EP 24 - Mother wounds | How To Face Your Truth & Healing Childhood Trauma ft. Dr. Cheyenne Bryant

[@TheBSimone]

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[@jessicaa.7743]

The hardest part about healing is accepting the fact that your parents will never own up to their faults that led to your trauma.

[@Youknowwhat101]

PERIOD

[@shontiseb]

Hit it on the nail and it’s like you have to move on beyond that with every strength from wherever!!!! This comment is the truth!!!!! Mines traumatized me at 12 because somehow she was traumatized in her childhood, now my mother is sick with Alzheimer’s and Dementia and I’m In therapy!

[@NikkiLifeInBloom]

I've come to terms with it and moved forward. I no longer require their confession, and I've found peace in that acceptance. Now, I live my life for myself, establishing personal boundaries, and it feels amazing.❤

[@feliciah8758]

‼️‼️‼️

[@misunderstoodkj]

My dad for sure. Unfortunately, both of my parents are no longer here. But my dad caused me the trauma.

[@rosalindalexi2809]

“I get so triggered when I go back home” i feel that so deeply

[@aleksandra_jesus]

I think I get PTSD

[@rosalindalexi2809]

@@aleksandra_jesus definitely same

[@jackiekent8720]

I am 60 years old my trauma started at 8 years old and is still healing from my past. My youngest daughter brought me here, and these testimonies touched my soul. Thank you B Simone I just subscribed.

[@rosalindalexi2809]

@@jackiekent8720 💕

[@quinnettsooreal3169]

So deeply. I almost hate going out of town because I know ima have to fight that feeling on the way back

[@_karamel.K]

People constantly talk about absent fathers but rarely is the void of a present and healthy mother spoken about. This conversation has been so healing.

[@101jhurtado]

Factual

[@mariecocochanel_9094]

Facts

[@TheAlexusWindsor]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@TeiZhanMcfall-ve5jn]

Fax

[@NinaThomasBooks]

This is absolutely true. It's worse when you are repeatedly subjected to seeing the mother who doesn't love you shower your sibling with love and attention. It proves she has the capacity to love, she just doesn't love you. It's hard to process that as a child and not be impacted. For the longest time, my self-esteem was so low.

[@talkthattalkvalorie8373]

1. When is she going to start a podcast? 2. What insurance does she take?! 3. I have to rewatch this and answer all her questions. 4. Y’all trying to start a support group lol

[@MmmSoulCare]

😂😂😂 Answer #4 Seems like you just started it 😆

[@kaylawise2]

Heavy on the support group 💚

[@aniya_hill1922]

Yes for the support group

[@diplayball]

Ok, so what's up with the support group

[@jewonlittles7572]

Definitely would partake 🙌🏾

[@AbundantlyAndile]

Some of us have emotionally immature parents for whatever their reasons are but it means we can’t express our trauma without being a target again it’s hard to heal on that space with unaccountable parents

[@nickibaby7997]

I feel you, and we've all experienced flawed humans as parents. They may be responsible for what happened to us in our childhood, but as adults, we are responsible for our healing. Some of our parents may die before we get an apology or see them hold themselves accountable so we have to get beyond what we can't control and lean into what we can and that is our own healing. God bless you on your journey.

[@mariahlewis622]

Our healing isn’t contingent on anyone. Of course one would want the people involved to take accountability, but what we have to do is deal with what we can and let God do the rest 🙌😮‍💨🥹

[@fabianathurmond4057]

Oouu this is DEEP.. I LIKE THAT!

[@fabianathurmond4057]

​@@nickibaby7997my oldest sister gave my mom the biggest get back, my sister was on her death Ed and my mom came to visit and apologiz and my sister acted like she was sleep the whole time, and we really thought she was sleep the entire time and we told my sister what happened when she "woke up" and my sister was like I know " i forgave her a long time ago" my mom still suffers from that pain of never being able to receive forgiveness and we never told my mom either

[@vernettebaldwin9978]

​@nickibaby7997 I came looking for this comment. I always say I'm not responsible for my childhood. I'm only responsible for my adulthood. I'm sorry that I wasn't protected, yet I hold no guilt or shame for the people that were responsible for my protection and well-being.

[@jessicaa.7743]

What’s helped me accept my moms choices was understanding that her behaviors/choices were all learned from her mother. It’s a chain/generational curse. They didn’t know any better.

[@MindBodyCole]

Yessss, I learned that 3 months before my mom passed now I’m trying to forgive myself for judging. 😢

[@PrettyPowerfulAndPersevering]

Yes they do. Once she became an adult, she became responsible for her healing…versus continuing w the curse.

[@MmmSoulCare]

It’s fair to say that you can know better and not have or be aware of the tools to do better. Accountability can live with grace. ❤

[@shaqualapennington3016]

Yessss once you realize this you will able to forgive them

[@kikataye6293]

They do/did know better! That’s why many hid what they did and covered it up!

[@hellol3eautiful]

“You living in your fairytale is no longer serving you“ I FELT THAT😭 We are all proud of YOU, B!!

[@THISisUS333]

Very proud of you B!

