Episode 9 - Love is Blind’s Colleen Reed Tells All

[@beautysfnm]

I liked this episode, I feel like Colleen has been so quiet and it’s good to hear her open up more. She’s def more confident now than when the show came out

[@pineappleice100]

I thought it was interesting how often she said “I want to be careful with my words”

[@beautysfnm]

@@pineappleice100 I mean, rightfully so. I would be careful with my words too having so many followers and so many people tuning into my life. Especially with all the negative assumptions people were making about her and her husband without actually knowing the full story. Even Natalie always saying she’s careful with her words.

[@pineappleice100]

@@beautysfnm sounds like she’s still tiptoeing and walking on eggshells. It didn’t give the impression that she’s comfortable talking about her experiences even all this time later.

[@beautysfnm]

@@pineappleice100 and this is exactly why she should be careful with her words because everyone has their own perceptions of how they see/hear things

[@mirimiriela480]

@@pineappleice100 to be fair she also said she's always had a hard time expressing herself verbally and that's why she likes dance so much

[@victoriaemerson-ds8du]

Would love to see y’all do an interview with Cole Barnett and his experience with Reality TV. Was heartbreaking to see someone who made a few blunders so vilified and shamed publicly.

[@Coco21212]

Please don't, he behaved horribly.

[@anitadlfb]

Yeeees! Justice for Cole 🤗🤗

[@MrPoopatron54]

​@@Coco21212💯

[@safestart6252]

yes!! cole was so sweet and everyone treated him so badly :,(

[@Champagnemami27]

Agreed, they always put the blame on him. Would love to see everything from his perspective. Those girls were awful in the reunion, supporting the real villain

[@jencarmiel]

I think this kind of podcast is so important. So many people watch shows like love is blind and don’t fully connect the dots that the people on screen are not characters. They’re real people, who can be affected by comments and online bullying. I loved hearing more from Colleen, thank you for taking the time to share ☺️

[@becky-e1n]

No one would bat an eye at Colleen and Matt if they had a "traditional " relationship and hadn't move in together yet. Since they were on a show, random strangers put on all this crazy pressure. The amount of time is the same and valid. Let this girl live her life

[@RebeccaBiareseCatterson]

Colleen spoke so well about the horrible experience she had to go through!!! It makes me so sad to hear such a beautiful person getting bullied online! So happy to hear she’s doing better and so happy for her and Matt ❤

[@andiclay6350]

So happy she shared her perspective. I always thought there was way more to her and Matt's story and it's soo good to hear it from her directly. I love that yall gave her a safe space to speak her truth.

[@Cbatcat]

"safe space to speak her truth" is the most American thing I've ever fucking heard

[@44nk96]

Going deep isn't about trauma; it can be about topics that aren't surface level: art, history, culture, philosophy, technology, ideas, music, theories, science, spirituality, religion, your dreams and goals, or books/movies that impacted your life, etc.

[@stsworld4669]

Yeah that’s what I thought too 🤷🏾‍♀️ idk why she didn’t recognize it. I feel like everyone loves trauma and the word but there are deeper things about myself that have nothing to do with my trauma

[@indiva02]

She also said she didn't know what lets go deep actually meant to him when he would say that to her. So she had no choice but to make an assumption and think maybe he wants her to talk about some deep dark thing from her past. Which she didn't have. He could have been more direct and just asked her what he wanted to know.

[@aneatrice28]

Thank you! I really didn’t understand that

[@cct306]

Yeah she says that Cole was talking about the colors of his socks so, it makes sense about what he was refering to about the "deep" question like marriage, life goals, etc. Not a question about trauma lol

[@indiva02]

Colleen is really sweet! I feel bad to know she struggled internally once the show aired. I'm glad she is in a much better place now and that her and Matt are thriving together. I also think its great that she had this opportunity to clear the air about any misconceptions from the show. Best wishes to her and Matt!! ❤

[@JulesSRo-pb2uc]

Happy this interview happened so we see things from her perspective. She does not deserve any of the social media backlash. I love that you two sat and listened without interruption, shows you really respect your interviewee!

