Ep 3: After the Catch Up With Chandler and Mishna from Pop The Balloon | BM Talks To Them

[@Troystreetzproduction]

To sum this up chandler is tired of simping and chasing women who didn’t want him so because of his insecurities he blew it with a woman who actually was interested in dating him what a idiot

[@mkawa1566]

My summation exactly.

[@BellaBB1]

Exactly and it’s clear he’s the type to go for women who are “out of his league”.

[@destinyn63]

Smh exactly

[@2kool4u71]

I enjoy people who are realistic.. and this comment was it💯

[@jetswade_rapbot]

Well said 💯

[@jaycee9968]

This is the energy you get from a guy that gets rejected by his preference and “settles” for you. So disappointing and such a waste of time

[@cancerr1sing]

Exactly. He will never do better than her

[@theapex189]

Well said

[@loyaltyb71052]

​@@cancerr1singagreed, he may get company but I highly doubt a young lady with genuine interest is around the corner. If he had real options, he wouldn't be on a show like this!

[@SweetPoisonvich]

@@loyaltyb71052even now after this ,his options going to be red flags just like him 🙆🏽‍♀️

[@godwinvalentine4510]

​@@cancerr1singare you God. People break up and move on. There is a reason for everything. They are not meant to be doesn't mean he doesn't wish her well stop the hate speech.

[@MochaGlow]

He can’t believe that she actually likes him because he’s insecure. Bring Mishna back for a blind date special.

[@loryndabenson2118]

Yeah! I'm getting self sabotage vibes from Chandler. I think he actually liked her but was saying stuff to hurt her because he couldn't figure out how to make it work.

[@SapphicKnits]

​@@loryndabenson2118Ding ding ding! It's giving self sabotage crash out because she was sweet and pretty and he didn't know what to do

[@RavenUntamed]

Blind date sucks

[@ebonyy5248]

NO more blind date episodes please!

[@whitemilkcoco]

@@loryndabenson2118 He realized that he is not ready

[@kristinatci7]

I love how much respect she has for herself and how classy she is. She’s a good person.

[@Callmemasside]

Arlette has a real man on her side! So proud of how BM put Chandler in front of his BS

[@Margumentative]

Remember in the follow up ep. when chandler basically said rushing is how people end up divorced... and then bm "checked" him by saying don't waste anyone's time... chandler was right. And so was bm. It wasn't a waste because because he didn't want to pop immediately. It was a waste because he didn't tell her where he was at. Who knows, she might have turned up the temp, and he might have started sweating.

[@Jagger02]

I'm liking this before I even see this take place. I can imagine what went down, and can't wait to see.

[@withloveakina]

Yes she does! I like that BM asked her specifically if she was okay because this was tough and she didn’t deserve it.

[@silver8ball815]

@@withloveakina Masculine men never want to intentionally hurt a woman or see a woman get hurt.

[@taketan8858]

I appreciated BM asking Mishna if she was ok. Bring her back. Chandler needs time to mature.

[@raquel7675]

@@taketan8858 that was very sweet

[@Meccaone17]

She's classy.

[@Vivrantbloom]

Yea when he asked that, it’s giving “mature” and “aware” 🎉

[@bosstler21]

Ghosting isn't mature at all!

[@MaryByrne-wr7ou]

I felt that too ❤

[@TheVirgo91]

His mask slipped..that nice guy gimic was just to conceal his anger and insecurity

[@ms.ashley999]

✅️

[@Mohamed-lw2ig]

Nah fr🤣 dude has a completely different personality

[@jessicaobanner4683]

100%

[@chateaux-capristovall2048]

Yes! Because when he started clapping with an elevated volume in his voice I was SHOCKED! Like EEEEWWWW you’re a JERK in real life? Gross. Next!

[@jameswtlocs]

Yall acting like people can’t have different emotions and shit💀

[@EricaEmpowers]

"Chandler you're Done, your time is up!" BM is so straightforward ,lol and Arlette is so insightful, the perfect balance and co-hosts

[@averychilco]

For a man you don't choose a woman to see if she has good conversation especially when she starts with the ship's testing. Obviously, her sex was trash and her hostility came out.

[@TheQueenrevolution]

Ooooh Mishna is giving a new look. Younger, fresher ❤

[@shannon_not_so_bland]

Yes! She’s looks so good and youthful

[@Thulz.]

The reality is she old, just get her on the water and remove all that artificial face

[@ririjoy6304]

@@Thulz.she’s 23..

[@Trell1080]

@@RicherrThanRoddyto show their ex how bad they fumbled

[@hdeniro1106]

To be 23 she still looks old. But I think gen z is just aging badly as a whole lol

[@cancerr1sing]

“You’re a fraud analyst but you can’t smell your own BS” she ate with that 😭🤣🤣🤣

[@kingKC-m2k]

You know she had that one in the chamber for a good minute 😂

[@whitemilkcoco]

Their faces Lmfaoo😂😂😂😂

[@Kglopez11]

This!

[@nehsangbong7259]

🎤

[@arleeshawilson7317]

Ate downnnnn😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@FaithChrisss]

Mishna you dodge a bullet! He’s waayyy too aggressive in his delivery.

[@Mrdavis039]

He was like that on the actual show also. When he said “This is who I am”

[@aaron-8943]

right lol he immediately started to get hype as soon as he spoke not good

[@travel_adddictt]

The insecurity is really showing

[@a.j.9727]

The truth becomes clear at 11:50. Interested parties DO NOT play childish games with their potential spouse. Mishna tried it, Chandler checked her (as he should), and her behavior makes it clear that she cannot handle constructive criticism.

[@aureliefils-aime2338]

@@aaron-8943 i picked tht too

[@EChev-w4d]

BM was pissed! I like that he called him out on it. Chandler’s own insecurity and not believing someone genuinely liked him caused him to project and self sabotage!

