What Does It Take to Build a Lasting Marriage? Couples Share Wisdom | Part 1

In this video Essence Atkins, MC Lyte, Mr. & Mrs. KevOnStage, Warryn & Erica Campbell, Jor él Quinn Share Secrets to Lasting Love | Cali Worship | Dear Future Wifey Podcast
Have you ever wondered what makes love last through all of life's ups and downs? In this episode, Laterras facilitates a dynamic panel discussion with power couples and singles at the Cali Worship Center on maintaining authentic, evolving love. Transparent testimonies and wisdom are exchanged on staying rooted in patience, purpose and faith when navigating the unpredictable waters of dating, marriage and personal growth. From rediscovering your voice in long-term relationships to the impacts of social media, no stone is left unturned in this profound conversation.
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[00:00] - Opening Segment and Introductions
[11:16] - What does “thankful for love” mean?
[26:18] - Having patience with partner’s growth
[35:29] - Dating as a Christian
[37:17] - Social media’s effects on dating
[39:10] - Stealing someone’s partner
[41:46] - Learning about yourself post divorce
[45:43] - The shame of singlehood
[55:43] - Finding love after divorce
[01:12:01] - Q&A from the audience
Key Quotes:
"When you keep God in the center, I think it's easy for you to date in a healthy way." - Erica Campbell
"Love will wait for you. Love will extend grace and make you feel safe no matter what state you're in." - Essence Atkins
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[@jessicamusila5526]

"Love will come back and get you. Love will wait for you. Love will extend grace and love will make you feel safe no matter what state you are in." - Essence Atkins. Beautiful inside out

[@TheMonicaLasha]

This!!!!

[@nudayRebel]

❤

[@loria.buttsesquire3867]

Facts. This topic is a timely breath of fresh air for me.

[@stacyju77]

I so love Essence. May God shine upon her & give her favor.

[@lornagreen8961]

Yes.. Her journey and transparency has been chosen for such a time as this.. Her very journey validates many of us I truly believe. 💜💪🏾💜

[@prettyuniquell2011]

I know she’s just an amazing human being ☺️🤎

[@mishawilliams4319]

I really do appreciate essence Atkins work, her bio is incredible, she is such a GODLY woman, beautiful woman inside and out, let her continue to enjoy the favor of HEAVENLY FATHER in her life 🙏🏾🙌🏾🔥🕊️💃🏽✝️💯👑

[@lenieceawilliams2243]

❤

[@lenieceawilliams2243]

Her Spirit is so glowing and glorious.

[@candydolcy9206]

I have accepted this definition of love. Love is giving someone what they need the most when they deserve it the least.

[@DearFutureWifey]

Facts!

[@prettyuniquell2011]

Yes! It’s what our Lord and Savior does ALL the time ☺️🤎

[@daniellejones2962]

I ain’t gone hold, this is a GREAT SUM UP of LOVE😊

[@OptimisticKTV]

This conversation was absolutely amazing! I 100% AGREE with MC Lyte when she said, “Keep getting ready and be who it is you want to find.” This is truly my mentality! I will enjoy my life and live FULLY as I wait on GOD to send my spouse! I’m working to be a WHOLE PERSON before we even meet, so I can be truly READY when it’s time!

[@mnorwo2]

"Love will come back and get you" #bars -Essence Atkins

[@ashleymar2012]

I am sowing into their media department in hopes to have my own Podcast one day! Amen

[@marcusw9894]

We love you Essence. Stay encouraged woman of God.

[@carolynlong8701]

Love Melissa and Kev on Stage ❤they always keep it real 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾amen marriage do be hard sometimes 37 years married I know 🙏🏾

[@Faith-FN]

I can't wait for Laterras' engagement announcement 🎉🎉

[@Sheena2021]

Woowwww This Video Blessed my soul …. Being a single woman approaching my 40’s these dating streets are not fun but I believe that waiting on God for what he has in store for us is more important… also settling is not a theory at this time in my life that just brings more headaches and confusion and we all know that’s not of God . I believe there’s growth and healing in our singleness and growth in the relationship both are very different but I’m sure we can prepare in our waiting season…. I love this show so much and God is truly doing a work In this Season…. For all singles stay vigilant and Stand on The Firm Foundation Of Christ . Thank You once again Latterras And I will donate ❤

[@SweetMaple9]

I truly appreciate your message. I needed this, especially as I am approaching my 40's. 🙏🏽😘

[@amonmayoyo304]

Spiritual maturity means spiritual humility knowing that you are not perfect but you are work in progress❤

[@shoogasweet5847]

Everyone provided some very inspiring and necessary prospectives. Thank you Laterras for helping us out once again.