[@SarahStar00]

This is such a good interview. So sorry for Colleen for all the judgement. Was great to hear her side of everything. I can imagine this whole experience is really hard.

[@erinlavilla2543]

Cole for sure confuses being "deep" with trauma and that's evident with the fiancé he chose, Zanab has plenty of trauma but I never really saw her as "deep"

[@EatWell23QWB]

I love this KZbin channel! Deepti and Natalie are excellent interviewers. They ask the really tough questions in a very gentle and professional manner. Their tone is always calm, even, and pleasant. And, Deepti and Natalie are some of the best listeners of any I’ve seen. Both ladies are also extremely relatable and relevant, because they’ve had the Love is Blind experience. Colleen always keeps it real. That’s why I totally respect her. I hope that Colleen and Matt have a long lasting and successful marriage.

[@anoxxwallace9950]

Great episode...this is the type of clarity we expect during the reunions but we never get...so thanks deepti and natalie

[@Freee479]

Colleen segment starts at 8:47

[@mariemay1953]

Thank you 😊

[@TheVanessamarief]

You’re my hero

[@joanneaspires]

Can you do an episode on Love is Blind Japan!? I was so fascinated with the cultural differences compared to the US show and would love to hear your takes on it! 💞

[@Anounceof]

OMG YES PLEASEEEEEEE

[@Anounceof]

Love is blind Japan is the best thing ever!! I would love their team interviewed!!!

[@MoroccanSama]

Yooo those women dont play and I was here for it😂😂😂loved it

[@joanna0988]

​@@MoroccanSama Yes it was great to watch!! They didn't let emotions rule their decisions and they were really classy and smart in how they handled it.

[@Shamrockgal2003]

It’s actually been my favorite season so far! It was so tender and sweet and interesting!

[@lucymoore8173]

This interview is everything. 3 gorgeous, intelligent, and classy women having a conversation about their experiences and I'm so here for it!

[@mcorral21]

I love how thorough Colleen answered every question

[@SnowCedarQueen]

I love how you both give the guest space to fully answer their piece! Colleen, so calm and collected, and thoughtful with her reflections 💯 and girl, what camera/light are yoi using, what a glow!

[@sarahlloyd5238]

Can I just say? You all are absolutely stunning. ❤️ P. S: who thinks Raven would be such a great guest for this show?🎉

[@donteverfckwithmyvibe]

She'd be a great guest, but was already on Viall Files so I wouldn't be surprised if she passes

[@marielaurette7989]

Wow!! I never would have imagined what she went through. It didn't show her real story. I am happy for her. It is great to see couples having beautiful stories. Good for you and Matt. Many blessings. Great podcast!!! Clap clap clap!!!

[@michellebarajasespinoza]

Hearing Colleen explain herself is EXACTLY what I needed. Zanab and Colleen are gorgeous. Keep your chin up, buttercup.

[@blahblahblahEMILY]

deepti, not zanab

[@michellebarajasespinoza]

@@blahblahblahEMILY No, I meant Zanab. Deepti is pretty, too. I just think Zanab gets a lot of shit and like Colleen, I think she's gorgeous.

[@blahblahblahEMILY]

@@michellebarajasespinoza oh gotcha, sorry I realize now that I didn’t read your first comment very carefully lol

[@violetpetalsyoga]

Such a great poscast. Thank you doing these interviews. Both Deepti and Natalie you do such a great job. ❤

[@jescr9418]

Love Colleen!! So glad she had this opportunity to tell her truth and clear shit up.

[@vjm3927]

The online comments are really so disturbing towards them based off of such a small part of their lives. I hope they both haves healed!

[@joanna0988]

People actually act psychotic! I've seen so many comments spewing so much anger and hate at these people that we saw like 13 hours of total.

[@amxxbln]

I am so happy about this format. I think it does create more of a safe space for the guests than any other podcast or interview, since you were both on the show and you share this same experience. Whilst also admittedly being a fan of therapists commenting on Love is Blind, I love that people have a chance here to talk about their perspective and the things we don't see in a very different atmosphere. I am also disgusted by all the hate and superficial judgement on the internet and I am sorry for every one of you that you had and have to go through that. Happy you can tell your story here and I will surely keep watching and listening!