[@silver8ball815]

Not insecurity, ARROGANCE. He actually thought this beauty was beneath him. Dude said I don't like you... but it's your fault that I don't like you. 🤡

[@jaesall3519]

a grown man who's that much into anime IS always weird ladies

[@unapologetic1413]

🚧 Men like Chandler NEVER PURSUE the women who actually want them because they spend their lives running after the women who DON'T want them.

[@Kinsale101]

Amen. I was looking for this comment!

[@unapologetic1413]

@@Kinsale101 I had to speak on facts because Chandler is the typical PRETEND nice guy that overlooks "good" women and then complains that he can't find anyone. When he does find his specific type, it will be a woman who fits society's standards of beauty, but her heart WON'T even come close to Mishda's because she will only want him for his money. What he doesn't realize is that what he did to Mishda is coming back to him, but it will be much worse once he receives it back guaranteed.

[@dennisg7709]

​@@unapologetic1413because those women are usually unattractive...

[@Super305mann]

That goes both ways but i feel women do it more than men tbh

[@kodeh7931]

That’s actually how life is.

[@alinakslvch]

he’s smirking because he finally found a woman he can act towards the same way others have been acting towards him. shame

[@KB-un3el]

This is sickening, and accurate

[@PeacefulPrime]

Exactly! He’s enjoying hurting her 😢

[@l.300]

Facts gurl!

[@AliLovesCoach]

@@alinakslvch exactly! He’s projecting

[@mikesnips1926]

Hurt people hurt people

[@ChrisFluhnoy]

Bro is spiraling 😂. This is how you vent to your friends, not how you express yourself for hundreds of thousands of people to see.

[@VendieSolde]

He doesn't have any friends

[@MissOfficer24]

He really is going to spiral after he read these comments. I hope he gets some counseling.

[@ebonyy5248]

right that was SO funny 🤣

[@trevelbrown2557]

​@ebonyy5248 mental illness is very funny lol just saying...

[@lastnamefirst9423]

@@ChrisFluhnoy Trust he spiraled waay before this...this is the beginning of his crash out road to counseling.. hopefully ...

[@wildkims2008]

Mishna looks stunning. Her makeup and hair are so on point. What a glow up!

[@HarmonyJt]

So… he argued and argued then finally admitted he just wasn’t attracted to her… smh

[@mosaictwin]

🤦🏽‍♀️ exactly!

[@zamorapakalolo6699]

He didn't want to be the bad guy.😂😂😂😂

[@shamay4893]

​@@zamorapakalolo6699he wanted that girl in the pink dress and she didn't want his ass

[@briannabogans4608]

Ain’t that something..

[@1Sakks0]

I don't believe that. I think k it was out of petty for himself. That whole lineup popped their balloons because of his outfit.

[@carlastockdale9623]

Mishna rejection is God's protection. He spared you from this man. He will sent you someone trust in God🙏

[@kingherms1452]

bruh but you failed to realise that shawdie used her opportunity on social media to boost her self and realise she have more options so sh eleft him in the dark and left him to chase bruh niggah did nothing wrong than give this woman a chance

[@lynetteforte1996]

@blacksuburbanitewill she?

[@TheEzwider88]

@@lynetteforte1996YES

[@lynetteforte1996]

@@TheEzwider88 why do you say that?

[@TheEzwider88]

@@lynetteforte1996 because that’s what she does. It’s too complicated to explain to you in the comments section if you don’t understand already. Honestly this whole comments section is disheartening and it seems like the perspective is way off for some reason. All of you single women just keeping each other single agreeing with the same defunct ideology.

[@Silly-KB]

he wanted to make her feel rejected.. because quite obviously that’s all he experiences.. you could do so much better boo💕 take care

[@adams8830]

@Silly-KB This is exactly why you don't choose the man who no one wants: they resent you for it.

[@staceyg.6671]

Definitely! I dated a guy that came off exactly how he did initially. Quirky, sweet, nerdy, not the first pick for most and he wasn’t physically attractive. Women played him, rejected him, used him and didn’t give him play. When it was over, mannnnnnnnnnnnnn, he turned into a complete jerk. It was a complete change and I think it made him feel good to make it known he didn’t want me. Like he did the most with it like he was the most desired man on earth with a plethora of options. Whew!

[@staceyg.6671]

@@adams8830omggg!!!!! I learned the hard way. They really flip and switch to give the energy they have been getting from people who didn’t give them a chance or attention.

[@kingKC-m2k]

Man give me her number she’s the type of woman I need in my life. But I truly hope she finds someone who appreciates her.

[@Myopinionmattersthemost]

​@@adams8830they are equally yoked in looks.

[@themadmillionaire]

Ladies, ALWAYS believe in your intuition…It’s our gift, don’t ignore it.

[@473sgpm2]

😂 You sound crazy ma’am.

[@rebeccapetty1k390]

@themadmillionaire 💯 that’s right 👏

[@rebeccapetty1k390]

@473sgpm2 she’s not crazy, it’s a fact , I’ve seen this many times where the women has an intuition about something and then it turns out to be true .. maybe you need to stay away from this conversation she wasn’t talking to you anyway

[@473sgpm2]

@@rebeccapetty1k390 Negative ma’am. You chose to insert yourself into the comments instead of moving along or commenting elsewhere. But no, you chose to @ me and here I am. Let’s keep the conversation in the Adult Realm. If Ladies ALWAYS believe in your intuition “red flags”, why do they always to have multiple babies and multiple baby daddy’s then? They always relying on the boys, young men, and men to be sexually responsible (condoms) then? Was their intuition not working for them then or did they turn it off like a switch?

[@baileytreadwell7341]

We all have intuition.. intuition has nothing to do with genders. It is our gift from God

[@babatundeadeyemi3553]

People please please! Am pleading with y'all, if you haven't worked on yourself, you have no business dating.

[@duediligence7557]

Exactly 💯

[@josam4545]

Absolutely!