[@DedraJenelle]

I fear that part really broke me down bad😭

[@Goddess_Evolving]

“You can’t heal a false narrative.” JESUS!! I needed this! Thank you, B. Simone. I’m beyond proud of your courage and transparency. Well done, Ma! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@wqross]

“You can never please someone past the level they can please themselves.” Let me pause and watch when I can focus. 💯😂

[@shareenaturner1793]

I literally said this to myself I car On my way to work!

[@MmmSoulCare]

9:38 “You’re in enabling, because you’ll never be able to please someone past the level they can please themselves.” Yea that’s a word.

[@nikkyshamz2696]

So freeing..cos we put a lot on ourselves because of expectations. They simply don't have it, whatever it is to give you.

[@TOSORIO-q8h]

And I’ll say I can became a saver of people because I wasn’t saved as a child. I became a Police Officer, a foster care parent. Every role I take on is saving other people. And it hurts so bad because I save others and don’t get it back from others. This episode hits deep. Crying through this whole episode cause lord it called me out. And I’m 43 living in survival mode.

[@86scorpiobaby]

i just notice this last week myself, i been saving ppl since i was a little girl. but the moment i need someone to save me out of my 37 years life. i cant think of nobody to save me but god. so glad i was save since a little girl. literally the only thing saving me. i pray you call on god to save you as well

[@Viximini]

Hugs 🤍

[@nikkyshamz2696]

I feel all of this. I realise i was in saving mode a lot too. I hope your tribe come into your life. I hope they've nit come and you didn't let them I'm because you didn't recognize them probably because they didn't need saving.

[@micole83]

You are not alone 🫶🏽

[@beautifulsky9575]

OMG 😰I can relate to what you said

[@kimberlys-721]

"Feel the fear and jump! Trust that when you jump, you will swim with dolphins and not sharks. And if you do swim with sharks, trust that God has equipped you to swim with sharks!" - Dr. Bryant This right here alone moved me! Thank you so much B for sharing. I pray you continue on this journey and get the healing you deserve!

[@lisamarie7037]

Girl, that one verse HIT DIFFERENT.😮

[@lb4398]

As black daughter of a black mother..we are battling the generation struggles of our Grandmothers, Great Grandmothers. When we understand that...we then must set emotioal boundaries with ourselves to allow ourselves to heal. We also must allow space for our Mothers...her choices and perspectives are hers and let her sit in them. But dont allow them to encroach your peace and freedom and ability to heal and love....I am walking this out day by day and its the hardest thing ever...but Im worth living a life of freedom ...I dont have to be like my Mom or her choices or even my dad and his choices... This podcast was powerful and needed a part 2, 3, 4 and 5 LOL

[@candacejames9089]

THIS IS THE ONE!

[@bklynhuny]

🗣🎯

[@miaf7640]

Amen!!!🎯🎯

[@Creole202YHWHwife]

Omg They together need a show!!! Therapy from this 1 hour POWERFUL because they prayed beforehand

[@TheElFamilyofstars]

One day I cried soooo hard forgiving my mom for choosing drugs over me but it wasn’t a choice it was a disease and I finally understood it but she was in heaven. Proud of u too B

[@mgaines700]

I had to do that too. Thankfully I told her before she passed and we had the most healthiest relationship. She dies in her sleep 2015. I just think about all those years I was angry and bitter , wasted what could have been the best yrs ! Hope you find healing. We only can believe God that he will fix these hearts

[@LotusLust]

It started with a choice. It’s important not to remove people of their accountability as well ❤

[@eniyabradford8092]

I have the same story

[@theeentrepreneher8182]

I had to do the same thing. Yes it starts with choice.. but what happened in their lives to make them make that choice. I had to no longer look at her as my mother. And look at her as a women who was hurting too, and have compassion for her… unfortunately while she was living I couldn’t see it because “I needed my mother too” it wasn’t until she past that I was able to see it on this way!

[@mgaines700]

@LotusLust my mother did not know how to accept that . I learned to not expect accountability but to work through my ish because holding on to 33 yr old hurt was my choice ! My kids needed a way different mother

[@SistersOnAJourneyWithJesus]

I seriously get how Simone is feeling. It’s hard trying to tell your testimony without tainting other peoples reputation!!

[@3rinityivysage292]

This!! And even worse with your mother because you will always feel a loyalty towards her no matter how much you are hurting. So difficult

[@beautifulsky9575]

​@@3rinityivysage292I understand this so well. My mother left me with my father because she was on drugs. Till this day I'm 49 years old and she won't talk about the past. We stay on the surface of everything. She always says I know I was messed up but she never go deeper.thr effects of her being messed up and what it did to me. She still pushes me away until this day. We talk on the phone but she won't let me get so close to her because I feel like being around me it's her guilt. But she always provides financially that her way is being there for me. But as a other it made me learn to stand it what I do my mistakes and know I still operate of of trauma myself but I'm careful with it.

[@carlii.2x102]

B Simone you have healed thousands through your videos . Baby you deserve to heal also….

[@tiffanyanthony7189]

💯

[@jmnorris]

Whew!!!! Say that again! 🙏🏾💕

[@nikkyshamz2696]

Amennnnn

[@SerenityIsMe90]

THIS IS FREE THERAPY RIGHT HERE !!! SO MANY BUBBLES BURST! I'M 34 AND I UNPACKED MY MOMMY ISSUES RIGHT ALONG WITH B. I LOVE THIS EPISODE... I JUST HAD A MOMENT MY BRAIN IS TRYING TO CATCH UP TO EVERYTHING I JUST HEARD WOW

[@LeaFaye]

me too im over here balling.

