Ep. 18 | DIVORCE HER BECAUSE OF PENSION? Polygamy, Physical Abuse, Cheating, Social Media

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[@yibanathizenande8668]

I am not sure if because you are a man bhuti or what's going on, but I am not satisfied with this interview. You did Ntando dirty. Fist of all she did not say She paid Lobola for this guy but she said She paid Lobola for herself. Secondly before all your questions you say "Ntando said this, what do you say" then this guy answers, its like you called him to defend himself. You were supposed to ask him the same questions you asked Ntando about his side of events and not have him to respond on what Ntando said.

[@LwatiMtala]

Ntando volunteered information to ST & Owami. Lobhuti didn’t volunteer, so he must answer on Ntando’ claims. ST didn’t do anything wrong

[@yibanathizenande8668]

He did not do anything wrong when he could not even comment on the Gender-based violence this guy justified in front of him? Please @@LwatiMtala

[@yibanathizenande8668]

Even keeping quiet when this man was busy talking about Gender-based violence? does it mean he condones it because he did not say a single comment about it when this man was going all about him beating up Ntando @@LwatiMtala

[@simie9038]

Ppl r in their feelings cause they were expecting a monster after hearing one sided story.....this guy may have faults but so is usisi. I dont think we know the whole truth...nosisi naye unama personalities amaningi. Aba divorce in peace and go their seperate ways....

[@thatogix8259]

I’ve dated a guy who was this calm and humble infront of people… and a monster behind curtains.. yey becareful

[@vincentsfundo7]

Ngoba niya a provoka abafana abalungile masebeveza their dominance side kuni you paint them black kanti it takes two to tangle. Akakho umuntu who initiate any nxabano ungathasisanga nto nawe

[@sparrow62210]

I concur, my ex husband was exactly like this, very calm but he was a monster who abused me emotionally and financially.Luckily got rid of the liability 😅

[@proudlysa774]

My younger brother is like this guy but the level of abuse at home😢 He is toxic, a liar and what not and people believe him because kuthiwa uyathula

[@proudlysa774]

@@vincentsfundo7 that's not the case, no one provoked him, ngabe uyabuza Danko

[@vincentsfundo7]

@@proudlysa774 so kune output engenza input?

[@martiamalema6135]

He's lying with confidence and he's so calm . at first he spoke as if he was driving his own car for hacking but now the car is Ntandos. Ladies becareful this lying men are out to milk us

[@Gugu-h2i]

Im standing with Ntando i know scammers like him

[@abongilelele9615]

Sesamanyani mntase limencu eli yeka imali zomnye tyini bawo

[@LazolaKayise-vm8cs]

I am standing with Ntando. Mxm uyaxoka lona

[@elisahkbanlondo3448]

😅guys

[@ntsizwamagagula8349]

😂😂😂

[@khanyingosi9229]

Agreed 💯, find it so hard to believe him, I'm sorry If I'm wrong

[@anhonestlife380]

This guy is manipulating the facts and he knows it. He is lying 1. He didn't lobola he doesnt consider her his wife, but her money served him as a wife. 2. The answer to what led to the divorce is I hit her because she was cheating. They met in 2011, and he says she have cheated in 2011 how could that would have led to him wanting her pension in 2023. 3. He doesn't work, he doesnt look after her in any way except that she must do things for him with her money. She was taking care of all of them with her money. 4.Suddenly, there is a 2 year old that wasn't made in the marriage, just born in the marriage, but Ntando is the crazy person. He left a pregnant woman to get married for Ntandos money that he doesn't think she is his wife. He is a toxic person. 5. He went back to his baby mama because she said something when she was angry. He hadn't divorced his wife, but somehow, in his mind, he was ok to go back to baby mama He was only in it for money, I'm sure there are many things Ntando said that are exaggerated, but this guy unamanga. Even the nyanga situation he says it was her going to nyanga and he didn't always go but he know for sure that she wasnt cut by his nyanga that he called to discussed his wifes genitals with😅 angazi guys.

[@LazolaKayise-vm8cs]

Thank you for your discernment. Akasazenzi umntu Sies !

[@ginsu_pd]

absolutely just insane

[@SurprisedEucalyptusTree-jk2sd]

We know guys like him

[@GodsFavourite2024]

Well put. He is a psycho of note. We know their modus operandi. Sies

[@Nokuthula_14]

Hands off ezimalini Zika ntando hambo funa umsebenzi njengamanye amadoda wondle izingane zakho

[@MongameliTshekula]

Uyasebenza ubhuti cc

[@nomvelisobovu8255]

Ayininzanga nale maliyepension it's less than a year. Ntando doesn't want to let go of Sibulele

[@enatimfo638]

​@@nomvelisobovu8255njani less than a year? Ayominyaka na untando ephangela?

[@EuniceNzuza]

You are projecting your life la. Ntando ilabosisi abafuna ukuba perfect enkonzweni

[@zamasomimsomi-dunga554]

Yiphi bakithi imalini ipension ka12 months?

[@Positive_vibes1982]

Awa bhuti we are not kids lhe, yes if you're married in community of property you are entitled to her pension fund HOWEVER, if you don't want it the court will never force you!

[@Lungelo911]

Exactly! Worse when you didn't contribute R5.

[@kamaveetv]

In community of property is out of fashion they are too young and smart to do it, the good one for these day is ANC(antiniptical contract)🙏🙏

[@LM-he7eb]

He must think people are uneducated & inexperienced like him. I know a business man who was married to a nurse, he opted out of taking half of her pension fund.

