorce is the best anti-depressant made.

[@sunshinedayz7032]

Vanity on a weak mind can create all kinds of havoc.

[@prepordietryin9119]

Woman should definitely remember that.

[@tulipbubbly3748]

@@prepordietryin9119 *both genders should remember that

[@Siacourage]

So many men in the comments saying the man is hypergamous. Well, he's NOT. Hypergamous women don't care about their partners. He clearly does. He's trying everything in his power to save the relationship. If he was hypergamous he would have cheated or filed for divorce a long time ago. He didn't do that. The man doesn't want the woman to look like a supermodel. He just wants her to MAKE AN EFFORT to look beautiful. but the woman apparently doesn't want to. Why can't the woman do something small like have her teeth fixed. What's so difficult about that? Just like Richard, I'd also like to know what complications come from teeth straightening procedures. This is just a flimsy excuse to remain the way she is. She knows she has him locked down so she doesn't need to do anything to look good for him. For goodness sake the man has even tried therapy! What do you want him to do? Remain unhappy for the rest of his life with an unattractive woman? Change is the only constant in life. Again, he's not asking her to look like a supermodel. He just wants her to MAKE AN EFFORT. Show you care about him. START BY FIXING YOUR DAMN TEETH LADY! WHAT'S SO HARD ABOUT THAT? IT'S AN EXERCISE THAT REQUIRES ZERO EFFORT. If she's not even willing to do that kick her out. I support you. All the best.

[@_jamesbradley__]

Thank you for the vid. I appreciate your your time. 👍

[@rogerm3708]

Sounds like she is getting what she wants from the relationship regardless if you stick around or not. Even if you leave she gets spousal, child support and half your stuff, life is good

[@roserevancroix2308]

Yes being a fat lazy incompetent bitch in the west has never been better. What they will never have though is happiness. Above average IQ. A family that loves them. Beauty that lasts.

[@TheMitch12356]

The worst thing a man or a woman can do, is to get with someone with low self-esteem. Because, once you build they self-esteem up they will want to leave you thinking they can do better.

[@CoRoy-G]

Stop worrying about taking too long we are here to listen. Just keep going brother!

[@MrStroller4u]

37 never married, haven't dated since 2001, joined the USMC and loved every second of it (you embrace the "SUCK"). I have become accustomed to silence and tranquility. Zero stress, no health issues and the money just keeps stacking up. DO NOT GET MARRIED!!!

[@MrStroller4u]

@Jordan Gill I did at one point. Just waiting for SHTF and put my training to "good use".

[@TomTobin67]

I've been told that she's the lucky one in my relationship. Never degrade yourself or her.

[@lisahousden769]

This superficial world makes me want to throw up🤮! Looks will fade but a good heart ♥️ is hard to find.

[@eurekamreum5458]

I agree but I'm also a firm believer that you should be on top of your game for as long as you can, for you and your partner. Sure something out of your control may happen, but at least you will know by then that you gave it all.

[@98Nedeljko]

You can't do anything if you are not attracted to your partner. You can love your partner with all of your heart but that is not the love between two people who are sexually attracted to each other and you need that love in a marriage too

[@michaelsieger9133]

Stop being delusional. Companionship and affection is important but sexual attraction is pretty much the first and foremost necessity in a relationship. Stop acting like you’d date someone you found unattractive.

[@alejandrosanchez6457]

Lisa Houston good heart only goes so far if partner gain 60 pound and let them self go ppl will leave just saying

[@tulipbubbly3748]

@@michaelsieger9133 but no matter how attractive person you date, looks will fade over a time, don't you know that

[@MichaelLynMusic]

Another Great Video Teach!.....Thank you Sir!

[@eperot]

In all honesty, I see only one option here. This sponsor should get divorced. If you can't find your wife appealing now, it's just never going to happen as the years go on. Indeed, you cannot negotiate desire. And to be on anti-depressants because of it? Even worse. Do you know what is worse than being unhappy today? Being unhappy for the days and years to come. Life is too short. It sounds like perhaps your wife is a decent mother to your child and a decent human...if you can manage to extricate yourself from the marriage but stay on good terms with co-parenting to minimize the damage, then you'll be far better off in the long term. Right now you are putting a temporary band-aid on a permanent wound, and it never heals.