[@giadetroit]

I agree 🙏🏽

[@tierramonique]

The audio/visual issues reminded me that God uses the imperfections to still do His perfect work. People will still be blessed because I know was blessed. I listened to learn not to be entertained even though some parts were entertaining. God bless you Laterras and all those who need help in the relationship department.

[@susanakaan810]

Yes, failed relationships teaches us so much about our selves ( either by omission or commission) especially when we are willing to confront ourselves, learn and move forward. Great show.

[@paigedavis7144]

Thank God for Mrs. KevOnStage. Her honesty concerning healing and working with your partner is so refreshing.

[@my.0224]

Dialogue was immensely profound.

[@cici2011]

Well put together group. Anyone can relate and learn from all of you. Thank You for this. Love and Grace go together.🙏🏾❤️

[@lesleyaddison1999]

I will be definitely donating to Cali Worship. I am so grateful for this blessed and lit panel. 🙌🏾🌟♥️. What an awesome blessing. Thank You Brother Laterras.

[@feliciacanty4750]

Thank you for you're Podcast..the change in my husband is truly amazing and a gift from God. Yes we donated to the church. Thank you again

[@eluvli]

I struggle with the time and how there's so much going on around me that I desire to have! Thank you Essence for your vulnerability and openness!! I'm the QUEEN of isolation and I'm fighting to come out of this season.

[@88niteowl88]

I love you, Essence. Be strong. Be encouraged. ❤

[@bc20062002]

I loved the 2nd sista's question (from the Q&A) that most are afraid to ask. It is how most people think about eveything they do that is against God's standard to be Heavenly bound. I loved how pstr Campbell answered the question. He was gentle, by ensuring he didn't condemn, but he firmly stated truth. There's only one way in. God's way.

[@Kim_L_Simmons]

This podcast just keeps getting better and better 👏🏾🔥🔥🔥 Essence is so amazing! I’m speaking into existence my hubby like Jor el spoke his wifey 😂 love this podcast ❤

[@angieangiel2666]

I don't think you supposed to speak things into existence. Your supposed to pray to god what you want.

[@thedangerousbeauty]

KEV WAS DROPPIN GEMS! I TOOK NOTES! THIS ONE WAS ONE OF THE BEST ONES!!!!!!!

[@passai5587]

The name Essence Atkin will make listen even if im busy..just know i will from her at time.

[@marywilliams9302]

I agree..I never raised my hand when asked how many singles in the room.....Young man you spoke well about that.....Been married but now I am Single.

[@lvngroom-cz1gj]

I personal love the last question. The Church shy’s away from these kind of questions and often don’t know how to respond, but some people really need answers. The question probably blessed and saved a lot of people. She was brave to ask that.

[@user-up8hb6uy7l]

I recommended concubinage, as a way out it's biblical and there rules to it. The church will give the politically right answer in fear of telling the truth. Christianity and the Bible isn't Western! It's answers like this that make people end up falling prey to incubus, succubus and Lilith. Which is a bigger problem

[@gogoldiego]

Agree, also people needs to read the bible for themselves as well. All the answers are in there. Pray for the Holy Spirit to give discernment.

[@Ms.Robinson__]

That was a real question that was asked. The self-righteousness displayed was uncalled for and will circle back when one of the spouses becomes a widow and has to navigate loneliness vs their sexuality in the faith.

[@dkksable]

I loved this so much. I could feel the heart of Essence Atkins. I could relate so much to how she expressed herself. I appreciated the openness shared by Lyte and Pastor Warren. Jorel was really great as well; he dropped some gems. Melissa Fredericks was another great choice for this panel - her humor, her wisdom, & her willingness to be so real about her experience are really great to watch. I truly enjoyed this talk. Thank you!

[@jeaninerichardson7179]

Hey Laterras, looking forward to watching you & this awesome panel and learning, it's always an Inspirational Blessing bursting with Wisdom!!!!!!! 😂🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@laj4186]

Latteras!!! This was amazing and because of you, me and my husband have now partnered with AD of DHerbs with our company The Juice Lady Atl! Maybe one day you'll have us on🍒Thank you for everything you're doing that's so rich and good!!

[@zackeryjasmine]

That last question took me out! Like the old folks say, "it's holiness or hell". lol They say something like, "You can't have it your way and think you're making it to heaven anyhow." 😂😂😂🤣🤣

[@SamariaYvonne]

Loved this panel!!!❤ I’ll be rewatching later. Great knowledge and I adore Lady Erica!

[@lisaprewitt9374]

I loved this panel!! I thoroughly enjoyed the honesty and transparency of the married couples and the single/divorced panelist. powerful information. Thank you for keeping it LIT!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️😊

[@lindaenoch3903]

I love how the married couples spoke about how its not easy to have a smiling face through it. Its okay youll get through it, just be willing to go through it together. It takes bith of you to evole.