[@elenakoshevarova5565]

Wow! I literally never comment, but this episode was amazing and exactly what general public needs to hear. Can't imagine how many disturbing comments you ladies received, it is heartbreaking how cruel viewers can be.

[@PotatoChipse]

Me and my partner are having a civil marriage soon and we plan not to move in immediately. P.S he has an autoimmune disease and is taking exams for work. His life is difficult already and I want to take things super slow so hes okay. The biggest thing I’ve learnt is you never know what people are going through.

[@carolinezina3543]

I wasn't sure about watching this but I quickly realized that these interviews show a side that I don't get to see on the shows...wow it's so refreshing to hear their perspectives and voices

[@erinbelmont3374]

Love all three of you so much! I can’t imagine having my emotions and feelings be seen and picked apart by the world. You three are amazing, strong, and love all of your personalities!

[@manarelakhal]

It's amazing that you guys bring past cast members and really give them a chance to be seen as human beings. Good job ladies 👏👏👏 Your podcast is necessary in a world with "reality" TV.

[@laura51085]

"it's a TV show and people want to see the fights." i actually don't think this is true with Love is Blind. People want to see those happy endings in this. People not getting married is a huge disappointment. i do think that they should bring in therapists to talk the couples through the arguments and conflict resolutions, because i think sorting these out in the beginning is a key to a happy and long marriage.

[@joanna0988]

Production thinks that's what the audience wants and unfortunately many do want that. I preferred LIB Japan because it was just about the couples and not about drama.

[@banaa9463]

Love is Blind Japan was so sweet. I feel like a lot of them were so genuine

[@riyascreations4634]

Loved the POC representation on Love is Blind in season 2. It is great to see people like me going on dating shows and being able to share their experiences with love. Also love the Telugu representation!!❤❤❤ It is also good to hear Colleen's perspective on this whole experience and understand from a different lens than the show.

[@yellowbmblbee]

This was a great, but also a very sad episode. It breaks my heart how humans can beat down, criticize and vilify other humans they have never actually met in real life. And before any of you say 'well, they signed up for it'...I can say "I don't think your mother would be proud she raised such a hateful person, how embarrassing for her!! Are you proud enough of the hatred spew you type the the unknown to actually show your mother or grandmother?!" We can do better, folks. Choose kindness. Sometimes just shutting your fkg mouth is better than 'telling it like it is'...which you learn that reality shows AREN'T 'telling it like it is' to begin with!! I'm glad you had her on. She's genuine, smart and kind. I love her outlook on life and I'm glad she got past most of the horrible aftermath from the mob mentality. I wish nothing but the best for both of them. Thank you for this, and hugs to all three of you.

[@amandajoepennington9543]

You 3 are so amazing! Such a great interview and so important for EVERYONE to know her side! Thank you for sharing it takes so much courage to put your life on screen!

[@juliak6700]

From Germany here. I JUST yesterday got an ad on Instagram for the casting application process 😅 I’m so much looking forward to the show, even though German reality tv is hard to watch 🙈

[@melcrossland]

I can totally relate to Colleen as a people pleaser and how she responded to Cole. You're so uncomfy you feel like the nice thing to say is the same thing back even though you don't mean it.

[@emptycupofjo]

Loved hearing more from Colleen. My partner works in Dallas and I work in Fort Worth so I totally understand the hesitation to move in together so quickly. Just to put it in perspective, I lived with my partner in Dallas and it was an 1.5 drive each way when you factor in traffic!

[@hannahrannah2739]

Aw, Colleen. 💕 I was so happy to hear from her. I love that you’re bringing old cast members on. It humanizes everyone who was on the show and makes them more real to us.