[@averydarby1548]

I agree

[@dosims911]

@@babatundeadeyemi3553 facts I’m not ready but I’d like to be

[@July-ola]

Whew, watching this made my heart ache

[@hbbolton8924]

He’s a jerk. He borderline sounds crazy in the head. Dude stay single!

[@mvelo2062]

I think he's short tempered

[@pkp6791]

@@mvelo2062 He is very childish and emotional. Such a turn off. He is not in healthy masculine energy

[@richardnicholas4553]

​@@pkp6791 I also have similar characteristics as him, I ain't dating now. I'm working on my childish behavior, taking accountability and learning how to approach the situation instead of coming off short tempered. He gotta work on himself

[@Thatbul]

Guys like him are very smart but bad socially. Their personality’s usually don’t mesh with others.

[@deescott8312]

Right

[@MistriiiMusic]

Chandler is giving unstable vibes. I'm actually shocked by the transformation 😮

[@sixteen.candles.4644]

Very this is why vetting is proper.

[@34july8]

Facts like😱

[@kdiamond8979]

Facts smh 🤦🏽‍♀️ this is why you can’t believe first impressions ppl be deceitful af!

[@keturah7749]

He took his mask off. That’s it.

[@Svhsgirl]

He didn't fool me!

[@mbrutus7886]

I love that even after all this Mishna has so many doors and opportunities opening for her, tells you what a great light she is. Go Mishna we’re all rooting for you!!!

[@korahjean]

I love the energy between Arlette and BM. Mature, centered, complimentary. It’s giving “married for 20 years”

[@hrf1954]

Yeah, it's really beautiful to watch. They're a true power couple

[@Laurenlove838]

They are a very beautiful young couple. Love seeing couples in their 20s grinding together.

[@raquel7675]

@@korahjean They are a beautiful couple ❤️

[@ToriUptown]

@@Laurenlove838they’re not in their 20s lol

[@Laurenlove838]

@@ToriUptown Arlette just turned 29. 1995 Baby.

[@fbspin]

Crazy how chandler quickly changed from a likeable guy before to an absolute woman hater here. He’s scary!

[@Rokia2003]

Narcissist

[@blacky8030]

His face says it all totally different dude

[@Yocyndie]

“It was decent” to the how was your experience was kinda rude to the hosts. Very weird

[@muyoworld]

He is scaryyyy... Omg...after admitting that he didn't like her...he went back to blaming her for not giving him more calls when she was only trusting her intuition and seeing through his bullshit. This guy is a piece of work. 😅😅

[@muyoworld]

When BM set Chandler straight and then turned to Mishna and said "are you ok"? Now that is an emotionally intelligent man you got right there Arlette. I like you both. God bless you.

[@symoneh.]

Oh wow he’s super weird and needs therapy. The clapping, aggressive tone, laughing and rocking back and forth gave psycho.

[@monicabrown9078]

Yes that was so weird. But I love how Mishna kept her composure the entire time. She stayed consistent the whole time.

[@najelam]

Not taking his side but ummm beloved that what comes out when a person is fed up with someone playing games with them. Clearly that’s what it is

[@Yocyndie]

@@najelam where did she play games? He literally led her on and she fell back when she felt a shift in energy, so what are you on about ?

[@thetrashtalktvshow]

Lmfao

[@806media]

Phyco 😂, I would say anxiety

[@Kenyankween999]

“Chandler… you’re DONE” lmaooo BM and Arlette gotta be the funniest people on the web.

[@lorenbecka134]

😭😭😭😭😭

[@daniellegee3905]

Dayum! He told Mishna to come back but told Chandler he wasn't welcome 🤣🤣🤣 i love it!

[@jonnoibeckford2490]

Why wtf

[@raniii652]

@@jonnoibeckford2490what do u mean “why”💀🤣

[@Kikiuni]

​@@jonnoibeckford2490he wasted their time

[@luniaetienne]

@@jonnoibeckford2490 you must be a narcissist too if you don't see why.

[@karenmcgee1869]

Great! She deserves a better chance at love!

[@keke1tube]

Never date someone who is at a point where they’re“tired” of putting in effort. It’s a very tit for tat relationship

[@sophiaandre139]

That's why a relationship shouldn't be 50/50. Each person should put in 100%.

[@19nightsky91]

You wouldnt last a day as a man

[@DH-uw3us]

Especially a man. If the man is tired of putting in effort, it's already over.

[@tslee3008]

@keke1tube but he didn't even like her like that... so was he really putting in a effort

[@benjibuttons7483]

Both ways tho…. I feel what he saying tho…. Think about it the man has to do so much to be impressive enough to even get the chance to talk. And so many women I know love to talk. So when you say “Hey , I’ll hit you back!!!!” Then do that especially since you on your phone alot. That probably triggered something in him to be like Yo unless I’m the one making sure we talk everyday come on now! I know you stay glued to your phone but u can’t say wassup!!!!

[@ugyen5214]

He’s terrible 😰 the whole time he was smirking while she looked like she wanted to cry.

[@sandralawson4390]

Cry for this goofy , that’s why those black women going for the bottom barrel

[@Margumentative]

... women are free to cry in public. Men have to carry their emotions differently if they don't want to be clowned. They were both frustrated for valid reasons. And they're having their first fight in public on KZbin

[@Lady88]

It’s a defense mechanism that man is broken and needs to heal.

[@vanessaspence8157]

The one that Got away... He is going to feel hurt whenever she is healed

[@ShayJeter-w5n]

@@Lady88agreed.

[@daneliec]

Chandler seems like the type to want a woman to propose to him 💀 Mishna, from one Haitian sista to another, you are so pretty (I’m sure you know that) and in God’s timing the right man will come!

[@tanerastake]

Yeaaaa idk. His energy a lil off to me. I think sis dodged a bullet tbh.