[@nelzg5819]

He is a psycho this one. The lies. Pathological liar

[@nontobekobiyela2548]

Imagine lying to the entire country about divorce procedure 😂 omg. He also lies about loyola he twists the term athi it's not him owaye lotsholwa instead of the truth that she paid lobola on his behalf. So he capitalises on wording. This is called word salad and it's a favorite trick of manipulators and narcissists

[@kholosamnyande8484]

This guy is Offish i swear . Ikhona into eOFF OFF mani Lobola story ia not adding up which parent doesn't want lobola Reverse psychology This guy came prepared for uzoxoka

[@AmandaN123]

Ntando never said she paid lobola for this guy. She gave the guy money to lobola her. Menemene lobhuti uyambona. Abusers will always accuse you of cheating just to justify their actions.

[@mjiyakhosamukelisiwe7623]

Lie number 1

[@nelzg5819]

He lied from the intro

[@raymondsimon8394]

Ntando said she gave the money to a "dodgy uncle" - red flag. No evidence.

[@nomfunekobatala7920]

Akatshongo walobola yena guy uthi wabhatala ilobola so I think wamnika imali yomlobola

[@khanyingosi9229]

Exactly 💯

[@SiwaphiweSiyamamkela]

NTANDO WE BELIEVE YOU SIS💯💯💯💯💯❤

[@lungiswaNtandoLinganNgumbs329]

🙏🙏🙏🙏❤

[@Mamiya-y5c]

@@lungiswaNtandoLinganNgumbs329and we loooove you so much🥹🥹🫂🫂 we are standing with you always❤️ #narcissistsmustfall🤟🏾

[@zinhlencane6189]

​@@lungiswaNtandoLinganNgumbs329 ❤

[@CiloAnele]

💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@LazolaKayise-vm8cs]

Nam ndime noNtando. Amen

[@ThobekaMhlongo6270]

Once a man lifts his hand on a woman all respect goes out the window, he's as good as an animal.

[@mildredbitterbos258]

😊😊😊

[@tabanigwija799]

Ntando said she paid lobola for herself. She did not say he paid lobola for the man.

[@Gugu-h2i]

Exactly and she didn't say they have kids together

[@leratoolifant1988]

True

[@Gugu-h2i]

Interviewer did her dirty

[@yibanathizenande8668]

Thank you so much for this comment.

[@thandekamgijima1871]

If kodwa I am saying I pay lobola for my self that means the will be negotiations done, kulo umtshato zazingekho so uyibhatele kuphi

[@PrettyGirlFlower.]

he came prepared in this podcast to spit lies yhoo😮 i dont believe him ngisho angaba calm😢

[@ameliasmommyshazi7585]

Nam cc

[@ntombikayisewendy9287]

Exactly

[@Brenda-qg3eb]

Unamanga vele lo sathan

[@LungileNgwenya-k2e]

Inamanga lenja lena

[@ntombifuthintsada7258]

Siyayazi lenhlobo yalobhuti,asikhohliseki....well-done Ntando ngokuphuma escefeni

[@muziwandilesithole1486]

Akasayine Phela the dovorce papers. Kuphule.

[@professorm7716]

Manje yini lowo Ntando angasayini amaphepha coz ubhuti uyafuna ukuphuma "escefeni" lesi osishoyo?

[@sazi7128]

Toxic people are always calm in most cases and they look so believable......

[@NombuleloYabo]

Louder

[@phumlantozini7146]

Exactly

[@ndagebs6092]

So you want him to be like you women?

[@Lusandav]

That’s true

[@Lusandav]

Yhooo uyaxoka lobhuti ukhona Umzali ongafuni ulobola uyaxoka lo

[@SCELOMHLONGO-qp8eq]

I don’t know what to believe but the joint meeting can give us more gist

[@SandieMafongosie-co9xx]

Yes we need joint meeting

[@sibongilemfiki-g1t]

Yes I agree shme

[@ndagebs6092]

Only Sicelo who is talking facts

[@elizabethmahlangu4680]

That's not a good idea

[@dipuomangope8424]

I'm more confused now

[@User326-y3q]

I wish successful women could stop dating down, and a man that you need to provide for is just not worth it man..

[@sinazomakileni3938]

Agree 100%

[@luando_88]

I agree with you and even the guys must not nabo

[@khosiethabekhulu3497]

​@@luando_88Hai bo! Ningasoneli😅. It depends on the person u married. It is not everyone who whines about money. If uthole umuntu ongasebenzi, then you must know what is expected. As long as the couple can compliment each other with duties then it works.

[@SisLinaM]

Ngase ndiku hugge sana because once you date someone who is not in your standard vele nje you will be abused mostly. Wooah

[@TheeAnonymousTrader]

😂😂😂...so it's "dating down" now. When are you guys choosing people based on character, their love for God,how they treat you and people in general. You really think the only thing that Ntando did wrong is to date down?😂

[@SipheM1998]

Ikhona marn into eoff ngalobhuti, ayikho into enje😩 Akaziphenduli ezinye iquestions. Well done for choosing your self Ntando.❤️ Ungabadibanisi marn bhuti you’ll be wasting your time and hurting Ntando more. Mayivalwe kanje.

[@MongameliTshekula]

Yeyiphi angayiphendulanga ndimphendulele

[@SipheM1998]

@@MongameliTshekula uyi PA yakhe?

[@seipatimatli4405]

He is mixing truth and lies lona. He took time to come forward so that he can cook the story.

