EP 048 - Losing a Spouse, Overcoming Grief, Identity, Owning Your Story - Na'ima B Robert

In this emotional and inspiring episode, Ustadha Fatima Barkatulla talks with sister Na'ima B Robert about her identity, her conversion to Islam, overcoming the loss of her husband of 15 years and how to own your own story.
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[@FatimaBarkatulla]

Masha Allah, this discussion with my dear friend Na’ima B Robert left us in tears but feeling in awe of Allah’s power and plan. Do ‘like’ it and share it with your friends and families and maybe with someone who needs to hear about how we can emerge from hardship, stronger. Remember you can listen to the podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts. (So you can listen on your commute, while on a walk, relaxing with a cup of tea or even ironing!!)

[@ishaabbas8237]

Salam Are you Pakistani Origin? Can you speak Urdu? Because you used the word BECHARAY BACHAY (POOR KIDS)

[@FatimaBarkatulla]

isha abbas wa alaikumussalam. I’m originally from the land where Urdu came from - India!

[@sirajS]

Fatima Barkatulla masha Allah.... I m also from India sissy

[@happyone2319]

may allah grant your dear husband jannah al firdaws sister naima , i am reading your book from my sisters lips, for the second time as a brother . you are a very intelligent , inspiring muslima , and you even make a shy revert brother of two years in scotland proud of islam , alhamdullilah.

[@gc6497]

I love these sisters May Allah showers His blessing upon you! I’m revert Italian mother of very young children I want them to hear this podcast when they are a bit older So much goodness and wisdom in your words MashAllah

[@TheSamarfatima]

Naima is so different, so unique. Masha Allah. What a strong woman. Lots of dua to ilmfeed.

[@ganiyatadesina-uthman8468]

May Allah bless you my Dear Sisters ❤. Well done 👏

[@fathersunglasses6085]

...and what do you know? A New podcast from Ilmfeed!? That's my evening sorted tonight then ☺️ الحمد لله

[@clouds53]

Really nice to see how the sister dealt with the death of her husband. May Allah reward her for her patience and may it be a role model example for other women.

[@FatimaBarkatulla]

clouds53 - Indeed, it is an example to us all. May Allah unite them in Jannah. Ameen.

[@aishc9167]

An amazing podcast. May Allah reward you both. May Allah grant your husband jannah Tul firdous .

[@H_A579]

Not getting along with your mother in law is very dangerous ; transparency is a blessing in disguise

[@hudaahmed2348]

SubhanAllah….sister Neima may Allah reward you in this dunia and akhira.

[@YunusMulugeta-vj8de]

mashallah.......mashallah......she..is.the...best....leader.......mashallah

[@user-zu3ot5lo8w]

I watched the entire podcast. One word, amazing! You go sisters!

[@islamcompletefavourfromall5701]

Jazakallahu Naima and ustadha really amazing inspiration for entire Ummah💪🏼

[@khawlahe4011]

A truly rich and engaging conversation Alhamdulilah.

[@FatimaBarkatulla]

Khawlah E - as you can see, the conversation was much longer than usual episodes! That’s what happens when two friends get together and when our guest has so many beneficial ideas to share. Alhamdulillah for sisterhood!

[@hotenigma01]

@Sister Naima, really good on you that you decided to chose the outlook you took when your husband passed away. Ma sha Allah. Somehow I believe Allah must have used it as a sabab towards your overcoming the great trial from Allah. May Allah Subhanallah Wa Taala continue to strengthen you bi iznillah. Aameen.❤️💓🙏

[@strictlyyoutube6881]

In regards to homeschooling: I believe fear can be a great driving force to push you over the edge to enrol in this life style choice, however, the wind in your sails really needs to be a broader long term vision. I feel that if you really put your mind to it, you can enrich your children to the nth degree vis a vis children in Schools, Private and State. Do not be dismayed by the lack of social interaction of homeschooling, as it is what you make it and there are lots of support groups out there.