[@kakishisfriend1126]

Yes he's those fake nice guys. He revealed who he really was. He clearly didn't like her. He wanted her to call him everyday after work like dang. You know she get off at 9 call at 9:30

[@NetaaD]

💯

[@TheEzwider88]

The man y’all women really want is NOT gone chase y’all or play games with y’all. That’s what y’all don’t understand.

[@cancerr1sing]

I always thought he was off putting

[@MHsame2dayaZystrday]

@@kakishisfriend1126I am a year out from one of those. Still healing.

[@alluress2020]

I hope any men watching this will reconsider before they say "you should have chosen better "to a woman. Y'all see that switch up; that's what women go through. There are guys in this comment section who liked him & were rooting for him in the first round & are also shocked at how he changed. This is what most women go through, only to be told "you should have chosen better"

[@jayelee7112]

Decepticons

[@ItsMe-se9ku]

Exactly

[@ms.deidra2736]

Underrated comment‼️‼️

[@organziedconfusion3699]

You said it right there!

[@unapologetic1413]

THIS IS ABSOLUTELY TRUE and it is a tool that MANY men have used for decades. They charm women into falling for them and then when they know that they have their heart that's when the switch up happens...definition of NARCISSISM.

[@alinakslvch]

he picked a girl he didn’t like and then when she felt it he started gaslighting her because he couldn’t believe she would not fawn over him LOL

[@andreajones2700]

exactly.....that is actually what I go thru. men are not reciprocal in energy, always playing games and expect us to go along with it so when we don't the result is butthurtness. so happy that i have stopped centering them.

[@LOSTGPS]

Yep

[@July-ola]

BINGO!!!

[@coachcandi12]

Exactly 👌🏾

[@Neonstarzz84]

Arlette and BM are such an awesome duo!!! This podcast actually makes me realize that they truly want other black couples to find the love that they have. They are definitely couple goals!!

[@SweetPoisonvich]

People saying she ghosted him, it was after she realized he was on some bs and she dipped as she should 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@LetsGetIntoTech]

Still ghosting… no matter the reason.

[@CarmelBun92]

@@LetsGetIntoTechthere is no reason to give respect to disrespect!!

[@natashof08]

@@LetsGetIntoTechChandler? Is that you? 😒

[@damiandennis3740]

Who ghost you 😂😂😂

[@bosstler21]

Grow up and stop playing stupid games...

[@jhazina]

Mishna holding back tears, words and fists!!! Cause if you didn't pop her balloon to be seen in a good light on the show (out of pity for her choosing you) - you could have told her after instead of stringing her along for so long... damn that hurt!!! Mishna Baby Girl, you are young, beautiful and gonna receive an amazing partner that ain't gonna play about you!!! 🥰😍😘

[@TellaBellee]

This! 💯💯

[@bigger.1.bestrapperalive]

Even if he felt that way she’s beautiful and personality seems worth it to make something serious work. He fumbled this bad by getting in his own head. This is a self esteem issue on his part and he may have a rough time finding a match that fit him like she did.

[@trish6116]

!!

[@itsmetheinterrupter]

@@bigger.1.bestrapperalive he is acting brand new because his dms popping. Changed his demeanour just like brown dress.

[@jhazina]

@itsmetheinterrupter ohhhh didn't even think of it like that as well!!! He got options so not bothered with making a genuine connection again...

[@StasiaCosmetics]

“You say you are a fraud analyst but can’t even smell your own bs” Arlette and bm face 😮😂

[@datguy322]

What’s the timestamp for that😂

[@LivenTruth]

@@datguy322 7:43

[@beadlebamford9999]

Certainly fried his a55! 😂

[@bosstler21]

That was a BAR

[@mx5530]

I was like damn 😂

[@khackett07]

Mishna is BEAUTIFULLLLL!!! Girl! you are beautiful and I am sure your person is right around the corner.

[@UndeniedReal]

They went from everyone's favorite couple to this... shit crazy

[@ModupeGlobal]

This is the comment

[@depitrius]

Not eveyone. It's more like every "inferior complexed" black woman. Say it correct.

[@Hardawayfits]

😅😅😅

[@mojadah10]

The guy from Philly and the Liberian girl were my favorite. I saw this guy’s derangement during the episode. And she was thirsty af to jump up in his face to be selected after that display.

[@yanou4u]

The sad thing is there are a lot of guys like Chandler out there. Basically, he wanted her to chase him, while he wasn't interested in her.

[@jth2668]

spot on. weirdo activity. Mishna dodged a bullet.. it took them doing another catch up to finally be honest with her

[@stinkreezy2791]

Show me you interested also these new women a lil off

[@uyetman501]

Coz y’all don’t value men who put in effort anymore . Y’all treat good men as crap . If I’m lying we have you picked all your toxic guys

[@GloriaWilliams-q7o]

@@uyetman501she actually liked him though and was putting in effort. So how does that make his behaviour right? You must be like him

[@Dawgyjoe]

@@GloriaWilliams-q7o you must be like her, ghosting and expecting a man to bring forth all effort.

[@jessicacorsette]

Love Mishna’s transparency. And her points are valid. I would love her to get back on and find the perfect match .

[@angelalee9347]

Me too …. She deserves to have a better chance of finding a match.

[@19nightsky91]

????? she said I didn't call when I said I would to see if you would? .... Really?

[@serenestorm4306]

​@@19nightsky91 Thank you! How are ppl ignoring that part?

[@tynishawalker326]

@@19nightsky91I feel that’s because she could feel he didn’t like her already.So she wanted to see what he would do to confirm if that was true or not.He played it very crazy as we can see in this video.He was faking all along and chose her out of “pity” he said that out of his own mouth.A person knows when you don’t really like them

[@Dawgyjoe]

@@tynishawalker326she still could call. Phone goes both ways

[@ShayWilliam341]

Mishna dodged a bullet, this guy is showing his true colors

[@alyssab.9994]

Mishna looks beautiful! I love her hair and makeup.