[@herinnergy1995]

@@SerenityIsMe90 you are not alone girl i had to pause this several times 😭.. sending hugs your way.

[@Nara26177]

Literally was free therapy 😭😭

[@BlasianGoddess34]

Yes!

[@nikkyshamz2696]

Ditto. I said thesame thing. She just did free group therapy for us all. Set the ball for vital thoughts which can initiate some conversations

[@officiallysaa]

WOW listening all the way from South Africa - let me tell you --- it hit so HARD when she said "its not your Mom that disappoints you , its this idea you have"

[@Khloe-jw8ih]

Hey chomie...watching from ekappa😊

[@charmainencube2005]

Watching from Joburg...bawling my eyes out too. Healing is nasty work.

[@hlokomelomahlalela571]

Watching from Limpopo

[@kodwat2134]

Watching from Pretoria

[@sonyac1229]

This was so good! Years ago, I made the choice to forgive my mother for not being who I thought she should be. My mother was a teen mom and had three children by the age of 22 years old. I looked at her one day and realized that she did the best she could, and she was strict on me and my sisters because she didn’t want what happened to her to happen to us. And although she didn’t love me like I thought she should or treat us the way I thought she should, people just don’t have it and you can’t give what you don’t have! I always say that my mother taught me so much about parenting and what not to do. I just knew that I wanted to be a different parent and my sons and I have a great relationship, but had I not gone through the childhood I went through, it may have been different. I have so much respect for my mother now, because she raised all three of us to be strong, independent, hard-working women, and I know after having children of my own, how hard that is. She was young and nobody taught her how to be a parent. I don’t know that I could have done the job (at her age with three children) that she did with me and my sisters, so, there is nothing but reverence, respect, forgiveness, understanding and more importantly healing now! 🥰. She’s my queen! 👸🏽 ❤

[@YahsalsPoesia]

I love this ❤

[@patriciaperry-higgins6269]

You got it....

[@vl1180]

I had that reverence and understanding when I was younger because mom was a single mother of 5 but then I grew up a d realized she is a narcissist and never loved her kids more than she could love herself.

[@sonyac1229]

@@vl1180 Man that’s a tough realization! All you can do going forward is try to heal yourself! 💕

[@thelashmom]

I can feel this whole interview it’s crazy Dr. B is gifted this ain’t just no degree this is purely from God.

[@FirstnameLastname-de8gf]

Amen

[@cyna866]

Definitely anointed 🥹🥹🥹

[@nikkyshamz2696]

Same thing I said. Anointed for sure. She was Made for this

[@kinettemoore6031]

We set people up to fail when we ask things of people that they are not capable of. The key is to except what it is and not what you want it to be.

[@TeeBirdie]

🫶🏽

[@mutshidzimulelu2991]

Easier said than done when you are a little girl needing her mom.

[@roro5475]

​@@mutshidzimulelu2991facts 😢❤❤

[@omnib.135]

We only set ourselves up for failure when we put too much grace on people who NEVER delivered. It's like waiting for a package that you ordered but that's delayed. The anticipation destroys the joy of receiving something that just may not be delivered when you EXPECT it. Some people are just not worthy of continuously being given grace. As those are the type who will continue to abuse you! God gives us all grace up unto a certain degree and we should all operate the same way ❤ So, acceptance of what is vs what you want is key!

[@a-jack2980]

Accept* 💯

[@kenyattagatlin699]

You just don't know how many inner " little girls" that this episode has helped. I would have to say this is one of the best episodes that i will rewatch❤

[@JennJennntv]

Im a few minutes in & i cant wait to receive what you all are talking about in these comments 🫶🏾

[@cnique2000]

I’ve had to mourn the relationship that I wanted to have with my mother. I realized she showed up as only the person she could be. Therapy has helped me work though my desire to have a loving nurturing relationship with my mother and let go of the fairytale. I recognize my mom has experienced her own trauma from not being raised by my grandmother and abuse she suffered from her grandmother who raised her. The pain she felt by not being raised by her mother but my grandmother raising my uncle, realizing the resentment from that and how it still plagues her til this day. I strive to be a better mother to my children, accept accountability and make apologies for when I fell short. I do everything for them and my granddaughter. Thank you B and thank you Dr for having these real conversations. Thank you for being firm when telling her to sit in it and not avoid or run from her emotions💜🦋💜

[@chrissyh3270]

Bless you for breaking the generational trauma.

[@herinnergy1995]

@@cnique2000 That first line sis 😭... I don't think people understand you can really mourn the living. Sending hugs your way i understand.

[@aurisarias664]

Have we ever had someone like B? Bold, honest, vulnerable, and keeps going no matter what goes against her. Thank you for not giving up and showing us what courage looks like.

[@larettawilliams5295]

I don't know any at her age. Definitely grateful

[@ShayBarnes]

Dr. Spirit!

[@GoogleAccount00]

So many people operate like this daily. They just don’t have a platform to showcase it.