[@kholosamnyande8484]

Skellem

[@Yolani-wh7cg]

​@@seipatimatli4405Yeyiphi indoda yesiXhosa ethanda uyophahlaza indaba zomzi wayo to the whole world?

[@ntombie_xo]

This just confirms why the Apostle Paul warns us not to be yoked with unbelievers. I pray they both find grace and healing through Jesus Christ of Nazareth

[@LadyTLifeStyleChannel]

💯 %

[@tonnythando2407]

That's true

[@EuniceNzuza]

Wrong judgement

[@Renae-w4e]

Absolutely, when he mentioned different faiths i knew it was gonna go down quickly.

[@khaya1800]

Abazwalane get desparate for marriage then the next thing they expect to change the person.😢

[@phumlantozini7146]

Thanks Ntando for the voice notes evidence iyonke pha n ufanele um recorder umbonile ba ngutsosi

[@gugulethukhoza9084]

Where can we get the recordings

[@nonzukisongalo709]

Xa p00

[@nelzg5819]

Inyoka yebdoda

[@Siwehans]

First lie, lobola. He is lying. I don’t think Ntando’s father would say that. Also, this man is a narcissist. This “calm” behaviour is an act. There is a voice not of him where he is so rude. I’m shocked that he is humble now. Thabani, you must write down questions and ask, my brother. You can’t always be saying, “Hmm!” Also, you don’t keep quiet when someone is talking about violence be it it’s a woman or a man. Show them that you don’t condone the behaviour.

[@kholosamnyande8484]

Xoki lomntu yer

[@luckyntonzulu5215]

So you were part of lobolo delegation.tell us more

[@nomdenimofana1647]

I agree with you Samkelisiwe

[@raymondsimon8394]

Ntando did say they gave the money to a "dodgy uncle - who blessed their union" go back and listen. I believe the guy

[@Lungelo911]

Why would Ntando cheat on this mab when she could have just divorced him? Cos hes a loser vele. Mxim. He just wants to defend his abusiveness

[@khanyingosi9229]

Exactly 💯

[@pumezankwali8416]

Lendoda ilixoki what about the messages in Facebook and Ntando have the proof. Sudlala ngathi wena dyakalashe onkone

[@sibongilemfiki-g1t]

Hence he took time to come to the podcast

[@sinelizwichiya7635]

😂😂😂

[@ntobekomdluli5951]

Inamanga lengane weeeee

[@UnathiMda]

Lendoda ayinanyani. If he was really interested in his child's death, he should have asked more from the doctors and nurses that were attending to his wife as he has every right to know as a father. According to him, the wife alleged that umntwana ukhula "in the wrong tube". If he was interested to know what that means, he would have come across the term "ectopic pregnancy". Again he alleges that he has never had of a miscarriage when the pregnancy is already 5 months old. If he had bothered to ask, he would have come across "missed abortion" or "preterm delivery", whichever the case was in his wife's condition. Lastly, if he cared enough, he could have taken it upon himself to ask from the doctors and nurses what was to happen to their baby, considering that it was a stillborn, as every family deserves the right to bury their own, regardless of age. Remember, at such a time, definitely the mother was on her lowest, both physically and emotionally and he needed his support more than anything. In this particular instance he dismally failed his wife, however, if he really wants to know the truth, he can still go back to the hospital and ask all the questions he has as everything is kept on record (even though I personally don't believe him)

[@motshabimorulane8023]

A narcissist will make one look crazy while acting calm😢

[@mphohappiness1736]

He is lying about the pension part. No one forces you to claim for pension. She must contest it. That voicenote ye baby mama saying he married Ntando for money is clear ukuthi it's true. He must go work nawe just like Ntando and stop hustling women for money

[@tlakimoreki6666]

Blatant lie. He's gunning for that money. He's a blood scammer this one.

[@lydiapuseletso1009]

This Man is so humble but behind that humbleness kuno buqoki

[@soothom34]

He's making sense shem.... it looks like the lady is bitter that now she's separating they need to share and if the guy was the one monied she was going to want that money

[@jackietherichshaun7365]

Ndiyamva nam lobhuti baninzi occ abadlala ubu victim and ke kuhlala kumanyelwa abafazi kunamadoda.

[@masithulemkhosana2773]

Ndisamamele,this is very interesting .from the first 10 minutes I did not believe ubhuti lona. Kodwa noko noba umntu ulixoki kangakanani akungekhe kubelula to create such deep stories .ndisazomamela. Enkosi ST Media to bring another side of the story

[@ZandyKim]

Nam ndiyamkholelwa

[@sibongisenisobekwa6649]

Same here bhuti i believe this man

[@candy23451]

This is sad though coz I believe him. I listen to Ntando and I felt pain of her being rejected as her background is not good

[@mnisi_sindile]

The interviewer clearly didn't listen to Nando's story properly, he's asking questions differently to how Ntando told her story

[@Thandeka13.]

Very true he doesn't know much

[@asandamtishe8577]

Exactly he was supposed to watch ntandos interview questions based on that

[@tlakimoreki6666]

He's twisting the story to suit his narrative. Mxm

[@nosiphosipungela6152]

Very poor articulation

[@nombusomaluleka3960]

He didn't and it's disappointing.

[@siphosethumatanzima9413]

It's the fact that he justifies domestic violence by "she pushed me to" . Uyaxoka lobhuti you did not beat her once nxaa 😤

[@annitahmathebula2317]

All along he was planning lies lendonda 😮😮😮

[@SisLinaM]

Nangoku sana

[@LazolaKayise-vm8cs]

Yhoo moyike umntu 😂 rhaaa uphika yonke into hayi mani asingobabantwana.