[@Adri7gT]

It was great to see Colleen not giving af about how they're handling their relationship! I love that their mental health is the priority :)

[@mpho242]

OUUUU👀 aww I love her. And I like Matt too. I was suspicious in the beginning about him, and was a bit worried for Colleen, but after seeing them together after LIB, with their posts, I came to understand that I probably don't know much about them as a couple and as individuals. Like their "ah-ha, it's him/ it's her" moments weren't shown, so as a viewer you're left wondering why and how they even ended up together and lasted until the altar and also lasted until AFTER the show ended. Hence there's a lot of gray area...even about whether they truly love each other or not, but there's obviously a deep connection there that we weren't shown.

[@pppeppper]

Colleen is my favorite s3 cast and I was pretty worried about her after I finished the season, but it's really nice to know her perspective. I'm happy for her.

[@TheLucky17]

Colleen and Matt are just too adorable. Colleen is such a sweetheart and Matt is so cool. Love this couple

[@melanieaquino7394]

I just hope Colleen can see this comment, but I always loved her and Matt as a couple and they always were my favorite in that season. I was a ballerina when i was a kid and it was always my dream to be a professional dancer and when i saw her on the show she was my fav. Girl, you are BEAUTIFUL and don’t let nobody affect you, they don’t know you. I really hope you and Matt the happiest marriage.

[@Daniggreco]

So good to hear her telling her story! I'm from Brazil and i love the show!

[@toonieblue]

i love this episode so much and just your interviews of cast members so far in general! colleen is definitely such a sweet person and i’m kind of sad for them that their relationship was portrayed so badly…

[@Coffee188]

It would be nice to hear Amber and Barnett’s story. I think they are a really genuine and cool couple.

[@Meganb1286]

I’d be livinggg if they came on!

[@sophierix3041]

Love this one ladies, you really validated Colleen and it was great to watch how you empowered her xx

[@vanessahobbes3072]

Rooting for you Colleen (and Matt). Great episode.

[@aprilmcmilleon8201]

I hate that people feel entitled to say whatever mean thing they want about others online. I commend you ladies for staying strong and true to yourselves , after all the crap you’ve had to deal with. Folks take a really beautiful experience and twist it into a bad experience for you. Keep being the beautiful, strong women you are! I’m so proud of you! 💗💗💗

[@MBTIology]

I really enjoyed this interview! I felt like we got to learn so much about Colleen

[@nayelimirandaf.]

Me too 😊 She seems so nice

[@pilatesbodyraven]

Go colleen!

[@TrillerXochi]

They purposely make reality TV to have entertainment and it's not always the way it is seen. They edit it. So glad to hear Colleen bring awareness to how reality TV isn't always the whole picture. Great they are doing good together.

[@analisatrofimuk5686]

My friend and I absolutely loved meeting both of you in person at the show. We sort of froze though and didn’t say all of the wonderful things we love about your podcast!!!!

[@Meganb1286]

I am SO glad I watched this! She should absolutely be able to speak on her experience and I believe her completely. I was indifferent before as I clearly know nothing about her life so hearing her story makes me like her way more. I’d be a walking anxiety mess w/cameras so I hella get it!

[@Meganb1286]

Also - Colleen you’re beautiful girl. I can relate a lot in a diff way ( eat a sandwich for once you’re anorexic or on drugs we’re a constant for me till my 30s) like as if we choose our genes. I too would feel extremely uncomfortable thinking ppl are judging me the whole time. Ppl are really cruel for no damn reason.

[@sarahgumball8597]

Omg I’m so excited to hear from Colleen today!!

[@que_fela]

25 minutes in and I don’t think Colleen is comfortable being open in such conversations. Feels a bit awkward. I could be wrong though.

[@mrose1219]

I agree. It’s like she is giving us surface level info.

[@pamm5]

I think it’s just her personality.

[@meganreid587]

What more do you want?

[@KikiMeowKitty]

I didn’t feel that way lol

[@RachelFatigato]

I love Colleen and always have! I never thought she was afraid of Matt

[@Chichirivichi]

Hi Natalie and Deepti, awesome interview! I love Colleen. She's such a genuine and sweet person. It would be good if you could invite some Brazil cast members to your podcast. You girls rock!!!✨✨✨ It would be great for you to have a social style podcast with a few Love is Blind Girls at the same time so they can share their best lessons from Love is Blind.