[@shynebayarea510]

Like most women do

[@taku8895]

BM and Arlette are mad disappointed😂😂🙆‍♂️

[@a.alphonso6193]

I'm glad that BM held his feet to the fire instead of just taking the man's side

[@mucleboy0151]

Dissappointed in what? This is really what happens in real world in dating if they dissappointed they delusional

[@encorewithe2482]

​@@a.alphonso6193yes I feel like he did a great job with that. Mad respect

[@r.e45]

BM is tired of all the shortcomings of these dudes ‼️ smh

[@VYT6171]

@@r.e45 BM is African and obviously of a higher caliber, so I don't think he even relates to many of these low class Black American men

[@sharae5387]

Arlette & BM both making it clear Chandler need not apply to any of their future shows was the necessary Cherry on top. Chandler needs to do better, Mishna dodged a bullet. Props to her for recognizing the signs and falling back accordingly.

[@raniii652]

Where did they say that?

[@knowbeonekanobe5672]

No one needs to apply to this show if we are being honest. BW of today are doomed.

[@MissTeeTee1111]

​@@knowbeonekanobe5672It just depends on what mindset/beliefs people have. We all don't have the same beliefs/behave the same way.

[@re-recoldd4158]

@@raniii652after the 24:00 mark when bm said your time is done

[@raniii652]

@@re-recoldd4158 thank you & yh get rid of him!

[@dekendrajackson3772]

BM is a great individual! Thanks for seeing things how they are and checking on Mishna ♥️

[@jenna4628]

Chandler is a psycho. He projected his feelings of being picked out of pity onto her and then wanted her to feel that way so he was an asshole. What a CLOWN. Mishna, you dodged a bullet. You're beautiful and have so much good coming your way!

[@hurrjenkins4916]

Yep 💯

[@yourriderdie8472]

And smirking thinking it’s funny

[@jenna4628]

@yourriderdie8472 glad he came on here. Shows he needs massive help

[@ranzabloomfield9115]

He seems crazy damn.

[@philipc4353]

I sensed sort of a friendship vibe from the last follow up. This pretty much confirms it, but damn Chandler didn't have to lead her on like that. Then tries to gaslight her like she's the crazy one.

[@omiadi7485]

Glad you can see it.

[@Diivasatti]

This

[@Lancerman213]

Define friendship because I don’t see them hanging out, or being friendly towards one another beyond this follow up.

[@Patricia-zd5lq]

I don’t want no “friend” like this, she deserves better partner and friendship wise

[@saginevital-herne3750]

@@Lancerman213 he’s referring to the last follow up…the one before this one. Their energy gave off “just friends” vibes, not “romantic relationship” vibes.

[@lilylunsford]

The way BM & arlette are looking at him lol

[@Themarketplacegirl]

You can tell Chandler is used to being mishandled and needs to work on his self-esteem. He has some maturing to do for sure. He seems like an acquired taste

[@livingfreewithdee1189]

I agree with you. I think he is hurting and needs some healing. I emphasize with him on putting himself out there.

[@eon001]

@Themarketplacegirl Yep. Glad you spotted that. People acting like he's a misogynist. He just needs some healing.

[@joellewilliams599]

@@19nightsky91well all of these “games” wouldn’t have happened if Chandler was up front from the get go on the show rather than leading her on 😒

[@KeyAirTarot]

They both have trauma you can’t just say it’s him she literally stated growing up Haitian she couldn’t talk now she’s grown and talking when she’s frustrated she don’t know how to communicate maturely

[@adams8830]

@Themarketplacegirl Hurt people hurt people. I honestly don't even remember everyone popping for him but it seems to be something he won't forget and resents her for picking him after no one else would.

[@SOMETHINGCORNYY]

Chandler is disappointing 🫤 getting hype & aggressive. Yuck. He was just faking being a "nice guy" for the camera smh

[@Ahdree23]

A lot of them come on the show and do that. I also found it weird when I found a lot of the young ladies who act dizzy or delusional were prompted ahead of time to say those crazy type of things. This show is kind of deceitful in different ways.

[@mcbthird]

@@Ahdree23where did you get that information from? because I’m sure they said they don’t tell people what to do or say.

[@ClapperDan]

That man Chandler got his locs retwisted, got shaped up and don't know how to act

[@19nightsky91]

You calling him aggressive is like a WW calling a BW aggressive

[@theshyevelyn]

​@@mcbthirdright,they are just making things up

[@markrichardosn302]

So he basically wasted her time

[@joheezy4203]

Yep

[@sixteen.candles.4644]

Basically.

[@Heyitskadayy]

Yup

[@munchandmotivation8128]

Everybody's time especially the production

[@mrshaheedmalik]

She ghosted him.

[@tayvashti]

he was projecting so bad. talking about we both felt the pressure & picked each other out of pity. no YOUUU did that & now you tryna hide your hand. Arlette thank you for speaking & saying “cause she felt like you didn’t like her” cause he was going to keep trying to make himself look better.

[@HypothyroidismWeightLoss]

So he didn’t like her and he picked her and now he’s trying to blame her because he didn’t like her. He’s double talking and gaslighting her. He’s saying she wasn’t trying but he didn’t even like her lol

[@AliLovesCoach]

Exactly!!

[@34july8]

Literally what we go through everyday

[@Andre-vh5wt]

No he tried to give her a chance and he still wasn’t feeling the vibe or energy with her and that’s it it’s simple he’s just explaining what took place to make him not feel her anymore and confirming his point

[@Andre-vh5wt]

Where do you go through every day having no accountability ? To put out effort or the show a man that you’re worth the effort ?