[@gferiradoniqi8581]

I loved this conversation I enjoyed it so much. MashaAllah such a blessings to watch both you and benefit from you both. Sister Naima is so fierce and energizing What I do also love is how you sister Fatima engage in conversation too and thats what makes it more interesting the brain storming . Keep up the good work may Allah bless your work amin

[@sbegum29]

Ummu Amr agree mashallah!🤩👍🏼

[@sabaafreen3790]

17 minutes in and I can already feel it's positive impact on my life

[@farhiyaa4880]

I like her explaining circle of concern vs sphere of influence at the end. We need to actually do stuff we can control within the home, family first.

[@TheZeyyyyy]

Listened to this while doing the dishes. Topics covered and discussion really meaningful.

[@muslimadeenulislam6599]

Jazakallahu Khairan!!! This was an amazing pod cast, interesting and intriguing. May Allah Azawajal bless Na'ima B . She really is a wonderful role model for the muslimas of today. May Allah Azawajal grant her success. ameen

[@rafiakhanum9422]

Sister Nahima B you are a wondrfull person and I love to hear all your lectures. May Allah grant you a ticket to paradise ameen

[@rafiakhanum9422]

Maa shaa sister Fatima I am impressed with your work, your wisdom and knowledge. May Allah make you your entire family and the team who is involved and helping you a celebrity in Jannatulfirdaos ameen yaa Rabb

[@FatimaBarkatulla]

Jazakillahu khairan!

[@a.o8274]

"Verily with hardship comes ease" is the most fitting for me for this bit 1:06:40 MashaAllah Alhamdulillah sooo many beautiful gems in this video & I learnt so much

[@muhammadrafiqakhtar4566]

Amazing Daughters and Sisters ...........Women Scholars propagating Islam ............maa sha Allaah 1

[@mubasheervt4489]

Jazakallah you all ...may Allah reward you all for your work ..AMEEN

[@beautifulislam5286]

MashAllah I really want to be in Niqab😭

[@Chkprofilename]

@Blissful Fragrance ://kzbin.info/www/bejne/mYDQqWqbgrWrhJo

[@dissentraleyes]

This was much needed discourse

[@reciterrahma3276]

Subhan’Allahi wa bihamdihi Subhan’Allahil Azweem❤️ Subhan’Allah❤️ Alhamdu lillah❤️ Laa ilaaha illaa Allah❤️ Allahu Akbar❤️ Laa hawla wa laa kuwwata illaa billah❤️ May peace and blessings of Allah be upon our beloved prophet his companions and entire household❤️

[@shamed5458]

I love this podcast episode, wow !

[@KaitlinHasanic]

Mash Allah.. exactly who I wanted to see and hear from!

[@KA-bw3wf]

Liked sister Fatima's inputs

[@MohamedAli-ly7jo]

NUMBER ONE FAN

[@shaponhussain2242]

MashAllah

[@ayoakinjamiuismail6824]

May Allah bless u May Allah bless your effort Aameen

[@sukaipenn8810]

Subhana Allah ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@danceillusions13]

Who else is a non-Muslim listening to this? 🙋‍♀️

[@hotenigma01]

I want to be able to write my story as well please. How can I get in touch with sister Naima?

[@amatullahsu]

What is the name of the book coming out?????

[@rafiakhanum9422]

Sister Fatima I wish I could meet you

[@maryamaldimashki6412]

Assalamu aleikum sisters, does anyone know how to get the "Sister's magazine"? It is not published anymore.... جزاك الله خيرا 🌷

[@hanu7732]

SIIIIS U WERE IN ETHIOPIA WOOOW

[@sukaipenn8810]

As Salamu Alaykum ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@beautifulislam5286]

Assalamua'alaikum can someone give me the rules on wearing niqab like whats allowed and not allowed🥰 JazakAllah khair🌹💐

[@samsardar]

🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

[@Quran267]

❤❤

[@protectyourthaghr]

Assalaamu alaykum sister Fatima. This is regarding the points from 45:10 (for context) but more specifically for points made from 47:4. I understand the point that you made about wives maybe being more high in the neuroticism personality trait , which is why they might be more prone to thinking about what the next steps for the family should be or how to improve etc. However, I think that the specific example that sister Naima gave is linked more to the personality trait of conscientiousness, where the wife is conscientious or high in conscientiousness and the husband is low in conscientiousness. This would lead to him feeling entitled as the 'amir of the house' but practically he would be unable to back up his position with actual responsibility, action and forethought (like sister Naima mentioned), and that can cause marital problems. I've seen it in husbands (and wives) who, most likely, are narcissists, and are therefore far more talk than action. As a side point, I think it would be great if Muslims who have religious knowledge could work together with psychologists so that as laymen we understand better what we can or can't take from western psychology. I find the subject of the big 5 personality traits (and narcissism) really interesting and, practically, I can see that a lot of it seems to make sense and seems to have helped me make sense of conflicts I've seen in marriages, families and work places, but I still feel worried that there could be areas that contradict our religion and I don't know what they are.