[@SidesOfItPod]

Me

[@1mochadelightable]

.......And they said that Iyanla's *Fix My Life" wasn't going to make a significant change in the self care/mental health arena......Look at God 10yrs later

[@rufaro28]

Literally this !!!

[@naomirachel9161]

So so true

[@nic2859]

I’m sitting straight up in my bed at 1AM crying. Bih I gotta work in the morning but I’m definitely sleeping good tonight 💜

[@dhikramusic7659]

Literally same

[@FirstnameLastname-de8gf]

Facts lol

[@t.n.morgan4233]

😅😅😅... completely understand!

[@BLFJobs]

She’s holding on to shame about her story. It’s not about protecting her family, it’s about the shame of the truth that she’s not ready to face yet.

[@AllIAm1]

Agreed. Deep feelings of shame and unworthiness. Been there. Thank God no longer.

[@GoogleAccount00]

Facts

[@tawanaroberts239]

Wow you just helped me🙏🏾

[@kimberlypettway9692]

That part…as I was. Now if you sit around me long enough you will know my mom has suffered from bipolar mental illness since I was 10. And my dad was a heavy drinker/partying womanizer for the majority of my life. The journey!!!🙌🏾

[@ReviveHERmind]

Me too

[@MsButtalove]

B, idk if you will see this but maybe you could ask your mom about her childhood. That will probably explain some of her choices as your mother. Thank you for sharing with us. You are amazing. Im proud of you for wanted to learn grow and get to the best version of yourself 💚

[@sophisticatedbadgurl]

I agree.

[@Milani2k]

I broke down the minute Dr Bryant talked about "being hurt by your idea of a person and not the person him/herself" I relate so much to that with my aunt I live with. I feel like I'm in this therapy session too

[@oliviam4134]

This is exactly why I’m specialising in psychotherapy and inner child work 😌 Beautiful healing taking place here 🩵🦋

[@D_Lux]

“Trauma “needs” healthiness “wants”…” That was good doc ☝🏼

[@RJbeachbumallday]

Dang this woman is good! 60 years, countless hours and dollars in therapy and she just...I don't even know what but I feel a shift and I'm ready to heal. This Lil girl inside is waaay over due for playtime in the park 😊 I got this now. Look out Red Sea! Thank you Queens, bless you doing God's work.

[@sedi2066]

When this lady said "you cannot heal a false narrative" i felt it in every orifice😂 she never ceases to make me ooooh and aah. Love the work you do Dr Bryant B we love you and are so proud of you all the way in South Africa, you are such an inspiration i hope that this blesses you as it has blessed us. So needed!

[@eniyabradford8092]

Conversations that need to be had. 🙏🏽 My mom had bipolar schizophrenia she also suffered drug addiction. My dad has never been in my life. I don’t remember a lot of my childhood my aunt raised me from 4 to adulthood. I do know my mom abused me because out of her 8 children my dad was one of the only ones that wasn’t around at all because he was married. I thank God everyday for my aunt and still get triggered going to my hometown. My mom passed from cancer and I forgave her because I saw her relationship with her mom. I know how deep the generational trauma runs in my family. I saw how she allowed men to treat her and unfortunately I see a lot of the same traits in my siblings and it breaks my heart. the cycle ends with me. 🙏🏽

[@qtipp81]

Yes, it ends with you! God bless you! 🫂❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@jadah.8331]

This was so deep and so relatable 🤍 I fully understand B. Simone’s frustration to why God always chooses her to be the one to do the work. I’ve constantly questioned God why I always had to be the one that’s different but God has shown me it’s because I’m willing to be the most obedient. Keep going B. Simone, your testimony will impact the world significantly!!

[@ryzahara06]

You doing your BIG ONE with THIS conversation. A motherless child has a hard time remaining a women in all rooms.

[@activatebestyou]

This is deep😢

[@JWinston]

“You’ll never be able to please someone past the level that they can please themselves” 😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨 That’s MEEEEEE lord

[@df.solaceandskin]

when she spoke about releasing the little girl, I lost it... wow. this episode blessed and freed me. thank you and praying for you on your continued journey, B. 🫶🏽

[@Chelsennnn]

My genuine response when I saw Dr Bryant was "Oh bitch I'm about to cry" Im already knowing this is gonna be an hour of healing for so many❤

[@BriDahlquist]

Same 😂😂😂😂

[@danilaroche1156]

Let's stop saying the B word all together. Especially on a Christian youtube.

[@Chelsennnn]

@danilaroche1156 Let's stop trying to use Christianity as a way to shame/monitor others actions. The guest identifies as Christian and curses, Bsimone identifies as Christian and occasionally curses. If not cursing is an agreement you made with God Congratulations, but don't try to push your restrictions on others.

[@Chelsennnn]

@BriDahlquist Right! Like, let me wait and watch this when I get home.

[@Chelsennnn]

@danilaroche1156 stop trying to use Christianity as a way of forcing others into the same restrictions you chose for yourself.

[@CD-xq1lc]

I was weeping in the first 15 minutes. I HAD to pause the episode to gather myself. I sent this to my mother because I didn’t have the language to speak what my heart felt.