[@eperot]

@Beth Éireann Beth...I'm not really sure what you are getting at except to perhaps provoke a negative response, which I'm not going to give you. But I will give you my own take: I'm indifferent to who is initiating divorce. I think the only time a relationship has a chance of working long term is when both persons involved are interested in maintaining themselves and strive to be consistently better, both for themselves and for their partners. I'd be giving the same advice to a woman that I gave to this sponsor. The sex of the initiator shouldn't matter. If you take care of yourself, eat well, go to the gym, expand your mind, continue learning and exploring, and your significant other just lets themselves go, I honestly think that's a deal breaker.

[@eperot]

@Beth Éireann I think the fact that over 70 percent of divorces are initiated by women is a bit telling, though. In my own experience, men are the sex more likely to try and make things work (even if to their own detriment and happiness) than women, who have a much easier time leaving (emotionally and legally). Men are the real romantics. Women seem to have a stronger awareness that there are more fish in the sea. And as I read it, this sponsor sounds like a guy who had a serious case of one-itis when his own SMV was relatively low. Now that he's worked on himself and is realizing his own potential, he's also realizing that his wife has let herself go and appears unwilling to try to improve. He's gone as far as taking anti-depressants to try and make himself believe that he's happy in his situation, and I'd bet it's because he really doesn't want to hurt his wife or break up his family. If that isn't romantic, I don't know what is.

[@eperot]

@Beth Éireann "due to the fact this is the first time in history where women have to had to work outside of the home, plus do the lion's share of the childrearing and homemaking." You can thank modern third-wave feminism for that. Personally, I believe women are unhappy because they take on too much, and there are studies that back this up. Feminism has taught women that they can have it all and all at once. You may be able to, but you won't do anything (work, parenting, being a spouse, etc...)particularly well. There are only so many hours in the day. Remember as Richard is fond of saying...we are masters of two things...needlessly complicating our lives and then justifying why we did it. Simplicity is golden.

[@eperot]

@Beth Éireann Beth, I have two things to say, and I say it with great respect. The first is a simple biological reality. We as humans are not truly monogamous, and just because you get married doesn't mean you wear blinders and no longer notice other attractive people in the world. I am in a great relationship with a modern woman, and we are both attracted to each other very much. Yet, we are also both adult enough to admit that we obviously see members of the opposite sex in the world who are attractive to us. There is nothing evil or sinful about it. Neither of us point it out to the other, but you know and accept that it happens. And in the end we come to each other because both of us understand that what we have together is rare and good and not worth screwing up. Secondly, I couldn't help but notice that on another comment thread below you claimed to be with your fiancee and sister and her kids drinking eggnog, wrapping presents and sitting in front of the Christmas tree. Why in such a Hallmark moment would you be wasting your time jumping online watching manosphere videos that you disagree with and exchanging comments with people who disagree with you? It seems like a colossal waste of time. Unless perhaps you are feeling a bit uncomfortable about what lies ahead in marriage, and hope that your fiancee doesn't think with a red pill frame. Why not just enjoy your evening instead?

[@johnhue8933]

@@eperot Eric, I think the percentages have a lot to do with the potential outcome of divorce. If the man has the money he loses but she gains hence over 70 percent of divorces are initiated by women.

[@cabolynn]

Both men and women are letting themselves go. I've been married for 30 years and always put my well being first. I'm almost 60 and my husband and I can't get enough of one another and no, I'm not talking about sex!

[@saltyapostle44]

This dude needs to get over himself or get divorced and bite the financial bullet. He made a commitment and now wants to back out. No sympathy for him. The grass ain't always greener.

[@saltyapostle44]

@Johnny Five Ouch!

[@coreys870]

Guy sounds selfish and full of himself. Obviously he doesn't truly love her. Open up the marriage? Seriously? That will be a great environment for the daughter. How about you made a lifetime commitment and own up to it.

[@alexvalls7209]

How about the fact that people have the right to change their minds, update their world views, and grow? Seriously, a lifelong commitment? Even when his wife isn’t going the same way he is? Fuck that, you only have one life. Don’t live it by someone else’s rules

[@soumickmostofa1249]

@@alexvalls7209 NO, MARRIAGE MEANS COMMITMENT.

[@alexvalls7209]

@@soumickmostofa1249 even with cases of spousal abuse?

[@soumickmostofa1249]

@@alexvalls7209 If ur spouse physically assaults u or ur spouse has a addiction problem then without question u have to divorce. With or without kids.

[@alexvalls7209]

@@soumickmostofa1249 okay how about emotional abuse

[@ruralsquirrel5158]

Another reason to get off the antidepressants and never let her know you took them is that she and her lawyer could use that as a weapon against you, saying that you are "unstable" or "dangerous" and should have no right to see your daughter.

