EPILOGUE: WHAT MARRIAGE WAS LIKE FOR 5 YEARS | HOW I ENDED UP THERE | ADVICE TO ALL |FAMILIA PABLANU

This is Our Multilingual and Vegan Family of 7 From 🇳🇬🇺🇸, Living Our Best Lives as Immigrants in The Pearl of Africa 🇺🇬
I explained what happened during the first 5 years of marriage in isolation before we got out... I explained the Cascade of events that led me where I found myself.
This is for the family that we were cut off from for so long (some for more than 2 decades) and only recently reunited with, as well as for the family that has currently cut us off entirely.
We hope our story will fill them in, and show others in similar cult situations what "getting out" means for personal freedom, growth, and healing.
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[@MaxwellAlways]

It pains me to even type this comment, Pablo took advantage of his “brainwashing” to not protect Anu. Introduction, courtship wedding in 6 months. Six weeks separated following the wedding. Four children without Anu’s family. That is abuse. If this has all been a smile on Anu’s face but a heart that is broken, RUN ANU!! You are young, brave, educated, strong, beautiful and able to choose your own destiny. 😢

[@familiapablanu]

Yes, he was an accomplice, but he was also brainwashed... One thing he had always done that got me on the loop of what was going on was, Whatever his father told him about me or how he should treat me or do things, he would always tell me. They were shocked when they found out he told me everything. I was seeing from the beginning how his father had dog whistle on all his children (especially his sons). But I couldn't quite put my finger on what was going on... I wished I had researched what a cult was early on in my life, so maybe I would have been able to see it for what it was. We are both learning to communicate with each other... Something that had been lacking and discouraged for so long. We are finding our healing and we are slowly mending our broken hearts... One day, we will talk about "HOW WE GOT OUT"... It was such bittersweet!

[@familiapablanu]

This is Pablo. After watching this in full, and seeing again how brave Anu has been (or has had to be) in spite of everything, it's clearer than ever that I (in my circumstances at that time) was the worst thing for her. She deserved so much better, and I wanted to give her better, but my "better" was what I was trained to do as a good little cult soldier (though never good enough for my spiritual leader). I wish now, for her sake, that she had indeed run away from me early on. Perhaps she would have found a fulfilling purpose to her life and healing without the added abuse that she had to endure over those years married in the cult. But this is where we are now, with 5 beautiful children to raise differently from how we were, and have a chance to make a better life for them than we were given. And now that we are out of the cult, we are both free as individuals to choose what path we want for our lives. So far, we have chosen to do so together, which is a testament to Anu's strength of will and (I hope) aided by my willingness to change 180° from who I was before, and to truly become the man I've always dreamed of being, both for myself, for her, and for our children. As for us both, healing will be lifelong. They say that some things you can never heal from. I hope for both our sakes that this statement is not true. But that is our next adventure, to discover the limits of human healing after such a life as ours has been.

[@MaxwellAlways]

@@familiapablanu thank you for taking time to further explain things. I don’t mean to be intrusive. I suppose something inside me was triggered. Again, thank you both. 🙏🏽

[@triste248]

Thank you both for sharing so much of you. The ugly and beautiful. Most people aren’t so honest with themselves even more so to the public! Your journey inspires me and I pray you both find what you need. ❤❤

[@familiapablanu]

@@triste248 Thank you 😊

[@rawmagicmama8465]

Keep going Anu and Pablo!

[@dorrishaynes8349]

So very sorry for what you went through. God sustained you during that time. So courageous of you.