[@RhondaR4]

Never be embarrassed about your mother's mental illness. I can relate to a lot to living in a prison. I cried watching this. Witchcraft is real. My mother tortured me because of her mental health. Living with my parents was hell. I'm still learning to love me and heal. My story is deep.

[@Viximini]

Hugs 🤍you have to release it

[@caroljohnson2514]

Sending hugs and prayers Rhonda

[@RhondaR4]

@@Viximini, Yes Ma'am! Thank you! Bless you.❤️🙏🏽

[@RhondaR4]

@@caroljohnson2514, Thank you very much! Bless you.❤️🙏🏽

[@Elise-oj4cx]

My mom is a first lady of a church and a communal narcissist. When I tell my truth about my childhood trauma, she accuses me of lying about it. She cares more about her image than helping her children heal. I went completely no contact.

[@whyarehumanslikethis]

I also went NC. They refuse to see.

[@KimberlyBrabson-o3k]

That's absolutely deep and sad!

[@KimberlyBrabson-o3k]

​@@whyarehumanslikethisThat's awful!

[@babytheNarcSlayer]

Me too

[@tashai600]

I could never forgive my mom but I accept her for who she is. We just can’t have a healthy relationship and I’ve accepted that. I need peace in my life

[@jannellevans3598]

Hi luv. I understand how u feel. May I ask a question? Who does your unforgiveness towards your mother hurt the most?

[@chrissyh3270]

You can forgive her to free yourself but you don't have to reconcile with her.

[@omnib.135]

​@@jannellevans3598it doesn't hurt the "victim" when you choose peace over insanity. See, that's the lie some people believe. Which is forgiveness is for you and not the other person. Simply because you can forgive a person yet it doesn't mean that they won't intentionally be a repeat offender. Even father God has a cut off period with his grace shown. So, we should all act accordingly to the level of respect that is given no matter who it comes from. And sometimes in order for people to get the picture you have to leave them where their standing and most times that's ALONE 😂 ❤

[@jannellevans3598]

@omnib.135 I'm not implying that she has to be back in her presence and that she shouldn't leave them standing alone. U can truly forgive someone and not ever physically deal with them again but from her comment I didn't hear that she had forgiven her mom

[@omnib.135]

@@jannellevans3598 And that's ok too if she hasn't. From my own personal experience forgiveness is not an ingredient for healing. Because you will still have unresolved feelings towards set person. Esp if there is no progress in your relationship. Forgiveness is for those who are willing to be accountable and are willing to make a change. Those who aren't willing to make amends through their actions should be left alone. And maybe that's why she has not forgiven her mother because it's not going to change the connection between the two. As she probably realized the connection has always been one sided based around the mothers needs and not hers as the child. Most mother/father wounds stem from NPD parents who are codependent of their children and only look at their children as badges of honor. Never seeing their off spring as separate from them. Thinking that if they survived abuse then their children can as well. Which isn't true. But then again NPD personality have hard times deciphering what's true and isn't.

[@micolclark2397]

LIVING MY 36 YEAR 7 YEAR OLD LIFE! I can't stop crying. Thank you both for this B I'm 36 baby healing really is hard and sometimes you pick up and work on and man sometimes I gotta put the shit down so YOUR DOING AMAZING for not putting it down!

[@folashadespeaks]

Adulthood don’t have no place for kid hood that’s sooo trueeeee omg

[@tarascreativeflow2763]

Dr. Bryant needs her own show. She has been helping to heal those in and out of the spotlight with her on point, hard to hear but need to hear honesty. Her sessions with Cam Newton, Nick Cannon and B.Simone were not only eye opening to them but to everyone who could relate

[@reneelynn3379]

A master manifester. You prayed for what happened in this episode. God heard you the top of the episode and they delivered. When you said "Idk, help me," that made me respect you even more. Something I notice in all your episodes is when you need better understanding you always ask for help or ask "what does that mean" and I truly admire that you show up for yourself in that way. You won't ever allow your pride to keep you from continuously developing and I love that.

[@myraanzo9322]

I’ve recently accepted that my mother doesn’t like me. She loves me, but I know she doesn’t like me. It’s been a hard pill to swallow and something I’m learning to accept as I navigate through motherhood as a new mom.

[@cooliohoolio30]

sending hugs💕

[@dreamarie12]

I thought I was going to be able to watch this while I work and take calls, nope gotta wait tears already forming.

[@Essng-w5x]

I feel the same when it comes to sharing what happened with my mom while growing up. I kinda feel like im telling on her or im being disrespectful by telling..oh the guilt!! You are not alone.. i also struggle with decision making, self sabotage, playing small and not showing up as who i truly am. I thank God because i am now growing through all that and wow, its such a tough job!! I can't wait to be free.

[@tyoniagardner614]

Dr Bryant definitely was my inspiration for going back to school! This is the purest B I've ever seen. God bless them both!

[@JessAnonymous]

I cant wait to watch this!!! I usually dont even watch B Simone content (shes funny af, but has said hella questionable things that kinda turned me off) as a daughter of a covert narc black mom in recovery (scapegoat in a narc family dynamic) its been the toughest battle of my life. Nearly wanted to unalive myself multiple times. About time we have these convos bc im tired of hearing "I did the best I can" and black moms specifically getting passes to abuse their children and themselves bc of generational racial oppression. It needs to END asap and we need to be radically honest with ourselves about what took place

[@GurpLove]

Yeah my Dad raised me too but was emotionally unavailable so I felt abandoned,..it sucks on both ends. But I prayed to Jesus to heal the fragments of my soul on not growing up without my Mom it’s my testimony not my identity.