[@Andre-vh5wt]

He’s just telling what happened it’s crazy how you female still take no accountability that you could do wrong or that you could mess up or that you didn’t put as much effort in men are sick of being used for resources and free attention free meals getting your hair done getting your nails done paying for trips apologizing when we’re not wrong dealing with your neurotic erratic emotions and having the lack of accountability.. we are sick of it.. If you’re into a man show him you’re into him as well vest in him just how he vest in you

[@princexl2783]

Usually Arlette is very emotionally neutral. This is the 1st time I've seen her genuinely bothered by something.

[@JM-qg9bo]

Oh come on, they have more control here.

[@princexl2783]

@@JM-qg9bo ...brilliant deduction lol

[@grayb3703]

Noticed that too, and it’s totally justified.

[@comeatmebro8120]

If you watch her facial expressions during the balloon episodes, you can tell what her opinion is most of the time

[@princexl2783]

@@comeatmebro8120 as of late, yes. It's getting to her

[@mariavelazquez5115]

Why he’s so aggressive so fast 😭

[@mariavelazquez5115]

A SIDE HUG is CRAZY

[@mariavelazquez5115]

PITTTTTY?!?!

[@Yocyndie]

Immediate defensiveness and she let him speak. He doesn’t offer the same grace.

[@Yocyndie]

Immediate defensiveness and she let him speak. He doesn’t offer the same grace.

[@Majinchip87]

Cause he tired chandler just tired of women n their b.s this all he starting to learn bw aren't it.

[@WordsAreWealth]

It’s so DOPE how BM held Chandler accountable!!!

[@its.teetime]

He basically was like "i don't like you, but chase me so you can grow on me.. possibly." Loser.

[@malcolms3220]

Are there not plenty of stories of women using this same logic on men they didn’t initially like but they “grew on them”? What’s the difference here?

[@TubeCritic]

@@malcolms3220I mean I agree but at the same time he ain’t a woman lol that’s the difference. Bro gotta act like a man. As a man why even pursue a woman you not attracted to? The fact he couldn’t just pop her balloon and keep it moving, shows he got low self esteem and no confidence in himself to find somebody who he is actually interested in. He accepted her because that’s the only woman showing him interest, so he took her but then wanted to act like he is the main catch and be chased and not give the same effort in return. She read bro like a book and moved on.

[@cocoabeauty5055]

@@malcolms3220Why is it that whenever a man is on bull💩 y’all have to bring up what women do or have done as a means to justify it? Why don’t y’all hold yourselves accountable instead of deflecting? Granted, yes women be on some bull 💩 too however, the focus on this particular topic is Chandler. Hold ya boy accountable.

[@its.teetime]

@@malcolms3220 where did i say there's a difference? Theyre both wrong. In this case The problem also lies where Chandler then gaslit her into thinking she was overreacting to his energy towards her when she was correct the whole time.

[@Dawgyjoe]

@@cocoabeauty5055 don’t yall do the same thing? 💩

[@mersixteen]

24:12 "Chandler, you're done. Your time is up" I love it 😂😂😂

[@MsMVP]

Loved that! 😂😂

[@SweetaRockzz]

Don't listen to these men when they rant about women not liking "nice" guys and "nice" guys finishing last. A lot of the self-proclaimed "nice" guys are not nice at all or not much different from the rest!!

[@unapologetic1413]

That part...which is why they DO finish last because we can smell that the nice guy is not so nice and it's an ACT.

[@burgbored]

Facts

[@butterflyangel75]

💯!!!

[@Dawgyjoe]

Keep the same energy when we tell men not to listen to women and generalize women based off one woman’s actions 🤷🏿‍♂️

[@butterflyangel75]

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[@Dommy521]

the side hug after coming to her house was crazy!! 😂😂

[@calibagsonly]

Obviously nobody’s gonna say it so I will, Chandler needs to get on his MEDICINE

[@Suzypuzy2000]

Right, he seems too aggresive. I was shockedd😮

[@NIO623]

I know that's right

[@rondarobbins7194]

😂😂😂

[@Life23Live]

" Doctor he is out again " 😂😂😂😂

[@pqt112]

Lithium

[@pkp6791]

Chandler is in a very intense defensive mode- unnecessarily. His body language ( arms folded across chest), tone of voice ( bitter and angry) and unpleasant demeanor speak volumes. Very childish

[@ramiyahmalchai5102]

Please heal before you deal with anyone. If you're seeking distraction, find a passion or a hobby, but never let someone’s heart become your pastime. Honor the feelings of others, for they are not to be played with!

[@KL-Lady]

So true and beautifully worded

[@melinatedthinka8210]

💯‼️

[@csmith2484]

@@ramiyahmalchai5102 correct!!🎯🎯🎯

[@fred3306]

Bring her back, she deserves better.

[@zastakes4195]

Chandler is too aggressive. He kinda crazy

[@paigew6707]

😂 he been giving killer energy

[@jamiepaloma876]

for real, talking with all that hand movement and head bopping too smt

[@kingsleyokogbe5144]

U lot see aggressive so fast 💨 you all should go home for once n feel how d motherland is like stop calling everything aggressive

[@Curling_Rack]

he is a different person now lol

[@e.marshall_1]

Yes my thoughts exactly!

[@CoCoStilletto]

Please don’t bring chandler back cause he too immature and not ready for a relationship. He gots some growing up to do

[@scoobyOnBiz]

lol girl be quiet😂😂😭😅...

[@CoCoStilletto]

@@scoobyOnBiz i said what i saiduh! SWERVE sir!

[@Thulz.]

Or maybe he's mature and grown enough and ready for a relationship with someone else he wants not someone you want him to be with but what HE wants to be with .

[@scoobyOnBiz]

@@CoCoStilletto Im just trolling ..just watched full episode , yea he dont need to come bac..