[@casperncube9685]

annita did he even know the type of questions abezobuzwa zona , the guy is straight

[@buyimthethwa6753]

Udina ngisho umbuka, he is a narcissist his calmness says a lot about him

[@keketsonozi1126]

My husband exactly 😢 thank go slowly am getting over him

[@aphililenontamo7672]

Akanikisi nje umdla umjongile unezothe lobhuti

[@namisazulu1372]

Unesdina nje semvelo

[@ntobekomdluli5951]

Unesidina

[@Jcel4786]

Unesdina nje Nobu evil

[@mahlatsemasinamela]

Cheating or betrayal should never be used as a justification for any form of violence, and that includes gender-based violence. Healthy communication, empathy, and seeking resolution through non-violent means are crucial in any marriage. Violence is an unacceptable response to relationship challenges, and promoting such behaviour contradicts the principles of mutual respect and understanding essential in a marital bond.

[@Thandeka_Nkosi]

Kodwa ke uNtando akekho msulwa kuyo yonke lento, She acted as if she never cheated and uMdu was his first kodwa wamthola anabantwana, ngapha ngathi bekasindisiwe over kodwa uphuzana namaSavannah Ai boy2 bayabheda nje uNtando wazinikela kakhulu endodeni. They must Divorce!

[@lungiswaNtandoLinganNgumbs329]

😅

[@ginsu_pd]

lol 1. because you're Christian does not meet you do not drink 2. She mentioned they met later years when they were now both grown and had children. 3. o judgemental guut with bad listening skills

[@belindanobukopeshe2216]

Akukho understanding ngathi they both needed couselling and deliverance.

[@casperncube9685]

Divorce is the solution there is no solution to this boba bili balimele kakhulu

[@casperncube9685]

these met on social media platforms ( mix it) and they are hurting each other thru social media

[@nonhlanhlazwane9722]

Hayi am starting to question myself ngalo Ntando

[@gugumahlangu8237]

Rosemary story straight difference ubhuti lived to tell the story 😲 and where did the 5 months old pregnancy disappeared to and she didn't even mention it iyoh...

[@naimapeck1683]

Mna ndifuna imali le ye company... ukuba itheni? 🤔

[@TshengisileNdlangamandla]

This guy is lying .

[@qaqambafuzile5967]

This guy is a liar.. He said he saw the cheating in mpumalanga and beat her there but they woke up to work. But sisi was staying in north west, him in vaal.. So they woke up from mpumalanga and ran to work after those bruses we saw from ntandos face? Wow

[@thozamajojo1675]

Listening skill balulekile merm

[@welilejiba316]

gents underestimate the importance of establishing oneself before taking on the responsivity of leading a household, compound that with unemployment and it will turn you into a monster. you will not recognize the man you become. phuma from any situation that disempowers you...beating a woman can never be excused. leave and go build yourself. impilo iyaqhubeka!

[@issankayi3515]

Intle mntaka Jiba. Injalo xa kushokoxekile epokothweni buyaphela ububele endodeni awubinathando ngoba xa kudingeka imali ibangathi uyachukelwa. Ngcono uphume uyotheza iinkuni zokubasa umlilo ongazucima kubudlelwane obulandelayo.

[@nunamadlamini5675]

There's divorce, there's settlement agreement. If he says he does not want the pension fund, that's a settlement agreement, the pension fund won't be touched. Nowhere it says it's a must that he gets PF.

[@ncisept5900]

So true. He could've said he wants to forfeit all her assets and money

[@cyliamotsoenengzengele]

Ntando must take this episode to court, he said he wants nothing.

[@sibongilemfiki-g1t]

Yes

[@ndagebs6092]

Which court😂😂😂

[@cyliamotsoenengzengele]

@@ndagebs6092 divorce court, actually her lawyer.

[@priority295]

Haiboo which court nyani ?

[@lungiswaNtandoLinganNgumbs329]

​@@ndagebs6092 kanti there's no court??

[@yolandadyani573]

Mnxm uthi klo Ntando akho family for ukwamkela ilobola. Aphinde athi yathi ifamily ka Ntando ayiyi funi ilobola. Haysuka limene mene le abuser eli

[@SindiswaQhusheka]

If ndiymamel kakuhle uthi zizinto ezatetwa nguNtando hay aziphumi kowakh umlomo

[@puluxulu6510]

Nami ndiyavuma limenemene vele

[@puluxulu6510]

I wish you can be arrested for beating Ntanto, I hope nilalela maponisa he's confessing

[@yolandambotshwa1173]

Limenemene eli🤦‍♂️

[@priority295]

Most of the time, both parties contribute to a Marriage that didn't work. Bad as we believe he is...he atleast admit to some of the mistakes whereas she gave us a clean version of herself. She agreed to be married to him knowing he is broke so why is it a shock when he continued to seek financial expectation during marriage?

[@mfanwenkosimathebula9736]

How do you know its a clean version except the part of marrying a financially unwell husband? Do not enter a frail of issues you do not know. This is between 2 people, neither of us commenting will ever know what is right or wrong.

[@PhomoloKhan]

Remember that she new and had no problem with him being broke the issue is she was used, taken advantage of by him and his wife and Ntando at first she didn’t know of this wife this was romantic scam. Take in mind that Ntando is an empathy and when you are in love you don’t go around looking for red flags because by that time all you want is to love and be supportive.

[@ednamacquela7982]

But she used to post the photos of her and the many children. No guy, this guy is a liar and a very evil person

[@siyamthandandaliso4736]

What's her social media?