[@shannonhiatt7746]

Felt 🥹

[@Dgivan09]

Godspeed healing! Although… this is not my testimony, we all have broken fragments that we have to Elmer’s glue back together and keep going and I too often use that statement … “not my identity; just my testimony!”

[@GurpLove]

@@Dgivan09 Amen 🙏🏾

[@nicoleyahnina4422]

Same as my story but i grew with my narcissistic mom

[@GurpLove]

@@nicoleyahnina4422 so true my Dad was Narcissistic too

[@SeamossGoddess]

This lady is so good I’m healing hearing her talk to Simone about her journey so deep!

[@dsmith5986]

It's all about the way you listen and the tone of voice when you are trying to reach someone's soul. Dr. Bryant does this well!

[@juskhloe]

This is so deep. I am so proud of her for having this space to help us all heal. The women heal and the world heals bc we are the first relationship are children experience.

[@MaryBieber7]

This is what I’ve been waiting for from B. The story behind the story. TRUE authenticity and vulnerability. As she leans into this, she’ll see God really use her testimony.

[@nakeishahairston6663]

Same!

[@vanessagethers1769]

This was definitely meant for me to hear a mothers trauma becomes a daughters wound

[@MizzzzJVeVE2828]

My mom died last year and it was the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through in my entire life so I know exactly how it feels to never have that relationship with my mom. She wasn’t around when she was alive either so it was extremely difficult I’m crying right along with you b ❤😢

[@jasminebrown9365]

My Condolences 💐

[@01yoshika]

Acceptance is a huge word. Parents are portals faced with the same challenges we face they aren’t superheroes. Forgive them for their flaws and shortcomings and excel beyond the dysfunction.

[@Embracingtruth91]

This really helped me, I know I’m approaching the day when it will be time to tell my story, Knowing that you are the generational curse breaker feels like so much pressure but it’s the only way u will be set free. I pray God sets me free and many others who are still in bondage.

[@Flawdagal]

This makes me so grateful for my mom. Not like I wasn’t before but this made me extra super grateful. She’s loves me unconditionally & has always been my advocate.

[@niajahkhali2068]

Get this woman a show already❤ Dr. Bryant is brilliant! B, you opening up once again is something so special; healing.

[@vonaspov]

Immediately clicked because the mother wounds run deep with a lot of women I know and even within self. These conversations are so needed 🤍

[@Yonela_Toko]

😭😭

[@shemekaadams1457]

You're changing lives. I'm 51, and we are the same little girl. I don't need to know the backstory to know it, and you just changed my life. Dr.Bryant is anointed and wise. Thank you both. You anointed too B.

[@Itsafamilything252]

My mother has schizophrenia and bipolar disorder. I understand how it feels to not have a normal relationship with my mother. At 36 I and just now trying to give her grace for her situation. B I pray for your healing and others like us. It gets better!

[@Asianae_]

You never know how much you resonate with someone until they pull back the layers. Speaking your truth does really help others. God truly puts us through certain things not for just our own growth but for others as well. Thank yall for this. The episode I didn’t know I needed 🤍🙏🏽

[@stacycakes11]

The timing of this is so divine. I haven’t seen my dad since my brother Nicks funeral in 2018 and before that in 2009. I just got back from seeing him because he had an emergency triple bypass surgery and there was a chance he wouldn’t make it. I hold on to so much of my art and my expression because it reveals the truth about me and them. That was a powerful moment for me. Thank you so much Simone for your vulnerability and Dr. Bryant for your wisdom.

[@whoiskatlady14]

I’m so happy to see Dr.Bryant on so many different platforms, I was first introduced to her via teen mom and I thought she was just so amazing during their sessions. Wish I could afford her 😩

[@TeiZhanMcfall-ve5jn]

My mother left me with my grandmother. And i haven’t seen my mom since 2015. But i do call her. But thank you Dr Bryant 🥹🥹🥹🙏🏿

[@desandrasimmons4545]

JESUS!!! YOU HAVE NO IDEA OF HOW MUCH THIS WAS NEEDED!!! I couldn't send this to my daughter soon enough. God knew just how much we needed this message and guidance. I wish you could have a weekly podcast on this subject matter to help us more. Our therapist doesn't come close to what you achieved in 1 hour. Bless you both!

[@jimmishamitchell325]

Whewww that “most ppl stay in the dark” hit me so deep because I enjoy being in the dark for all those reasons 😢😢

[@Mrș_Caș3y]

John 3:19-21 King James Version 19 And this is the condemnation, that light is come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. 20 For every one that doeth evil hateth the light, neither cometh to the light, lest his deeds should be reproved. 21 But he that doeth truth cometh to the light, that his deeds may be made manifest, that they are wrought in God. I realized that about myself as well. I was never depressed, I just really enjoyed being in sadness and the dark because I can continue to do my dirt without any rebuke. It's sickening. Thank God I came back to Jesus. He has healed me from so much mess and is still healing me.