[@FatimaBarkatulla]

Good point. Could well be a combination of both.

[@egob4by746]

Hi

[@mandn4207]

I'm looking for a good one like you.

[@user-ri2lg2gv3o]

نريد ترجمة للغة العربية وبارك الله فيكم

[@amatullahsu]

Can we have Yasmin Mogahed?!?!?!?! 🙌🙌🙌

[@sbegum29]

Amatullah Su awww yes that would be amazing!!!

[@alexanderv7702]

Salaam sister Na'ima, I would not have recognised you; due to your wearing a face veil, from your photos that appeared in Scotland's Daily Record, February 2020, without a face veil.

[@NaimaBRobertTV]

That would not be me, I'm afraid :) There is a pic online that comes up when you search me, but it is of Aishah Schwartz, an old friend of mine.

[@mavimor8314]

Türkçe çeviri istiyoruz lütfen

[@beautifulislam5286]

But I'm struggling in my Imaan Please someone advice me😭😭

[@Chkprofilename]

1- read quran daily with translation 2-listen quran daily 3-fast mondays and thursday 4-give charity 5-speak less whenever speak ethier good or stay qiuiet 6-be around practising muslims 7-read serrah of prophet and campanions 8-avoid major and minor sins 9- have good manner and charecter 10-reapect parents 11- 1 dua of prophet (wa mukalibal qulun sabith kalbi ala dinik) dua app u can get it MAY ALLAH MAKE ESY ON U AMEEN

[@beautifulislam5286]

@white InshaAllah 😭😭I speak to Allah swt everyday.May Allah swt make it easy. JazakAllah 💐

[@beautifulislam5286]

@@Chkprofilename JazakAllah khair May Allah reward you 💐

[@fakhriaalam5519]

Even the two hours were less to listen to both of you. Amazing mashallah. But one thing they didnt talk about is naima’s remarriage.

[@SairaSabir1443AH]

@42:31

[@irrfyarezaahaayd9323]

📎

[@dissentraleyes]

Intersectionality is so subversive. Here in the states everyone is so race and gender obsessed .. it's been injecting in the Muslim community which is dangerous, imo. Glad sister Ustadh pushed back a tad bit, agreed with everything she said about being putting people in categories. I personally think these marxist strains are creating further division more than ever.

[@rabiababouri1724]

Na'ima I am looking for a good foreign Muslim wife

[@myaccount5173]

Dear Ilm feed & usthadhas, I have a question to ask from you all...you people have covered your entire body except "wrist".. is it permissable in Islam?

[@FatimaBarkatulla]

My Account - Assalamu alaikum. I believe that covering the face and hands up to the wrist is not an obligation. If someone’s wrists are uncovered in this video, then it would have happened accidentally, unintentionally. May Allah forgive our shortcomings. I advise you and all brothers to lower your gazes as the Qur’an commands and to simply listen to the message in the podcast episodes or alternatively, to avoid the episodes with sisters in them and allow other people, especially sisters, to benefit. SubhanAllah, there is so much good to learn from our sisters. But as with anything, if it is a fitna for you, or annoys you, then please avoid it. JazakAllahu khairan.

[@mikepeen3233]

Hmmmm is this halal?

[@ilmfeed]

Is this comment halal?

[@mikepeen3233]

@@ilmfeed are women allowed to address the public in Islam ?

[@ilmfeed]

@@mikepeen3233 If they weren't, they wouldn't be on this podcast.

[@mikepeen3233]

@@ilmfeed are men not good enough?

[@Snailryder]

@@mikepeen3233 the target audience for this podcast is women, the topics covered require female perspective...men should go and watch Bro. Shabir Hasan's podcasts :)