[@destinyjohn9451]

Definitely not he’s literally disgusting from the way he’s arguing to the way he states he wasn’t interested

[@damatotaylor8789]

When she put energy to cook for him invited him over and everything thats a huge sign of someone interested in you

[@destinyj23]

So, a multi series? I love it. BM and Arlette, keep it up!!! We love it!!! 💙💙💙

[@robsin7]

I love Arlette! When she clapped back at chandler saying “cuz she could tell you didn’t like her.” Like chandler stop playing 😂😂😅

[@2010DERT2010]

Lol I literally just heard that part as I read your comment

[@tslee3008]

Mishna deserves a blind date episode!!

[@angelalee9347]

She really does

[@kclaytoday]

For sure!!!

[@Amandaslays]

Yes… she does

[@HarmonyJt]

Foreal..

[@carlos84708]

For what? Ghosting another guy?

[@arnabiarnab3037]

I love the two faces…. BM keeps the same face no matter what is said…. While Arlete will show how all of us are looking

[@Shesnoangell]

I genuinely like that they both chimed in & spoke from an unbiased pov. Specifically from a successful young black - African couple.

[@tlamont804]

“So Chandler you said you didn’t pop her ballon because you didn’t wanna fell like a jerk, but how do you feel now?” Wow BM takes this seriously! As a man I would be afraid to come on this platform & let him down😂😂.

[@CruisewithCyndi]

Mishna, my beautiful Haitian sister. Your intentions were pure, his was not. He's way too aggressive while conversing. You deserve way better. Count your blessings 🙏🏾 ❤️

[@paigew6707]

He gives killer vibes, I BEEN saying this from first episode

[@shynebayarea510]

I'm sure you slept with one b4 to know

[@ClapperDan]

My name is CHANdler! Lol yeah watch dat boy

[@34july8]

Especially that part where he emphasized how comfortable he was in his clothing. It was aggressive

[@SallyBabyy]

😂🤣😂🤣

[@vibrationalliving5521]

same. Idk what everyone else saw in him. He's always come off as secretly g@y to me. Also like he's very off-kilter, mentally unstable and brazen. Good bl@ck men are so rare that bl@ck people praise bl@ck guys for absolutely nada.

[@breyashadell326]

I never expected this behavior from him.... He was so aggressive, the rocking, and the smirk was SCARY! Like nothing about this was funny so what was he laughing at?! Lord protect women from men like this and heal men who are like this!

[@blacky8030]

Chandler giving mad red flags 🚩 totally different dude. Mad sassy too 😭😭😭 . Attraction gone completely

[@Ahdree23]

That's the thing about this show. Not only is it basically speed dating, but we only get to see a snippet of these people's actual personalities. He seemed like a cool kinda guy, very chill but like someone else said, here in this video he comes off as an incel gamer.

[@Thenoble1j]

Big time

[@overit5893]

Of course the women sides with the woman 6:43 I guess you missed all this

[@Ahdree23]

@@overit5893 Watch the WHOLE thing, incel. You will see why lol. Listen to what your boo Chandler says, word for word. Listen to his answer to Arlette and BM's question. Don't stop at 6-7 minutes in lol.

[@MissTeeTee1111]

He kinda showed this side when he was talking to Esther about his outfit on Pop The Balloon.

[@mzakon1]

He didn’t lead the relationship. He never wanted her. Narcs get a kick out of getting you to humiliate yourself.

[@321Venia]

Let get this this straight…. chandler came in hot with alllllll this energy with this crazy story of “iM aLwAyS PoUrIng mY hEaRT OuT….” Etc just to put it on her that she “picked yu out of pity” whole time it was HIM that picked HER out of pity? Wowwwwwww. He’s exhausting. And he over talks because he just wants to hide from his own accountability😂

[@fitzmorris6813]

She even invited bruh to the crib & cooked him a meal. He’s a fuck 🥷🏾 for real!

[@OnelifegivenbyHim1]

It's giving narcissistic trait

[@Troystreetzproduction]

He was projecting his own insecurities onto her but failed

[@321Venia]

@@Troystreetzproductionexactly

[@321Venia]

@@OnelifegivenbyHim1 😂 right

[@joshuabaker742]

Yes, bring Mishna back!!

[@chisichei]

She is completely right. Chandler is not a gentleman. He also had a bit of attitude on the show so this is not surprising

[@shortyduwhop319]

Chandler is the one guy we all went to school with who is a blerd (black nerd) who wants the cheerleader instead of going with the girl who is a fit, another blerd. So bc he can’t have the Baddie aesthetic he treats the girl who wants him and better matched like crap and wants to be bitter and say black women didn’t want him. He will probably date white women next 🙃

[@maritawanazw]

😂yes!👌🏾💯

[@kingmanga8575]

I hate that yall r pushing this narrative in these comments. He doesn’t seem like the type who only wants the popular girl. He just seems like the type of guy who’s never had success dating and is tired of chasing after women. But sadly his past relationship problems trickled over to this one. That’s all it is. He’s too jaded from past relationships causing him to overthink and assume that she didn’t like him.

[@kaceywaceyy]

@@kingmanga8575 whether he goes for popular girls or not, what is clear is that he tends to go for girls that rejected him or that don’t want him. Even on the show, he gave his number to one of the girls that popped his balloon from that episode, the girl in the black dress.

[@kingmanga8575]

@@kaceywaceyy I’m not saying that he doesn’t have a tendency to chase women who don’t want him. My point is that people r portraying him as the blerd that mistreats good women (typically other blerds) and only goes for the baddie type. Which doesn’t seem to be him. Hes just tired of chasing women and that caused him to overthink this situation. For once he wanted to play the game he felt like was played on him. For once he wanted to be the person chased and not the other way around. For once he wanted to feel wanted. He did wrong. 100%. But it wasn’t out of malice it was out of insecurity. And if I remember correctly he wanted black dresses number to be on a podcast or something.

[@RevelationRuth]

Right dude’s been watching too much Red Pill and he is Not that guy. He wants to take out his hurt on her. She dodged a bullet. I pray she has or gets a close relationship with Jesus Christ. He didn’t like her from the beginning, wanted the other brownskinned girl w/ the aesthetics but couldn’t get her. He is giving crazy guy on here & wants to talk down on her but will reap what he sows.