[@nomfundonogoboka1771]

Ntando mntanam ungabi sabuyela kulomntu,ingcuka eyambethe ufele lwegusha pls sana lwam.

[@mandlanxumalo5893]

Mtsheleni phela asayine divorce letter qha

[@siyabongacebekhulu8089]

Hawwwwu mtsheleni lo cc ayo sayina ngoba umjita ufuna ukuqhubeka nempilo not with this lady....nxxx lo cc wangenza ngabuka lomjita njengo muntu omubie kanty naye unezakhe sengfisa beze bow 2 now

[@khanyimkhizwana8048]

We need a mutual person to come and tell us the truth.....both of them are toxic..

[@dikolizaskk5847]

But people tell me do u think this couple should go back together.....they are still angry and bitter to each other

[@elizalungiswabentswana3600]

Eyyy I think the should just make peace and move on

[@thelazysnapper]

If you go and read how usisi responds to people on her TikToks it paints a different picture from what she claims on these podcasts. I do believe she was abused (that I’m not disputing), however, she’s also not so innocent. After her interview here on this podcast I went to her TikTok and actually watched her videos and went through the comments. I got the sense that she loves the pity she gets from people online. Even when people point that out, she becomes so rude and aggressive in her comments.

[@philiswadyan6580]

@thelazysnapper atleast there is someone who noticed that. Besesoyika nothetha kba alok vele kuthwe asimsizeli uNtando. Eyokbethwa asiyqhwabel izandla wabawrong lobhuti bt ai naye usisi kuninzi okthe ukungaqondakali.

[@melusibogali7203]

I agree with u Le couple very toxic

[@Yolani-wh7cg]

To me this guy's story is believable. There are asoects where you see that he is just defeding himself but his story is more credible. A real born again person would never agree to be forced into those rituals. It is the wife who has series of VNs of private converstins, who does that? It is her who was begging the other woman for her husband not the other way round. In one VN she even says she accepts the other woman but not that they love each other so much. Who would broadcast such a VN?

[@lungiswaNtandoLinganNgumbs329]

Why beg the woman if she has a well to do bf?

[@Yolani-wh7cg]

And the lady says all over social media that the guy is a broke dead ass. Where would he get money for izinkabi? The inconsistencies baffle.

[@nosiphomzinyati7896]

If you listen kakuhle this Ntando person it's a web of lies. Because the guy is calm Kuthwa toxic bafela uba calm abantwana bethu. If uguy is toxic and abusive then umfunani untando why angamniki divorce

[@FavourKG]

Don't be misled by the calmness of the guy. This is the most toxic man. Act innocent like an Angel.

[@soothom34]

True how would they force her in to rituals while she's a true Christian

[@blvcksnowbeatz]

This man makes a lot of sense. He is putting things into perspective.

[@lungiswaNtandoLinganNgumbs329]

Things like?

[@maxiwellmagagula]

The problem is that he is Male.

[@gugumahlangu8237]

I believe so too this man is not even stuttering Lo Sisi her story did not add up for me im not saying she is a lair. But she is not innocent in all this either. I think the lady is brain washed...I don't know maybe it's from these churches she goes too 🤷

[@blvcksnowbeatz]

@@gugumahlangu8237 exactly my view. 👌🏽👌🏽

[@sbongilemakhuvele4938]

@@gugumahlangu8237 wehh, wena would you not statter if you were in her shoes? all she work for gone coz of indoda, man you dont know people xem, guess you still young

[@nondumisosibiya7755]

If she was cheating she was because he was also cheating, I don’t understand why she would be beaten for doing what he’s been doing

[@nontobekobiyela2548]

It's his right to cheat sisi clearly according to him Women are objects with no feeling towards betrayl. How do you even say you were fighting with a woman and wohlulwa. Omg😢

[@lydiampanya9544]

Exactly, yena who beat him for cheating

[@nondumisosibiya7755]

@@nontobekobiyela2548 honestly something is wrong with this man, and most black men are like this that’s why they be k*lling us

[@dorahmokete218]

Ntando I'm right behind you my Queen,I don't believe this man's story💯

[@vusijantjie6058]

What I know it takes 2 to "tango" I remember Ntando being asked if there's anything wrong she thinks contributed to the failure and she Saud "No" I remember raising my eyebrow. Atleast lomjita admitted to his mistakes "all of them" I don't think so. I wish them healing both and may they end this and continue with their lives.

[@sibongisenisobekwa6649]

Exactly it takes 2 to tango we cant only listen one side of the story ...Mna i believe this guy

[@ongezwawakeni2338]

I don't know who to believe now. I think funeke babekhona bobabili apho mamekuxoxela😫😫😫😫

[@thandekamgijima1871]

We need them both please

[@phindiwenovember2912]

Ntando said that she would be blocked every time he was in a new love affair and would find ways to make herself feel better somehow. The wrong thing she owned up to doing is making unilateral decisions to buy a bigger car for her and the kids without discussing with him. She also bought land in the Vaal so that there would be a home for his kids bangalwi because the father didn't have umzi awakhele bona. So yes, she made her mistakes and said so. The "husband " accused her of acting like a man.

[@kingl794]

Ntando was wrong for marrying this unemployed guy. That's the part part she played

[@nomondesimandla9881]

This guy by reading his body language his a psychopath period,the justifying part annoys me

[@aphililenontamo7672]

Unesdina nje sewumjongile akanakwanyani andazi yintoni le yabonwa nguSis Ntando kulomntu

[@mandyishername]

A cheating man always accuses his woman of cheating 🤣🤣🤣🤣 eyi lobhuti

[@sbongilemakhuvele4938]

if a woman is cheacying leave the woman with her things, her cheating?