[@angieangiel2666]

To evolve. Sorry to correct your spelling.

[@KayGeanna]

When L.W & MC LYTE mentioned intentionality, THANK YOU! Let me tell y’all my story. There is a young man I work with. Now, I remember his family through church, so I went up to him & said hi. In two conversations he mentioned, let’s get lunch/ dinner. He never asked for my number & I haven’t spoken to him since! It really hurt my feelings, but I know what I expect now in my future relationship!

[@harrietbuluku3908]

One of my favourite part of the week. ❤❤

[@monalisa2670]

Yes!!Jorel!!speaking for the men!!yes!!!❤❤❤❤❤Jesus!!

[@AnalystAyi]

I love these videos LT! The audience the candid conversations… you need to be on tour all year long 😂😂❤

[@stephaniewilkins2534]

Well now, until Future Wifey comes😅

[@thyrajoseph2720]

I love this panel!! Laterras, you picked a great group of people to talk about love. This conversation was so enjoyable! I've been following Kev and Melissa for a while, and I just love their relationship. The way Kev just adores Melissa is so amazing to see. Essence is just filled with Godly wisdom and encouragement! It's always a joy to hear her speak! I liked Erica and Warren from their time on the Mary Mary reality show. Their relationship seemed solid then and still is now and their love for each other is so genuine. It was great to hear from MC Lyte and Jo rel Quinn. Everyone had experiences that we can all learn from. I certainly picked up lots of gems from this conversation! This was so good!! ❤❤Cali Worship, you have my donation! Keep on being blessing! 🙌 On another note, Laterras, I sent you a message on messenger with my email so I could join your email group. It's possible you're no longer doing this since I am watching older episodes, and this was a request you had made last year. Let me know. 😊😊

[@sabrinawhite7185]

Good morning watching from MD. Peace and Blessings to you all!🥰🥰

[@Letstalk_LoveHopeFaith]

I love love this episode, you done it again!! Such rich perspective for us singles to gleen from. Thanks for the opportunity to sow into good ground!!! #seedsown

[@veronicacrosby7507]

I really enjoyed this conversation. Great answer Pastor Warren ❤

[@khosizulu]

Thanks, Laterras. These panels are always amazing. I love you, Essence! Essence is my sister from another mister.

[@jenz_world]

The audio was indeed a bit rough but the messages still came through. Great panel of people and glad that jorrel was able to speak for the singles.

[@laj4186]

We need this same line so again!! So dynamic indeed!

[@alovelywalk88]

This is what I been waiting for since I seen the flyer lol! I’m excited to listen!

[@mishawilliams4319]

I thank GOD for this amazing panel and much needed discussion's, married folks and single folks coming together and minister to each other is paramount 🙏🏾🤗🔥

[@shawnaw9750]

I love the wisdom of the guest on the panel. 👍

[@shantakoa8596]

This good. ❤❤❤❤I’m glad I decided to watch and listen

[@royatij5336]

Love this panel as I mentioned on the other panel both episodes were awesome and the different age perspectives on the topics of today was so interesting , encouraging inspirational, spiritual 🫶🏾

[@according2mzshellz219]

That's a Word about the Timely Pastor. For them. I think I get it . I understand.

[@LeslieNguyen]

Done, God bless Cali Worship Center❤️🙌🏾

[@lisettepaez1161]

I just started watching this podcast. My God, this is so good.

[@LadyDee0404]

Great episode!!

[@shayshay3609]

Great panel! I really appreciated and received gems all of them.. especially Essence! ❤

[@smundle7]

Wow, I love the conversation. They dropped some good nuggets. Great reminder, know your worthy.

[@southerngardenkitchen7672]

Love, love, love this podcast…and yes I donated to Cali Worship🙌🏾

[@michellemorris9181]

So this was one of the best for me! I love how Pastor Warren used biblical context to answer about having relations. I loved Essence's transparency, especially about waiting for love to find her. This really blessed me and honestly loved it all❤

[@RhondaR4]

Love is accepting people for who they are.❤ Extended love is loving the homeless, widows, and orphans.❤ "Love is not a feeling." "Love is either there or it is not."-Stephan Labossiere❤

[@memaryt2]

Powerful!!

[@nikkyshamz2696]

This was really good and relatable. Every one made sense and dropped gems. Essence God bless you. Its always a delight. God got you. You’ll testify. The Warrens reminded me patience is a virtue. We must oray and ask the Holy Spirit for discernment.

[@Nadjejd]

This so good!!

[@yogimitchell6206]

I'm going to need this book... This is an AMAZING read! I love it and the transparency of real love and not what we think it should be. So many look at that "Maintained" grass in the other yard and not know or understand the work behind that dwelling door.