[@cnique2000]

This hit me so hard because I’ve always found comfort in being in the dark. I’ve always found comfort in avoiding the truth in my life. I’ve been scared to go into the light. I’ve been scared to have those real conversations with my mom, even the conversations me and my sister should have when it relates to her, and how she created trauma in our childhood. Staying in the dark allows me to avoid those hard conversations. The dark represents to me, avoidance and denial and not continuing to break my own heart. Even long after my mom broke my heart so many times in our childhood and continues to do so in me and my sister‘s adulthood. This podcast has me wanting to finally face the truth and walk into the light.

[@Mrș_Caș3y]

@cnique2000 trust in Jesus. Trust that He'll guide you through the fire and will be there to comfort you when it gets really hard. Let Him walk before you, and He will make sure you come through. Cling to Him. He didn't promise us an easy life, but He did promise to never leave us. All you have to do is trust in Him. I'm praying for you sis 🙏🏾 💜 Hebrews 13:5: "For he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee".

[@cnique2000]

@@Mrș_Caș3y thank you for your kind words 🙏🏽💜

[@Mrș_Caș3y]

@@cnique2000 you’re absolutely welcome 🙏🏾

[@goldie88gl]

This Was A Good One. That Whole "Sit In It" Hits Hard. Sometimes We Don't Want To.

[@jmnorris]

“When you create a safe space for someone, you get the good AND the bad.” Whew! Ugh . . . . Yeah . . . . this struck a nerve for sure.

[@alexiaboatwright]

Omg B you have to tell your story. I have been suffering with my relationship with my mom and it’s gotten better and I still haven’t healed from my relationship with her as a child. I feel so bad for feeling how I feel. I want to heal and I suffer from people pleasing and I took so many pages of notes from this video so I can start my healing journey. I felt when you said “God why me? I have a sister, why me?” Because I wish someone can handle this and not me. I feel for you 10000% because I can deeply relate to what you’ve expressed so far. I didn’t know I was also angry as my father for not saving me from everything, He couldn’t ! Please set yourself free so I can learn from your journey and heal with you ❤

[@vanessaa2631]

This was amazing. Coming from a divorced parent home I too at 30+ have realized that I am a people pleaser that stems back from childhood. It is a struggle and I def found some gems to use on my healing, unlearning journey and putting myself first

[@Stephaniekathaleen1]

That is so deep." Im gonna trust that if their is sharks God has equipped me to swim with them too" Praise God that hit me in the chest.

[@RetooldByJasmyn]

The vulnerability and healing is UNMATCHED here between you too!! Thank you Dr. Bryant for being a pillar and B.Simone for creating the space!! ❤

[@lishmarlin7055]

That’s literally THE DEFINITION of bravery. Being afraid and doing it ANYWAY!

[@AlyssaSolo313]

You can’t heal a false narrative. 😮

[@KiKiCarr]

this woman Dr Cheyenne is POWERFUL!

[@ninaerastus5341]

"I get triggered when I go home" girl me too... this episode hit me so deep, so so deep... I cried with you while I was watching... I pray we can heal together from this fr.❤ thank you for this. I'm deeply grateful❤

[@indi5]

I’m glad B without hesitation said that she was proud of herself!!

[@lexciib]

When Dr.Bryant said choose where you go because you WANT to be there and not because fear is FORCING you to go . Now the tears won’t stop .

[@allymcbealx]

I don’t even have the words soo much of this resonates. So many takeaways and just reassurance Dr. Bryant say what I’ve thought myself lets me know I’m learning and healing and on the right path. I was told by my mother I was controlling my sister but she infantilized her and made me put on a cape even when I was afraid or was in need. And we’re only a year apart. All I knew was protecting them and regulating their emotions at my expense. When I learned about boundaries and told them i didn’t want to be involved in their personal relationships I became the villain. They wanted me to keep showing up as the people pleaser w/ the cape. I wasn’t willing to do that so I chose to walk away. It’s been two years now.

[@rn2511]

You don’t need to discuss it publicly. But thanks for doing a snippet so others can learn. Speak with your family. Talk to them heal. this is what we call uncomfortable conversations. Sometimes you don’t even need to speak with them directly if it’s not needed. Just sit with yourself and speak your truth and how you feel if possible record it. It’s ugly there will be finger pointing but it’s healing to speak it out loud and cry and heal. People often think you have to speak to the person directly in person to let go. Nooooo. You can speak with God and cry and talk as if the person is there. Tell them what they did wrong and how you have suffered as a result. Let it out. Let it all out! You will start the journey of acceptance and heal yourself. It’s the first step. Day by day you’ll start to feel better. Reiterating your truth and continuing to practice acceptance. It can happen. You can heal. Yes you’d prefer things to be a certain way but they’re not. Accept that and then enjoy what you can. Even some things you think isn’t possible actually is. And you’ve told yourself it isn’t. Sigh. It’s a lot but it can be done. 🤗 talk to God and maybe even yourself like I do 😂 if I’m heading in a bad direction mentally I actually tell myself out loud Stop! Stop it! And then reason about what that’ll do if I continued in that direction. I’m this way too. Loving and wanting people to be happy even at my own detriment. Made progress. I’m grateful. The journey is still a long one and you might never get to the imaginary end but you have to recognize that too. Just make progress that’s all you need to worry about. Take another step and another one. You’re strong 💪🏾