[@JulesSRo-pb2uc]

I've thought this too, and hoping there isn't much of a language barrier

[@analisatrofimuk5686]

My friend and I absolutely loved meeting both of you in person at the show. We sort of froze though and didn’t say all of the wonderful things we love about your podcast!!!! So sorry we were so awkward😂

[@thepricklyonesbyyanawhelan]

Good to be here ❤ I would love to attend to a live meet up. I am not in the Chicago area but I can fly from Louisville for a weekend. Be blessed to you all girls!

[@grumylynn]

I love the phrase, "What you say about me is none of my business."

[@juunibug]

I'm so glad we get to hear from Colleen, it was really refreshing and it also broke my heart to hear how hurtful the comments were. Everyone who goes on the show is brave because you open yourself up to scrutiny and criticism while on a vulnerable journey, and editing plays a part in the storylines. Viewers are able to hide behind the screen and act like they know everything based on 10% of what is actually shown. Wishing you three all the best ❤❤❤

[@Imani_Mariposa]

When deepti said the opinions of other people do not define my reality. Whew that was a word! Preach!

[@chelsearoch2989]

Subscribing!!! You guys are AMAZING interviewers, please keep interviewing people. You guys are amazing!!!!

[@macarmenadoree]

Y'all three are all just so beautiful, goodness! Great episode ❤

[@lrose1310]

I hope they make more LIB in Asia, South America and Africa! I love seeing how people approach dating, engagements and marriage in other cultures.

[@itania14]

Colleen, thank you for being so open. I know you said that you don’t have trauma, but being insecure with your body or the comments made to you as a ballerina is trauma. Everyone has trauma and the sooner you can acknowledge it, then the sooner you can work on it :)

[@foreverflores0725]

Trauma is when things happen in your life that affect you. An insecurity isn’t trauma. Maybe there is reasons for those insecurities and they CAN BE because of trauma. No hate, I love Colleen.

[@itania14]

@@foreverflores0725 thanks for clarifying. This is what I was trying to convey but you def did a better job at it!

[@saravieira90]

It seems several cast members from several seasons had stress/anxiety when the shows aired, so my question is *Why didn't Netflix offer mental support for their cast members in this period?*

[@carolescott5731]

Love Colleen. She's so sweet ❤

[@goforkrissy]

Girlssss, this podcast is top tier! I live for these podcasts and I don't even watch LIB anymore lol. Your podcast is enough to fill in the holes :)

[@Nathens777]

I saw you guys at the gge live show in Chicago!! You were not awkward I think the set up was a little awkward and you did the best with what you were given! Love listening to you guys

[@UndercoverChemist]

I love that you speak telugu, Deepti!! I love Natalie too!!

[@april88]

re colleen feeling all those feelings when brennan rejected her, and getting all the backlash, its as tho shes not allowed to have those feelings, its as tho shes not allowed to feel shitty that she got rejected, even tho she wasnt invested in him... shes still a human, god dammnit! im glad colleen shared her side of the story!

[@WAKINUPwithDee]

This episode was excellent! I really feel for Colleen. I feel like her youth wasn’t on her side when it came to being more open on camera. She’s so young, and I feel like people often don’t take into account the age of some people on these dating shows. Also, she seems like a genuinely sweet person.

[@heezypeasy8611]

I agree. I feel like a lot of ppl were super hard on her! She does seem like a sweet person!

[@Miskizz]

Listening this podcast from Czech republic. You guys are so sweet. Thank you for this lovely talk with Colleen xoxo

[@BigFanOfJustice-31]

Loved the interview. I would love the hear more of how people end up I love is blind like the types of questions production asks prior to being selected.

[@newworldlord643]

Deepti has such AMAZING HAIR!!! even on the show I was like dang her hair is on point!!