[@ArtsyGrandma]

You are brave and beautiful 🤗❤🤗

[@otubagaomobolanle5562]

Right from the beginning of this series, i could tell what you were going through even before listening to this concluding part. As you narrated your story, i could sense the low self esteem, the confusion, the weight you had to carry on, the conflict meeting up with family expectations and actually living your own life the way you want, the fear of loosing the only attention and affection you got from Pablo. One can tell he was a good guy from the story of how you met, despite the family baggage he was carrying along with himself. And you could see it too despite the accompanying red flags, and it is understandable that you had a fear of losing the one man that showed affection towards you. Do not be too hard on yourself, you were young, yes wrong too but, everyone makes mistakes. In my opinion, the first step to healing is first forgiving yourself truly and hope you have been able to do so. After that can you truly forgive Pablo. And by extension your family for the part hey played. But in all, your family obviously loves you, understand that just as you were in that space were you had so much confusion going through your head,they most likely did too, and probably handled it the best way they thought they could and sometimes irrational, but trust me, they do love you so much. This last part is would love to touch is somewhat an Irony😀. While you were in your head space thinking you were not good enough, some of us , in fact Myself was looking up to you from Nigeria. I knew you to be a very brilliant, bright and calm girl back in secondary school. Until the news came that you had travelled, i remember teachers will talk about how proud they were of you even tho you were away. You were one of the few people i always visit there pages regularly to draw inspiration and stay focused.lol. You seemed perfect and as beautiful as ever. In fact i would watch h your KZbin then ( i saw the vlog you made when you came for the wedding in Nigeria) I don’t know if you remember but you gave me your number and i messaged you about Public health ( the number ends with 4960) you advised me and gave some hints too. You were actually good enough, in fact much more ❤. When you went off radar, shortly after posting pictures from your wedding (with no sight of any member of your family) i noticed too and got worried, i would scan through your sister’s page to get any hint of you but sadly there was none. I knew something was wrong cos there wasn’t even a birthday wish for years. Once in a while you would cross my mind and i would do an ‘FBI’ search 😄 but still no hint until you then popped up recently. I for one was so glad to see that you are fine. Anu, please, don’t think you are not good enough because you are, I’m really sorry you had to go through all that you did and look at you, handling it like the super woman that you are. Your family is beautiful, you have a husband that is supportive, live life and soar as much as you can. Love from here superwoman❤

[@otubagaomobolanle5562]

Do not be afraid to own up to your part, reach out to make up for past years, heal truly and at your own pace, pour out your heart and heal. If you need someone to talk to, I am here if you don’t mind.

[@kaddydambelly3413]

Beautiful family ❤❤❤❤

[@gloryajayiIsaiah61]

Anu, i feel so heartbroken by your story...i wish i could just hug you 🫂...But it's funny how you are actually very beautiful, you story confirms the fact 'Precious stones most times will be undervalued as compared to colorful empty stones except they are recognised for their worth'....So sorry the world, family and friends made you feel less than you are... Keep shining and aiming for greater, it's only a matter of time

[@Mayagapelove]

So sorry for what happened to you!! I can relate to your story!! So sorry. I watched the last part of your story in tears. May God continue to move you higher!

[@georgewilliamssenyondowang6159]

I Love you people. Good luck and be blesseddd

[@sharonteron3000]

You are awesome and beautifully made. Ps 39:14, So much awesome women in the Bible and real life to admire. Thank God you are going through healing process. GOD IS MORE THAN ABLE. PRAYING FOR YOU.😇🙏❤

[@dorrishaynes8349]

You were terribly abused and I'm having a difficult time hearing this. The emotional abuse was overwhelming. Where was Pablo in leaving his parents and supporting you. It's biblical. You are still healing and need Love. I pray that your husband is really nourishing your needs everyday. May God keep you always.

[@josephinedorval4237]

You’re very beautiful!

[@lusimyer]

Yes she is..I hope she realises it now. 😊

[@joannabbangi2882]

Ohhh dear one ❤

[@lusimyer]

ANU...I hope you realise now that you are (and always was) a beautiful lady. Your features and complexion are lovely. ❤❤❤

[@jmg7358]

🫂🫂

[@feargod6842]

I'm confused, where were you told you were not good enough, is it in Nigeria where many people are black or when you moved to America? Many girls from Nigeria don't think like that, how come?

[@lusimyer]

Who told you your skin was to dark? (Besides the men you met)