[@yolandambotshwa1173]

This one is a liar 🤥 Maan yoooh 😮

[@londiweshongwe4573]

true

[@thelazysnapper]

The thing that makes this guy believable is that he is admitting to some of the accusations usisi made, the woman on the other hand never admitted to having any contributions to the failure of her marriage when asked.

[@bonginkosizikhali6769]

Very true

[@nkanetsengheisi6963]

True,usis never admitted in anything not nenye.

[@NinaSaula]

Very true

[@nunamadlamini5675]

He admits and fabricates the story.

[@pamelamhlaluka504]

He agrees to some accusations because there is proof to it. And another thing he says he says the agreement was for him to take care of himself and children but there is vn him demanding money from her for himself and for the kids

[@Nteyiolwethu]

Utitshala makatshate utitshala Umfundisi makatshate omnye Lawyer nelawyer Warden mayitshate enye Housekeeper itshate utata wegadi.....soze uve lenyufunyufu struuuu soze uxoxe futhi coz understanding ikwilevel eyi1

[@mandyishername]

Eyi ayikho indoda enamanga njengendoda engenamali 😂😂😂😂 Ntando resign from your job and he won’t get anything. Resign before the divorce is finalised guidelines wedwa iprovident fund. You will get another job sana elsewhere. Lendoda you met him ehlala kumjondolo engena bed or even sheets and now he’s acting like an animal 😂😂😂

[@MongameliTshekula]

Awazi nix wena shm ngathi ngojonga kahle you will be surprised if you can find the truth

[@Ivory428]

​@@MongameliTshekula😅😅😅😅

[@hlengiwemchunu6344]

She must move her money to trust fund yabantwana bakhe he won't get a cent mpya yomloyi wendoda

[@ginsu_pd]

always. brokies to frustrate your life

[@mandyishername]

@@MongameliTshekulawas he or was he not living in a shack.

[@melvisgumbo]

U Bhuti is handsome. Woman woman woman we don't know what we want. A handsome man or a man who is able to cater to your needs. Financially, emotionally and spiritually. You can not change a man to become what you want. Only you can change your choices. If you decide to stay, cheating is not the answer. Change your mentality to aceppt your husband as he is OR divorce if he has cheated.

[@tonnythando2407]

We need uNtando's explanation ngezinto azitshoyo ngaye lobuti....we need both of them ...kunyanisiwe xa kuthiwa akekho umntu oparfec

[@lindenisikakane9906]

Narcissists, they are very humble phambi kwabantu ungaze umkholwe

[@Gaming42manni]

True

[@SoultyBoiBeats]

My ex boss was like this, the dude removed alot of people the company this calm😂. As of now 5 employees resigned and he is promoted to GM, because they know how to lie perfectly

[@rnbsidina6575]

Bhut I believe you big time, i used to be Bossy to my Boy friend because he was not working. He was always asking me to calm down , i remember when he says, i am still your man, i might not have money i deserve a repect from you. Axactly our relationship was like le yalo bhut, always fighting not talking to each other for some days up until i realised that i a female and need to respect my man. I am still not 100% but i am now trying to respect my man. And njengoba usitsho bhut ndiyasebenza but andinamali we are in debt. So ukusebenza does not mean you must sell yourself kuma social media ukuthi unemali.

[@fundiswambanjwa414]

So much useless information mxm Ntando is not you and you not her Awnayo nemali nje upepereza into engekho

[@kukhanya-xe1xh]

​@@fundiswambanjwa414well said, bonke abantu bafana naye losisi? Ai bo! She's not Ntando

[@sindilexaba1993]

Remembering Ntando's voice umyeni wami all most asho from iqala isho until ize iyophela " Umyeni wami" eeeei Ntando nkosi yami lapho umfana uyasho ukuthi akazi noma umshado leyanto noma cha but ke yena wibiza ngomshado okuchaza ukuthi akaze kahle kahle yonke lento ayibize ngomshado but wena you busy calling it umshado Ministries akobe niyafunda isifundo kulemishado yenu

[@lungiswaNtandoLinganNgumbs329]

Okkk

[@nombusontshangase1004]

He's crazy lona yena u perfect He blames Ntando even nangoku cheat kwakhe wi🚮🚮🚮

[@Dizzy12346]

It's men like this,that will make you hate anything to do with mjolo 🤞🤮

[@anhonestlife380]

Perfect that he has now stated that😅 he doesn't want anything, this is a biiiiigggg help for ntando. Akahambe with no money.

[@khethiweduma3611]

Mzansi waited for so long for him to admit that uNtando ahambe nemali yakhe yonke, Amen hallelujah. Sibonga nokuba smart kuka Ntando for recording because he was going to win, as manipulative as he is, so toxic shame.

[@Nokuthula_14]

This guy is a joke she😅 whoever is dating him feel sorry for them ingcondo ayikho la

[@mandyishername]

Haibo this guy has insecurities because he is broke. Indoda engenamli is very dangerous because it affects his self esteem and he tries to find ways to show his masculinity by being abusive.

[@Nokuthula_14]

That's a lame excuse manengi amadoda angasebenzi who are not abusive

[@MotherOfBlackStars]

Waze wawazi ama calculations e pension ubhuti Lapho akanayo eyakhe ethi yena.

[@LindekaXanywa]

"Kuzothi xa kukho imali" imali kabani?