[@yahairamelendez7208]

This right here 😢😢🤧 brought me flashback i had a similar experience with my parents and my siblings basically i was looked at like the black sheep . I went through alot of trauma abuse from verbal , mentally ,physically sexual assault since a child . Even raise myself at 18 cause my mother didn't want to deal with me cause she wanted to have a new men in her life who was abusive to her and yet blame me for her choice . Its been 2 year in my healing journey its not easy but you have to be really strong and have faith that you are going to surpass this and keep all toxic people , places and things away from you and go within . To all woman and men that gone through traumas we got this , most high father will always shine the light and show you the way stay strong and have faith blessings to all ❤❤ . B simone queen im glad you doing this its a big step you got this sister 🙏💐💖🕊 stay strong i love you .

[@KimberlyBrabson-o3k]

That's me, I'm learning how to forgive myself and loving myself!

[@theeshakeliazhana]

I needed this ! This is so healing for all of us with mother wounds . Thank you , Lord ❤

[@xNicSantiaga]

y’all I am AT WORK. SOBBING!!! this is by far my favorite podcast episode ever. literally. this is so so necessary. so brave and so healing. thank you for sharing this & providing us all the space to heal bc God knows I needed this so much.

[@S.C.Green-Burgess]

"It's gotta go dark for God to show us the light switch!" Bars❤ Talk Doc!

[@DejaAliyyah]

B I cannot wait for you to release your truth in full! It will set you free ❤ you’ve inspired me to dig deeper into my childhood traumas. I am now doing the work to heal ❤️

[@JazUpMyStyle]

This was so deep on so many levels. This made me think about how many times I protected others by not sharing my story to make sure that they’re okay meanwhile, I’m sitting in the mess they created. WOW! So deep! Thank you for this! ❤️❤️

[@Careiskey]

Why do me and B Simone have such identical stories and feelings 😵‍💫 I needed this ❤

[@nicolew9100]

Girl you just saved me! My idea that I have created! I said God I want to heal and your video. I am 47 and my mom took her life when I was 19. Thanks B Simone and the Doctor for your help. ❤

[@ElisiaExcellenceddjsem]

27 minutes in and this interview has already broken through some things I've been struggling with myself thank you B for doing this interview its carzy how the prayer you started with immediately came into fruition

[@vanna9366]

I’m literally tearing up at work listening to this. I appreciate this transparency & vulnerability

[@v_onthekinks]

B - my gf met your mom this year. She’s in the medical field and she said all she could talk about was YOU! She said that she was so proud of you, happy that you’re her daughter and she wanted everybody to know baby! She said she saw your face in hers when she smiled. Give her some grace and give yourself a bit more time to work through things but don’t allow all the STUFF to make you wait til it’s too late bc once you do reach a certain level of being healed, that’ll hurt you even more.

[@tashai600]

Let me tell you, my mom would absolutely do the same thing. My mom is in the medical field also. She’s very happy to brag about me as her daughter. But she’s also a narcissist. She knows how to put up a perfect persona for everyone except me. I get the bad side, the dark side, the abusiveness, the emotionally immature side. It’s to the point where if my mother calls my phone, my anxiety is absolutely On 100 and I’m shaking/heart pounding. She abused me my whole childhood. She never showed me love. When I got my period, she sent me away angry. Every point in my life she destroyed my self esteem and confidence. And to put the icing on the cake, she lied about who my father was for 18 full years. She also hid who my real father was until I was 27 . Nobody else knows this!! And everyone would say exactly what u just said about her mom. “Your mom loves you, she is so proud of you. Forgive her for whatever she’s done and move on” but I promis u lol if it was that simple we would. No woman on earth chooses to grow up and have no relationship with their mother.

[@WasemeSaangz]

@@tashai600I could have written this myself. No one knows the true them. Except the abused one.

[@v_onthekinks]

@@tashai600 I didn’t say “forgive her” - I said give her and yourself some grace. It’s called being supportive & positive babes. That’s it. Sorry you went thru what you went through but I reaaalllyyyy pray you’re doing the work to heal from all that bc if not, she’ll pass on STILL HAVING POWER OVER YOU & YOUR LIFE. You owe it to yourself to take your power back, same for B.

[@MudanaloShavhani]

@@v_onthekinksI agree with the taking the power back but sometimes that actually means not interacting with them unfortunately. 😢. I agree with the other I know how it’s like having a narcissist in your life, they boast about you saying nothing but great things about you have people think omw you are so lucky but the reality is when it’s just you and them you are like what the hell is this!

[@Loveddeeply626]

@v_onthekinks, if you have not gone through this, it is best for you to be quiet about how and what she must do to navigate. Just be quiet.

[@dezarae.g]

I’ve been crying from start to finish! She made me realize things about myself

[@Poetic_Taurean83]

Omg I need this woman as my therapist she is amazing !

[@tiarraevans88]

This was such an insightful video! Praying for the childhood trauma of everyone watching this. God is where we find our significance and heal. ❤