[@dereks3kds]

post divorce she'll get fit , live on smoothies and green tea then jump on the carousel..

[@badass1g]

200k hell yea brother... Congrats 🎊🎉

[@huebothedog665]

85k is not a lot of money in Florida with a wife, a kid, and a mortgage…He’s gonna get wrecked in a divorce

[@davyprendergast82]

This guy needs to be told "tough shit, you have a daughter and she needs a Dad." If he wants to leave his wife when his kid is 18 or older and get himself someone else fair enough. But until then take your responsibilities seriously.

[@humansvd3269]

Staying in an unhappy marriage never does well for the kid.

[@alphafiveone5044]

Holy shit !! I needed this!! Thank you!

[@landmarkpropertiesappraisa8135]

Why this man makes so much sense? Great job Rich!

[@tylerkrueger6985]

So from my experiences playing the field before I ever got engaged was a crucial part in my development. Going on dates and being in relationships with different women help me determine what I was looking for in a woman. The problem I think he had was his lack of experience he had with women and not knowing what traits he really wanted from his partner. Before he gets married again he needs to play the field and figure out what traits he wants his partner to have that complements his own. Everything comes with the personal traits he finds attractive in the women. He just really needs to get the experience with other women to find what he is truly looking for! :)

[@JD-fx1np]

Both sound like they married too young, stupid, immature...did they discuss any of this? He knew she wanted to he a mom, he knew she was a teacher or studied that in school ... he didn't know about his SMV and so on, but come on, this guy was stupid. He made his choice. So now he should just divorce? They had a young kid together. I feel little to no sympathy for this guy. It doesn't sound like his wife deserves this either. She wasnt really the problem in this case IMO

[@TheMusicalVlog]

Hey man, very informative video! Good to be able to understand men a little better

[@onetwothree3578]

Dude marries a women he's not attracted to. Why marry her? Wtf is wrong with people.

[@anthonyrobinson7715]

I’m in my late 20’s, never been married but wanted to get married since I was a teen. Been watching your videos and this video has made me never want to get married. Once you’re married the wife has complete power to let herself go and there’s nothing you can do about it. Thing is, I’ve noticed it and I’ve seen it around but I could never put it into words as to why it was a bad idea. It’s like surrendering your sexuality (which for a guy is his main source of happiness, life, and fulfillment) over to your wife and 9/10 times women will kill it the moment it becomes an inconvenience to them. Shit man. Being a man in America is dangerous

[@pets6939]

Not every woman is like that.... instead of generalizing the entire gender try to get to know actual women

[@anthonyrobinson7715]

@@pets6939 Are you assuming I don't know actual women? I do. Getting to know them makes me want to avoid marriage even more. Women know women and they don't even like each other.

[@pets6939]

@@anthonyrobinson7715 , sorry I didn't mean for my statement to come across like that! I apologize, I meant getting to know a variety

[@minkalli]

Then just don't marry. No one`s loss really.

[@taradunn4368]

The projection of such shallow motivations onto everyone(because this is how YOU operate, everyone is actually like you)is really incredible. I have been described by many as a stunning woman, so before anyone tries to say that I am defending this woman because I'm ugly, you can go ahead and shelve that argument. This woman had her teeth the way they were when he chose to marry her. Sounds like he lost attraction around the time of her pregnancy due to the inevitable body changes. If he had really loved her and married her for the right reasons, the things he has named wouldn't be dealbreakers. Period.

[@bellefeu4933]

This channel single-handedly covers the cost of therapy sessions. Thank you!

[@TheMarioMen1]

17:34 "I'm very curious to hear your response in exchange for this [$100 dollars] blah blah blah" lmaooo

[@Techaktien]

Thank you, Rich. Regards from Germany.

[@zouk-uo9dn]

Ben Klock danka shurn ! lol I tried. I was in Switzerland couple yrs ago.

[@markusschafer3819]

woooop Team Germany!!! Und ich dachte schon, ich sei der einzige aus Deutschland, der sich seine Videos anschaut haha

[@Techaktien]

@@markusschafer3819 Nein, wir sind zu zweit ^^

[@r8ambient345]

mindestens zu viert ;-)

[@roserevancroix2308]

Germany huh....I live in Sweden myself. I'm sorry that your prime minister destroyed your country with immigration. And the german people allowed it to happen. Just like us you joined the cancer of europe which is the eu. And after that it all went straight to hell, right? And you are also infested with feminism. Looks like we will both fall together. Ironic, isn't it? Once such great nations...it only took feminism a century to destroy it. Let's move to asia, Ben! Link up