[@darkimpact2843]

Women... If a man calls you "bro" know that he doesnt see you in a romantic way 🎯 Just a lil gem. Mishna too beautiful to be picked out of pity, black anime girls are rare. What she is expressing is the issue with allot of men these days.. they dont know how to woe a woman. I always salute the men but fair is fair, he didnt do her justice🤦🏾‍♂️😩

[@zidane8452]

Simp😂 go outside

[@darkimpact2843]

🤦🏾‍♂️Calling me simp just shows your lack of confidence and maturity, that is not an insult to a grown man.💪🏽 My woman is crazy about me so try harder next time.😂

[@zidane8452]

@@darkimpact2843 never was intended to be an insult but since you took it that way shows your soft and immature

[@darkimpact2843]

@@zidane8452 🤯Now you trying to deflect, bro that reverse psychology shit dont work on me. Simp is literally an new age insult and then telling me to go outside. Yeah i know you dont have no women.🤣 Case and point...🎯

[@zidane8452]

​@@darkimpact2843 as I said if you took simp as an insult then you have a child mindset.

[@amandaclbn8324]

Damn Chandler took me by surprise, the switch up is crazy its actually fucking scary how night and day the two personalities are

[@tashawellington83]

Mishna you can still walk away with your head held high mama ❤️Sending you love!

[@ljh4543]

Mishna is beautiful and a charismatic Haitian woman. Chandler is not on her level. Mishna find a non American man.

[@sarahm9360]

i KNEW something was off about him when he got real hurt about that one girl not liking his outfit. raised his voice a little too much and i thought this dude is probably real scary when his ego is hurt. chandler, the fact that you haven’t “gotten anything in return” in your past relationships isn’t mishna’s fault. you chase the right person, you’ll be rewarded. but you didn’t even get the chance to find that out bc you didn’t chase from the beginning and even admitted that. the dating pool really got feces in it these days!

[@Meccaone17]

ITS WHO I AMMMMMM!!!!!!!!!!

[@noik_11]

I literally thought the same

[@diosawintour1969]

I’m so glad I wasn’t the only one who picked up on that! I think he has some deep rooted rejection insecurity that makes him lash out at women when he’s triggered

[@Jade-kz3jb]

I peeped that too!!! For a second he had an evilness in his eyes when he said “this is who I am”

[@bugsbfats4267]

You tweaked chandler bro she cook you dinner invited you over yeeaaaa buddy she liked you. You just let your insecurities get in the way. Mishna could come my way any day and get treated amazing

[@MiemieM]

Now I’m no Mishna but I’d like to get treated amazing too😂

[@Cupid230]

Shes such a queen

[@Joy2theworld24]

@bugs4fats4267 hit her up😊

[@emmanuelladely903]

Well you definitely can shoot ya shot..it's easy to find her if youre looking for love and are serious

[@yerocdable]

CHILDISH DUDE!!! REAL CHILDISH MOVE BY THIS GROWN BOY!!!

[@therealmedia6352]

*He’s giving abusive vibe,she dodged a bullet*

[@jonnoibeckford2490]

Stop putting abuse on people

[@a.alphonso6193]

​@@jonnoibeckford2490putting? we can all see his behavior clear as day 😂

[@jacobjohns6047]

Definitely controling but im inclined to believe her version more because before she even said it i caught on to him talking over her

[@UniqueAmerican]

No he doesn't, he's human... He's still a nice guy but tired of getting taken advantage of,she thought he was too nice and saw that as she can try to play with his emotions, but she just mad that not only he's nice but he's also smart and can see right through her bs.

[@luniaetienne]

@@UniqueAmerican he’s a nice guy?? Did you watch the whole video?? Do you have a brain??? Ain’t no way you called him a NICE GUY!!!

[@andersonaudrianna]

he’s very weird lol. its clearly his fault because he’s angry. i can tell that arlette was angry too. he’s never coming back to the show after this. i loved that, “chandler you’re done” 😂😂😂.

[@TheMarnea12]

My favorite part😂

[@DMCEagles05]

I felt that was waaay to harsh How you blacklist him because he wasnt sure AFTER THE SHOW. Its a dating show, not a couples show. The dating fell out. He felt pressured. A lot of men do.

[@LoveMica4]

Mishna YOU WILL be found by your husband. Protect your heart in the meantime and feed your soul. You are beautiful and I’m glad you know what you deserve. Chandler, it’s time for therapy my boy.

[@mcs0519]

Amen

[@truthbtold6629]

I would LOVE to have this woman in my life!! Her kind is VERY rare these days!!!😍😍

[@KurtisPro]

I love how Arlette and BM allowed Chandler to speak but intervened each time he got out of line. I'm looking forward to seeing Mishna again.

[@deebeautiful84]

Chandler originally liked the lil chocolate girl that chose Ninja turtle. I think Chandler thought he could use her for sex and someone to mentally abuse. She gives quite yet strong!!!! Chandler went on 4 dates and continued to contact her .....he was hoping she had low self-esteem. I'm glad she stood up for herself and told the truth. He seems a bit off and has some serious anger and rejection issues.

[@CarmelBun92]

@@deebeautiful84 out of all the comments this is the one that is being the most honest!!!!!

[@LovingIntrovert]

😂 I saw it too... He was disappointed when she popped

[@7hundred00]

Well said !

[@SharkVshore]

He asked for the number and Instagram of the girl in the black dress after the show, the ninja turtle confirmed it in an interview

[@Evilspookydollar]

THIS!!!!

[@imanidiamondz1975]

He’s not even cute enough to be chasing 😂 girl you dodged a bullet

[@epiphany5health]

That side hug was a red flag, even men who are not attracted to a woman give full hugs.