[@tracycooper9026]

As always I absolutely enjoy your podcasts Laterras. Thank you allowing your light to shine out even when you may not want to. Transparency and vulnerability comes with a price. The last question is hovering. There were so many questions to ask her that would have led to a whole other podcast.

[@audreyfacey8347]

I like that word, " keep getting ready and prepare while you wait

[@KayGeanna]

Wonderful conversation! Great guests!

[@2B-Steele]

This is definitely another one of my favorite episodes. You picked a great panel of people. And I will definitely be giving for the cause. It was great to hear everyones perspective.

[@carolynlong8701]

This was good conversation with the panel 👏🏾👏🏾

[@LaShonda_Jordan]

This was so so good!!!

[@tyestadams8867]

Great panel, great conversation !

[@Monica-70]

Donated. Another great podcast!

[@kikijones04]

I sewed into the ministry. Thank you for opening the opportunity for us to do so.

[@reannajareee]

All of this was so good! 🙏🏾🤍

[@NurseMo337]

Donated for sure. B blessed💜

[@missrd395]

Yess I feel Essence, as a 33yo single woman. I do believe he is coming but mennn the "wait" isn't easy. ❤but he'sss coming soon🎉😍 great Epi!

[@paulachavis6614]

Amen! Pastor warryn👏

[@behealthymindbodyspirit9016]

Donated… Thanks Laterras. That was great…

[@user-js8rt4ny2m]

Well praise God for how you all allowed God to speak and again as always I am encouraged by the podcast!

[@christthelord91]

This a fun one. Great guests!!

[@Iamdmgartrell]

Great video, packed with💎💎💎

[@SunshineDeeKay]

Hi Sir. Watching all the way from S.A❤

[@tabithaauma1532]

..... know your worth, hold yourself to a very high standard... and require the same from everyone around you..🔥🔥🔥

[@chaquiseedwards]

This really blessed me love it … so much Wisdom yessss (Confirmation)

[@tiscurtaylor]

Love this.

[@KEYBROWN4LIFE]

Ooh I can so relate with what you said about documenting the time with pictures, I constantly say that to friends and family since I lost my husband May of 2021 of 30 years and 30 Days

[@OG_Genesis216]

This was phenomenal as always. @Laterras, I may have missed it but I would love to attend one of these in Dallas. Bring another one home. We need this. 'I' need this.. 🙏🏽✨

[@arielscroggins3822]

Happy to donate to Cali Worship and look forward to visiting soon. ❤❤

[@LindaL.Murrell-rk6eb]

Great information.

[@focus2739]

Yess😍 love, real true love is unconditional love, love that can't be seen with the eyes❤ beauty is seen, love is unconditional sighting, its forever, love can be shown or given, and still be taken away but true unconditional love lives inside of you, that's why unconditional love is hard to find because it can't be seen with the eyes. One may try and destroy love seen, but if you are truly unconditional love, you'll always shine bright and be whole, loving yourself and others want be hard to do

[@memaryt2]

Laterras thank you for being intentional to where you see us by responding to our comments ❤️❤️your heart.

[@DearFutureWifey]

Amen!

[@kategurang7695]

Hi Lateras please look up Charles & Sasha Butler. They have an amazing love story going from friendship to fiance then to marriage..No exclusive dating. No romance. I believe their story will be a great addition to your podcast and the body of godly singles anticipating marriage as a whole.

[@nyesej]

Excellent👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@gwendolynhawkins5704]

They lady who said ... she doesn't desire to be married but still has relationships. She was honest, and God will keep her because she was honest . Guide your heart and eyes, my sister .

[@keyframedstudios1221]

Some of my favorite people on this one 🫡

[@theonly1258]

So true…people think if you’re single somethings wrong

[@Sankofalocs]

In California and would have loved being in attendance. I do understand that the event was promoted at Pastor Warren’s church ( I’m at Crenshaw Christian Center ) ❤

[@stephanielcowart6867]

When he did the tour in Ga, non-members were also able to attend.

[@Sankofalocs]

@@stephanielcowart6867 I don’t believe it was a closed event, that church is further out and still growing. More than likely the marketing of the event didn’t have a broader reach. The Campbell’s are wonderful people and would never exclude anyone from their events💕

[@stephanielcowart6867]

@@Sankofalocs distance makes a huge difference. Maybe he'll be closer in the future.

[@t.r.2927]

Hello Lit Fam. I will be donating to Cali Worship Center. The Word must continue to go out! Blessings and Favor Tammie Walker

[@shielneallaw2956]

Father God bless them all for allowing Your Will was done and will be done on earth as it is in heaven...

[@mariamcelroy2941]

Donated to the ministry, Good ground

[@WhoIsTheeMeister]

Butterflies are real and everything that happens in movies happens in people’s lives that aren’t acting!