[@Nokuthula_14]

This guy is crazy ayikho into ayivumayo and the is proof aibo akayofuna umsebenzi ayeke imali zantando azisebenzele

[@mandlanxumalo5893]

Uyasho nje ukut akafune Mali into ayifunayo ukut uNtando asayine divorce letter finish and klaar

[@lathiswamhlahlo-mona63]

How can parents banxibise uMakoti kodwa khange ayolotyolwa🤔🤔🙄🙄. Ntando wathi wazilobola not lobola umyeni🙄🙄hay inyani incinci ngakubhuti🤞.

[@SmilingBirdwingButterfly-yo5ki]

Thank you for bringing both sides of the story ST❤❤

[@mpumi40]

Bhuti I really judged you but now I understand yr side

[@dude6752]

I do understand him too.

[@lindiwemagubane9156]

Abantu besifazane abaningi badlala ngabantu besilisa bese begijima bethi bahlukunyeziwe bekhuluma amanga bangaki abantu besifazane abahlukunyezwa okwangempela bese kuba khona abahlekisa ngakho lokho abantu besifazane nabesilisa bayahlukunyezwa bayafa kakhulu abesifazane bayabulawa ngabesilisa kodwa kube khona abesufazane abayenza iJoke ngokuqamba amanga be manipulater be deceiver abantu ngokuthi bayahlukunyezwa bengekho bona innocent ngenhloso yokuziphindiselela ukuze adicilele igama lomunye umuntu whether yiqiniso noma amanga kodwa yiyekeni lento bantu besifazane ukuplayer as ama victim nibe niyimbangela 2. Bantu besilisa umshela kanjani umuntu wazi ukuthi ushadile wena ungathanda yini kwenziwe kuwe lokho .nani bantu besifazane yekani ukudlala abantu besilisa

[@dipuomangope8424]

Some men are toxic, and some women are toxic. I don't know who to believe, but what I wish for both of them is for the divorce to be finalized. Some people are just not good for each other, and I'm glad they parted ways before omunye abulala omunye. I wish them well, and I hope they both learn from their failed marriage and choose to be better partners in their new relationships. It's difficult to judge who's wrong and who's right after listening to both sides. Only God knows the real truth. May they find healing.

[@cyliamotsoenengzengele]

They definitely can't be in one space because they protection orders against each other mos.

[@Moiponeloloa2]

Good afternoon is it possible to marry while you are still in process of divorce please answer 🙏🙏

[@MxoleliJim-js3vj]

When you bring Ntando back, I wish that you have the way of asking her a question," does she have anything to correct from her previous statements."

[@mmeme5861]

Not anything...Things...there is a lot that's contradictory

[@sindilexaba1993]

Yabo manje we are confused really who is talking the truth Thabani the best way is to bring them together to the show for a good clarity because everyone now is justifying him or her self atleast the guy agrees that they can came together siyacela Thabani ubalethele bobabili

[@ZaneleGomba-i9p]

Lixoki eli awulibuzi maan yaliva ulixoki bhuti

[@khanyingosi9229]

Exactly 💯 bring them together

[@refiloejuliet2953]

This is interesting tl hear both side's,we are praying for both of their healing,is okay relationship didn't work out

[@siyabongacebekhulu8089]

Healing will be RyT if ntandoh sign divorce papers kuphela

[@nobelusintozini8663]

Akwaba waye qhubeke nala lawyer u Ntando... yhini ukuzi visa kabuhlungu nge ndoda enxiba oo phaqa🤮... Uxokelani akho court inyanzelisa nge pension apha

[@SiphokaziNgqozela-ju1jt]

😢sana ndicinga ndim ndedwa obone ophaqa bawo wam

[@aphililenontamo7672]

Andimonyanyi lobhuti 😮

[@gift0877]

I listened and listened my conclusion......lixoki eli

[@trustingnobody628]

I would love to know if Ntando is really saved or if she likes the church and to be called umzalwane. Second, does Ntando know what salvation means?

[@mubveleli7204]

What a pathetic question 😂😂

[@lungiswaNtandoLinganNgumbs329]

Ask God He will tell u who Ntando is

[@trustingnobody628]

@@mubveleli7204 It's not a pathetic question at all. Ntando knows herself better than us all. Let her answer. To say it's a pathetic question tells me that your teachers failed to tell you that no question is a foolish or pathetic question. Or rather after passing whatever standard you passed, you never read more to improve your intelligence.

[@trustingnobody628]

@@lungiswaNtandoLinganNgumbs329 It's not a matter of asking God who Ntando is. Ntando must answer herself. Are you telling me that she has no ability to explain thoroughly who she is in the Lord. Listen to her ex-husband's narration dear. Then you will understand where my questions are going to.

[@SisLinaM]

Hay ayikho lento uythethayo

[@tuckermakemehappy2193]

This whole thing was a disaster before it began. The spiritual differences was the biggest red flag. she was never in it to build with him. Its hard to digest but she never loved him and sounds like he was some rebound.

[@zibanene]

True indeed

[@O7JOYBOY-dk5hc]

jonga yhooo lixoki lobuti qha qwaba yhooo why yena wavuma kutshatwe kodwa uthi yamphatha kakubi indaba ye lobola why did he go ahead kwasekuqaleni

[@sheillasithole5509]

Imagine if Ntando didn't have a proof yeses

[@xolatom1420]

She can't hv a proof when she gave him money to loboba her. Brains brains

[@nontsikelelomontisetsi6844]

The interviewer started by miss quating ntando. She said if they take her passion and get married its like she has paid him ilobolo

[@lungiswaNtandoLinganNgumbs329]

🙏🙏🙏🙏🤝😭

[@Yolani-wh7cg]

Even if he wanted half her pension fund and assets, he is entitled to it if they are marrried in community of property. Women have been playing this game since time immemorial.