[@AvaGrail]

You ladies just ignore the haters! RuPaul says ‘if they’re not paying your bills you pay them no mind!! ‘ just live your lives beautifully as you are ! carry-on!! 🙌🏼♥️

[@Colormeajungle]

I was so waiting for this , so hopefully she spills the tea on what everyone is thinking

[@amandajo340]

You three are beautiful ladies inside and out! ❤ It blows my mind that people could say anything negative about you guys. I just think it comes from a place of self-loathing.

[@radhikaraj7394]

This was really good to hear her perspective

[@AJay-rq9fc]

I'm glad they asked all the right questions and the concerns of viewers. Maybe they should host the reunion instead of nick and vanessa

[@lauratancredi3385]

I really love this interview. I was worried about Colleen and I'm so glad to hear that she's safe and happy and everything is healthy. I hope she knows that the worry comes from a place of caring. At least for me it does and not from a place of judging. I loved hearing her perspective and I actually think she's incredibly emotionally intelligent and insightful. I think you guys asked wonderful questions and I loved how open everyone was. Also it's hilarious to me that she didn't like how cole pronounced her name. Dr Honda used to talk about that all the time on his podcast on how it drove him crazy how cole said her name as well and he really had a hard time and would perseverate on it😂😂. The only thing I wished for was a little bit more insight on the whole cole and zanab situation because it feels like zanab just got such a raw deal.

[@michellegarcia6008]

Love Colleen! Such a beautiful dancer

[@LovebyJesus]

Glad Colleen cleared things up.

[@KILLCOUNTVR]

You guys are wonderful and were made for this! I enjoyed listening to you guys!

[@tinasimaika]

I am at minute 8 and so curious for you to explain more what were your thoughts on the Brazilian version!!

[@niklaus009]

this podcast is really entertaining and look forward to more guests

[@smartmarketing173]

We need Deepti on Indian Matchmaking- Auntie Seema, come thru!

[@NaturalGMonet]

I am happy this was shared because baby I swore she was a victim of mental and emotional abuse. He seemed so unhinged. Lawd when I saw the reunion I too thought she was sitting that way because this is how abused women act. Whole time it was the damn internet abusing her. Poor baby. They didn't do her and Matt justice to show off the balance between them. I am happy she opened up more too.

[@Ranachdi]

Colleen is so pretty

[@dani23dani85]

I love you two!!!! Thank you for the content!!!

[@Dan5819]

I agree with Deepti. Dating can be so exhausting and it can just suck all the energy out of you.

[@CutiebananaWaffle]

I feel so bad that I was one of the people deceived by the productions cuts thinking matt was scary, but also I have triggers from anger and it makes sense that colleen would not be afraid because shes never experienced anything or person jeopardizing her saftey. It sucks how much stress and unease it caused her. Im honestly shocked she said she would do it again and use social media as a means to generate income because it caused her so much pain.

[@Helena1828]

You guys should do a review of love is blind Brazil (both seasons)! Also of Japan! But I'm Brazilian and I know the Brazilian public loves to interact with people (or KZbin channels) from different cultures who review Brazilian things 😂

[@joanna0988]

I loved the Brazil cast!

[@jaquelinelopes7861]

Yeaaahh! I was just about to say that

[@candicef9638]

Colleen is a good person. Production is vicious. I would definitely not go on a reality show!

[@Alli_bossmama]

I adore Colleen, I’ll just start with that. She is kind and has a beautiful heart, she’s considerate of other peoples feelings. I think that when Cole asked her to get deep with him, I don’t think he wanted her to talk about her trauma. I think he wanted her to talk about her insecurities and her fears and her worries, and to just be more vulnerable. But, I think he was wrong to just expect that of her. You should never have to ask someone to go deep with you. It comes organically when you’ve built trust with them. She was never gonna go deep with him, because her heart was with MATT. If I was her friend, I would tell her that there’s not a shallow bone in her body, and in that moment, she did nothing wrong. Cole was just expecting more from her than he had earned.

[@lovenakabba9185]

It would be nice to hear more about the scented that are cut out from love is blinde that people wish would’ve been shown

[@jazzabelleftk]

Yasssss this was excellent! ❤😍💕

[@isabellamurungi4366]

I wish LIB could come to South Africa!!!