[@mmeme5861]

I wonder how much is this pension fund...

[@noxolosakang6547]

If its true that he only wants divorce and nothing from what she owns. Then he is a good man

[@neversetlleforless6246]

Xoki le sweet talker, uyakude nalento yakhe

[@kholosamnyande8484]

Limene mene eli

[@aphililenontamo7672]

Yinja le

[@PhumeleleaSikelwa]

I believe Ntando. Oh such a sweet soul🥺🥺🥺you just found her vulnerable and you manipulated your way up. Oh, she's beautiful and your family should know that. Oh, what a humble beautiful soul. 🥺🥺🥺 Such a narcissist ex husband. Yoh tsek man

[@aphililenontamo7672]

Andiboni kwanto intle nakule nja inophaqa mxm

[@simphiwequeeneth3756]

When I'm listening this story as umuntu wesfazane osemshadweni uyazihlonipha wena uphinde uhloniphe no mnyeni wakho ujola kanjani ushadile umnyeni wakho aphila okunye engakuqondi uya kanjani kuhlola Uma ukholelwa ku nkulunkul?? kuningi engakusho ngalokhu okungekho ryt so ngicela ukuyvala lana

[@SisLinaM]

So indoda yona ayizihloniphi? Iya cheata? Sukaaa

[@sulasifuba1207]

Ikhona intwe off maan ngawe Sibulele

[@annitahmathebula2317]

Ikhona sisi ai wena uyanaka yazi no no 🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️

[@nokulungagexu5988]

Yhuu hai bo

[@portiamaseko4228]

I don't trust this guy at all

[@aphililenontamo7672]

Hayi uSibulele yilentambo ibomvu eshlahleni

[@qaqambafuzile5967]

Pension fund is entitled. 😂😂He will send it back 😂😂😂😂😂this guy 😂😂😂😂

[@Gugu-wp3dc]

I believe Ntando you gonna be strong love God love's you you are a strong women

[@sikelelwapiyose587]

Thabani awumbuzanga follow up questions lo mntu, interview is all over. Uyamyeka lo mntu, awumbuzi

[@methymothol30]

Next time Mr Thabane plan ama questions kuningi

[@ncisept5900]

He annoyed me on this episode. He didn't prepare atall

[@BusisiweZondi-ki7vz]

Yena lomuntu uyaphangela noma wondliwa abantu besimame😢

[@ndagebs6092]

Who cares?

[@mandyishername]

@@ndagebs6092everyone cares 😂what kind of men can’t feed himself and depends on women

[@veliswamaliwa25]

He is working uyamva uthi unenqwaba yabantwana pho bondlowa nguban engekho u mamfundisi

[@lungiswaNtandoLinganNgumbs329]

​@@veliswamaliwa25😅😅

[@MongameliTshekula]

Ufuna umondla😅😅😅

[@cheranehlahla]

My heart wept when I first heard the voice note, and my instant thought was that she’s begging the wrong person. The one she should be begging is God because He is a God of justice whether or they are meant to be together or not I also thought the side chick was a random girl and not his baby momma, with that being said. I believe this man fully. She sounds like a woman who desperately wants to tick all society’s boxes and takes short cuts. I’ve been wickedly cheated on I know the pain but it took a lot for me to stop reacting and stay silent. God dealt with the entire situation because my tears go up to him and I also repented of the time I was dating a man who had his stable relationship. It’s a lot but we need to take accountability

[@lungiswaNtandoLinganNgumbs329]

Wow

[@cyliamotsoenengzengele]

So yena ifouna kaNtando ebihlala kuye.

[@BrendaMbandlwa]

I feel sorry for this woman,I was also a victim of gender based violent,n saying kubantu ngiya cheater but I wasn't,bacele bathi siya cheater If sebephethwe ubulwane babo.n he married her for her pension of coz.I will never get married coz of these monsters who pretend to be calm infont of people,then a monster uma senifika endlini.oh n he divorced her uma imali isiphelile esazi dt usenazinyang ebuyiselwe emsebenzini.my fiance also became violent with me as soon as I got medically boarded off at work,because he knew I wasn't getting my full salary.i know all these tactics,I feel sorry for the wife.

[@sikieplaatjie6791]

Yaxoka ectopic pregnancy ayifiki ku 5 months bhuti

[@Mkitakazi]

Then Ntando lied because it’s what he was told let’s listen very careful

[@lungiswaNtandoLinganNgumbs329]

​@@Mkitakazi so what happened to the baby?

[@candy23451]

1:02:01 hawe mah ST😮iyoh😭😭😭bengizoquleka lapho, izulu😢

[@kamaveetv]

First and foremost both of them are greedy, actually itshala lamawele leli of which means its hard to solve but Ntando has got a lot of pride due to the family where she is from,the other thing is,,,Ntando is sexual active but trying to hide it with preach the guy is a mastermind using Ntandos weaknesses 🙏🙏🙏

[@lungiswaNtandoLinganNgumbs329]

😅

[@precioustsikwa4283]

I think they are both lying. There are 3 sides of the story.

[@kamaveetv]

@@precioustsikwa4283 noted but Ntando don't want to be in one episode with this guy she put excuses what does that mean 😂😂

[@shupikaicumbers5915]

Ntando please do not go back this man . Live your life girl , the right man for you will come